From Football To Tequila: Finding Connection In Everyday Interests

We explore how showing up for each other’s interests—sports, spirits, gardens, and family—turns endurance into connection and curiosity into love. Shared values, willing support, and playful learning help us build traditions with each other and with our kids.

• shifting from endurance to sincere support
• learning football together through questions
• embracing hockey by seeing joy through new eyes
• building a tequila ritual and connoisseurship
• naming family as a shared top priority
• Cheekwood traditions without resentment
• bonding with Tristan over WWE and reciprocity
• reframing sacrifice as access to each other’s joy

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Transcript

SPEAKER_00 0:08

Welcome back to Relation Smith. I'm Jamie Smith here with my lovely wife. I was gonna say assistant. My lovely wife, Stacy.

SPEAKER_01 0:19

Hi everyone. This podcast is a space where we share our relationship and the conversations we're having. Sometimes about hard things, sometimes about lighter ones, but always with the goal of staying connected. Thanks for being here.

Common And Uncommon Interests

SPEAKER_00 0:32

Yeah, thank you for being here. We just want to give a shout out to Zoe from last week. Thank you so much for coming in and hanging with us. Thank you. Yeah, I love you so much. And thank you for the conversations that you that you got started with us and uh the questions. It was phenomenal. And we appreciate you and your awesome husband, Tristan. We're gonna be talking today a little bit about common and not so common interests. And the reason I even just kind of like rolled right into that is because there's an interest that we're gonna have this weekend with Tristan. He is a huge WWE fan. And and so this week we're planning on, I guess it's uh Royal Rumble. So he's gonna come over and we're gonna watch it together, and Stacy will endure most of it.

SPEAKER_01 1:29

I'm happy to have them here. And he's bringing Zoe too, so yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:34

So that's kind of one of the things we wanted to talk about today, right? Is you know, we've been talking about different aspects of relationship, the the things that worked, the things that didn't work, the things that are working for us. And one of the things that we love about our relationship is our common interests and actually even our not so common interests, right?

SPEAKER_01 1:59

Right. Yeah, the inj the things that we don't share necessarily.

SPEAKER_00 2:05

Right. And and the reason we want to kind of talk about that in the relationship aspect is there's you know, I was talking to some friends of mine, and you know, they I use this term with you that they've never said they've others they've said other things, but one of the terms used in doing something I really don't care about, but I do it anyway, you know, and then you ask me, hey, you know, well would you rather do this with me or not? And I was like, well, I'd actually rather rather roll around in mud. Rather roll around in mud than do these things, but I do them because I love you and I want to partake in your joy.

SPEAKER_01 2:51

Well, and when that came up when we were not in the moment of me asking you, will you do this with me? It was in a moment of talking about, well, how do you feel about doing these with this with me? And you were like, Well, if I'm being honest, I'd rather roll around in mud.

Learning To Love Football Together

SPEAKER_00 3:10

That's right, that's right. So, and that's kind of what we want to just talk a little bit about today. Some of the things that you have, and I say endure real lightly because you you actually have found joy in the things, and same with me, with you. Some of the topics, like I am a huge football fan.

SPEAKER_01 3:32

Big football fan.

SPEAKER_00 3:33

I I mean, not to the degree of some of these people, you know. And what I mean by that, and you know what I mean by these people, I'm don't paint my face. You know, I don't we're not judging that. We're just I'm not judging. That's just not me. It's just not, you know, those are fanatics, you know. I I have my favorite football teams. And there are two, and I know some guys will be like, oh, you're a fair weather fan. Um no, I enjoy both these teams, even when they have horrible years, horrible seasons. And but I grew up in Florida. I am a huge Tampa Bay Buccaneer fan and a huge Miami Dolphin fan. I know the players, I know the coaches, which, you know, there's a lot of you know, who's gonna be the coach of this team and that team, and you know, there's a lot of mix-ups this year.

SPEAKER_01 4:26

Yeah, some movement going on there.

