WEBVTT 00:00:00.080 --> 00:00:02.560 We're in a series right now called Destination Addiction. 00:00:02.799 --> 00:00:05.599 Destination Addiction is not a phrase I made up. 00:00:05.679 --> 00:00:07.839 It came from a psychologist, Dr. 00:00:07.919 --> 00:00:09.839 Robert Holden, 2011. 00:00:10.000 --> 00:00:10.880 He wrote a book. 00:00:11.119 --> 00:00:17.519 And destination addiction is the belief that happiness is in a destination other than where I am now. 00:00:17.839 --> 00:00:19.760 I read a quote, I'm going to just read it again. 00:00:20.000 --> 00:00:20.559 It's so good. 00:00:20.800 --> 00:00:28.640 He said in his book, he said, until you give up the idea that happiness is somewhere else, it will never be where you are. 00:00:29.760 --> 00:00:31.839 He says also in the book, here's another excerpt. 00:00:32.000 --> 00:00:37.439 He said, people who suffer from destination addiction believe that success is a destination. 00:00:37.679 --> 00:00:43.359 They are addicted to the idea that the future is where success is and happiness is. 00:00:43.600 --> 00:00:47.759 Each passing moment is merely a ticket to get to the future. 00:00:48.000 --> 00:00:53.679 We live in hot pursuit of some extraordinary bliss we have no idea how to find. 00:00:54.560 --> 00:00:57.920 When you think destination addiction, don't just think geography. 00:00:58.000 --> 00:00:59.359 Although for some that might be it. 00:00:59.520 --> 00:01:02.960 I've talked to people before that they're trying to get to another city. 00:01:03.119 --> 00:01:07.519 They're just trying to get to another state, and they think, man, like there's happiness is in Houston. 00:01:07.680 --> 00:01:09.840 You know, happiness is in Florida. 00:01:10.079 --> 00:01:13.760 If I could just get where they're sunnier and it's nicer and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. 00:01:13.920 --> 00:01:17.200 You know, there are miserable people in Fort Myers. 00:01:18.159 --> 00:01:19.439 You do know that, right? 00:01:20.079 --> 00:01:24.799 You do know there are some absolutely miserable people in Palm Springs. 00:01:24.959 --> 00:01:25.840 I know you think it can't. 00:01:26.079 --> 00:01:31.280 You know, there are people absolute wrecks, full of anxiety in the Bahamas. 00:01:32.000 --> 00:01:32.319 Okay? 00:01:32.879 --> 00:01:36.799 So this is an internal thing, and the idea that I'm gonna get this somewhere else. 00:01:36.959 --> 00:01:38.799 But it's not just a physical destination. 00:01:38.879 --> 00:01:54.640 For some, it's like, man, when I make six figures, hey, when I make this amount of money, hey, when I got this much in my 401k, hey, if I could just get into a romantic relationship that was healthy, hey, if I could, okay, they they think that's where happiness is always elsewhere. 00:01:54.879 --> 00:01:57.920 And and uh I mean I've talked about this before. 00:01:58.079 --> 00:02:00.640 I did a message last year on peace. 00:02:02.400 --> 00:02:09.439 In the message, I I told the story where Jesus falls asleep in the boat when there's a storm, it's a crazy storm. 00:02:09.680 --> 00:02:12.319 The storm's so bad the fishermen think they're gonna drown. 00:02:12.560 --> 00:02:15.199 If you're in a boat, fishermen think they're gonna die, it's bad. 00:02:15.520 --> 00:02:17.280 And so Jesus is in there with a fisherman. 00:02:17.360 --> 00:02:24.400 Jesus finds a pillow and falls asleep out in a horrible storm, and they wake him up. 00:02:24.479 --> 00:02:25.280 What are you doing? 00:02:25.439 --> 00:02:30.000 Jesus, you know, calms the wind and the waves, whole environment changes. 00:02:30.400 --> 00:02:39.840 And the the the magic in that text is that when the wind and waves calmed, the Bible says that the that the disciples were terrified. 00:02:40.400 --> 00:02:43.280 So there's no more threat, and yet they're terrified. 00:02:43.439 --> 00:02:54.319 And so I talk about how it seems like we think that the greatest miracle of the story is that he calmed the wind and the waves, but I think the even greater miracle is that he was a he had so much internal peace, he was asleep in a storm. 00:02:54.560 --> 00:02:57.599 Because if you don't get it inside, then then you can't sleep in it. 00:02:57.759 --> 00:02:59.360 You've got to be able to sleep in a storm. 00:02:59.599 --> 00:03:02.719 Otherwise, when the wind and waves die, you'll still be terrified. 00:03:02.960 --> 00:03:04.080 So it's inside. 00:03:04.240 --> 00:03:08.639 Okay, I'm not gonna re-preach that message I just kind of did, but I'm not gonna do it again. 00:03:08.800 --> 00:03:14.479 I I'm I'm not gonna spend the next 27 minutes talking to you about how you need to find it inside. 