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What's wrong with us? In this episode Amy and Rachael discuss a recent Miami trip, ADHD, OCD, Anxiety and so much more!
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Like you think you look good, and then you see everyone else, and you're like, oh, they just look better. They just did it better. And now I'm like, what makeup are they using? What what are we doing? What are we using?
SPEAKER_00Because that's and and and did you figure that out? Did you find that out yet? Have we not? I mean, your lips, would it would you you did different?
SPEAKER_01I did. I did a different um I did different colors. It's a color that's called Iman. I'm really trying to get Saints' attention.
SPEAKER_00Well, I like it. I I think I want that color. I think it would look great on you. I I like that color on you. It's very appealing. It's called Iman.
SPEAKER_01I M A N. Which sounds very European. We were just hi everyone. Welcome to the Beauty Files. We were just uh ranting slash reminiscing slash bitching about my Miami trip and how great it was. And how great and yet how great everyone looked is really what I'm talking about. And if you've never been to Miami, just think it's a collection of just the most beautiful people who probably have been prepping for like a year for this trip. Perfect bodies, perfect outfits, perfect makeup, perfect hair, just perfection. And it's there's no filter. When you land in Miami, it's not like a filter takes over the air and you're like, oh, they're a Miami filter. No, no. These are real, well, quote unquote real. But you know, that is the result.
SPEAKER_00But yet, on the other hand, she has also stated to me that many of these women have very heavy accents as well as their husbands. So more than likely, a lot are not from here.
SPEAKER_01They're not American. Okay. They're not eating our shitty food. I do think Americans are beautiful. However, I do think Europeans just It's a different look. Different every different energy. Like, we as Americans, we're not taught to relax. We're just not. And that is just the European way.
SPEAKER_00Everything's just chill, and we're going to eat, and we're going to drink, and we're going to And we're not taught to love our bodies and show them off. So a lot of European beaches are nude beaches. Um Amy was talking to me about how this one woman had a a thong on and she just went over like it didn't matter.
SPEAKER_01Guys, she had the perfect butt. Like I I can't even I've I felt I was blushing because I was like, I have been staring for a long time. And it was not, it was a perfect natural butt. Like, I can't, you can't make this up. She was young. Like, like what let me clarify. She was in her early 20s. I'm just saying, I'm not a teenager. I'm not looking, yeah, no. But it was just, you're right. It was the comfort that she felt. You could tell she was comfortable in her body. And it wasn't like she was like inappropriately flaunting. She was just literally bending into her child's diaper bag, getting out something.
SPEAKER_00And it's like we're not taught that in this country. Like, no, we're taught to cover up and you know be conservative in what we're wearing, and we're not just throwing everything out there. And so when we do see somebody doing that, we're like, it's foreign. It's why are you doing that? Yes. What is wrong with you? Why would you feel comfortable doing that? And I do think that that is something that we should be more exposed of and um we should feel more confident in. Um I try to, I still like you know, my daughter has she still sees me naked, and I don't want her to think that it's abnormal because it's a human body. Um, yes. In America, I think we look at it, although I don't know if we look at it way more sexually than a European, the European countries or any other country.
SPEAKER_01Well, the fact that people are still offended by public breastfeeding, I think kind of takes a temperature of where we are culturally. I will say, um, my child is gonna be 14, and I'm still extremely comfortable, and always have been with how I walk around the house, if you will. Um, and that actually was intentional. I remember this is well before I was even married. It was an interview with who's that one um model who's like kind of cross-eyed. Is it Kate Moss? Yeah. She's got like the Does she have the gap too or something? Her, whoever that is. I feel like it's Kate Moss. Um, she was in an interview about exactly that. She says, Yeah, I always walk around naked in front of my children. Like, what do I have to be ashamed of? Like, they need to know that their bodies are just bodies and they're they're perfect the way they are. And I was like, taking that. Yeah. And I didn't have a child, wasn't married, just I just remembered that interview for whatever reason, just was ingrained in my mind.
SPEAKER_00I have, you know, I have a son and I have a daughter. My son is the older one, he's a teenager too. Um, no, grain it, no, I'm not just a big thing. Then we might be a little different, you know, in front of him or his friends. Like, to clarify, I think Kate Moss was was talking about her daughter. Yeah. Um, but he has walked in on me changing, I don't freak out about it because I feel like if I were to freak out and be like, what are you doing? Don't look at me. Um, you know, that's teaching them something that I don't want to teach them. It might raise more questions. And I'm a woman, I have body parts. He is very aware of what a woman has as far as body parts, just as well as a man. Um, so to me, I'm just like, Well, dude, this is why you knock. Right. You know? And he, oh, Ma, I'm so I'm like, well, there's a door. You knock on it. And if you don't, and you come into my room and I'm in the middle of doing something, you might see something you don't want to. So I think I mean that's a perfect lesson.
SPEAKER_01And that's it's well, you're teaching all kinds of things that you're teaching like manners, personal space, uh, oh, sorry. Like, and then he learned, nope, I don't need to see that from mom.
SPEAKER_00Yeah, I'm good. I'm gonna knock. And you know, in the other sense, like, I will take my my shirt off if you know, I have a brawn. Like, it's just like a bathing suit. I don't care. I really don't care. It's just like you have underwear on, you're d uh I don't care. Like you're gonna they see that out on the beach all the time. No, they're not seeing nudity out on the beaches around us, but we're at pools, but they are seeing women and children and men in bathing suits. So Yeah. Yeah. I I I really don't that part really doesn't even faze me, so I think it's it's just all in what you normalize.
