Do We Love That For You?
Our podcast is going to be explaining in “jersey words” the things we experience, products we use, people we encounter, and anything else we think of. Every episode will be different the only guarantee is that both Zia and Heather will be here.
Do We Love That For You?
Hope is not a town In NJ.... Oh Wait ...
A Fallout tee, a bus lot, and two Jersey girls who couldn’t stop asking questions—Every super team up has an origin story... this is ours. From there, the story folds into a decade of quick curbside chats, dinners that overwhelmed our New York spouses, and a long-distance rhythm that still lands us at the same table whenever we can. This week we pull on the thread of how small moments become big bonds and follow it through holiday chaos, blocked drive-thrus, and roadside snow that swallows headlights whole.
We start with a simple Black Friday plan and meet a Starbucks protest at the door. - WTF Where is our Cake Pops ? With caffeine on the line, we pivot to a grocery-store kiosk with lease rules that keep the lights on, then land at a local coffee spot where cake pops rescue tradition. That detour opens a bigger conversation about supporting small businesses, -
And then there’s the misadventure you didn’t know you needed: a condo upgrade, a cold-water bidet, and the fastest route to a telehealth appointment.
If you’ve ever built a friendship out of ordinary moments, fought for your coffee ritual, or turned a travel nightmare into a story you now love, you’ll feel at home here. Hit play, share this with your favorite person, and tell us the small moment that started your best friendship. Subscribe, leave a review, and drop your own chaotic coffee or travel tale—we’ll read our favorites on the show.
You're recording. We were just saying how, you know, we talk before our recordings and we usually are joking around. And you know, we go into these things laughing already.
SPEAKER_01:Already, yeah. Except our producer pulled them out. Oh, no.
SPEAKER_00:Because remember we have to give him producer credits. No, we're losing them. People need to know we're laughing.
SPEAKER_01:I seriously.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:Alright. So this is episode two of Do we love that for you?
SPEAKER_00:Do we love that for you? Do we?
SPEAKER_01:Do we?
SPEAKER_00:I don't know. I don't know. I, of course, am Heather. And I am Zia. I'm so glad we're doing this. This is nice. Yes. Yeah. And like we said, we're doing it for us. If you enjoy our little spiel, enjoy it. But we're with us. Yes, yes.
SPEAKER_01:So, Rich, quick side note on this. We are recording this in a new method because apparently, I know my daughter did not like the dudes that went every 10 minutes when we recorded on the phone. She told me multiple times that I needed to get rid of it. Rich told me we needed to get rid of it, and I told all of them we loved it. However, to make us sound more than that. You don't want to annoy people. And to sound more perverse. Progression. Progression. So Rich spent most of the week trying to find an app we can use. So we found this one. Yep. And we're gonna give this one a shot. So we'll see how it works.
SPEAKER_00:There's no did to annoy anyone. We'll see it, we'll see what they say. Every ten minutes.
SPEAKER_01:That's right. So we realized after the last one that we didn't talk about how we met. We talked about who we were and where we were and why we were, but we didn't talk about how we actually met.
SPEAKER_00:Some people might be like, why why are they doing this together? How do they know each other?
SPEAKER_01:So I think it's actually quite a funny story. And of course, the way we tell it, it gets funnier each time. Absolutely. So we'll start. I'll set the scene. Yes, go ahead. I was a school bus driver for 11 years in a school district in upstate New York. And um our school district has eight elementary schools, three middle schools, and two high schools. Absolutely. So you can end up almost anywhere, and of course all the start times and end times are at different times throughout the day. But um there was two elementary schools, well, technically three, but two parking lots for a school bus that I like to go to. And I always made a point of trying to get a run, um, you know, a bus route that would take me to one of those two bus parking lots. Because as a bus driver, we didn't really care what the school they came from. Um just the parking lot is what we liked. Right. Um so I was in a building that we call the North Building. That's the one parking lot I was at. And it has two elementary schools in it. And um, we would always pull our buses up about 10 or 15 minutes before the kids come out of school at the end of the day. And we use that time to get the bus ready for the afternoon and things like that. And we would line up so that we were all in order for the kids to get on in an organizational way, in an organized way, I guess is the proper word. Not that it ever was organized or organized chaos, maybe. Yes. Um, but we did that. And um every now and then, if you had issues on the bus, we would have to Which was more often than not. On my route, yeah. We would have to call what they call the disciplinary. Um, and that was our definition for it as a bus driver. I know um I know Zia in the school, you guys are called the the disciplinarians are called different, right? They're called a principal aid. We didn't call them that, we just called them disciplinarian. Yeah, so I called for disciplinarian one day because I was having problems on my bus with another bus.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:And so that bus driver and I were standing outside of our buses waiting for the disciplinary to come up.
