The Lie That's Killing Men — Biblical Masculinity, Culture, and What God Actually Says

The world can't even tell you what a man is anymore. Society dodges the question, redefines the terms, and demands you accept whatever culture says this week. But here's what doesn't change — God created man, and that means He's the only one who gets to define it. No law, no protest, no platform rewrites what God established in the beginning.

In this episode of Ain't Quiet, we are going straight at one of the most important conversations the church is too quiet about right now — biblical manhood. We are living in the most confused moment in history when it comes to men, and that confusion has crept into the church just as much as it has the culture. Men are being conditioned to handle everything alone, stay silent, watch from a distance, and call it strength. It isn't. It's destruction with a good poker face.

We're talking about the lies culture sells men about what real strength looks like, why self-sufficiency is just pride wearing a work boot, what the Bible actually says about manhood through the lives of David and Jesus Christ, and why the men's discipleship in most churches has become nothing more than a checklist nobody is actually growing from.

This episode is for the man who thinks he has it handled. It's for the man who hasn't bent his knee to anything or anyone. It's for the man sitting in silence while everything around him is falling apart. And it's for anyone who loves a man like that.

Faith that speaks when the world stays silent. This is Ain't Quiet.

In This Episode We Cover:

• Why we are at the most critical moment in history for biblical manhood
• How society is redefining masculinity and why the church can't stay silent on it
• The cultural lie that real men handle everything alone — and how it's destroying men
• Why social media has turned men into spectators of each other's destruction
• The difference between a men's discipleship group and a men's checklist group
• What David and Jesus actually show us about what a real man looks like
• Pride, self-sufficiency, and the man who has it all together but is completely lost
• What real strength, real brotherhood, and real surrender to Christ actually look like

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Ain't Quiet Podcast — Faith that speaks when the world stays silent.

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Hey listeners, welcome to the Ain't Quiet Podcast. Ready for today. Buckle up. Here we go. Here's what we're going to talk about today. Real men don't need you're seeing this on the title. Real men don't need Jesus and other lies that destroy men. I am a man. I'm a male. That's the way I was born. It's the way I was created. It's the way God wielded it for me. And that's it. But today in culture and everything, that's not the norm. That's not what everyone wants. And that definition literally gets changed all the time, depending on if you're in a Republican or Democratic state, if it changes a lot or a little or none. Depending on what society's going on, depending on what groups you follow, what church you attend, all sorts of things. People try and change the definition. But here's the thing God created it, so God gets to define it. And that's it. End of story. No gray area. Nothing else needed. So what we're going to talk about today is that title led you to click this, maybe share it with someone, whatever. But the reality is, real men do need Jesus. Real men should walk and be Christians with Christ-like faith, emulating Jesus and all the other lies the world tries to tell. Man, we have to stand up, we have to be firm in this. I'm very passionate about this because as learning and getting older, this even ties into a book I'm writing of Biblical Manhood, because if you don't take a stand on what the Bible says about manhood, the world's going to shape you. And men more than anyone else, I think you can get shaped and influenced more than the women and pretty close to the children. I think society really wants to get the children an early age, but man, if we will just take responsibility for ourselves, for our household, for our walk and our faith, it will take care of the other things. A biblical woman will follow a biblical man. Biblical children happen because of a biblical man. So this has to be right. We have to get this right. So we're going to have an honest conversation today. I want to thank you all for joining. I want you to also know if you are not following us on YouTube right now, look up Pastor Drew Pap. It'll be in the show notes. You need to be following that YouTube channel. The podcast episodes are on video. You can watch this episode. It's on YouTube. Okay. And as video podcast comes out on the other ones, I hope to get access to them. But right now, to watch it, you've got to go on YouTube. You can see shorts, you can see content, you can see sermons, you can see encouraging things from someone from a biblical perspective, wanting you not to just like and subscribe. That's great, but to just grow closer in your walk with Christ. That's all I want to do. That's all I want this to do. And if, and that's why I can't be quiet about all this. That's why the name is Ain't Quiet Podcast. So, Pastor Drew Pap, the YouTube channel, follow along, follow it, look in the show notes for other things. There's a merch store now. You can get some great uh shirts and content. You can like that, subscribe to that YouTube channel. You can follow along the podcast. Be sure if you've listened to one of these and liked it, give a review. That just helps get the word out and other people to find this. So enough about the formalities, the beginning of an episode. You already know what it is, so let's dive right into it. So I'm learning as I get older, and I'm not even gonna care. I'm I'm looking at my show notes. They're they're written out. So I'm gonna read a little bit of this and then I want to discuss something with you. So just buckle up, and here we go. The world has a real loud opinion of what a real man looks