SPEAKER_01Yeah. If you're gonna be uptight about something, then they're gonna feel that. Yeah. Uh so it's a perfect segue because today's episode is about what's wrong with us. And I love that it's even called an episode because what's wrong with us can often be episodic. And um, yeah, yeah. So so just to to wrap up the Miami trip, it was wonderful. Um it was wonderful.
SPEAKER_00She said it was much needed when I asked her.
SPEAKER_01It was and it came at the right time. It did, all of it, but it was Miami in August. It was very, very hot. Um, which is like duh. Like, I we're my daughter and I are sitting at the pole and she looks at me and she's like, It's hot. I was like thinking Parasalton, like, yeah, yeah, it's so hot. Like she, of course, doesn't know who that is. Um, so you know, once you get over that and you just accept that this is this is the weather, it was it was okay. But the evenings were nice, they weren't um they weren't like dripping in sweat. I will say putting my makeup on was hilarious because I wear cream makeup and when I say that shit just just went right on. It was no issue. I didn't have to buff anything into place. I was like, wow. I tried to do my makeup outside and that just that did not last. Um I had to go inside because it was melting. Um, but yeah, it was it was really nice. I do feel bad. Um, I timed it pretty poorly with the event that you had last night at the revs game. I was supposed to be there and I I totally bailed. Um I postponed it. I'm gonna be they're having an event in October that you're doing a spooky night. Yeah. So I'll be to that one. Promise. Promise. But how was your event before we jump in?
SPEAKER_00It was good. Honestly, y'all, I know nothing about baseball. So I I didn't really watch it. Um The Rovs did not do well. I don't know if they're a good team or not, but they were not that great. Whoopsie. Um, there were a lot of people there. Um, I would say did we get a ton of people? No, we did not. Um people walked by, they saw us. Maybe that name will stick with them, which is what we can hope. But it was fine. It was four of us there. It was fun to just hang out. I got us a pizza for all the girls and water, so um it was perfect weather. The weather was not bad at all, which was nice. We thank God Tessa brought her wagon because her kids' wagon to put everything in because we had five chairs, maybe six chairs, and then we had this big ass table, and then we also had the chalkboard and stuff. So when you first pull up to set up, like you can pull right out front, but then they make you park elsewhere, which is quite a walk. Yes, I saw the and um we left before the whole thing was over because it was just slow, there was no point in us, like nobody was really doing anything at that point. Um, so we had to pack it all up and walk all the way back, and we would have been hurting had we not had the wagon.
SPEAKER_01So that was need to invest in a wagon. That was actually one of the reasons why I failed is because I thought I do not have I'm one I'm a one-woman show and I have like eight trips of things to I might have one that you can have.
SPEAKER_00Really?
SPEAKER_01Yeah, we'll borrow it. So back to what's wrong with us, which comically is you know, a lot. Right. Okay, right? No, we mean like we have been on this earth for give or take 40 years. We're gonna round up and just stay where we are. 40 years. Okay. And uh, you know, we've lived we've lived some things, we've had some habits develop. We've uh I I think it's cool now to talk to talk to Chat TBT and be like, what's wrong with me? Yeah. I do this, why do I do that? You know, we live in a time of self-diagnosis, which isn't healthy. I'll say that. Probably. Because I know that actually, this is even more interesting because we live in a world where everybody says and thinks they have ADHD, and they likely don't, and same with OCD. And as someone, you have I legit ADHD.
SPEAKER_00I do have legit ADHD, and it actually does run very heavily in my family. My brother and my sister, both sisters actually were diagnosed with it. Um I was never like I went and spoke to a doctor um that was not my doctor, and they were like, yes. Um so the the thing of it is though, is that when you take the medication for it, it's gonna do one of two things for you. Right. You're either it's either gonna calm you down and give you clarity and make you be able to focus on what you need to do and get the job done, or you're gonna feel like you're on crack. Okay, and speed. For me, when I take the medication, I have never felt more calm and centered in my entire life. It was like I was on a cloud almost, like I was just like, wait a minute, I can just do this, and nothing else is going through my head. Like, what? Wow, this is my life right now, and I don't think I realized how bad it was until I did that. And even at work, the girls were like, You're different, like something's different. Like, not in a bad way. It was just like I was calm, calm, and and I wasn't crazy, and it wasn't like I it's not like you're crazy, it's just you can't stop thinking and overthinking and just well okay, so this is why this is so interesting, right?
SPEAKER_01So I same, but I don't think I have ADHD. I I I can do tasks, I'm very good at like organizing, getting my thoughts in a row. However, I now I have not been officially diagnosed. However, my child had to get some educational testing last year, and because I am her caregiver or one of her caregivers, I had to be a part of the questionnaire answering questions about my child, not necessarily me. And I know I told you this story, but the uh I think it is a psychiatrist that has to do the test, right? Yeah. Um, so she's going through the the list of all the things, that she's like, okay, this is this is okay. And then she gets to this section that for my child, I answered no to everything. But it was like, do you count in your head when you take steps, like going down the steps? I'm like, yeah, I do that. No, no, she doesn't do that. Um, do you are you bothered by you know clutter and do you have racing thoughts? And do you know just all these questions? And I'm like, well, I I do that. I I think about that a lot. Have you ever hair pulled? Or and I'm like, yes. No, no, my child's never done that. And come to find out, that was the OCD anxiety section, and I'm pretty sure I aced it. Cause, you know, I'm really good at taking tests. And um it all was very interesting because it was all things that I I knew that I did, especially the counting. That one was really I don't I don't know why I do that, but every time I go up and down a flight of steps, I'm always counting, no matter what. Yeah. Um and I have seen clearly, um, and I have noticed I have certain triggers, so it's not it's not that I need to wash my hands 50 times, it's not that I need to flick the light switches on 50 times. However, there are moments where they need to be all in a row, like lined up, up or down. Yeah. Um glad about that. Yeah, and I might like I will have a hand like handful of laundry, whatever, I will change it with my chin. Like I will walk over and like flick the switch with my chin because it needs to be just right. And then there are days where I'm like, no, you're not doing this today. Walk past it and get over it. And then I walk down the steps, one, two, three, four, five. So I um I definitely think I might have it. Given this is what prompted this episode. I meant, don't tell me. Trichotillomania. Yes. Yes. Um, I I'm I mean, I have that. Like there's no, there's there's no doubt that I have it. Um, so I will say it's nice to put a name to something, which is why it's super cool to know what's wrong with you the older we get, because it's just fun and throwing out the word trauma, and it's just fun. It's cool to have things wrong with you, apparently. That's what we embrace, apparently, these days. Um, but uh, I don't know where was going with this. Oh, but that's uh my point. I was not actually diagnosed.
