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2011 Cement BBL: https://www.bbc.com/news/newsbeat-15818910

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SPEAKER_01

So selenus in your butt.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah, so you can put it anywhere. We've done it like on the body, but so we she wanted to have it put under her eyes because you can do it for that's what I had, yeah. Right, under the eye. And typically you're doing a couple of treatments. It's you know, your own PRP, and then they, you know, make it into a a thicker form. Um, it kind of creates a histamine response similar to sculptra, but again, you're using you're not using anything foreign. It's you're using your own platelet-rich plasma. Okay. Um, that's spun and then create heated and then cooled and um what does it do for your butt? So what it can do for your under eyes, you know how it it kind of fills that in for a little bit of time and then it starts to work and recreate um new cell growth or new cells that there's a little bit of a histamine response, so the skin kind of gets, you know, a little red and irritated, but um it will just almost fill in and kind of give you um a plumper butt if you have like divots and dimples. Okay, so that was my question.

SPEAKER_01

Is it for cellulite or is it more for like loss of volume?

SPEAKER_02

You can use it like more for a loss of volume, but if there are, you know, definite like areas you can kind of fill that into. Wow. Um, but yeah, it really just so what they did is they kind of circled, had her stand up and circle where her deficits were, and then they went in and they filled that in. And typically you do like two, two to three sessions of that. Um, and you'll notice that it has filled it in over time, and again, it's making your body work for itself using your own platelet-rich plasma over time. So initially you see it minor swelling because again, you're sticking something in the area, and then calms down, you come back in like four to six weeks, do it again, and then most people, especially if you're younger, you're gonna be like, Oh, okay, it looks great, but again, you can put it all over the body. Um, it's safe, it's not like a BBL, you don't have to worry about um fat embolisms or anything like that. Um, it's not gonna, and this is what people don't understand too, like with BBLs, the fat cells, like, you're lucky if you get 20, 30% of them that actually survive during a transfer. Um I mean, there might be some doctors might have a higher percentage, but it's normally nowhere over 50%. Um it's under 50% for fat trials, uh fat cell transfer. Um, and you can use you can use Selenus anywhere in the body. You can transfer, you can use it on the face, you can use it on the stomach, the butt, knees, like you know, hands, anywhere that you would want to use it. Um now again, it's not filler, so it's not gonna be in there. There are other substances that um you can use as well. Some people prefer like Radius um to use um which is more of a a filler, so it is gonna stay there. That can be even more expensive than Salinas, though. Um, so Salinas is definitely uh a great option um to help kind of get you a little bit more, you know, bikini ready, especially for those of us that are, you know, getting ready to prepare for putting those back on for the summer because it's coming to do that. But I mean, hey, it's a warm day out. We're kind of starting to see spring kind of creep in, and uh that's nice.

SPEAKER_01

But oh yeah, back to weather corner. Um we are we're having a st oh hey guys, welcome back to the Beauty Files. We're trying, I mean, I don't know if you've you've caught on. We don't really have a set intro, which I really like. It's just we're just we're in it. We're just we're you're here, we're here, let's just not beat around. Like we're we're getting to it. We get to it around here. Um, but yeah, we're gonna have like it's gonna be like in the 70s, like most of the week. I think so, yeah. And then it plummets back down the 40s, but you know, it's fine. We're getting a little little taste. So, okay, so hang on. So back to Selenus. I heard I've heard of like people putting filler in their butts. Yeah. And I and same thing with the BBL, which is not isn't that a laser too? There's a BBL laser. Yeah, that's still not talking about talking about the Brazilian butt lift. Yeah. Um, which is the most dangerous, um Deadly, deadly, cosmetic procedure. It's it's bad. Yeah. Um But same thing with not the same thing, but with the filler, like how do you are you are you not supposed to sit? Like, how do you how do you sit? How do you stop it from like migrating?

SPEAKER_02

So it I mean it's placed strategically just like underneath, you know, the eyes. I know, but like when No no no, I mean filler.

SPEAKER_01

When you get filler on your butt, okay.

SPEAKER_02

So it's not the kind of filler that you're thinking about, the one that they use, it's diluted. Um, there's different dilutions that they use for it.

SPEAKER_01

Um Have you ever seen that done in your office?

