130 - Keeping The Spark Alive When Life Won't Slow Down

Life gets busy. Between long work hours, raising kids, endless responsibilities, and trying to keep up with everyday life, finding time for each other can feel nearly impossible. In this episode of Limitless Table Talk with Fern and Nat, we share our honest experiences of navigating marriage when schedules are packed, energy is limited, and quality time often has to wait for the weekend.

Join us as we discuss practical ways to stay connected, keep the romance alive, laugh through the chaos, and remember why we chose each other in the first place. We’ll also talk about how our faith helps us stay grounded, strengthens our relationship during difficult seasons, and reminds us that God is at the center of our marriage.

Transcript

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Welcome back to Luminless Table Talk. Where sometimes the sparks fly. Sometimes they don't. I'm Fern.

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I'm Nat. So grab your favorite. Why you make me laugh in the middle of me talking?

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Because I do.

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So grab your favorite cup of coffee, pull up a chair, and let's talk. Cause sometimes the biggest adventure is just surviving the week with your relationship intact.

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Yeah.

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You know, Fern, keeping because I don't know what that was about. Anyways, keeping the spark alive in a relationship isn't always about fancy date nights, I think.

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This is true. Sometimes it's just about finding a little time together after a long day.

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That's limitless at Sunset Tattoo Parlor 305-7108413. Now let's get back to today's conversation and keep the spark alive when life gets busy. But first, let's cue the music.

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That's your favorite part, isn't it?

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It is.

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Nice. Okay. And you danced and all that throughout the whole time.

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I like it.

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It's catchy. It is. It really is. It's a good talk. Alright. But facts. Today we're talking about something a lot of couples struggle with. How do you keep the spark alive when you're working long hours, raising kids, and barely have enough energy to just fold the laundry?

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Forget folding laundry. Half the time it's clean clothes. Just to let I'm all jacked up today. I can see it's been a day.

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Oh my god. Wow. Oh, we're just gonna forget it.

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So you I'm just I'm just in a pig.

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You know, I was thinking about clean clothes and then folding. And then things happen.

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You spoke. You opened your mouth. That was it. You just want to lighten the basket. You know, you know what? If they're clean, they count. That's what I say.

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Exactly. We're lowering standards and raising happiness around here. That's what I'm talking about. And we ain't even speaking blah blah.

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No, that's just you mostly. I only did it once. But anyways, so let's see. When we first got together, spending time together was so easy, I think. We could go out whenever we wanted. Late night dinners, movies, random adventures.

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When we got married and had kids, everything requires planning. Like most relationships, now the planning is checking schedules, arranging rides, figuring out who's picking up who, and hoping nobody gets sick.

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That is true. Because you never know, especially like when you have kids already, everything changes. And and for us at this moment, one of the biggest challenges for us is our work schedules.

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Preach on, Sister.

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What is wrong with you today?

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Oh yeah. I I work crazy long hours, and by the time I get home, it's usually super late.

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Like really, really late.

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I'm not working through the I can't with you today. Stop. What is wrong with you?

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Everything. Everything.

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Ah, Lord help me. Okay. Are you okay now?

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No.

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Oh my god. Is this gonna be the whole entire episode? Because I don't know if I can handle this right now.

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I don't know. I may put on that helmet and just forget it all.

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Stop it. Anyways, we're trying to talk about spark and keeping it alive.

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I'll tell you what, we keep it alive daily.

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All right.

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We got sparks the moment I walk through the door.

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Anyways.

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So listen, I'm not I'm not walking through the door at five o'clock, ready for a pam family picnic.

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I can't take you seriously. I can't take you seriously.

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Are you ready?

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Who's having a picnic at five o'clock?

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Apparently regular people.

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Alright, alright. So no, seriously. By the time Fern gets home, dinner is done, house is packed. I don't know where it's see now.

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Where's it going? I don't know. Oh my god. Where's it going? I meant it's not going anywhere. I meant it's picked up.

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Is it now?

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Oh my god, I can't stop. Now you have me doing it. I can't even concentrate. Okay. The house is picked up.

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Yeah.

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Like, I'm already winding down. The dogs are finally whining down.

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I don't think so.