SPEAKER_00But I mean, you could, you could go and get so here's the interesting part. So, and now that I know and I'm super aware of like, okay, you truly do have it. Now, mine is very similar to my son's, where my daughter's is the opposite. So both my kids have it, they have both been diagnosed with it. My son was later, even though we knew when he was younger that he probably had it. Um, his everything falls under the ADHD aspect of they don't now say. Yeah, there is no ADD. Yeah, I noticed that. But he truly has more of the ADD. And then so attention deficit disorder. So they want to fall everything under the hyper category, but my daughter has the hyper aspect of it. My son does not, nor do I. Well, so he would like you both would likely be ADD. We are both under the ADD aspect of it as opposed to the hyper.
SPEAKER_01But now everything's just lumped under the hyper.
SPEAKER_00Okay, which and my son, when he was younger, like everyone used to say like he he was really calm, like you would never know because he could sit. He could just he was really good. He didn't have those ticks or anything. As he got older, he started to. The nail biting, biting on pencils, constantly having and I did this too, paper in my mouth, chewing on paper, um, just doing things that like looking back, like I everything he did, I did, which is so strange. Um constantly needing to click on something. And I still to this day do that. And I'm like, if I pick up a pen, I need to, it needs to not be a clicker pen. Because I will just do it and I will click, and I don't even realize I'm doing it. And so for me, we were at the event last night and I started doing it, and I was like, put it down. Oh and I I did, I made myself put it down and I put my hands, I was like, I can't, you have to stop. Because it will also drive me nuts when I hear him doing it. But so again, there's two different aspects. My daughter's super hyper, she won't calm down. His thing is he can sit, but he can't focus. So you're not able, it's like reading a book. So this is my the easiest way for me to describe it. I could read a book over and over again. The problem was is that my mind constantly had other things going through, so I was not retaining the information. Right. And my son was the same way. The second you take that, it makes you focus on what you have to, right? And then your knowledge is your power, right? And you when you can actually retain that, I mean, you're gonna go places. Um we figured out that meds is what he needed to actually retain the information, and it helps him, and that's how he became a pretty much straight A student. Right. For me, I'm trying to teach myself since I had to get through it when I was younger. They put me on, you know, antidepressants because they thought I was just depressed and anxiety. Because it looks different in girls, because it looks different in girls, and it never worked on me. It actually just made me feel numb, and then I was just like, oh, whatever, I don't care. Which made things worse. Right, didn't help my grades, it didn't I had to teach myself how to do well. Um I god, if I had meds in me, I'd be a freaking neurosurgeon, I think.
SPEAKER_01And I guess it's wonderful that we have this awareness now, right? And now kids really are getting to to a degree, right? It really does depend on the parent and how adamant they are at making these things happen. But in schools, they're doing a much better job, at least in my experience, can't speak for everybody, but getting a plan in place, having all these different things, right? So what if what about the poor people who are married to someone with ADHD and they didn't know and they don't know? And so there's like all these common like adulthood behaviors that just seem like really irritating husbands and wives, but really it's just they can't help it. Or they I shouldn't even say that well, I don't recognize it.
SPEAKER_00I the person themselves, right? He doesn't listen to this, so it's okay. I can say it. He is like the epitome of an ADHD. Even as an adult, and like so many people see it. I don't think he sees it. Um that's yes, I've noticed.
SPEAKER_01Well, I'll say this with men, I've noticed they it does not compute these words. Like they just are who they are.
SPEAKER_00But we're we're different in the aspect of and he's different too. Like a lot of people with ADHD cannot finish a task. They'll guess they'll start something and they won't finish it. I think we both have the ADHD well, he definitely has. Hyperactive part of it. Um, but the OCD part, because I can't leaving something unfinished gives me the worst anxiety I have ever felt in my life. I need it done. And if it's not done in a timely fashion, I it I I don't know what happens.
SPEAKER_01It's just not that's why the brain is so fascinating because if it's a big project, I understand the long game, but I will have I'm a w I have to like complete a task beginning to end. I don't care how long it takes. I will have so it is kind of comical. My husband will call them like manic episodes because I will decorate or I'll do a thing, it has to be done. Yeah.
SPEAKER_00If you can't complete it in.
SPEAKER_01I'll stay up till 3 a.m. doing it as long as it's done and I can go to bed and feel great. Um, I have a hard time hosting a party and then going to bed and then cleaning I have to clean up and I will stay up, I will be drunk cleaning, it doesn't matter. Like I everything has to be done.
SPEAKER_00Well, you were at my my daughter's birthday Friday. Yes, yes. And I'm the same way. Like, I have to keep cleaning, I have to keep moving. Mm-hmm. I cannot stop. It needs to be put away, it needs to be cleaned up. I it Do you enjoy it? I do almost enjoy it. I love it. I I do almost enjoy it, but like if it's not done, I'm not sleeping. Do you want help? No, I just want to do it. Same thing.
