FROM MAMA TO MAMA: MARCH'S ADVICE EPISODE

This week the girls read your monthly advice questions! From stealing baby names to splitting the workload between spouses, this week is full of relatable questions. The girls also discuss the new habits they're working on creating, cooking nightmares, and conversations at 2 a.m that may only be funny to those who are also slap-happy. 

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Hello, Mamas. I'm Emily. And I'm Ellie. And this is Mama Needs a Minute. Mama needs a step over there. Look at you. I'm stepping. Emily's trying to get her steps in. I'm a stepper. I'm obsessed with my steps. I really want a walking pad to get my steps in while I'm like watching all these TV shows as well. Yeah. It's kind of a like once you're obsessed with it, you can't not be obsessed with it. So yeah. Like I get annoyed if I'm at Costco because I can't turn that giant ass cart with only one hand. Like whenever I'm pushing the shoulder, I'm pushing it with one hand because otherwise I don't get my steps. Yeah, I don't like that. Um, I don't like things on my ankle like that. I want, because I have an Apple Watch and I never wear it because I just don't wear watches or like a lot of like wrist stuff, but I wear rings and I wish that I had a aura to, but not the aura, because did you know the aura ring, even though you bought it, you still have to pay a subscription to use the app? No. Yeah. Oh. You have to pay for the monthly subscription, or the ring is like moot. So there's a knockoff version. I cannot think of what it's called. Um, that you once you buy it, like it's yours. You have access to the app and all that that entails. You don't have to pay any extra subscription fees. I was talking to somebody the other day that had a ring and they were like, Yeah, this one's great because it tells me my blood pressure and if I'm stressed. And I was like, I just don't feel I need to know my blood pressure at all times. And I think like if I'm stressed, I know that. I'm aware, I'm sweating, my heart's racing. I don't need an app. Seemed weird to me. And they were like, no, I like it. And I was like, I mean, I wouldn't be like, I think I'm stressed. Let me check my app. Yeah. Yep. That'd be like if you're just standing in the rain and you're like, let me see if it's raining on the weather app. Like, it's raining. That's so true. Yeah. So I was like, that one just sounds like it. It was like it was like the high-tech aura. But I like those type of rings because one, I'd wear it more. And two, I know this knockoff one, it says it holds a charge of like 12 days, and I never remember to charge shit. My phone's not even charged half the time. Yeah. And it tracks like, I think like fertility and like sleep. I want to track that. I want that, but they're like expensive even for like the knockoff version. I know how long I slept. Right. But like if your sleep's not good and you couldn't know to improve it. Well, I think I would know if my sleep wasn't good, I'd be sleepy. But I'm always sleepy. Maybe my sleep's not good. Yeah. So why buy the ring? You know that. True. Well, so I'm just sitting here stepping, you guys, walking in place. Yeah. It's kind of like about the stepping thing. Like, you know how they say if you do something like seven times or something, you create a habit. Yeah. 21. Oh, is it 21 days of something? Yeah. I started doing my skincare after Christmas. And now I'm like, I I must do that before I go to bed. It really, you really do create a habit that you're like, no, I'm addicted to it now. Yeah. Yeah. I agree. Well, I had to be a single mommy last week when my husband went to a um dinner. One night. Yeah, for one night. And it wasn't really rough, honestly. Usually I'm not the single mom at nighttime because I work nights. Noe is the one that's like doing bedtime by himself like two to three nights a week. And I really give power to him, but also power to the single moms because I had to do it for one night and it was rough. First of all, it's rough only because I am not a cook. And everyone, if you know me, then you know that. I it's like a joke of my life. I cannot cook. My mom wasn't a really great cook. I'm not a really great cook. I I'm not even really allowed to touch noe's nice pants because I will fuck them up majorly. And I had to make dinner and I don't do that. Like, not that I'm spoiled by my husband, but I really No, no, no, no, no, no, no. But I really am spoiled by my husband. I don't cook. And I was like, what am I supposed to do? So I made buttered noodles and garlic bread. And you would have thought I made like a Michelin star-worthy meal. The way my kids were like, mommy, this is the best meal ever. Mila's like, Mila, who's two, was throwing out shit. Like, I'm so grateful to have you, mommy. Oh wow. Buttered noodles. I'm not even kidding. Over buttered noodles. Like Julian had like four plates worth. I'm like, okay, I'm amazing. Never mind. Like I can handle this now. But the noodles are good. I mean, it's so easy. Yeah, they're