SPEAKER_02

No, we don't use that particular product in the office because again, with a substance like that, there's always a chance for having necrosis. So where, you know, um you go into the area of wherever there's an area of blood flow, okay, and you stop it from stopping that blood flow from there being able to to go. Um so you're going into a vessel of any sort and you don't pull back and make sure that you're quote unquote burping um the syringe. And there are certain things that you can dissolve and certain things that you cannot based off of how they're formulated. Oh, yeah, that's right. Yes. Um, but also it's more expensive based off of how many you use um compared to the Salinas, based off of what we pull um as they're, you know, drawing the blood. So it as far as sitting down and it's spreading, like it's not going to, they're using a canyon and they're specifically putting it in those areas. Um so it's not gonna spread the way that you would think a filler would spread. Okay. Um, it's also a thicker consistency. Um, when you're using something that's a thicker consistency, it's not gonna be able to migrate as much. And even if it migrated just a little bit in that area, it's such a large area. It's such a large area that it wouldn't be as noticeable noticeable. Um but you are able to um you are able to sit down. Um you are able to lay down. Um, they might suggest like not sitting, you know, for like an hour or two or laying down or whatever it may be. Um, but when you're getting the procedure done, you're on your stomach. If you're if you're putting it in the butt. You know, if you're in the face, like you might they might lay you down a little bit or tilt you back um to put it wherever they're putting it in the face. Um, but I've had it put in my face. I've had it, you know, in my temples, I've had it in my marionettes, under my eyes, um, right in the crease where your chin is. Um, so again, it literally can be placed in the case. That's where I want it. I want it like in my marionette. Yeah. So it can be s placed safely um without concern.

SPEAKER_01

Um Yeah, I love Salenas. My mom is going to you next week um to do under eye with Selenus. I'm excited for her. So all right, so hang on, I or two stories. Um, so do you do you remember? I did look this up because I didn't remember how long ago it was. It was 2011. Oh, that was yeah, that was a long time.

SPEAKER_02

It was and it wasn't, you know. Yeah. I mean that was before here, my heart.

SPEAKER_01

Before kids. True, true. Um there was a there was a case, and of course I think it was Florida. Um, someone was injecting cement into Do you remember this story? Yes. It just made me think of that. And I don't know if there's photos, but I do recall it being so I don't Oh yeah, there it is. Oh my god. Okay, hang on. I'll have to put this in the show notes.

SPEAKER_02

Do you remember this picture? Oh yeah. And they did it in the face too. Oh, certain people. I remember um cases and it was in their face as well, and then you have necrosis, and so that's literally where you know you're it's dying. So necrosis is the skin is just dying and it turns black and it's so it's so bad. So so bad.

SPEAKER_01

Alright, so that's one thing I'll make sure I put that in the show notes. Um 2011. Um when I let's see. I feel like it was when I had, yeah, well we'll just call it an illness. I'm not willing to say it was COVID. I don't I don't know what it was. But I had anywhere I've had filler, like so it'd be like my cheeks primarily, I had like pain. It was basically inflammation, and my body sensed it as a foreign object. This is this is not an anti-filler. I I like filler a lot, but I just remember it was interesting when I was sick and my body's fighting inflammation, my face was swollen and sensitive to the touch. Yep. And it took me a minute because I'm like, did I get like punched in my sleep? Like I could not figure out like what was wrong with me. And then it I realized like, oh, it was anywhere I've had filler, and it made sense. And then obviously it calmed down and everything's fine. Um, but yeah, I mean you do need to make sure that if you're getting any kind of injection, just you're injecting something into your body, like it's just par for the course.

SPEAKER_02

And it's I will say, like, different fillers you'll you can have different responses too. Um, you can be okay with one particular filler and then not okay with another. I I have this problem um where there is a certain brand that just I respond very badly to. Um, I swell, I stay swollen, my body is not happy, I will get super red, I can get itchy. So I have an allergic response to this product.

SPEAKER_01

I hate this.

SPEAKER_02

Um and that's okay because I know it.

SPEAKER_00

Do you have to get it dissolved, or does your body kind of like sort itself out if you're having a reaction?

SPEAKER_02

I did not get it dissolved. I do know of a specific person um in the industry that doesn't live here. He he was an injector and he ended up being hospitalized because of it, and it was the same brand.

SPEAKER_01

Oh wow.

SPEAKER_02

He also, this is the reason I found Selenus because I very much like him and very reactive to um many, many, many different things. And so watching him um and seeing him evolve and find other ways, other techniques, other products that would help him to achieve a look of filler without being an HA product. Um, I I admire him in the field, um, in the industry, in the injection industry, but he was the reason that I even found Selenus. And I appreciate that because again, you know, finding alternatives, which is how most of us in the industry, like something happens, we are like, okay, well, how do we fix it? And then we start searching. Um, and I for me that has been my whole journey in everything that I have done, products that we have, um, you know, procedures that we offer is okay, well, here's my problem. How do I fix it? What's the best way to fix it, you know? So, yeah.

