[007] When Loving Your Child Means Letting Go

What happens when the person you most want to protect is the one whose journey you cannot control?

In this episode of The Noah Frequency, a conversation about planetary consciousness quickly becomes something far more personal. Noah speaks about global upheaval, intuition, and trust — but the discussion soon turns to one of the hardest spiritual questions a parent can face: how do you love someone deeply when you cannot steer their path?

Through questions from listeners and a deeply candid exchange with Stephen, Noah explores the tension between human identity and essence — especially when it comes to parenting, fear, and the instinct to protect.

Topics explored in this episode include:

• Why global turmoil may still serve humanity’s evolution
 • The difference between trusting and expecting results
 • How identity shapes our perception of change and conflict
 • The role intuition plays when life feels uncertain
 • Why unconditional love is nearly impossible for the human identity — but natural for essence
 • What it means to support someone’s journey without controlling it

At the heart of this episode is a difficult but powerful idea: sometimes the most loving thing we can do is remain steady — not by forcing change, but by holding a place someone can return to.

It is a conversation about trust, fear, parenting, and the deeper agreements that may exist between souls long before a single lifetime begins.

Transcript

SPEAKER_01 0:06

Welcome to the Noah Frequency. A live show where a channeled consciousness named Noah speaks through trans medium Nico Kapuzos. Fielding questions about life's mysteries and about you. What follows is not an interview, but rather a QA with the spirit world. I'm your host, Stephen Berkeley. Greetings, Noah. It's wonderful to have you with us today.

SPEAKER_04 0:42

Greetings to you, my dear one. We are truly grateful, my dear.

unknown 0:50

Voices blessed.

SPEAKER_04 0:52

This opportunity was again provided in order for us to be heard, my dear. We are listening. And who shall listen? We are grateful. We are humble.

SPEAKER_03 1:18

Sorry, that that's a dog. I'll quiet the dog down.

SPEAKER_01 1:24

Thank you, Noah. Sorry for the dog, the barking dog in the background. That's one of our callers who's having trouble silencing her dog.

SPEAKER_03 1:37

We'll get there.

SPEAKER_04 1:42

You recognize my dear. Where once you questioned. Where once you had doubt. The more you listen, the more you ask your questions, the more you are remembering. This is not new intellect, my dear, new knowledge, new concepts. You are remembering from a much deeper space within. This is what each one in your realm is beginning to experience suddenly. This is why we come forth to continue to offer the guidance, the insight. To lovingly guide and lead one to their own awareness. Notice how that also pertains to your realm, to your human existence. The more structure is understood, the easier the path is to travel. I thank you, my dear one.

SPEAKER_01 4:05

Thank you, Noah.

SPEAKER_04 4:32

Which topics, my dear? Are you interested in exploring deeper today?

SPEAKER_01 4:43

My first question, and my only question, I think, right now, because we do have other people in the gallery who have their own questions, but I'll start. You said that we are all on a planetary level, we're all raising our consciousness. Is that correct?

SPEAKER_04 5:00

Indeed, my dear, it is not raising. As it is attuning.

SPEAKER_01 5:08

I'm not noticing that in some of our world leaders. And I'm wondering if you could just comment on the fact that I'm not seeing it.

SPEAKER_04 5:19

That is your perception, my dear. You are viewing from the lens of your identity. You are unaware of what their journey entails. You are not improving to recognize future events and how it transforms humanity. One is perceiving the current events as less than honorable. It is due to the fact they are perceiving to their identity which is limited. Limited within its beliefs. Limited within its views. But you are unable at this time and unwilling to view from another lens you possess. The lens of your essence, my dear, is able to foresee, if you will, the transformation humanity will undergo through these world leaders. Motives, intentions, acts during your present day. Is that clear, my dear?

SPEAKER_01 6:49

Yes, it is. Thank you.

SPEAKER_04 6:52

And are you?

SPEAKER_01 6:53

We do have a caller on the line that has a question for you, Noah. Indeed, my dear. Her name is Beth. Beth, are you there? I am here. Okay. Could you hear her okay, Noah?

SPEAKER_04 7:08

Greetings to you, my dear.

SPEAKER_01 7:12

What question do you have for Noah today, Beth?