SPEAKER_00 4:27

That's right. And you know how much that just brings joy to my heart for you to say something like that. That I know that, that you know that. And and and let's be frank, when we first met, it was Super Bowl. It was a Super Bowl about to happen, and the Tampa Bay Bucks were were gonna be in it with Tom Brady. Right. And and so that's when we first started dating. And so that was your first time experience with me watching a sport that I enjoy. And also you kind of getting to know, I mean, you you knew football, you know the very minimal basics, just that there was a football and there was an offense and defense, and there were coaches, and there were players. That was pretty much it, right? I mean, you didn't watch it a lot when you were a kid, right? Or growing up.

SPEAKER_01 5:23

Uh I didn't watch it a lot, but in high school I was a cheerleader, and our cheerleading coach didn't make us understand the game. We had to understand the game so we could call the correct cheers.

SPEAKER_00 5:38

I gotcha.

SPEAKER_01 5:38

So I did understand offense, defense, what that meant, how to tell when that was happening.

SPEAKER_00 5:45

Right.

SPEAKER_01 5:46

So I had that at least that much knowledge of the game.

SPEAKER_00 5:50

Yeah, and so I played football ever since I was like eight or nine, ten, something around that time. And I played football all the way through my high school life. And and I loved it. I enjoyed it. I was like Napoleon Diamond Dynamite's Uncle Rico. If the coach would have put me in in the fourth quarter, we'd have gone to state, you know. I'm not that bad, trust me. I was it wasn't like that, but it's kind of like we live vicariously through that, those teams. We it brings us joy, blah blah blah. So you ended up seeing this, and this was the kind of thing. You have some people that will be I hate football, I want nothing to do with it, or I'll sit here and endure it, you know, but I would I'm gonna go, I don't know, whatever you want to go do. I was gonna say something very chauvinistic, but I'll I'll keep that on the lolo. Okay. You know, knit sweaters. So I'm speaking my age. Anyway, so but what I found what was kind of neat is that you in your inquiring mind you sat there and asked questions throughout the whole game, which was fine. First of all, I was blown away that you actually sat there with me. And and were like, and you were excited about it. You're like, oh, Super Bowl, all right, let's go, you know. What are we gonna have for food, you know? And and you know, and it was just neat how you came over and uh I was living in an apartment at the time, and you came over and you we we hung out, and you're like, so this guy does this, oh, what is that call? And all of a sudden there was this inquiry that was going on, and and instead of me getting like just let me watch the game, I was just because finally somebody wanted to watch a football game with me, you know, and and not just sit there and endure it, but sit there and be into it, you know, and and find out what's going on. And and and I was I was beside myself. I was so like so into the fact that you were asking questions. And and then what was happening, you would ask questions that I really would didn't know, but I had to act like I knew. And so I'm like, uh, you know, well, this guy's doing, you know, and I would make up something probably. Um typical. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 8:36

That was so early though in our relationship. I mean, I think that was our first week of dating.

SPEAKER_00 8:41

Yeah, yeah, it was, and so it just grew from there, right? And I thought to myself, this woman, we just started dating. I am like totally blown away by her already, you know. She's taken my breath away in so many occasions in so many different situations, and now she's she likes the sport that I like. And it wasn't necessarily that you like the sport that I like, but you love hanging out with me.

SPEAKER_01 9:11

I do love hanging out with you, and I I feel like it's a little unfair. I mean, that was our first week of dating. Of course, I'm gonna show up to the super watch the Super Bowl with you that your team is in. Of course, I'm excited for you. Your team's in the Super Bowl, right? And and people that don't care about football watch the Super Bowl. And then I had a whole what six months to get to know you before the next season started, right? That's right. By then I was in love with you.

Embracing Hockey Through Each Other

SPEAKER_00 9:43

So there you go. There you go. Uh but it was so cool, it was so neat, and it kind of the reverse thing happened as well. Story, you love hockey. I love hockey, you are a huge hockey fan. Me, I I didn't, I didn't not like it, but I didn't really didn't understand it. And so I was like, hey, if I got free tickets to a game, I'll go. You know, it was always like that. And but you were like, Go preds, you know, Nashville Predators. You had your jerseys, you had, you know, you're just you're like all in, you know, and I remember seeing that in your profile, your our dating profile. You forgot about that. Yeah, you had a picture with picture of me with Nash. Nash, the mascot. And uh, I was like, okay, she likes sports. I didn't think about it at the time, but yeah, huge. So I would go, and I remember our first day. Time going. Do you remember that? I do. I I wanted a jersey. Oh, we were dating maybe a couple weeks, maybe a month. Yeah. Okay, so I remember going there and I'm like, okay, I I've already set aside a certain amount of money to buy a jersey. And I here I am, old school thinking. The last time I bought a jersey, and I'm thinking like a bucks jersey or something like that.