good. They hit. But typically I'm a really bad cook. So that was amazing to hear. Did I ever tell you about my some of my cooking stories? I have to tell you about one specifically. Okay. And I guess the world. The world. So I'm a bad cook. We know that. I was pregnant with Julian. And I was like, I was like heavy pregnant, like eight months pregnant or something like that. And I wanted to make breakfast for Noe. I don't think it was like Father's Day or anything. I think I just really wanted to make him breakfast. I bet it was Father's Day. Isn't Julian Julian? Yeah, because he's born in June. No, Julian's June. Oh, okay. No, I I maybe it was like our anniversary or something. But I wanted to make Noe breakfast. And so I was like, okay, I'm gonna make him biscuits and gravy. Okay. My my family knows how to make I know how to make biscuits and gravy. Like we ate that a lot growing up. I watched my dad do it. I can do this. I mean, it's literally flour and milk. Have you ever made biscuits and gravy? Okay. It's a Midwestern staple. Now you were using like a can of biscuits. Yes. Okay. Yeah. I'm not Betty fucking Crocker. I was using a can of biscuits. But I was making the roux of the biscuits and gravy myself. Oh the roux? The gravy. Yeah. You said rue. So I had, I was like, Noe, get out of the kitchen. Like, do not come in here. I've got this. I'm gonna make you biscuits and gravy. So I'm making the the gravy and I add my flour and I add my milk. And you know, you kind of have to like stir it and let it thicken. Well, it's not thickening. And I'm like, okay. I add a little bit more flour and wait and wait and wait, and it's still not thickening. I add a little bit more milk. Wait and wait, wait. I'm like, what the hell? I mean, I have added so much milk and flour. I've like doubled the recipe at this point for this biscuit ruby. I'm like, what the hell is happening? I cannot figure it out. Like, it's not thickening. And I finally I like break down to know he. I'm like, you know, you just gotta come help me. I'm sorry, but I don't know what's happening. He was like, he comes over, he's like, that's so weird. And you're adding flour and you're adding milk. And I'm like, yes, I'm doing everything I'm supposed to do and it's not working. And he was like, huh. He takes like a little spoon and tries it. He was like, Ellie, did you ever sugar? Did you ever think to try this? And I was like, oh no, why? I was using powdered sugar. It was sweet. It was the sweetest biscuits ingraving. Not the roo. I balled my eyes out. I was like, I just wanted to make you a breadmith. I can't even do that. Oh my. And yeah, I spent so much time on it. So Noah ended up going out and buying more flour, I think. And I'm pretty sure he made it the second round. But I could go for some biscuits and gravy right now. It probably could have been good, actually, if I just would have added flour, been like a sweet and savory kind of thing. No. But yeah, I I mess up a lot of, I mess up a lot of what I try to accomplish in the kitchen. One time I tried to cook maybe you need the crock pot. Oh, I was literally about to say that. One time I tried to cook a recipe I'd found online in a crock pot. And went about my day, and like eight hours later, I went to go like shred the chicken or something. I never plugged it in. So it was just like raw chicken for like hours in the crock pot, just sitting there marinating. And I never thought it doesn't smell like chicken in here. Or maybe I should check on that. I was just like doo-doo doo, eight hours later, come back, nothing. I always make sure if I plug the crock pot in and turn it on and stuff, I always still go back like 10 minutes later and make sure it's hot, which is actually, I've decided like my biggest toxic trait is that I don't know what is wrong with my brain. That I'm like, let me make sure something isn't hot anymore by touching it. Why? Like before I put the toaster away, I like put my entire hand on the top of the toaster. That's not a good idea. Like it still could be hot. And I always commit with the full hand. Like, oh, is my straightener off? Let me make sure that it's cold. Why am I doing this? Like what I mean, it's happening a lot. Let me make sure the crock pot's hot. Yep. Sure shit. It's hot. Second degree burn now. Thank you. Like, why do I do that? You're like a toddler who just can't resist. Your first instinct is to just touch the air fryer before I put it back. Let me make sure it's hot. Not hot. Oh, wow. Still hot. Why am I doing this all the time? You even use like the back of your hand at least. No. You just full-on palm. Mom. Nearly every morning before I because we put the toaster away in a cabinet. Yeah. And we do too. Yeah. And I literally just palm the entire top just to make sure it's not hot. And I'm like, what if it would have been hot? Like that was a really bad idea. Mm-hmm. Yeah. It's my toxic trait. Anyway, what else do you got to tell us? You got a little note over there. You know I do. Uh-huh. Um, I went to two 30th birthdays this past