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SPEAKER_00

Hello, welcome to the Beauty Files. This is episode 14. No, no, fifteen.

SPEAKER_01

Wow, fifteen. Holy consistent. We have been consistent. We've been we've been doing it, chugging along.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, and amazingly, because we were just discussing how insane our schedules have been and like how we're we're thriving and drowning at the same time. Yeah. It's a real it's a real unique situation to be in. It's like you're happy that you're drowning and you're thriving and trying. I don't know.

SPEAKER_01

It's all the things, and I think we're just we're in a stage right now, both of us, where we're just uh trying to keep our heads above the water. But it's water float.

SPEAKER_00

It's water we want to be in. Yeah. It's a it's it's weird. I don't know. But we're coming fresh off of uh the exquisite event on that was Friday.

SPEAKER_01

Yes, that was Friday.

SPEAKER_00

And like sale.

SPEAKER_01

I know. And then we have another one this Friday.

SPEAKER_00

Yes. It's coming up. We will be at Blossom then spot.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

So that'll be fun. I just found out I'm gonna be outside. Um, so I'm hoping it rains. I do have a tent, but yeah. I'm just I'm not into the wind. I don't like wind.

SPEAKER_01

No, I don't think anybody really likes wind. That's true. And the other thing too is if you have any kind of allergies, this is not the time of year. As you can hear my voice, it'll kind of come and go. Um but yeah, when you're outside and there's allergies going on, and then you add the wind that's bringing whatever and so everyone just pray that it rains so that I can be inside.

SPEAKER_00

However, it it'll be a nice event. It's from three to seven. Yeah. Right? Four? Is it three or four? I don't know.

SPEAKER_01

I think, yeah, it's it's not as long as ours was, so thankfully that that is nice.

SPEAKER_00

Um, is there you're fresh off of this event, so would you not do the whole day again? See, it was different because you had you were just open, right? Yeah. You're not always open on Fridays, or you are?

SPEAKER_01

I didn't originally do Fridays. Some of the other girls would do Fridays. Um lately I've been doing like two Fridays a month. Okay. But I end up in the office anyways.

SPEAKER_00

So would you do the event the same in terms of time? Would you I don't know, what are like the do's and don'ts?

SPEAKER_01

Um so we've done events on like Thursday evenings. Um, we've done them on Fridays. Um, we've done them on Saturdays. You're probably still taking research into consideration because it's kind of the thing is is that there are a lot of people that are off on Fridays. Um, so I do feel like that's a usually a safe day. Um I think Thursday evening events are pretty decent as well. I feel like if you give it enough time and people know about the event, like that's the the key. We've done it where there's walk-ins, and then we do we've also done it where you have to schedule. And I would say when you do it when people have to schedule, you're always gonna take that chance that you're gonna have people cancel last minute or no show, which we did have that happen. So there were a couple of gaps. I do think that, especially for the injectors, they were a little bit grateful for uh a little bit of a gap to have a minute to breathe. Yeah, they were loaded, like it was It was it was good, but also like a lot too. Um there was a lot of prep going into it. Um and thankfully even some of the the husbands helped a little bit with certain projects, which I truly appreciated because it's just it's a lot for one person.

SPEAKER_00

Like floral, like sign on the front. Like I more than a sign, it was like a structure. Yeah, I know.

SPEAKER_01

It was it was really cute. We had a a good amount of people turn out. Um, I always say it can always be better. Like it it was good, it was a lot of work. Um, you know, I think that you can always find things that you wanted to tweak or things that if I would have done this more, I would have done that more. It could have been a little bit better than what it was. Um, but overall, I think it was a good day. It was a very high stress day. Yes. Um I have for you, for everyone, it was uh a high stress day. The cleanup, I think, is prepping and cleaning up is always the worst. Like on the day you're just so in it, you can't really think.

SPEAKER_00

I mean, at one point I went out in like your lobby area, and there must have been 15 people. Yeah. And it it's not a huge lobby, but it was not so it's a lot of energy at once, but it was it was good. But I feel like that's any event. I mean, I don't think even if you had it like down to a T, you were like an event coordinator and you knew like everything, you're still gonna have things. Okay, how can we do better? But but it's it's behind you. Now you're going to an event instead of hosting one. Now that that event will be interesting because I think that one's I don't know if they're doing appointments, but for me it's a sign-up sheet. Yeah. For only people who go to the event. Yeah. So that'll be interesting. But no, it was uh it was good. Thanks to those who who came. We loved seeing you. But um, have some drama. Yeah. Do you want to talk about your drama? Um It's not a good way to start the day.