SPEAKER_01 11:11

Y'all, he was not prepared for the price tag on that jersey.

SPEAKER_00 11:14

Oh, it was like I'm thinking it's a hundred bucks, 120 bucks at the most. And I was like, you know what? I set that money aside. I'm like, okay. And then you know, I I was newly single at the time, so I'm trying to budget. I'm trying to learn how to do all this budgeting and and figure all this out. So I'm like, but I'm dating this hot woman, and I I got I'm I need to kind of impress her. So, you know what? I think I I think while in Rome, I'm gonna get a Nashville jersey. And so I pick it out, look at it, she's like, Oh yeah, that's great. Yeah. I'm like, all right. So I think earlier I looked at a different jersey and it was like 150 bucks. So I'm like, okay, I'm in the wheelhouse. Man, I took it up there and they rang it up, and it was 290. It was almost 300 bucks. Yeah, it was almost 300 bucks.

SPEAKER_01 12:09

We didn't we didn't know each other uh well enough yet for you to be honest.

SPEAKER_00 12:14

Yeah, no, I was not honest.

SPEAKER_01 12:16

I went like, yeah, I got this.

SPEAKER_00 12:19

It popped up and my my heart just went boom. And I I kind of looked at her and she was like, whoa. And I was like, Man, I got this. I'm like, I'll figure I just won't eat for the rest of the week. And I I got that jersey, and I still have it today, and I still wear it proud. Okay, yeah. What's the name of the the guy, Ren Reen? How do you say his last name?

SPEAKER_01 12:48

Pekka Rene.

SPEAKER_00 12:50

Say it again.

SPEAKER_01 12:51

Pecca Rene. I'm probably saying it wrong too. It's a hard name.

SPEAKER_00 12:55

Okay. Anyway, that's the one thing I don't like about hockey, is I can't pronounce anybody's name. Anybody's name. So I'm like, if if this guy's going over here. Now I understand the logistics behind it now. You know, I understand the offsides, I understand the icing, I understand a lot of this stuff. So I'm really into it. But I I just wasn't, because I didn't understand it, I wasn't really that into it. But what I saw and her, she's like, whoa, screaming and and like, let's go. She's doing all the chants, you suck, you know, and doing all of the It's a different side of Stacey. Oh my gosh. And she probably thought I wasn't enjoying myself in the first few times we went, but I was like, I was, I was quiet because I was watching you. And I not in a creeper way, just FYI. It was in a it was in a way of like I'm ex I'm having fun because I'm actually seeing this game happen through her eyes. I'm experiencing her joy. And even though this is not my sport, I'm beginning to love this sport because of the love that she has for it. And it was really neat. It was as neat to, and now five years later, we still, when we go, and now I get into it, and now she's like, she's like, oh, settle down. We have a good time. Yeah, we have so much fun. We meet new people. I mean, the last time we went, we met the uh uh manager at one of the bars downtown. And oh yeah, yeah, he was really cool, just yeah, he was yeah, and he was just going nuts, and he was like, he was really interested in us, we were in it. He brought his staff, his whole staff, and it was so cool. But that was one of the things I loved is being able to see you through that, and so for me, buying into that and I know a lot of guys are out there gonna say, Oh, it's a sport, that's why it was easy. Sure, I'll take that. But for me, the biggest reason was is that man, she was had so I enjoyed it because of how much she enjoyed it. And was hockey my sport? No. No, I mean, sure, you always root for the hometown. When I was in Tampa Bay, I rooted for the hometown Lightning, you know, and and when they would play, you know, I would secretly kind of root for them, but I would be all over Nashville whenever. But but yeah, that was that was one of the biggest things. What are what are other some things that what about some common things? What do you think about what are some common things that you and I've discovered when we first started dating?