SPEAKER_03 7:16

Um, well, this is my first day on line. And um so let's see, I I um I I guess uh I'm in a uh place of change and uh and and it feels like many of us. Oh, there's a lot of upheaval and uncertainty and and uh and I'm wondering what ahead of me and if I'm moving and and what I need to do to to uh slowly move into a higher vibration if there's something that I have that could help me in that process.

SPEAKER_04 8:20

Indeed, my dear. Just allow us to assist you, my dear, with reflecting on this physical journey. There have been many moments of change. Recall, my dear, it was always unsteady, there was always uncertainty. Yet deep within there was trust. You followed your intuition. In hindsight, you realize, my dear, the change was evident. Most times it was directional, others healing, others informative. Each change, my dear, continue to craft your identity, but also assist it with this eternal connection of essence, my dear. It is how you view the changes. Not all were accepted with happiness, my dear. Some you even sensed were forced upon you.

SPEAKER_03 9:56

Each I'm having a little bit difficult time um hearing hearing, I guess it has to do with uh with uh sound systems. Okay.

SPEAKER_01 10:10

So you have have you not been able to hear anything that Noah was saying, or are you getting some of it?

SPEAKER_03 10:15

I'm getting some of it. I'm getting some of it.

SPEAKER_01 10:18

I'm just not getting the the enough for me to we're gonna have to work on that, but maybe I'll be able to sum up for you when Noah's done. I'll try to sum something up for you. Okay.

SPEAKER_03 10:40

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 10:42

But I presume Noah?

SPEAKER_04 10:44

You po you partially, my dear. I understood.

SPEAKER_03 10:51

These changes understood, yeah.

SPEAKER_04 10:53

These changes and shifts which you experience, my dear, through your journey. What you are undergoing currently, my dear, is the portion which will resonate with you on a much deeper level. This is the enlightenment you are seeking, my dear. So as you have choice.

SPEAKER_01 11:29

Okay. Um so you're you're going through changes right now. And I it's funny because I'd love to be able to paraphrase well, but I need I need Noah to speak a little bit more. So let's let Noah talk for a few minutes, and I'll try to like sum it up when he's done, okay? So just bear with us, okay, Beth?

SPEAKER_03 11:58

That's why.

SPEAKER_01 11:59

Okay. Okay. Please please continue, Noah.

SPEAKER_04 12:07

Allow me, my dear, to simplify in order for you to express what is occurring. These changes and shifts that one has experienced throughout their physical journey offered patterns, solutions, at times even more questions. But they assisted with once the evolution of their identity in order for them to better understand this human experience. Even through confusion, uncertainty, uh one always senses a stronger presence guiding, supporting, leading. Many perceive it as intuition, many perceive it as the creator. And many simply accept it without truly understanding, and it offers them comfort, support. It is occurring. It's not just another change, my dear, nor just another shift. This occurrence is offering a clear view of that presence. This one is sensing a unity. Recognizing that the perception of change is based on her reality is not what she's experiencing eternally. Hence her seek for enlightenment. Just as there has been an underlining of trust throughout the physical journey. Allow that trust to remain present, effortless, and the clever path will reveal itself as is intended. I thank you, my dear one.

SPEAKER_03 15:00

Thank you.

SPEAKER_01 15:01

Now I'm gonna try to read back some some notes to you, okay, Beth? So you understand what Becola said? Because I'm assuming you did not really hear that real clearly.

SPEAKER_03 15:12

That's right.

SPEAKER_01 15:13

Okay. So even through confusion, one senses a stronger presence guiding us. Many perceive this as intuition or the creator. Many simply accept with that understanding because it offers comfort. What is occurring is not just another change or shift, it's a clearer view of that presence. Recognize that perception of change. Is that what you are experiencing eternally is enlightenment? Allow that trust you have to come in, and a clearer path will reveal itself as it is intended. I did not dictate that exactly, but it's close. What do you think, Beth?

SPEAKER_03 16:11

Well, I think that's um that feels good. And uh I'd like to open up to that.

SPEAKER_01 16:22

Great. And if you if you have YouTube and if you want to watch the rest of the show, or if you want to um, if you have the zoom link, you could you could come on in. But right now I'm gonna I'm gonna go to the next person who has their hands raised, okay? Great. But thank you for being on the show, Beth. Thank you. You're welcome. Okay. Do we have any questions from the people in the Zoom room right now for Noah? At the moment there are no hands raised, and I could just ask Noah questions that are on my mind. If that's will be helpful. Nancy's leaning forward. Do you have a question, Nancy? I can't tell.