SPEAKER_01

So anyone who's listening to this, please note to self. Like, if you are getting married, um, it's not a good idea to try out a new service or go to somebody new the day before. Like, it it never bodes well unless you've gone to this person before and like you're on the same page. It you can think that you're on the same page with somebody or your thought process, their thought process might be a little bit different. Um we we have trials for things. You have trials for things, or you do things a little bit in advance so that way you have enough time if there needs to be a correction. So I decided the night before to take somebody who was looking for um wedding lashes. Wedding lashes. This person wanted to get in um the day before the wedding.

SPEAKER_00

So let me just paint the pictures. Is the night before your event saw a new client brand new messages you with a 911 that she has her wedding in two days and she needs these lashes, and you out of the goodness of your heart already had a full book that day. Yep. Came in two, two and a half hours early.

SPEAKER_01

Yep, two and a half hours early to do it. These lashes, which had to get my kids up early, had to get them to the babies that are early, you know.

SPEAKER_00

Completely switched around your day to do this. Okay. Yep. So I entered the scene and I'm I'm there. Yep. And I see her leave, and she's like, What do you think? I'm like, oh my god, they're beautiful, they look great. She leaves, but she doesn't leave. She sits in her car because I was running out to my car to get all my stuff to bring in. And then I turn around and there she is. Uh my wedding is tomorrow, and these are too much. And I'm like, Well, they're they're not. They look great. But you know, do do you think do you think she can take some off? I said, Yeah, I'm I'm sure she can. I don't know that she can. Let me let me find some things out. There she goes, back into the room. And you're in there another half hour, four or five minutes. Okay. My next appointment. Yep. So now we we are open now, and now Rachel is running, running behind. Um so, which is annoying because you you had it like perfectly timed. Like it was anyway. She never comes back, but then she starts texting the company phone, and she sent a photo of the lashes before before. Yeah, before the original before.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, before I took them off, and uh was saying, like, I'm gonna have to go somewhere else to take them off, and like I want a refund, and this is you know, ridiculous, and this is what I asked for, and on and on.

SPEAKER_00

But here's here's where you, the listener, need to understand, in case I look, it's probably not you guys, okay? But if you know a friend who's like, yeah, and I demanded a refund, you need to slap them and be like, no, no. When you get a service done, just be reminded you're not paying for the product entirely, you're paying for the service. So our beautiful friend Rachel here, she got up extra early, got her kid, everybody's involved at this point. And it's not like she didn't do the service, it's it just because the lashes come off doesn't mean that that doesn't void everything that Rachel has done. Yeah. That's often a misconception with the service and the beauty industry for sure.

SPEAKER_01

And she got in and had been given a discount from the original price, anyways, because we had a discount going on, so she didn't even pay what the full price would have been for it to begin with, because it was discounted on top of that.

