Which one Matters More, Actions or Words ?

Hey Boooo, which one matters more to you ? 🧐 Im BIG on show me summ lol, but thank yall for supporting me it really means alot .

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Hey boo and welcome back. Okay, hey y'all. It is Friday. Okay, we made it. We made it. This I don't know anybody else. This week felt long. This this week felt extremely long to me. When it got to Thursday, I'm just like, damn. Like, why? What is going on? We just had Thursday, like, but I'm glad to be off, y'all. I'm so glad. I I be I feel like now at this point, damn, I be at work too much. Like, it uh that's it's time to time to switch up the plan. It's time for me to put some things in the in the gears or something. But no, how's everybody's mental? What is going on with y'all? I hope y'all been just, you know, showing some love to yourself, loving on yourself as always, making sure y'all doing that first and foremost, okay? Have you shot did you show up for yourself this week? What you do? What you do for yourself? What did you do for yourself this week? Okay, but no, listen, I need some intro music, okay? Like, I don't I wanna I wanna kind of bring some tunes up in it because it's it's quiet, you know. I I need a little background music or something, not background music throughout the whole thing, but I do need an intro for real. So here's the thing the apps that when I was looking, you know, typing in stuff, where to go, they was giving me some of these apps. I do not remember all of them. I'm just like, hey, I'll I basically I'm looking for like free beats or tunes that's that you won't get copyrighted on. But the ones I was listening to, it just it wasn't going with what I'm going for. What I want is more of a how can I say just kind of if you hear it, you can kind of shake to it, kind of bounce, like you know, bounce your ass a little bit. You know, you just you know, bounce your ass a little bit. I want I want kind of some some ass bouncing intro music, nothing crazy, not nothing too wild, but like New Orleans jazz bounce type of vibe, though I want something like that, but maybe yeah, I just kind of want something like that. Like I want to hear it and then be able to kind of tweak it a little bit, but that's that's the type of vibe I'm going for. But when I was searching for them, I could I couldn't find anything, I really couldn't. So I was just I kind of put that plan that project on the back burner because I got a little frustrated because I'm like, damn. So yeah, if somebody point me in the right direction, you know, assist me, help me. I'm I'm asking for help. I'm putting I'm throwing the fishing line out there. I need some help. I need some help. Can I can I get some help on this? Okay. But yeah, that's that's all. So I wanna um before I get into actually what I want to talk about, my grandma told me a disturbing story. I gotta bring this up. I was I had called her and talked to her the other day, and she told me that a 14-year-old little boy, a black little boy, I forgot what she said it was at. She she told me, but I'm hearing the story just really was anyway. He went to the store, apparently was going to get like water, he was getting something out of the store. And it was an Asian man and I guess his son, whoever. Of course, watching a little boy like a hawk when he's in a store. You know, it's nothing new. So the little boy puts the stuff back. Let me stop calling him a little boy, he was a teenager. The young man put the item back, and then he left the store. Mind you, y'all, I didn't read this story. This is just what my grandma was telling me. So if I'm getting anything wrong, my bad, I just couldn't go research it yet because damn, like it's it's just sad. It's really sad at this point. But anywho, so the little boy left the store, and the the father and the son, the Asian father and the son, leave out of the store to go and chase this young man, follow this young man, shot him in the back, and then my grandma said that that man got off. I'm just trying to figure out. Like, I genuinely do not understand the hatred. I I don't. I with everything in me, I cannot understand something like that. I cannot as much like again, y'all know where I work at predominantly white, and I've come across some very ignorant people. To to just want to go up and do that to shot the 14-year-old boy in the bag. Uh shot the black child in the black, in the bag, the black young man. Like, all because you thought he's somebody stole something, allegedly. I just don't get it. The hatred runs so deep. And people people just people act like they don't understand. The hatred runs deep. But yeah, I just I just needed to get that off my chest because that that really bothers me. That really bothers me, man. I just I I I feel for that family. Like, that's it's not cool. Definitely not cool. But let's flip it. Let's let's get it back up to beat. I just had to share that to let the world is a very cool place. That's why, you know what? Just hug on your neighbor. I know I say that at the end, but I gotta say it. Hug on your neighbor, hug on yourself first, get your shit