SPEAKER_00:And there I was. There you were. And I just kept like going to your bus for either that issue or other little issues, or even just like bus passes, like you give kids bus passes to like either go home or just to a daycare. And so I kept going out to her bus and um I said, you know, she was wearing a fallout shirt, which a fallout four, the video. Yeah, so so it was like big in my household because we play video games in this household too, and so did she. And um get a little brainwashed. Now you have you know, you're a parent, you gotta do what your kids tell you. So um I walked out and I was like, Do you play that? Because it was on her shirt. And she's like, Yeah, why? Such a jersey dance. Right? I know I was like, why? Why do you want to go? Nosy, what do you what do you need to know that for? Stop looking at my shirt. So I was like, Oh, I said, Yeah, we play in our household. I play, you know, my kids, that's etc. So it was kind of like a ending conversation because you know, two jersey girls. Yep. We didn't even know what to do. Oh, I didn't know you were in Jersey from then, right? We didn't even know.
SPEAKER_01:All right, good. So I'm glad the principal aide, the disciplinary lady, I'm so glad she plays video games. That's right. What do you do? What did it be today?
SPEAKER_00:Yep.
SPEAKER_01:Right.
SPEAKER_00:Yep. So she, you know, a couple of weeks go by. We really didn't talk about it, and then she starts wearing jersey shirts.
SPEAKER_01:Well, start wearing jersey shirts. Yeah, noticed.
SPEAKER_00:I noticed that you were wearing a jersey shirt.
SPEAKER_01:I think it was a shirt that was the outline of the state, and it had a bunch of cities, all of them. It had just about all the towns and cities all over it. Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:So I was like, all right, what's with the jersey shirt? Why are you asking? Why? Why do you want to know? Why do this lady's asking too many questions about me?
SPEAKER_01:She wants to know about my Fallout 4 t-shirt. She wants to know about my jersey shirt. What is your problem, lady? Right, right.
SPEAKER_00:And so she was like, Well, I'm from Jersey. I'm like, so am I. And whereabouts? Whereabouts? I go, well, it's not on your shirt. Mine isn't either. So then we were complaining about the shirt together that you should be included on the shirt. Yes. Yes. And then that was it. I saw that. And then I think we exchanged names officially. We did officially, yep, because I I only had like your last name. You had my last name, but it wasn't officially. That's all you get. Um, you officially call that person to the bus. Right. I don't care. I just I need you. Yeah, I don't need you. And usually, like what people don't know is like if you did call me out to the bus, it wouldn't be you, it would be the dispatch would call the school and then I come out. So you wouldn't have even called my name. You know, you're just like, oh, she's coming. Yep, she's coming.
SPEAKER_01:I'm the disciplinary, and then the somebody would appear because if I was at the elementary school, right, or if it was a child that was on my bus that went to the other elementary school, you wouldn't necessarily come. No, it wouldn't have been me.
SPEAKER_02:It would be that you're just ruled that you had a trouble bus.
SPEAKER_01:No. You know what though, those kids to this day still.
SPEAKER_00:You would have been friends with the other principal aide.
SPEAKER_01:I don't know who's gonna listen to it from the school. So I'm just gonna say, yeah.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah. Yeah. I yeah, you love this better for you. I love this better.
SPEAKER_01:So now it's like 10 years. At the same time. Yeah, I was gonna say, but at the same time, your one of your children, yeah, adult children at the time was working at the school. Yes, they were. And he was very bonded with one of my beloved needing children. And so I actually that's how I met your son. Your eldest son. Yep. That's how I met him. And um he would walk her to the bus a lot of days, and I was I finally asked him after a couple of weeks, why are you walking her? And I yeah.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, even he was that was also and it's like she was meeting the whole family at one time. It was like the like our family was being like pushed into her life very quickly.