00:03:14.639 --> 00:03:17.439 I'm gonna spend the next 20 minutes helping you find it inside. 00:03:17.599 --> 00:03:25.759 So I'm gonna assume that you understand that it's not the external, it's not the government, it's not the culture, it's not the economy, inflation is not your biggest problem. 00:03:26.319 --> 00:03:26.639 Amen. 00:03:26.879 --> 00:03:28.319 Your marriage is not your biggest problem. 00:03:28.400 --> 00:03:30.879 Okay, it's not all that, it's in here. 00:03:31.039 --> 00:03:32.080 How do we get it? 00:03:32.319 --> 00:03:32.800 All right? 00:03:33.039 --> 00:03:40.479 All right, I'm gonna give you uh a whole series worth of content in 10 to 15 minutes, so I need you to hang with me. 00:03:40.639 --> 00:03:47.360 For some of you, I I preached this in 2020, and this for some of you will be a reminder of something you've already heard. 00:03:47.520 --> 00:03:48.719 Others, this will be brand new. 00:03:48.800 --> 00:03:50.639 I'm gonna not do this justice. 00:03:50.719 --> 00:03:52.240 I'm just gonna tell you up front. 00:03:52.400 --> 00:04:00.000 Uh it's like five weeks worth of stuff in a few minutes, but I have to do this if I'm gonna teach the other stuff I need to teach, because this is the foundation. 00:04:00.240 --> 00:04:05.840 Every human being has been created and designed with two core desires. 00:04:06.080 --> 00:04:13.680 Uh, the first one is security, and the second one is fulfillment. 00:04:14.159 --> 00:04:25.439 Everyone here, man, woman, doesn't matter what era you were born in, what generation you're from, everybody who's ever lived, seven, whatever, almost eight billion people in the world, all of us want security and fulfillment. 00:04:25.600 --> 00:04:28.800 Every sales pitch you've ever been given has security and fulfillment in it. 00:04:28.879 --> 00:04:31.120 You can now decode all of it to this. 00:04:31.680 --> 00:04:33.759 This is why you would get married. 00:04:34.079 --> 00:04:35.600 Or wouldn't get married. 00:04:35.920 --> 00:04:37.439 But why would I get married? 00:04:37.680 --> 00:04:38.560 Security. 00:04:38.879 --> 00:04:48.480 You have a wedding, even the vows paint the edges of security for better or worse. 00:04:49.600 --> 00:04:55.120 In sickness and in health, till death do us part. 00:04:55.199 --> 00:04:59.439 I need to have a guarantee that there's gonna be a lot of people come in and out of my life. 00:04:59.519 --> 00:05:04.639 But if I get cancer and I'm in the bed, somebody's gonna be sitting next to me, everybody might leave me. 00:05:04.720 --> 00:05:06.000 I gotta know at least one person. 00:05:06.079 --> 00:05:09.519 I need the security that you're going to be there. 00:05:09.839 --> 00:05:19.439 And so we put it in writing, we make it legal, and we say, everybody can be unfaithful to me, everybody can turn on me except you, and I'll make the same promise to you. 00:05:19.519 --> 00:05:22.319 And if you don't live up to it, I'm gonna take half. 00:05:29.839 --> 00:05:31.199 Fulfillment. 00:05:31.839 --> 00:05:33.839 I got sunshine on a cloudy day. 00:05:34.000 --> 00:05:36.000 When it's cold outside, I got the month of May. 00:05:36.079 --> 00:05:38.160 You're the you're the cream in my coffee. 00:05:38.319 --> 00:05:40.480 All right, you're the sunshine in my I don't know. 00:05:40.560 --> 00:05:41.839 You know, you get the idea. 00:05:42.079 --> 00:05:44.319 Light, this person makes life better. 00:05:44.560 --> 00:05:45.920 Life is better with them. 00:05:46.160 --> 00:05:56.000 I'll take a road trip with you, I'll sleep in a tent with you, I'll sleep in a camper with you, I want to retire with you, I want to die spooning with you in a nursing home. 00:05:57.680 --> 00:05:59.519 Like the notebook, you know what I'm talking about. 00:05:59.680 --> 00:06:01.680 The movie gets me every time, every single time. 00:06:01.920 --> 00:06:04.560 Like, I'm not crying, you're crying, alright? 00:06:04.879 --> 00:06:05.759 Fulfillment. 00:06:05.920 --> 00:06:07.279 This is why you would get married. 00:06:07.360 --> 00:06:11.759 If you're trying to figure out whether you want to marry somebody, that's what you're trying to figure out. 00:06:12.000 --> 00:06:14.160 Do I feel secure in this relationship? 00:06:14.319 --> 00:06:16.079 And is it fulfilling? 00:06:16.480 --> 00:06:19.519 Um, this is where marriages break down. 00:06:19.759 --> 00:06:23.920 We call it falling out of love, but the bottom line is I don't feel secure or fulfilled anymore. 00:06:24.000 --> 00:06:25.839 That's what that's actually what you're saying. 