like. Tough, self-sufficient, emotionally locked down, and definitely not religious. That's the goal. Society does not want a man that's biblical and religious and following Christ. That is exactly opposite of what society wants right now. Cultural sells masculinity as independent. You need to be dominant and you need to be quiet. So be strong, be independent, don't need anyone else in your life, and sit down and shut up. That's what the culture wants. Biblical manhood, not biblical manhood. They don't want that. They want they want masculinity. That's what they want a man to be. But that version of manhood isn't producing strong men. It's producing broken ones. It's producing them that are physically strong, go get in the gym, post it on Instagram, and be a loudmouth in some things. But when things that matter, sit down, shut up, and follow in line. That's what that's what they want. And right now, I think we're living in one of the most confused moments in history when it comes to men. Society can't even define what a male is anymore. The answer changes, the the the answer changes based on the situation, not based on creation. So if the definition of a man needs to change so that different genders can swim in the same pool in an NCA competition, that's what we're going to change. Okay? If if the definition of a man needs to change for all these examples and reasons, society doesn't even try and truly define what a male is anymore. They try and bend everything to what they want to be the cultural norm. They want you to be quiet, get in line, and follow what culture wants. Be a good little boy, sit down, keep your mouth shut, and let the agenda spread. It's like a fungus, it's like a disease. And when men don't recognize that, and we sit down and we shut up, this is what happens. It spreads. It spreads out to everyone, it gets out farther. So, like right now, we have to take a stand on this episode today as you're listening to this. I will not sit down and be quiet anymore about what a man is. Draw the line right here. This is it. This is what this episode's gonna go through. Draw the line and let's go through it. So here we go. Culture says this, all the subject redefined the terms and everything. But hey, here's the one thing that doesn't change God's definition. And I said it to kind of give you the intro to get ready for the episode because I want you to stay locked in. God created man, so he gets to set the standard. The creator gets to define creation. So no law is gonna change the definition of a man, no protest, no pronoun, no platform is going to rewrite what God's established in the beginning. So what's in Genesis defines what a man is. All through the Bible and culture defines what a biblical man is. Okay. God got to define it because he created it, and we must follow along with it. So in this episode right here, we're gonna get to our first thing we're gonna talk about in a minute. We are going to cut through cultural noise and go straight to Scripture to answer this one question. One question. What does God actually say a real man looks like? And this is for some of you that probably have been sitting in silence thinking it's all handled, it's all taken care of, and and for the man sitting in silence thinking he's he has it all handled, well, you don't if you're apart from the word of God. So here we go. Buckle up. Let's let's get through this together. Let's grow together today. If you're the one person watching this, okay, let's grow together today through the word of God. So let's get to this part. I said this and that. We're in the one of the most confused moments in history for men. It's not just a cultural shift, it's a full-scale war on the definition of manhood. Society in in every place they can is trying to change what a male is, trying to change all the genders. But I'm telling you right now, you will find the correct definition of a biblical woman. Young Christians, biblical children will find their way in the alignment when biblical manhood gets correct. When we get the definition of a male correct, I believe, and I do, that a the woman, the definition of a biblical woman will follow because the man's got his part right. The children will follow because the man's got his part right. The weight of all this is seems to be on a man. And when we're silent and quiet, society just keeps saying, hey, we're gonna reframe it. And if you are even asking questions of why are we trying to change all the definitions of a man and da-da-da-da-da, then you're the problem for asking. You're the issue, you're the problem. And a lot of times what I wish I had a video of this. I've seen it in so many protests. They don't, when that happens in certain protests, people don't come back with rational explanations or trying to have a debate or anything else of what they think are facts or anything else. They just try and raise the volume, make their voice louder until you're quiet. And then once you're a quiet, good little boy, they think they win. That's gotta stop. The goal is so simple in this accept what cultural says or be silenced. But here's the one thing that's never changed and never will. Genesis 1.27. So God created man in his own image, and in the image of God who created him, male and female he created them. So we're created in the image of God. So we don't need to have surgeries that that cut out our parts that make us male. We don't need to have surgeries for females and males to try and switch genders. That's literally not what God created. That's not what God intended for. So Genesis 127, he sets the tone. You are created in the image of God. He established it because he created it. He doesn't take a poll, he doesn't need to answer to legislation, he doesn't have to go to Washington, D.C. to get approval. He doesn't have to go to your local state and each state and go to on a 50-state campaign hoping to get more states than not. He doesn't need legislation. He doesn't update his definition based on what's trending. The biblical definition of a man is fixed because God created it. Again, the creator gets to