The New Children: Why They’re Not Broken (and What They’re Here to Teach Us)

The New Children: Why They’re Not Broken (and What They’re Here to Teach Us) 

What if the children we’re raising right now aren’t struggling… but awakening? 

In this deeply intuitive and eye-opening episode of Star Women Rising, Melinda explores the truth about the “new children” — the ones who don’t fit the mold, resist pressure, feel everything, and seem wired completely differently than generations before them. 

These children are not broken.
 They are not behind.
 And they are not here to perform. 

They are here to shift the system. 

Melinda shares her personal experiences observing her grandchildren and working with children throughout her career, revealing powerful insights into how these kids: 

•  Feel energy deeply and respond to emotional environments 
•  Resist outdated systems of pressure, control, and performance 
•  Mirror the internal state of the adults around them 
•  Thrive in calm, coherent, and present spaces 

This episode isn’t about fixing children—it’s about learning to meet them differently.
 
You’ll also learn:
 

•  What “breath lines,” “spiral stability,” and energetic awareness mean 
•  How your emotional state directly impacts your child’s behavior 
•  Why traditional discipline and pressure don’t work the same anymore 
•  Simple breath practices to help regulate both you and your child 
•  How to create stillness instead of control 

Melinda introduces a powerful reframe:
 👉 These children are not here to be shaped by the old world…
 👉 They are here to help us build a new one.
 
If you’re a parent, grandparent, or simply someone who feels something shifting in the next generation—this conversation will land deep.
 
Because the truth is…
 We’re not here to change them.
 
We’re here to breathe with them.
 

