Do We Love That For You?

Do We Love...Laughing

• Heather and Zia • Season 1 • Episode 11

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Did you love that for us?

Ever used a fake name at a bar and felt a little guilty about it? We flip that script and show how “bar names” are less about pretending and more about protecting—practical boundaries for women navigating crowded rooms, pushy strangers, and the instant-find world of social media. From there, we broaden the lens: what it means for Gen X and beyond to actively lift up younger women at work, and how to turn mentorship from a buzzword into a habit that actually changes someone’s week.

We get honest about the moments that still sting—outfit policing, whispered critiques, the side-eyes that shrink confidence—and swap them for tools that help: sharing the playbook for raises, setting calendar boundaries without guilt, and giving credit in rooms where it moves careers. Friendship becomes the backbone of it all. We talk about the comfort of being fully seen, laughing through the “did she just kick that chair” stories, and how acceptance lowers the mental cost of showing up as yourself.

There’s real body talk too. Early passion in running and dance can leave a tab on our joints, so we map compassionate pivots: walking that counts, yoga for mobility, dance for joy, and low-impact training that keeps us moving without the crash. Between the big themes, we let the local color through—Jersey vs Philly loyalties, Z100 nostalgia, subs and Taylor Ham, beach-day snacks, coffee versus tea, and the accents that always give us away.

Hit play for a blend of humor, boundary-setting, and practical empowerment you can use today. If this conversation made you nod, laugh, or rethink a habit, follow the show, share it with a friend who needs a lift, and leave a quick review to help others find us. Your support helps us keep the honesty—and the laughs—coming.

Heather:

Hey everybody, welcome to episode 11. Welcome, welcome. Do we love laughing?

zia:

Do you? I like I do. I love laughing with you.

Heather:

I feel like sometimes we just laugh. We don't even speak. We'll just look at each other and the hysterics start.

zia:

Yeah. Sometimes it happens before we get started on our podcast.

Heather:

Or when we have to restart the recording three, four, however many times because we have malfunctions. That's right. That's right. So I'm Heather. And we wanna Are you? Yes. Um Are you Heather? I I am sitting in my desk in my she shed. I don't know. But I mean, I've been other things, other places.

zia:

I don't know. I think we should talk about that.

Heather:

Okay. I'm still Heather and you're Zia. Welcome. But yes, I do have a bar name. So this all started because I was at square dancing last week and somebody called Rich John. And we all laughed. And he was like, I'm wearing a name tag because we have cute little name tags. Right. He's like, I'm wearing a name tag. It says Rich. And we all laugh. Ha ha ha ha ha. We go and sit down. You know, he dance a couple of dances and then we take a break. Right. So we're sitting on the break, and Rich goes, Hey, Michelle. And I'm like, uh, who's Michelle? And he's like, I was just making up a name for you. And I'm like, my bar name is Kimberly. That's cool. And he's like, You what? And so for the next, well, I mean, the breaks are only five minutes, but the next five minutes we spent talking and me trying to explain a bar name to people. Wow. Wow. And maybe it's a military thing, but I'm learning that not a lot of people have bar names. Like in the army, I would go to the bar and I am not giving you my name. Right.

zia:

Well, is it because you you were maybe it's because you guys were only stationed certain places for so long?

Heather:

Maybe. I don't know, but everybody had bar names.

zia:

I mean I couldn't ask Michael. I've been with him since high school, so we never had a name. That's right. That's right. Yeah, I feel like um, you know, like we were talking before, we didn't get to experience we never did that because we weren't bar hopping. We went right from high school. Uh, we're high school sweethearts, and um majority of my kids are high school sweethearts, so right, and we get to do that.

