E12: EMOTIONAL REGULATION ft. Tausha Simon

Today we are joined by spiritual guide and special needs mother Tausha Simon, as we explore what it truly means to parent and teach with presence—even on the days we’re tired, grieving, or unsure. Today’s episode is all about emotional regulation, shifting energy, and learning to listen beyond words, especially when our children are expressing more than they can say.

Today’s conversation invites a gentle paradigm shift: honoring where our children are and honoring ourselves. How can we better reflect on how to show up with clarity, receive guidance through the noise, and become conscious creators of a life that feeds our soul while supporting our children’s emotional and energetic needs? It’s time to release guilt, and allow space for grief, growth, and identity- as we transition into parenthood and reimagine our lives after kids.

Meet our special guest:
Tausha Simon is a mother, spiritual guide, and the founder of Greatfully You, a podcast and sacred space devoted to healing, identity, and living with presence. Blending years of experience in marketing and leadership with her deeply personal journey through motherhood, grief, and spiritual growth, Tausha offers grounded wisdom for modern families.

She is raising two beautifully sensitive children who continue to shape her path—her nonverbal autistic son, who teaches her how to listen beyond words, and her intuitive daughter, who mirrors the world with profound emotional insight. Through Greatfully You, Tausha invites parents, caregivers, and educators to come home to themselves with grace, honesty, and soul—so they can live fully while honoring both who they are and who their children are becoming.

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Transcript

SPEAKER_01 0:17

Hello and welcome to Init Spiritual Sist Kids, a podcast for parents, teachers, and caregivers seeking to support their children's emotional and energetic development. On the show, we'll blend insights from neuroscience, child psychology, and emotional awareness as we explore natural ways to help kids understand their own energy, stay grounded, and enhance creativity and imagination. Don't forget to check out our sister channel in the Spiritual Sense, where we dive a little deeper into the metaphysical, working to build your intuition, connect with spirit guides, the paranormal, energetic healing, and more. Join me, Stacy Piagno, where we work to bridge the gap between science and spirit. I'm your host, Stacy Piagno. Today we have a dear friend of mine joining us. She is a special needs mother. She's a spiritual guide. She is a businesswoman, founder of Gratefully You Podcast, which you guys got to go check out. And to be honest, she's one of the most grounded people I know. Tasha Simon, welcome to the show.

SPEAKER_00 1:33

Thanks for having me. I'm so glad to be here.

SPEAKER_01 1:36

Yeah, intro. Yeah, I'm so excited to get into everything today. We are going to have some real conversations about parenting. Uh, you know, I mentioned we're going to talk a little bit about special needs children and just all children for that. Um, we're going to talk a lot about emotional regulation and just all the stuff that we like to talk about on this show. So, Tasha, it's it has not been too long. We we have our weekly phone chats all the time. Do you want to tell everyone how we met?

SPEAKER_00 2:05

Yes. So we met at Podfest in Orlando last year, and it was such a whim. I I felt like I went to the Podfest like conference, and it was with the intent, actually, I had no expectation. So when I saw Stacy, she had a bag on her that said, I think it says in a spiritual sense, actually, had it land on it. And it drew my attention. I said, Oh, I need to go meet her. And so I just said hey, and we chatted, and then um we met Vanessa too, which I think she's been on your show too. And we've just been friends ever since. It's like two peas in a pot. We've known each other for for years.

SPEAKER_01 2:41

Spirit sisters, definitely. Yeah, Vanessa, Vanessa's a good friend of ours, guys. If you listen to In a Spiritual Sense, my sister channel, um, Vanessa and I have an episode where we talk about all the paranormal, uh, you know, all that fun stuff. I think the episode is called Dancing with the Shadows. So if you guys are into that side of things, definitely go check that one out. It's a lot of fun. Um, but today, Tasha, we're gonna talk about kids, some of our favorite subjects. So I would love for you to just open the floor and tell us about you and your beautiful family.

