El amor de pareja NO es incondicional

Nos vendieron la idea de que amar de verdad es amar sin condiciones. Pero en pareja, eso no solo es falso: también puede ser peligroso.

En este episodio hablamos de una verdad incómoda pero liberadora: una relación auténtica no se sostiene por idealismo, se sostiene por acuerdos claros, conversaciones honestas y actualizaciones constantes. Porque tú cambias, tu pareja cambia y el vínculo también tiene que evolucionar.

Exploramos por qué el amor de pareja no es incondicional, cómo identificar qué cosas son realmente importantes para ti dentro de una relación y por qué callarte lo que necesitas termina destruyendo la conexión. También hablamos de crecimiento, sexualidad, visión compartida, estándares, negociación emocional y el costo real de construir una relación feliz.

Este episodio es para ti si ya no quieres una relación heredada, tibia o sostenida por costumbre. Es para ti si quieres una relación diseñada desde la verdad, la libertad y la autenticidad.

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Transcript

SPEAKER_02 0:00

¿Cómo es eso que el amor de pareja tiene condiciones? Como diría Chad y Piti, lo que nunca nadie tiene.

SPEAKER_01 0:08

Construir familias más felices, más auténticas, más unidas, anda cambiar el mundo.

SPEAKER_02 0:14

El matrimonio como tal, el que firmas el papel, fue creado por un tema de negocio.

SPEAKER_01 0:18

Es demasiado positivo qualification and what are the conditions with the quadratic. My pareja is contigo those.

SPEAKER_02 0:46

Bienvenidos and an episode del Club del 1% Podcast. A ver, bienvenidos and hoy tracking unit that puede seriously controversial.

SPEAKER_00 1:05

De pana que siempre dice eso, de pano.

SPEAKER_02 1:07

Cuando tú le dejas algo que dice, nunca nadie te dijo, lo que nadie te digo, eso es lo que escribe Chat GPT. But no deja de ser controversial hoy, and the amor of pareja is condicional, tiene conditions.

SPEAKER_01 1:22

Vamos a revisarlo.

SPEAKER_02 1:23

Vamos a revisarlo. Y tal vez, bueno, vamos a revisarlo. El clone 1% podcast, para quienes nos conocen en este caso, vamos a tener las conversaciones, los análisis, la profundidad. Lo que necesitas escuchar para retarte a hacer tu mejor version. Así es. ¿Y quiénes somos nosotros? Eduardo. Ah, Eduardo, mira yo.

SPEAKER_01 1:42

Mira, esa es Eduardo Rodríguez. Para ustedes se los presento, estoy señalando aquí a Eduardo Rodríguez.

SPEAKER_02 1:47

No, no, no. Removinamos, ¿cómo es?

SPEAKER_00 1:50

Espérate.

SPEAKER_02 1:51

Exacto. Yo soy Katherine Neri, soy psicóloga, terapeuta, apasionada por el crecimiento personal, y creo firmemente que cuando conectamos con nuestro poder, aprendemos a escuchar nuestro cuerpo, regulamos nuestro sistema nervioso, transformamos nuestra vida por completo.

SPEAKER_01 2:06

Y yo soy Eduardo Rodríguez, apasionado por la comunicación, que cree que si somos capaces de comunicarnos con nuestro entorno y con nosotros mismos, la vida nos sonríe.

SPEAKER_02 2:15

Totalmente. Y juntos creemos firmemente en que las relaciones de pareja tienen que evolucionar. And the forma en la que nos relacionamos tiene que cambiar. Porque somos humanos que estamos creciendo y tenemos que renovar los contratos. Y de eso, de los contratos, es lo que vamos a hablar hoy.

SPEAKER_01 2:31

Así es, y nuestra misión es dar nuestro granito de arena para construir familias más felices, más auténticas, más unidas y de esa manera cambiar el mundo. Así que únanse.

SPEAKER_02 2:44

Si quieren inscribirse al club El 1% Membresía, no podcast, que es demasiado valioso, aquí abajo está el link. Y si quieren trabajar a profundidad temas de comunicación con Eduardo, crecimiento personal conmigo. Así que bueno, sin más, empezamos. Ajá, como le dice una amiga Eduardo, Eduxonator. Cuéntame, ¿cómo es eso que el amor de pareja tiene condiciones? ¿A qué te refieres? ¿A qué nos referimos con eso?