SPEAKER_01

So if someone's scared of filler, just in general, let's say they're it's Nancy again, right? Yeah. And she's like, you know, pushing 35 and she's like, oh, I just don't want to look thin. That's always the term I hear. I don't want to look fake. Yeah. So you won't, by the way, it unless you go to a bad injector. Right. Like, if you go in saying, I want to be conservative, and you, you know, I don't want too much, right? That those are like the only things you need to say, and you'll be okay. Like, you're not gonna wake up and look like I don't know, who's like a insert insert person. Yeah. Okay. You're not gonna look like that. In fact, you're gonna be like, Oh, I think I want more. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02

I want more. I mean, here's the thing though. In all the aspects of aesthetics, a lot of times people will come in and show a picture and say, This is what I want, this is what I want to look like. The reality is, is that most of the time you may be able to get some, some of that, but unless you are that person and you look just like them, you know, everything aligns, like, yeah, you're not gonna get that. We can, you know, the goal is to enhance your features that you already have.

SPEAKER_01

Exactly.

SPEAKER_02

The goal is to make you just look like a younger, brighter, healthier version of you.

SPEAKER_00

Yes.

SPEAKER_02

Whatever that version of you is, that is the goal ultimately. So when you come in, if you're afraid or you're young, you know, it you are probably better off trying a biostimulator, something that's going to make your body work for itself. Um, good skincare. Wearing sunscreen. It's all the boring stuff. Wear sunscreen. But um, you know, if you're not wearing sunscreen, you need to start today. Wear your sunscreen because if you want to age like fine wine, sunscreen is going to be your number one thing that's going to help you do that. Um, so if you're looking for that like bottle, like magic miracle in a bottle, it's called sunscreen. Yeah. Y'all, buy some. Put it on, reapply it even. Like there's thought. All over, not just your face, because that's what I'm guilty of.

SPEAKER_01

I don't I only wear it on my face when I wear it. Because I let's be real, I don't wear it.

SPEAKER_02

You know, the one thing that also, and this sounds awful. Like, I had a kid come up to me, and this is a couple years ago, and he's like, Man, your elbows are really dry. And I was like, God, like, my waiting. This is great. Like, especially other people. Point out my flaws and the fact that I'm old. Like, okay. And then I was like, shit, I really need to start taking care of these other areas. Like, I make sure I I try to do my best with my hands and face-neck declete, but you know, elbows maybe elbows. Don't forget those elbows because apparently kids are gonna come up to you one day and be like, yo, those elbows, man. I did just show your age.

SPEAKER_01

I did just get a um retinol for like the body. And I'm really excited about it, but I'm also like just another thing I have to do.

SPEAKER_02

I love um, so skin better has an alpha ret. Yeah, the body and it works amazing as far as like a body retinol um to help rehydrate, to help with like the fine lines and wrinkles, some pigment also um for people that break out, especially like butt area from sitting and stuff, it helps with that. Oh, it really does. This is the butt episode, I think.

SPEAKER_01

I think that's what we're gonna have to call it. So um tox episode. Hey.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah. How was your week?

SPEAKER_01

Good week.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah, I I did have a good week. How did how's your week been?

SPEAKER_01

My week was okay, so my week personally was super boring. Um, I had a work conference in Philly earlier in the week, and my daughter was off school because it was their winter break. The whole week. The whole week they were off. So one of my kids did not get that thank god. Yeah, I don't I don't know. You know, sometimes these little like surprise weeks where I'm like, Oh, you don't have school this week. Um, I don't know if I think that they're a good thing or a bad thing. Because it's like, oh, okay, good, I don't have to run my child to school, but then it's like, oh, what do I do with you? Right. Because she's at that age where it's not we're not we're not staying home yet. Right. So um my husband also had a slow week at work, and now it the conference wasn't the entire week, mind you, it's just a couple days. But it was in Philly, and they came with me, and we stayed in a hotel, and I'm pretty jealous. Um Okay, so I'm going to this boring, this boring ass conference, and they went to King of Prussia, the mall, and they went to it's called the Netflix house. Okay, what is that about? Let me tell you, okay. It's unbelievable. It's in the mall. Okay, and it's it's a it's an experience. You walk in and it's decked out in all like the Netflix shows. So they had um Wednesday, they had Stranger Things, and they had something else. Maybe Squin Games, I don't know, something along those lines. Anyway, the place is like transformed in these places. Like you can go through the Wednesday set, and there's all these like escape rooms and things that are themed like that. So they did we're very into Stranger Things right now. Like that's what we're watching. They went into a Stranger Things VR experience. Yeah, that's me. Like I would have thought that, but they would not shut up about it. They had so much fun. Now, I get I'm just a girl, okay? I get scared now pretty easily. So I'm kind of glad I didn't do it. It looked very scary. Like they are in have you seen Stranger Things? Okay. So it's it's I I don't even know how to describe it, but there's like these creatures, okay, that are just uh not worldly and they're terrifying. Um so they're they're in this VR experience, they're fighting these these creatures. So if you've seen Stranger Things, I'll just say what they are. You're fighting demogorgons and those little bats that are terrifying. Anyway, unbelievable. And it was um half an hour, 45 minutes, and it was like a dollar a minute. Like it like that's how the math that it worked out to be. Um they had so much fun, and I was really jealous. They had like Stranger Things merch, they had I mean, just the the you have to look it up if you're maybe I'll put that in the show notes too. Apparently it's the only one in the country. Oh um, it's the first ever, and I think it's the only one they may have one out in LA, but usually it's LA that gets this crap first. Yeah. Oh no, that was Philly. Okay. Um so yeah, apparently there's a ton of experiences um that you can do, and it they just they had the best time, and I was just not there. Yeah. And then they got to go to my favorite mall. Um did they get anything else? Yes, they got like a couple like dumb things. I mean, my child she got like slime from some store. You know, nothing, nothing crazy. Um, but I I have to go back. Like I wanna go. See, I couldn't do the VR though. I can't do that.