weekend. Two 30th birthday parties, because like I said in a couple episodes ago, it's just like 30th birthday on 30th birthday on 30th birthday. It's just so popular. I just have a lot of friends turning 30, actually. Popular. What I was gonna say is one of them, we went to this thing. If you're in the Indian area, actually, it's probably it's Indian, Indiana's probably not the only place that has this. I'm sure there's other states. It's called Activate Games, is what the place is called. Have you ever heard of it? No. Okay, you go in and you get this wristband. It's very futuristic in there. It reminds me of Trone. Have you ever seen the movie or Roads around? Tron. Tron, yeah. It's very like futuristic looking in there like that. But you all get a wristband and that connects to like your username or whatever. And you go in and there's like 20 different rooms, and all of the rooms have a different game that you play. And the games are very like um active games, like you're not just like sitting there for the most part, um, doing like a puzzle. It's like one of the rooms was a laser game, and there's multiple games in each room. Like this was a laser room, and within the laser room, there's like five different types of games you could play with the lasers. So the one we liked to play was it was almost like if you've watched an old spy movie where they're like dun dun dun dun trying to like rob the bank, and there's lasers like blocking whatever they're trying to rob. It's like that. So the lasers will come on and you have to get from one side of the room to the other without getting the laser touching you. And then there was another one with the lasers where it would just like switch. So there would come a laser that would come across the floor and you'd have to jump. And then a laser would come like from the ceiling, and you'd have to swipe to the side, and you're working together. So we would be like, jump, like duck, and you'd have to like fall to the ground. I mean, we were sweating and we're 30, mind you. So we're like with a bunch of teens, and then there's us like trying to do these games. We're like the oldest ones there, but I'm telling you, it was so fun. There was another room that was like the whole floor had tiles, and the tiles would like light up different colors, and you'd have like five seconds to run to the color that it would shout like blue, five, four, and you'd have that much time to like run and touch a blue tile. And you're like working together. So if one person's not on the tile, then you're out and you get like so many lives. And they had like a basketball game. This sounds stressful. What did you wear? Well, if you're like, well, I sports bra. We wore we wore tennis shoes and leggings and like a workout top. I had a jacket on, but I took it off. And the boys were pretty much in like the same. I mean, yeah, you're wearing. I said next time I'm wearing shorts and a t-shirt. I mean, we were sweating. Yeah. Okay, so at least you knew. At least you weren't like, let's go in our boots. Yeah, out to dinner, look cute, and then like go play. Surprise. Yeah. They had like, um, do you remember playing that worm game where you the worm would go around, you try to eat something and it'd get bigger and bigger? I wish I had that game right now. They had it on the big on a big screen and you're all holding like a controller and slapping and moving your worm around and trying not to hit each other. I actually won that game. I was good at that one. I wasn't good at any of the other games, but I was good at that one. It was so fun. Like, I would go back and do that again. Even like, I think it'd be fun for all ages. Like we did it at 30, and it was so fun. I think Julian would like it, and he's six. I mean, there's different levels, so he'd obviously only be able to do like level ones stuff, but I think he would think it was hilarious, like jumping over the lasers and stuff. Did you ever do an escape room? Are that still a thing? I've never done one. And I said that when we were there. I'm like, I really want to do an escape room now. I feel like that is calling your name. It is. I love a game, like I've said. Escape rooms can be kind of hard. My friend, we were talking about it at my other 30th birthday, and she had asked me the same question. Shit, honestly, escape rooms kind of give me like anxiety because I'm literally stuck in this room trying to escape. Well, the one that I went to, it was multiple rooms. Like you unlock room one, and then it takes you to room two, and then yeah. It's not really my day. You don't like stuff like that? No. I do. I'm not good at it. I get like distracted and I just want to like hang out and make jokes, and then there's always like that one person in the group though that's like sweating profusely and leading. And like taking it seriously. Yeah. Yeah. I'm the person who's like, I don't know, we're just doing what that guy says. Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah. No, I would take it seriously. Yeah. You'd be that guy.

