Healing What We Cannot See: Energy, Intuition & the Wisdom of the Human Body

hat if your body knows more than you think it does? In this episode of Opening Doors, I sit down with Elaine Grohman — energy healer, intuitive, author, and lifelong Farmington Hills resident. Elaine shares the hospice moment that awakened her gifts, why learning to trust what we feel may be the most important thing we can do, and how true healing extends beyond the individual — into community, the earth, and each other. She also opens up about her work as a founding board member of CARES of Farmington Hills.

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🌐 Website:
https://www.elainegrohman.com/
📞 Phone: (248) 514-5853
📧 Email: elaine@elainegrohman.com
📸 Instagram:
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🎙️ Going Beyond Medicine Podcast:
https://www.empoweradio.com/home/m/podcasts/810592-Going-Beyond-Medicine-with-Elaine-Grohman.html
🛍️ Etsy Shop:
https://www.etsy.com/shop/ElaineGrohmanStudio
❤️ CARES of Farmington Hills:
https://caresfh.org/ 

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📞 Call: (877) ANNETTE
📧 Email: annettecompo@kw.com
📍 Office: 30500 Northwestern Hwy, Suite 300, Farmington Hill

Transcript

SPEAKER_00 0:03

Hello, welcome to this week's of Opening Doors with the Met Campo. I can't tell you how excited I am to introduce not only a personal friend, um, but a great story on how we met and how our friendship has blossomed and the support that you've given me. So, Elaine, please tell us your full name and uh what your passion is.

SPEAKER_01 0:27

Well, uh, my name is Elaine Groman. I have lived in Farmington Hills my entire life, with the exception of my first year and a half, which I have no memory of living in Detroit. So this is truly my hometown. And I am an energy healer and an intuitive, an artist, a designer, a writer. I do a lot of things, and I'm very grateful to be able to use many different talents, but all with the same purpose.

SPEAKER_00 0:55

So now you know I'm super, super excited because people who know me know that all of those words that you use to describe you are all the things that I love about you. Um and you know, the time that I've got to spend with you, and the time obviously in the future is just truly a gift. So thank you for that.

SPEAKER_01 1:13

Oh, I feel the same. Thank you.

SPEAKER_00 1:15

So, Eileen, tell us a little bit about how you got into um the work that you do.

SPEAKER_01 1:21

Well, it was quite by accident. Um, I've been doing energy medicine, which is a form of healing, for almost 30 years. Um, and it was very serendipitous, but it was like life designed. I was with a family member who was dying. And I am the seventh of nine kids. And one of my brothers had died when I was 12. He was 15, and our mother died very unexpectedly 14 months later. So when I was 12 and 13, I had very profound losses in my life that obviously was life-changing in ways that I couldn't even begin to fathom as a young kid. But many, many years later, my aunt was dying on hospice and was sent home to remain, have her last remaining days at home. So my siblings and I would go to help as much as we possibly could because this was a long drawn-out illness. It was not just an immediate diagnosis. She was dying of diabetes, so it was a long drawn-out event. So on this one day, I was with my aunt alone in her bedroom, and the door was closed and the window was closed, and she was actually comatose. So scary. And I literally felt this palpable in the row. It was so visceral. I remember actually turning around going, What the hell was that? I'm sure. And uh that sister that she saw was my mother who had died when I was 13. And they were the only girls in the family. So there was no question who it was she was speaking about. And I had always in my life seen things and heard things, but I just thought everyone did, or conversely, I was afraid to say anything if it was odd. Right. So it was so impactful to me, I could not get it out of my mind. And I have a lot of siblings in medicine, and I asked everyone, have you experienced that? Have you experienced that? And finally, one day I went to an individual, I was actually having a massage, and she was not touching me. And she said, I'm gonna do this thing called energy work. And all of a sudden, all of these vivid images, I could feel what she was doing, even though she wasn't touching me. And I said, This is what I'm trying to find. And from that, I began to study, but almost simultaneously, I was so moved by this hospice experience that I became a hospice volunteer and then I became a hospice employee. And simultaneously I was studying energy medicine.