SPEAKER_02

That makes me sick. I've never done VR. I don't know how I r how I would respond. My son has the the VR headsets. Um Oh, okay. I I it's just VR is very much it reminds me of like 3D. I can't do anything that's like 3D. Okay. It makes me super sick. I it messes with my eyes and then mm-mm I just can't do anything like that.

SPEAKER_01

I wouldn't like that either. Um the other thing that I would like to talk about in the Philly area um we stayed in a hotel, right? And it it's just so strange. Like we're staying at a hotel. Surrounding the hotel were like really, really nice like condos and apartments. I mean more than there was parking. Like I don't know how these people are parking. Like I don't know how they're living. But then there was a Whole Foods and then there was like four different restaurants and then there was a jewelry store and a bridal shop. Like they had so this is the only conspiracy thing I'll talk about is they're calling them 15 minute cities. If you know you know um but basically the idea is that everything is there and you'll never have to leave. Hmm Dun dun dun but boy was it tempting it was really nice. I'm like I could live like this like it I mean you just walk out your door walk out your door and everything is right there. Like especially if you have like a remote job and you have to go anywhere you just work from home. They had coffee shops they had I mean everything was right there. The only thing they did not get right was parking which to me you don't need a car if you don't have to go anywhere. That was again that's the only conspiracy bit that'll do but um look it up. Uh so but it was um it was dare I say like must be nice. Right. Especially because you had a Whole Foods why don't we have a Whole Foods? Why don't we get Whole Foods?

SPEAKER_02

Um I think there's a Whole Foods up in Hershey's okay which um let me do my and then you can go to Maryland's there's one down in um Baltimore I don't know if there's one in Lancaster I think there might be one up there. That's a Wagmans.

SPEAKER_01

Oh that's a Wagmans yeah which we don't even have that we don't I just I have complaints. We got a we got a Wawa up in my I mean actually Royal Farms was a big a big because we had sheets for the longest time and now Sheets and rudders. Yes of course and rudders I mean rudders is the original yeah rudders is uh the like the thing is right by your work right like the yeah the plants you see the cows and it's exciting. Yeah yeah so anyway I was pretty jelly of their experience they had a great time but it was very nice to see the two of them like bonding. Yeah it was it warmed my heart dare I say yeah it was good that's great but conference is done we're back home now and then she goes back to school on Monday and she told me what did I tell you she said that was last night. We we record on Sundays everybody so Saturday evening she says to me I have the school scarries and I'm like no no first of all they're called the Sunday scaries and it's Saturday so just calm down calm calm it down like you're okay but it did remind me of like did you ever get nervous like the first Sunday scaries no it was only like the first day of school the first like week of school oh okay starting again like well that would be the Sunday scaries because you're scared for Monday.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah but it was like that first week and then after I got over it I was just kind of like whatever. And the only other time that I would be scared is if I had a big test and I was nervous about it. Because you didn't study um I I didn't it didn't even matter if I studied or not I would just be scared you would be just you know it didn't um petrified I would be petrified if I had to speak Wow Okay so there were only a couple of times where I had to like present oh I can projects and things like that and it was like Can you feel that nerve like yeah that anything like speaking engagements mm-mm.