in order, but just man, love these love, love, love yourself and love your people. We really gotta support, support us, black, uh black people support. We we gotta we gotta do better. We gotta come together because shit is crazy. Shit getting crazy, okay? Shit is getting crazy. I need us, look. It's time, it's time to get shit together. Cause don't nobody got time. We need support us for us by us, okay? God damn. So yeah, episode 14. If I didn't already mention it, like I said, these are just overall discussion questions, you know, something to make you think, something to get your brain going, get your brain turning. And one thing I noticed about myself, y'all, I am a yapper. I am a true yapper, and I said that before, but it's really heavy now. Like, I am a big yapper because I like to know things to the root, especially about people. Because I've I'm I interact with people so much, like at work, people coming in, just people I work with everywhere. I'm always interacting with people, and it's just interesting when they act a certain way, and then it's just like, damn, well, why do you really act like that? Like, let's get to the root. Like, I love the roots. Come on, let's get the roots, let's dig them up and see what's going on with them, okay? So, the first question that I have, and like I said, just overall discussion, whatever, you know, what's something you used to chase that doesn't matter anymore? Like, what is something that you used, you was hell bent, like, yeah, yeah, that doesn't matter anymore. Either, you know, you come to you come to terms with, hey, maybe this ain't for me. I don't gotta chase it or whatever. Something that I personally used to chase was trying to keep up, and not in a sense of like doing what they're doing, or oh, which I'm about to do what y'all doing, but just society's upkeep. Like trying to keep up with this, trying to keep up with that, trying to trying to do all the things, and literally exhausting myself and not and real and wondering why I'm so tired or wondering why I'm do this because I'm trying to keep up with things that I just let me slow down. Let me slow down. I don't I don't have to I don't have to run in the society race. I really don't like being in it, do do we really have a choice if we want to still stay afloat? You know what I'm saying? So if I am in it, I'm gonna make it, I'm gonna make it enjoyable for me. I'm not gonna try to run and try to catch up with such a uh-uh. I might see, I might not, and that's okay. That is okay, but babe, I'm not about to keep I'm not keeping up no more. It's too much, it's too much. People just keep running, keep running, running, running, running ragged. I actually understand that now. Just doing so much at one time and not taking the time to really do for yourself. Hell no. Hell no. Chasing society, I feel like made me neglect myself in a lot of ways. And maybe you can maybe you can relate, maybe not, but I know me, I feel like chasing society made me neglect myself, basically. And I was just like, yeah, I can't, I can't do that. We're not doing that over here anymore, ever again. Chasing what society, what I thought, basically following what basic marriage, kids, the jobs, the just everything, like every everything as a whole is just like, nah. Let me try a different way. That's that's the type, that's the type of time I'm on. So yeah. Something that I used to chase was just upkeep. Trying to keep up in this damn globe, just everything that's going on, I'm good. I don't need a overstimulated mind. I I don't need all of that. I'm good. I'm good on slowing down and actually being in the present and looking around me. Can times get rough? Hell yeah. Hell yeah. But at the end of the day, I I gotta, I gotta put me first. That's the I can't, I don't when you when you chase stuff, you be out of breath. Like, damn, am I ever gonna get it if I'm constantly chasing it? Like, am I ever gonna get it? So I gotta slow down. I gotta just, I gotta slow down. I'm no longer chasing it. I ain't chasing it. And since slowing down, I have slowed down. Since slowing down, things have actually been a lot better. It's clear, it's not a blur. It's not a blur. I'm I'm I'm walking, I'm walking, I'm walking. That I that that's what I'm doing. I'm just I'm walking, I'm pacing myself. I'm actually looking around and seeing what the fuck is going on. So yeah, yeah, I I've slowed down a lot and it's helped me. It's helped me big time. So, you know, I'm no longer running, I'm not keeping up, I'm not chasing anything. I don't, I'm not in a rush. I'm not in a rush, because I mean, we all know what the ending is, you know. Physically. If you know, you know, but yeah, so yeah, I'm not chasing society anymore at all. And going into question number two. What's something you've learned about yourself in the last year? In the last year. I something I learned about myself, and I definitely that was a true laugh. Something I learned about myself. Who where do I start? It's so much, it is so much I've learned about myself, and it kind of ties into the first question as far as what I was chasing. A lot of things that I was quote unquote