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Yes.

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Yeah. This is so random, but remember the other night when we were talking about physical therapy? I wanted to tell a story. Oh my gosh. The other night at work. They were talking about pelvic floor therapy. Yes. Actually, we're talking about something very relatable. Yeah, that is relatable. Probably a lot of you girls have gone, and I'm going because I have tailbone pain. Yeah. And I don't want to go, but I think Caleb wrecked my tailbone three years ago. And we were talking about that. And it was like two in the morning. If you've ever worked night shift, you know, like that slap happy hour. Yeah. Where anything is funny, no matter what. And we're talking about physical therapy. And Emily's talking about how she needs to get physical therapy for her tailbone. And I start to tell you that I one time got physical therapy for I was what I was trying to say was for my big old boobies, because I used to have bigger boobies before I had lost some weight. It literally does. I feel like I'm bragging about how I used to have big tits, but I'm not. Quite the opposite, actually. I hated them. I was going to the doctor to get a breast reduction like referral because they were so big. I needed, I they were like hurting me to carry them around every day. They were like, in order to do that, you have to go through physical therapy and make sure that that doesn't like fix your pain. So I'm I'm nonchalantly talking to them and my other coworkers, and I start to say, I got physical therapy once for my big old boobies, but what I said. Oh yeah. I said, Oh yeah, I got physical therapy once for my big old butthole. And we were all like, what? I didn't even realize I had said it. So I kind of look up and everyone's staring at me and I was like, what? Very confidently for my big old but we're like, wait, did you just have a gaping hole? Like, what did they do for that? What would one do for a big old butthole? Did you birth the baby out of your butt? I'm confused. It was white statement. Hilarious. Yeah. And I was crying laughing so hard I couldn't even correct myself and tell them what I actually meant because I couldn't stop laughing. It was hilarious. Yeah. On that note, it's time for our monthly advice. Yes. Let's get to it. Everybody always says that I'm the one who reels us in. I somebody literally just said that at one of my birthday dinners. They were like, Emily's really good about reeling you back in. I'm like, well, I'm good about giving us content, bitches. Okay. You would never know about my big old butthole had I not went on that tangent. Okay. Let me pull up. Somehow the monthly advice. Where we give you advice. We know you don't want from us, but we're gonna give it anyway. And we don't know what we're talking about. I was about to work on this jingle. Yeah. What right? Monthly advice advice. Nice. Wouldn't it be nice? We gave you advice. Okay. Somehow every month, yeah, we give horrible advice and yet people still come coming back. So well, no, it's not that. It's just that at the end of it, we're just like, none of this was your fault. So I think people decided they're like, we like writing in because they're just gonna tell me I did the right thing. Okay, let's see. Even if you didn't, we'll tell you you did. Okay, I'll just start at the beginning. Okay, new mommy here. What's one piece of advice you wish someone had told you before becoming a mom? Serious this time. Um, before becoming a mom? No, this is a hard question because I feel like I have a hard time with like too much advice before the baby comes. Yeah, you don't want to overwhelm people. And also because so much of what you hear, I think I've gone on this tangent before and I feel very passionately about it, is like, oh well, just wait, you know, sleep while you can. Like all of that negativity, like that people throw at you when you're pregnant with your first is so awful. Yeah. Like, I make a point of like telling people like you're gonna have fun. Yeah. Because you are. That's so true. Yeah. I've heard from so many