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Welcome back. Welcome back. Welcome back. Hey boo. Hey y'all. I had to do some little some little ad-libbing music in just a little bit. But what is going on? Checking in, checking in. This is episode 15. And it is Juneteenth. It is June the 19th. Okay. Shout out to my black people. Listen, I sort of as I've gotten older, being black, just it just make me smile. Like, oh my God. I'm just I love it. I love it. I love it here. I love being black. I love it so much. Yes, I love it. I hope y'all celebrating today. Now, I did have to work. And I I was kind of upset about that because let me tell you something. I don't know what the hell is going on with Texas, but the way the water that that rain this morning was insane. I I got my crocs with the fur in it soaked. What was I thinking wearing them? I don't know. But I stepped in a puddle that I didn't fucking see. And I hate what it was it was a hot mess. Like everybody I talked to today got soaked. That's exactly why shit should have been shut down. That's exactly why the fucking job should have been shut down. Because why the fuck? Why the fuck am I here? But you know what? Wherever jobs that I be going to, I'm gonna always make sure I take off on the 19th. That is just going forward. Every, every whatever I start a new, yeah, I'm going out of town on the 19th. I won't be here. It's a pre-planned trip, baby. I'm just not gonna be at work wherever I'm at. I don't care. But I hope y'all had a great week. Um, you know, I did not record last week. My granddaddy passed away, so you know, I was just supporting my dad and everything like that. Had to wet the whistle. But y'all was supporting my daddy though. And then, you know, with the service and death just really does something to me now. Like it's I was in a little bit of a grief funk, but you know, it it was it was very short-lived. So I I processed with I needed to process out, but it's it's so sneaky. Like I was good, I was fine. I'm watching the service, and then the emotions just came up, so I'm like, all right, cool. But yeah, so that was it. But I'm good now. I'm good, I'm great, actually, you know. And uh let me say, let me tell y'all about my past weekend events. Because I was I was outside a little bit, y'all. Like I was outside a very little bit. Okay, not last week, but week before last. I went to go see Scary Movie. Remember, I told y'all I was going to the movies. Um, let's just say I fell asleep. For one, I set that movie for 10:30 at night. Why did I do that? I have no idea. I thought it was gonna be exciting. You know, I was excited to go out, but auntie be tired for referee. I'm not even gonna lie. Like, I be mm-mm, uh-uh, unless I'm actively doing something, or if it's a movie that I'm actually interested in, because from the parts that I remember seeing, it wasn't I don't know. I felt what I felt it was good seeing older, like the old cast members together, but that was it. Like that was it. I wouldn't go to the movies to see it again. I'll just wait until it comes on the streaming service. So that was that was a scary movie. But I did get a free poster after the movies was over. I woke. And then y'all was so crazy is I ain't never fallen asleep in the movies. I ain't no, yes, I have. I'm lying. I was with, I was with my best friend. We went to go see we went to go see um happy death day or something like that. And my ass fell asleep. I was stretched out. Damn. Yeah. But anyway, it was it was cool, you know. It was cool just to get out, but yeah, I wouldn't. What y'all think about it? Did anybody go see it? Because I didn't like it. I ain't like it at all. But anyway, fast forward last weekend. I went to a Juneteenth festival. And now, y'all, let me tell. Let me, y'all, that festival was everything I needed. It was everything I needed. So y'all know I work with a bunch of white people. Okay, I'm gonna just say that. So I'm not I don't see a lot of me. It's some in there, but I don't see a lot of me at all. Y'all, I seen fried chicken out there, I seen black people, I seen people with locks, people with nails. I seen my people being out there, it was a great time. It was a great time. They even had Mario out there, they had Dorinda out there, and so it was some other people. I don't remember who it was, but it was it was great. It was hot, it was hot as hell, but you know, the breeze came through after a while. It was a great time. Shout out, shout out to Lancaster, okay? That was uh that was a nice event that was put together. And I didn't realize like I really do be missing stuff like that. Because being living where I am now, none of that shit goes on. None of that shit. Like, I'm getting my ass back to the city. I have to, like, it I it ain't it ain't no if, ends, or buts. I got to get back to the city. But yeah, so you know that was that was my event. I was very eventful last, you know, last weekend, weekend before that. And and this weekend actually starting tonight. I'm stepping outside, but I'm stepping outside with my sister. And let me tell you, I told her as, like, look, I'm gonna have to hydrate because I'm hanging out with the young, with the young ladies, the young women, the young hoes. I'm hanging out with the young hoes tonight, okay? But no, it's definitely gonna be a good time because I'm about to be fine as fuck. That's the only reason why for real, for real. So young stepping out stepping outside again. I ain't about to go hang with the young people. Yes. But no, let's go ahead and get into some topics of the week. The first, I got I only got three, y'all know. I like to keep it short, but kind of go lengthy if I can with each topic. The first topic, first question. Is it okay to go through your partner's phone? And you know, these questions are just at random, y'all. Just kind of I be looking at stuff or I see something and I get inspired and be like, okay, yeah, that can be, you know, that can be a question. So these are definitely at random. But I be wanting to know people's thoughts. Because I could say I'm