Becoming Tequila Connoisseurs

SPEAKER_01 15:51

Well, we did discover that we both have an interest in tequila. Woohoo! I kind of grew up. My parents were you know, tequila drinkers, margarita drinkers. There was often a picture of margaritas in the fridge. Right. And so that was easy for me. But I've been a fan of tequila for for a long time, but it's been only since really since I've known you that we well, so I was into it, and then we met, and you were interested in learning more about it. So together we've learned a lot. Right. We've tried a lot. We've got a list that we keep of all the tequilas we've tried and whether or not we liked them, whether we think they'd be good in a drink, or could just neat, or and and we've even and and this was something that had wanted to do for a long time, but finally got to do with you, which is actually visit tequila, Mexico.

SPEAKER_00 17:00

Right. Yeah. That was awesome. Yeah. That was an experience of a lifetime. It really was. And so, but the thing is, is you were you had an interest in tequila. It was your spirit of choice, right? Right. It was, you know, you liked your margaritas, you know, that was kind of your thing, right? And for me, I really hadn't drank since before my first marriage. I that that was my first real I mean, I experienced a lot when I was younger uh in my early twenties with my friends and stuff. But I mean, that's college age, right? So you're not you're not drinking for the taste. Right. You know, well what do we say now? We we we don't shoot tequila.

SPEAKER_01 17:49

We don't shoot tequila. We drink it like growth. We drink it like grown-ups. We don't shoot it, we drink it like grown-ups.

SPEAKER_00 17:55

And so, but I remember from those years, that was some something that was one of the ones I actually enjoyed, you know, drinking. And so whenever we first got together, I had already started kind of experimenting a little bit with trying it again and trying to figure out what spirit I like, and nothing against bourbon. I mean, we live in we l we live in a whiskey bourbon state, you know, and this is no discredit to them. If it's it's whatever your palate will receive. If you're a wine drinker, great. If you're you know, tequila, vodka, which I don't understand vodka drinkers, but okay. But you know, so but that was the other thing, is that I was able to be as an adult find a common interest with you and have a sophisticated aspect about it, not a adolescent type of just fling with it, right? And so when you had this same interest, I was like, okay, I want to know more about it. Where does it come from? How's it distilled? How are how you know what what makes what are the flavor notes? What does that even mean? I never even experienced anything like that before. And so as I would dig deeper, you dug deeper with me, and then you you had brought up an anniversary. We were talking about anniversary. Where are we gonna go to for our anniversary? We're gonna go here, there, you know. We were talking cabo or maybe a cruise or whatever, and then you were like, Man, I've been wanting to go to tequila, Mexico. I'm like, there's a place called tequila, Mexico. I'm in. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 19:56

And uh it was a trip of a lifetime, honestly. And I mean, not that we're not in a rush to get back there. A lot of and some people do go time and time again. But it was amazing for us to get to be there.

SPEAKER_00 20:14

Yeah, it smells like cooked agave, which is if you don't know what agave smells like, it's almost like a sweet potato.

SPEAKER_01 20:20

Similar.

SPEAKER_00 20:21

Yeah, cooked sweet potato, but it's the whole town smells like the streets.

SPEAKER_01 20:25

It's amazing. Yeah. And getting to tour the the distilleries, I mean, we we we got to tour, I think, four of them. Right. Fortalezza was our favorite.

SPEAKER_00 20:35

Fortalezza is the best.

SPEAKER_01 20:37

Yeah, I mean, just this just the way they operate and everything's handmade, and they're very they just respect every person who works there, no matter what their role is, and that I really admire.

SPEAKER_00 20:51

From the farmer all the way to the guys in the everything in the distillery. I mean, it was amazing.

SPEAKER_01 20:58

Yeah. And we we toured La Rohenia, which is Jose Cuervo, the Jose Cuervo distillery.

SPEAKER_00 21:05

Not a fan.

SPEAKER_01 21:06

Yeah, we're yeah, we're not a fan of that tequila, but the distillery, just the history there was just really interesting.

SPEAKER_00 21:12

Well, it's the oldest distill distillery out there, isn't it?

unknown 21:17

I don't know.

SPEAKER_01 21:17

I don't think that's a good idea.

SPEAKER_00 21:18

Didn't they say they were the the first ones that really kind of got tequila on the map?

SPEAKER_01 21:24

Hmm. I feel like I'm reluctant to say that without knowing for sure.

SPEAKER_00 21:32

This is unofficial information. This is not fake news. This is just from what we remember.