SPEAKER_00 4:19

What a gift that you have given not only the people that are obviously going through their last stages of life, um, but the gift that you've given families. Um, I've heard the stories, obviously, knowing you. Um, and I just want people to realize the true gift that you are and what you have um, you know, service to humanity um that you've given in our world.

SPEAKER_01 4:42

Well, thank you, Nat. But really, I think that what we have, we are sorely in need of is understanding what is our human potential. And so to be able to know things, hear things is actually built into our system. But religion and various dogmas have made those things bad or fearful or wrong, but they are innately a part of our survival mechanism as human beings. It's our sensory perception, what we feel, what we taste, what we touch, what we uh smell and see and actually know is part of our design. It has preserved humanity. But thousands of years ago, in order for control to be dominant, they had to make all what was natural wrong or bad or fearful or punishable by death.

SPEAKER_00 5:35

Wow. And you know, you you look back when you when you say that, right? And we um people that are seeking knowledge of the past, because obviously history tells us a story, right? And it also potentially shows us a path of if you want to change that for the future. But the first step is to seek the knowledge, right? To have that learning-based mindset and not be afraid, not be worried what people are gonna think. And and you are that role model, that person that you know I've looked to, a lot of people have looked to, because you come from such an authentic place.

SPEAKER_01 6:13

Thank you.

SPEAKER_00 6:13

And and to and to share that and not be afraid, you know, um, because you are doing great things in the world. And when you say how how do people find their genuine authenticity?

SPEAKER_01 6:26

I think that first of all, they learn to trust themselves. They learn to trust what their body is acknowledging because this physical body is ancient. This design of the human genome is ancient. And we so often assume that our personality is what is dominant. Our personality is only created by the experiences we've had. Our body is far more intelligent than we are. So, to give you an example of what we feel and sense, we can't make the hair on our arms stand on end. We can't make ourselves have goosebumps, we can't make ourselves have that, you know, rumble in our belly that says, be careful. That's our body's resonant reaction to life itself, because everything in life is collaborative. It is designed for the preservation of life, not for the control of life, which we have allowed various denominations of religion and cultures to completely narrow and erase, attempt to erase, but they cannot really erase it. What is it that helps us to live fully? And in that time that I've been doing this work, I've been privileged to work with the University of Michigan's Medical School for about 15 years and also with Wayne State's medical school with the Humed program, which was student-driven, to help them understand what is missing in medicine, which is how do we understand that we are not just a disease. The disease is caused because we're ignoring everything that is trying to preserve us. Exactly. In fact, in the article that I submitted to you today, um, is talking about the beginning of all challenges we have right now. That is pain.

SPEAKER_00 8:25

I'm super excited. I have not read it yet. Obviously, I just got it this morning. You tell me what you think. But and it's neat that you know you bring up your article that you wrote because you are one a brilliant writer and you have books that you've published. Um, and we're gonna make sure that that's on um the video so people can log in and see that and purchase them. Um, I obviously have my set, which I'm right on my shelf at home, and I pull them out in reference because I've got sticky notes. I've, you know, like um pulled down the corner on the spots that I love the most just to reread, because obviously you read something one time. It literally takes 10 times of reading something over and over to really comprehend the fullness and the brilliance of what you're reading. Um, and uh one of the things that have aligned you and I is that my magazine, Farmington, Farmington Hills, um City Local Lifestyle, which shares how to live in our community, um, you write in that magazine. Um for that opportunity. Well, thank you for giving to our community in that level. Um, but it we also align with um our passion for helping the most vulnerable in our community, which is cares in Farmington Hills. Yes. And that's initially how we met. Yes, which I can't believe now. It's been, you know, almost close to seven years that you know our friendship has um spurred. And I share that because I remember the very first day I met you. And you came up to me and introduced yourself to me. And I and I literally thought to myself, okay, I I'm feeling something right now, and I know there's a connection there. And I looked right at you and I said, just FYI, I'm going to be your best friend from now on. Do you remember that? And it's so true because I was like, there was something there. And so I share that story because when we talk about being aware, right? First, you have to let down your guards, which sometimes can be scary for people.

SPEAKER_01 10:17

First, you have to know you have a guard.

SPEAKER_00 10:18

Oh, there we go.