00:06:26.000 --> 00:06:27.920 I don't feel secure, I don't feel safe. 00:06:28.000 --> 00:06:29.360 Maybe you don't feel physically safe. 00:06:29.439 --> 00:06:30.480 I'm afraid for my life. 00:06:30.560 --> 00:06:32.639 Or number two, I don't feel emotionally safe. 00:06:32.959 --> 00:06:35.040 Because intimacy is into me. 00:06:35.199 --> 00:06:42.560 See, you see into me, and once I let you see into me, now you took all of my vulnerabilities, and whenever we get in a fight, you bring it up. 00:06:42.879 --> 00:06:46.639 And you you you beat me up with the stuff I showed you, and now you hurt me. 00:06:46.879 --> 00:06:48.160 I don't feel safe anymore. 00:06:48.319 --> 00:06:50.480 I don't feel safe, and I don't feel fulfilled. 00:06:50.560 --> 00:06:52.160 Frankly, I don't like hanging out with you anymore. 00:06:52.240 --> 00:06:53.759 I don't think you like hanging out with me. 00:06:53.920 --> 00:06:57.839 We've been to counseling a few times, it ain't working out, it's not getting any better. 00:06:57.920 --> 00:06:59.199 In fact, it's getting worse. 00:06:59.439 --> 00:07:01.519 Let's just call it irreconcilable differences. 00:07:01.600 --> 00:07:07.839 Say we fell out of love, we were young and dumb, and let's make a change while we're still young enough to find somebody else who's secure and fulfilled. 00:07:08.399 --> 00:07:10.240 I could stay there, but I'm gonna get off of that. 00:07:10.319 --> 00:07:11.920 I don't want to steal your joy. 00:07:13.120 --> 00:07:16.079 The every other sales pitch is there too, by the way. 00:07:16.160 --> 00:07:17.519 That's why you buy a car. 00:07:17.920 --> 00:07:23.120 JD Power and Associates told everybody that this is the safest car there ever was. 00:07:23.839 --> 00:07:26.000 The airbags have airbags. 00:07:26.319 --> 00:07:28.480 Alright, it's just the safest thing you've ever seen. 00:07:28.560 --> 00:07:29.839 It is so safe. 00:07:30.000 --> 00:07:37.680 And by the way, it's fulfilling because in the in the video, you know, in the commercial, man, this person just, I mean, they just got this look of contentment, you know. 00:07:37.759 --> 00:07:46.639 It's like, man, this is a great, and it's a beautiful car, and the logo means something, and I've never quite seen that shade of color of it's it's just greenish, bluish, gray. 00:07:46.720 --> 00:07:48.959 Oh, you know, my heart fulfilling. 00:07:49.439 --> 00:07:51.040 The inside of it's like an apartment, man. 00:07:51.120 --> 00:07:52.000 It's like an environment. 00:07:52.079 --> 00:07:53.600 All right, this is just awesome. 00:07:53.839 --> 00:07:54.480 Fulfilling. 00:07:54.639 --> 00:07:57.920 So if it's safe and fulfilling, that's why I want to buy it. 00:07:58.079 --> 00:08:00.560 By the way, I don't know if you know, it's election season. 00:08:00.720 --> 00:08:02.000 There's lots of that going on. 00:08:02.079 --> 00:08:08.160 Uh, I just decode all the sales pitches are this if you vote for me, I will make you safer. 00:08:08.319 --> 00:08:11.519 If you vote for them, they're gonna make your life more dangerous. 00:08:11.759 --> 00:08:12.079 Okay? 00:08:12.639 --> 00:08:16.959 And I don't want to raise taxes, they want to raise taxes. 00:08:17.120 --> 00:08:21.199 No, you want to raise taxes, no, you want to raise taxes, no, you want to raise taxes. 00:08:21.360 --> 00:08:28.079 If you vote for me, I'll put money in your pocket, your life will be happier, and you'll be safer, and they are your worst nightmare. 00:08:28.720 --> 00:08:29.040 Okay? 00:08:29.600 --> 00:08:35.600 So this is every what are they doing, but going right to what you're already wired for. 00:08:35.759 --> 00:08:36.720 God made you this way. 00:08:36.799 --> 00:08:44.720 This wasn't an accident, and God would be pretty sick and sinister if he made you to need security and fulfillment and gave you no way to have it. 00:08:45.279 --> 00:08:46.879 That's pretty twisted. 00:08:47.200 --> 00:08:48.559 God's not twisted. 00:08:48.799 --> 00:08:55.519 The problem is not with God, the problem is we tend to pursue these things in ways that won't deliver them. 00:08:55.759 --> 00:08:59.279 So I'm gonna give you four things and get the right things in the right order. 00:08:59.440 --> 00:09:00.879 How do I find security? 00:09:01.039 --> 00:09:06.879 Well, the first is in the fact that you're unconditionally loved. 00:09:07.039 --> 00:09:10.480 In Matthew 3, 16 and 17, this is the story of Jesus. 00:09:10.639 --> 00:09:19.759 He's getting ready to start his career, and a voice from heaven says, This is my dearly loved son who brings me great joy. 00:09:20.000 --> 00:09:28.159 The power of that text is in the context, because the context is Jesus had done nothing to earn that sort of love and approval. 00:09:28.320 --> 00:09:28.799 Nothing. 