SPEAKER_00 3:13

Yeah, sure. Okay, so I have two kids. I have a boy who is 10 years old, his name is PJ, and then uh he is neuro neurodivergent, so autistic and nonverbal. And then I have my daughter who is uh neurotypical. She's seven. And I have to call that out because uh being in the special needs community, I feel like so so many people don't necessarily understand what those words mean per se, but it's very niche to what my experience is as a parent and really to honor those children with where they're at. And so uh I like to call that out. But a term that I often like to use in regarding that is that we're just so unique, and I like to see them exactly as they are, not necessarily divergent versus neurodivergent. Um, London is the seven-year-old, she is a bundle of joy, she's so sweet. It's like looking at the younger version of me, but a more healed space. Um, and I try to create such an environment for her that feels where she's celebrated, you know. Um, and even in the differences between my two kids, being able to honor what she needs as well as what my son needs, and not feeling like I'm giving one more attention than the other. Um, but yeah, I I'm I feel really blessed to be their mom. It's not always easy by any means. I don't definitely I don't always know what I'm doing, right? But that's where we tap into intuition and say, you know, God source, you gave me these children, help me identify, you know, what I need to do in these scenarios. I know we're gonna probably dive into some of those examples.

SPEAKER_01 4:49

Yeah, no, I love that. And I love how you mentioned, you know, with your daughter that she's a healed version of you. And we can get into that a little bit later. I do want, you know, towards the end, I want to talk a little bit about shadow work and the importance of generational healing and how as parents, no, we don't have it all figured out, or as teachers, no, we don't have it all figured out. And we're working with these kids and we want to be the best that we can be for them. And we are leaders, and it's okay to be a leader when you don't always have it figured out. But I think something that's beautiful, and we'll bring this up because it's kind of a rabbit hole on its uh on its own. But how when we are taking steps to heal and when we are noticing those shadows within us, it clears it for our kids. And they might not have to go through that because we healed. And so that's just a little uh idea I had. We'll get into that a little bit later. But so let's talk about your children, especially being a mom to, you know, your PJ is autistic and London little ball of energy all over the place. How do you find time for you and time for them? Because I think that this is one of the biggest things, right? That all parents go through is being able to find that balance and being able to cherish your own identity while also helping them build theirs. How do you find the balance and how do you really give time to both you and them?

SPEAKER_00 6:11

See, I love this question because I feel like mom guilt is so huge, or dad guilt too, um, where it there are children, once we have them, they become our world because it's our responsibility, such a weight. At least that's how I felt when I gave birth. I'm like, I have to take care of you, these this innocent soul. I want to make sure I do right by you. And it's easy to kind of fall into, oh, I am only mom, and you lose sight of your identity. And I've gone through that, right? And so I was thinking about this yesterday as I was coming into um new projects that I'm working on. I said, London actually draws a lot of my energy, more so than PJ does. And so I I find that if I set clear boundaries, even with her, it's honoring her to see, okay, mommy does need space too to create. So when she becomes a mom, she'll understand what that looks like for her, like being that example for her. Um, but does mom guilt exist? Yeah, it is. And so what do I do? I face it at the in the moment. I honor whatever emotion that I'm feeling. I say, okay, I see you. It's okay to feel that in the moment, but what's in this moment, what's the best opportunity here to resolve? Does London need me more? Do I need me more? Um, in all actuality, if I'm not whole, if I'm not grounded, I can't be there for her either. And then I'm depleted, and then it's a cycle, and then you just get buried, buried, buried more and more and more. So um to answer your question, I think the key that I found over time is I I take solo vacations sometimes, whether it's um a staycation, even if it's for a day or a weekend, just to recenter what is my purpose? How do I want to show up in these relationships? How do I show up for myself? And when I first started doing that, I had that guilt, right? But when I came back, I was a better mom, a better wife, a better employee, a better friend because I was grounded. Right. I could I had I was able to tap into my passions and my desires more with clarity. And so when I have that with my kids, then they can create more. I have more patience to see what they need, right?

