Vaginismus - The Intelligent Survival Response

In this episode, I share my personal story of vaginismus, not as a medical case study, but as a lived experience shaped by culture, silence, and the ways we are taught to disconnect from our bodies.

This is a conversation about sex and pain, but more than that, it’s a conversation about safety. About listening. About how our bodies protect us when we don’t yet have the language, permission, or support to understand what’s happening.

Drawing from both my own journey and my work as a nurse, I explore how early sexual experiences, lack of education around arousal and consent, shame, and the normalisation of painful sex can contribute to conditions like vaginismus—and how often these experiences are dismissed or misunderstood.

Kimmy x

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