Heather:

Right. So I asked Eliza and Allie, and Allie never did it. Eliza only does it when, well, she has a boyfriend now, so now she doesn't do it at all. But Eliza only did it when she went out with one of her friends who's not from the country. Oh she's from another country. Okay. So sometimes that friend would have a bar name. Okay. And they wouldn't use a they wouldn't use a completely fake name, they just used their middle names. Oh, all right. So that's how they did. But like me and one of the ladies at the at the square dance, she's like, but what if you ended up liking this person and you wanted to get to know them? I'm like, well, then after I meet you at the bar or the club two or three times, right? Then I'm gonna tell you that was my bar name, my real name, and more than likely they had one. And she's like, I still just don't understand. And I'm like, I don't know how to explain it.

zia:

Well, I actually feel like now, nowadays with all these apps and meeting people, I mean, you either have to have a fake name on those apps to meet up, or you know, if you are just doing it at the bar, I feel like that's a safety precaution. You don't want somebody stalking you either. Yeah, it's very accessible to find a name and a person on Facebook or something. Yep. Yep.

Heather:

Yeah, so it was really weird, but I um yeah, it it it surprised me that nobody, one friend, I I like I said, I asked a few people and one friend who is our age, yeah. Um, and she um she did use a bar name on occasion, she said. Yeah, so she did, but literally out of what you and I polled essentially five or six, eight people, absolutely, it was me and one person. Yep. So I find that odd. Um, but yeah, so we had bar names.

zia:

That's crazy. Well, talking about women's safety and everything, um, getting to those subjects. How do you feel about older women like our age empowering the younger generation? I did. We're old. Um, I'm living in it, I'm sitting in it. Yeah, I feel it. Yep. Um, how do you feel about women in our generation or even older? Uh, because I know I didn't get this when I was younger, empowering the younger generation of women in the workplace. Like, and actually, I would also like to see the same generations, newer, older, empowering each other. Like, I don't see it. Um, after all of this accomplishments that women have bought for, being, you know, oh, that you know, we should fight for each other and yeah, we we should use this type of birth control coming from the old generations, right? Right. I still don't see it.

Heather:

I mean, even going back as far as getting the right to vote, I mean right. I still don't see it. That was I I don't either, and it's sad. I mean, I know we empower our kids, yep, and and I know our round our circles, yeah. I feel anyway, our circles, we empower each other very much.

zia:

Very much.

Heather:

Um, even our outskirt friends, you know, and and and things like that. Um, I have a friend who hasn't been working and I didn't know they hadn't been working, and they're in New York. Yep. And she posted on Facebook that everybody was like hindering her and and and bringing her down because she's home on disability because she got hurt on a school bus. Um and I reached out to her and she's like on her Facebook post, she she was saying, you know, I'm I'm I am hurt, and just because I'm going out with my husband doesn't mean I'm not in pain.

zia:

Right.

Heather:

And I reached out to her and I said, I am so sorry that you're hurt. I mean, if I can do anything for you, I'm here. Absolutely. And and I feel like, why would she have to make that kind of a post on Facebook?

zia:

I mean, make a like, and how about not even telling someone because you're afraid, but what how they're gonna react. Exactly. So, like, my thing is like uh, you know, there's there's two Gen Xers in the office, uh, women, and then there's a millennial. Like, I remember how it felt having other older women sometimes saying to me, Oh, well, that's not great, that's not great, why are you doing that? Or I'd come into work looking a certain way, and they would just give me those eyes, like, ooh, what's wrong with you? You know, what is the jealousy between women and also like just remember those stories of like how you felt at that age trying to get started in a new workplace? Like, you know, and I know who you're talking about. Yeah, it's like why just like why do you need why do people women, and we're not even bringing the men into this. Why do women have to always knock down another woman? I don't know. Just just rise them up. I mean, that's the next generation. Push them up, you know. Remember how it was to be you. I say that about elementary school. Yeah, you know, I don't I don't condone like some things these kids do are wacko, but I remember how it was when I was a kid. Yeah, and when you think you're all high and snooty, yeah, I have to uphold the rules of the school or whatever, but some of the stuff they do, that shit's funny. I thought our second grade mean girl click. Right, like I mean, come on, that shit's funny, it's never gonna change. The same shit happens all the time.