define his creation. So Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever. Hebrews 13, 8. So pardon that is just in that Bible, in that verse, saying, hey, I don't change, I don't shift with the winds. This isn't it. Firmly planted on where I'm at. God is saying, this is what a man is, this is the definition of it. So quit tuning into the news, quit tuning into Facebook, and open your Bible and dig in because it starts at Genesis and the Bible continues to shape and show, hey, men, this is how you should react, this is what you should do, this is how you should be as a husband, as a man, as a preacher, as someone that's a Christian to go out and teach the word. It gives every definition, every everything you're supposed to be, you can go to the Bible, and it's the same answer every time. It's not going to change week by week. Okay. This just isn't the cultural, isn't just a cultural issue anymore, though. I really believe this. I truly believe this, okay? And it's partly because I've I've pulpit supplied in churches before the one that I'm at now. This problem's infiltrated churches. And that's a huge problem. Okay. And here's where I mean by that. Okay. We have churches that are afraid to say what the Bible says about men and women. You can see those sermons that get posted every week in different places where it's, hey, God loves you just the way you are, stay just the way you are. God loves you, but staying the way you are literally takes out repentance, which takes out salvation, which takes out the whole plan of the covenant relationship God desires to have with his people. So it is not stay the same. Okay. So here's what we get. Congregations have traded this clarity. This is it. This is the definition. This is a man, this is a woman, this is a Christian, these are these are non-gray areas, these are non-negotiables for comfort. Hey, if we if we keep our and and this may have happened locally to you. Hey, if we don't preach against this, they're going to come to our church, think it's okay, say that they're attending church, and that's it. Now, you can see another side of this. Well, if they come to our church, well, we can preach the gospel and they'll hear it, and maybe they they get saved, maybe they're called to salvation. God calls them to salvation and they repent and change their life. But if they don't, what if they think your church, your household, your friendship is because it's quiet, because you're being quiet is saying, hey, it's okay to be a homosexual. It's okay to have gender surgery on my child. It's okay to do what culture says is okay, and we're silent about it. So they're here, but our silence is affirmation to them. Our silence is like a check mark to them. Hey, this church is comforting, this church is good, they don't speak up against it. And so, hey, five more people were in church this Sunday, and that's great. And and maybe something happens. But the silence in the church is the issue is just as dangerous as the noise outside. So we've got the problem in culture and we've got the problem in the church. Okay, two different things, and that's a huge problem. Second Timothy four, three talks about this. For the time is coming when people will endure sound, will not endure sound teaching. Oh my goodness, let me get this right. For the time is coming when people will not endure sound teaching, but have itching ears, they have they will accumulate for themselves teachers to suit their own passions. 2 Timothy 4 3. A time's coming where people, hey, will find someone that will talk in the way they want to talk. Right now, if you want to be a gender neutral, everyone can be whoever they want, and there's 50 million genders and 20 million pronouns, which there's not, and there's not, then you can find someone or you can live stream it and find the church that says, hey, God's neutral, and and LGBTQ plus whatever letters affirming, and that's it. And and you get away from this. So even what's happening now, think about this. What's happening now, the Bible predicted thousands of years ago, saying, hey, a time's coming when people are gonna say, hey, you know what? Forget biblical truth and standard and God defining the creator defining creation. I'm gonna find what works for me because I'm lazy. I don't want to, I don't want to cause issues, I want everyone to be happy. There's no way a God of wrath would would let people go to hell and and stuff, which made a short on that the other day. So again, check out the YouTube channel. Literally talked about that the other day. That time's coming. So going to kind of the the second thing we're gonna talk about here, the lie that culture is selling and how men are buying it. This is this is it. This is the problem. Even outside the gender confusion conversation, which could be a whole nother podcast for a whole nother time. Culture's been selling this version of masculinity for decades that quietly destroys men. They do it through Hollywood, they do it through movies, they they do it through magazines, sports figures, uh, people that that have this unbiblical influence, influence and culture, and culture puts pressure on biblical men to be silent. And then when men are silent, when we sit down and be good little boys and shut up, then their agenda gets to go forward and it's pushed, and it makes it makes it to TikTok and goes viral. It makes it to Instagram and goes viral. And then the message is simple: real men handle it themselves. Real men don't ask for help. Real men do not ever show weakness. Oh, you better not ever let anyone see you cry. Don't process your emotions. Don't, don't, you don't need accountability, and definitely you do not need church. You don't need Jesus. That's the definition that's gotten out there into culture. Outside of even the gender thing, that's what culture has shaped in masculinity for decades, and it's here. To be stoic and be a man has has been hijacked. There's legitimate biblical call to self-control and steadfastness. But what culture promotes isn't self-control, it's emotional shutdown, it's isolation dressed