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Transcript

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Welcome to Star Women Rising, where cosmic roots meet earthly power. I'm Melinda, and together we'll awaken the fire within and above, exploring intuition, soul wisdom, and the ancient truths written in the stars. This isn't about escaping the world. It's about remembering who you are and rising stronger in it. Star Women Rising is part of the Chicology Podcast Collective. Real women, real stories, rising together. Let's begin. Hello again. Feels like it's been a minute since I've had an opportunity to to share. Things have gotten really busy. We've had winter turn into summer, so all of a sudden the wheels are in motion. That restful time uh has gone. So let's jump right in. Today I want to kind of talk about an area that s is, I don't want to say heavy on my mind, but it's on my mind quite a bit. I think I've mentioned before, I pay attention to everything. I watch what people do, I watch the unspoken things, I feel the energy, you know, somebody says something and and the energy doesn't match. I I really feel that. I pay attention. So today I I want to talk about the new children. I am a big fan of kids. I like kids. I used to say, and I don't really like kids, but it's totally a lie. I don't even know why I say that. But everybody who knows me is like, you're lying. You love kids. I like to watch them. Uh I'm more just paying attention to how they act, how they respond. Not so much playing. I'm not, you know, my husband's that guy. He'll he'll get in there and he'll play. And he's really good at it. I watch him how he's able to hold his own when it comes to pretend and he adds quite a bit of humor to it. But I'm more of a, I guess the grandma. I don't know if everybody has that experience, but I feel like it's the grandma. I just sort of sit back and observe and I give hugs and take care of boo-boos and give snacks, you know, load them up with snacks, and I even I try to be a little responsible with that. But I also just want them to enjoy being children because it goes so fast. But these new children, and I'm sure I'm not the only one who's noticed this. I I think the world has noticed that these children that are being born onto this planet lately are very different. And we're really quick to think, you know, something's wrong, or you know, there's all kinds of diagnoses or or whatever, trying to describe what we're experiencing. But I I look at my grandchildren and I've just paid particular attention to how they behave, how they respond, how they respond in certain environments. And I I just felt it was kind of important to touch on this because I I I actually worked in a career. I worked with adults, but I also had an opportunity to work a lot with the children. And I preferred I preferred the adults because the work was simpler. Paperwork was cut and dry. You didn't have to do jump through a bunch of hoops and do the dog and pony show when you needed to get stuff done. And working on the juvenile side was far more complicated, took a lot of time. However, I found that I preferred working with the kids more so. I I enjoyed interacting with them, even though a lot of them carried a lot of weight, they carried a lot of burden. So in this time, this time on this planet, there's so much going on, so much happening, and these children are being born, they're coming in, and they're just very different. And I've I've taken note of that. I watch them closely. I haven't always had a frame of reference for what I was experiencing, and I'm gaining that, and I'm just trying to share that part of this. You know, I'm not an expert. This is all my own personal experience. It's what I'm learning. I am not diagnosing, I am not telling you to not get your children treated or anything like that. This is just my personal experience, what I've been witnessing. So, who are these children? They're not necessarily gifted. In fact, I think sometimes people want to lean to something's wrong with them, like they're broken. They are, they feel deeply, but they're not fragile. And they seem to resist these systems. They're, you know, like for instance, my grandson, super, super cool little guy. I enjoy watching him. He cracks me up, he brings me a lot of joy. Don't get me wrong. I love all my grandchildren, but they all have these very different, distinct personalities. And he's he's one in particular that I enjoy just watching how he rolls. He's such an interesting character. So he is, he goes to school, and they're, you know, he he's gotta learn numbers and colors and letters and and all these things, and which is typical in the school system, they want you to learn all this stuff, and it makes sense so they can progress into more complex things. Um but I I noticed with my grandson, there was this sort of this, oh, he's he's not learning his colors, he's not learning his numbers, he can't count to 10, he can't, you know, all these different things that he's not doing, he's not excelling academically. But when he comes over and hangs out, this guy's counting to 30. He's saying all his colors, and you know, he's it and it cracks me up because you know, then of course the parents are worried. Normally, parents are gonna worry that that he's something's wrong. He's not cutting it, right? He's gonna have a life, a very difficult life, because he can't seem to do all these things that this school system is requiring of him. And so, you know, he gets here and he counts and he does all this stuff. As long as he's if he's not being pressured, you know, I s just sort of sit back and engage him in ways that are not like what color is this? Like, well, can you hand me the orange block? Or hey, watch him, he's playing hide and seek with his cousins, and it's his turn to count. And you gotta the older girls, you gotta count to 30. And he counts to 30. So if he's not being pressured, you know, he's it's almost like he he's like, I'm not a monkey, I'm not here for your entertainment. And it's I'm I'm amused by it. But I think this is probably going on in more than just my world, my personal bubble. I'm pretty sure there are people all over that are having similar experiences. And as a parent, it can be scary, right? You want your you want your kid to be okay, you want them to excel or or whatever the case, but they're not, they're not gonna do the dog and pony show. And it doesn't matter