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And sometimes we're already getting ready for bed when you're getting home.

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Yeah, so our weekday time together is usually very extremely limited.

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Yeah. And proving that love can survive the work schedule and whatever mystery item is currently growing in the back of that refrigerator.

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Who knows? I thought we agreed to never discuss the science experiments in the fridge.

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If it has its own zip code, we're gonna discuss it.

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Fair enough. But seriously, sometimes going out during during the week isn't an option for us.

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Which is good because by the time you get home from work, most restaurants are closed, and I'm already in pajamas.

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It's not just pajamas. The nobody better ring this doorbell pajamas. You know what I'm talking about.

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Well, the comfy ones are sacred for me. Just saying.

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So we started doing what we call the five-minute rule.

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Yes, we started doing what's called the five-minute rule. So we're gonna share it with peeps.

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Basically, take out your notepads, maybe a pen.

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Yeah. It might help another relationship.

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It it may help us stay on track this time.

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We don't follow that. Anyways, basically, when Fern gets home, nobody grabs a phone, nobody starts complaining about the bills, and nobody immediately starts discussing who forgot to buy the toilet paper. Usually it's Fern.

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It is always me. Not the point. The point is we actually spend five minutes just talking, just catching up.

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Like actually talking. It sounds very simple to others, but it's actually amazing how often couples skip that part.

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You know, I gotta be honest. Sometimes it's the best conversation I have in a day, as opposed to like, what treat do you want? Because usually that's the conversations I have during the day.

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Okay. Anyways, sometimes it's did the dog eat another sock?

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Which is still quality communication.

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Any type of communication you have. As long as you stick to five minutes and you don't talk about bills, um, like who forgot to do what or anything like that. And don't talk about the kids for those five minutes just about yourselves. It is good. It's quality. It does, it has it helps.

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Yeah, I think social media has convinced people that keeping the spark alive means expensive dates, surprise vacations. I like those, and giant romantic gestures like those ridiculously oversized stuffed gorillas. You know you've seen those in the those teddy bears.

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What are you doing to the microphone? Stop everything.

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Stop it.

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So the myth uh the myth of the perfect date. Night. Meanwhile, real couples are celebrating because they got ten uninterrupted minutes just to talk. Because that's hard.

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Exactly.

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Some of our best conversations, let's see, happen in the kitchen while cleaning up, washing dishes, or fern trying to put everything in the dishwasher the wrong way.

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Jeez.

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What do you do? I'm just saying.

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Jeez.

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I'm just saying it happens.

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Sometimes the good conversations happen in the car. Like when we're on our way to nowhere.

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That is true. Or while grocery shopping also, those help.

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Or our wonderful trip to Tarjay without the kids, which feels like a luxury vacation.

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Oh my god, it really does. By the way, will you stop playing stop playing with it? Put it down. Put it down. Stop playing with the microphone.

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I can't help it.

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God me.

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Sorry.

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My goodness. Anyways, it really does. No matter how old your kids are, whether they're little, teenagers, or even in their twenties and they come shopping with you. It really feels like a luxury vacation. And they always try sneaking things in.

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I know.

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At any age.

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All of a sudden they forgot their wallet or they don't have money.

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Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

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It doesn't change, guys.

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You know, when you're adult. When you're What?

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You have a face that you wanted to sound poetic. It wasn't coming out.

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I was gonna say, like, you know, you know you're an adult when walking through Target holding hands is considered quality time.

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Okay, in all honesty, half the time I'm holding your hand because I don't want to lose you because you get lost easily, and I pull you away from the toys. But those little moments matter, you're right. It can be done without kids or with fern. Target has a lot of cool stuff. It does.

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All the time.

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It does. I mean, I feel like I spend more when I'm with you, but I guess whatever.

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You're welcome. I always show you all the cool stuff they got.

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Okay. Anyways, and then there is the what I call the weekend pressure. First of all, weekend should be a lot longer than two days. But, anyways, that's just me.

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Facts.

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Because Fern works so much during the week that weekends become really important to us.

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But that creates another challenge.

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It's more of a pressure.

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Exactly. You spend all week looking forward to the weekend, and then suddenly you feel like you have to cram every single thing into two days.