nosy. I'm I'm naturally no, I'm not like nosy, oh, let me pry on your business, but I'm gonna be looking at stuff. Like, I I I like to pick up on cues, you know. I'm like, uh, oh, I I like to peep shit. That's what it is. You know, I peep a lot, but yeah, is it okay to go through your partner's phone? Me personally, I never went through my ex's phone, honestly. I just I didn't have a reason. Um future-wise, would I go through a person's phone like an ex phone? No, no, I just feel like being in any type of relationship, friendship, relationship, whatever situation, I don't I don't want to go through your phone. Like if I have to feel like I'm going through your phone, bro, maybe I just need to step away for a little bit. Maybe we need a break. Or maybe I'm tripping, maybe I'm paranoid. I don't know. I'd rather communicate first than go through your phone. I don't know. That's just how I'm feeling now. It could change if I was in a situation, but I just me, no, I'm not gonna go through the phone. I'm not. I'm really not. Because for one, I don't got shit to hide. So whatever it is you want to know, I just need you to open up your mouth and ass. But if I feel like I gotta go through my partner's phone, yeah, we probably ain't gonna be together that long. So go ahead and wrap this up. Because if I'm feeling like that, something going, something, something a little off. But yeah, I don't know. What y'all think? Have y'all ever went through y'all partner's phone? Sometimes do you want to, do you want to go through it? Like, do you be feeling like who he talking to? Now, granted, I'm not saying I'm just gonna be a green bean and you know, believe every single thing because receipts are necessary, you know, receipts are definitely necessary, but I get I guess it depends on the situation as well. Like, I really do, but at the same time, I don't want to have to search through your phone for shit. And you know, it's just like, yeah, I'm good. I don't I don't got time for that. I think that's just what it is. Like, I don't want to even have to think about doing some shit like that. But we are human, you know what I'm saying? You can't really put shit past anybody, but at the same time, if you feel like that you can't communicate something with me and you gotta be sneaky, bitch, we don't need to be together. Point blank period. That's that's how I feel about going through the phone. Like, if you can't be straight up and you feel like you gotta be sneaky, I ain't about to, I ain't about to do you can go do you, please. Please, I'd rather for you do that than to ruin than to ruin a relationship completely. Cause at that point, yeah, it's fuck you for real. Like, to be honest, and I'm just not even on no, like putting ill will on the person. It's just more so like fuck you, like you will no longer exist to me in my mind. If you feel like if if I feel like I gotta go through your phone on some inkling shit, or like you messing around, yeah. I it it will never, it will never be again. You will never see the lights of me ever again. I I won't even speak on you no more after that. Like you would not disturb my peace like that. Go do you and peace poo. Okay, yo ass, okay. So yeah. Is it okay to go through your partner's phone? For me, it is no. If I gotta go through a bitch, you're gone. Point blank period. Put a bullet in it, close the casket, we're done. My next question Can men and women be friends? Yes, I would definitely say yes. I the thing is society really, society, movies, everything really just kind of fucked that up. Because I really truly feel like men and women can be friends because I have guy friends, and when I say guy friends, like never did nothing sexual. We pecked on the lips, but it was nothing, it was literally nothing, like nothing went through the body, chills, nobody was like, oh, chivalry, none of that. It was like just like that, just like kissing on a girl, like kiss, like pecking a girl in the mouth on some cutesy shit. But I feel like they can be friends. I do some a lot of it, yes, the man be trying to just get close to hump on the females, and then that's irritating. That is that is very irritating because I'm the type of person, I you know what I'm saying? I I I feel like I tend to get along with everyone, with a lot of people. You know, I can adjust very well. Chameleon, if you will. You know, I can adjust to where I am. It may take me a little bit, but I just I gotta feel it out. And it's like, if it's guys, just I don't know, when they tend to just go overboard with certain shit, like no, nobody's here for that. Like, let's just let's just have fun. Let's just really have a good time. And I feel like when I was when I was dealing with the dudes I was dealing with, like in my 20s, to be honest, when I look back now, at the end of the day, they really all got treated like homeboys too, after a while, like after a while, after everything wore off and stuff. I'm just like, yeah, I don't I never really liked it. I never really liked them like that. After the fact. But yeah, for the like it's it's one that I really can be like, damn, that was like he we really could have just been friends. We really should have just been friends, and that's another thing that I take accountable for in my life. I shouldn't have been doing certain stuff with these certain dudes because nigga, we could have been bet we could have been the best of friends. Sometimes it's sometimes it's not meant to be taken there, so that's why I feel like men and women can be friends and maybe should be friends. It's sometimes it's not always meant to take it there with one of your guy friends, it's really not. Like it's really not because it really can ruin the relationship, and that's that can be with anything, like moving when you move family members in, like sometimes that can like fuck up the dynamic, just anything, like anything. So sometimes men and women are meant to be friends, and I feel like it needs to be a lot more of that because it could be too much at times, like start, and I feel like that it needs to happen. You