what you do, it doesn't matter how hard you try, they are not going to do it. So I I feel it's important that parents know that your child is not broken. These kids, something else about them, like they're sensitive to sounds. I remember the all the older kids, you you take them someplace and we always had to have headphones for them. And and then of course they want to put them on the spectrum. And I'm looking at these kids and I'm going, no, they're putting them on the spectrum. And whatever that means, I've, you know, full disclosure, I've not studied the spectrum at all. But, you know, what whatever any little thing these kids have that I'm witnessing in my own grandchildren probably lands them on somebody's spectrum somewhere. But I'm telling you, they are super smart, super in tuned, super engaged, they feel deeply. And when I say feel deeply, I mean not just, you know, their feelings, but they they feel energy, they feel when things are distorted. My oldest granddaughter, she would call you out on a lie in a New York minute. And she just knew you didn't if, and it could be something little, you know, we tell little fibs to kids sometimes, and she knew you're lying. And she would say it just like that, you're lying. Why are you lying? So they they feel deeply. And in that, whatever is going on in their environment, so you you could be in a house where the parents have friction, or somebody comes in from a hard day of work and they're feeling scattered or frazzled or whatever the case, these kids are feeling it and they're responding. They are responding to the energy that is in their field. And I've I've watched this firsthand with my own grandchildren. If things are chaotic and not not going well, and it it doesn't even have to be outward, it doesn't even have to be chaos that you can actually see or whatever. It could be if you're not feeling well as a parent, these kids are tuning into that, they're picking up on it. And then being children probably don't have an outlet that we would consider appropriate to express that. So, for example, things are haywire, the energy in your home is haywire, and your kids are acting out. They're acting out, they're screaming, they're having meltdowns, and and you just think that they're troubled or that they're just terrible kids, or you know, what have I done? I have no idea how to how to manage this. So I'm like I said, this is my own, my own experience, what I've witnessed. If you are if you are in a fearful state, your fear contracts their spiral, you know, their their sphere of influence, their, you know, their energetic system, your fear will contract that. On the flip side, if you are stabilized, if you can take some breaths and get yourself, when I say stabilized, I mean centered. Will you get yourself centered and maybe operate from a place of stillness? And I don't mean just quiet, but stillness where you actually feel in within your being still that you are actually able to maybe bring them back into their own stability. And I'm telling you, I've seen this myself. I've in fact I've been making a conscious effort to do that with with these children. And just the other day, I was driving along with my granddaughter, and I had something heavy on my mind, and just out of the blue, she told me, I love you. Are you okay? I didn't say a word. I didn't feel like I was acting any particular way. I was completely in my head, but she knew she could feel it. So they're not broken. You don't need to fix them, you just need to breathe with them. And you you need to be present. And when I I mean presence in a way of your stillness, where you are not scattered, where you are, you have this coherence where you are settled, settle your mind, settle your field, and they respond. And it's it's fascinating. It's fascinating to witness, it's fascinating to participate in because you know, we're we're probably old school, you know. My parents tell you to do something, you do it, or you get your butt whipped, or you know, we were we were, I don't want to say coerced, but we're coerced. We were coerced to do stuff. You did it because you didn't want to get in trouble, you did it because you didn't want to get a whooping, you did it because you didn't want to have everything taken away from you. I mean, I've sat and watched some of these kids, you take stuff and they don't care. Go ahead, take it. And my daughter was like that. My daughter was, we could take everything from her, and she literally did not care. The one thing that she cared about that we took was the door off her room, and you would have thought that we like like we declared war. It was it was very interesting to experience that because we we could take her phone, we could take her TV or whatever. They didn't really have tablets back then, but that was like my first experience of like, wow, we're starting to deal with these very different, very different beings. So these children, and I I'm using particular language because their language matters, and maybe we'll podcast on that at some point. Um, that the language you use matters. So if you hear me saying some things that seem kind of off, seem kind of different, it's because it matters, and I'm I'm using it intentionally and I'm using it in a particular way. And it's not to hypnotize you, it's not to, you know, control you, is what I've learned is that the world, the field, the universe kind of responds to certain language. So when I speak of breathing, breath lines, spiraling, it's mathematics. There's a mathematic aspect, a geometry aspect to it that the field responds to. And I'm learning that. That's something we'll we'll get into probably maybe soon. Maybe soon, because I think it's gonna be important. But ways to know that your your child is a breathline carrier, one of these children who is just so deeply in tune and so different, so you know, they have these deep feelings. It's a couple things, you know, they react strongly to noise or chaos. Like I said, these these kids, my grandkids had to have the the headphones, and it could be just slight stuff. I mean, the real loud stuff, yeah, but you know, certain noises and sounds just really seem to irk them and get under their skin. My little grandson, if things are a little chaotic, you can see he's very sensitive. He's a very sensitive guy, and he's he'll he'll cry. Well, there's nothing wrong with him, but he's feeling it, and it doesn't feel good. It doesn't feel