SPEAKER_01:Well, hold on. If we're gonna do that, then we let's go. Let's just extend it. Then we all went to your house for dinner one night. That's right. It was me and my husband now, but we were dating at the time, and my and my only daughter are technically our second youngest. Yeah, it was you, your husband, and your oldest son or your youngest son. And we all went to your house for dinner, and that was crazy.
SPEAKER_00:It was a Jersey day, and that's actually what my husband said when you guys left. He was like, Okay, that was a lot of Jersey for me because your husband is New York, and my husband's New York, and then we're Jersey, and they're just like anytime we go out, they have to sit there and listen to a lot of Jersey talk and energy, and and then they try to throw in their New Yorkisms every now and then, and it's like no. No, we get they get shot down a lot.
SPEAKER_01:Frequently.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah. But yeah, so it's been 10 years now that I've known you. Yeah. I mean, and and we actually got yelled at too a couple times that I was just coming out to talk to you. I know.
SPEAKER_01:Yes, because as our friendship grew, yeah, we would if you had free moment and I was waiting for the kids to come out, you would pop down to my bus and and say hi. And I didn't always get to be at your school. There were years when I wasn't at your school, right? Which, because of the way we would bid on our runs, every year we bid, and it's based on seniority. So in the beginning, when we first met, I was down on seniority. But as I got higher, it got easier to get to your school. Um, however, that also meant that my hours were limited. Yep. Because if there wasn't a long enough hours in the day, but we made it work. And if I didn't make it to your school, that's okay.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, and we were starting at that point that we started going for coffee and you know, getting together. Yes. That's an I love that for you transition.
SPEAKER_01:That's right. That's right. I love how you did that. Yes, yes.
SPEAKER_00:So 10 years, and um yeah, we that's how we're strong.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, and now we're now we're distanced, but now we're distanced. We have a guaranteed every Saturday morning phone call.
SPEAKER_00:Yep.
SPEAKER_01:Every two Saturdays at this point, but we'll get it to every Saturday at some point, I hope.
SPEAKER_00:Absolutely.
SPEAKER_01:And um, every time I pop into New York, I always sneak over and see her. Although that was the best when I surprised you that first school. You did. Actually, there's not many people that make it. I cried. You cried, then I cried, then Isabella cried. Yep. So yeah. Isabella's somebody we'll talk about another day. Yeah. I need to get her permission first. I don't want to bring her up. But but um, but yeah.
SPEAKER_00:Yep.
SPEAKER_02:Friendship.
SPEAKER_00:Friendship.
SPEAKER_02:It's great. I wouldn't change it for the world.
SPEAKER_00:No, me neither. Me neither. Um, so yeah, transitioning to my little coffee there. Um yeah. We were going to have coffee on Black Friday. On Black Friday, because we get a cup of coffee? Well, we had to go to a couple of places. Three stops. Three stops. Yep. Three steps. And um, so there was a list. I don't know if you saw it out there. People were trying to say not to go to different stores during Black Friday, you know, try to not spend money at certain places. Um there was a list. I'm not gonna get into the list because I we're gonna keep this non-political. So we're going we're we're, you know, I'm driving by to get to you because we're going to one store that morning and I see all these protesters, tons of protesters out at Starbucks. And I was like, oh my god. Now to me, I'm thinking, are they just protesting something personal or are they protesting the list? Because I was like, Right, because sometimes you have protesters. Yeah, sometimes you have protesters just standing there. Yeah, so I was like, oh my god, are we gonna go out and we're gonna encounter all these protesters, right? Yes, so you texted me right when you pull into the store. That was like my first thought. I'm like, are there protesters everywhere? Because it that just you know, it just ruins the day for us to, you know, enjoy. So anyway, we leave the store and we're ready to go to Starbucks, and um, they're there front and drive-through.
SPEAKER_01:And they stopped a car from pulling in the drive-thru. I don't know if you saw it, because I was the first car. We were all in our own cars. Yeah. And I say, Oh, because my daughter joined us. So we were in three cars.