Heather:

But that's but that's the thing. I feel like I feel like and I and I hate to say, I hate to say that our generation is, you know, because I mean, oh, you see all those memes and stuff that Gen Xers, Gen Xers, Gen Xers, but I feel like it's true. I mean, we were Lashkey kids. Yep. These kids can't even get off the bus unless somebody's home.

zia:

They can't get to the classroom.

Heather:

Exactly. We were the last, you know, playing outside. Yeah, just because now I understand things are different now. Yeah. And and I get that. And I and I didn't let my kid go outside to play.

zia:

You raised your child more like um the 80s, like I did. Yeah. My kids thought the 80s movies were were their generation because I brainwashed them so well. Right. You know, but it's it's that point of like, I would want someone at my daughter has had so many older women friends. Mm-hmm. Mine too. That have like, oh, I still meeting with this person from my other job, or yeah, oh, she still talks to me. Or like, you know, she was graduating one time in, you know, 2020, and they were all like, We're gonna fix this. You're not gonna have a stupid graduate, you know, like those are the things like be behind the person, you know, or yeah, like we always, you know, we always say to our young millennial in our office, we're like, you know, you're doing a great job. Don't let anybody, you know, and I always say to her, What am I gonna say as a Gen Xer? What am I gonna say? And she goes, Who the fuck cares? Mm-hmm. Right and it's true. Who the fuck cares?

Heather:

Right. Or for example, we would come into work when I was when I was working with you, I would come into work and I would say, I love your shirt, and right, and and people would look at me, or or I had or I had a coworker one time tell me that I probably shouldn't wear a shirt like that.

zia:

Okay, well, and I'm like, I'm like, okay, yeah, yeah.

Heather:

What's wrong with it? Who the fuck cares? Exactly. So, and and that person was a millennial, yeah. And and I feel like I have to kind of draws the line there.

zia:

I think it's the millennials that get shafted.

Heather:

That are that are that are bringing everybody down.

zia:

I feel like I feel like I don't know what happened to our generation because I see it in the buildings. I've worked in many buildings, and I see some of us are like us, where we're like, that's great. I don't even know if I have an emotion in me to even respond to you because I really don't fucking care. Okay. The other side of us got, I don't know what happened to them, but they are like our parents, they're like the snooty patooties that just sit there and they judge all freaking day long. It's like, how can you be that miserable all day long? Yeah, like you just look down at everyone all day long, and you're not smiling, you're not.

Heather:

But I feel like those weren't the kids that went outside to play for eight hours a day and weren't.

zia:

Well, I think they might be I think they might be. They just don't remember, and they think now that I'm an adult, who the frig cares? I'm the adult now, and you're the little peons below me. Well, yep. So it's like that, like I want I want because you do what I do. You think about your daughter. Yeah. What would I want my daughter to have when they go out to the workplace? Right?

Heather:

I want yeah. I want them to have a good head on them.

zia:

I want them to understand you want people to support them, you want people to tell them right for wrong, even in the workplace, share their experiences, remember their experiences. So if somebody made you cry, I I I know people have tried to make me cry in the workplace. Remember that crap. Yeah, and then don't do it to the next generation. Don't do it.

Heather:

Yeah, yeah. It's it's we could go on about this for hours, but yeah, I just and women empower each other.

zia:

Why do we have to be jealous about each other? We're all trying to live a life in this world. Everybody likes what they like, let them like it.

Heather:

Right. And and and and unless it's illegal or immoral or hurtful somehow or their safety, support it.

zia:

Absolutely.

Heather:

Just say, wow, I'm not into that, but that's amazing for you.

zia:

Yep, everybody's trying to do their best.

Heather:

Say I love that for you.

zia:

I love it for you. That's right. I mean, we're saying it every week. People, pay attention.

Heather:

All right. Well, with that said, with that said, yes. Do I embarrass you?

zia:

Never.

Heather:

Do you embarrass me?

zia:

I do sometimes.

Heather:

I mean, do I once in a blue mode? You know, when you kick a random chair in Starbucks for absolutely no reason, the little bit of moment comes across, like, did she really just do that? What am I gonna have to do now? That's right, that's right, that's right.

zia:

That's right. But but you also know if I do embarrass you or I do end up in a situation like that, and somebody looks at me weird, I can handle that.