chasing, basically being involved with or doing things that I thought was the right way to do in a societal point instead of what I actually wanted to do. I have learned to listen to myself. I will say that like now, present day, I am listening to myself more and more. I am I'm being very honest with myself about how I feel about situations, whether it's something I want to do. If I want to do it, I'm gonna do it. If I don't want to do it, I'm not going to do it. Like that's kind that's where I'm at. And it it feels good. It it feels good to show up for myself. I'm no longer neglect. I feel like last this time last year, what is this? June? This time last year, I definitely, oh my god, damn, it just hit me. This time last year, I definitely was in a transition. I was I was actually about to move into where I live now, like a a month out. Wow, that shit came around so fast. Oh my goodness. So yeah, I've oh my god, I've learned a lot. I've learned a lot, y'all. Like, this is this is a real reaction. Like, I've learned a lot about myself. I am more patient with myself, more patient with others. Um wow, I've I've been consistent with myself, showing up for myself. Like I said, just learn it, learning to trust me, learning to, you know, count on my learning to count on myself and not heavily rely on other people, like not have a attachment so strong that I felt I felt like if I let go, everything was gonna fall to shit. You know what I'm saying? Like, really, damn. So I I've definitely learned to trust myself. That's that's something I have learned. I've learned to trust myself, and and I have to look around at where I'm at. Like, damn, I I did that shit. It was hard. It was so hard to trust yourself, and who like I said, last year it was I was I was in the transition. I'm like, all right, I'm doing this thing. I was nervous as hell. I was scared, I was still scared, I was still very, very scared, but I was I was scared, but I still did it. So it's like, all right, you know what I'm saying? Like I'm out here now, but now I'm like, shit, I don't, don't, don't tell me I can't do shit. I can do it. I can goddamn do it. It might take me a minute, it might take me a minute now, but I can goddamn do it. So it's just that's something I've learned. And it's it feels good. It definitely feels good. I feel like I've shared that before, but actually coming to terms with it and looking back and reflecting, who that was that was a rough one. That was a rough one. But shit, look at me now. I'm I'm I'm goddamn down like a hundred something pounds. I can't even lie. I can't even lie. I'm like a hundred something pounds down, feeling good, looking good, smelling good. I'm just when I tell you, when I tell you, but yeah, that's something I've definitely I've learned a lot about myself. So not just like trusting myself, but actually, like I said, showing up, being consistent, you know, realizing spazzing out doesn't get me anywhere at all. It does not get me anywhere at all. Like I it was so it was so easy to kirk up and do all of that, but no, it's not necessary, it's really not. Also, learning too, people gonna be people, people are gonna be who they are. The thing is, I got to choose whether I'm gonna stick around or not. And a lot of times, if it's something, if if it's making me feel a type of way that's just really uncomfortable, I'm not gonna stick around for it, and that's just gonna be there. I don't learning learning not to take things personal. Definitely learned that I used to take a lot of things personal, a lot of things, but now it's just it goes along the line. People are gonna be people. Some people want to change and they want to see different results. Other people are comfortable and content. Maybe they don't they may not feel they need to change, and I'm just like, that's perfectly fine. But hey, I'm not I'm gonna be real with you. I'm not here to hold hands and and try to tell you, you know what I'm saying? It's just you gotta you gotta want it for yourself. That's basically it's not even that I'm not here to hold hands, which I'm still not holding hands, but you really gotta just want it for yourself. You get to a point. I would say that you get to a point where you want to change, and then when you do change, you can get to another point where you can actually reflect and see the change that has been done. And that's I that's why I'm at right now, like actively while I'm talking, realizing that I really got to a point where I completely changed. Like I completely changed and learned so much about myself. So I love that. I definitely love that about me. Shit. Go ahead, y'all. Go ahead, girl. Again, listen, I still got I still can have my moments, definitely, you know, but I noticed I damn. I just been doing it without even paying attention. But now that I'm actually thinking about it, good for me. Let me let me give myself a round of applause in this shit because that shit was when I think about it, goddamn. It don't even seem like it was a year though. But hey, I'm here now. I'm here now. Let me bring us into the last question. Number three. Do actions always matter more than words? Do