SPEAKER_00:Right. So we you know, when we pulled up, I said, Oh my god, that guy couldn't get into the building. Yeah. And the late we asked the protesters, like, oh, excuse me, you know, are they closed? And she said, No, the dining is closed, Ari, because we're protesting. It's the um barista protest. Right. And we were like, Oh my god, okay. And you know, I was kind of shocked. I know they're pulling like all the pro the um baristas from all the places because they want to they want to code a union, they want to unionize Starbucks.
SPEAKER_01:Absolutely. And again, we're not gonna talk about that. That's a political thing.
SPEAKER_00:But nope, you know, it looked like a lot compared to familiar faces because we would always go after work. I didn't never see a you know, the familiar ones didn't look like the familiar ones we always saw.
SPEAKER_01:I said to I said to Eliza, I said, dude, I said there was 12 or 14 baristas standing at that Starbucks. I'm like, oh my god, if there were that many people there all the time, we wouldn't have to wait an hour for a cup of coffee some days, just work. And and Eliza told me that I was jumping off the deep end a little bit on that. But yeah, so I didn't really love that for her.
SPEAKER_00:Just like, you know, that that that brain thought of now I'm dealing with shopping, Christmas stresses, holiday stresses, and then also you're dealing with I can't get a cup of coffee in the morning because now it's closed. So then we went to another one and they were open, but their um espresso machine didn't work. Right.
SPEAKER_01:Well, so I did look into that. So contractually, they rent the space from the grocery store. Oh and in their lease, they must be open if the grocery store is open. Oh, I love that. So we'll go to all the grocery stores. No, but they turned off their espresso machines because I can't imagine that their espresso machine was broken.
SPEAKER_00:Well, the one over here by me, theirs did break for a while and I couldn't get my coffee. So there they do have quite a problem with the colour. They do, okay. Yeah, because Zach and I, you know, my son Zach and I, we were very, you know, we get the caramel macchiato, and I need my espresso shots, and my god, if it's not there, good lord. It's it's a tragedy. Yes, and you know how it says, oh, the first sip on the cup? Don't I look at you every time I take that first sip? And I'm like, It's like my Coca-Cola. It's between my Coca-Cola and my Starbucks. I'm I'm okay if I get that first sip. Agreed. Yep.
SPEAKER_01:So I come home. So after we well, no, go ahead. So then we had to, so we get there to the grocery store. We had Starbucks, and they told us, but we did get our cake pops there. We did, we got our cake pops there. That's a because that's a tradition of ours.
SPEAKER_00:Yep, yep, yep. And then um, you know, we went there and then we went to a local uh place to eat. Um it's a little chain, but it's a local chain. Yep, and we we got our coffee there, and you know, we b we all agreed it's great to support the local community shops at that point because it is Black Friday.
SPEAKER_01:Right. And and honestly, I would have been I would have been very willing to go there first. Me too. Without going to the Starbucks, but but I was gonna say that, but it wasn't tradition because that place when we would go, it would be right after school, and all the high schoolers would end up in there. And we won't want to sit in a coffee shop and try to have an adult, non school related conversation because we talk about everything, we almost never talk about school, and if we do, it's like the first 10 minutes, it's like, oh my gosh, that that happened. And then we move on because our friendship isn't based on the school, that's how we met. That was our foundation, but then we've moved on. So it was always hard to go to the local one. We moved on. Right. Oh, and then nobody could see, but I did make my arms go like out and about, like we moved on. Yeah. Um but yeah, so I mean, we didn't we didn't want to go where all the kids were because we used to go to the one right by your house, right? But all the kids from your school go would go there with their parents after school, absolutely grocery shop or whatever, and we were seeing kids there, so we decided to go to the big one. Yeah um that's what we did.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah. Um but yeah, so definitely. So Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:So Black Friday was a very interesting day.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:So I know it says um on our little notes here that we write that we were gonna talk about Black Friday shopping, but I do need to change the subject ever so slightly. So we did go shopping at one store in the morning. Um, and then we went to our coffee drama, as it may be. And then I left straight from there. Oh no, I wonder if that sound, did you hear that sound?
SPEAKER_00:What?