SPEAKER_06 17:19

I'm always trying to formulate the question. Um I've been um thinking about what Noah's been helping me with. And I'm trying to be more in the field of trust that something will come. And I'm wondering what he thinks about um myself giving uh my older son uh a lot of space uh during this difficult uh time for all of us. Thank you, Noah. Thanks for being here. Thank you, Stephen.

SPEAKER_04 18:02

Greetings, my dear one. Notice your wording, my dear, pertaining to trust and yet expecting results. One does not truly trust, my dear, when they are setting expectations, you are viewing as your receiving, my dear affirmation, acknowledgement, gratitude, love. But by trusting, my dear, it reaches even further, for you are unaware, your silent actions, your compassion, your openness to allow time to pass, has affected those, my dear, you are concerned of. Notice they are not vocal. But notice, my dear, they are soft. That's arguing. That's anxiousness. Notice, my dear, even you have settled. These are results, my dear. That you are not noticing. You are expecting grander gestures, louder results, apologies. So I ask you, my dear, whom do you perceive is seeking those results? Your identity with the ego or your essence, my dear, which already anticipates or unfold.

SPEAKER_06 20:24

Well, pretty certain it's my uh identity with my ego. You've been trying to chantle that someone, but yes, I I I I know what you're saying, I think.

SPEAKER_04 20:39

As you are attempting, my dear, to soften the identity, soften your expectations as well, offer space with unconditional love. Accept, my dear, any result by trusting it is the right result. Is that clear, my dear? Yes, no, thank you. And I you, my dear.

SPEAKER_01 21:18

Thank you. Thank you, Nancy. We have a question from Randy right now. Randy, go ahead. Oh, I got to unmute you. I'm sorry. Okay.

SPEAKER_07 21:31

Hi, thank you. Thank you, Stephen. Thank you, Noah. Um my question is um, I love this idea of uh being guided more to into my awareness. And um I'm noticing some discomfort in my heart right now, and I would like some clarity around that, please.

SPEAKER_04 22:04

Also notice each opportunity presented when we are connecting, communicating. It is not merely, my dear, the two of us. It is the three. Which allows the sensations in the heart center, my dear, to be felt and experienced by both in form. It is not to be alerted, my dear. It is to allow your awareness to slowly remind you why it is occurring. As you stated, my dear, it is not that we are guiding you to your awareness. We are assisting in reminding you how to successfully enter your own state of awareness, my dear, without continuously returning to your identity. View your awareness, my dear, as your passageway to consciousness. The only passageway, my dear. The identity cannot gain access to consciousness. It is not essence. Your awareness is. Indeed, my dear.

SPEAKER_07 27:45

And I'm I'm just wondering if that's accurate.

SPEAKER_04 27:58

This observation is misleading, my dear. Awareness attached to the physical form, my dear, is in the mind. Awareness is attached within the consciousness field. Your essence is a pure love, my dear. Your heart recognizes love. This is also the understanding of the conscious brain. It is overlapping, my dear. Your awareness is within you. Your awareness is your highest essence. Your awareness is within the conscious field. All is love, my dear. And yet through your incarnation, the conscious mind, the intellect, has labeled love to the heart. Hence why there are two sensations that you will see. Intuition does not originate in the heart, my dear. Even love does not affect the heart, my dear. When one experiences their perception of heartbreak, heartache, loss, grief. The conscious mind relays signals to the nervous system. And there is perception, my dear, that there is pain in the heart. This is anxiety, not pain of the heart. It is how the nervous system reacts to the signal sent by the mind. Awareness performs quite differently, my dear. Awareness remembers there is no pain. There is no loss. Awareness does not experience the sensations of the physical form created by the nervous system, my dear. Awareness is expansive. Awareness remembers love at a much deeper level. Where it is truth. It is not forced. It is unconditional. It is eternal. Notice even as you have been listening to these words, my dear, this physical ache in the heart you mentioned earlier is no longer present. Do you recognize the difference, my dear?

SPEAKER_07 32:03

I do. Thank you.

SPEAKER_04 32:15

And I you, my dear, always.