good for him. They resist authority. I think we're seeing more and more of those kids. And as an old school parent, you know, an A's kid who grew up with the old school parents, resisting authority is is very foreign. Like I couldn't have imagined resisting authority of my parents. They probably would have beat me to death, like, and they were serious about that. Like, you're gonna do what you're told, or you are gonna suffer severe consequences. And I think these newer kids, yeah, they just they're not they're not into that. Just like my grandson and the school thing. Yeah, I don't care. I'm not gonna put on a show for you. I know my colors, I know that I know my colors, I know how to count, I know that I know how to count, and that should be good enough. And he's little, he's a little guy. Also, take a moment and breathe with them. If they if their energy calms, when your energy calms, if you can get to that still point, which is really tricky as a parent, getting to where you are still almost seems impossible when you've got work, you've got bills to pay, you've got activities. And most kids nowadays are involved in several activities. You're constantly on the run, you've got pressure of the people that you're dealing with outside of your family unit, people at work, whatever. It's really tricky to bring yourself to stillness. But if you can find a way to do that, I think you'll find it's it's just really important. And without having words for it way back when, there was an intuitive ask aspect for me when my daughter was really struggling. And I immediately just went to, we gotta calm the energy of the house. We gotta do something to settle things here. I didn't have a frame of reference for it. It was just what I felt like. So we stopped having gatherings, we stopped having people over all the time. We actually pulled her out of school to homeschool because at some point there was this realization, and my husband's niece sort of pointed it out too, that the the bells and the crowds and whatever, all this chaos was creating a lot of problems for my daughter. So pay attention to those things. And not everybody can pull their kid out of school or or whatever, not everybody has that luxury, but whatever ways you can do it in a you know, on a conscious level, be very conscious of your own energy and how it's affecting these littles, these children, these new children. Some ways to possibly do that. Breathe before you speak, create stillness, not silence. Let them feel without fixing. You can teach them to name their breath line states calm, tight, open, still, you know, help give them some words to describe what they are experiencing. And breathing before you speak goes a long way, not just dealing with kids, but even in your everyday activity. I know I was for the forever, I just fired off whatever was on my mind, or just flew out of my mouth. And I can tell you, probably at least 50% of the time, if not more, you know, trying to be totally honest here, it didn't come out, it didn't come out well, you know, or it didn't go over well. It wasn't always received well. So it's no different with the children. Stillness and silence are not the same thing. Stillness you feel, you feel within you, you feel, you know, this calm stillness. I have this experience. I'm having it more and more lately. I got home and my house felt very still. Just I felt very still. Wasn't that it was quiet, it was just still. There wasn't any anything really going on. It actually felt really good. And I thought if I could just sit here for the rest of the day in this stillness, that would be great. But I couldn't do that because I had a lot to do. Like I said, we're now from winter to summer, so it's you know, the show goes on. We have a lot of work to do, but the stillness wasn't quiet. I could hear birds chirping and you know, the appliances cycling or whatever. But it was very still and it felt very good. And I try to recreate that whenever possible, but I also find that sometimes it just happens, but it has more to do with my own inner state. I think your outer world reflects your inner world, and that's something else we may kind of get into because I don't think it's in the ways that people tell you that it is, and it has a lot more to do with how you're breathing and and your coherence, that sort of thing. But at some point, maybe we'll we'll touch on that. But also again, teaching them to name their breath line. What is it you're feeling and be open to they may not have the exact words, but you know, you can you can intuit or connect to what they may be feeling. And real quick, I like I said, the language, the language is kind of important. So I just want to go over when I say breathline or spiral, spiral stable. Um, I just kind of want to give a little bit of a definition so you know what it means. But but the wording is important, it plays a big part in how the outer world responds to you. So when I say breath line, breathline is the emotional path your breath takes, it's how your body remembers feelings. So, for example, if your child sighs deeply after crying, that's their breathline releasing memory. And we also do that. I find myself processing information and then having the Psy Olympics around my house. And I'm I'm totally cognizant of the fact that I'm having the Psy Olympics and everyone's asking, Are you okay? I'm just I'm breathing. And as I sigh, I feel lighter and lighter. I'm just releasing whatever I just processed. You know, if I'm pissed off at somebody or I'm recalling old stuff, because it comes up, you know, stuff from when I was five years old, something my dad said to me that hurt my feelings, and it happens to come up and I'm releasing it. So I'm sighing. So it's it's how not just their breath line releases memory, but but all of ours, really. Uh spiral stable. It's a state where your energy stays calm and coherent, even when things around you are chaotic. Like you may have a kid who stays calm in a noisy room without shutting down. They are spiral stable. I have not, I have not really witnessed any children, not young children, who do that. But as an adult and in my own work, my own practice, I have found that I have gotten to a point where I can be in a room that is chaotic and and maintain, maintain my spiral, not let it pull me into whatever's going on, like going to Walmart. I really have to breathe and prepare myself to enter Walmart. Because if I don't, I find