up as strength. If you're a man and you've got a big truck and you've got a woman and and da da da this and you drink beer and you get drunk and you get in fights and you've got big muscles, golly, you must be a man's man. And you better have a hat, a cowboy hat, and and jeans, and a beard, and and all these things. And if not, you're not a man. That's that's what's going on, and it's absolutely killing men. And let me tell you what it's done to the church. Men are leaving churches at alarming rates. And the world don't care. The world's like, we win. This is it, this is what we want. We want you to get out of there because that's different from the message that we're teaching. They're they're celebrating it because if a man becomes disconnected from the body of Christ, then he's easier to destroy. And like we said at the beginning, if you get the man, then you get the household. If you get the man, then you're gonna get the woman. You you're your better chances to get the woman because because we're biblical women are called to submit to biblical men. Okay. So if the man's not walking the walk, talking the talk and walking with Christ, then how much easier is it to get the woman who doesn't have that biblical man to follow? Well, if the biblical man's drinking beer and having fun, and and and drinking beer is not the issue. Getting drunk and and doing all these worldly things and issues is the problem, and then the kid sees it, well, then the kid's gonna want to be like dad. And if the kid wants to be like dad, then that's a whole household. Okay. Then the enemy wins. Culture and the enemy. Okay, a lot of times, same thing. That's what they want. Men are leaving churches, they get disconnected, and then that makes it easier to get to your children. That makes it easier to what they get established through the man, once they get you, it gets to your children, gets to society, makes it easier for it to become a generational thing and to be passed to generation after generation. And we're either in it now at the depth of it, or there's been a time and it's getting passed to this. But Christian men, we've got to quit sitting down and shutting up and being good little boys. It's it's time to stand up and have a real conversation. 1 Peter 5:8, okay. Be sober-minded, be watchful. Your adversary, the devil, prowls around like a roaring line, seeking someone to devour. And here is something nobody wants to say about all this, okay? Social media makes it worse. And I'm gonna be real honest because it feels very weird to make content and post it and like see myself on it, or like my wife will get on YouTube and and or or Facebook or something, or Instagram, and one of her suggested posts or following things, and I'll hear my voice pop up when she's listening to reels or something, you know, relaxing for a minute because she's worked hard. And it's it's weird. And I'm almost like, okay, is this am I phony or fake? But then I'm getting to this, like, hey, if I sit down and shut up and be quiet, then the next reel is gonna be, hey, it's okay to chop your stuff off. And if you want to be a girl and you're born a man, that's perfectly fine. Here's the number to do it. Here's the states that'll let you do it. Here's the the reaffirming things that will say it's okay. Like, we can't be quiet. The the devil is prowling like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour. And it is my job as the man of my household to walk and trust in God and to not let the devil get a toe in the door. Through prayer, through faith, through walk. And it's the same for y'all. That's why this stuff has to get out. Social media has now made it so much worse. We now have an entire generation of men who watch everything from a distance. Let me show you how this gets worse. Think about this. You watch marriages fall apart on your timeline, on Facebook, through messages, through different things that get shared to you. We watch men spiral. You you see those posts where someone's up and down, up and down, and and man, they're having a rough time. They're going through it. Maybe they're getting clean off the drugs, or maybe they're they're they're going through it because them and their their woman had a fight over something. Ridiculous, or he did something, or stepped out, or whatever, and we just watch. This is what men do. Society wants us to do now. You watch other men spiral, you watch marriages fall apart, we watch then families get destroyed, and we just scroll right past it. We don't call it out, we don't go show up, we watch from afar because society has conditioned the man that, hey, getting involved is overstepping. And if you say something too hard, you're judging. And you need to mind your business. You need to be respectful. And I will say it again, you need to sit down and shut up. That's what they want. But that's not biblical manhood. That's a coward with a social media account. And guess what? The Bible talks about this. Probably my favorite book in the Bible, James 4.17. So whoever knows the right thing to do and fails to do it, for him it is sin. Now I talked earlier about we've traded real brotherhood for and it's infiltrated the church. And I want to talk a little more about that. Because here's one of the most honest things that needs to be said about men's ministry right now. We've traded a largely authentic brotherhood for the appearance of it. Chew on that for a second. There was a pause for a reason. Chew on that for a second. We've replaced real hard open conversations between men with a structured program where everyone sits in a room, goes through a set of questions, and walks out feeling exactly the same way they did when they walked in. Nobody says anything real. Oh, don't you talk about your sin. Don't you talk about where you're struggling. Don't you talk about your struggles and your issues and everything. Don't confess nothing to us. Get in there. Pray over the people that aren't in the room by calling them out because people love and I can't stand this. People use a prayer list of gospel. Oh, that bugs me. But men