SPEAKER_01 3:10

O sea, digamos que no es algo romántico de escuchar, obviamente, and I think all the amount seen conditional. But the amor of pareja no is inconditional. Because really, you decided to your parents, yeah for now you condition that this person has certain qualities that are acting and the person that you eligible for series. Claro, because your kids don't eligible. You don't have a person.

SPEAKER_02 3:51

In fact, the parent eligible. And they eligible. But the problem, and because Eduardo and you create that really the accords of parents is that the matrimonio, like we did in an episode, various episodes a year, the matrimonio survey. This episode in when we talk about the monogamia, but that the matrimonio, the firm, was created for a thing of negotiations. Okay, another it eran tribus that vivid jobs with those, who is this, because those tips on those of any man, and if there's much fidelity with it, etc. But they empiece a firm of matrimonio because ya va. Llega la agricultura con la agricultura, esta tierra is mía, esta tierra is tuya. Si yo he trabajado esta tierra todavía, yo necesito un hijo that's my legado, and so when you crea el matrimonio. El cuento largo corto, se crea el matrimonio por un tema of negotiating, oficial, and the people crea el matrimonio. Like empezó anual that ya sabemos, no tengo que contar. But desde ese lugar, hoy el matrimonio has cambiado, because ya no solo nos casamos por negocio, ya mi mamá no me elige la pareja, la elijo yo. And no quiero decir that desde el momento one tienes que tener claro todo lo que vas a poner en ese acuerdo. Creo que the debe ir a ese acuerdo is that this acuerdo se debe revisar constantemente.

SPEAKER_01 5:39

Y capaz con la. Depends a qué nivel quieras llevar esto. Obviamente no te estamos diciendo como que haz tu acuerdo, imprimelo y firmalo. But if you have, lo veo positive, fuera de joda. Entonces, al final del día tú llévalo la intensidad que tú lo quieras llevar, pero es demasiado positivo saber quale estamos diciendo que queremos vivir andes a esta persona al lado.

SPEAKER_02 6:12

And mucha gente lo está hablando desde antes, and it's demasiado beneficio.

SPEAKER_01 6:15

And we had to have it for default.

SPEAKER_02 6:19

But I think that there's a more nice conscience, that the people more in a relation of pareja, much like stability, is amor, it's a connection, it's creating. And there's a person who can definitely in the life than the person that you have from pareja.

SPEAKER_01 6:45

100%. Oh, estoy orgulloso of my idea, I'm sorry, and not for the bella that is, and for the building that is, and for the biggest thing. But then how does this, and how we retain, and how we create, and how that year we have more from all the economics. Wow, that's the decision more important of your life. There are decisions that you go to your market, it would during an a year, two years, there are decisions that you do that to enfrenta all the time. I killed an approach and includes my ladies and includes because one of the time. But your parents are with you all the days, and wow! It means that it's demo for two things. Uh, if you're in a relation, this is the moment for taking all this clear. And if you are in a relation, not tard. We're gonna hear this that we are aligned, but what align when we're when realmente desmenuzamos this polymer.

SPEAKER_02 8:12

And it's like no relaxation of parents is the option. Me vino a very good amigo that I am, ah, and you know. And I think that she, in this process of being sold, has been much personally, and she had new standards and new conditions internally in front of her relationship with. But for example, you know that after a while I had a relation of parent and never heard of it. It was like that for default that this person, when there had conflicts, but I feel that taking it is important because when you go to this parent, you can learn. It's like what is important for you. What's what you need, and comparing this, tantas peleas, tantas, disgust, tantas frustration.

SPEAKER_01 9:24

Claro, obviously, this in your depends on what you're doing, your intensity, because nobody or something. No, but I'm full of intense. But I've got one year and a year, and you can take it, no, we have a lot of miércoles. And if you're one of these people, we probably have a problem with confrontation, of conflict, to have conversations incomes, but this is the cost of a relation feliz. 100%.

SPEAKER_02 10:04

100%. So to have a relation of you, 100%, you have to enter what necessitas and what communication, and we can communicate. And this is what is the base of much of what we've done in the club. So if this resues in a relation different, just like, and you don't log to have a camp, the pana entra in the club. Because in this membership, we are family, okay, all we are connected, compared to, and second, we're expuesto a la reflexión constant of Eduardo and me, that we have 17 years old, and we are very orgullos of the relationship that we have, and we constantly create exposed to what other people who have compared, philosophers, and this is demasiado to work. And no doubt. Okay, no pues have a relation of distinct with what your mother function was, your kid don't function, that's function. So if you want to have something distinct, you need to build a source different.