SPEAKER_01:Oh, I just got a news alert and it popped up, but it made its big sound in my ear. No, so I wonder if it later show up. Oh, I wonder if it'll show up on the recording. Yeah, we'll have to see. Um so I left. We finished the coffee around noon and um I have a three and a half hour drive home. And uh on my drive home, I started driving and I got to the New York Vermont border and I hit a snow squall. Oh, geez. We're from upstate New York. We get snow squalls. I've driven a bus in snow squalls. It's a snow squall. You slow down for 10 minutes, you drive out of it.
SPEAKER_00:Absolutely.
SPEAKER_01:So this one was um a big snow squall. It lasted probably 10 or 15 minutes of driving time. And um so I get into Vermont and I'm out of the snow squall. Now, of course, I have the mountains of Vermont. And for the most part, those were fine. It was a little congested, but not too bad. Um, I get almost out of Vermont and I hit a second snow squall. Oh no, wait. I didn't go that way. That's what I'm thinking. I'm like, why didn't I why am I not knowing where I hit that second snow squall? No. My husband, Rich, told me to go the highway, which would take longer. That's right. And I hit it was on the New York, Massachusetts border, like the Stockbridge area where I hit the first snow squall. And then I get in to Mass. That's right. It wasn't Vermont, it was Mass.
SPEAKER_00:Oh
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. So I get into Mass and I'm on I ninety and it sent me up I ninety one, which takes you up on the it takes you up straight up Mass and then it takes you to the Vermont, New Hampshire border. Okay. And then it goes up the Vermont, New Hampshire border all the way. So it took me that way and I was about 20 miles out of the Vermont. Right. That's where it was. I was about 20 miles out of Vermont and I had a snow squall so bad. I was driving 15 miles an hour on an interstate. I couldn't see no car around me. I couldn't see the car in front of me. I couldn't even see their lights. It was so bad. Then I finally get into Vermont and the snow stopped in that little area. Yeah. I get into New Hampshire and I was totally fine until I got to the middle of the state. Yeah. And when I got to the middle of the state, I hit another snow squall. And this one lasted probably it they called it a squall, but I mean it was a snowstorm. Yeah. Um, and there was like four or five car accidents. There was at one point I was driving and I went around a bend and there was about three cars in front of me. Yeah. And 10 or 12 behind me. I couldn't see the end of the line behind me. But we were coming and we went around this bend and there was a cop in the road directing traffic because of an accident. Oh my God. I didn't see him until he was at my window.
SPEAKER_00:So dangerous for him, too.
SPEAKER_01:So dangerous for him. And I'm like, oh my gosh. And I'm like, whoa. And then finally I get to Concord, um, which is the city right next to where I live, and it like immediately cleared up and was fine. And oh my god. I'm only 20 miles from Concord. So I mean it was like sail smooth, smooth sailing the rest of the way home. Great. But it took me almost four and a half hours to get home.
SPEAKER_00:Of course. The only time that we've run into that is like we go to the New Jersey Devil Games, and we Michael and I had hit a huge storm last year. It took us like almost six hours to get home. Because we were right behind the plow, also. And then, you know, we just couldn't move, we couldn't go left, we couldn't go right, we couldn't even pass it. Um, and it was like six hours, it's three hours, maybe two and a half from North. And you're just like, you know, what's happening? I I mean, you get so tired coming home driving, right? Yeah, it was crazy. I love to drive, but my god, six hour trip back and forth, that's just crazy. Six hour trip for what should be two and a half or three. Absolutely. Yep. And I think that's the problem. I keep that in my head while I'm driving, and you're like, this could have been two and a half hours. This could have been half hours.