new moms that that that's the worst thing about being pregnant is the just weights. Yeah. Yeah. Um, which I think says more about the person who's saying those things because misery loves company. Yeah, you're like, do you hate your life? Or yeah, yeah, yeah. It's so annoying. Nobody, nobody gets pregnant thinking, yep, and then I'm gonna have the baby and it's all gonna be wonderful. Everyone knows if you've seen any movie or TV show fucking ever, you know the baby doesn't sleep. You know that it's gonna cry. Like nobody's going into it thinking, well, my baby's not. Yeah. I mean, but everything is temporary, which like the good and the bad. Yeah. So I think like if you go into it knowing that, you know, like, okay, well, he is gonna sleep again. I'm not, he's not gonna go to high school waking up every two hours to need to eat. But also, like, everything's temporary. So Yeah, it's a good one. That's it. Try to enjoy it and have fun. I feel like I'm always comparing myself to other moms, and I hate it. I try not to feel jealous, but I hate when I see another mom with the latest or trendiest car seat stroller baby clothes. I know that's not the point of it all, and I love being a mom, but I still feel this way. Girl, me too, honestly. Emily's probably better at about that than I am because I feel the same way a lot of the time. Oh gosh. I yeah, I hate that story. I get into I have I'm bipolar about this because I do have days where I'm like, I want to be like that mom I saw on Pinterest. And then I get into moods where I'm like, I don't even fucking care. Like, yeah, I don't even care. As far as like the products and stuff, I can't relate to that. Yeah. No. But you're not um a big social media girly. No. So it's easier. I think when when you're in the social media world, it becomes harder to, you know, what's really helped me lately is realizing that everything is an ad. It is a walking and talking ad. I was looking up stuff the other day and I was like, wait, that makes I haven't heard like this is a really cool product, but I haven't heard anything about it on TikTok. And I was like, oh yeah, because this company's not sponsoring anybody or gifting it away for free to anybody for them to promote the product. Or like if you've ever been on TikTok and you see the same thing over and over again and you actually do buy it and you're like, this sucks ass. Why is this because everyone like social media and influencers are doing exactly what their title is. They're influencing you to buy a product that they have been given or that they have been paid to promote. And once you get that in your mindset, you realize like that's probably only trendy because all 25 influencers have been sponsored to say that it's trendy, not necessarily because it's a good product. So, like, why would you even want to waste your money on it? When, you know, just because it's trendy doesn't mean it's trendy for the right reasons. That helps me mentally when I'm like, oh, everybody has, you know, the same bag and I want that bag. Well, they only have it because they got paid to have it. Yeah. So why am I gonna spend money I don't have to buy it just to be a cool mom? I'm already a cool mom. Look at me. Yeah. I'm a ball. I'm a boss. Yeah, I don't like that though. It does suck. Yeah, I think a social media break would help too. Yeah, I do too. Yeah, yeah. And it is true. I mean, comparison is a thief of joy. And another thing is if you surround yourself with friends who also are on the same page as you, yeah, that can help. Yeah. Like if I'm hanging out with you, I'm not gonna be like, you know, you don't care, so why do I care? Yeah. That's good to have friends in your corner like that. Yeah. Yeah. It's okay to be trendy. Obviously, I said that in like five episodes ago. If it's trending, I want it. But to bring myself back down to earth, I need to have friends that are like, hey, honey, don't spend$500 on that shit. Yeah, you can get it for$299 at the dollar two. Yeah. I mean, like, your like diaper bag that you bought at Target zips just the same as like a$200 one. Honestly, probably better. Hi, mamas, love the