00:09:29.120 --> 00:09:41.120 He had not walked on water, he had not turned water into wine, he had not taught the sermon on the mount, he had not died for anyone's sin, had not resurrected, he just existed. 00:09:41.519 --> 00:09:49.840 And God the Father says to the Son, there you are, my dearly loved Son, who brings me great joy. 00:09:50.080 --> 00:09:52.639 Not because of anything you've done, but because of who you are. 00:09:52.720 --> 00:09:57.039 And you're about to have some low lows and some high highs, but something's got to keep you here. 00:09:57.360 --> 00:10:04.799 And what we know is that we are joint heirs with Jesus, that that wasn't just something for Jesus because he was awesome, that's something for you because you're awesome. 00:10:05.039 --> 00:10:15.759 And at some point, your security has to come from whether things go good or bad, whether you win or lose, whether you're summa cum laude or they ask you not to come back to school here anymore. 00:10:17.039 --> 00:10:31.679 Whether they drive down on one knee or you get broken up with, whether they were faithful or unfaithful, whatever external, chaotic, crazy stuff going on, that you can sit in the peace that I'm his dearly loved son, who brings them great joy. 00:10:31.919 --> 00:10:34.799 The second is the word anointed. 00:10:35.759 --> 00:10:36.480 Anointed. 00:10:36.720 --> 00:10:40.399 Anointed is a word that's used in both the Old and the New Testament. 00:10:40.639 --> 00:10:43.279 And in the Old Testament, they would anoint with oil. 00:10:43.440 --> 00:10:49.440 Even in the New Testament, there's some things about anointing with oil, but it's not about the oil, it's about what it symbolizes, which is the presence of the Holy Spirit. 00:10:49.679 --> 00:10:54.720 In the Old Testament, the only people that had the presence of the Holy Spirit were prophets, priests, and kings. 00:10:56.000 --> 00:11:00.480 And the average people like us didn't have it, but but now the Holy Spirit was present in them. 00:11:00.559 --> 00:11:01.200 But look what happened. 00:11:01.679 --> 00:11:02.720 This is foreshadowing. 00:11:02.879 --> 00:11:15.440 1 Samuel 10, 6 says, this is Saul, when Saul's being anointed king, says, at that time the Spirit of the Lord will come powerfully upon you, and you will prophesy, and you will be changed into a different person. 00:11:16.320 --> 00:11:21.039 So think of the presence of the Holy Spirit as now new spiritual DNA. 00:11:21.200 --> 00:11:22.720 In fact, think how Jesus talked about it. 00:11:22.879 --> 00:11:26.159 He said, Hey, uh, you must be born again. 00:11:26.399 --> 00:11:28.720 Be born of spirit and of water. 00:11:28.879 --> 00:11:34.639 So be born normal, you know, as a like a human being who is born, but then also born of spirit. 00:11:34.879 --> 00:11:37.440 And then Paul talks about this, he talks about the Holy Spirit. 00:11:37.600 --> 00:11:40.720 He says, the spirit that raised Christ from the dead lives in you. 00:11:40.879 --> 00:11:52.240 And that spirit in Galatians 5, he says, here's what the DNA, the deoxyribonucleic acid of the spirit that has your genetic code as human beings. 00:11:52.480 --> 00:11:57.600 My mom and dad gave me DNA, they gave me hair color, skin color, arm length. 00:11:57.759 --> 00:11:59.039 Okay, all this stuff. 00:11:59.200 --> 00:12:00.799 All of that is their DNA. 00:12:00.879 --> 00:12:04.960 Well, as a being born of the spirit, now I have spirit DNA. 00:12:05.120 --> 00:12:10.159 Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. 00:12:10.240 --> 00:12:11.519 Oh, but you don't know my background. 00:12:11.679 --> 00:12:13.120 You don't know my family of origin. 00:12:13.279 --> 00:12:18.159 I come from a long line of that's my DNA. 00:12:18.399 --> 00:12:20.559 We're Fords, we all do this. 00:12:20.799 --> 00:12:26.879 I come from the no, your your DNA in the spirit is your love, joy, peace. 00:12:27.039 --> 00:12:33.919 I don't define myself off of my physical DNA, I define myself off of my spiritual DNA. 00:12:34.559 --> 00:12:36.080 I'm in the family. 00:12:36.320 --> 00:12:38.799 The spirit that raised Jesus from the dead is in me. 00:12:38.879 --> 00:12:40.559 So where does my security come from? 00:12:40.720 --> 00:12:47.440 It doesn't come in my pedigree, it doesn't come in my education, it doesn't come in uh where I fit in the social status. 00:12:47.679 --> 00:12:50.559 It's in things that you cannot take away from me. 00:12:50.960 --> 00:12:58.960 You can you you can talk about me, you can take away uh the respect that people have for me, you could even maybe take my health away. 00:12:59.200 --> 00:13:05.759 You could hurt me in a lot of ways, but what you can't take ultimately is my security, which is I'm his dearly loved son, who brings him great joy. 00:13:05.919 --> 00:13:10.159 And and I've got the DNA of the Spirit pumping through my veins. 