SPEAKER_01 8:27

Yeah, it's almost like it charges you. That's what I've noticed is when you do take the time to either A, just take a break, right? And go on those staycations or vacations, or B, put time into something that you're passionate about, the energy fully charges you and you can just go, go, go. That's one thing I do with teaching. You know, I'm around 18 little kids all day. And when I come home, yes, I'm tired, but I love when you mention boundaries. I think that's so hard. I give myself the boundary of when I get home, I have to have my art time and my writing time. That's like two of the things that I lean into. And when I do that, I actually don't feel guilty. Like, right, like because you mentioned that guilt. Now, this is a little different because I'm talking about teacher versus parent, but con conceptually, I almost feel more guilty when I don't give me time either. And that's kind of what you were talking about is yeah, we can feel guilty when we're not giving it to the kids. And then subconsciously, we just feel guilt in general. It's like we just can't catch up, you know, with the things I want to do. And then that makes me feel guilty. And then them, and it's the tug of war between them and me. But I've noticed as well, if you can have those windows of time for you, you will be so much more charged and you'll give them so much more love, and then you'll be in a better mind frame. And so I really love that uh along with presence. I think presence was one of the other keys that you talked about. You know, you mentioned at the very beginning was when you start to feel overwhelmed, when you start to feel the guilt or the XYZ, whatever that thing is, stop and notice it. And what did you mention? You said look it, look at it. And uh, let's talk a little bit more about presence, honoring, honoring the presence and noticing it. How do you get to a place where you can stop and actually notice that that's what's happening? Have you been through that before?

SPEAKER_00 10:21

Yeah, you know, it's interesting. I think it's it's taking consistent exercising of that and being able to realize that we're not always our thoughts. Like when you think about presence, am I present with my kid when I'm snapping at them, right? If I'm not giving myself that alone time, my presence with self. If I'm not present with self, then I'm short with others. That's not love in a healthy way, right? And I don't ever want to exude that. And so, and I know what that feels like as a child. I used to get that from my parents, right? So, how do I show up differently so that way that generational experience doesn't keep going? And so, for presence, I think being able to honor that our thoughts, we get to choose which ones we want to honor. Do we want to believe? Do we want to let go? So this started when I was probably in my early 20s when I started my shadow work, really. I didn't know what it was called shadow work at the time, but I would find myself in cycles of like these deep dark thoughts. And then it just hit me. I'm like, I don't have to, that's that's not true. I don't have to believe that. And so when I'd have a thought, even with mom guilt in that moment where it shows up, that's not true. I show up for my kids all the time. I make them breakfast. I'm very present in the things that they need for me. Not knowing that love isn't just action, it is definitely a verb. Um, and honoring my kids with the type of love they need, London needs more presence, right? PJ needs more grounding. He needs me to be really centered because if I'm centered, he's centered. If I'm upset, he gets upset, right? And so my goal as a a wife parent is to create a space that nowhere no matter where I go, because I'm grounded and centered, there's peace. Yeah. So when I was probably like in my early 20s, I heard this and it really stuck with me that we can change the environment if we choose to. So if I go to into a space that feels really chaotic, let my spirit be the strongest state of peace so that it exudes and creates change in the atmosphere. And so I I've really anchored in on that. Um, and to in order to do it, you have to be present with your emotional space, yeah, you're feeling and true with it. Like really, even if it's uh an angry thought, you know, is that my thought or someone else's? Because I'm intuitive, right? Some it's easy to pick up on other people's energy. Um, but being able to ask that question, is this mine or is this someone else?

SPEAKER_01 12:52

Yeah. And I think it's important to be able to sit in that discomfort. Um, you know, I've talked about that on the other show before. And that's part about being truthful with what you're feeling. You know, this is part about feeling and noticing your thoughts and or your emotions is one, stopping and and saying, you know, identifying, I love what you said. Is it mine? Is it yours? And then if it is yours, feel it. And then, you know, with shadow work and time, we get better at this. But being able to feel it and identify. And then once you identify it, whether it is yours or not yours, you can dismiss that. Like you can work through it, or you just sit in it. And you know what? And you might feel icky for a little bit and then it passes, but you're stronger than that emotion or that thought, whatever it is, and you allow it to pass, understanding that that's a part of why we're here, right? We're here to feel, we're here to live. That's it's okay. We need the duality, we need the anger and the sadness to be able to feel the highs, right? So um, that's something that I've learned a lot is one identifying it, and it's okay if it's not always comfortable all the time. But over time, as I become more grounded and more centered and I learn more about who I am, I get to change that atmosphere. I love when you mentioned that. Yeah. So that's really big. Um, you mentioned something about PJ, being able to, he feels what you feel. And, you know, if you're anxious, he's anxious. I think that's very common for most children. On top of that, a child who is neurodivergent.