SPEAKER_01Get the get out of my way. No. Now when I'm at someone else's house, I respect their space, and I actually I don't this might seem like strange, but I don't like when people host parties and then all the women are like helping in the kitchen.
SPEAKER_00That's I think it depends on who it is.
SPEAKER_01I think it makes my skin crawl because I wouldn't want that.
SPEAKER_00I I think it depends on who it is. It must. Well, of course everybody like if it's you know your family or like somebody who's your close friend. Like if you said, Hey, can I help you?
SPEAKER_01Uh yeah, but the I guess that what I'm talking about, it's it's not either of those situations. It's just women that that know and think, oh, this is the thing you're supposed to do when you see that someone is hosting and you need to like help do the dishes and clean up. I don't like that.
SPEAKER_00And I'm yeah, and I don't know if that's okay because I don't offer. I don't offer unless I know somebody really well, and then I don't offer.
SPEAKER_01They've got their thing.
SPEAKER_00Like I I feel like they have their people too. So like you were having a party, I would be like, hey, can I help you? I know.
SPEAKER_01Do you know what do you know what Rachel did today? I she pulled up and I was like trailing behind her basically, but I had just gone to the grocery store and she helped me bring in groceries and then she helped me put my groceries away. Unprompted. And first of all, I wasn't even bothered. So that's actually more television. Yes. That's actually I'm not sure. I gotta I gotta ask you at GBT about that later. But I was not bothered, and you didn't ask, and you didn't need to ask. Yeah, see, you're right. It must I think it's power-complicated creatures. Right again. But like if my I don't know, I'm trying to think who would bother me. Like, okay, my mother-in-law listens to this, and she knows I never, ever, ever, ever, ever ask for help. Ever. I just I can't. It's and my own mother listens, and she knows. I can't nor do I. I can't. And I don't know what I don't know, it's right. Okay, so is that a millennial thing?
SPEAKER_00Is that a like what is that? I can't So I was talking to another client today. I took several clients, different conversations. We were talking about just we were talking about men. It started out with men, and I said to her, I said, part of the problem is us. And she's like, What do you mean? And I said, and for our moms that are listening, don't don't take this negatively. Y'all taught us because we independent. Yes, like our moms, you guys taught us, and this was something that was happening in the world, independence, women and women's rights, and we can do it on our own, and we don't need a man. Y'all pushed that in us, whether you realize it or not, you did. You taught us that we need to learn to stand on our own two feet, we can do anything on our own, and we should. It kind of, when it comes to men in certain aspects, it it set us back because then we in a way pushed men away from their duties as men because we were like, Oh, we can do that. So then men kind of just were like, Oh, well, they're gonna do it, so why do I have to do it? Yes. And then also happened in the aspect of respect opening doors and and just chivalry kind of went away to a certain aspect because we were like, No, I can do that. Men took a step back. So in the world that we live in today, most of us do not ask for help because it was not pushed on us to ask for help. We were pushed upon because our parents were in an era where women were getting freedoms and independence, and we were supposed to be able to they were supposed to be able to stand on their own two feet and do it themselves.
SPEAKER_01Well, I'm gonna say the F word here because I feel like it's only further exacerbated now, and that would be feminism. Like you and I, there's it if you know you know there's some lore about this podcast.
SPEAKER_03Yeah.
SPEAKER_01And um Rachel and I had a different conversation on a different channel, if you will, um, about how fen feminism really was the fall of man. Right. And um, and look, feminism is I almost want to say it's great. I really I'm very I really don't agree with that at all. Um I'm an anti-feminist uh in a major feminist world. Yeah, and even in my industry, not color analysis, um, I have a company, and that's a super male-dominated world, and I have to be super feminist for it to survive. Right. So I do feel like I'm kind of living like this duality of of how I feel about things. Right. But I will say, yeah, if feminism really pushed and and honestly, like I know in my upbringing, it wasn't so much pushed in my family. I think my mom really tried to instill that family supports family, and then things shifted, and then I don't know. I it does make you wonder. I think I guess what I'm trying to say is maybe by accident it was instilled whether they really wanted to show me that or not.
SPEAKER_00But yeah, independence is I think in it was it's the independence of especially in women, and the independence of you need to be able to support your family, you need to be able to do this, you need to be able to, which again takes away from needing a man, a partner time and time again.
SPEAKER_01Actually, I've heard it from women our own age talking to their children, and that's their goal. I need her to know that she doesn't need a man. Now, pretty much every woman I can think of that has said this is either divorced, unhappily married, or never married, and just they're on their own.
SPEAKER_00I can't fault them. Right. You know, I have been in relationships and then had to do things on my own. And it's not that I don't need a man, and it's not that I don't want a man. I think that the the stakes for things have changed. I wouldn't want to say it that way. What what a woman our age needs and wants out of a man is something completely different than it is for our parents.
SPEAKER_01Oh yeah. I like yes. Yeah.
SPEAKER_00And it will be completely different for our children. Also true, yes. So again, I do think that you know, how we look at things, how you look at relationships is very different from our families, our parents.
SPEAKER_01I also feel like it skips a generation. It does. Like, uh which is funny because then you've got opposite generations of families. So like you have a really like blue-collar dad, right? And he wants a life that's good for his kids, right? So he's gonna go out and do the work, and the mom's gonna either stay home or also work, or whatever, supplement like because she has to supplement for the family, whatever. Then the children get comfortable because their parents have made a life of comfort and they don't really have to do much, and so the world has been handed to them. Now, to me, that's the greatest generation, and then the boomers, right? Right, and then the boomers, no offense to boomer listeners. I know we have a few. This doesn't mean it's necessarily about you, it's just about the generation as a whole. And I'm getting to the millennial issues, so just hang tight, boomers, okay? I know we're all flawed. Okay. Anyway, so then you got boomers, right? They had the comfortable life, right? So they were more gravitated towards, like, you know, what's good for them. And that's not to say they were bad parents, it's not to say anything, it just means millennials then became a little more independent and then worky, worky, worky oriented.