00:13:12.399 --> 00:13:13.039 Preach. 00:13:15.279 --> 00:13:17.039 The next is fulfillment. 00:13:17.200 --> 00:13:18.799 Where does my fulfillment come from? 00:13:18.960 --> 00:13:24.159 It comes, my fulfillment comes from the fact that you and I are gifted. 00:13:24.879 --> 00:13:25.200 Okay? 00:13:25.840 --> 00:13:27.679 All right, let's talk about gifted. 00:13:27.919 --> 00:13:29.039 Romans 12, 6. 00:13:29.360 --> 00:13:34.000 In his grace, God has given us different gifts for doing certain things well. 00:13:35.679 --> 00:13:40.720 Every single human being has been gifted by God to do certain things well. 00:13:41.200 --> 00:13:43.200 You gotta come to peace with a few things. 00:13:43.360 --> 00:13:45.279 One, you don't do all things well. 00:13:45.759 --> 00:13:48.000 Other people do some things really well. 00:13:48.159 --> 00:13:48.960 They're easy. 00:13:49.039 --> 00:13:50.159 It's easy for them. 00:13:50.320 --> 00:13:56.480 It comes easy, they're smart, and and you know, for some reason, God chose to give some people more gifts. 00:13:56.639 --> 00:13:58.000 You know, doggone it. 00:13:58.080 --> 00:14:01.039 How are you gonna be good at that and that and that and that? 00:14:01.120 --> 00:14:04.320 And some people it feels like they're good at everything, but nobody's good at everything. 00:14:04.639 --> 00:14:11.039 Some people are good at a few more things than others, and some people have the same gift you and I have, they're just a little better at it. 00:14:11.200 --> 00:14:12.720 You gotta come to peace with all that. 00:14:12.799 --> 00:14:14.159 That's not my security. 00:14:14.639 --> 00:14:32.879 One of the issues that people have is they take their gift, their gift, which is again your natural talents, and we turn those gifts into skills, oftentimes that becomes a career, and it becomes a huge part of our identity, and what they do is they look for their gift to be their security. 00:14:33.919 --> 00:14:35.279 Wrong spot. 00:14:35.679 --> 00:14:39.440 Because your gift is not designed to bear the weight of your security. 00:14:40.080 --> 00:14:53.440 If you're good at something and you've turned it into a career or whatever, and now you're looking to find security through your performance in that area, something tragic will take place. 00:14:53.600 --> 00:15:07.120 And the tragedy will be this that the gift God gave you to enjoy being good at what He made you good at, you won't actually enjoy it or be fulfilled by it because it bears the weight of your security. 00:15:07.200 --> 00:15:09.840 So you have nothing but anxiety and stress. 00:15:10.080 --> 00:15:15.039 And I see people all the time, God's made them to do certain things well, and they don't even like doing that thing. 00:15:15.200 --> 00:15:15.600 Why? 00:15:15.840 --> 00:15:20.720 Because it's full of pressure and stress, because it bears the weight of their security. 00:15:20.960 --> 00:15:22.799 Like, you gotta settle that, man. 00:15:22.960 --> 00:15:26.799 You you gotta say, I will not look to my gift for my security. 00:15:26.960 --> 00:15:29.759 That's settled elsewhere with things you can't take away from me. 00:15:29.919 --> 00:15:37.200 So now it allows me to take my gift and to just throw my head back and enjoy it. 00:15:37.919 --> 00:15:39.039 To enjoy it. 00:15:39.279 --> 00:15:44.639 The the fourth thing is that every one of us are called. 00:15:45.600 --> 00:15:47.120 Well, what do you mean by that? 00:15:47.279 --> 00:15:56.159 Uh, 1 Corinthians 12, verse 4, says there are different kinds of spiritual gifts, but the same spirit is the source of them all. 00:15:56.399 --> 00:15:58.960 There are different kinds of service, but we serve the same Lord. 00:15:59.120 --> 00:16:04.000 Verse 6, God works in different ways, but it's the same God who does the work in all of us. 00:16:04.159 --> 00:16:05.360 Verse 7, look at this. 00:16:05.519 --> 00:16:11.840 A spiritual gift is given to each of us for this purpose, so we can help each other. 00:16:12.639 --> 00:16:26.480 Your calling is to take your gifts, the things that you do certain things well, and the gifts that the Holy Spirit gives you, and to use those to serve God by serving people. 00:16:28.320 --> 00:16:33.519 People are not a gift, people are who you're called to serve. 00:16:34.559 --> 00:16:37.600 And oftentimes people mix up gift and calling. 00:16:37.679 --> 00:16:41.759 So they say this I'm I'm called to lead. 00:16:42.240 --> 00:16:43.120 No, you're not. 00:16:43.279 --> 00:16:45.840 You're gifted to lead, you're called to people. 00:16:46.399 --> 00:16:48.080 I'm called to preach. 