SPEAKER_01:I love that for you because I say the same thing. Yeah. Oh my gosh, I love that. I love that. Oh my god. But yeah, so uh it's just it's crazy. It is like I was shocked at how long it took me. I think one time it was in the summer, um, I used to meet my well, no, worse than I used to meet my daughter's father. We used to do the divorced parent swap in a parking lot at McDonald's right there in Mawa. Right. I'm 17. Yep. And um, we used to meet there, and um I planned all of her visits around this time the the next year, or for the rest of the time she would go visit him, but it was the day of Travers. Oh, geez. The race in Saratoga at the Saratoga racetrack. And it was the day of the Travers, and we met at the worst time apparently, and I dropped her off, and there was an accident right near the toll because it was when there was toll booths. Yeah, there was an accident right outside the toll booth on both sides. Uh-huh. So it took forever to get through that stretch. And then once I got through that stretch, it was literally bumper to bumper all the way up because everybody was going to Travers. And then you see the horses. The horses covering up there. Yeah. Yeah, it was crazy. And that one took me almost six hours to get from Mawa. Yeah. To to uh we were living in at that time we were living up in Scattercoke. Okay. We were living up that way. And it took me like six hours because I got stuck in Travers traffic and I didn't even know what Travers was at that point.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah. Yeah. I know it takes you a while to learn that's I mean, well, I came from a uh racetrack uh loving family. Uh let's put it that way nicely. Um but definitely um you know I knew all that stuff probably before I was eight. Um but yeah, definitely. It's yeah, it's a lot of things. But you didn't have to drive in that traffic. Good lord, no, not at all. But talking about traveling, um, I was acquiring a new bag for school, you know, to take my stuff because you know we have these big water cups now with the handles and all that.
SPEAKER_01:Those fancy ones that the second graders come walking in with.
SPEAKER_00:I know. Stanley cups. I don't have a Stanley. I do not like the Stanley's. I don't have a Stanley, but I do have a brewmate. And um that one a little bit smaller size, but it does have the handle. And um, I'm like, how do I get this thing to work with a coffee cup, the water cup? How do how do you do that, right? So I bought a bag online that had a little clip that goes through the handle and it kind of secures it in the pocket so that you don't drop it out. Well, okay, yeah, I mean, it's great. So I got in a fight with it because it wouldn't let go of my cup. So I went to take the little hook off and it wouldn't let go of the hook, first of all, and then it got stuck with my cup coming out. So, um, needless to say, quick pro quo there. Um, my daughter has it now. She took it to the city to travel with. Um, because I I was like, what am I doing? This is ridiculous. So I did get my old Adidas bag back, and this has a leak-proof top, literally. No water comes out of this thing. And I just throw it inside, stuff it between like two bags, and boom. You're good. Yeah. I love that. So you like don't have to carry anything. I mean, beautiful bags, loved it. But nope, I'm not I cannot fight with anything in the morning. I have to fight with myself to get going. I'm not fighting with them.
SPEAKER_01:And and as we spoke earlier, you are the disciplinarian, so I am the disciplinary.
SPEAKER_00:Absolutely. I don't need my day to start with a bad bag issue and a cup issue. That's the least of my worries that day. Oh my god. Right? Oh gosh. Yeah, it's just, you know, you try to make these things easier for yourself. And you're like, I'm gonna get like just to treat yourself during the school year, you're like, I'll get a new shirt, or I'll get a new bag, make things easier. Sometimes you just gotta stick with the you know, devil you know and not the one you're going to.
SPEAKER_01:Sometimes the yeah, yeah, right. That is yep, very much so.
SPEAKER_00:Absolutely.
SPEAKER_01:Uh so I have one funny story to tell you. Oh, well, I have a ton of funny stories, but I have I have an epic one. So my husband's brother owns a condo down in Ocean City, Maryland. Yeah, and he doesn't use it as an Airbnb, okay, but he lets family come down and use it. Yeah, so we go down and typically go a week in the summer, and um uh you know, other family members go down and of course they're there and all that. So this year we decided we didn't want to go down over the summer, we wanted to go down for a music festival in September. So we took a week down there and we did a midweek, so it was like a Wednesday to a Wednesday kind of thing, just to be different because we wanted the whole weekend for the music festival. Right. So his condo years ago when they first got it, needed a lot of upgrades. It was a very old condo, it looked old, but it was it was very comfortable. It was a great, it's a great condo. I love his condo. Perfect location. So one year they came through and they redid the floors, and then they redid the kitchen, and then they redid the bathroom. And I mean you could see how they put air conditioning, they put a central a central unit in, and so I mean they're redoing all this stuff and they they make it look it's amazing how it functional it is for such a small space. Right. I think it's like 900 square feet. I mean, it's microtiny. Yeah, but um so this year their upgrade was they installed a bidet on their toilet.
SPEAKER_00:Oh my god. So you know me well enough to know that I have to play with that. You have to play with everything. I have to play with that. They have ones with music, I mean lights, I mean lights, music. I mean, you can have an entertainment show while you're going potty.