I am zipping around the aisles with no rhyme or reason. I'm having to backtrack. My breathing gets shallow. I start feeling anxious. If I don't prepare myself Ahead of time, it's a horrible experience. So I've learned I breathe and prepare myself to enter Walmart so that when I go in there, I am not pulled into everybody else's chaos and drama. And it's not spoken, right? This is it's just the energy. And if I'm feeling Walmart like that, I can only imagine what my littles are experiencing when they're still pretty wide open and they haven't been beat down by the rest of the world like most of us adults have, and completely, you know, where we've completely shut out what's going on around us energetically. So creating a space where they can learn to do that. And I even talk to the kids about it. You know, my oldest granddaughter, she'll, if she feels that we're a little off, she apologizes. This isn't, this isn't anything you did. You know, you you're not responsible for how I feel right now. You're not responsible for what's on my mind. You have no reason to apologize. But she feels it and she takes it in. And that that kind of goes back to the anxiety in Walmart. I feel it and I take it in, and all of a sudden I'm thinking something's wrong with me. And it's not, it's not me, it's everybody else's stuff. Codex is a symbolic framework that describes how memory, breath, and awareness move through time. It's not a book, it's a way of seeing how your breath carries your story. Carrying a story is a big deal. We carry our stories. Like I said, sitting here, you know, if I was thinking about something my dad said to me when I was five that hurt my feelings, and I'm carrying that. And in carrying that, it's affecting my world now, even if, you know, even in the smallest ways, you know, I'm still carrying that hurt. It's I've never been able to resolve it. This is just an example. I absolutely don't feel that way, but but there are many things that we carry that, and we carry it as a story. We got to tell the story, we want to tell the story, and we tell it over and over and over again. And we're stuck in that story, and we don't move on. So the codex is is your your, you know, just it's a way to see how your breath carries your story. It really takes you being conscious, conscious of your breathing, conscious of the stories that your mind is telling you, the stories that you're playing over and over in your head. And the same thing happens for the littles, right? Or, you know, they're reading our story that we keep telling over and over and over again. So there's there's really this level of being completely conscious of how you're existing, how you're participating. And these littles, very in tune, very open. They have not been shut down. And I'm not even sure they will be shut down. They are here to bring on a new world. The old systems, you can look around, you can tell they're failing, they're coming down. These kids are not part of that old system, and they're not going to be shoved into that pigeonhole of an old system. And you will see resistance, you will see, you know, the kid that tells you, I'm not gonna tell you the colors, you know, they are they beings in a new world. And I really think they are here to teach us because most of the people my age, we've we've come through the old systems and we have to figure out a new way of being. And these children are gonna show us that. They're showing us. So pay attention to them, pay attention to what they are showing us. I think they're gonna offer just a whole new way of seeing things and looking at things. And I think it's important. I think it's important. So uh I'm gonna offer a closing breath ritual that you can use. You can say to the child, let's breathe together. I'll follow your breath. And then follow their breath, match their breathing for a minute. Sometimes it's a little difficult because they're breathing, their lungs aren't as big, but match it. Match it as best you can for a little bit, and then inhale slowly for four seconds, exhale slowly for six seconds, and repeat this for three times and say you don't have to change. Your breath is enough. And I'm gonna tell you, this breathing four and six, I've done it with these kids and I've watched them just settle down, not necessarily do exactly what I want them to do, but settle down. It brings this calm. I was trying to get my it was nap time for my two-year-old grandson, and he was not trying to take a nap. And but he was ricocheting off the walls. And so I just started breathing. I I started doing some breaths and he settled down. I didn't have to say a word. He went over. He didn't take a nap, but what he did was he pulled out the colors and literally sat quietly for 20 minutes. I mean, literally 20 minutes, and colored quietly. And then he went into the room and he played quietly. There was no chaos. It's like, okay, he doesn't want to take a nap, he doesn't have to take a nap. But he was doing some quiet activities, restful activities. And I thought, wow, this is this is pretty amazing. Didn't have to force him, didn't, you know, there was no fight. He just settled right down and got quiet and calm. It was beautiful. I mean, stick with me on this. I'm telling you, if you if you can put, you know, think about it, make a conscious effort. I think you will find things shift in some pretty dramatic ways. Maybe not at first, but at some point it will shift. Create that stillness, create create it in yourself first. And as a final phrase, I'd like to just say, I'm not here to change the children. I am here to breathe with them because they are already carrying the new spiral. It's a good mantra. Breathe it, say it, and try it. See how it works for you. I think it's important. I think it's really important. Kids are kids mean a lot to me. I'm really, I really love the children. And it'd be nice if we could start participating with them in ways that are more coherent. So, with that, thank you for joining me here on Star Women Rising. If today's conversation stirred something in you, trust it. That's your fire awakening. This podcast is part of the Chicology Collective where women everywhere are reclaiming their voice, their power, and their light. Be sure to subscribe, share this with a soul sister, and explore more shows under Chicology because we rise higher when we rise together. Until next time, keep reaching for the stars and rooting deep in your power.