00:16:48.320 --> 00:16:49.120 No, you're not. 00:16:49.279 --> 00:16:51.919 You're gifted to preach, you're called to people. 00:16:52.240 --> 00:16:53.519 People are your calling. 00:16:53.600 --> 00:17:00.000 And if you mix that up, you'll start treating your calling, which is people, like a gift to you because you're so anointed. 00:17:00.399 --> 00:17:01.600 And you're so good at everything. 00:17:01.759 --> 00:17:02.879 No, people are the calling. 00:17:03.200 --> 00:17:15.200 If you go up the food chain and you got the corner office, that means you've been privileged by God with with the influence and the resources and the power to help more people, not to have more minions. 00:17:16.079 --> 00:17:16.640 You got me? 00:17:16.799 --> 00:17:26.000 So this is where once I get these things in order, now I can actually enjoy using my gifts. 00:17:26.160 --> 00:17:33.440 I if I'm not enjoying my gift and you're not enjoying your gift, chances are this is where you need to focus and pray. 00:17:33.599 --> 00:17:35.359 Lord, what's out of alignment here? 00:17:35.519 --> 00:17:37.440 Have I moved this thing up here? 00:17:37.759 --> 00:17:39.759 What what why am I not able to do this? 00:17:39.920 --> 00:17:43.920 So when I do that now, I'm able to use my gift and to serve people. 00:17:44.720 --> 00:17:46.480 And I think God will give you assignments. 00:17:46.559 --> 00:17:49.200 I think sometimes we confuse calling with assignments. 00:17:49.519 --> 00:17:54.720 Okay, I think God's given me this assignment to be here and do this job, and it's a stewardship, man. 00:17:54.799 --> 00:17:55.440 It's for a season. 00:17:55.519 --> 00:17:56.319 I don't know how long. 00:17:56.480 --> 00:17:58.160 I hope it's as long as possible. 00:17:58.240 --> 00:17:58.799 I love this. 00:17:58.880 --> 00:17:59.839 I love my job. 00:18:00.000 --> 00:18:04.079 I have no question about you know the fulfillment that comes from it. 00:18:04.160 --> 00:18:07.119 I have no question we're doing good work and working with good people. 00:18:07.279 --> 00:18:07.680 I love it. 00:18:07.839 --> 00:18:09.839 But at some point, God will move me out of the way. 00:18:10.000 --> 00:18:12.720 He's gonna bring somebody uh else into that position. 00:18:12.880 --> 00:18:19.440 As long as wherever God has me in terms of assignment, I don't see the assignment as the calling, I see it as the as the assignment. 00:18:19.680 --> 00:18:25.440 If God someday, let's say I go from here and I'm and I'm in a retirement home, well, my I'll still have a calling. 00:18:25.599 --> 00:18:31.279 As long as I have breath, God puts me as somebody, whoever's in the trailer next to me, they're getting, they're gonna get loved on. 00:18:31.440 --> 00:18:34.799 That person's gonna get they're gonna get pastor, they're gonna have somebody in their world. 00:18:34.960 --> 00:18:38.960 So, so people all the time, well, Pastor, I don't want to miss my calling. 00:18:39.200 --> 00:18:41.440 Dude, show point out people. 00:18:41.599 --> 00:18:43.279 There you go, there's your calling right there. 00:18:43.440 --> 00:18:50.720 Allow God to use you to take your gifts, glorify him, serve him by serving people. 00:18:51.359 --> 00:18:52.319 All right, all right. 00:18:52.400 --> 00:18:53.759 Well, what emerges, okay? 00:18:53.839 --> 00:18:56.319 I'm gonna I'm I'm gonna give you, here's my definition. 00:18:56.480 --> 00:18:58.319 I should have given you this before I did all that. 00:18:58.480 --> 00:19:00.400 The definition of contentment, okay. 00:19:00.480 --> 00:19:02.400 I got that, I'm I made this up. 00:19:02.480 --> 00:19:03.680 This is not from Webster. 00:19:03.759 --> 00:19:05.200 All right, Webster says something else. 00:19:05.279 --> 00:19:08.960 I'm I'm gonna say that this is what I think contentment, biblical contentment is this. 00:19:09.119 --> 00:19:12.000 It's living at the intersection of peace and passion. 00:19:12.880 --> 00:19:16.319 Living at the intersection of peace and passion. 00:19:16.480 --> 00:19:18.720 Contentment is not just peace. 00:19:19.119 --> 00:19:23.519 Because if you have peace with no passion, you have complacency. 00:19:24.400 --> 00:19:25.759 Well, I'm just at peace. 00:19:25.920 --> 00:19:31.440 And I talk to folks every once in a while who are just a little too at peace for my liking, to be honest with you. 00:19:31.680 --> 00:19:32.000 Okay? 00:19:32.240 --> 00:19:34.640 I mean, they've been waiting on God for like 17 years. 00:19:34.799 --> 00:19:35.519 You know what I'm saying? 00:19:35.599 --> 00:19:37.039 At some point, it's like, come on now. 00:19:37.200 --> 00:19:38.240 God's waiting on you. 00:19:38.319 --> 00:19:40.160 Like, you gotta go ahead and take a step. 00:19:40.240 --> 00:19:42.000 Like, get out, get moving. 