Heather:

Yeah. I never go to your I never hang out with you without good shoes.

zia:

That's right. That's right. That's why I always have my kick-ass boots on all the time.

Heather:

I always have to have good shoes. Yeah.

zia:

But oh God.

Heather:

It's amazing at how many people say their friends embarrass them.

zia:

Yeah. Or I don't like I feel so comfortable in front of you. Like, I there's no fakeness to like, you know, my little quirks, you know that I pick my thumb like a crazy if I get as a matter of fact, I phone smacked you yesterday. You did, you did. You're like, but it's like we we know our little quirks, yeah, and we accept them. And you help me with mine, I help you with yours.

Heather:

Exactly. There's no embarrassing because that's you.

zia:

We have so many, like we always say, we have so many medical issues that we have to know each other to be like, do you have your freaking medicine with you? Like, you know, do I have to bring some certain sort of kind of fucking medicine for you?

Heather:

How many times have I said that? How many times have you said that with me in my protein bars?

zia:

Right. So it's like, you know, that level of embarrassment. Like, is it embarrassing? It's like the comfortableness. I don't worry.

Heather:

Yeah.

zia:

I don't worry when I'm with you.

Heather:

No, and and the things you do uh that could embarrass me, I know that that's you being you. Yeah, Zia, and Zia does X, Y, and Z, or as I'm using as my favorite example, kicks a chair in the middle of Starbucks. Yeah, because that's what Zia does. If the chair is in her way and she can't easily move it, she moves it however she can. And does it embarrass me for a millisecond? Maybe, but then I'm over it because that's you. Yep.

zia:

And that's the thing. We accept each other. Right.

Heather:

I accept you 100% as you are.

zia:

And I feel like because of that, you're the friends you have outside of me also do that with you because we just don't keep those friends around that don't. Because I can I can't be fake. You can't be fake. We are not it's like you we're loud, I don't give a shit. Right. Get some earplugs. I I don't care. Yeah. Right. I mean, we are way too old to change. I'm not changing my ways. I've changed my ways a lot for my real mom, and I'm not changing them ever again.

Heather:

I changed a lot of my ways to hide emotions and feelings. Yep. And look where that got me. Right. That got me now not working and spending yourself half of my week going to doctor appointments to to to fix me or at least catch me so that I can function. Because there's days when you know I barely can.

zia:

Yep, absolutely.

Heather:

Yeah, I I feel like I feel like we need to this falls under the empowering part. I mean, it all circles back. I you can't embarrass me right because it's you. Right. Yeah, and it's you, right, right, right. I I support you. I mean, and it's it falls under the empowering.

zia:

Yeah, it's it's so good to have yourself surrounded by people like that because to be fake all day long, but oh my god, I can't. I'm not even that way at work. My husband even says that to me. He goes, Did you really say that at work? I'm like, if I'm not gonna be fake here, what you think I walk out that door and change?

Heather:

And honestly, that's why that's why I didn't have a lot of friends at the at the at the school.

zia:

Yeah, me too.

Heather:

Because I'm not gonna I'm not gonna sit there and have lunch with you and gossip about other people. No, I'm sorry. Absolutely. I'm I'm sorry, I'm just not gonna do that. I don't I I do my best not to talk about people behind their backs. Yep. Yep, because if I can't say it to your face, I shouldn't say that's the thing.

zia:

I always say like people are like, oh, I'm gonna tell so and so. Go fucking tell them. I'll go tell them before you tell them. Right. Like, I'm just saying this because it's general conversation. I'm not saying this because you know, my health. I I'm saying this because it's true. This is exactly what they're doing. Right. And go go do it. Be be happy. I'll go with you. Let's go together. Let's go. We'll go right now. Yeah. Absolutely. Yeah, I feel like bringing this in, like, you know, you were you were mentioning, you know, you've hid all these things from the past, you know, your past life, and then now they've made you sick. Kind of goes in right into our next topic. What did you do in your childhood that affected your adult life, right? Your health, your activities, right?