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And like family time.

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House projects.

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Errands.

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Activities.

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Trying to rest. Trying to spend time together. Trying not to spend money. That's the hardest part. Yeah. Thank God you admit that. And before you know it, it's Sunday night and it has arrived that you're getting ready for bed for your work. And you're asking, wait, where didn't the whole weekend go? Sometimes I'm like, I feel like I've done a thousand things, and it's like we've done two. And the weekend has gone by. But, anyways, it it just doesn't, it goes by too fast. We've learned that not every weekend has to be packed.

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Sometimes the best weekends are the simple ones.

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Like breakfast together.

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Watching a movie.

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Going for a walk.

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Getting ice cream and hot dogs.

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That was a weird combination, but okay.

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Two things that I like.

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Or if you haven't small kids, I guess. If you have small kids, you you can sit outside with them while they play. There's some people that do that. We don't like the I don't like the outside. Like it's too hot where we live. It is warm. To be outside.

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It is warm.

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I can, you know, no.

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I never remember But I do like doing stuff outside.

SPEAKER_00 13:21

Well, let's see.

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I'm always outside.

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Yeah. But our youngest, when he was younger, he played sports, so we did enjoy doing that. But that was just sometimes, remember, you used to buy the slip and slide. Remember the slip and slide?

SPEAKER_05 13:33

Yeah, I do remember the slip and slide.

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You put it together and they were like weird.

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They would run and get injured. And I'd be like box underneath.

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Yeah, I'd be like, if I threw myself on the floor on a slip and slide, I'd definitely get injured. But anyways, but yeah, if you have small kids, sit outside with them.

SPEAKER_05 13:52

Yeah, take them to the park.

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Yeah, that's I mean, I feel like the park gets hot too. Some of these parks don't have colours.

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You know what? Just give them toys and have them be outside. And then you look at them through the sliding glass door. Be like, hey, how are you? I'm in the nice cool air. Cool, cool, cool, cool. Cool, cool. You're still good? Alright, cool.

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I'm inside.

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I'm inside. Are you having fun out there? Cool. Cool, cool. You want some hydration? Cool, cool.

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And then you open the sliding glass door just a little bit just to speak to them. What do you need?

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You need some water? Okay, okay.

SPEAKER_00 14:30

Talk fast. The AC's coming out. That was my mom growing up. Like, hurry up. What do you want?

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Must have been nice to have ACs on.

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Oh my god.

SPEAKER_00 14:41

You stop it. Stop it. You did not grow up in.

SPEAKER_05 14:44

We weren't allowed to turn on the AC sub rooms. We had the individual ACs in the rooms. So, like, only if you were in the room could you turn on the AC.

SPEAKER_00 14:56

Okay. I can. That's a whole other topic for you.

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Yeah.

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Yay for childhood.

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Anyways, let's get back to this. Romance. Then versus now. How about that? Let's play a game.

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Oh, is this a kachau? Yes, it's a kachau.

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You're gonna have to get your own little kachow sound. I'm gonna get you a soundboard. Chow. Alright, romance. Then versus romance now.

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This should be interesting.

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Then long romantic phone calls.

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Now. Can you stop at the store? It's a text.

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Sending then at the time? Love letters.

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Now sending memes. I I love sending your memes.

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Yeah, you do all the time. Um, let's see. Back then, candlelight dinners.

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Now eating cold food because we fed the kids first. Oh, yeah, all the time.

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And we still do that. Yes. Like, I'll make breakfast on the weekend.

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Yes.

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My food is cold. Anyways. Um, then staying up all night talking.

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Now. Fighting to stay awake through one episode of a TV show never happens.

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That's you.

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It is. I didn't say it wasn't.

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You didn't specify who. It's not me, it's you. Anyways, then I can't wait to see you.

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Oh. Now. Did you remember to pay the bill?

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And that is true love right there.

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Things change, things evolve. We grow older, wiser, and we learn. Yeah. I think we're like fine wine. As time goes on, we just get better.

SPEAKER_00 16:43

Okay. So what really keeps the spark alive? What's the secret?

SPEAKER_05 16:49

I don't know. I think it's uh I don't think it's one thing.