SPEAKER_00 14:26

Yeah, it's interesting because I was thinking, I go in between these two terms when I describe him. Neurodivergent means that you're separate from the the norm, right? And I I really see him more as like he's an emergent, like he's emerging into his wholeness because he's always changing. And I think about it when I really look at the bigger picture, we all are emerging. Yeah. London, myself, right? So when I think about him, his experience is a little bit different than what I've experienced, but he's helped me learn a lot about myself too emotionally, right? Um, I mentioned that he's nonverbal, he's considered nonverbal. He has some words now, he does not communicate the way you and I do. But when I he's taught me to listen beyond words and to be able to pull in, um, like look at the whole picture energetically, nonverbal emotions, asking my my team, God source, spirit guides, whatever, right? Angels. I need help. But I remember my first time with him when he was, I think three. I was laying in bed with him, just crying out, like, PJ, just talk to me. I want to help you. And not knowing then that he was considered autistic, I was just crying out to want to be able to support him. And that was a very dark period of me because I felt like a I was failing at the time, right? Like I didn't know how to be a mom. He was my first kid.

SPEAKER_02 15:51

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 15:52

Right. And I'm the youngest child, so I wasn't around babies when I was little. So I thought I was failing. But when I think about presence and with him, he calls me in to be present. I have to be present to hear him, to see him, to feel him, you know. And uh that's that strength that he's uh helped me unfold um that too was a part of my emergence, right, into my wholeness. And that hasn't been able to show up in how I treat my friends, my family, my coworkers, right? And I'm like, what a gift he's given me just by existing in his presence is the gift. He doesn't have to be anything other than himself. And when I think about that, what a lesson he can give the world. Yeah, and we who are quote unquote neurotypical, who are emerging, if we are able to really tap into our very existence of just being, imagine how much better the world would be. Because we're all present. Yeah. We're not trying to be something other than what we truly are because of what we see. And um, yeah, he's he's he's a beautiful soul.

SPEAKER_01 17:10

Yeah, what a simple gift that is to just be ourselves. And I think that's a beautiful gift that that children can teach us. I, you know, I gotta bring it up, the telepathy tapes. I brought it up on a couple of episodes. I don't remember when I filmed or what. Um, guys, if you're not aware with what the telepathy tapes are, it is um a journalist, Kai Dickens or Dickinson, she researches autistic and nonverbal children and proves how they communicate telepathically, and it's beautiful. And the biggest takeaway that she's taught over this years of her research is that these children are teaching us how to just be ourselves. Like that is the gift, that is love, is just being us. And it's so hard for us to just be us because one, like you mentioned, we're always trying to reach out to to succeed or be other things or to reach these goals, which is great. That's important in balance. But man, if we could just be ourselves and exude that, you know, I like to think of the world as this big, beautiful puzzle piece and we need all the pieces of the puzzle, which is us. But when we're not being our own puzzle piece, how are we gonna make it all work? So I just think it's so beautiful. And I've learned that through her podcast and her show and everything. But yeah, as a mother, man, just learning how to communicate in different ways. I love what you had mentioned. I may make you say it again. You talked about that communication is not just verbal, it's it's energetically we're we're communicating. It's it's mentally we're communicating, it's part verbally, it's our body language. There's so many things that we as adults, I don't think we're taught. And so we just kind of don't give any awareness to it. Yeah, we don't think it's important. But meanwhile, these little young kids are picking up on everything that we're exuding energetically, mentally, our thoughts, our words. And so, yeah, I think that's so important as we learn as adults uh how to to be aware of all these little nuances so that we can help them and we can can give them the things that they need. What are some ways that you help PJ ground or that you help specifically? Let's get into some things that help him when he's feeling anxious or maybe when you start to catch the storm before it comes. Let's talk a little bit about that.