SPEAKER_01:Exactly. Yeah. So this is just a cold water bidet.
SPEAKER_00:No, I'm just joking.
SPEAKER_01:Oh, that could be fun instead of searching reels while you're sitting there. I love it. You know we would do it too. I would too. I mean so I'm playing with the bidet for four or five days. Right. And not thinking any of it is wrong. Right. Just playing with the bidet. Every time I would go, I would do like a sit-shap and you know, I'd try them. Having fun. Right. So we decided to come home a day early. Not because of anything, just because it was cold, we couldn't go in the water, it had rained, it was the vacation was over, you know. So we decided, you know what, let's just go home a day early. Absolutely. It's not gonna hurt anything. Yep. What are we going home for? You know? Yeah. So we come, we came home a day early. And on the drive home, I started to get like a stomachache. And I'm like, oh, I don't normally get travel tummy, but I'm like, all right, it's travel tummy. So I didn't really eat. It was it's being in New Hampshire now, it's it's almost a seven, eight hour drive. Yeah. You know, it used to be five or six, now it's yeah, closer to seven, eight. Right. Because we have to go through after we come out of Jersey, we literally have to go across um the Tap and Z. Tap and Z. And yes, I'm gonna call up the Tap and Z. I'm not calling it whatever the hell it's called. It's always Tap and Z. Exactly. Love that for us. Yeah. Um, so we have to go that way. So of course that adds to an hour. But anyway, so we get home and like I feel feverish, I feel blah, like, and I don't understand. And I'm like, I don't understand what's going on. And and and so so Rich asked me, did I want to go to the doctor? And I'm like, no, I don't need to go to the doctor. I I don't know. Well, the next morning when I woke up. Plus, you're probably thinking it was rainy. Well, yeah, I'm just thinking it was travel, Tommy, and I just didn't feel well.
SPEAKER_00:Absolutely.
SPEAKER_01:And long drive, and yeah, you know, I have autoimmune issues. So exactly, I have autoimmune issues, so who knows, you know. And so the next morning I wake up and I'm like, yeah, no, I have a UTI. Oh no. As you know, I get UTIs when the wind blows. So why I thought playing with the bidet was the thing to do. So something new, something new. Exactly. So my husband was like, You should go to the doctor, and I'm like, No, yeah. I'm like, why don't we just do one of those video calls? I'm like, because I get them so often, I don't need to go there. I can exactly so I call one and the doctor calls me back 10 or 15 minutes later, and I'm on the video call with the doctor, and she's like, So how do you know it's a UTI? And I'm like, Okay. And I had never seen this. I mean, I have no insurance because I moved. So this is a first visit as opposed to what I had. So I tell the lady, I'm like, okay, look, I get UTIs when the wind blows wrong.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:I said, I mean, we're in our 50s, we know you know what a UTI is, right? And I'm like, and she's like, oh, okay. And I said, and to top it off, I just spent a week on vacation and the house we were staying in had a bidet, and she started laughing. And she goes, Do you need me to teach you how to use a bidet? And I'm like, Well, no, I clearly know now how not to use it. Right. Not so frequently.
unknown:No.
SPEAKER_01:And and not, you know, back to front. It's front to back. Right, right, right. Um, so yeah, so that was um so you're not going to France.
SPEAKER_00:No, I'm just showing.
SPEAKER_01:I'm I'm not. No, I think I'm gonna stay away from biddays for a while.
SPEAKER_00:Yes, yes, I would uh suggest that for you. Yep. I mean, I mean, like you said, you know, it's terrible. You going into that, you we're in our 50s, you definitely know what you've been through along the way medically. And then when they say, How do you know? Dude, like, you know, I think between my family, my grandparents also, to me, in my generation, like, it's just, you know, we had a funny conversation with Alex about that yesterday. He was like, Mom, when did you know that um you were your body was deteriorating? And I was like, Alex, probably when I was born. It was probably when I was born. Um and then definitely my first real sickness was I was eight. So, you know, it's just like you know from having so many things what you might have. Right. Yep. It's like just give me the medication, please. Let me take care of my problems. Yes. Right.