SPEAKER_01 11:10

No, and this is our mission, really not that the dinner seems limited, so in fact there's nothing to perform and all that. The club valves what vale Netflix. And so you dirástico is for me more priority, your entretenimiento in Netflix or a family and a relation, yeah. So depends on it.

SPEAKER_02 11:28

And if you know, and if your pareja is already controlled, entras you, there's one in the pareja that's the semillita of camp. I'm the link. And I'm going to say that it's important, if you are in a relation, something that you think that I've asked much is that one is in constant crecement. Ojalá is in constant crecement. Exactly. But when one is in constant creep, trying to say what is important for me, for example, the Eduardo of 2025 said, for me it's important the discipline, you want to have the discipline and marathon. If you pass one year to another and it's important for me, at the end of the house, for me it's important to be disciplined, and for me is important to me and do it, where is you? Because always with the discipline and the rumbeating and not aligned. So it's constant alineation. The other day I went to a client who said, I'm demoing ambitious, I don't want to create demo, but I think my parents are in the same place in what economic. And one of the things that I recommend was context, but very all about this is the alineation of the vision. And so empieza a habit of the rupture.

SPEAKER_01 13:02

And we're entering in matters. What is for me important a nivel sexual? And there enter frequency, entrance gusts, entry XYZ. What is for me important a nivel professional?

SPEAKER_02 13:31

In talking, talking about it, if you're a officer, if you're online, if you want to jubilate me at the 25 or 50, okay? And no tiene que entrar in the moment in which sient the prime. It's like, mira, se me ocurre, siendo que hay algo a nivel profesional that's important, y lo vas nutriendo constantemente.

SPEAKER_01 13:59

Because capaz escuchas andes, listo, I got a contrato, and we are recuerda that this is a contrary and it's a contrato movie. This is what I want, I'm gonna firm because I am not fun. Okay, there are ways that there are things that are magical that you say, I think, it's for me is important. And the mind and says, Wow, for me it's firm and our life. But there are topics where we are different. And you can go to the I don't know if I'm going to perfect, you have to go and not terminate the conversation. Okay, these are the tips that I'm going to do. You have to terminate the conversation. The other is you are 100% sure that hasta yeah I will go, okay? Hasta donde crees que estás abierto tocando hoy de mente in this direction. Well, listo, vamos paso a paso. No we have defined in this contrato hasta donde llega. Lo que we need is that a cláusula de nuestro contrato that no, there we have a discrepancy, not that no firm, that in this.

SPEAKER_02 15:28

And it's like, I want to have a relationship that I'm felony, I want to be feliz. Ahorita I'm felony. What is what I think I'm saying? And let me put an example tangible, because I with my example. A day Eduardo said, Catherine, you think that you don't have 100% in the sexuality. But I think we need more frequency. In this moment, we were doing relations one or two days a month, maximum. And Eduardo said that we need more frequency. Justification. This will serve. It's passing by the world and say, Okay, always not doing it. Also, my culture, always not. This is the important. You can have more frequency. I think I think I'm demoing it, what frustrating, I don't want to complain. No. But I don't want to communicate and say, my friend, I mean more frequency, in fact, but also happening that means much to enter in the flow of the sexuality, of sex, not what happens, you can get to it. So I said, for me to have relations sexual all the days, you're not like I'm capable of having relations sexual all the days. But I don't want to create me. I don't know if in a while, okay, but the first step that you say is that you can go to a frequency of 4 or 5 minutes for the time. But I wish I was okay. And so I was like, okay, my friend, I'm gonna say what it was, okay, I'm disconnected, I didn't know that I was what my language sexually was, that in the club we have, we had a module of this, because obviously I described that there are a couple of languages sexual that I connected. And I saw that I think in this, okay, I don't, but I'm trying to do it until he alcances and you are okay in the frequency. Perfect, okay. And so you don't send that you all the time with the niche, what happens? No, okay, and I'm alineing.