do it. I know that may sound like gossip and usually people try and tie it to women, but oh, men do it too. Absolutely. But we've traded this real conversation with here's a book, here's the set questions, give the church answer. We had we had men's ministry. We had time together. No one says it, no one confesses, they just push back, they don't push back on anybody, on anything. We completed the study, we checked the box, and some men do it just so they keep their wives happy. Honey, uh, I went to men's ministry, we had a great time, we cooked steaks, shotguns, went fishing and did all this. If you're a woman watching this and your man gives you that answer every time, be like, cool, how did you grow from it? What'd you get out of that? What did Jesus speak to you through that time? Don't hesitate, just say it. If you're a man, use that same thing when someone else talks about their men's group. This is because this is not discipleship. This is a performance. This is what the cultural norm for a man has infiltrated into the church, and it's not discipleship, it's a performance. So iron sharpens iron and one man sharpens another. Proverbs 27, 17. You better check yourself if your house or your men's group has this as your slogan, Bible verse. You better check yourself. Because how do you sharpen iron? It takes friction. It's uncomfortable. It requires two men who are actually willing to show up as they are, not just as they want to be perceived. You're the man that's that's built yourself up, you have a title, you have society, you have cultural influence, you have influence within the church. Then, oh, you better not come and say, hey, I'm struggling with pornography. That's what they want you to do. That's what men's groups have turned into. Then we get all these crazy stats where, hey, this crazy amount of guys, even up into their 70s and 80s, because now they're learning how to use a smartphone, are struggling with porn. They're struggling with these things. Like, wow, that's that's the thing that's going on. Iron sharpening iron is us not being as we want to be perceived. Real brotherhood is not a curriculum. There's not a curriculum that's that that substitutes real biblical manhood and and getting together with other men, growing closer to Christ. It's a covenant in itself. Okay? And it's the kind of relationship where man can say, I'm struggling, he means it, and where a man across from him doesn't even flinch. We've been conditioned by society so much that men don't need to speak into each other's lives. And then guess what, man? When you don't speak in each other's lives, and then you don't speak into the next generation's lives, then we're in the freaking mess that we're in right now. We're in the issue that we have going on right now. And here's what it is accountability has been rebranded as toxic. Oh, better not be toxic. The worst thing in the world is if you're toxic. And speaking truth to another man has been redefined as overstepping. So, what do men do? I think I've said this probably five times already. Sit in silence, drown, watch each other drown, sit down, shut up. No one say anything because no one wants to be the one who cared too much. Hebrews 10, 24 and 25. And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another and all the more as you see the day drawing near. Not neglecting to meet together as is the habit of some. Just because you do have a meeting within a church wall or at the coffee shop does not mean that you got together and did what we're talking about here. You can still get together, shoot the bull, gossip, and and not grow and have that iron sharpening iron moment, and you checked off the list. Like the line has to be drawn. This has got to stop. This is what's got to become the norm is hey, therefore confess your sins to one another and pray for one another that you may be healed. James 5.16. Now you think James wasn't a man on fire at that point? That was the half-brother Jesus, who then comes to realize after the fact, really, like, oh, my brother is who he said he was. And everything that he promised and prophesied, everything we learned growing up, was real. And it was him. And I grew up with him. And the fire grew in him, where if you read the book of James, it is real, it is raw, it is authentic. Outside of Paul's letters to the churches, it is some of the most raw put you and cause that friction that we need to repent and to walk closer with Christ. It's why I love that so much. That's what it should be. Confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, not just who can we talk about that's not in the room, or what can we do to check off the list that we have men's ministry. So it's all built on a lie that you're not supposed to be like this. Well, where does it come from? Well, if you strip everything back and root it all back, it comes from what I believe is one thing, what we're going to talk about right here. Okay? Pride. The belief that I have it, that I don't need God, I don't need church, I don't need another man speaking into my life. I am self-sufficient enough, and it's okay. Self-sufficiency is not strength. Okay. It's the one of the oldest counterfeits of strength in history. Pride goes before destruction and haughty spirit before a fall. Everyone loves to say that saying, but guess what? That actually came from the Bible, Proverbs 16, 18. There is a way that seems right to a man, but it ends, but its end is the way of death, Proverbs 14, 12. It's not what seems right to you. It's what the Bible says about being a man. And the man who built his entire life on the terms, his own terms, you're going to look like you have it together. Okay? If you've got the truck, you've got the side-by-side, you got the guns, you got the woman, you got the house, you got the look, and you sit down and be quiet and don't cause problems, then man, what a man you are. Oh my goodness, you're a man's man until the diagnosis comes, until your marriage breaks apart, until the addiction resurfaces, and until the things you've never dealt with finally come back. Because