SPEAKER_01 32:21

Thank you, Randy. Do we have another question or should I go? Anyone else?

SPEAKER_04 32:31

You are quite eager, my dear, to bring forth your question.

SPEAKER_01 32:34

I I am, Noah. Because at the at the end of last week's episode of this program, the essence of my mother stepped in. Were you listening to what she was saying?

SPEAKER_04 32:50

My dear, listening is what you do in your realm. Listening is quite different in essence.

SPEAKER_01 33:04

Were you taking in what she was saying?

SPEAKER_04 33:09

View this, my dear. What is projected through this vessel, into your realm, which lands on your human ears, is projected outwardly. What is occurring within, my dear, is quite different. It is a series of energetic signals. Energetic frequencies overlapping, intertwining. Coded messages. It is alignment of frequency, my dear. Nothing here is verbal. But everything is felt.

SPEAKER_01 34:04

Understood. I'm just going to just paraphrase what I received to my human ears. And it was this one of the things that was said was that I need to learn to love my daughter without expectation. As a parent, it's a bit of a tough thing to do because, let's say, hypothetically, my child is misbehaving. She's being disrespectful. She's engaging in risky behavior, behavior that can get her pregnant or jailed. What does a parent do in these circumstances if they're supposed to love without expectation?

SPEAKER_04 34:46

My dear, recognize this important element you have forgotten to include. The human identity, my dear, is incapable of loving unconditionally. Your perception is based on your identity, the role of the parent. And it is impossible to love unconditionally, as you first once did, when you've held that infant in your hands. This is intentional, my dear. This is your journey. When you were offered advice to love unconditionally, this was also an indirect remembrance that you also possess the capability to love unconditionally as your essence. Your essence, my dear. Does not attach to identity. There are no roles to define the relationships. It is pure love, essence to essence. Your perception is that this being was created in your world by your doing. The relationship is ancient. Prior to all incarnations. The true journey of incarnation does not rely on all the experiences one undergoes, does not rely on all new levels of emotions unknown to the essence, but yet truly lived as for to integrate and evolve. The true purpose of incarnation, my dear, it's very few truly ascertain. And this occurs, my dear. You remember. This is your child. The essence remembers. It is an honorable covenant made between essence to essence, merely playing out through the physical forms. And that is achieved, my dear. There is no worries of the outcomes of one's journey. Just as when you were at that age, you are not concerned of the outcomes of your journey. When one remembers it is an honorable sacred relationship essence to essence. One trusts that their highest essence is guiding, governing, leading this journey precisely as intended for the highest growth. One does not view one's physical incarnation as the growth. One does not dictate. Perceive that their interpretation of where that journey should lead is better. So even as your human identity instructs you to guide, direct, reassess situations. Align that one with the proper journey. This is all your perception through your identity. How do you perceive that your perception from a conditioned constructed identity which occurred in this incarnation possesses the true answers, is more accurate with your assessments than her highest essence, my dear?

SPEAKER_01 40:43

I wish I could say yes. But before I ask you to sum up anything else, I I got stuck on one thing that you said. You said something about my being responsible for her existence. Was there something about you say something like that?

SPEAKER_04 41:00

You view your perception of your identity, my dear, that you are the creator of her existence in physical form. But I don't recognize my dear.

SPEAKER_00 42:13

I see.

SPEAKER_04 42:16

As more powerful than it is, as a creator of that incarnation.

SPEAKER_00 42:25

I see.

SPEAKER_04 42:26

For you are creating possibilities, and you are denying possibilities. So even as it is a collaboration of parents, you notice your voice carries more weight. We mentioned earlier holding the infant. Do not rest on one visual, my dear. As we surf it multiple times. Laughter opens the heart. Comforting tears opens the heart. Opening the heart is meant to associate. A human understanding of unconditional love. Is that clear, my dear?

SPEAKER_01 44:15

It is. I'm going to ask one last question, and it's a little bit more of a pointed question. My wife and I are at a point where we have done everything we could that we've known of to help my daughter.

SPEAKER_04 44:29

And you are unsuccessful.

SPEAKER_01 44:31

We've been unsuccessful so far. And is there if there's any insight that you could lend to me? Because I checked with my own essence, and my own essence is coming up empty. If there's anything you could help me, any direction you could send me, I'd be very grateful.