SPEAKER_01

My um where I went to high school they had a speech well it was a competition but it started in your class right you had to give a speech it was mandatory from not grade nine through twelve and I wasn't a great reader okay like if you first of all we all know the feeling where you're reading up and down the rows okay and you're like studying okay what am I gonna read and then somebody reads a paragraph too long and then it's your turn and you're like I didn't prepare anyway. So I would be the one that would stumble over every single word. But I memorized like a champ. So I was an excellent speech presenter speech giver. Um so I even though I was nervous I always look forward to speech week because I knew I'm like I can prove to everybody that I I am literate. I can read I won second place in the whole school um I think what grade I was in maybe tenth grade well here's a great example okay ninth grade I wrote a speech I made it to the like semifin like the like up until like the actual speech competition didn't get it was asked to be the MC no I can't read and I didn't get the script until like an hour or so before oh god so can you imagine? Not not to mention I was a freshman which is already terrifying terrifying I'm a freshman I'm asked to read I'm asked to host to MC a speech competition and I can't read like can't make it up and I remember like I think my English teacher was like how is this possible? How how could you have made it to the speech finals and not you can am you can't like host but anyway it was really funny. I remember did you tell her um there's a difference like between memorizing something and then actually having to read out loud no of course not at ninth grade no I'm just like but it approved everyone the following year because I made it again and it was fine. But I remember I mispronounced tyranny I said tyranny and I remember like oh God like all the seniors in the front row are all laughing. It was just like oh like kill me now like you just wanna so anyway I don't know where's going with that. But reading is reading is hard.

SPEAKER_02

Reading is hard and having to having everybody look at you while you are trying to read something especially if you haven't had a chance to even read over it and then you're just like put on the spot like here it is right in front of you. That was me. I you know I struggled unfortunately I struggled with reading growing up and um had to get extra help which is fine. I ended up doing well in school um even with my you know honestly looking back I think it was just I I have and I know now that I have ADHD and I really just think I was reading it and not comprehending now if I hear it it's completely different. Like I can listen to anything and I'm good. If I have to read it if I'm able to read it and then reread it or pick out now I've learned how to I've learned how to read now at this point in my life um but when I was younger it was the struggle was real.

SPEAKER_01

For me I think I had anxiety because well yeah it it was yeah now it's this is really embarrassing I'm about to say but I'm gonna say it because we're keeping it real. Um I really honed my read like I can read aloud pretty pretty easily now. Yeah and it wasn't until I had my child and I had to read to her and it was like the best practice because I got to start with like baby books. Right and then it got harder and now it is funny like I can now just read which sounds so embarrassing but it's like I still you still see adults in the wild that struggle with reading out loud.

SPEAKER_02

Like it's I used to hate that remember how they would I you're in school and they would grade you based off of how first of all how many words could you read per minute. Oh that's so cruel. And then how many of them did you get wrong? It was like you're on a timer and the second they put me on a timer Oh forget it. Forget it. It was not happening. Nope timers I man I They don't do that anymore do they? I don't know if they do it anymore. Um I don't remember so I mean I'll find out with my daughter but I I can't remember at all if they did it with my son. Um but I definitely remember I had to my eyes because my I was just like my eyes would like skip all over the page so I needed to make sure I had a bookmark. I don't know if you were like that. Yeah I needed to make sure I had a bookmark too to keep it in check in the road because otherwise it was always my finger my brain and my eyes were just like oh my gosh so okay again I was a great presenter if I had time right so I grew up Catholic so we went through all the communion and the the okay so when you're in eighth grade it's confirmation.