Heather:

What was the number one thing? The number one thing for me was I started road racing five Ks, which is 3.2 miles, 3.1 or 3.2 miles. When I was oh, excuse me, started in Canada. Yeah, seltzer water. Um well the new med I'm on is making my my throat very dry. So um, but as I was saying, I started um road racing when I was nine years old. Yeah, they didn't even have an age bracket for me. They they wanted me to run the one mile fun run. And the custodian of my elementary school, who was my makeshift coach, um said, no, she's gonna run with me in the 5K. And they were like, we don't have a we don't have a spot for her.

zia:

Right.

Heather:

And he was like, that's okay, she just wants to do it. And when I was in the army is when I learned that, well, I broke my ankle in the army and when I healed from the broken ankle, um, I learned then that I can't wear heels. Right. And I can't run. Yep. I have no cartilage in my joints, my hips, ankles, or knees, because I started road racing improperly. Right. And and it's no no disrespect or an insult to him. I was just too young to road race.

zia:

I'm fantastic that they thought you could do it.

Heather:

And I did, by the way. I did, by the way. Yeah, but it's like, but but look at me now.

zia:

Yeah, right. I mean what about you? Well, I came out dancing uh from my mother. Um, I don't even think I had a choice. I was born in a pirouette, yep. Um I probably came out with proper ballet hands. Um and and now it's like um every surgery that I have had is dancing surgery. Yeah. A dancering dancing surgery. Um, my I just dealing with my hip. And it's funny because I was just showing my son's girlfriend pictures of me dancing. I was like probably seven, six, seven years old, and they're taking pictures of me. Yeah, take seven. Um, and what do you call it? And um the the leg that I have in, you know, uh on the bar, up in the air, whatever, is the hip that I'm having I had my first surgery on. I have had uh, you know, now I just got a shot the other day in it, and I'm not trying to delay a hip replacement or whatever they want to do. But it's like, you know, and then I went to the foot doctor and I'm thinking, you know, oh my my big toe hurts because you know, ballet toe shoes, right? Right. Nope. She goes, Did you play soccer? I was like, yeah, my dad was my coach, and she goes, Yeah, that is a soccer problem. Where did that come from? Yeah, didn't even like I I played soccer same time I was dancing and basketball. I'm just thinking, I was at the studio way more than I was doing all those things, right? Right. Can't be the basketball or soccer. Let's just deny that privilege of those two, right? No, this lady just looks at me and goes, Did you play uh soccer? Did you play soccer? Yeah, I go, Yeah, my little ward sitting on my uh mantle, most valuable player. I'm like, Yeah. Like, isn't that funny? Like, doctors just Like no, yeah.

Heather:

And that's when you know it's a real injury. You're not what are those, what are they called? Um, not Munchausen's. Hypochondriac.

zia:

Hypochondriac, right? Right. I take up.

Heather:

I make up an injury.

zia:

You and I have so many problems. Just don't look inside us.

Heather:

Actually, they should. Never know what you're gonna see.

zia:

Yeah, that's why I don't want them to find anything else.

Heather:

Just just please don't leave me alone. Oh my goodness. Well, I think we're a little bit early, but we always seem to run over. But I think I'm gonna switch screens here and pull up our five-minute loves, which is your favorite topic. I love it. Um, and we're actually gonna do this different today because we got five five-minute loves from our Facebook and Instagram, Instagram.

zia:

I love that. You guys gotta hype us up, hype it off. Yes, we are so thankful.

Heather:

And another thing, we put that really cheesy teaser video out about this episode. We did. We got 12 views on our older episodes after we posted our funny little teaser. So let us know if you guys like it. We'll keep making funny teasers like that. We went for the cheesy effect, so I'm hoping everybody knew that that's what that was. Yeah.

zia:

Well, you will if you know us. That's true.

Heather:

Sorry, but you're all getting to know us.

zia:

So just going back to that topic. Sorry.