SPEAKER_00

I need to know she got married. I need to know she was actually a bride. It's a good scam though. Imagine the urgency. Trying to be professional and this is like the fifth time we've had to start and stop this podcast due to children, animals, and then a mixture of the two. Yeah. Anyway, lo and behold, all we're all we're saying is like be respectful of people's time and not focus solely on the product when you have a service. That's that's really what this was this was about. Um I tell a funny story. If my mom's listening, she'll know immediately what the story is, but it's a tale of what not to do. Like you said, don't do things the day before your wedding. So I need like a I need like that when you're going back in time. But um 2011, I got married. Okay. And my birthday is like around my wedding, whatever. So I was kind of like, oh, okay, I'm gonna treat myself. It's the it's a birthday thing, and then it's the night before my wedding, it's gonna help me relax. I got a facial. Which I've had facials before, but the facial was not the issue. What was the issue was when the esthetician said, Hey, you know, we shouldn't we should do a wax. You'll be your makeup will go on beautifully, nice and smooth, be great for photos. And I'm like, Yeah, that sounds great. She waxes me. My upper lip, my brows, unibrow, I mean everywhere. A whole practically my entire face. Minus, you know, I don't think uh derma planning was in back then. Um and she's like, Yeah, you'll be red, but it'll it'll go away. And I'm like, oh, great, you know, and I got the facial, and I'm like, I'm gonna be smooth. And the same woman was doing my makeup the next day. Now, let me first go back in time even further to my trial with this woman. Had my makeup trial, and I remember I was just real chill. Like, I was not your typical bride. Like, I played tennis the day before my wedding, like I was just nothing, everything was great. I remember on the trial, she says to me, Man, nothing really like excites you. You're just you're real even keel about everything. And I'm like, Yeah. And I remember her saying, has anything like anything stressed you out? And I'm like, no, like I'm I'm good. Like I'm just okay. I like to go back to her because I I'd I'd like me meaning that my prior self, because I'd like to know what I was on because I was nothing bothered me. Yeah. Now it's a different story. Anyway, but I remember her saying that that is stuck in my mind. So, day of the wedding, I wake up and I'm, you know, doing my big str it was like a movie when it's only showing my feet as I'm shuffling to the bathroom and the camera's panning up, and you know some kind of big reveal is about to happen, and then it pans to my face, and I open my eyes and I look in the mirror, and I'm like a whole face, like red, bumpy, I mean, everything, irritated, and I'm like in shock. And so, of course, I start crying. My mom did my mom's like, stop crying, it's only making it worse. And she was right, it was making it worse, right? It was so bad. So, guess where we had to go? We had to go to hair and makeup, which was at the salon. So we get in the car, and then of course, my mom, I have to mention this part because we couldn't find my veil. Oh gosh. The veil was missing anyway. It was in a it was in like a plastic bag. Someone recycled it. It was in the recycling. So thankfully. Oh my goodness. It had like a little bird cage, but also it was really small. Anyway, so we were panicked about that. It was such a bad morning. So, anyway, so we go, we go there, and this is what the aesthetician says. She comes down, and my mom is like, care to explain? Like, hello, like, look what you did. And she goes, Oh, yeah, you did break out just like that. I was like, Oh wow. Like, does she do this on like I I have to know? Her name was Rochelle, which is hilarious. But I just have to know, Rochelle, did you do that on purpose to get a reaction out of me? Because did she get a reaction out of you? Did you see anything? I feel like I was just like, I think my mom was definitely my my wedding coordinator that day. But she I know, I mean, I've and my mom, maybe she'll chime in on the the Instagram. I do feel like she was like, you need to fix this, and she's like, Yeah, I can put like a a calming serum. How how did your hair makeup turn out? I hated my makeup. Uh, and I had so much on because and then I had texture because of all the bumps. Oh, I felt so self-conscious. I remember like that's so terrible. Well, this is why the wedding is not the end all be all. Like because it's really the after you guys, it's the a happily ever after. Because I'm I mean we just celebrated 15 years. Yeah. Um, and I wish I could redo. Like, I have so many negative thoughts about my wedding. But that's why it's like you can't focus on the wedding day. I mean, yes, yes, you should, but we had everything planned to a T, and look, things still went wrong back to events that don't go right. But I remember walking down the aisle and getting there, and I remember my husband and then the pastor, they both were like, You look so beautiful. And I was like, No, I don't, don't tell me that. Look at my jacked up face. Like, I just that woman, that woman ruined my life. That's fine. I do know she was let go after that. I think my mom made sure of it. But it is funny just looking back at photos. I have super warm highlighted hair. My hair was like a caramel color. It's just so funny the evolution of changes. So, so is there gonna be a new wedding? Right? I feel like I'm your 20-year vowel renewal. Vowel renewal something. If I do, it's gonna I'm gonna be in a black dress. I've already decided. I want like I want like a goth wedding.

SPEAKER_01

Can everybody wear black?

SPEAKER_00

Yes. Yes.

SPEAKER_01

I think it should be black wedding, black tie. But wear black. Like everybody's formal, black, that's it, just all formal black.

SPEAKER_00

Which is the wedding that you want to go to. Um, yeah. We we learned today that Rachel forgets that things need to be hemmed for the wedding she's about to go to. Is that next weekend? Yeah, yeah. So Rachel's like, hey, can you send me the link to the tailor that you use? And I'm like, Oh. Uh Rachel, she's like two or three weeks out. So Rachel's decided maybe if she can't get it hemmed and adjusted and fitted, she's just gonna wear black to this floral wedding. And you know, you do what you gotta do. And if they don't let you in, then I really wasn't meant to be there. So exactly, not meant to be there. It's fine. But anyway, so I don't know what we were oh, just don't try new things before your wedding. Even if you're not the expert and someone suggests that you try something, you decline. Like I wish I knew to say, no, thank you. But it I never had a wax before. I didn't know how my face would respond.

SPEAKER_01

And for my first time, I'm telling you, I would never have suggested anybody do that. Honestly, the same with derma planing, because while derma planing is a great procedure, for some people, it's just like facials. People can be very reactive, and even if they've never been reactive before, the amount of stress that you are under leading up to something like that, the littlest thing that you change can truly, with your body chemistry, everything you got going on, it can truly just set it off. Just just say no. And I will own up, okay. I didn't accomplish her goals. And I wish that I would have. Um I wish I would have done something completely different. If I could go back in time, I would change it. Um, but then again, I'm not sure that that would have made her happy either.