SPEAKER_00 16:56

Okay, I agree. It's not one thing. I agree with that.

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I'll say this. It's probably choosing each other every day.

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Even when we're tired.

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Even when life gets busy.

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Even when the house is chaotic.

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It's laughing together.

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Checking on each other constantly.

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Making time when there is no time.

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And remembering that before we were parents, before the jobs and responsibilities, we were a couple.

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And that couple still matters. Wow.

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We were so good right there. That was really good. Wow. We just went with the flow.

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That was that was really good.

SPEAKER_00 17:42

That was good. I don't know if we would be able to repeat that. Like with the flow.

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Like no. I don't think so. I don't think so because I said because just knowing how this thing whole the whole thing started was a little wickity-whee.

SPEAKER_00 18:00

Yeah. By the way, I bit my cheek. I bit my cheek, the inside part of my cheek earlier, and now it's killing me. Completely off. Sorry. What? I did. I I bit my cheek and how did you do that? I don't know.

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How did you even manage?

SPEAKER_00 18:19

I don't know.

SPEAKER_05 18:20

Did you miss a bite?

SPEAKER_00 18:24

I don't know. Because I had a shake for lunch. So did you chew? I don't know. I really don't know. I don't know if it happened. I don't know. I so I have like a I don't know, like you know, have you ever bit the inside of part of your cheek?

SPEAKER_05 18:40

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 18:41

Okay. And now every time But it's usually when I'm eating something. And then every time you go to bite down, it bites it too, because now it's swollen in the cheek inside. I swear I'm not going crazy. It really is. That's why I keep making those faces, like because it's bothering me. I'm not just making like faces at you, not signaling at you or anything. It's just anyway.

SPEAKER_05 19:07

Well, that's disappointing.

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You are terrible.

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I mean, you know, it is what it is. Is what it is, is, is.

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You know. Anyways, I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I completely went off topic. I do apologize for that. But I just figured I'd let you know why I was making faces at you.

SPEAKER_02 19:34

Oh no, it makes sense. It it really does. Yeah, now I'm disappointed.

SPEAKER_00 19:38

Well, you know. I never said it didn't mean anything. I was just letting you know why I was making face. Why are you looking around?

SPEAKER_03 19:47

Go ahead.

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Okay. Anyways. So stop making faces at me. So, you know, one thing we can talk about when it comes to keeping the spark alive for us is our faith. For us, our relationship isn't just about the two of us. It's about keeping God at the center of our marriage.

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Absolutely. There have been seasons where work has been ridiculously overwhelming, life is stressful, and honestly, we weren't always great at making time for each other. But even during those times, which happen quite often, we are reminded that our faith and our marriage is a commitment, not just a feeling.

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That is that is very true. As we learned in one of our episodes, Disney tells us Disney movies tells us the spark is all butterflies and romance, or in Fern's case, little birds and romance.

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It is usually birds.

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But real life. Sometimes the spark looks like praying together when you're exhausted. Sometimes it's supporting each other through hard days, health scares, financial struggles, raising kids, and go on and on and on about.

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Let's be honest. Some nights we're so tired that our date night, quote unquote, is sitting on a couch in complete silence while trying not to fall asleep. Yes.

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But that's marriage. After years together, like us. But we've learned that God can strengthen a relationship when we invite him into the everyday moments, not just the big ones.

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One of my favorite reminders is that love isn't just something we feel, it's something we choose. Every day we choose patience, grace, forgiveness, and kindness. Even when we're tired, stressed, or running on to the reality. Hours of sleep, which I do quite often.

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Especially when someone leaves dishes in the sink.

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I knew that was coming.

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It always comes back to the dishes.

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But seriously, when life gets busy, it's easy to put your spouse in the back burner. Right?

SPEAKER_00 22:20

No, it's true.

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We found that praying together, even for a few minutes, helps us reconnect. It reminds us that we're on the same team.

SPEAKER_00 22:31

That is very, very true. It happens a lot more than others think that you put your spouse in the back burner. You're right about that. That was a good thing, babe. Thanks. And it doesn't have to be perfect. You don't need a long prayer or a Bible study that lasts three hours. Sometimes it's simply just saying, God help us get through this week and help us love each other better.

