Can good sex be currency?

Even for those not in the sex industry, Good Sex is a currency and peopel are naïve to think that it is not .Sex is transactional. Why not turn that orgasm into an opportunity? 

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Hi, Angeli Clemens here, and welcome to the Can I Borrow Your Skin podcast. This is May, and we're gonna switch it up and do something a little, I don't want to say fun because some of the topics aren't that fun, but we are talking about sex. And with the topics of sex this month, we're gonna talk about some things that aren't generally brought up in major mainstream things when they're talking about sex. And so I'm hoping to one start some conversations that probably should be had, and two, maybe educate people a little bit on some things. Now, today we are talking about good sex being currency. And before I get too far in it, I want to be clear that I am not discussing the sex industry, uh, sex workers of any sort. And it's not because I have any opinion about, you know, sex workers in the sex working industry, it's because that's honestly not what I'm just talking about. And it'll become very clear very soon. So, sex as a whole, outside of the sex industry setting, is still transactional. So, whether you're talking about a coochie certificate, dick deposits, flacio futures, uh Cunalingus credits, however you want to look at it, when you are having a sexual relationship with some, whether it is your partner, whether it's a situational ship, an entanglement or whatever bullshit people are calling it nowadays, I am married. I have zero clue what y'all are calling that stuff nowadays. But at the end of the day, if you're having a sexual relationship with someone and it ends on good terms, then those positive feelings and memories can be hedged in the future. And what I'm saying is sometimes you can call up that ex and ask for an introduction to someone in a business setting or a personal setting. Get a foot in the door. Like whether you're trying to set up a business deal or something other, you can turn that orgasm into an opportunity. And even if, you know, what you thought was going to be forever turns out not to be forever, you can keep in touch with that person. Me personally, I am friends or at least cordial with people I used to date. And it's okay for me. If you have that kind of relationship and there's trust with you and your partner, and it's trust between them and their partner, or they're single, or whatever that case may be, it is okay. I firmly believe that, you know, people can be friends, whether you have uh you know same-sex attractions or heterosexual attractions or both, you should be able to be friends with whomever you want to be friends with as long as it's not disrespectful. So even though you are with this person and you're not going to them for the coming, you should still be able to go to them for the come up. Because at the end of the day, when relationships don't end badly and you don't hate that person that you bet it, why can't you turn a friendly relationship into something that can help you move forward? And I have a great example for you. One of my good friends, she is one of those people who attracts absolutely everyone. She is like a son. She walks into the room and she just irradiates positivity. And she is friends with just about every single one of her exes. I have never heard her talk badly about a person ever. And she wrote a book, and her book went bestseller within like two days because she had one of her exes, he was um a promoter, and he promoted her book on a couple platforms. He encouraged some of his friends to read the book, and if they liked it, to you know, put it on their platforms. And within, you know, a couple days, it was like all over social media. It was all over, it was over some small newscasts and programs and then like the in the community stuff. And it was amazing. Like I was absolutely impressed by how she was able to, you know, take a past relationship and turn that into a friendship that was beneficial for her. She hadn't dated that person in over a decade, but he was still looking out for her, and vice versa. She helped him with some stuff he was trying to learn how to garden, I believe, because he became a single dad and he was having a difficult time. And his daughter really wanted to learn how to plant flowers that her mom loved because they had like this huge flower bed that wrapped around their house. And I know this because she is not a gardener, but I am. And she's like, I need you to come help me with a bulb. And I'm like, a bulb, girl, change your own lights. She was like, No, no, no, a plant bulb. And it was like the middle of spring. I'm like, this is not when you plant those, you plant them in the fall for them to come up in the spring, and she didn't even know that. So had you know, went over with her, sat down with the girl that dad kind of hovered around to try to learn without acting like he's learning, and you know, had her pick out her favorite flowers, designed like how she wanted to look in terms of color and height, and you know, figured out what kind of pests they had in their neighborhood. So I know what I needed to put down when we planted the bulbs, because if you garden, you know that you when you put the bulbs