SPEAKER_02Mm-hmm.
SPEAKER_01And as always, every generation wants to not have their childhood, right? It's always like, I'm gonna give my kids a childhood I didn't have, right? Right. So then you've once again, now you've got what is the next next generation? Uh well, I'm not even gonna talk about uh Gen X or because like that's the opposite, right? Yeah, we have boomer parents, they made millennials. Gen X made Gen Z. Yeah, right? And then we have Gen Alpha. Yeah. So I'm only talking about that particular order of generation of people, right? So now we're raising alpha. And what do you know about most of them? Now your son for sure is out of this equation, but we've got iPad kids now. We've got kids who only watch YouTube and they want to be YouTubers. You've got it's all over again. It's that comfort. So it's it's just every generation's gonna so it's almost like we're doing because we are the worker worker, millennial awesome, we're great, we're now doing a disservice to our next generation. Cause really, I mean, what do we all know? Oh man, I wish our kids experienced a 90s childhood. Yeah. Going outside. But conspiracy alert. Um, the news has made you scared to let your kids run around outside because you know, there's that evil candy man with his van and he's gonna come snatch your your kids. Which I'm not saying doesn't happen.
SPEAKER_00It happens, but guess what? It happened during boomer generation. Y'all just didn't know about it.
SPEAKER_01That's true. Serial killers were really in their prime in the 70s. Yeah. In fact, the um white van with the candy actually just rebranded. It's called Child Trafficking now. So it's not like it's scarier now. Trafficking is scary as shit. I mean, that's and it's happening. Yeah, but now you've got Hollywood and Epstein, and so it's like all in your face. And then again, it makes you not want to participate in society because it's all dangerous. So it's like, what is the motive here? And now we're getting flock cameras. Can we adjust for a minute? What is that? The flock cameras. What is that? Oh all right, is this still Conspiracy Corner? Thank you for joining Conspiracy Corner on the Beatty Files. This is the files portion of the Beauty Files segment. Um, for those that don't know, such as my co-host, flock cameras are a uh government contract surveillance setup for uh so it's not the government, it's a contractor who works for the government. And they want it's the government. So they want to ensure that everyone is safe by having government, non-government surveillance. So they're going up, they're everywhere. There's some in Shrewsbury now, they're in York. There's a um, if I remember, I'm gonna make a note. I will put it in the show notes. It's a map to tell you where they are. Oh but they are actively going up. Um you hear me, tappity.
SPEAKER_00I do, tapity tap. Well, see, I love that sound.
SPEAKER_01Um, okay. Um there's a lot of uproar about this because it's uh no one is consenting to this. Um they're just putting them up. So it's very important for you to go to your local town halls. I mean, they're not really advertising that they're putting them up. Um and and the fact that like they're getting it wrong, they're not reading license plates correctly. So now you've got all these false arrests. But but as always, with any news station, there's the positive of the flock cameras, right? Oh, without flot cameras, we never would have found this girl who was kidnapped. And uh, you know, you're gonna always have if you want to know if it's Psyop or anything of the matter really, we need to just there's so many layers. Um if they are if you're triggered by a really upsetting issue, like like a kidnapping, something that like is just you can't even think clearly because you're just on the hook for the kidnapping, right? Or something that really pulls on your heart strings, or something that is like starving children, anything that involves children, just any anything that's like really over the top, it's gonna be a psyop. And by psy-op I mean psychological operation, it means it's this is a planned thing to steer your mind to think a thing so that you're okay with their next move. And I guess I mean they they with a capital T and yes, COVID. Um COVID's a great example, as always. Um, but anyway, so flot cameras, they're they're going up, they're going up, and they're just part of the next, in my opinion. It's probably 2030, which is the just one world order, the whole thing. Buckle up kids.
SPEAKER_00But here's the thing you're you're gonna think that you want it, like you're gonna be okay with it because they slowly I think a lot of people want to be okay with things in the world today because it's just exhausting.
SPEAKER_01Well, it is exhausting, and that's also by design, in my opinion, because that's what they want. We're just tired. We're working all the time, we just want to look good, we want to feel good, we want a lot of money.
SPEAKER_00It's back to our anxiety, why everybody has anxiety in in America.
SPEAKER_01So I walk so yeah, what is once again, we're we're going down a deep hole here. So, yes, we all have things wrong with us. And can I tell you my solution? Yeah. Okay. And this is I mean, you know what the solution is, but um it's a GLP one. I um I want a GLP one. Um, but it's super low dose, which I know is a but I only micro dose it. But I only microdose it, okay? So it's fine. It's just it's just something I take. It's not to lose weight or anything. Right? It's like I hear that time and time again. I'm not sure who that was, but she's she's part of me. It's my alter ego. Um so it is annoying. I know. It's annoying to hear. Yeah, but I don't take it to lose weight. Okay, well, it is a nice side effect, I'm not gonna lie. But I am taking a super low dose and I don't hair pull anymore. And when I'm not on it, I'm up on the top of my head. And I I and hair pulling, yeah. For sure. I have seen because I try to not be on it. Like, I think I take I'm at every two weeks now. I'm not doing weekly, but three weeks is too long, so I'm not there yet. So I'm trying to stretch it as much as possible. My goal is to get to once a month. Um, but I don't think it stays in your system that long.