fun fact, they always, always find a way to come back until you deal with them. And that's coming from someone who's dealt with addiction in in my youth, who's dealt with childhood trauma that I didn't deal with till 10 years later, and or over 10 years later. And all that had to resurface. And I come to realize I can't hide behind a curtain and put a mask on and be that man every day. I've got to be what God's called me to be. I've got to be what God's called me to be because I knew even then that one day He was going to bless me with a house. Not necessarily a set structure, a house, but but a wife, and I have three boys. And this falls on me to get this right because I'm raising the next generation. I'm raising three men who one day I'm going to let go of, let out into society and say, hey, go be what God's called you to be. And wow the pressure that feels. But that's why I have to come back to the Word of God so much to say, God, I've got to do this your way, for your reason, for your glory, because I blew it as a kid. I blew it as a young adult. Some days I still blow it. And I need to get myself back to what God's called me to be. Because if if it was never strong enough to hold, because it's all those things, all those things we try to be, all the things we try to look like, all the fake things we put on, the mask we put on, they were never intended to be strong enough to hold a man and and strengthen him and grow in him. But going back to Proverbs, trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways, acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths. Here's what I love in that. He doesn't say part of your heart. He doesn't say your Sunday, one day a week heart. Trust in the Lord with all your heart, your money, your thoughts, your ambitions, your desires, your goals, your family, your spouse, your kids, everything that you do. Trust in the Lord with all of it. Don't lean on your own understanding. Don't lean in on what culture defines as the man. Okay. In all your ways, acknowledge him. Come back to him. Come back to the definition of what God says a man is, how Jesus walked his walk to be a Christ-like follower, and he will make straight your paths. Now, that doesn't mean it's going to be easy. That doesn't mean you're going to live your best life now. What it does mean what God's will, God provides. And you still may live paycheck to paycheck, but living in God's will, I promise. You ain't got a paycheck that big yet. And you never will. Ever. Money can't outdo God's will. And walking in it can't do that, what it what it does to your life. That is from personal experience. So what does the Bible actually say about a real man? Okay. What does it say? We're going to go to scripture here because this is where the actual definition lives. I'm going to talk about two people. Okay, two main people here. First, pretty popular guy, David. David was a warrior, a king, a fighter, and a man who wept openly. That means he showed his emotions and cried in front of people. For someone to know this, he confessed his sins without excuse, and he cried out to God in the Psalms with everything that he had. He was not soft, he was not weak. He was a man fully alive before God, which meant he brought all of himself to God, that all again, including the broken parts, including the parts that need to be refined and reshaped like iron sharpening iron. The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit. Guess who wrote that? David. Number two, Jesus Christ. Oh, yes. You're thinking biblical manhood, masculinity, all these things. Yes, Jesus Christ, he's the most masculine male figure in history. He drove out money changers with a whip. He walked willingly into the most brutal death ever recorded. Let me go back to this. He drove out money changers because they were trying to change the definition of what God had already set the definition for of what the church and the house of worship was. And instead of sitting there and being quiet and, like I'm saying, sitting down and shutting up and doing nothing, he went in there to change because he was all in on the standard of what God said the house of worship is supposed to be. And he wasn't going to deviate from it, he wasn't going to change from it, and he wasn't going to sit there and let someone else do what he knows was wrong. So he went in there and literally flipped tables. He flipped tables and lost it on these people because the standard was set. God, creator, got to set creation, got to set the definition of creation, of manhood, of all these things. And that was a standard Jesus lived and walked with. And so when that standard was broken, Jesus went in and flipped tables. He walked into the most brutal death ever recorded. He stood in front of crowds that wanted him dead and told them the truth, anyways. Remember, this is what's crazy. He preached to the people that ultimately said, crucify him. Because the standard was God's word, not society. So to be a Christ-like follower, we can't sit down and be quiet. We have to have a faith that speaks even when the world stays silent. What else did he do? He wept at a tomb for his friend. He washed his disciples' feet. And John 11, 35, shortest verse in the Bible, Jesus wept. Not that everything has the, but he showed emotion. That's two words, though, of one of the most powerful statements about masculinity in the entire Bible. The Son of God, the one who spoke the universe into existence, stood at a grave, and cried. And if Jesus can wep, then you need to quit pretending that you can't show emotion, that you can't be passionate about things, that you have to bottle it up, sit down, shut up, and be a good little boy. Don't cause any problems to what culture wants. Jesus himself wept, showed emotion, flipped tables. There was a standard that was set, and he was not willing to change that standard. He was not willing to go against that standard. That's what God's looking for today in a man. That's what he's looking for in you right now. Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong. And that's not all about physical strength. Let all that you do be done in love. That's in 1 Corinthians. Notice the verse doesn't end at be strong. It ends with what? Love. Biblical strength and biblical love are not opposite things. It's the same thing. A man who stands firm in his faith does both. Think about this. Have I not commanded you, be strong and courageous, do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go. Joshua 1.9. Wow. Have I not commanded you, be strong and courageous? That's the courage God calls men to in Joshua 1.9 is rooted in, it's rooted in something different. It's not rooted in personal toughness, it's rooted entirely in God's presence. Have I not commanded you? Don't be frightened, do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go. It's saying, hey, the strength you need to be the man that goes against culture and to be the man of the Bible, that the Bible calls you to be, that the God, the Creator, is defined for his creation. Hey, it's a walk with the Lord. It's not your strength, it's God's strength. And that changes everything about what it means to be a strong man. But there's some of you out there, and this is the this is if you've got to the end, maybe this is the part you need to screen record and send to someone. The man who doesn't think he needs Jesus. That's who I'm talking to right now. So if if if you've got someone in your life, record this, send it to them, send them the whole episode, get them to this point and the the timing and everything. But I am calling out who I want to talk to in this segment right here. So I'm gonna say it again and I'm gonna be quiet so you can record from right now on. Send this to them and let's go. This is for the man who thinks he doesn't need Jesus. This man may be sober, may be successful, he may be a good, okay father and a hard worker, and someone that everyone respects. And he may be completely lost because he can function, but functional stability is not the same thing as salvation. He's stable enough to function in life, but he's not saved. A man can have everything together on the outside and be building his whole life on something that will not hold. So if this is you, I'm gonna tell you this. Matthew 7, I love this. I love this. Everyone then who hears these words of mine and does them will be like a wise man who built his house on the rock, and everyone who hears these words of mine and does not do them will be like the foolish man who built his house on the sand. What that goes on to say in all of that, Matthew chapter 7, is the man that built his house on the rock when the storms came and the wind blew and everything came, when life came and it beats you up, and no one sees you sitting in a closet, sitting in your truck in the driveway, struggling because you can't, you don't have the answers, you can't get it together. It is just tough. Saying, hey, the person that's built on the solid rock is gonna be able to sustain those things. And the person that built it on sand, that structure crashes. So this is not this is not some cool story where a man can make himself his own God and you need to be this and do this, and da-da-da-da-da. And there's a formula for you to be strong enough to be built on rock. That's not what it means. Because when it's his own judgment, his own effort, and his own reputation, and when I mean his, I mean yours. Okay? Your own judgment, your own effort, your own reputation becomes a thing that he actually trusts, then you're gonna fall. But when it becomes God's own judgment, God's own effort that he's already put forth through the work of the cross, through Jesus Christ, through God's reputation of what the word of God says about being a man, what the creator gets to define for creation, when that becomes what you trust and you build on, then you may be the man that decides to go to church, and you may know the language, but if it's built with on you, then you're not built on Christ. So every definition, and this can be for guys that I bet there's guys that listen that you go to church every week, and this is still talking to you because you're built on sand. You can't build your life on yourself, your spouse, your status, your bank account, the brand of your vehicle, the extra toys you have, and the hobbies. You have to build your life on Christ. That's what the creator wanted for his creation. So, what does repentance actually look like for a man who's never been told he needs anything? Well, it starts with honesty. It starts with admitting that the strength that you've been performing with is not the same strength God offers. For godly grief produces repentance that leads to salvation without regret, whereas worldly grief produces death. Corinthians 7 10. For godly grief produces a repentance that leads to salvation without regret. To saying, I'm going to stand here and firmly say I am a man of God, and that I am solid in what I believe. I'm solid in what God's called me to be, and I'm not going to let myself be on sand where the winds and storms of life take me back and forth, back and forth, or my day is decided by emotions and society. My day is decided by God, the Creator, who blessed me with another day, who created me in his image. Hmm. So the strongest thing a man can do, submit yourself to something greater. Not because he has to, you should, but because he knows who God is and what God has done, and the only right response is surrender, which goes against everything that people are going to tell you. You don't surrender, you don't back down to nobody. You don't bend the knee to anybody. So you can live with that macho crap of an excuse for a man, and still God's gonna put you on your knee one day. And it doesn't matter, and at that point, it better be God so glad that you're coming and I've already done this. Or it's oh he's real. This is real. And then that bank account, the the car brand, the house size, the sis the the status and society, everything you work for, you're gonna realize none of that gets taken to heaven. None of that gets to continue on. You worked for something that you can't