SPEAKER_00 19:33

You know, I was thinking uh about there's a two things I was gonna with PJ. I feel like personally it's been me learning his needs. And now that he's 10, we're having new changes are coming up. He's going through um puberty, which what I found for him is he goes through phases where like he'll have ex expansive growth and then emotionally just doesn't know how to communicate what he's feeling inside. And so I think about this when I lost my voice because I was sick, trying to express yourself, and you're like, take you it takes extra effort to write down what you want, and he has a device to help him speak, right? Um, and I just think how hard that is. And I have compassion because I know it's harder for him to to get across what we need if we're not willing to hear, right? And that's what I was gonna say before. You mentioned that we have to learn how to communicate with them because and I feel like honestly, we've always known it, we've just forgotten. And his soul is designed to help us remember that all babies, when they come in, it's energy, they're connected to the mom, they feel him. Then we start learning different things like facial expressions and things like that. But the sort, the soul essence of who we are, we've always been that. So, okay, going back to grounding things. Okay, so for grounding with PJ, when he when he was younger, probably like two or three years old, he was very, very fixated on numbers and putting things in a row. And at the time I was like, or or flicking lights. Um, and at the time I didn't realize that that's that was like a tall tell sign that you know he's probably autistic and one of the many. And um when he would have outbursts or like really big emotions, I call big feelings. Um, I would sing to him. Or yeah, I would just sing whatever song, and usually sound, I feel like sound is very healing. Um, or I would have him when he learned how to count and say his ABCs, we would redirect to something that he enjoyed. So we count to ten or we sing through the ABCs. And um, that would usually settle him, but then there's other times he would just throw his body on the floor and like, oh my god, you're gonna hurt yourself. I know these feelings are big and you're upset, but how do I help you navigate this? So we would. Practice deep breathing. Breathe with mommy in and out. Right. Um, another tool that we've done is I've learned this probably within the last five years is uh singing vowels. Um and I've shared this with you uh before. Uh I used to sing in choir uh for years, and in choir they to teach you to sing your your vowels as warmups, right? And it's um I think it's a io usually. And I I learned that if you reverse them, like those sounds are connected to your chakras, right? And if you reverse it, it actually will open you back up. And as you're singing them, if there's any distance in your chakras, it will clear it the more that you sing it. So he and I would practice that, but we would do it reverse. So you starting at the root, o a e i, and as you're coming up, it's going through the crown and opening you up. So because of his throat chakra was usually where we found a lot of the challenge because he's not able to express himself. Yes, I love that. We would hear the distance and we would work through that sound until it became clear.

SPEAKER_01 23:11

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 23:11

And so consistent practice of that created space to move the energy out of his body, right? Because he's just like, there's so much that I'm feeling, um, and they're so sensitive in their body. How do I get this off of me? It's so overwhelming.

SPEAKER_01 23:27

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 23:27

And like, and so that those are a lot of the tools I love.

SPEAKER_01 23:30

We actually we haven't talked a lot about um the chakras on the on the this show yet. So, guys, what Tasha's explaining is you've got your that we've got lots of chakras, chakras, chakras, I'm probably saying it wrong, but we've got lots of chakras within us and around us. But of course, you've got your seven main chakras. You've got your root, you know, uh sacral solar goes up to your throat chakra, third eye, and crown. So what Tasha's talking about is those vowels, because we're we're totally gonna nerd out on this, you know, like the different vowels. Um, the sound of that vowel resonates with different chakras. So as you sing it, what Tasha's talking about is opening up your energy, or you can reverse, correct, Tasha, uh close your energy. So you're opening PJ's energy and you found some ickiness in that throat chakra, some uh discs. Some dissness there. Yeah. And so, and so now can and to clear that out, what did you do? Did you just keep singing that vowel at that? Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 24:31

Okay. And then if he would get irritated and they'll stop, right? So I've always I let him be. I don't want to be forceful where he then hates doing something, uh, because then at that point it's torture. And who wants to torture their kid?

SPEAKER_02 24:44

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 24:44

Um, and not gonna do that because I wouldn't want to be forced to do something if I didn't want to. So, but yeah, that was one of the things he enjoys listening to me sing too. So if my sound helps regulate too as well, um, but if we're moving the energy out of his body, that's the key. So if there's energetic body, like our our vocal vocal cords are are an instrument too, right? So if you listen to music, whether it's um hertz, and I don't know, a lot of people know about this. If you listen to the like 432 hertz, it can be very soothing. It's connected to the heart chakra. And so I'll use things like that to help change the environment in the home to make sure that he's he's good. Not just him, though, but London too, because she feels him when he gets elevated.