SPEAKER_00

Um It's a bummer because the I saw the finished product and twice. I saw the the first time and then when you took a lot off. And it's it's unfortunate because they they looked beautiful, but to her, she went from no lashes to a full set, which is gonna be surprising no matter what. And I I warned her of that regardless. Um so I really I don't I want to tell you you can you can let it go.

SPEAKER_01

I know.

SPEAKER_00

Go ahead and let it go. Just let it go.

SPEAKER_01

But I think the other thing that upset me was just I spent a lot of time and it was a waste of time. In my eyes, it was a waste.

SPEAKER_00

And yeah, because I mean technically it was, especially when she's asking for a refund, and you're like, well, it may as well not even have happened.

SPEAKER_01

To which I gave it to her, and I kind of tried to say to her, like, you know, it was still my time, like I understand, but I should get something. Yeah. Did she tip you? She did, but she wanted everything back. Oh wow. Everything. So, um, and here's the other thing, guys. If you say to somebody, I don't, uh, this is not like me, I don't typically do this, I'm not one of those people. Yeah, you are one of those people. Okay. People that say, I don't typically do this. If you feel the need to say that, that means you are that person. If you truly feel the need to say that. So if you say it to me, I'm gonna look at you and be like, you've done this to other people.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01

And this is not your first time. And like, it's rude.

SPEAKER_00

It is. It is. So we're gonna take her photo and put it on a wall that says, do not serve this person. We're not. This person. This person's banned from it's fine. But yeah, I think in any any industry that involves customer service, there is just that unpredictable, um you can't control it, I guess is what I'm saying.

SPEAKER_01

And don't alter your look and your routine the day before your wedding.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, I'm gonna do it. I still stand by that. That's still the takeaway. I mean, what if she developed a reaction to the glue? Correct, and her eyes would have swollen. Anyway, so I I feel for you. I did, you know, it's funny. Um, I I think I said to you that day, I was like, I feel like I should get lashes again. Uh being at your establishment all day and seeing all the lashes, and you're like, I want that. But then I woke up the next morning and I immediately rubbed my eyes. I was like, oh, I don't know.

SPEAKER_01

So it's like a back and forth.

SPEAKER_00

It is. And I ugh, so I don't know. I don't know yet. But I'm it's it's like, it's like just the little thought in the back of my mind. I'm just gonna, I'm gonna ride it out and see. Cause I'm more of a I I am a person who's like, I don't think about anything. Like if I want something, I'm gonna go out and get it. And that often doesn't serve me. Like there are more times than not. I'm like, wow, I really wish I didn't do that. Yeah. So I'm gonna I'm gonna grip the end of my chair here, and I'm gonna be like, nope, let's let's just ride this feeling out. Let's see if it's consistent for like a month, and then we'll we'll see. I don't know. It's hard. It's so fun. Like there's so many options. Like, you know what's fun. Funny. And this is no shade at anybody. I mean, literally. We all have, we all look different. We all uh we're all on our journey of self-discovery, of finding like what looks good on us, and and some of us are older and trapped in a certain era. Oh, yes. I saw a lot of that at your establishment. But I will say, everybody was getting Botox though. They all knew I don't want wrinkles. Like I don't know.

SPEAKER_01

I just thought that was so funny. Like they they may not be able to give up that like bright pink lipstick or that blue eyeliner, but I I just I laughed to myself about that because I just thought, yeah, like I don't know.

SPEAKER_00

It did this is not a thought that crossed my mind. I'm not I mean, we all have our moments of like being totally judgmental and petty, but I saw several people that was like, wow, that is a look, like just head to toe. And normally a person might think, wow, they really don't take care of themselves, or wow, why would they let themselves leave the house like that? But no, they're some people are really choosing like they like that look, and then because they're going to a med spot, they are getting they have amazing skin, you know. So it's just I don't know. I just find it funny that the certain things, especially in the style and analysis industry I'm finding myself in, of like some people cannot see themselves any other way. And I mean, it's like, am I to say that's good or bad?

SPEAKER_01

No. I some it change is hard. We've talked about this over and over again. Change is hard, and embracing change is even harder.