have to start off as friends first. I definitely understand that shit now because the old me was ready to dive in here first, but now I'm just like, look, got time for that shit. I outside. Aunt is the fuck outside, okay? Like, I just I want to make friends, you know. I want to flirt a little, wanna giggle, like wanna kind of just do something, be real cutesy, y'all. Mm-mm. So, yes, I feel like men and women can definitely be friends. They absolutely can be friends, they should be friends at the end of the day. Like, we all need to at least start some type of friendship first before just jumping in for sure. And my last question, so yeah, that's that on that topic. My last question, okay, is closure real? Or do people or do people just need another conversation? Is closure real or do people just need another conversation? Hold on. Let me like, let me light the blank, y'all. Y'all know. Come on now, get take a little break right quick. Hold on, take a little break. One thing about it, I'm definitely not religious, but and it's a smoke break, y'all. What like, but a good hymn, like a good church hymn that that the um what is that damn song? The I know I bench. That should just do something. It give me chills. Like, it really do. Like, I see music really does get you through though, for real. Like, I love me a good ham a good whoa. Let me put this goddamn shit. Oh my goodness. My bad, y'all. God damn. It was that inhale when I was doing that damn beat. Okay. Back to schedule programming. Let's go. Is closure real? Or do people just need another conversation? Um, I have gone through this plenty of times. Definitely plenty of times trying to get closure and all of that. I feel like closure depending on, I'm sorry, depending on what closure is for somebody, because I feel like everybody's closure is different. My early 20s, I was definitely one of those people just need another conversation type of closure. Like, I needed to see you in your face, I needed to look at you to make sure, like, damn, this this what you want to do, X, Y, Z, you know, and honestly, or even a text message. Like, just now, yeah. Any any type of off movement where, and it kind of goes into the the first topic, any type of off mute like movement where you feel like you are unable to communicate what is wrong with you or you know what you need out of whatever the friendship or situation is, I just you're like no. Like, no. It's just at that point, I know what it is. I wouldn't need closure. I don't because you can't communicate. So you you wouldn't even be able to give me what I need because I don't you never communicated. That's just what it was. You don't know how you don't know how to communicate. So even with having like me back in the day being one of those I needed a conversation type of it's it never it never stuck. It still it never stuck. Like the conversations basically went nowhere. Went nowhere. So now I understand. Just yeah. Closure, it is what it is. Any feeling that I'm feeling, you, you know what I'm saying? We mm-mm. And sometimes it just gotta be what it is. Like, everything don't have to be said, everything don't have to be spoken, like everything doesn't have to be after after a situation happens. Do y'all have to come together and talk about it? No, like honestly, no. Unless it comes up naturally, but to to reach to reach out, that's what it is. Like to reach out and be like, hey, can we meet up? This I just don't have the energy to want to do that with anything that I feel like that's not gonna benefit me. Like, if our season is up, our season is up. You know what I'm saying? And it really has it doesn't have to be any type of harsh animal. Like, I just I don't got the space for that. I don't got the space in my heart for all of that. So is closure real? Yes. When I look at it in a sense of if things start shifting in any type of way where it's just like off consistency, consistently, and I'm not saying like, oh, the first wrong move, because I'm you know, we we're human, like you know, shit, shit can happen at times, but if it's a consistent thing where on and off, on and off, it's like, all right, all right, dude, this the last straw. I ain't reaching out, it is what it is. I I'm understanding now. I'm just I'm paying attention more. So for me, is closure real? Yes. Because it doesn't have to be a conversation with me. My closure doesn't have to be a conversation. We don't, we don't have to talk it out, we don't have to explain it. I just I don't it is what it is with me. I feel no ill will towards it. Because I just I just don't. I just I don't care. I'm like, whatever, you know. I'm not about to sit up here and try to hold on to every single situation shit. Sometimes things, things are just things are just meant seasonally, and I'm okay. I'm okay with that. That's what it is. I'm I'm perfectly okay with all of that. So you know that's that. Is closure real? Or do people just need another conversation? So what are your thoughts on those questions? Again, the first one is it okay to go through your partner's phone? Can men and women be friends? And is closure real? Or do people just need another conversation? So I thank you all for tuning in, especially if you black on this good Juneteenth, okay? Like, listen, if you black, definitely go celebrate, let these people know what the fuck it is, what day it is, like, bitch. We here, we up in here, okay? Because that's exactly what the fuck I'm going to do tonight. And I can't wait. Well, that's if that's if my shit comes, because UPS, please bring my clothes. But yeah, y'all. So thank you for tuning in. If you are going out, please be safe. Watch your surroundings, you know. Make sure you going out in a group, whatever, how your mace, how your butt, your knife, how your gun, have whatever it is you need, okay? But y'all be safe as always. Love on yourself and love people, love people who love you back. Like, just embrace. Let's just come together and embrace all black people on this good day and forever. But thank you, and I will talk to y'all next week. Bye.