SPEAKER_00It does, it does, it does stay in your system for up to a month. It takes a full month for it to build up in your system and then it will stay in there. But depending on your condition, depending on what you're taking it for, right? Um will also depend on how effective it is for you. Also, how you metabolize it. So you've started to work out again, um, you're starting to eat better and do, you know, build more muscle. So if you're gonna be metabolizing things quicker, you're also metabolizing your medication quicker. So you have to take all of those things to into um the equation when you're thinking about how you're taking your medications.
SPEAKER_01Hmm. Okay. That well, that makes sense then of why I can't stretch it farther. Um I my um my solution is only anecdotal. There is no real evidence at the moment.
SPEAKER_00There is evidence that it is proven to help with alcoholism, so addiction issues.
SPEAKER_01Oh, I think we talked about this in a previous in fact I found a study.
SPEAKER_00So I did I did link that. Okay. So it also helps with um if you have autoimmune disorders, lupus, I have Hashimoto's. Yeah, I didn't mention it. Hashimoto's it helps with Hashimoto's addiction issues. So somebody who is hyperfocused on any kind of addiction, they did do a study for alcoholism specifically, to which they found that it helps with that. It helps to the overthinking, the obsessive thoughts like you get with hunger. Okay, it's uh it's the same exact trigger. So constantly feeling like you need to eat, constantly feeling like you need to drink, constantly feeling like you need the drugs. So that's high.
SPEAKER_01The food noise, right? Food noise.
SPEAKER_00Um, so it has been proven that it does help with that, um, and they are using that in addiction facilities to help people to overcome that. So it makes total sense that somebody who has OCD or obsessive compulsive disorders, even somebody who has severe anxiety, somebody who has ADHD, things like that, where they cannot stop those thoughts, it will help that as well as helping inflammation in the body, which is caused by Hashimoto's.
SPEAKER_01Which is nice too because you know it's when you do take an a proper anxiety medication, what's the biggest side effect? Weight gain. So it is nice that there might be an alternative. But I always stress to people like you have to eat.
SPEAKER_00You do. And in in when we say you have to eat, it's protein, y'all.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, and calories. And calories. Like, I'm as I'm dipping, can you guys hear that?
SPEAKER_00I'm dipping into my so chips. I am notorious for not eating very frequently. What? And you me?
SPEAKER_03What?
SPEAKER_00No. I was on the phone with one of my friends and Amy just laughed because she was like, I ate a cracker. And she goes, Oh, so you're not gonna be hungry for 24 hours. And I was like, uh, no.
SPEAKER_01Um I'm sorry to be eating in front of a microphone.
SPEAKER_00But it is true that it's okay, go on, try. Over here. Especially if you're on a GLV one, they are eating high, high protein because it will break down your bone over time. Your muscle mass will decrease over time if you're not making sure that you are eating enough protein. And you also will not lose enough if your your goal is weight loss and you're not eating enough protein, you're not gonna lose weight the way that you need to or want to. And that's regardless of a GLP one, y'all. Protein is super important in your diet, especially when you're trying to lose weight, and build muscle mass. So increasing that protein and making sure that you're getting that in your diet on a regular basis, regardless of what you are doing, is important. Okay, chew.
SPEAKER_01Um, that was really good. And also that counts of maintaining what you got.
SPEAKER_00Um And I'm not good at it, so don't don't look at me as an example. No, sh ever.
SPEAKER_01I'm gonna cut that out because you had a good you had a good um speech there. Um yeah, because anyone that wants to get on it, I'm always hyper aware of their current eating habits. If you're already not eating, being on a GLP one just makes you not eat. So you might not lose a lot of weight quickly because there isn't gonna be anything like changing.
SPEAKER_00No. I mean you'll lose the initial water weight like always.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, please don't go to like hers or like your nail salon lady. I've I've just I've heard like worldwide or not even worldwide, countrywide. There's just people can get it I don't even I don't even know. I don't even know from where. And that's scary. And they're injecting something, you don't even know what it is.
SPEAKER_00And I will tell you guys, all pharmacies and pharmaceutical companies are not created equally. Okay, whether they want to say it to you or not, they're not. Um there are true pharmacies that have um the proper FDA clearances, they are inspected regularly, they are expected to show studies of their product and how well they are performing. Um, and that does make a huge difference. So just pay attention to that. Um, be aware of where you're getting your products.
SPEAKER_01Don't be cheap.
SPEAKER_00It's fine to price, and I always tell everybody, it's fine to price shop, but make sure you're price shopping the right places.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, and within reason.
SPEAKER_00Within reason. And understand, like, if you're getting true product and you're getting the help that you need and you're seeing an actual physician and you're talking to them, um, it's not going to be the cheapest of the cheap. It's just not. That's true. And if they're getting bulk orders, they're able to lower their drug policy product. If you're getting it prescribed individually to that person the way that it should be, it's going to be more expensive. Just an FYI.
SPEAKER_01For those of you who didn't know. We're just we're here for you guys. Um, so is it an end-all be-all? No, because while I'm not hair pulling, I still occasionally have a light switch issue. I'm still counting, and I still I just have constant thoughts. Yeah, constant. Um, I also get that feeling, which this did help by the way. Um, the GLP one did help with this. There are times when I literally feel like the walls are closing in on me, and I have to like purge like all my stuff. Like I have to go through drawer by drawer by drawer, closet by closet, and take out everything, reorganize, get rid of things. Like it's wild. And I and again, because I have that habit of like this needs to be done now, I will do it 8 a.m. and go until uh uh like past midnight. The entire house. Yeah, that's not healthy. So if you're doing that, like something's going on. Um, I have not had the urge to purge. The urge to purge. But not like throw up. I mean like we're literally getting rid of stuff. Um, I have not had that at the frequency that I was having it since starting a GLP1. So that's exciting.