SPEAKER_05 22:59

It's true, man. Those small moments add up. They remind us that God is working behind the scenes, man, even when everything is chaotic.

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And that's something we've learned, like through time. It wasn't always like that. And mind you, this is just our experience how we have put our faith into our marriage and how it has helped us. If so, if you're listening and feeling like life has stolen some of the spark from your relationship, just remember this. God isn't asking for perfection, He's asking for faithfulness. Keep showing up for each other, keep choosing each other.

SPEAKER_05 23:41

Because when we build our marriage on faith, we're not relying only on our strength. Because that would be poopy.

SPEAKER_01 23:56

Did you just say poopy?

SPEAKER_04 23:58

Yeah. We have something bigger holding us together.

SPEAKER_05 24:02

Because we do. Because if we just did it our own, like we got nothing.

SPEAKER_01 24:12

I can't. Oh my god, I can't.

SPEAKER_00 24:18

You want me to follow up with that after you said that?

SPEAKER_04 24:22

How will you? That's the question.

SPEAKER_00 24:25

Okay. No, it doesn't make sense what I was gonna say with after you said poopy, but okay.

SPEAKER_03 24:32

What?

SPEAKER_01 24:34

I was gonna say that's what helps the spark survive.

unknown 24:43

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 24:44

That's what helps the spark survive. Busy schedules, long work days, parenting, and all the unexpected twists life throws our way like you just did right now.

SPEAKER_04 24:56

That's right. Amen to that. Because sometimes sometimes life is poopy.

SPEAKER_01 25:07

Please stop.

SPEAKER_04 25:08

It really is.

unknown 25:09

Oh my god.

SPEAKER_00 25:11

Stop. Alright.

SPEAKER_04 25:12

So when you choose to do it a different way, it just wipes it right off.

SPEAKER_00 25:17

Oh my god, stop it! What is wrong with you today? You're out of control. This is why I don't let them go out in public, guys. This is true. I have to keep them home. Can't let them go anywhere. But you know, all kidding aside. Well, not really, not kidding aside. We're already in it. Whatever. Anyways. Enough making everyone emotional with with everything. Let's get back to our the fun stuff, which we're already apparently at. So I can't hold on. Alright. Stop, because you're gonna make me cry from laughing. Okay, well.

SPEAKER_02 25:57

Sorry.

SPEAKER_00 25:58

Anyways, I already forgot what I was gonna say. Okay, so keeping the spark alive, we're just taking this time, being ourselves, and doing this podcast. And as you can see, I mean, we just laugh. It's genuine, it's not once in a while.

SPEAKER_05 26:20

We're like monkeys.

SPEAKER_01 26:22

What?

SPEAKER_05 26:22

Throwing poopy.

SPEAKER_01 26:24

Will you stop? What is wrong? What is your obsession with poopies or poop or whatever?

SPEAKER_04 26:29

I got you saying it.

unknown 26:30

Oh my god, Lord help me.

SPEAKER_04 26:33

It's because sometimes it's tough. Sometimes life could get kind of poopy.

SPEAKER_01 26:40

First of all, we're talking about keeping the spark alive. Why do you keep talking about life and is poopy?

SPEAKER_05 26:46

Because sometimes it's tough, so you have to figure out how to make time for each other.

SPEAKER_00 26:51

And poopy comes into one now. You have me saying, and darn it.

SPEAKER_05 26:55

You're welcome.

unknown 26:56

Oh my god.

SPEAKER_00 26:59

I can't. I can't even think. Stop. Okay, stop. Stop for real. Stop. Okay. Okay. So remember, guys, try the five-minute rule. Try talking for five minutes. Um, spend quality time together without the kids and then with the kids. It because it's important not only as a couple to be together, but as a family is important. Stop.

SPEAKER_05 27:27

I'm not I didn't even say a word to you.

SPEAKER_00 27:30

I'm you're looking at me like I know you're just dying to say it. I know you're just dying to say the word. I know it. Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_05 27:40

Not saying anything. Just I'm letting you letting you go.

SPEAKER_00 27:45

You hear that beeping noise, right?

SPEAKER_05 27:47

It's weird. I don't know where it came from.

unknown 27:49

I don't.