Heather:

All right, so ready? TikTok, tick tock, tick tock, tick, tock. All right, so we got Vince, Kate, Allie, Eliza, and an anonymous one. Yeah. So we got all of those. Vince is my brother-in-law. Yep. Um, the one who just had the baby. Yeah. Kate is your son's girlfriend. Yeah. Eliza and Allie are Eliza's my kiddo, and Allie is a super close, super good friend. Sometimes I call her my uh stray. I don't know if she'll like that one, but she is my human stray. Um and then our anonymous, we we don't know who you are.

zia:

We don't know who you are, but thank you. Keep posting there, give us some more.

Heather:

So we'll start with Vince's. Go ahead. Okay. He wants to know, he wants us to talk about quick the New Jersey Philly um debate, like subs or hoagies, taylor ham or pork roll.

zia:

Um what's that? I'm sorry.

Heather:

I don't know what pork roll is. I don't know what it is. I know what Taylor Ham is.

zia:

I know a Taylor Ham sandwich if you give me one.

Heather:

No.

zia:

Mmm.

Heather:

I would love one right now. Me too. Um, so I don't know why there's the big debate, but I know I'm a sub-person and a Taylor Ham person.

zia:

Yeah, but we are from North Jersey.

Heather:

The the North Jersey side. And actually, that's one of our topics for next week is um the Jersey division. North Jersey, Central Jersey, is there, and South Jersey.

zia:

I would like to touch on that New Jersey Philly debate there. Go for it. Um, yeah, so all I have to say is Camden. Uh yeah, that I have no feelings about being a Philly person. There's no relation to me being Philly. You have to be down somewhere that I don't go every day in Jersey to be having that debate, like you know, identifying they do wear the you know, the Philadelphia Eagles because of that. Yes, they are not any teams up new for New York or anything. Um, so I would that when I far first saw that posted on here, I was like, oh god, you know, I mean, that that's that's a my brain just went right to Camden, New Jersey with that one. And I was like, I that's the only place I know that is very passionate that they are Philly. I mean, do you can can you think of another area?

Heather:

So I have actually I have um a bunch of nieces and nephews and and their families, and and uh my one of my brothers live down in that area actually, two of my brothers live down in that area. Okay. Um, and it's funny to see how the Jersey, the North Jersey implanted down there with the South Jersey family. And um it's it there is a divide, and it's the giants and the eagles, and half the family is giants and the other half is eagles. And you know, and the way they talk, like they don't talk, they talk or whatever they do, or they'll actually their word is like home. They like kind of hold out their O's and stuff like that, where I don't know. I don't know what that is. I don't either, but it was a big debate in in my my in my extended family. You could see it sometimes in their in their talking and things like that.

zia:

Yeah, I feel like our like you and I being from northern Jersey, I feel like you're a cusp. Um I'm yeah, no, I'm not a cusp. No, please don't make me. I'm a true Capricorn. Please don't make me a cusp on anything. Um you like we we talk more like my husband's from Brooklyn. So when I met him, a lot of his were like I understood his accent coming from there because it's more like ours. Like they do say coffee. They say I mean they say it a little bit stronger than our coffee. He does like coffee, you know, but you know, rasp.

Heather:

I feel like they all get like this raspiness, yeah.

zia:

You know, they say the quota or the you know, that kind of stuff. Um, but the biggest example I would have of like uh our kids being New Jersey and Brooklyn accents together is like you know, we uh well we say it too. We say LaGuardia. Like, I don't know how to say that airport without saying LaGuardia.

Heather:

Or Delaware has New Ark as a town or as a city, and we have Nork. Right. And O R K. Yeah, but it's spelled N E W A R K and Right New Ark N E W A R K. Right. No, we're Nork. You're New Ark.

zia:

Right. And they wanna they want us to say it New Ark. No. And I'm like, sorry, I can't I don't understand the language coming out of your mouth. I don't know what that is. It's ARK like a boat? Yeah, no. That's great.