SPEAKER_00Also, GLP1s, for those of you who don't know, which I think we have talked about a couple of times, can help um with skin issues. Okay. So interesting. You know, um those of us who are inflammation. Those of us who um deal with irregular periods or issues with not having correct hormones, it does help regulate those, which can help you with breakouts. It can help with flare-ups of different conditions. So if you're somebody who deals with a lot of rhosacia issues, um it can help to kind of calm that down in the skin. Um does it help with sunspots? It does not have the sunspots. Y'all still need to put your sunscreen on. Put your damn sunscreen on and reapply. Okay. But it can actually truly help, especially if your acne is hormone-based and not necessarily gut-related or anything else. It can definitely help you get that more under control. So it is something to consider.
SPEAKER_01And if you're interested in trying a GLP1 today, please stop by Exquisite Med Spa. This episode is not sponsored by Exquisite Med Spa, and Exquisite Med Spa is not responsible for anything that happens to you ever. So don't come to us, don't come for us. This is for entertainment purposes only. Anything else? I think I got it. Okay. I used to think that those people actually talked that fast on like all those commercials that I was younger, not knowing that they could just, you know, speed it up. Yeah. No, I've literally thought that like those people talked that fast and that perfectly. I know, it's really embarrassing. Um, okay, let's switch gears because we have a couple of things we learned today about you. Uh Rachel is a rat. I'll repeat that. Rachel is a rat. And what I mean by that is I found out that Rachel all of a sudden cannot handle carbonated beverages. Oh. And we all know what happens to rats. They can't burp, so they explode, and that's I mean, I hope that's not what happens to you. No, I But tell us, tell us your tail, your rat tail, if you will.
SPEAKER_00So we've talked about like I don't drink a lot and I just can't drink a lot. So I had two white claws, and the last two times that I have had white claws, which the last time was like two weeks ago, and I was in agonizing pain. You could literally see my stomach moving from the gas. Like, it was awful. I would have rather given birth to a child. Um, that pain was much less intense, and I did not have an epidural. So with that being said, like, it was not fun. And the fact that I couldn't expel it in either way.
SPEAKER_01Okay, so you're saying you couldn't toot. We're gonna cute this PG. You couldn't toot and you couldn't burp um is there a cuter word for burp? No. I don't think there is. I don't really know that there is. Why isn't there one? There should be.
SPEAKER_00Is there is a word? Can y'all let us know?
SPEAKER_01I'll look it up. But go ahead.
SPEAKER_00So you can't uh release. I could not release, and it was just so uncomfortable, and I did take meds for it, and it took literally probably 12 hours. What did you take? I tried to take gaz, I tried to take tomes, I tried like literally anything that you can take to try to just Okay.
SPEAKER_01I knew there was one. Okay.
SPEAKER_00That's a cuter word.
SPEAKER_01I'm not sure if I agree with this, but bubble and a burple. A burple? I mean bubble. A soft, bubbly sounding mix of burp and gurgle. A burple. Well no, that's that's it should be burgle.
SPEAKER_00I yeah, no, no.
SPEAKER_01And a gurp. Yeah, these are stupid. Okay, keep going. Keep going.
SPEAKER_00So you took things, so didn't help. It did not help, and I could literally it I could see it moving in my stomach, which was absolutely alien-esque, let's be honest. It was just not cool, and I was really uncomfortable and I couldn't sleep, and you already know I have trouble sleeping, so it was just even worse. And I was trying to distract myself by reading, and it just was not working. So, yes, Amy informed me that I'm a rat.
SPEAKER_01Yes, you are a rat, and you know, you're a really pretty rat, though. So it's it's fine. Great. Um, I had an MRI for my hip. I don't even know what we're calling it because it's not my bone. It's like my hip flexor, right? It's that muscle. Um, I have a tear. So that's exciting. I guess. I feel validated, like there is something wrong, but also now I'm like extremely inconvenienced.
SPEAKER_00And you're not supposed to do anything, really, are you?
SPEAKER_01Um for how long? Well, I'm guys, I'm in physical therapy, which is like feeling so good about myself. Um, I'm in physical therapy, trying to build muscle around the area of the tear because you can't do anything about it. Right. So it is funny because they call it a a label, but I just hear labia. Yeah. I was gonna say that's what I heard. That's just really funny to me. Like every time they say you have a labral tear, I'm like, oh.
SPEAKER_02Why labial? Not a labia. Okay.
SPEAKER_01Okay. Um, so it's but here's what's really weird, okay. The physical therapist, the PT, whatever they call it. She was like, Yeah, I bet you have, and then she said it, that tear, because you probably have like this overgrowth of something on your femur bone. And I was like, What are you talking about? And I just I have no freaking clue. So I was like, okay, didn't really think much of it. I'm like, that's really what is what are you saying? What words are you speaking of? And then they're like, Yeah, you have that overgrowth thing. So when you have that, that it's like this tear is inevitable. Like, if you have this, you will likely for sure definitely have that. And I'm like, what do I do? Like, well, you can either continue the physical therapy and see how it goes, or you can get surgery. I'm like, not getting surgery. Not getting surgery. So I'm gonna try and strength train my way out of it, just like everything else in life.
SPEAKER_03Yeah.
SPEAKER_01But then we got new aches and pains, people. When I tell you I woke up one day, three weeks ago, and my wrist just started hurting. I don't like this, okay? I don't, I'm not a aches and pains kind of gal, okay? I don't I don't believe in them. I for sure as hell am not giving in to it. But I do kind of wish I just slid it down when I was getting my MRI. I'm like, can you just like do this too? But now I feel like I can't go back and be like, my wrist hurts. And they're gonna be like, first your hip, now your wrist.