SPEAKER_01 17:46

Yeah, you know, and this is the principal, because surge because if you go to ella reclamation, not an analysis of ella will be. So communicate is more important, other things that have profundity. But I think the most important is that this of the contrats that we are saying, it's the most romantic delivery. But it nails of the amount, it nails to say I'm mentioning, I'm gonna say you are that you lo sepas and trates de hacer lo más feliz possible andar de hacer lo más feliz possible a ti. O sea, what's the te gusta a ti? Desde ahí es, no es desde el reclamo, no es desde o me complaces o terminamos, no es desde la amenaza. O sea, notes in a little bit if you ejecutes. If you ejecutas well, you publish what.

SPEAKER_02 18:48

I think that mezcla one, because for example, the frequency no in the contrary. I feel that the clauses that is in the contrary is creating constant. So there are certain values.

SPEAKER_01 19:00

But for example, for me, you know perfectly in the contrat.

SPEAKER_02 19:04

Yeah, but I explained well, and I'm not sure. What I want to say is that I order my ideas. What I want to say is that there are values principal that I'm important that are in the content, and I think that those values are more inamovibles, okay? For example, in my case, that those, we can recognize, we could have always been the Catherine in this moment when I was 18 years old, but those are in crecing constant, for me is unnegotiable.

SPEAKER_01 19:33

Claro, it's like the general, which I think is more improbable to cambien in the corporate play a lo puntual.

SPEAKER_02 19:42

A lo particular, clear. And so, for example, for me, and we're comparing it for ayudding, because a vehicle, for me, it's important el crecimiento continuous.

SPEAKER_01 19:54

Ah, de pimping. Sin explicar. Sin tanto explicar. Okay. La honestidad.

SPEAKER_02 20:04

Exacto, no mentirte. Okay.

SPEAKER_01 20:08

La sexualidad.

SPEAKER_02 20:11

Ok. El consentimiento, como que atender a la otra persona.

SPEAKER_01 20:15

La paternidad y la maternidad, o sea, como prioridad.

SPEAKER_02 20:18

El trabajar en equipo.

SPEAKER_01 20:20

La libertad.

SPEAKER_02 20:22

El escuchar.

SPEAKER_01 20:23

Viajar.

SPEAKER_02 20:24

Comunicarte.

SPEAKER_01 20:26

Y así vamos, pues. Exacto.

SPEAKER_02 20:28

Son cosas que son demasiado importantes para nosotros. Los tiempos a solas, los espacios in the semanas. El deporte. El deporte, el ejercicio. El que te cuides. Eso es demasiado importante, Dios mío, que estés in buena forma física. Para mí es importante. Lo siento, but para mí es importante because you don't have a buy for obra y gracia, el espíritu siempre.

SPEAKER_01 20:48

Catherine, this año fue que me.

SPEAKER_02 20:49

No, el año pasado fue que me comunicó como the young and you mean and suffer when I'm engording and I do and me party. For me, it's important for me to bear me. But if you have the big, I mean I wonder if my parents are, because the physical is much more than the physical. When you have the physical, there's habits, there are forms of feeling that for me are important. And I think Eduardo, for this, just a quota, because for this, the amount of inconditional calls. And for me, it is important to have a good work.

SPEAKER_01 21:25

And for me, it's like I'm gonna, but it's like Eduardo era, you are not, I think, for me it's important that it's good. So my reto this year, which we've done in the first, we still put a reto, is the calistenia. If you don't know, I'm in the crecement, but I acabed the umbrella, but yeah, I monitor all the calistenia. In this case, no hub because it's positive, this me motives I'm complacent. But si no hubiese

SPEAKER_02 22:05

But for example, this is important that I did that. Ahorita Eduardo no puedo estar physically, but we're gonna date a little bit of peso for the umbrella, but you can enter and abroad perfectly because part of the values that are important is accompanying us because the other is passing for a bache.

SPEAKER_01 22:22

Yes, my ejemplo of the sexuality, it's like amor, I'm 100% all in, te demuest that I'm 100% all in, put the broma in the broma.

SPEAKER_02 22:30

Pongo la broma en la broma. Comprar the calistenia and las pin in the balcony because the gente no está in tu cabeza. You know, but the broma in the calistenia, okay, the apparatus that you compress in elcond. You know that it's so. You know, struggling with it, that no pure entrenched and no loyal presion ahorita because you know he looks like we have not firm actually, but it's in our mentee and in our own.