in the ground, it's that time where a lot of foraging animals are looking for what they're gonna put away for the winter and they love bulbs. Bulbs are high in nutrition, and so as soon as you plant them, if you don't put down the correct deterrent, they will dig them up and your whole garden is gone. So, anyway, we planned out this entire garden. You know, went with her in the, you know, in the fall, like early September, and helped her plan everything, explained to her what we were doing and why we were doing it. And it was so cute because the dad got her like gardening clothes and she had her own spade and bulb. Like, you can get this tool where it you literally stick it down and you squeeze, and it pulls up the correct number of inches, and it has a hole big enough where you can just drop the bulb in. So she had her own little kit of stuff, and dad's out there too, and his he had on overalls, and it was it was hilarious. And so the four of us are out there and we're planting all of our stuff, and we get everything planted, put down some bone meal, keep away all the rodents, and put down some uh deterrent granules because they also had cats in the neighborhood, uh, some peppers and everything. And so got everything planted. She was so excited, and then as soon as the stuff started to sprout in you know, late March, early April, my friend contacted me and said, Thank you. I'm like, You're welcome. She goes, No, seriously, thank you. And she sent me a flood of pictures because every other day, this girl was out there with a ruler saying, It came up another half an inch. And by the time everything bloomed, like it was it was absolutely gorgeous. I got a video of her skipping around her yard talking about this was mom's favorite flower, this was her favorite color, this, that, and the third. And it was one of those things where they were, they used to be a couple, they were no longer a couple, but they were able to help each other in their lives, like her professionally, because her book really kicked off, and she ended up doing a couple tours with it, and him and his personal life where he was able to make the day of his daughter learn about gardening. I think a few years later they did an actual garden with food, but it was it was beautiful, and it it's one of those stories where you can absolutely use good sex as currency, and you know, I'm I'm sure it's you know useful in other ways. I I understand that there are some people that do it disrespectfully and things of that nature, and I do know there's some people that you know just do the friends with benefits kind of thing. I'm also not talking about that, I'm talking about relationship ended, it was on good terms, you guys could use each other for a come-up later in one way, shape, or form or another. And no one felt used. It's not like this manipulative type of using, it's literally like, hey, you scratched this itchery many years ago. I enjoyed it, you enjoyed it, we stayed friends. Why don't we do this thing for each other? And it's like, well, you run a gym and I need to get in shape, and so you get a free membership at the gym, or hey, I know you edit, I have this screenplay that needs to be edited. Can you point me in the right direction of someone who can do it economically, or can you do it? It's that sort of thing. It's like using this network of people that you've gained or persons, whatever, I don't know how many people you slept with, but using this network to assist you moving forward in one area of your life or another because you had a good time at some point in time in your life. It's it's amazing. Like, so don't discount if you are one of those people who are able to end relationships on good terms and you have this ability to help someone, or they have an ability to help you, why not use your good sex as currency? You know, see if you can cash in those dick deposits or those coochie credits, whatever, and have yourself a good time while doing it. Well, not like that though. Yeah. Anyway, not like that. I mean, like, have a good time with your next endeavor. Either way, hopefully you are gonna enjoy May. We're gonna cover a lot of other topics. And the reason why I think this is a topic that actually should be covered is I don't think a lot of people understand that the reason why some people are helping them is because of a past relationship and that it's okay. Like I think that it is looked at as taboo to one, remain friends with your exes. I don't understand why that's taboo. If you ended on good terms and there was no reason for you to be disparaging to this person, why wouldn't you be able to be friends with them? And two, being able to utilize that friendship like you would with your best friend. I think that those are all understandably good things. So we're gonna touch on a lot of cool things, in my opinion, here in May. Hopefully you enjoy them too. Put down in the comments where you've used one of your credits or your deposits uh to help move yourself forward in something, whether it's personal or professional, or if you have a question of whether or not you should. Because you know, every once in a while, you know, thinking about using that credit might be a little eh, and we can help you with that. Down in the comments, thank you so much. Like, subscribe, and follow. Bye.