SPEAKER_00I mean we just tell them at PT and see what they say.
SPEAKER_01Someone I was talking to, she's a nurse, and she was like, it's probably like well first she said first she said the A word of arthritis. And I was like, don't you dare. We're not going down that path. And then she's like, well, it might be tetanitis. Tetanitis? Tendinitis. That tendin- I'm thinking tetanus, tendinitis, which makes sense, and um the other cute one, carpal tunnel. But this is not my dominant hand. So the saga continues.
SPEAKER_00So we were talking about a lot of different trials that at our last episode. Oh, like we're fresh. Um, so one that is currently going on, I don't know if all of y'all are aware of it or of the situation. I knew she was gonna say that. It's her her word. Um what's her name? Lindsay Lindsay Clancy. Clancy. So the Lindsay Clancy trial. So I'm not sure how many of our listeners have had or dealt with any kind of postpartum. Um, you know, this comes back to like anxiety and all those things. Um, but apparently she had it from the first time she was pregnant with her first baby. And with each pregnancy, I think it had gotten a little more severe. And with this third baby, who was eight months old when this happened, um, it was it it was uncontrollable for her. And she had tried and tried and tried to get help as much as she could for this postpartum depression. Um, some are saying it's postpartum psychosis that she is dealing with, um, or periods of it. And um she unfortunately, um, what's the word they like to put unlived? Oh, unalived. Unalived her her three babies, young children. Young, five, three, and eight months old. And she then proceeded to throw herself out the window head first. Unalive herself, sorry. Unalive herself. Um, I think she also tried to use a knife. Yeah, which there was blood or well doesn't make sense because this woman is a labor and delivery nurse. So while there is a lot of things that I can believe, um, I do not believe that her knowledge of where a major artery is was gone. So there are many aspects of this case that are being looked at. You are seeing a lot of different um information being put out on different avenues, whether that be Instagram or TikTok or X or YouTube or what are the other major I mean just the majors. The majors, you know. Um so I truly feel for this woman. Um I dealt with postpartum. I it wasn't bad with my son because I was medicated prior to giving birth. With my daughter, it was it was pretty bad. And I kept it to myself for a long time. I just kind of pushed through and got the meds, and honestly, what I always said saved me was just going to work and um having to having to push through and having to work. Um I did not go to therapy, I just took the meds and went to work and went about my life. And I was one of the fortunate people that was able to do that, and not everybody is fortunate enough to be able to push on. And this is a case that I think there was a I'm not on social media, but there was a Facebook page that was made, and a lot of women were saying that even in the world that we live in today, where it is more aware, like we were more aware of it, it's people are more out. There are still so many people that don't talk about it and they keep it to themselves and they struggle with this. And I wish that she would have gotten the help that she did. I truly feel like the medical field failed her in so many ways and is continuing to fail her. Um and I I want to see her get off on this, not but I also am very afraid for her if she does. Um, she is currently in a hospital room on suicide watch. And um, you know, she's not allowed to have anything around her. She's not allowed to try to harm herself again. Um I do worry that if she is able to get off on this and she does not get sentenced or anything, that she will potentially um follow through with a suicide. And I can't say that I would blame her for that. Um, losing three of your children and knowing that you potentially were the person that did that is a the most gut-wrenching, horrible, worst case scenario that I think any of us could ever possibly imagine, especially as a mother.
SPEAKER_01Mm-hmm. I think that's what next well, I think the defense just rested. Like in it rests. So I think next episode we should do like a deep dive on it. Yeah. And we have to talk about what is it, hell uh Hayden, Hay Hayden Pelletier.
SPEAKER_00And her, she just died.
SPEAKER_01Which I and she just came out with a book and like an all-tell like there's just some weird things going on, and I I feel like both of those things might even have an overlap because she talked about her postpartum, and I think Neutrogena tried to drop her, and there was a lot of backlash, and then they didn't, and then they didn't renew. So, like, there's definitely something in the air about this, and it's very cyclical because we all recall Casey Anthony. And then there was even one before that. I remember some woman saying that she was put like the devil possessed her and she drowned her children. Like, so it is Yeah, I don't remember her name. Yeah, but I it's just interesting how every few years, like something to this level pops up, and I just I don't know, I always have to question why, why, why, why? Like, and is it just that it's not going on at all? And but these are just the ones that blow up and they get the most popularity because it's relevant, like I don't know.
SPEAKER_00And I'm gonna throw this out there because it's probably gonna be to me, this is like plane crashes. You're absolutely right. Yeah. You think about you don't really hear about plane crashes happening very often, but when you do, you do, you do, and it just doesn't go away. Um, and it's not like car accidents which happen constantly and all the time. Um, this is something that you don't hear about very frequently. It's cyclical.
SPEAKER_01It is, it's very uh well, more on that next week. Next week on the beauty files.
SPEAKER_03Rachel, I can't believe you said that.
SPEAKER_01I was gonna do clips that don't exist. Um yeah, we will discuss those two things because I feel like Yeah, I think they're both really worth discussing. The Hayden Pelletier Hayden? Yes. And um what's her face? Lindsay Clancy. Clancy, thank you. I said Casey Anthony, which I'm sure she'll come up too. Because I think she like popped back up in the news like a few years ago. She did at random Netflix. Oh, because Netflix. Because Netflix. Although you'll appreciate this. I saw a really funny meme that the conspiracy was that Netflix pays serial killers to do their thing so they can make a TV show out of it.
SPEAKER_00Hmm. So does that mean Diddy really did it? Ooh. Ooh.
SPEAKER_03Next week on the Beauty Files.
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