SPEAKER_01:Just just do it. Just give me what I need.
SPEAKER_00:Yep, absolutely. And the explanations over and over again. It's like, you know, you have to go through your whole medical history when it's in the file already. You know, why do we fill out all these things if it's they're gonna ask you again and again and again?
SPEAKER_01:So I didn't when I went to my new no, when I went to my new rheumatologist, I walked in and the the nurse was like, Okay, you're a new patient. Yeah, I know he's looking at your chart right now. I know we got some records from your doctor in New York, right? So we'll see what it is. And he walked in and he sat down and he was like, So, according to your chart, this and this and this and this and this. I love that. And I'm like, Yeah, and he's like, So this and this and this and this, and I'm like, Yeah, and he's like, All right, here's the new plan. Yeah, and he like he he knew, and I was like mind blown because he walked in as if I was on a follow-up. It was not like an I mean it was obviously a new patient because we did cover some things that we covered, you know, I covered in New York, but right I I was absolutely shocked that he had read my chart. He he knew what I was doing and was like, we're not even gonna do the full blood panel. He's like, let's just do your your biannual update for blood work. He's like, go ahead and take that. And I'm like, seriously? He's like, Yeah, I got all your blood work.
SPEAKER_00:I'm like, Yeah, I'm like, I absolutely love you. Yep. Well, you know, I held on to my doctors. I've had my same doctors for years. Um, and then I one of my doctors had gotten sick, so I had to change a different G GY. And she came in, she read my chart too. And I think it might be that younger generation of doctors that are like, it's in the chart, you know, kind of like just look at the chart. Yeah, yeah. I love that for us because man, I it's hard.
SPEAKER_01:You do love that for us.
SPEAKER_00:There's too much medical between the two of us.
SPEAKER_01:We could have we could have five podcast episodes over that. Oh my god, but yeah, we're not getting into any of that.
SPEAKER_00:Absolutely. Yep, but but oh man, so yeah, yeah, that's we had a full-packed uh I like when we're we're doing this this way because we have a lot to talk about. But when we get together, people might think that we just get together to talk like this, but we're talking all week through text and yeah, and this is how we talk.
SPEAKER_01:It is we're not I don't know about you, I'm not doing anything different. The only different thing I'm doing is I look at our notes because we have our notes that we want to talk about on the podcast.
SPEAKER_00:Absolutely. Yep.
SPEAKER_01:And and we're leaving names out and and certain things like that for privacy issues, but other than that, this is exactly how we talk.
SPEAKER_00:Yep, absolutely, absolutely, and I think that's the best way to do it because you know, it's between like our little chit-chats that we do have, and when we bring something up, um, you know, it does affect other people, and that's kind of why we decided to do this because how many other people are going through the same things or having the same things.
SPEAKER_01:And even if it just makes them laugh because they're talking about you know, I used a bidet and had a UTI too. Oh my gosh, or I tried to get Starbucks on Black Friday. Oh the protest is here this weekend, right? Oh no, it's in New Hampshire, yeah. It it just hit New Hampshire. They were there protesting today, so no Starbucks for me.
SPEAKER_00:No Starbucks for you. Ahrigy lady.
SPEAKER_01:On that note, yes, I think we should probably call it because I got Christmas decorating to do today.
SPEAKER_00:Oh, geez. Yeah, and I'm going to watch my grandchildren. So Yay! I love that for you. I love that for you. I love it for me too. I do love that. Yes. So yeah. But yeah, thank you for uh joining us if you are for our second episode. And hopefully we will have you here the next week.
SPEAKER_01:You want to try doing one next week? Do you want to do a back-to-backer or should we stick with the two weeks for now? Um, let's try. You want you want to go for next week? Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:We always push ourselves. Let's push ourselves.
SPEAKER_01:Let's do it. Let's do it. Next week it is.
SPEAKER_00:Next week it is. Oh, oh yes.
SPEAKER_01:Yes. Our producer is available. Yes.
SPEAKER_00:Yes. Thank you for coming into Do We Love That for You. Yes, and we will love everything for you next week.
SPEAKER_01:Will we? We'll try to.
SPEAKER_00:We'll try to.
SPEAKER_01:All right. I'll talk to you later. Bye-bye. Bye bye.