SPEAKER_04 44:44

Should that not indicate, my dear, what we are referencing?

SPEAKER_02 44:51

You lost me.

SPEAKER_04 44:52

If you have exhausted every possibility, and you recognize that you are not able to course correct as one's journey. Accept it, my dear, for you are not meant to. It is the journey of her highest essence. It is not the journey of yours. Focus on your journey, to recognize what it is your highest essence seeks to learn in order to evolve. As incarnation is transient, my dear. It is still vital to provide the evolution to your own essence. Do not continue to take that away from her highest.

SPEAKER_01 46:00

So it could be her part of her journey could be to become addicted to some substance, could be to end up homeless. It could be to end up in jail. But as a parent, it's a little bit hard to step back and let that happen.

SPEAKER_04 46:17

Indeed, my dear. But how are you so certain, my dear? Simultaneously in another reality. It is not you who is experiencing all that discomfort you mentioned. How are you certain the future events are going to unfold exactly as you claim they will?

SPEAKER_01 46:50

I don't claim anything. I'm just concerned that there's a trajectory that is manifesting that no reasonable, conscientious parent would allow to happen unfettered.

SPEAKER_04 47:05

Again, my dear, spoken through the identity.

SPEAKER_01 47:09

Yes, that's all I got.

SPEAKER_04 47:19

If one is to view it, my dear, through the identity. Pretend to view it through softer eyes. Pause and imagine what she is experiencing, what emotions she is learning. Pause and allow her essence to speak to you. Remember, my dear, you providing the role of parent is intentional. It may not become obvious now, but it shall in your future. If one is adamant to create change, to interfere with one beliefs may unfold. When one is continuing effortlessly, tirelessly, one is focusing on themselves alone, not the one who is receiving. There is fear. There is even more confusion. What you once served as a stable ground. That ground is now shaking. If you continue as you are, the foundation breaks, my dear. And she will reflect there's nowhere to return to. This is viewing through the human identity with soft eyes. If you allow yourself to view in that order, you will begin to understand as best as your identity will allow you to what she is experiencing. Continue to hold your foundation steady. For you are uncertain if she will need that place to return to. After she explored the journey as she has intended to. Honor one's journey as you honor your own. Offer love, offer acceptance, even as your intellect screams otherwise. This is how you honor essence by essence. You remind them that there is always a home to return to, always a stable ground. You remind them they are loved. They are not alone. You remind them a physical journey can appear to be frightening, but it is quite integral to the evolution of one's essence. You remind them no two physical journeys are alike as no two essences are. This, my dear, is what you take and offer thought and reflection in the days to come. Is that clear, my dear?

SPEAKER_01 52:32

Yes, and I really appreciate everything you're saying, Noah. And I have one final quick question because I realize we're at the end of the hour now. Do you think that it would be possible for me to have a conversation with my daughter's essence through the host that you're coming through right now?

SPEAKER_04 52:59

The highest essence, my dear, should be viewed as a stationary anchor, if you will. View your own highest essence, my dear, as the steady drumbeat within. View the highest essence, my dear, as the compass which never falters. If your highest essence, my dear, or anyone's highest essence, my dear, was able to come through this form of communication, that stableness we are referring to would waver. It is not a matter, my dear, if her highest essence coming forth, which you should focus on, my dear, is not to fear. Listening to your own highest essence is not to fear your own awareness, is not to fear your own consciousness field. For when you are able to trust yourself, trust your own architecture, soften into it, my dear. This is where communication occurs between highest essence and highest essence. Your highest essence is still your essence, my dear. It is not separate from you. And even though you are receiving continuous insight through intuition, you do possess the ability to enhance that by focusing more on your own awareness and delving deeper within the consciousness. Focus on that, my dear. And then you will be able to communicate with her highest essence intimately. As your own highest essence. And even, my dear, if you are not truly connected, if you are still worrying, questioning before you enter your sleep state, my dear. Ask your highest essence to deliver the message to her highest essence. But notice what it is you are asking to be delivered. Is that clear, my dear?

SPEAKER_02 57:07

Yes, I think so. Thank you.

SPEAKER_04 57:11

If you are asking for a message to be delivered, with its origins resting in your identity and your ego, it will not. If you are asking for a message delivered to pure love, to your vulnerability, and less of your identity. It shall. Is that clear, my dear?