actions always matter more than words? I feel like they go hand in hand, if I'm being completely honest. I feel like what you say, you need to follow up and do. Like what you say, you need to follow up and do. So if you tell me, hey, I'm about to go to Walmart, okay, I'm gonna need to see you go to Walmart. Unless you say, hey, I changed my mind, I'm not going, then you're just not going. But yes, I I feel like actions, I yeah, I feel like they both matter. I don't feel like actions matter more. I I feel like they go together. The thing is, now, in a sense, people can say a lot of things. Like, depending on the context or whatever it is, people can say a lot of things and then they just don't do it. Me personally, I'm gonna use myself for example. I can tell myself, like, yeah, I'm gonna go work out today. I that's to me, I don't want to neglect myself in many ways. Now, if I need a break, I would definitely take a break. But if I know I've been slacking, I'm like, all right, I need to go, I need to go. If I tell myself, like, hey, I need to go, then I need to go. I need to get up and go. I need to put, I need to act physically move. I need to get into action again. Movie directors, once they hit that little in action, baby, it's time to it's time to work. You gotta you gotta say them lines, it's time to work. It's it's the same thing, like actions and words go hand in hand. And it it but they both matter to me anyway. They both matter. How do y'all feel? Like, do you feel like actions matter more than words, or do you feel like they go hand in hand? I feel like they go hand in hand. Because, and again, I'm looking at it from a personal point, like when you're when you're dealing with self, not even like in a relationship or anything, but when you're dealing with self, it goes hand in hand. You need to show up for yourself and just say what you're gonna do. If you don't want to do it, then don't say it. But if you don't like, for instance, and oh my god, I'm so glad this came up. Okay, when people be like, if you need anything, anything you need, let me know. Okay, I feel like that question, that like that statement is very open. Because if some if I'm if I'm telling somebody, hey, if you need anything, and I mean anything, I don't care what it is, if you need anything, let me know. Okay, cool. I'm I'm finna tell you what I need. I need $600. This is just an example, and then they turn around like, oh well, or somebody might be like, be be realistic. I just feel like how is that not realistic when you said you said anything, it don't matter anything. People gotta be careful when they use that. Because me, I'ma take it beyond, I'ma go above and beyond. I'm not even gonna lie, like I'm gonna push the limit just to see because again, I'ma need for you to say what you mean and mean what you say. If it ain't that you don't want to help them, but don't make it so open where somebody can just oh ask that type of question if you ain't ready to give that type of answer, if you ain't ready for that. So again, you know what I'm saying? Watch what you say. Like, if you say, if you telling me if I need anything, I'm okay, $600. I need you to act on that. Give me some $600, but you know what I'm saying? So just you know, actions and words go hand in hand, and also too, depending on how you use that, be careful what you say because uh people can act, people can ask for things. So, you know, just do that. Make sure, make sure, make sure you stand on business. Point blank, period. They go hand in hand, they go hand in hand. I'm it you know what argue with your mama, but they go hand in hand, they definitely go hand in hand. You gotta just stand on business, just stand on it. Say what you mean, mean what you say. You know what I'm saying? Don't show up, just show up. And any any, especially when it comes to you, like outside of all of the other stuff, when it comes to you, always show up. And I just I'm really big on showing up for self now because it it does help with it helps with the light, it helps with confidence, it helps with really trust, trusting yourself, and then you know, you start to become a reflection around you, so you'll start having those type of people, people you can trust to come into your life now. Again, do always work like that. No, but you know, just really showing up, showing up, looking out, and just trusting, over overall trusting, I should say. But I'm not gonna ramble too much. Thank y'all for tuning in and continuing to tune in with me again. If anybody got some tunes or can point me in the right direction, because I'm teachable, I'm not listening if you if if listen, we can have a zoom call, like hey, we can go here, we can go there, we can go meet at Barnes and Nobles because you know I like to read, so it's it don't even matter. But to help me just with an intro, I will definitely appreciate that. Like I always say, make sure you love yourself, love yourself first, love on your neighbors, love love on people who love you and who show up for you at the end of the day. Do what makes you feel good. Have a great and safe weekend, and I will talk to y'all next week. Bye.