SPEAKER_00

Yes, I had so I had a a client the day of of the event, and I talked about this on my stories, but I'll say it again because it's it's just I don't know, the the power of a of color analysis that she came in clearly warm, like the warmest of warm. And she sat down and I said, I was she's not a client, she was a friend of a client or something, and they just went together. And I just said, you know, like what brings you in? Like, what are you what menu item were you hoping to find out? And she's like, Well, I don't really wear any color. And I'm like, great. You are you are my perfect client. And I said, Okay, like what's in her your closet right now? And she says, gray, white, and black. And I'm looking at her and I'm like, oh my god, you are completely in the wrong here. Like, so I put those colors on her and I said, How are we feeling? And she's like, Well, yeah, this is all I ever wear. And I'm like, Yeah, but look how tired you look. Look how cheap you look. Like immediately the black, like her under eyes were like screaming, like shadows, and so we made three, three changes. We did ivory, espresso, and olive. Okay, it was like I think she saw it. I she just like kind of looked in the mirror and she was like, Oh, like, wow. I said, You look expensive, you look like money. Her friend came in, and her friend goes, Oh wow, I really love those colors on you. I'm like, Yeah. So I was telling her, I said, Well, you're talking to the right person. I don't like color either. I'm challenging myself to wear color, but I'm just like, it's fine to not wear color, but at least wear like neutrals that are gonna make you look good. Yeah. Um, yeah, it was it was wild. It was so and then she was like, Well, I can't wear red. I know I can't wear red. And I'm like, I said this, and you said the same thing. Um, and I'm like, Can I show you a couple red options? Or like, let's let's look at the reds. Anyway, the because she was an autumn palette and the the one red that was there, her friend was like, I love that color on you. Will you get that in like a lipstick? See, that's why I like when friends come because the energy is good because they're not always gonna see it in the real time in the chair. But anyway, I I would bet money that she was convinced that this is what we're doing. Yeah. I was really excited for her. Her hair was right though. She had just gotten it done, and I'm like, well, that was that was risky. Like you're getting a color analysis, and then your hair, like you got your hair done first. Like, but it worked, so it was fine. But um, yeah, it's uh, but I'm I'm just that was one of the big takeaways from your event was a lot of people. I think I I I'm like toying with calling it a neutral analysis instead of a color analysis. Because I think people hear color and they immediately shrivel up and they're like, I don't want to do that.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

I don't know.

SPEAKER_01

It's almost like I don't even know if what people would say if you called it a neutral analysis.

SPEAKER_00

I mean, I gotta I gotta come up with a better a better term, but I just I'm learning that the word color is sending people think of the rainbow, I think, you know, and it's like oof.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, yeah. Um I mean, I'll wear I don't wear tons and tons of color either, personally. I just it's not I've always had a job where you can't. Yeah. So I think that if you work in an industry where you really only can wear certain colors anyways, that kind of going outside of that is um challenging in and of itself.

SPEAKER_00

Yes, and sometimes that is out of your control. And then yeah, when you do have the freedom to wear whatever you want, then you don't know what to wear. You don't know what to wear.

SPEAKER_01

Because you have to wear a certain thing all the time, anyways, and you just become comfortable. That's true. And then again, it comes back to you're comfortable, so change changes hard.

SPEAKER_00

Change is hard, but I am learning just over and over again how good change is. And even when the change seems bad, it always comes out on the other end, and you're like, oh, I went through that because to get to this. Now, I mean, that's just life lessons in general, but yeah, I don't know. I I I'm working on how to get people to just take that leap of vulnerability. Like, yeah, I get it. It's it's hard looking at yourself in the mirror. And but I just said this on my stories. My job is not to make you ugly. No, my job is to make it look like you just put on makeup, that you're like lifted and sculpted, and color can do that.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, but yeah, it's just simple changes, can do that, and it's just like that's my job too, in a different way. So, like, we're both trying to help people improve without having to make you know it's the tiniest little change. Yeah, yeah. Wearing sunscreen, like literally, guys. Like, wear sunscreen if you don't want to age, if you don't want to each spots, if you want to prevent yourself um from extra wrinkles and damage, like simple things, simple things that they seem they oh god, I have to put sunscreen on.

SPEAKER_00

Like that's a lot. The equivalent in my uh I want to say industry for lack of a better word, um, going wearing white versus ivory. Right. It's such a stupid basic change, but it it is it is everything. I just I know this because I just did it to the two warm people in my house. My husband and child are both warm. And you are not and I am not. So I only know cool. That's just that's my jam. I love it, whatever. I switched out now my my daughter. I changed all of her white, like tank top, just things to the ivory, the creams. Her whole closet has changed. I I have those um, they're like these little cloth that have your like your color palette. And I held hers up and I went in her closet, and I'm like, oh my god, there is not a single color in here that's on her sheet. So I went on Sheen and Amazon and just went went hog wild. Went a little crazy. You know what? I love Sheen. I know fast fashion is whatever, it's wasteful. I don't care. You're doing it in other ways anyway, so we all have our thing. But I just I'm here for it. I support Sheen a lot. Yeah. I'm trying to be an affiliate. I just I know there's like it it's like a two-step process, and I just need to do it.