SPEAKER_01 21:37

But but it was a really great experience.

SPEAKER_00 21:40

Yes. Yes. And then we got to visit our very favorite tequila that we like to drink. It's at Activo.

SPEAKER_03 21:48

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 21:49

And we got to go. Uh they got a castle. It was kind of more or less this castle. Yeah, El Castillo de tequila or something. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 21:58

And it was more about the venue than the actual distillery.

SPEAKER_00 22:02

Yeah, we didn't get to see much of the distillery. We did get to see them filling bottles, which was cool. What's all that to say is that that common interest was something really cool. That wasn't something that we just both said, yeah, we like. It's something that we were like, you know what, let's dive in this together.

SPEAKER_03 22:18

Right.

SPEAKER_00 22:18

I've never thought in my life that I could actually legitimately call myself a connoisseur on something. And you and I have become connoisseurs in it. And I'm actually we we actually talk to people about how you can tell there's additives in it, you know, and and all the all the knowledge that we learned about, we actually get to pass on to people, and that's so much fun. So much fun. So that was one of the things. Well, another common interest that we both had is family.

Family As A Shared Priority

SPEAKER_01 22:50

True.

SPEAKER_00 22:51

We are we love our family. Yeah. And we love our kids, we love our parents and and extended families and and I think it's not to say I think there's a everybody loves their family, right?

SPEAKER_01 23:08

But I think that well, maybe not everybody, but just to have a family as almost your almost your highest priority.

SPEAKER_02 23:23

Right.

SPEAKER_01 23:25

That I think is less common than people might expect.

SPEAKER_00 23:29

Right. Absolutely. Yeah, and and and to see to see how she interacts with her family and meeting them for the first time and then her meeting mine. It was it was really cool because that that's one of the things that we found that it was a common interest of both of ours is that our vision for the future, you know, is a shared vision.

SPEAKER_01 23:56

Yes. Of our family.

SPEAKER_00 23:58

Of our family, you know. I can't wait for grandbabies. I mean, we're in that, you know, we're getting close to that stage of life of of grant being grandparents, and I'm excited.

SPEAKER_01 24:09

I'm excited to see you be a grandparent.

SPEAKER_00 24:12

Yeah. Oh, can't wait. You're gonna be the best. I'm gonna be the best grandpa. I literally want to be the grandfather that they all want to get.

SPEAKER_01 24:21

You will be. I'm not even gonna try to compete. Hopefully they'll love me too.

Cheekwood, Traditions, And True Support

SPEAKER_00 24:27

Y'all they will. They will. They'll see how much I love you and then they're gonna love you the same. But yeah, so that was another thing. So some of the other not so common interests Cheekwood. I mentioned this earlier.

SPEAKER_01 24:41

Yes, and you did a terrible job of explaining what it is, which is fair because it's not something you're it is not my thing.

SPEAKER_00 24:48

So I apologize to Cheekwood. That isn't uh I do endure for her, and I I do think it's beautiful at times. Yeah. You know, do I feel like I'm seeing the same thing over and over again? Yes, but that's my take. Share what you think about it.

SPEAKER_01 25:06

Well, so Cheekwood is a historical estate here in the Nashville area that has a mansion and it has gardens, and Jamie called it botanical. There is a small botanical area.

SPEAKER_02 25:23

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 25:24

But it's mostly about the grounds and the garden and then the mansion. In the mansion, there's revolving exhibits and then there's permanent exhibits. So I I don't I really can't explain why I love Cheekwood. But I do love having a membership there. I it's it's kind of a thing. I love to go walk up to the window and say, I'm a member here.

SPEAKER_00 25:53

Last time we went, we went with her mom and and j Zoe and Tristan and her mom's friend, and we all went together and and she went right up to the thing and she goes, Hello, I'm a member. I'm a member here.

SPEAKER_01 26:09

And I met I know those people working the ticket window could care less. They're nice about it though. Yeah, they're like, Yeah, you and 6,000 other people coming. Right.

SPEAKER_00 26:20

Right.

SPEAKER_01 26:21

But they're nice about it.

SPEAKER_00 26:22

Right. But this is one of the places that I said that I would would probably rather roll.

SPEAKER_01 26:27

Yeah, you would never go there if it weren't. On my own?