podcast, and you guys, I listen every week. We love you. I'm like, let's pick this one. Here's my question. I love being a mom, but sometimes I feel like I lost the person I used to be. Does that feeling ever go away? Yeah, I do. I think, well, depending on how old this person's kid is, I feel like, and they say that at the two-year mark is when it happens. And I completely agree. When you are two years postpartum, is when your hormone. Finally, like stabilize. And I feel like having gone through it twice when you finally feel like, okay, I can I have time to be myself again. I feel like when they're little, you don't feel like there's an end in sight. If they get older and more independent, and you're like, okay, yeah, like I can be me again. I can enjoy me now. Do you feel like that? Yeah, but I also feel like she's different now. Like, you know what I mean? Like, like I'm different now than I was. It's like when you graduate high school, you're never gonna be a high schooler again. And that's okay. And you might be like, oh, that was really fun, but it's time to evolve. Yeah, you know, so you're like a Pokemon. Yeah. But really, like I don't, I feel like I never got back to pre-kid, but I don't want to be pre-kid again. You know, like I found myself in motherhood, I guess. Oh, yeah. I like who I am now as a mother than before. Yeah. So if you're looking for her, she's gone. Yeah. She's like a butterfly. She's um she's gonna metamorphosis. She's a cake and now she has frosting. Yeah. You were once a caterpillar. Now you're beautiful. Yeah, I agree. But you probably have little kids if you're writing this in. Because I do feel like the older you get, the more you can you feel like yourself both internally and then you feel like you have the confidence to regain a little bit more independence. Now that your kids have more independence, you don't feel so much guilt around doing something for yourself. Yeah. Yeah. Just hang in there. It gets better. I think it gets better. Yeah. When they're so little, it's so hard. My husband planned a golf weekend and didn't ask me first. Dot, dot, dot. But when I tried to plan a girls' weekend, he said it wasn't a good time. I feel like he's always getting to go out and be with friends. But when it's my turn, it always turns into a big thing. What do I do? Do you need a divorce attorney? I'm just kidding. Also, I just recently said to Ellie, like, um, we we have rare ones. I will say that. I was like, we don't appreciate them quite as much as we should. Well, I won't speak for you, but I feel like No, I agree. Yeah, yeah, yeah. You you don't realize how good of a partner you have until you hear a story like that, and then you're like, the fuck? Yeah, what? Yeah. I'd be pulling up on that golf car, like, hey, baby, you forgot your kid. I cannot even begin to imagine. No. Yeah. I mean, even just like how we just went on a girl's trip to Florida a couple months ago. Like there would be so many women who could not feel like they could do that. Yeah. Um, which is ridiculous. Our husbands were so supportive. They're like, have fun. I think you have to have a healthy balance between your hobbies and their hobbies. It's oh, it's totally fine if you want to take up golf, but I'm gonna take up something too. Yeah. And we need to split that 50-50. Yeah. That's honestly ridiculous. Yeah, this is ridiculous. You know what I'm saying? Immediately a third party needs to be involved. Agree. What I'm gonna do is I'm gonna take up golf. And then I'm gonna be gone for eight hours if that's how it's gonna be. That's yeah, that would be my rebuttal. No, I mean, Marco's not a golfer, and I feel like this is a like uh a common thing with these golf hubbies. Yeah, being gone like all day long. It's fine. But when she wanted to plan a girls' weekend, it's we'll have to see, or it's not the right time. No, no, that should not have been the answer. Yeah, why wasn't it the right time? Because you had a golf plan. He's like, that's not a good weekend for us. I have golf plans. Um, what's his number? Let me talk to him.

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I agree.