Heather:

Do you want to take the next so overall I will take the next jersey, so we're subs in Taylor Ham. Yes, and Giants if we had if we were football. I know you're not a football, but we'd be giant. You'd be giants if you were.

zia:

Yeah, well, I you know, I wore my Jets shirt yesterday. We had a Super Bowl day at work, and I had my Joe Namath on. And um, you know, it's the throwback shirts. Yep. So I have that one, and you know, that's up to Poppy. Um, so but I'm gonna take this next one because this is like a just a delicious one.

Heather:

You were you were super excited when you saw this.

zia:

I was. I was. That's my girl doing that one. Uh favorite beach snack. Favorite beach snack. What you got?

Heather:

So as an adult, favorite beach snack is like a bag of chips, bag of pretzels, actually. Typically, we do pretzels and a a bottle, you know, a closable bottle top of a drink. Yeah. Um typically that's what I do. Um that's my go-to because chips, chips are chips, or pretzels are pretzels. You you eat a little bit of sand mixed in with that. As a kid, mom packed the sandwiches and the snacks and the apples and and all that. Yep. Um, but yeah, I'm I'm a salty snack because I feel like mixing sand with a salty snack, no harm to it.

zia:

You know the difference.

Heather:

Right.

zia:

So what about you? Yep. Um, I have to have my watermelon. Gotta bring my watermelon. Um, I need that little the sweet. Ah, I'm on the beach. Relax, you know, kind of thing. Um when I was little, I guess I was told that uh if I didn't have water, we didn't have bottled water. So the water, like you gotta have like a container to bring a big thing of water with you, and take it. Um so that was like a they had to have it, or I went cuckoo because you weren't running up to the boardwalk. But a hundred times, yeah. Most of the time at seaside we would go um run up, get the food, bring it down. So it was always the you know, midway sub-sandwich with the sausage sandwich, peppers. Oh, yeah. Yeah.

Heather:

We would do if we did that, we would do the fries. Yep. So that's the fries, but again, it's a salty snack.

zia:

Yep, that midway uh place on sit in uh seaside, definitely our favorite little sausage sandwich place. Um yep.

Heather:

What about you guys? Everybody post what your favorite snack is. Let us know. Yeah. All right, I'll take the next one. Yeah. All right. This one, this one actually made both of us kind of giggle. Yeah, yeah. Did you listen to New Jersey music or bands? Um, Jersey-based bands when you we were growing up. So I'm gonna answer that with a I don't know because I typically listen to Hot 97. Okay, uh I don't know, that was the main radio station. There was hot ninety seven, and there was um I don't know, two or three other radio stations that we would listen to. But I listened to the radio a lot growing up. So I listened to, but they were out of New York City.

zia:

Me too. So um shout out to Z100.

Heather:

Z100, that was the one I was looking for.

zia:

That's um I still listen to them when I'm in the kitchen. I ask, you know, Siri, I'm like, hey, put on my Z100.

Heather:

Yeah. So I'm I'm gonna say we listened to what was played on the radio. Um I know whenever a Jersey band would come on, it would be, you know, quick go record it. Oh, wait, these people probably don't know what that means either. Yeah, no, but no. Um, but I would, I would, I would seek out the Jersey music, but I I mean back then, I don't I don't think it was a specific, you know.

zia:

Yeah, like I wasn't told just because it's the guy is from Jersey, you know. One person though, I'm sorry, it was a demand in the household by Poppy. Oh blue eyes. We were not straying from that Frank Sinatra man. I mean, that's part Italian. Part Italian, part of I think gotta do that. But like Bon Jovi, I wasn't a huge Bon Jovi fan.

Heather:

Um I I d I liked him and I and I like him today. I just I don't think I like him out, yeah.

zia:

Yeah, I mean, I listened to the popular songs that were on the radio.

Heather:

Um the only music is different now.

zia:

The only album that I got into, and it really wasn't because it was just he was jersey, was it was because of the movie uh was it Youngbloods or what what the heck was that um movie on um uh there was a cowboy movie and um they he actually did the music for it. So I bought that album and it that was the album that kind of you know got me into okay, I'm listening to Bon Jovi now. Gotcha. Yep.