SPEAKER_01

See, I just I don't know. I've gotten some stuff from there, and I just especially clothing, it never fits me right. So I just return it.

SPEAKER_00

Sheen a few years ago, yes, I would have said that because I actually got a rash. I remember trying stuff on and all of a sudden I was red and itchy, and I'm like, oh my god. And then I I don't even know. Oh, yes, I do. I know it made me try again because I got my colors done and I wanted to put it to the test. Like, okay, let's get some cheap jewel tones. I remember talking about it, it was on my Instagram because I'm like, am I gonna get the Sheen Rash? Like, let's find out. And then something changed. Everything, I mean, not everything is gonna fit perfectly. That's like that's any place. Yeah, and it is a risk when you buy online and you can't try it on. I get that. But um, they've gotten better with reviews. There's like a line that's a little bit more elevated and like better quality um that I've been going through. But anyway, I'm I'm convinced now. Okay, I really, yeah, I'm I'm here for it. So anyway, that's all I have to say about that. But I switched from white to ivory for those people, and it is it is doing it. Yeah, yeah. One of these days, um my child and I are like practically in the same size now because she is, I think she might be taller than me now, which is really sad. It's like our hangers that I'm like sad that we don't have those now. It's like, oh my god, my child is taller than me. Um, I might put on one of her ivory tops just so people can see a difference why, like in reverse, but you know, because yeah, I found that a lot of people they don't know what a color analysis is, and that's difficult because it's like well, you had one person come in and she wanted a color analysis from you, right?

SPEAKER_01

She also was like, Can you redo my whole wardrobe? Take me shop.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, well, she just happened to come in and saw that I was offering it and was like, can we do this? Yeah. And I was like, Oh my god, you you've like, you know what it is. She's like, I've always wanted to do this. And I wish I in fact she filmed it and I feel like I should ask her for it because she did she actually the one thing she wanted to do was something I wanted to post, but I haven't had anybody. She is getting engaged, which is a funny thing to say because she knows about it, knows about it, but doesn't want people know about it, but she doesn't want to know about it. She she knows, but she doesn't want to know. But she wanted to know her perfect white for her wedding dress. And I'm like, thank you. Thank you so much. And for her, it was like a off-white, not not as dark as ivory, but like this the step up because she was a spring, like, oh my gosh. Anyway, so it was just it was it was really, yeah. And that, yeah, she was like, I I need you to like help me with my wardrobe. I've lost a ton of weight, I don't know what to buy. I'm like, okay, yeah, okay. I told you, let's do it. So I need to follow up. Yeah, I'm not gonna do it.

SPEAKER_01

A shopping experience.

SPEAKER_00

That is something I'm in the works. Yeah. I would like, I would like to do that.

SPEAKER_01

You know, an afternoon with Amy shopping. The experience. It's the experience.

SPEAKER_00

It's the experience. I have it on the website. Like it's just I haven't something else I need to do. I gotta switch out all the photos.

SPEAKER_01

I have my photo shoot. Did I talk about that on that? No, no, we did not talk about that at all.

SPEAKER_00

Well, the only thing I'll say is I feel like the brand photo shoot, I was very specific that I didn't want any color or not a lot of color. I think there's like one of me with a holding color, but it's not all the color analysis like people that I see their websites and everything, it's just explosive amount of rainbow. Yeah. And I just hate that. Yeah, I hate it. I hate it. I'm just taking the wheel and we're going the opposite direction. It's a risk, but um, you know.

SPEAKER_01

I don't think it's a risk because I think again, I think a lot of people don't wear colors. So finding somebody who's like, hey, I get it. I get specialize in neutrals. Like I get the fact that neutrals are a comfort zone for me, you know? And me, yeah. Like accent. Like, okay, fine, you're not used to colors. Let's find something that we could do underneath a blazer. Okay, if you want to have that that black blazer, let's do a pop of color underneath of it instead of doing a white or something like that. Like, let's do your your red. Yeah, that's true.

SPEAKER_00

I just wish people understood the disservice that black is doing for them. Like, I I get it. Black has been it's been uh branded as like cool and like slimming and like all these things. Most of the people who are wearing black just look dead. I'm not supposed to wear black, right? I have to have a whole talk with you after this podcast. Oh, I know. I got your virtual analysis back. Oh my god, this is you want me to go through it now? Sure. Okay. So you're good at convincing people that you're cool. You're really good at it. You convinced me, you convinced everybody, and then we found out that you're more neutral, leaning just a teensy bit warm.

