Diary of a Cat Mom
Diary of a Cat Mom is a reflective cat podcast created and hosted by Dagmar Gatell about understanding cats more deeply — and creating a calmer, more connected life for both you and your cats.
Based on real experiences caring for over 50 cats throughout her life, each episode shares quiet observations, emotional moments, caregiving reflections, and gentle insights from everyday life with cats. From routines, behavior, and emotional wellbeing to grief, gratitude, overstimulation, trust, and the small meaningful moments many people overlook — this is not a traditional “how-to” podcast, but a space for understanding, awareness, and lived experience.
Beyond cat care itself, Diary of a Cat Mom also explores our connection to nature, emotional presence, personal growth, and the way our inner state can influence the animals who share our lives. Because living with cats is never only about feeding and routines — it’s also about energy, safety, trust, patience, and how we show up emotionally in the spaces we create together.
Created for cat lovers who see their cats as family, this podcast offers companionship, reassurance, perspective, and emotional support during seasons of caregiving, uncertainty, healing, change, and letting go.
Diary of a Cat Mom is a personal storytelling podcast and does not replace professional veterinary advice. Every cat is unique, and medical or behavioral concerns should always be discussed with a trusted veterinarian or qualified professional.
You’re not alone on this journey.
We’re learning, loving, and growing together — one paw print at a time.
Diary of a Cat Mom
How to Prevent Cat Fights in a Multi-Cat Home | Cat Behavior | Ep. 111
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When I rescued two young cat boys from different litters, I imagined they'd become best friends and keep each other entertained.
Instead, they became territorial and constantly challenged each other.
I felt stressed, disappointed, and worried every time I heard hissing across the house.
In this Diary of a Cat Mom podcast episode, I share the simple changes that helped reduce the tension between them—and the surprising lesson I learned about my own role in creating a calmer home.
If you're dealing with conflict between your indoor cats, I hope my experience gives you a few ideas to try.
What You'll Learn in this Cat Podcast Episode
- Why young cats don't automatically become friends
- How vertical space reduced the tension in my home
- Why interrupting fights early worked better than waiting
- How praise and treats changed the atmosphere
- The unexpected way my own emotions influenced my cats
Timestamps & Chapters
- 00:00 I thought they would become best friends
- 00:56 The warning signs before every fight
- 01:43 Creating more territory with vertical space
- 02:28 Interrupting the fights before they escalated
- 03:08 Eating together with supervision
- 03:48 The biggest realization: I became calmer too
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About the Diary of a Cat Mom Podcast
Diary of a Cat Mom is a personal cat podcast created by Dagmar Gatell, sharing real moments from life with cats. Everything shared comes from lived experience as a cat mom and is not intended as professional veterinary advice. Every cat is unique, and for health concerns, it’s always best to consult your trusted veterinarian.
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Diary of a catmom How to Prevent Cat Fights Welcome to Diary of a Cat Mum. One time I had these two cute cat boys, both from different litters, and they were around two years old. And I thought, oh cute. They can play with each other. They're boys, they like to ruffle a little bit and they can really have fun with each other. I'm so glad they have each other so they can entertain each other. Yeah, that wasn't the case at all. So little by little I realized they felt like their competitors. That's their territory, and they were fighting over the territory. And both were not willing to give in at all. When they were seeing each other, they were holding first a distance, and then I already could hear them hissing. Little hisses. Then it became bigger hisses, and then they were staring each other down. And I had to go in and between to stop that because I already could see this would not end well. I thought perhaps it's only at the beginning when they get to know each other. But unfortunately it stayed. And the ongoing fights really made them more sensitive, and they made me more sensitive too. I had to figure out what's the solution for that. Because I want to have a peaceful and calm and happy environment for the cats and for myself. Needed to find a way to stop it. So first, what I did, I broke the territory. I put vertical cat steps and cat shelves and cat hammocks on the wall. When they were both like in a little fighty mood, one had easily a way to get away, not just to the next cat tree where the other one just could climb up and then they stare each other again. By having the shelves and the steps and the hammocks, they had a much further up, bigger space, what minimized the fights immensely. Then the other thing what I did, I started interrupting it as soon as I heard them hissing, as soon as I saw them staring down. And whenever I interrupted it and they stopped, I praised both cats for stopping it. I told both, you're a big boy, you're such a great boy. Mama loves you, you're doing so well. So that they would both recognize when they stop the fight, they get praised. When they stop the fight, mama gives them a treat. So it becomes less a desire because there was less and less a reward in it giving in. The other thing what I started doing, I was sitting with them while they were eating. My kitties normally eat in a line all the bowls next to each other because they are family. So they want to get along with each other. And by me sitting with them, it took away the edge that they were fighting over territory because at that point it was nobody's territory. Mama was sitting there and we all were they were they were eating all together. So they perhaps didn't prefer it and they were not a fan of it, but they had less and less the desire to feel tight or to feel tense. They were not a fan of it, but they got to be okay with it. And the last thing what really made the biggest difference, I didn't get upset about it anymore. At the beginning, I'm like, oh my god, they're the same age, they could play together, and here they are fighting with each other. So I could feel it made me tense and unhappy and disappointed and sad about it. And then little by little I was working with them and I could stop myself, hold myself more calm and peaceful. They stayed more calm and peaceful. So I hope this experience helps you a little bit if you're experiencing cat fights right now with your indoor cats. And if you do, please share in the comments. I would love to read about it, how you're dealing with it, and what you found what's really working for your indoor cats. Thank you so much for joining me for this episode of Diary of a Cat Mum. There's always another lesson, another message, another insight waiting to be shared right around the corner. So watch my next video above and join me for my next entry.