SPEAKER_01 10:20

Yes, because it's so ingrained in us. We don't realize how apprehensive, and when we're apprehensive, we hear nothing. All we hear is the story in our head, all we hear is on repeat constantly, unless you unless you rewire that. Yes, and that takes understanding and knowledge and acceptance of what we are actually capable of. Because the only ones who can mitigate the damage that has been created is on the world is the ones who have caused it, and that is humanity. So we cannot pretend that all the things that we're seeing now in the world is normal. It is not normal. It's just not. No. And the adage, boys will be boys. No. People that are unaccountable will remain unaccountable until they're made accountable.

SPEAKER_00 11:07

And and that's for everybody. Absolutely. How you show up here is how you show up everywhere. And the accountability around that really reflects not only the speed, um, but also even going back to the decision, right? The decision to know that we have a guard, we have to bring that guard down. And then knowing that what you're feeling is okay, what you're thinking needs to be changed. But if you look inside first, you'll be able to change that even faster. And that's one of the gifts that when I share how we met, I was able to do that, right? Because we have our upbringing, which I had a fantastic upbringing. My parents were incredible, you know, they were married for a long, a long time. And but it's interesting that people forget little experiences or just certain exposures over the course of time, give us what's running this reel in our head, right? So even though I had a fantastic life, even going back to my missionary days in Haiti, there's still this play that's going on. And how do we recognize that? So share with me like how what is that first step?

SPEAKER_01 12:16

First step for me is simply to just realize you'd know very little. As human beings, we know very little. As human beings, we assume that we are right and that others share our point of view. And we cannot have the whole full tapestry of humanity if we have a very singular focus. And we need to understand how does how has life woven all of this unique beauty into what we call life, so that we can have this short or long experience called a lifetime. And we don't realize how molded and entrained our thinking is almost from infancy because we are we live in a world that has been that division is celebrated rather than uniqueness and collaboration celebrated. Because if we look at the greatest teacher that we have, which is the living world, there is no call, there is there is only collaboration, there is only preparation for what is coming next in the present moment. Because if point A does not happen, point B cannot happen. And we forget that if we ever knew it at all. So we don't realize how divided our mind is, and even against ourselves as humans, as individuals, we are we are entrained to be very critical and harsh, but that doesn't mean that you shouldn't be critical, meaning have a critical eye, but that doesn't mean to criticize. It means to how can you learn if you don't learn the first step? So you cannot only stay in step in the first step, you will get nowhere. But you have to learn that there is more and more and more in collaboration with everything else rather than a division about a collaboration. And it's a huge, huge subject. And I pledge to live the rest of my life teaching as much as I can to help people understand how valuable and how important they are.

SPEAKER_00 14:44

I love that, Elaine.

SPEAKER_01 14:45

I just well, it's because the only time we have, we forget that we are in a finite time frame. So even if we live to be a hundred years old, that is not a long time. And when we understand that the only way we can experience anything is to have this body, that this body is the receiver of information, that this body is what is capable of understanding and learning, and collaborating and enjoying friendships and enjoying camaraderie and learning everything from what is already here. We live in perfection and we ignore it. And so we break what is already perfected. And you said a term earlier that you said we learn from history. Well, what when we understand history is the victor's story, not reality. Just like the prefix H-E-R, so it's H-I-S, his story, and anything against his story becomes heresy. H-E-R. Her. Wow. Challenge. Her, she's the problem. And that can just go all the way to the earth, where we blame the earth for what has happened instead of acknowledging the choices we have made. To learn from those choices, to make better choices, to be more inclusive, so that we make space in our mind and in our hearts to learn about what it means to be fully human.

SPEAKER_00 16:27

Now, obviously, I I've looked away a couple of times because that's my light bulbs. Those are my light bulbs going off in my brain right now. Like I have so many in-depth conversations and questions that I want to ask. And so I know if I'm having those, people that are listening to us have that as well. So I want to first say, don't worry, she's already committed to coming back. So that's the first thing. I'm not going anywhere, but take a deep breath. Um, I'm gonna have her back on. Um, I do want to cover um, you know, the cares in Farmington Hills and our alignment with that. And um share with me a little bit about why you decided to become part, not only part of CARES and a supporter, um, but also now as a board of directors um for the vision and mission of CARES in Farmington Hills.