SPEAKER_01 25:27

Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 25:28

And I have to really help her navigate that because although she may not be um on the spectrum to the capacity that he is, she's very sensitive to sound, yeah, very sensitive to energy and emotions. So um I believe that they're both very, very intuitive kids. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 25:47

And uh what kind of things do you do for London? Do you does she have something different that works, or do you do the same types of things?

SPEAKER_00 25:54

Uh mostly the same, a lot of the same things. Uh, if there's a noise sensitivity, because I too have sound sensitivity as well. We often say, mommy's overstimulated. So she'll use that word too. Like, you need to calm down for a little bit. Everyone needs quiet time. Yes, I love that. And so the fact that I'm giving her verbs or words to describe what I feel. So now she can understand, okay, if I'm feeling overwhelmed, I'm gonna use this word. She's done that at school too.

SPEAKER_02 26:23

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 26:24

Or she'll tell her teacher I'm overstimulated. Yeah. So I don't know what seven or six-year-old says that, but I'm very grateful that she understands that concept.

SPEAKER_01 26:33

And I think, and that's a good point too. Um, I think it's so important to teach kids how to advocate for themselves and advocate for what they're feeling. First, we have to teach them how to even feel, because most of us adults are learning that too, right? Like that's always the kicker, is like we have to learn it before we can help them. Or sometimes they help us, right? Like like in your case. But um, yeah, giving them those words to be able to express, hey, I am overstimulated, or uh, you know, I need a break, or I'm I'm upset, you know, I think when they that's the first step is for kids to be able to understand what they're feeling. And then we can take the actions. I think a lot of times parents or teachers will just start taking the steps to trying to calm them down, but we're not helping them even understand what they feel. And the whole, you know, the whole end-all goal is that we want them to be able to feel and calm themselves down because as they grow into adults, that's what they're gonna need. So I think that that's a step that we often skip. So I think that's great that you guys are working on that.

SPEAKER_00 27:32

Yeah. And I could be like I have a tendency to want to fix things, right? Um, and so I think most parents will want to do that, but you're a hundred percent spot on. If we can help them to have words to describe and what these feelings are, then the self-advocacy is important. So PJ will actually pop up to me and say, I need a squeeze.

SPEAKER_01 27:55

Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 27:56

And so that means he's having some over stimulation, and that's his way. He's he's like, I need to feel grounded in my body. That's the way I'm interpreting it. I need a deep squeeze because he likes deep pressure, yeah, right. And not every child who's on the spectrum feels that same way, but having that being able to um attune to him to serve him, it's an honor to serve him, right? And he, me, right, I'm sure of it. Um, yeah, it's a but to be transparent as a mom, it can be a lot. It feels like a lot, and that's okay, right? Yeah, do you ever always be on to always be alert?

SPEAKER_01 28:32

Yeah, you and I had talked uh a little bit about it can be lonely too, right? Especially as a special needs mom. Yeah. Um, you know, you're going through a lot of things that maybe other parents aren't needing to go through. How has that journey been for you? What does community mean to you? Let's get into that.

SPEAKER_00 28:49

Yeah, I I feel like I'm still figuring that out a little bit. Like there's aspects of it that um my prayer was that God source just whatever is meant for our family to open the doors for it and let those who are called to us be understanding. And even if they don't know, to be willing to ask questions and and to help and to not judge, right? So when he was younger, um, it was very challenging. You can't ex can't always explain why a child is having a meltdown at the grocery store. Instead, you're getting judgment by other parents saying get your kid in order, right? That's not really fair, right? And then there's that shame that you start feeling like what am I doing wrong? Remember, I described that before. Um and it's what freed me is when I let go of expectations of what my child should be. And then I that actually translated into a lot of relationships and did a lot of shadow work for me. When I let go of expectations, it's so freeing.