SPEAKER_00 26:30

Yeah, no. No, no. Nope. No.

SPEAKER_01 26:33

But I just think it's beautiful. I love the way that they do. It's really the first place in Nashville that I knew of that did a Christmas light exhibit.

SPEAKER_00 26:44

That is kind of cool.

SPEAKER_01 26:46

And I gr where I grew up, they that was something that I love to do is visit the Christmas light exhibit and then move to Nashville, and nobody was doing that. It was weird. And then Cheekwood started that I think about eleven or twelve years ago. And so pretty much gone, I think, every year.

SPEAKER_02 27:05

Right.

SPEAKER_01 27:05

And so that's become a tradition for me at Christmas time is to see the Cheekwood lights and and then they have seasonal, there's always a pumpkin exhibit uh in the fall.

SPEAKER_00 27:17

A lot of pumpkins, yeah. Tulips in the spring. They make houses out of pumpkins.

SPEAKER_01 27:21

Yeah, yeah. And there was, you know, like I mentioned, the revolving exhibits in the house, and and so there's always something cool. Every season there's something cool. So I just enjoy going and Jamie will go with me if I do try to save it if we are getting company. Yeah. Because it's kind of a cool thing to do if you don't live around here. Yes. And then he doesn't have to go and he very much appreciates that.

SPEAKER_00 27:47

Oh, I appreciate that so much. But but again, just like the hockey, I enjoy it because I'm I'm literally enjoying your joy.

SPEAKER_01 28:00

You're right.

SPEAKER_00 28:01

You know, I, you know, and it I don't do it as a chore.

SPEAKER_03 28:05

Right.

SPEAKER_00 28:06

Right? When you ask me, I'm like, yeah. Yeah, if that's what you want to do. If that's what you want to do, I'll do it. You know? And and that's the thing. I do it, but the reason I do it is because I would rather go and experience her joy. Because she let's just face it, as you guys have been listening, she brings me joy. So whatever brings her joy is gonna bring me joy, right? And so that is one of the reasons I go without reluctancy, without any, you know, oh okay, you know, you know, because because then what happens? What happens? Uh, if if I go, fine, I'll go, then you're like, it's not fun for me. Right.

SPEAKER_01 28:59

I don't want to go with you.

SPEAKER_00 29:00

Because now you've got this perspective in your head the whole time, and it's not a perspective, it's a perception, in your head the whole time that you that I would rather be somewhere else.

SPEAKER_03 29:11

Right.

SPEAKER_00 29:12

And so your joy doesn't come out because now you're stressed, you have anxiety, you're you start getting irritated, probably because I'm irritated.

SPEAKER_01 29:22

Well, and feeling defensive, feeling very trying to make it be amazing for you, right?

SPEAKER_00 29:28

Which it's never gonna be and and and so there's this whole expectation that's happening, which is unnecessary, right? It's and and if I'm going for you, not because you're making me, but if I'm going for you because I know it brings you joy, then that's off the that pressure's off of you. Now you get to walk around and I can look at you, and you're looking at some display, and you're intently looking at it, and you're smiling at it, and I can see, I can see that light come from you. And for me, that that's worth it. Yeah, that makes all the difference in the world. And trust me, fellas, when I tell you, if you make her happy and you don't pour that stress on, she will just rain love on you.

SPEAKER_01 30:28

Yeah, well, and that's what honestly, that's what makes it so easy to sit and watch football with you. And I know, you know, I don't mind watching football. Here's what I mind, and you know this, this is not a surprise to you. When we're on our third game of the day, yes, and I'm like, man, when we go to Cheekwood, it's an hour and a half, we're in and out. We go to a hockey game, we watch one. It's still three hours long. But it's one.

Wrestling With Tristan And Bonding

SPEAKER_00 31:01

So, but and no offense, because I do have two games, two, two teams that I watch. Yeah, and usually there's always a there's a there's a good game that and does not involve my teams, and we end up watching it. So yeah, it's like almost three hours or three games. Three games. So nine hours of football.

SPEAKER_01 31:22

So sometimes on the third game, I'm like, babe, I'm gonna peace out. And he's like, Yeah, that's that's cool. That's fair.

SPEAKER_00 31:29

That is so fair, absolutely.