keep. But a man who surrendered to Jesus Christ is not someone diminished. He's more dangerous to darkness than any self-made man who ever lived. Because a man who surrendered to Jesus is not operating on your own strength. You're operating on the power of the cross of the death, burial, and resurrection of Jesus Christ. A strength that's that's permanent, that doesn't change, doesn't sway. Oh, it's it's it's amazing. It's it's the strength to be able to get up every day, even when you don't want to, even when the world's beating you up and beating you down, and you're sitting in your truck in the driveway, and you don't want to get out and you don't want to go in and deal with things saying, Okay, God, built on you, you're gonna give me the strength, I'm gonna get through this. Today was hard, mentally was tough, but God, I've got you, so I know that victory's already been won, not because of anything I've done, but because of what you've already done. Galatians 2 20. I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh, I live by faith in the Son of God who loved me and gave himself for me. So discipleship, real brotherhood, real accountability, these are not signs of weakness. Changing your men's group to go from a formality to real men's devotion is not a weakness or anything. It's an act of war against everything the enemy wants to do in a man's life. Everything. So stop waiting until you hit rock bottom to reach out. Until you don't know where how you're gonna pay the bill, you don't know how you're gonna provide, you don't know how you're gonna be able to do these things. Quit waiting until then to reach out. Stop watching from a distance, biblical men, Christian men. If you're gonna call yourself that, then this is for you. Stop watching from a distance while men around you fall apart. Go get in the fight. Go grab them, take them to the foot of the cross in prayer, bend a knee and hold them there. Let them know they're not alone, and let them know that it's not dependent on you, and they don't need to build their dependency for the walk of life through you, that they build it through the completed work of the cross. Therefore, take up the whole armor of God that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all to stand firm, Ephesians 6 13. That's a direct challenge for every man that's listening today. What are you holding on to that you will not bring to Jesus? What part of your life are you still trying to handle on your own? And let me ask you this. How's that really, really honestly working out for you? It's time that we stop. Man, it's time that we draw the line. The gospel is not a crutch, it's resurrection. So if this episode hits you today, don't sit on it. Share it with a man in your life who needs to hear it. Your brother, your son, your friend who's been running from God, the guy at work who looks like he has it all together. Send it to him. Share it. Hold them accountable. If you send it and share it with someone, hold them accountable to see that they listen to it. Okay? Not that I'm the greatest thing since sliced bread. I'm not. But we went through what the word of God says about being a man and a biblical man, and I am not going to be silent. We are drawing the line. This is it. This is what a biblical man is to be. So send it, share it, and be accountable and be there for someone. Pray for them. But hey, back to this episode, everything. If you would just leave a review, subscribe where you listen to podcasts, go find the YouTube channel. The link will be in the show notes. Uh, subscribe there and come back for the next episode. Everything of the content I'm putting out is all in one place. You can see it all on the YouTube channel. I put some on Instagram and Facebook. Follow it there. There's a new merch store. You can get some clothes and different things there. 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And if you're the man who's been trying to do it alone, more important than the subscription, the reviews, and all that stuff, that's great if you do it. I I'm so grateful for you guys. But if you're a man that think that's been doing it alone, it's time to stop pretending that's working. Bend your knee, get into the church community, and open your Bible, kick the devil out of your house, kick him out of your life. The world's loud and it's lying to you. And this is where we can. Because, hey, this is the Ain't Quiet Podcast. We're faith that speaks when the world stays silent. God bless. Let me pray for us and we'll get out of here. Dear Heavenly Father. I'm sorry if I failed you in this topic. I'm praying over the men that that will listen to this episode that will take it in. But God, for me, for myself, I pray that I'm the man that leads my house. I pray that I'm walking with you so well. And I'm sorry when I fall short. I pray that the devil knows he's not getting a toe in his door, and if he does, he's meeting me first. And I will fight for my family for eternities at stake. I will fight for my wife, for my children, for their future spouses. And God, if you don't come back and give us many years for the future grandchildren, everything that we may have. I will fight because you've called for biblical men to stand up, and the world tells us to be silent, but we can't no more. It's time to stand up. It's time to be courageous. For you, it has to be for you. So, God, give courage to the man that's listening. Give courage to the spouse, the wife that may be listening and saying, I'm looking for a man like that. Well, this needs to be the criteria they look for, God. Break and convict them that this is the new criteria to measure a man that they pursue or is pursuing them against the word of God. And if they're already married to a man, that he finds you, that you call him to salvation, and that his house becomes a house that worships you. God, may we resist the devil, repent of our sins, kick him out, flee from the temptations and struggles that society puts on us and run to the cross where you've already completed the work. And I pray all this in Jesus' name. Amen.