unknown 29:51

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 29:51

And I'm even for him, I'm sure he felt the expectation that I have for him. In my what's wrong with you? Why can't I help you fix this? That's a strong statement to say what's wrong with you. Nothing's wrong with him. Yeah. And I had to be okay with even the shame that I felt in feeling that that's that dark shadow emotion. There's been moments where I'd be like, um, I can't travel the way that I wanted to. And I I live in Arizona because we have amazing resources for PJ here. There's been many of times I've been offered jobs to move out of state. And I'm like, oh man, will my life continue? Will it be what I thought it would be as a kid? Right. Yeah. I have all these dreams that travel the world, and that reality has shifted. And when you go through that shift, it's there is a creek process, right? Um grief, grieving the what I thought was my life was supposed to be. That doesn't mean it's worse, right? It's honoring, okay. Maybe this isn't how I envision it to be, but I know this is going to be better. And so as I move forward with him, I choose a life where he will be and receive what he needs to. And so we make decisions based off, okay, we're not moving because he gets what he needs here. How unfair that would be to put him in an environment where he needs this is such a pivotal time he's tent where he's learning and developing. If I were to just move states and he doesn't have the therapy or the support, that would be catastrophic. So I'm like, it's temporary at some point. Maybe we move, maybe we won't. Or maybe this is where we're gonna be, and that's okay. Yeah. Um, so but yeah, I I feel like I've talked. There's more to what you're asking me.

SPEAKER_01 31:42

Yeah, well, no, I I think this is actually perfect. I think talking about reimagining the world that that you thought at one, you know, at one time and how it's different. I think that's something that to be honest, we all go through, especially when you start having families, right? You know, I I was a big sports athlete, and here's a typical issue when you're done playing sports, now what? You know, life moves on and now I have to be this completely different person. How do I want to envision my life? And I think that this is a very important conversation that people don't talk about enough. How can we still be the creators of our life and bring in joy and bring in the things that we want in a balanced way with our kids or our family or job or whatever the thing is, right? I think it's important to constantly reimagine your world because it's always going to change. Oh, you know, like let's just give the secret out. Like life is never going to be stagnant. It's always going to change. So how can we move with it and make it work for us? And I think that's what you were just talking about. And it's something that we all need to bring into our awareness because I think that's one thing that often uh, you know, gets us down is when life changes and we were expecting it to. And now I'm stuck, you know? Yeah. How can we move through that? How can we imagine that starts in here, right? Can you talk a little bit about that? Well, yeah. It's a choice, it's a choice.

SPEAKER_00 33:04

It starts with a choice first. What do you want for yourself and for your family? Asking your children, what do you desire? You know, what do you what makes you happy? How can I help you achieve that? Like and truly listening. Because sometimes I feel like in the Western culture, we're so busy doing, doing, doing that we're like, okay, just hurry up and do this out be over here, right? Um, and I'm like, okay, spirit, show me where I need to slow down. Because I I'm not always going to be present in a slower pace, right? My life can be very fast paced at times. And one of the things that I said to Spirit, God source, I keep saying that uh that term, but I use that's how I describe um spirit, is you know, there is when I was younger in my 20s, I would spend hours meditating, like in prayer. Like it was just so a part of who I was, is how I grounded and how I was centered, how I grew. Once I had kids, yeah, right, who has time for that? And then I had I had such a mourning, like a yearning and a desire for what you know fed my soul. Then I had that an identity crisis. Okay, these kids need me, but I feel like I'm depleted, going back to that presence piece, the grounding. And I had set the intention, I said, Look, God Source Spirit, I need you to meet me where I'm at in this season. I don't have time to spend hours meditating. So if I'm going for this 10-minute walk, I need you to meet me here. If I'm washing these dishes, I need you to meet me here, right? Give me the wisdom to help navigate this life that you've given me, right? With these beautiful kids, how do I show up for them in that they feel seen, heard, loved, and they have the tools to be able to be successful in whatever that success looks like for them. And so for me, that is success. When I'm showing up, I'm present for them. And so reimagining my world required slowing down enough and adjusting aspects of who I am and still being, I felt like I was full. Like those the two hours that I was doing or hour I was doing before, I was okay, like I felt fulfilled 10 minutes here and there, right? Yeah, and so it taught me something about um prayer or meditation. There's active meditation. I never knew this when I was younger, and that active walking meditations are indeed a thing. And so um, what's helped me with that is saying, okay, even in my everyday tasks, my everyday moments, presence is the gift that allows me to be fulfilled. If I'm if I'm aware that spirit is always around us, that I can receive the message doing the most cleaning my house, right? Driving my car, that feeds my soul where then I'm able to show up fully for my kids. And that kind of fits into the gratefully you um, which we talk about in my podcast. My kid, it's a lot of it starts in just being present, being knowing that our imperfection, our moment, no matter where we are in our life, our present moment as long as we are able to see who we are in that moment and feel good about it. I'm great, I'm cool, I'm all that I am, and I'm enough. And so I teach that to my kids. You're great, even if you're upset and it's a messy day. Yes, yeah, even in that mess, you're still perfect as you are, perfectly imperfect. Keep showing up, keep showing up, feel that feeling deeply. Does it hurt my feelings? It's okay. Let's walk, let's walk through it, right? Let's talk about it. How does this hurt my feelings? Does it make me happy? Let's talk. What made you happy about that? Like really sit diving into those feelings to understand our children and ourselves, right? Yeah, I love that.