SPEAKER_01

Yep or at least it used to be apparently they changed the age it's not it's younger now. Yeah you can get confirmed um I don't know whatever it doesn't relate but um eighth grade okay let's just set the tone it's eighth grade everybody okay eighth grade big deal and I was chosen to do one of the readings a reading from the book of blah blah blah oh okay right okay just just okay now it's stomach dropped so it's confirmation so it is not only just it's all the kids from CCD it's all the kids that went to the the local Catholic school it's the entire like diocese is there and then the bishop of Harrisburg was there. Like it was like kind of a big deal. Right. Okay. I'm wearing I can like picture my outfit okay I had a pink tank top with a lace black like jacket that tied at the chest so it was kind of like you know open. And I had a pink and black floral skirt. Okay. I was feeling myself okay my hair got curled like I was like I had these like platform wedges which was also a big deal okay with the crisscross okay I mean I am like this is a big day okay we're going to a Japanese steakhouse afterwards to celebrate oh and this was also the year of the cicadas oh I remember that okay okay it's not relevant. I don't know why I brought that up but it was great okay I am the second reader okay first reader I'm sorry Joel if you're listening but he was like the straight A student never made a mistake he of course goes up there and he gets it done I mean it's like draw flawless I'm like whatever so I had been practicing for weeks because the reading that I had had weird words in it like phyresia and pamphylia pontus and Asia not Asia obviously we know that word but that was like that was a real line from whatever book that was okay so it was I had to practice it because I had it all up here in my brain okay you're on stand up walk up I'm at the is everyone's heart beating right now yeah I'm at the podium I open to the book that I'm supposed to read out of and it's a different version than what I've been practicing. No no and I shit you not such a diva I turn around and I look at the the priest and I say I can't read this and he's like he's like what do you mean and I'm like this is not what I practiced and my mom god my mom saved the day she is sitting in the audience and has a printed out version of what I was practicing in like her chest pocket and she she this is like mind you it's a packed church okay like no like standing room the whole thing she pulls it out and holds it up and stands up and says I have it I have your your thing she caught the the priest is like oh my god like what is what is going on she walks up I walk down I get it I walk back and I'm like okay and I start over because I did start I I said a reading from and then I read like a couple words and that's when I'm like this is not the version anyway start again read it flawlessly everything was great who do you think got more attention after the service me or Joel everybody came up to me and they're like oh my god you handled that so cool as a cucumber and I'm like that's right and Joel I will never forget Joel I who knows where he is now I don't know hey I got nothing against you kid I didn't even know you but I just know his name yeah and I remember he was like looking at me like why is she getting all but yeah it was one of the most embarrassing and yet I just wasn't having it. I'm like I am not about to read in front of my crush who was out there somewhere I am not about to like make myself look like make myself look like a fool and just stutter over every word. I just was like I'm not having it I'm not reading this and I I'm surprised you didn't take your book that you were I think it just didn't even dawn on me to do. I think I just assume I don't know I was eighth grade we're not thinking when we're no we're definitely not but it was um one of the funnier and and just I don't know I don't know how I survived but well thank god that your mom had uh I would possess did you ever ask her like mom I should I should just ask her like what made you probably knew because any good parent is gonna know my sh my child can't read I need to make sure I need to make sure she's got her she's gonna mess with her safety note right I should ask her but yeah I mean shout out to my mom she I mean truly like save the day on that one but I just will never forget just yeah and that's our local church like I could go there now and like just remember reminisce reminisce yeah I'm yeah that is that is the takeaway from today's episode make sure you have your own Bible yeah um especially if you're gonna memorize anything anything and recite it.

SPEAKER_02

I mean honestly when you do confirmation when you're going to Sunday school like you are learning like that you are reading directly out of the Bible I you know for some of us I think that we take some of it away or we might remember it for others of us we looked at it as time to spend with our friends and hang out. Yeah so again like even growing up learning that trying to get you know relay that doing your confirmation and everything most of the time after you're done you're you're not we're not revisiting we're not revisiting it. Um and you might take away some of it but again I just remember being able to spend time with my friends and learning what I needed to learn for that it's just kind of like school it was school it was like yeah you you learn what you need to learn for that test.

SPEAKER_01

And then you did that for adults instead. Yeah I feel this way about a lot of things like now that like my child's in school and she's learning certain things I'm I'm interested now. Right.

SPEAKER_02

I'm not interested then no like history I hated history oh my gosh I just didn't it did not um relate. It wasn't relevant to me because it didn't matter and and and it does okay but at the time Oh no it it totally didn't matter it didn't matter. Now when I look at history now I think and again as an adult with kids and things like that like it is way more relevant to us when we have children and we're living it and then we explain it to our kids you know different things. Um but it wasn't then so again you know you go back to the whole Sunday school studying you remember these things briefly because you have to for a test and then you move on the majority of us unless we're really really interested in it and that's like our whole focus and what we're we're doing in life we're gonna take that and leave it. We're gonna put that on paper and then we're walking away. We are done. It doesn't matter what that that grade was we we took it we stored it for that period of time and then we let that go. That that storage cabinet is now empty.

SPEAKER_01

It's true I mean it's true and that's I guess that's about a lot of things. But yeah it's what you're interested in is what you're gonna remember and retain.

SPEAKER_02

So you know things that we learn now things that we're really interested in things that we want to know and be knowledgeable about like I can retain that information. Yeah and I can spit it back out pretty easily unless I'm on the spot because then I can't I re I forget everything I go blank. It's kind of like you know going up or giving a speech on camera and we're gonna go on camera and you guys are gonna give me uh my face is gonna be blood red and you guys are gonna be like Alright you should probably turn the camera off because she can't talk right now you know you a talkative child I was I was and then once you get yelled at enough in school you you you learn to just be quiet because it's not worth it getting in trouble anymore.

SPEAKER_01

Um well I think what switches on at least in my case is when you start getting in trouble and you're starting to become more socially aware especially as a girl because you don't want that kind of negative attention yeah or at least you shouldn't if you do but I think it was this the social norms and expectations that kept me in check. Right eventually. Yeah it was always like Amy is a delight and talks too much in class. That was like you know K through five whatever pretty much yeah and then once six like middle school started I got one like demerit or something or tally or whatever for talking and I was so humiliated and then I just I got detention so much in middle school I was I never had detention never I was a little butthead in in middle school I was defiant.