Heather:

Yeah, I I and music is so different now. You can the way you listen to music is so different now. I I mean before you listen to what they told you to listen to. Right.

zia:

And you know what? It's funny, I said Youngblood, but we've been having a lot of discussion about Mr. Youngblood. Have you checked out Mr. Youngblood?

Heather:

No, I'll have to go check that out.

zia:

Go check him out.

Heather:

Alright.

zia:

He's Aussie approved. You want to take the fourth one? Sure. Favorite way to exercise. I'm going to have to say I go back to my ballet because it helps my neuropathy, even though I hate it. Um muscle memory. Yeah, I uh I think my favorite way to exercise is probably just me doing my jazz dancing because I loved my jazz and tap dancing. Okay. So that would be my favorite way to exercise other than kickboxing. I used to do kickboxing. Wow.

Heather:

All right.

zia:

Yeah. How about you?

Heather:

Um, my favorite way of exercising has changed over the years because I used to run all the time. Um, obviously I can't do that now.

zia:

Muscle memory again.

Heather:

Exactly. So I bounce between what I can physically do because some days I can't. Um, but my go-tos are I like to do like the Zumba type stuff. Yeah. Um, I like to do like that kind of stuff, and I like yoga. Um but walking seems to be what my body allows me to do. Yeah. My body seems to allow me to walk the most. Yeah. Um, but if I probably consider your um square dancing as or your and and yeah, actually my watch or my my ring and my watch both tell me that that's exercise. So I do do the square dancing, but um, I'd love to be able to go line dancing um because it's fun. Um the overall. Yeah. Um, but yeah, so I think so. And then I'll grab the last one. Yeah, which is coffee or tea. And I kind of know our answers to that, but yeah.

zia:

Uh definitely coffee, but if I'm sick, I need a cup of tea.

Heather:

Definitely coffee. If I'm sick, I do tea as well. But if I'm cold and like I can't get warm, I want hot cocoa.

zia:

Okay. I still have coffee if I can't get warm. Yeah. Yeah.

Heather:

But with my lactose mini issues, sometimes I sometimes it's harder now. So I'll just I'll if I'm cold, I'll skip over to a tea. Yeah. But but no, I'm I'm I'm coffee, um, hot or iced. I know you don't like the iced, but I'll do hot or iced, but tea, I don't really like iced tea. That's my least I that's I I'm not a fan of lemonade the most. Okay. But tea. Iced tea is okay occasional.

zia:

I do like the iced tea because I go when I go to Chick-fil-A, I always ask for a sweet tea from them. Yeah, I do like that. Um, even McDonald's has a great sweet tea. They do. Yep. So I do like the cold teas more than the cold coffees. Yes. Like my boba tea. I you know, I love my boba tea.

Heather:

Oh, I I can't do the eating that.

zia:

I took Heather for her first boba tea one time, and she's like, I can't do this, but nope. Yep, but we grew I grew up on you know that kind of thing, so yep. Well, that's your Asian background. That's right, my Asian background.

Heather:

But well, I think we're about done. Yes, yes, because we're only a few minutes over this topic. That's okay. That's okay. Yay for us. Sorry for you. No, I'm just joking. No, they wanna stay. They wanna stay. But I heard a rumor. Well, I'm not I didn't hear it. I'm gonna start a rumor.

zia:

Okay, start a rumor. Go ahead.

Heather:

Ready?

zia:

Yep.

Heather:

I heard that we're gonna do a live podcast in a couple of weeks.

zia:

No way.

Heather:

Like we're talking like in real life, yeah. In real life, like Louie, in real life, yes, so I've heard that, and now I'm gonna start that rumor. Okay. That in a couple of weeks.

zia:

You heard it here, guys. Is it true? Is it not true? I don't know.

Heather:

Wait for a teaser.

zia:

She's a talker, you know.

Heather:

Says the talker, says the talker. All right, people. We'll see you next week.

zia:

Yes, definitely. And it's a lucky number for me.

Heather:

It is your lucky number. It is.

zia:

Bye, guys. Bye.

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