00:19:42.240 --> 00:19:50.640 Like, and I think you have to have a little self-awareness around do you is it potentially a temptation for you to slide into apathy? 00:19:50.960 --> 00:19:53.839 Is it a temptation to slide into laziness? 00:19:54.160 --> 00:19:55.279 Is that a temptation? 00:19:55.759 --> 00:20:00.160 Because there are some in this room who are the other side, which is they're full of passion. 00:20:00.319 --> 00:20:03.119 Okay, so so I'm right, peace here. 00:20:03.359 --> 00:20:11.599 And they're so full of passion, but if you have passion with no peace, okay, you're compulsive. 00:20:13.599 --> 00:20:16.480 This person is complacent. 00:20:17.279 --> 00:20:22.000 If if you only have this and know this, this is complacency, this is compulsion. 00:20:22.160 --> 00:20:24.240 The person with passion, but they can't rest. 00:20:25.279 --> 00:20:29.359 The Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want for anything. 00:20:29.519 --> 00:20:35.680 He makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters. 00:20:36.079 --> 00:20:45.279 There are some people who are passionate, they have no peace, they're compulsive, so even to lay down in the green pasture, they'd be twitching. 00:20:49.039 --> 00:20:53.599 And they're not even allergic to grass, they're allergic to rest. 00:20:55.119 --> 00:20:58.880 They think, oh man, I just need a I just need some time at the beach. 00:20:59.119 --> 00:21:01.440 People have nervous breakdowns in the sand. 00:21:02.160 --> 00:21:02.880 They do. 00:21:03.119 --> 00:21:03.680 You understand? 00:21:03.839 --> 00:21:04.400 Go to the beach. 00:21:04.480 --> 00:21:07.599 You next time you go to the beach, go and watch, and look how many people are answering emails. 00:21:09.440 --> 00:21:10.319 Working on it. 00:21:10.559 --> 00:21:10.960 Why? 00:21:11.200 --> 00:21:12.720 Because you don't have it in tandem. 00:21:12.960 --> 00:21:25.519 So what we're talking about, biblical contentment, contentment, not getting caught into the trap of destination addiction, doesn't mean that I have no vision for the future. 00:21:26.640 --> 00:21:38.559 Because peace is what will cause me to sit down and rest, to be able to sit down beside still waters, to be able to celebrate the win. 00:21:39.200 --> 00:21:39.359 Okay? 00:21:40.400 --> 00:21:42.720 Of course it could have been better. 00:21:43.440 --> 00:21:47.440 Of course it could have been bigger, could have been more excellent. 00:21:47.680 --> 00:21:52.799 We've all had the thing where once the event was over, you had two or three good ideas on your drive home. 00:21:52.960 --> 00:21:54.799 You're like, oh, why didn't I do that? 00:21:54.960 --> 00:21:56.079 Oh, why didn't I think? 00:21:56.160 --> 00:21:59.599 Okay, at some point, if you're gonna have any contentment and peace. 00:22:00.160 --> 00:22:03.759 You got to be able to sit yourself down and to go, you know what? 00:22:04.000 --> 00:22:05.039 Job well done. 00:22:05.599 --> 00:22:07.519 I I worked my tail off. 00:22:07.680 --> 00:22:10.000 I thought everything I thought to think. 00:22:10.160 --> 00:22:11.680 I pulled the team together. 00:22:11.839 --> 00:22:13.279 I worked my heart out. 00:22:13.440 --> 00:22:15.200 I did the very best I could. 00:22:15.279 --> 00:22:22.160 Someday my best is going to be a little better than it is today because I'm going to pursue, you know, it development and improvement. 00:22:22.319 --> 00:22:26.960 But today, this was the best I had and is good enough for today to be able to do that. 00:22:27.119 --> 00:22:32.960 Now, that's peace, not complacency, because what gets me back up is passion. 00:22:33.440 --> 00:22:48.720 And the passion, when it's around the gifts God's given me, the stuff He's made me to do well, and the people that He's called me to serve will turn into passion, which then will keep me from laying beside the still waters a little too long. 00:22:49.359 --> 00:22:53.920 So now I get up and it will get me back up and get me focused on what's next. 00:22:54.079 --> 00:22:55.440 And yet we do need to get better. 00:22:55.519 --> 00:22:56.559 We do need to level up. 00:22:56.720 --> 00:22:57.839 We do need to step up. 00:22:58.240 --> 00:23:00.640 We do need to look at what we did. 00:23:00.799 --> 00:23:10.000 Not in a self-deprecating, I stink kind of way, but in a you know what, this can get better, it needs to get better because we're gifted to do it and the people we're called to matter. 00:23:10.880 --> 00:23:13.839 So so to be able to sit in that tension. 00:23:13.920 --> 00:23:19.599 I was thinking about this, and I came up with this kind of metaphor, whatever. 