SPEAKER_02

I went through uh and it wasn't even like bad bad I didn't like my art teacher and I knew that she hated when I chewed gum so I would specifically make sure I put in a fresh piece of gum if not two and walk into class chewing as loudly as I could and then one day she told me to split my gum on I was like no I don't want to you can't make me wow you know so I I couldn't tell you how many times I got detention because of her she did not like me. But my art was good my art was very good. So um it's paid off you do some beautiful eyebrows I I think that that probably pissed her off the buttons oh it is probably you're good I could do it I just you're just a little a-hole I I was and I'm so sorry I can't even remember her name because I didn't care that much to learn oh shout out to Rachel's art teacher in 19 Hey now yeah nine is nine yeah um I know right that it sounded like an insult but it wasn't so it seemed so long ago my gosh just accurate um but I I would talk back I would do little things that I shouldn't have done and I know that I was just trying to find my your way my way and figure out who I was at the time and teachers need to have some grace for middle school. And also my hormones were so jacked like you know I was especially if you had ADHD and they didn't quite they they diagnosed me as you know anxiety depression which I knew that that was not you know the case you know they try to put you on whatever and well I feel like ADHD in girls it's completely different.

SPEAKER_00

It's completely different and they yeah. So what do I do with this?

SPEAKER_02

Unless it's a traditional ADHD case in a girl and there's like they just don't treat it the same and I think had I been treated appropriately I probably would have been different for me. Um but yeah I was a I was a butt. My mom would attest to that like I just was not Easy at all, and uh it took me a while. I wanted to find my authority, like my I wanted people to listen to me because I felt very unheard, unheard, and kind of squashed. I didn't drink, I didn't do any drugs, I didn't smoke, I didn't do any of those kinds of things. I chewed some gum when I wasn't supposed to. If they told me to do something and I didn't want to do it, I was kinda like no. I really like that. But yeah.

SPEAKER_01

Only because I'm I was the complete opposite in that if you asked me to do something, I just I would do it because now I do, which is bad.

SPEAKER_02

Like, but now I don't.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, like so it's like reverse. It is. It is a little especially like authority. I have a hard time. Like, no, I want to do that. Well, apparently I didn't even read my own reading, so that's not tr entirely untrue. Yeah. I was able to.

SPEAKER_02

I was much spicier when I was really, really young too. Um and then it it died down a little bit. And by the time I had to high school, I was much I had my I had other ways of being rebellious. Um that still could have gotten me in trouble, but it didn't. So yeah. But I never snuck out.

SPEAKER_01

Oh, see.

SPEAKER_02

I never went to parties, I wasn't allowed to go to parties, I didn't do stuff like that because I would have died.

SPEAKER_01

I didn't because I was a loser, but that's neither here nor there.

SPEAKER_02

I was invited, I just didn't because I would have died. I wasn't invited. That's okay. And and I don't know about you. I would have gone anyway. I don't know about you. In high school, people would be like, Oh yeah, hi, how are you? And I'm like, Who are you? So apparently people know who I was, but I just kind of kept my head down, and I was really like I said, I I I worked, I was um a swim coach and a lifeguard, and did my homework, and I had my boyfriend in high school and I just kind of kept to myself and didn't really go outside of my I had a couple of friends, but I didn't I didn't really do a lot.

SPEAKER_01

I had uh I did a lot of sports and had my core group of friends. My class only had a hundred and six kids in it. So I I knew everybody. Yeah, there were over four hundred. But people would claim that they didn't know me. That's what blows my mind. That's how I know you're a crappy person, not you, but I and not you the listener. But like I know if I I I was not um was not popular by any means, but I was always just very aware of everybody, always quiet but watching kind of thing. I knew everybody. I mean, I still in a lineup I could tell you everyone that was in my class. And one time, my husband, I've been with my husband since I was an infant practically, but long time. He was in college, and a kid that I graduated with was also at college. They were in the same class. Husbands, they're making they're sitting next to each other, they're making conversation, and my this kid says, Oh yeah, I went to blank school. My husband says, Oh yeah, my or we were dating at the time, a girlfriend went there. Same year they found out, same year graduated, and he says, Oh no, I didn't I think I knew of her. I don't I don't know who that is. I was like, Are you kidding? Are you are you kidding me? Mark Rodney, that's her name, okay. Really? We're gonna go there. I want let me get out my yearbook and let's just look at what you wrote, okay? Anyway, my point is he definitely knew me. And I don't like that. I don't stand I'm doing a lot of name-dropping this episode.

SPEAKER_02

You know what? That's okay.

SPEAKER_01

Because it's only like 20 years ago, which is oh my god, it will be.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah. 20 years.

SPEAKER_01

That's crazy. Anyway, but it's just funny. But um shout out to Marker. Hope you're doing well.