SPEAKER_01 31:31

But I don't back to what I was saying is I don't mind watching it with you because I know how much you love having me there with you. How much it means to you that I'm sitting there with you and I'm cheering or that I'm involved in the game. You know, either I'm paying I'm cheering or complaining at the same, you know.

SPEAKER_00 31:58

That wasn't a pass interference.

SPEAKER_01 31:59

What? That wasn't pass interference. What? Yeah. No, no, he got that wrong. You sure did that. Or whatever. And sometimes, and to I mean, honestly, and and I've told you this before, sometimes I'm playing on my phone while we're watching. Sometimes, okay, secret ladies, sometimes I just react when he reacts. No, you knew that.

SPEAKER_02 32:21

You knew that I did.

SPEAKER_01 32:22

And and sometimes I r react and then I look at him to see if I did the right reaction.

SPEAKER_00 32:28

That was in the beginning. You don't do that so much anymore. Anyway, yeah, in the beginning you did that because I'd be like, yeah, and you'd be like, oh wow, that was great. And I'm like, you didn't see that. That's true. That does still happen sometimes.

SPEAKER_03 32:41

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 32:43

But here's the test. I don't know if you knew this or not. I think I'm just gonna spoil it right now. So when if the game's still on and I can't wait to go to the bathroom, I go to the bathroom and the game's still on. I can hear her in the other room.

SPEAKER_03 33:01

Woo! They just got a touchdown. Woo!

SPEAKER_01 33:05

Oh yeah, I'll keep them posted.

SPEAKER_00 33:06

Or whatever. And I'm like, Yeah. So I know that she's still watching it. So, so I I knew that there was you were, yeah, you know, because of that. I didn't come back in and the score was changed, and you're like, oh, I didn't see that. No, no, you you're pretty much on it.

SPEAKER_01 33:21

I keep you up to date.

SPEAKER_00 33:22

Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 33:23

But I do that because I love you and I know how much it means to you.

SPEAKER_00 33:28

Right. Right. It's more than just the game, you know? It's more than just sitting there. You know, it it's it's about that you are taking a valent effort into knowing me. You know, and you know, and I think that's that's true with like, you know, I was talking about earlier with Tristan, you know. I used to be a huge WWE fan, like way back in the day. I mean, when The Rock and Hulk Hogan and Steve, Stone Cold, Steve Austin, all these guys, they were in their prime, right?

SPEAKER_01 34:06

And if you didn't know Jamie's age before now, you do now.

SPEAKER_00 34:09

Oh, you do now. I'm talking Macho Man, Randy Savage. I'm talking about all of these guys. I was totally into this stuff, right? And and then there was a point in time in my life I just I kind of stopped. I kind of stopped watching it. I just kind of walked away from it. And and then Tristan, my bonus son, is what I call my my her kids, my kids, my bonus kids. He's her oldest. And I was like, one day, some it came up in a topic or something. I was like, oh, so you watched that? He's like, Yeah. I'm like, man, I used to watch that all the time. He's like, You want to watch one? And I can't remember what it was. I don't think it was WrestleMania yet, but it was coming up. And I'm like, yeah, let's do it. And so then he was like, Hey, you want to go to a Monday night raw? It's one of their events they had in town. And I was like, sure. You know, so but I was kind of like, sure, with this whole thing, like, oh boy, I'm about to go watch this wrestling, right? And and I'm like, but I want I want to get this out, I want to find this common interest with him. You know, I love this kid, I want to get to know him more, you know, and so I went, and I had a great time.

SPEAKER_01 35:30

You guys had a great time.