SPEAKER_01

My hair will never be that. I look horrible. I don't think you've ever seen me with warm hair.

SPEAKER_00

I'm not saying you need warm hair. I'm not saying that. But you are you do fall in the camp. It was it was neck and neck between a neutral, just a soft palette. There was soft summer, which is where we put you at first. And then when I saw like the colors side by side, the soft autumn, you looked like a glowy angel. But soft summer and soft autumn are so similar, like they're like right next to each other. But then when we paired it with the soft neutral, it was really and uh that was the two defining like things. It was either soft neutral or soft autumn. Soft autumn was the winner. I don't think your hair needs to change, but like even your jacket is it's pretty close. Two. Two, like it's a soft, it's soft. And that's why you look it in rose gold. Just so you know. Well, I I don't like gold. You don't have to wear gold. You don't have to do silver. You should do more rose gold, I would say. The silver is just gonna stand out. That's really what this is. If you if you're out of your season, it's the garment and the stuff that stands out, not you. Now you could by default, you could do that on purpose because you don't want people to see you. You want people to see the stuff that you have. That's look, clothing is psychological. Okay, it's why a lot of people wear black, because it's the color you see first. You're lost. We don't see the the person in black. It's it's gnarly. Like, I feel like I need to do like a a class on the psychology of color in clothes and what color means to people. But look, Rachel's like, she's like, I don't agree with anything you just said.

SPEAKER_01

I'm gonna say not warm, I would say neutrals. I'm fine. Like, I would feel like I was a neutral neutral is remember, it's just the purest form of that color.

SPEAKER_00

Right. So there's no more added blue or um yellow. So anyway, I I'm gonna show you. I'm gonna show you, but it's not as scary as it sounds. Oh, it sounds awful. It's I promise it's not, but anyway, I just I was like, oh my god, I have to tell her. And why maybe why not the podcast? Yeah. Perfect, perfect place to tell you. And I can show you, I I can't show you the um the analysis because you'll lose your mind because we had to remove your eyebrows from the photo. Because so anytime we do a virtual analysis, and it's not just you, it's anyone whose brows are done. Like they removed mine when we did, and it looks you look like an alien. Oh yeah, that's a horrible thing. Yes, I can't I can't show you that. But the but the colors were great. We're gonna have to cut all this. Um anyway, so yeah, it was a big so yeah, you're gonna have to experience just a little bit of change. Um anyway, this podcast is all over the place today. It is, so many, so many disruptions and then just complaints. We've just had a lot of complaints. In fact, that we were talking, we actually need more, um, we have to collect our thoughts on this, but we wanted to talk about next week what it means to be normal, what is normal, and what's shown to us as normal when it comes to relationships and how we go through life, and not just romantic relationships, but relationships with friends, family. I feel like we're shown what it's supposed to look like, and then that's not reality, so then we are automatically think we're failing and something is wrong because it doesn't look like this Hollywood showing of just perfection or like this is what is normal. Right. So we're gonna we're gonna dissect that next week. Yeah. Because I think it's a lot of people who often we just feel like we're we're failing at life. Often, yes, and all the time and regular and not to mention social media, like yeah, and what does it in for you?

SPEAKER_01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, you're back off of it, correct? Yeah, I yeah. That's good though. I mean, it's sad, right? Yeah, but it's good that you can. I'm proud of you. Yeah. Because like a lot of people are just like, yeah, I'm just gonna feel bad today.

SPEAKER_01

And just well, again, I really want to, but it's hard for me to just and it sounds crazy, but it's hard for me to just get on there and make a post and not look at anything else. The second you pull it up, it'll shows you. Oh, it's not like it automatically just goes to yours and like your things that you post. It just shows you everybody else's and then you get sucked into it. And so then you sit there and you're scrolling and you just shut it.

SPEAKER_00

And then you're comparing.

SPEAKER_01

Comparing, and you just go down the rabbit hole and then you're like, oh my god, nobody likes anything I've done. Everybody hates me, everybody hates my business. I'm failing. Like, it's just it's it's just bad. I know.