00:23:19.680 --> 00:23:24.160 So I was thinking, um, okay, imagine, imagine you're a soccer player. 00:23:24.559 --> 00:23:26.880 You played soccer growing up, you were really good. 00:23:27.119 --> 00:23:27.680 Really good. 00:23:27.839 --> 00:23:35.759 You excelled, and you got a scholarship, and maybe you played professional soccer, and you get done, and you start out, you're like, you know, I want to coach soccer. 00:23:35.839 --> 00:23:40.720 So I love soccer and I love people, and so and so you and you start coaching third grade soccer. 00:23:41.839 --> 00:23:44.799 A hush goes up, it goes like, oh, some people are like, just the thought. 00:23:44.880 --> 00:23:47.200 They're like, third grade soccer sounds like hell. 00:23:47.519 --> 00:23:47.839 Okay. 00:23:51.920 --> 00:23:55.440 But to this person, they love coaching third grade soccer. 00:23:55.519 --> 00:23:56.480 It's just awesome. 00:23:56.720 --> 00:23:59.599 You know, they love teaching those skills, those young ones. 00:23:59.839 --> 00:24:03.599 And they're out there and they're working with the families, and it's just really fulfilling, man. 00:24:04.000 --> 00:24:06.319 God's got God's given them a passion for this. 00:24:06.559 --> 00:24:10.799 And yet there's a little something going on inside of them because people are like, hey man, when are you gonna quit your coaching? 00:24:11.039 --> 00:24:11.680 Third grade. 00:24:11.920 --> 00:24:14.640 Because you've got it in you, you could be a pro coach. 00:24:14.960 --> 00:24:18.799 And maybe there's something in you like, I don't really want to be a pro coach. 00:24:19.279 --> 00:24:20.319 I don't really want to. 00:24:20.400 --> 00:24:22.480 Like, I don't want to deal with them divas. 00:24:22.640 --> 00:24:28.000 I don't want people tweeting about me, I don't want people yelling at my kids when when we were giving up goals. 00:24:28.160 --> 00:24:30.640 I just I just really love, I'm really fulfilled here. 00:24:30.720 --> 00:24:31.920 I really like this. 00:24:32.240 --> 00:24:33.599 I enjoy this. 00:24:33.839 --> 00:24:40.079 And yet there's an inner conflict because you're like, but where does this put me in the social food chain? 00:24:41.359 --> 00:24:44.400 Uh where does this put me in terms of validation? 00:24:44.960 --> 00:24:47.839 Like, do I want to show up at my 20th high school reunion? 00:24:48.000 --> 00:24:48.720 They're like, what are you doing? 00:24:48.799 --> 00:24:49.920 What are you up to? 00:24:52.480 --> 00:24:54.720 I'm coaching third grade soccer. 00:24:55.519 --> 00:24:56.000 Really? 00:24:56.160 --> 00:24:58.319 I mean, you're like a pro, right? 00:24:58.400 --> 00:24:59.039 Yeah, I know. 00:24:59.599 --> 00:25:01.119 I just really love it, you know? 00:25:01.519 --> 00:25:04.000 The bumblebees, we've been undefeated every year. 00:25:04.799 --> 00:25:06.400 This is awesome. 00:25:09.279 --> 00:25:19.519 If you're not careful, if we only think of this one-sided, you'll get a lot of speeches where people will tell you that the only way you can validate yourself is by going to the top of the mountain. 00:25:19.680 --> 00:25:21.759 Okay, now here's what I'm gonna tell you. 00:25:22.640 --> 00:25:24.640 You gotta pray this. 00:25:25.519 --> 00:25:28.799 Because I have to ask myself, what's pulling me to the future? 00:25:29.039 --> 00:25:41.200 If I feel compelled that I need to coach pro soccer for my security, because my family's putting pressure on me and my environment's putting pressure on me, and frankly, I don't feel like I'm worth much if I'm only doing this. 00:25:41.359 --> 00:25:46.799 Even though I feel super fulfilled in doing this work, for some reason I'm feeling this outside pressure. 00:25:46.960 --> 00:25:59.200 Listen, you gotta pray that to the ground, you gotta wrestle that to the ground, you gotta allow the Holy Spirit to give you a security that's going, no, I'm gonna give you the security to actually see and value the work I've given you to do. 00:25:59.359 --> 00:26:09.839 This is what I've I've called you to these people to do this work, and if this is what God has designed you to do and it brings you great fulfillment, then don't ever let anybody talk down to you about it's not valuable enough. 00:26:09.920 --> 00:26:10.160 Why? 00:26:10.400 --> 00:26:12.160 Because you think I'm not coaching pro? 00:26:12.559 --> 00:26:13.920 Give me a break. 00:26:15.039 --> 00:26:16.079 Peace and passion. 00:26:16.160 --> 00:26:19.920 I feel really passionate about this work, and I'm at peace with myself. 00:26:20.559 --> 00:26:26.319 Now, there's somebody else coaching third grade soccer, and frankly, they have a passion. 00:26:26.400 --> 00:26:28.000 They really want to coach pro. 00:26:28.799 --> 00:26:31.759