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Like, what the fuck? No, I think I think you have a little more, you should have a little more respect than you're getting. Yeah. And I'm mad. This is like, this is what I do. Like, somebody tells me a story and they're like, okay, calm down. Because I'm like madder than them. For them. Yeah. You're like mommy right now. Like, it's this whole expectation of moms in our society. It's ridiculous. Yeah. That we're the ones that are expected to be the whole bodies at all times. No. Don't you hate when someone says, like, oh, who's watching the kids while you're gone? Like, or who's babysitting the kids? What do you mean? No one's ever asked me that. They think maybe they're daddy. No better. Yeah, that's insane. The other half of their DNA. That's yeah, literally. Yikes, bikes. Okay. My friend used the baby name I told her I loved and planned to use someday. And now I don't know if I'm overreacting or if that's actually rude. Help. Wait. I'd be pissed. I'd be a shitty freaking kitty. Like, is this your best friend that you've known since like fourth grade? And you're in fourth grade. You were like, my baby's name someday's gonna be Chloe. And now you're adults, and she's like, I really like the name Chloe. Because fuck off. Did she tell you? Did she use the middle name too? Yeah. Did she say she named the baby that or that she just likes that name? She used it. Oh, used the baby name I told her I loved and planned to use someday. Now I don't know. What? I mean, that's friendship breaking material for me. Oh my god, this is not, this is not sisterhood energy. How good of friends are they? I don't know. It doesn't say. Didn't she just say my friend? Are you pregnant too? Are you pregnant with Right? Do you already have that makes a difference? Like, do you already have like three daughters and you had never used that name and you're just like winging it out for the fourth? Or are you not pregnant yet and you're like, if I have a baby, this will be the baby's name? And she's like, sucks to suck. I got there first. First one wins. Would you call her out if she was your name? Yes. You would. Of course. You'd be like, no, that's actually my name. Yeah. Like, like, why did you do that? Like, I mean, did she ask? You know, like on Friends when when Rachel's like, doesn't know what to name the baby, and she's like, I don't want to tell you my name. When Monica says that, remember this episode? No. Oh my god. But I've seen friends. Okay, so Rachel has the baby and she's like, I don't know what to name her, tralala. And she's like, Monica, what what name do you like? And Monica's like, I don't want to tell you. Yeah. And she's like, just tell me, I'm not going to use it. And she says, Well, okay, I like Emma. Emma. Isn't that what she named the baby to? Yeah. But Monica says, take it. See, that's different. But you and I are different because I would probably be like, if someone came up to me and was like, listen, I really like the name. I don't know if in that moment how I would react. If I would, if I would stand true or if I would feel bad hurting someone's feelings, because that's what I do, and be like, I mean, like, that is my name. But like, I mean, I guess you can have it. And then the other person's like, okay. You know what? I actually know somebody who was, she was pregnant at the time with a girl. And I was like, we were somewhere and somebody was talking about baby names, and she hadn't really shared what names they were thinking about. And I said, we like the name Nora Jean, because that's my daughter's name. And I wasn't pregnant. We weren't like trying or anything. Yeah, no. And that was their name. Nor Jean. It was at least Nora. And they didn't use it. Because of that? She told me after she had the baby. See, that's a good friend. Yeah. That's a good mama friend. Yeah. And I was like, oh my God, I might not even ever have a girl. Yeah. But she just the thought of her stepping on those toes. Find a different name. That's a good friend. Yeah. Yeah. Well, she sounds like she didn't. It sounds like it's already been named. Find a different friend. Yeah. There's plenty of friends in the sea. Agreed. Well, no. Hate that. Yeah. Anyways, that's all we got. Okay, that's fine. Yeah. I like these friends advice. Keep keep on coming. We're gonna work on the jingle for sure. That's what we said last time, too. Do we know what's next, boss? No, we don't. Next week will be a surprise. Yeah, but next week will be the next week is April, isn't it? Let's see. Yeah, next week is April. We're getting up. April. Wow. And we've already got the April showers covered by this month, at least in the Midwest. So maybe we'll get some fun spring weather next month. Birds will start chirping. Retweet. Our depression will be lifted. I hope everyone has a really great weekend. Okay, we'll talk to you later. See you in a minute.