SPEAKER_00 27:52

Anyways, um now you're looking at it.

SPEAKER_05 27:56

Is there like an old school like Casio watch up in here?

SPEAKER_00 27:59

Beep beep beep beep.

SPEAKER_05 28:00

It's so weird.

SPEAKER_00 28:01

I don't know. That was very strange.

SPEAKER_05 28:04

Okay, go ahead.

SPEAKER_00 28:05

Anyway, sorry. Okay. So it's important to keep the spark alive as parents as well in a family because you're a team at the end of the day as well. You're a mom and a dad, and you're a husband and a wife. Anytime now, Fern, you want to jump in?

SPEAKER_05 28:24

Also, like remember, after you raise your kids too, you're still a couple.

SPEAKER_00 28:30

Oh, yeah, that's true. And we're learning that.

SPEAKER_05 28:33

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 28:34

Because the kids get older and they do their own life, which is what we raise them to do. That's what we're taught. At the end of the day, it's just you two. And if you don't work on your relationship now, while your kids are little and while they're growing, what's gonna happen when the kids are older and create their own life? It's the two of you. Now you have nothing. Because Fern's dying to say it. You have no communication with each other. Right. Because you haven't worked on your your relationship or your marriage.

SPEAKER_05 29:13

Is is raise kids.

SPEAKER_00 29:17

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 29:17

And not spend time with each other.

SPEAKER_00 29:19

That happens a lot. We have heard it. It happens a lot. They focus you focus so much on the little ones, you don't fo you forget about yourselves.

SPEAKER_03 29:28

Yep.

SPEAKER_00 29:29

And it's important to focus on each other.

SPEAKER_05 29:32

You do.

SPEAKER_00 29:33

Because you're not an I anymore. You're a we.

SPEAKER_05 29:37

That's right. And if you think of it the different way, it's poopy.

SPEAKER_00 29:43

Can't stand you, anyways.

unknown 29:48

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 29:49

Maybe or maybe not. So if you're telling, I'm sorry. You see, you you can't do that because now you have thrown me off. You're welcome. If you're feeling like life is too busy, you're not alone.

SPEAKER_05 30:03

Most couples aren't struggling because they don't love each other.

SPEAKER_00 30:07

They're struggling because they're exhausted. The spark doesn't disappear. It just looks different now. Sometimes the spark is a date night. Sometimes it's bringing home your spouse a favorite snack.

SPEAKER_05 30:22

You're welcome. Sometimes it's making each other laugh after a really long day, poopy.

SPEAKER_00 30:30

I've had a long day. I really have. You're right.

SPEAKER_04 30:34

That's why. This is just you know, we're just having a good time.

SPEAKER_00 30:37

I've had a long day. I've had a long week. It's all a blur, but I appreciate you making me laugh. And sometimes it's just simply sitting together on the couch and enjoying a few quiet minutes before the chaos starts all over again.

SPEAKER_05 30:52

Those little moments add up, poopy.

SPEAKER_00 30:56

We stop saying poopy, my god. Oh my gosh. So thank you guys for joining us on another episode of Liminous Table Talk with Fern and Nat.

SPEAKER_04 31:11

If you'd enjoyed today's conversations, don't forget to like, subscribes, shares, and leave us a reviews.

unknown 31:21

What is that?

SPEAKER_00 31:23

Until next time. Oh, follow us on Liminous uh Liminous Couple 3.

SPEAKER_01 31:29

I can't. I just can't.

SPEAKER_05 31:31

Follow us on Instagram.

SPEAKER_01 31:32

Yes. We're hot mess today.

SPEAKER_00 31:40

But you know what? We're leaving it just like this because this is us. This is really us. We're not cleaning this up. No, we ain't. This is limitless table talk chaos. We are always about chaos because it's unscripted.

SPEAKER_06 31:54

That's it.

SPEAKER_00 31:55

Um, just us, basically, having a conversation while we drink some coffee or Fern drinks his monster or whatever we have going on. But, anyways, yes. So please follow us on Instagram, Limitless Couple305. And until next time, keep talking, keep laughing, and keep living life without limits.

SPEAKER_04 32:20

Period.