SPEAKER_01 17:18

Well, first of all, I have to acknowledge my friendship with Todd Lippa because I met Todd almost 30 years ago when I was working in hospice. Wow. So I called upon, I sought out someone's help from the city, and they they sent me to this man named Todd Lippa because I was creating a garden for the hospice patients and their families to be as completely immersed in nature in the midst of this great time of loss. So he helped me and we became very good and fast friends. So I was in conversation with him long before cures even became a reality. So I remember sitting with him in my office in what was it at that time, downtown Farmington and Kitty, and that's the first time I met Kitty. And I made some suggestions as to how to go about or how to avoid certain potential complications if this were to come to fruition. So before CARES even was cares, he said, Would you be a part of our board of directors when we started? And I said, Well, I'd never have been on a board of directors, but sure, okay, what does that mean? But yes, yes, and so I've because of certain challenges in my own life, I have been, I tried to offer what I can. I am not a business person per se, but I am a teacher of life. And I think that that fundamentally, when we have this great need of lack of food, then what we are doing as human beings is fundamentally broken.

SPEAKER_00 18:57

But I have to ask you, obviously, um any personal passions where you see cares may be or where you'd like to see cares go, like in the next um well, you and I have had this conversation many times, and so I yes. I think surprise though.

SPEAKER_01 19:15

Okay, I know. Okay, I'm surprised. But we this well when we understand that Michigan, Michigawa, means the land of the dragon in native language, is we are standing on sovereign native land. This land was ceremonial land, and what we have neglected to even begin to acknowledge is when land that was used for ceremony, which is not ritual, which is not sacrament, it is a very different thing, religion always came after to take over that land, which has happened here. This became a Catholic parish. Okay, and we have to get back to the wisdom of the people that lived here, that did countless years of ceremony here about how do we govern, how do we learn. And in fact, most people would be surprised in that to learn that what we call democracy was already lived by the native peoples. They were one of the fundamental designers of what our how our form of governance is devised, but we have not followed their suggestion. We have bastardized it in our own way to make it what we wanted rather than to follow what is called the circle of law. And many people never even question why is someone called a chief of staff, a chief executive officer, a commander-in-chief. What does the term chief mean? Where does it come from? It is a Native American term. Of course it is. To be a chief means to be one who pledges integrity. And if they themselves undermine that integral part of the role that they are in, they refuse themselves. They never are forced out. They realize I am not the person for this job. It was never, it is never about, and nor was it ever about anything other than true leadership. So, what I hope to do is to bring back ceremonies so that we can begin to understand ourselves. And again, thinking it is not sacrament, it is not ritual, it has no religious bent at all. But it also recognizes the fundamentals of what we need to live. We need food. Food does not come from a can, it comes from the earth. It does. How do we get our hands back in the soil? How do we understand how is it a tiny, tiny seed can grow into a plant that you consume that somehow becomes a cell in your body? This is, and it is so beautifully timed through the seasons. Life does not make mistakes. Earth does not make mistakes. No, it does not. And I think one of the things that we're missing sorely in any kind of pantry or food thing, if you do not have gardens, you're missing the point. You have to have clean water. Your very life began in water. In your mother's womb. Native people call it the first ocean. It is nearly identical in salt content to the oceans of the planet. Before you are born, you are aquatic being. And we're willing to pollute water and pollute air and damage the soil without any understanding of how and why. This is like tearing apart our own bodies, because we are made from the substances of the earth. But we yet we still do it. Because we believe that there is somehow some intellect in humanity that's superior to life itself.

SPEAKER_00 23:44

Amazing, Elaine. I I can't uh I cannot thank you enough. And like I said, you know, to have you back to talk more in depth on this. Um, I think it's really important because that message, more of this message needs to be heard and needs to be heard at um volumes, right? And so unfortunately, we are limited on time. And so, as I mentioned, you did commit to coming back. So I'm super excited for that. Anytime. And um, to get a hold of Elaine as well, we're gonna make sure that um on the video you'll be able to um click right over to our website. Please do. You, I promise you that you will be impacted at such a high level. And thank you, Elaine, for today. Thank you for not only being my friend, um, but also one of my mentors. Um, and thank you for all you do here in our community. Thank you. Stay tuned. I'll see you on the next edition.