SPEAKER_01 23:02

And now, a menos que uh terminaste, quiero ir with a tercer point. Okay. And now the other part that I did, we'll have deal with the importance of the contrat, the importance of that, of how the amount. And it's important: that's who 100% that the person camping. Not even, okay, we have the capacity to most. And I say that if you and you have an accord and you rompes this, is a reason sufficient to molest me if you rompo in communication. But if you don't see an accord, we can learn one and a million times.

SPEAKER_02 24:04

And I think with this setting two points. And if it's incommodo, incommodo, incommodo, because nobody's at the relation, because there's something to do. But when you're expert or expert in ignoring, no habits and nobody after it romps.

SPEAKER_01 24:24

That's for one part, and for other part, accepts because I don't want to pelear, because I'm going to complain, because that's it.

SPEAKER_02 24:32

Claro, because it's not that it would re-evaluate, and I'm not. And the other is that entertaining that it will re-just, and then you know, and said for me it's important the crew, or for me is important the work, you need to understand that the other person is with the accordance and they have to have their time for a new appearance.

SPEAKER_01 24:53

And you have to put it in context. So we've learned in these ayunts for this that we're talking about, and it connects obviously. But it's important to be persuasive, not to give the other person for delay, obviously, because they am. Simply trying to say, 'Hey, it's important for me.' And the person that you are not. And there are things very complex. It could be a relation in a future of a sexual, wow, what difficulty. Or just say, I didn't know that I don't want to be a papa, wow, what difficulty. And all this in fact would enter in a conversation. What it's like, it's under a point of view of that wow, we are demoing, it's a deal breaker for us. And we have to separate me, I don't know, I admire. For me, it's important, you go with my broma to my felicity and descubs the same.

SPEAKER_02 26:00

But I think I've got relationships, I have to have conversations, I'm my side realization for me, and then in these days, but I understand, in those looks, no?

SPEAKER_01 26:10

This type of thing that you escuch, and no, that the people are married, it was marriage and terminated. Well, the world is all. In these days I entered no that the people send the closet and turn that those who are, and the people who are talking about alarm, and you've been saying this they're not a mentor, a wrong, so the people who have to go into the room and said, I am infinitely, but sexually needs one. I have this. And what's your part of sexual satisfaction in other parts, but I have one amigos who, for example, they have an acufe that don't have relations sexually.

SPEAKER_02 26:54

Of course, cada que saw, no secure, but they're demasiado buen equipo, son de demasiado buenos papás.

SPEAKER_01 26:59

Chamo, de verdad que yo creo que si se habla, no hay un acuerdo que no sea posible. Claro. Dos partes son las que tienen que estar felices en su acuerdo.

SPEAKER_02 27:08

Y cuando hablamos de relaciones auténticas es eso, no es la relación del lado, es tu relación, lo que sea feliz para ti, lo que te haga feliz, lo que te llene, lo que te ayude a crecer, a ser una mejor persona. Claro. Entonces, bueno, espero que esta filosofación, no se dice así, pero esta intensidad de filosofe. Les haya llegado al corazón y les haga reflexionar para sentarte con tu pareja, hablar de esos acuerdos, y si estás solo o sola, sentarte contigo para saber qué es lo que es importante para ti y comunicarlo a la próxima pareja con la que estés. Entonces, bueno, por favor déjanos en los comentarios si tienes alguna pregunta de esto, si quieres que expandamos algún tema, y si sientes que este episodio le puede ayudar a una amiga o un amigo que sabes que necesita rehacer sus acuerdos, envíaselo. Porque no sabes cómo le puedes cambiar la vida solamente con los 25 minutos que dura este episodio. Entonces, bueno, espero que les haya gustado. Nos vemos in audio. Si les gustó, denle like, suscríbanse. Recuerden que nos encuentran por todas las redes sociales como el Club del Uno Oficial, las redes personales de Eduardo Eduardo Rayeta Bajo JRP, my persona Katy.ner, and we're in a project episode.

SPEAKER_01 28:14

And you quiero hacerte antes de irnos a invitation to unirte al Club 1%. Come here, cuesta lo que cuesta a Netflix, and I'm convenient that it not only cambiar tu vida, sino cambiar la vida del mundo. Vas a tener una mejor descendencia that we're more felices, vas a tener una mejor relación, vas a poder aportar al mundo because it's a little bit solo para receiver, it's a little para dar and literalmente ayudarnos a cambiar el mundo. Así que te esperamos ahí, el link está abajo.

SPEAKER_02 28:44

Un besito, chao, chao.