SPEAKER_00

It's a real um I was trying to find something more elegant to say than a mine F, but it is. It is a mine F. And yet that's another example. It's just normal. Well, I guess that's just well, we have to do it. Same with AI. I'm just deciding that everybody keeps saying the same thing. Oh, well, you know, AI is gonna take over. Well, don't let it. Just stop talking about it, stop using it. I wrote a post yesterday about knowing your neutrals, and I had this brilliant idea. I I drafted it up, and then I put all my ideas in chat. And I'm like, I hate every iteration it came up with. And I'm like, you know what? I can write this post. I provided all the info. Yeah. So I just wrote that post from my heart, and it was way more in my tone than chat could ever do. Correct. And I'm just like, we are part of the problem in that we're just we're using these tools so flippantly. Oh, we have this thing now, so we're gonna use it. And all creativity is gone, all the heart is gone, and we're doing it because we want to appear perfect, and that's not what it's about. Yeah. So I I find I'm noticing too that that's the I don't say the trend, but I think that's the people are now being imperfect online because of the fake AI accounts. Yeah. And they're pretty good, they look like real people. There's videos, they're talking about products, they're doing their makeup. They're not real people, yeah. Like at all. And then they're buying uh followers, they're buying likes, and it's it's so easy.

SPEAKER_01

And here's the other thing is like it is actually really easy to buy followers and likes. And the only way that you would really know is if somebody just had like 5,000 people follow them overnight. But there's like a way other people will do it where it kind of just looks like it slowly increases, and you can do that, and then all of a sudden you'll see people and they lose like 3,000 people, and you're like, wait a minute.

SPEAKER_00

Like that just happened. Um, there was some kind of update on Instagram where they like went through and cleaned out a lot of like old accounts, dead accounts, fake accounts, and big celebrity uh influence. They lost like fifty thousand all overnight. Mm-hmm. And it's just because of all these like fake accounts. And I'm like although did you hear it? I think a guy was from China. Someone not from here, obviously, not American. He made an account. It was he made a blonde, like real good looking girl, and he made her like this full-on American. And all of her posts were just about how she's like America first and just a patriot and God loving and all this. She has over a few million subscribers, and she's not even real. And it's just this guy in China that made her. And he was like, Well, I just asked my AI, like, how do you make money in America? And it was like, be polarizing, pick a side, be scandalous, not scandalous, but like show skin, like be like a sex symbol. And he just did he just like put it all into this like AI generator. And then he started like having her sell shirts and Amazon links, and he's like making bank and he's not doing anything. And he's basically taking advantage of us. And it's all these people that are like, yeah, pro-America, and like following her and buying her stuff, and she doesn't exist. And it's like good figure.

unknown

Wow.

SPEAKER_00

And I'm so proud of him. Yeah. I mean, he figured it out, right? Right. But I'm like, man, we need to do that. We should.

unknown

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01

But then again, if you have a voice and you have an opinion, shame on you too.

SPEAKER_00

Oh, yeah, of course. Don't you dare put yourself out there. Don't even try. So you just gotta keep going. You just yeah. It's tough, you guys. It's tough. It's tough being out there. That's why you don't do it for the accolades. You do it for yourself. Yeah. This is therapeutic. For us, yeah. And we like doing it. And that's why we're doing it. And if you want to follow along, we would love to have you. Yeah. Because this is just this is what it's like to be a person. A real person.

SPEAKER_01

A true real person who walks every day through life. And you know.

SPEAKER_00

And it's not always it's not always perfectly curated thoughts and it's not it's not gonna be perfect. Never. And that's I think we all miss the train on that. That's what it's about.

SPEAKER_01

It is what it's about. It's about being real and true and going through life. Because again, even though you see it on Instagram and you see it on TV, nothing's perfect. And nothing's perfect.

SPEAKER_00

No one is perfect. No one is real. I said this a couple podcasts ago. AI doesn't have skin. Do not take advice from someone who doesn't have skin about skin. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01

Take all the TikToks, y'all. Oh my goodness. I are you on TikTok? No. I mean we have one, but no. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, I I can't with anything. Anyway. Alright, this is a weird one. Sorry, guys. We just sometimes you just I don't know. You gotta like just say a bunch of nothing and then something comes out. Yeah. It's like word vomiting. Yeah. Today. Thanks for letting us process our thoughts. Don't forget to follow us. We have authentic slow growth. Correct.

SPEAKER_01

Very authentic slow growth. Very authentic.

SPEAKER_00

Share, share our our podcast. Um, speaking of that, let me tell you guys. Okay. I was at your event. Yeah. And I made some comment about the podcast, and the person goes, You have a podcast? And I need to yell at you guys because I don't ever want to meet someone who doesn't know about our podcast. Yeah, I know. I want her to be like, Oh yeah, I heard I want to. We're gonna make some cards.

SPEAKER_01

Oh, yeah. I think that would be fun. We need to put that out there. I think so. We need to get better at that.

SPEAKER_00

But yeah, just spread the word, everybody, tell a friend, and we'll see you next time. Case closed.