Sacrifice, Joy, And Mutual Care

SPEAKER_00 35:32

Oh, we were yeeting and I got video, y'all. And we were, man, we were having such a good time. I I left there on such a high with him of excitement. But my biggest thing was what got me is watching how much he got into it. He was hollering, he was doing the music, you know, singing the songs and stuff, and and I was just so excited. I was I was so excited about how he was getting into it, and it got me excited. And now that is almost his and I's tradition now. When a main event is about to happen, he comes over, which this weekend is about to be Royal Rumble. We were gonna watch that, and and and and I try to keep up with it. I don't watch it as much as he does. I do watch some of the highlights and stuff, but I I enjoy talking to him about that stuff. And and to me, and I hope he feels the same way, is that this is something that him and I have, and I and I love being able to experience this with him and and see that joy, and I feel like it's gotten him and I closer because of it. But again, it's it's one of those things, and you know what? I wanted to bring this up. It uh I'm talking about common interests in relationships, right? Him and I's relationship, he did something for me not too long ago, and and and I think it ha a lot had to do with how him and I built our relationship on the the wrestling and this common respect that we started having for each other, and I was watching one of my football games, and you couldn't watch. You had to do something, and you were actually doing something with Zoe, I believe, and he came over and he sat and watched the whole game with me and didn't just sit there and watch it. He got into it with me too, and he was he was like, Woo, did you see that? And I was like, Wow, this is amazing. I mean, he spoke to, I guess, whatever it is, the love language, you know, it's a the certain dialect of it, and it just it meant so much. Yeah, and I feel like there is this if we could just remember, regardless if it's your husband, boy, you know, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, son, daughter, mother, father, cousin, whatever, relationship across the board, if we can remember that the essence of that is sometimes, and I and I hate to use the word, and maybe you can help me come up with a different word, sacrifice. If we sometimes can just sacrifice our own self, you know, yes. Do we want to do things that make bring us joy? Absolutely. Do we want to do things that don't really bring us joy? No. But if that person brings you joy, that's what you should focus in on.

SPEAKER_03 38:48

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 38:49

Not the event or whatever it is that's taking place, right?

SPEAKER_01 38:54

I find that it feels like less of a sacrifice because you're getting to experience their joy. And because you love them, their joy is your joy.

SPEAKER_00 39:04

Right. Right. And that's what you know, you were talking about how you you know, we have this sitcom that we w watch every once in a while called New Girl. And I just think it is the funniest thing in the world.

SPEAKER_01 39:18

Okay, first of all, it's not just about New Girl. This man laughs so easily at TV. Just yes. And I don't, I don't laugh easily at TV. Uh like I get the joke internally, I'm like, hmm, okay. But he laughs. And anyhow, the point is I love his laugh. And so I get joy out of hearing him laugh at the at the show.

SPEAKER_00 39:46

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 39:46

So sometimes I just look at him and listen, and that brings me joy.

SPEAKER_00 39:50

Yeah. And sometimes she's not even interested in the episode or whatever it is. But man, I I do. I laugh at that. Anything. I just I don't know. It's just one of those things. I I love I love laughing. I love joy, you know. And I think that's what kind of just drives me.

SPEAKER_01 40:14

It's one of the things I love about you. You just have like this childlike avail availability to joy.

SPEAKER_00 40:22

Right.

SPEAKER_01 40:23

And I admire that.

SPEAKER_00 40:25

Well, thank you, honey.

SPEAKER_01 40:27

You're welcome.

SPEAKER_00 40:29

So anyway, I think that we oh man, there's so many things that we could talk about that but I think the the heart the heart of it is is relationship.

SPEAKER_03 40:43

Right.

SPEAKER_00 40:44

If we can get down to and I understand there are a lot of people that have been been hurt. There are a lot of people that have been bullied. I mean, I I remember laughing as a kid, and people telling me, My gosh, do you have to laugh so loud? Or you're that's ridiculous. That wasn't even that funny. Why are you laughing at it? You laugh at everything.

SPEAKER_01 41:12

You laugh too much.

SPEAKER_00 41:13

Yeah, and I remember that that was hard on me, but that was the one thing it didn't change. It didn't change me, right? And I think if we could remember that the heart of the people that we love, if we can remember that they if we're trying to find joy in love in the people that we are with, and sometimes that means putting ourselves aside and partaking in someone else's joy. Not reluctant, not because that's their thing and not mine, but in putting ourselves aside, and I think we talk about that so often, you know, in our podcasts is taking a look at a mirror and saying it's not all about me. If I'm if I'm choosing to be in a relationship with this person, I have to make this relationship not always about me. I have to make it about the other person.

unknown 42:31

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 42:32

And I think in order to do that, sometimes we need to just go with the flow and experience the joy through their eyes, through their lens. Right?

SPEAKER_03 42:48

I love that.

SPEAKER_00 42:49

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 42:50

So true.

Gratitude And Listener Requests

unknown 42:52

Awesome.

SPEAKER_00 42:53

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