SPEAKER_01 57:45

Yes. It sounds like to do that, I will have to try to put aside the father in me that wants to protect her from harm's way and just focus on my love for her purely.

SPEAKER_04 57:59

This is how you begin to view through soft eyes with a human identity. Also honor, my dear, the covenant made. Agreements between essence to essence do not unfold as agreements between human to human. Each and every emotion you are experiencing you are struggling with and you are resisting. Do you perceive if it wasn't for the agreement with her, if it wasn't for the experiences taking place now, that you would have ever lived and experienced these emotions at the depth you currently are. That is the agreement. That is how one's highest essence integrates the depth of these emotions to evolve.

SPEAKER_01 59:24

But for how long? I feel like I've learned. Now I'm ready to move on to a new lesson.

SPEAKER_04 59:29

How have you learned if you are still viewing through one lens?

SPEAKER_01 59:40

I'm almost complete with my lesson.

SPEAKER_04 59:45

An offer acceptance.

SPEAKER_00 59:48

Okay.

SPEAKER_04 59:50

And allow the resistance to fall away, my dear.

SPEAKER_02 59:55

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 1:00:00

Will do. Thank you, Noah. And I you, my dear. All right, we went over a little bit today, but I really appreciate the extra time you've given me today, Noah.

SPEAKER_04 1:00:13

It is our honor, my dear.

SPEAKER_01 1:00:15

And I believe everyone's free to unmute themselves if they'd like to say goodbye to Noah and to have a nice weekend.

SPEAKER_06 1:00:25

Thank you very much, and goodbye. Thank you, Noah. Thank you so much.

unknown 1:00:30

Thank you.

SPEAKER_06 1:00:31

Yeah, thank you.

SPEAKER_04 1:00:34

Our gratitude to each of you as well, as our love. And my dear one. We are amused at your humor with your emphasis of time.

SPEAKER_01 1:00:54

I'm glad I wasn't sure if that landed.

SPEAKER_04 1:00:58

It landed the first time as well, my dear. But allow me to lovingly interject. Even in humor. The truth surfaces. And it reflects precisely where you are on your journey. Your focus on time, your sense of urgency, your perception that you are running out of time. Do not allow time to be your crutch, my dear. Do not offer more focus on time. Even through your most difficult moments, it's pertinent to remember. Time is an illusion. So there is no urgency. It's all growth. Time is offered in your realm for the sole purpose of allowing you ample time to process and integrate through the resistance of the human identity. But it is not, nor has it ever been real. Do not hide behind it, my dear. Do not allow your perception of time to dictate your actions and who you truly are. Is that clear, my dear?

SPEAKER_01 1:03:12

I mean, I will I will take your words and I will I will try, but it's it's going to definitely be difficult while living in this realm to completely be free of time when pretty much everything on earth is restricted by time.

SPEAKER_04 1:03:33

Intentionally, my dear.

SPEAKER_01 1:03:35

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 1:03:38

Notice how you, with this, experience the child. You're more focused on time than what she is experiencing.

SPEAKER_01 1:03:53

Well, in another year, she's going to be an adult. And so I feel like we have only a year left to exercise our parental control in a way that could possibly help her.

SPEAKER_04 1:04:07

Once more, my dear. Notice how you are viewing. And notice how you your view is altered when you soften your eyes. And again, my dear, do you truly believe your words will cease after one calendar year?

SPEAKER_01 1:04:35

No, they'll they'll be magnified.

SPEAKER_04 1:04:38

This is why we mentioned, my dear, you are focusing more on your understanding of time.

SPEAKER_01 1:04:47

An understanding of the law, because we won't have any legal right to restrict her at that point.

SPEAKER_04 1:04:58

And allow the recognition that you have not succeeded with a strong hand to be an indication that you are not meant to.

SPEAKER_01 1:05:19

Okay.

SPEAKER_04 1:05:22

Thank you, my dear one.

SPEAKER_05 1:05:27

Very well.

SPEAKER_01 1:05:31

Thank you so much, Noah. I saw those hand up, but I I don't know. I think the person went away. Thank you so much again. I hope we'll see you next week.

SPEAKER_04 1:05:44

Thank you, my dear.

SPEAKER_01 1:05:47

Very good.