SPEAKER_02

There were so many kids in my graduating class. You said 400. Yeah, it was over 400. So again, I knew core people or people that like, you know, got in trouble all the time or whatever. Um I don't really, I'm like just really bad about it. I can see your face and know exactly who you are, and everything you told me about your life and your kids or something that was going on or your job. And I will not know your name. Oh, I love that. And and I feel awful about it. Um, but and here's the thing, I used to be a camp counselor and I was a nanny. I I knew all their names. Like I knew when it matters. I knew all of their names, but like in high school, I was like, well, and this is gonna sound really shitty, but why did I need to know your name if you weren't like involved with it? You don't need to I'm like, my brain couldn't, my brain didn't have the capacity to do that or didn't want to. That's okay.

SPEAKER_01

And so I'm gonna give you the grade face and the forgiveness. Yeah, and for all the people that know, to the people that Rachel can't name because she doesn't know who you are. I'm I'll probably know your face. So if you were personally offended that she didn't know your name, I'm so sorry. Go ahead and upload a photo of yourself to our Instagram, which is at the Beauty Files Pod. And she will I'll personally apologize. I'm so sorry. Um, so I have a shout-out of a product today. Okay. Um, mainly because you're wearing it. Are you wearing the blackberry lip blush? Okay. This is this is from Saint. It is the Blackberry Lip Blush. It's a pH balancing. What are they calling it? Is it a stain? Um, what does it say on it? What does it say on your thing, on your chin? Uh lip blush. Lip blush. Okay. That's that's good. Um, it is like this lovely custom color that whatever your pe it just goes it goes with you, is what I literally. And you can put that on your cheeks too. Yeah. It's both. Uh my daughter uh wore it. I caught her wearing it. Yeah. Uh two nights ago, and I was like, I couldn't say anything though. I really like it.

SPEAKER_02

It's not too much. There's, you know, I will say a lot of the other ones out there um are very pinky. Yeah, I like this one because it's got like the purpley. Yeah. But like a lot of the other ones that I do have that are called like most of them are lit lip oils. Yes. Yes. Um, they make me very pink.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, and pink is not your pink is not my color, just like red is pink is also not my color. My color.

SPEAKER_01

I really Rachel today is wearing like a lilac dusty purple color, and then she's got the blackberry lip flush on, and she is just she's looking good. She's looking good. Well, thanks. You're welcome. So shout out to that product. Yeah. Anything else you want to shout out? This was a weird episode. We didn't like go anywhere, but then we did. So this is like um, this is basically just you guys were here today. Yeah, we were just here part of the conversation. So get in the the comments of the latest episode and let us know.

SPEAKER_02

Did you uh have any reading issues, speech issues? I know. How many of you out there do not like public speaking?

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, and who does? I'd like to know that too, because I like it. Yeah, I do.

SPEAKER_02

I don't. I'm like sweating in all the inappropriate places.

SPEAKER_01

Oh, I'm still sweating, and I will like look like I'm convulsing inside, but I do I do like it.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah. And here you are, I just like public speaking. It is. I'm proud of you. It's it's hard. It's just like the whole Instagram like putting my face on. Like, you you can kill it. You can do it. I everyone keeps encouraging me. Oh, you would be great at it.

SPEAKER_00

And I'm like, mm-mm. Mm-mm. You know what you can do, which I've seen. That makes me nauseous.

SPEAKER_01

You could do you could film yourself without talking, but film yourself doing a thing, whatever it is that you're gonna talk about, and then do a voiceover. Do a voiceover. See, you have no rebuttal because get it rebuttal, because this is the butt episode.

SPEAKER_02

It is the butt episode. And if you would all love for us to see your butts too, I mean I don't know about that. Uh we don't need to post it.

SPEAKER_01

We don't need to post it, but if you want a question. If you want your butt injected with Selenus, you can make an appointment at Exquisite Bent Spa.

SPEAKER_02

You can. Or if you have a question about it, um, just about Selenus in general, it doesn't have to be for your butt.

SPEAKER_01

That's true, because I for your face. I get it in my under eyes, and I'm gonna see about the marionettes when I go next. Which I guess is soon. I don't know. I don't know when I'm due for things. But either way, uh please keep the conversation going at the Beauty Files pod. I'm at an afternoon with Amy, and at the moment you're still at exclusive movement. Alright, and that's probably best because if you're not on your social media, then what's the point of sharing it? At this time.

SPEAKER_02

At this time. We are gonna we are gonna work on that.

SPEAKER_01

We're gonna work You know what? Only if you want to, yeah. You don't have to. That's the beauty of life, everyone. You don't have to, and no one can make you. Correct. That's it.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah. All right. All right, guys.

SPEAKER_01

This has been the Beauty Files.

SPEAKER_02

Case closed.

SPEAKER_01

Bye.

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