SPEAKER_01 37:02

Yeah, and I think it's so important to when when you're talking about being present through the mundane, through the tasks and making those mundane tasks part of your quote meditation. I mean, that's like for me, you know, we talk about meditation and then I think that the point is to get you centered, is to get you present. So when we just practice the piece of presence while we're washing the ditches or taking the walk, that's how we get what we're wanting. And that's what you were exactly explaining. I thought it was beautiful. Um, something else that you had mentioned was when you're talking about um, you know, spirit source, show me where I need to slow down, right? Like when things get really chaotic. Something I just want to bring up is when a lot of times when we ask for guidance, when we ask for support spiritually, right? You know, show me where I need to slow down. Uh, show uh uh show me or please help me stay supported, a lot of times, sometimes these gifts can come in disguise. This is something I love to talk about. Okay, spirit, show me where I need to slow down. Well, where I need to slow down was where I just had that accident in the house. Okay, but I didn't see it as a gift or a message from spirit. I saw it as another annoyance. So when we can slow down and check in, a lot of times we're getting the communication that we've been asking for. We were shown where we needed to slow down. Did you catch it? Because if you don't catch it, spirit's gonna show you again. And then spirit's gonna show you again. And if you keep not catching it, it's gonna get bigger and bigger, or you know, it can come into the physical world with an ailment, or you know, we hurt ourselves. So I do think it's important to check in and see are my prayers being answered? Are the things I'm asking for showing up for me? That was a random little thought I just had that I think is important because we don't always pay attention.

SPEAKER_00 38:48

A lot of times they're right here on the wall. Or even sometimes with the paradigm shift, right? Or perspective shifts. It's near to think about when things are happening and man, that really sucks. Oh, that's another thing that sucks, right? And it's easy to go into the narrow-minded of like woe is me moment, right? If you're able to pause in a moment and ask the question, like, what are you what if what's the lesson I need to learn here? What will help me navigate this better? When when we start asking those questions and then truly listen in our environment and our surroundings of what's showing up for us, it's like, oh that wasn't meant to be annoying to me, or maybe yeah, like the pressures at work that I was feeling um a couple weeks ago. I was like, man, I'm exhausted. I don't, I don't have enough to give to my kids. And I felt again that mom guild. And so I have to sit with this. I'm like, okay, what is the lesson here? I my office is a creative space. I love to be in here, but it got into a point where I was overworking and I wasn't, I didn't want to be in my office. The energy in the space was exhausting. Like there's all these different things, but again, you all get in that that spiral moment of it's like a routine. Once you get going, you're going, going, going, going, going. And I had to ask, okay, spirit, what am I doing wrong here? What is it that I need to shift to want to be in my office to create again? Where it doesn't feel like it's mundane, like I like I'm I'm exhausted and don't want to show up. That's not a good energy to be in, right? And that's not that's not fair to my kids or my husband. So, what did I do to shift the environment? First things first, ask the question, and then two, how do I I need to shift the atmosphere of my office? So I did a deep cleaning, I set the intention of my I do that often at my house actually. Um, I walk the entire house, but in this time it was my office because the energy was bearing. And I'll I literally walk through the house and set intentions so that way if there's uh what I start noticing um different outbursts happening more, maybe I'll notice that my my husband's in a deeper thought, like spiraling a little bit more. He may not be expressing it verbally, but I can sense it. I'll walk through his office and I'll like clear the space, right? For PJ, same. If he's having more outbursts than usual because he's feeling us, I'll clear his room, right? And set the intention. And so my office space was what I did, right? I did it that time. And I set music on the hurts, right? Yeah, and then I came in, I I changed, I put some lighting in here, I laid down, and I was like, okay. After I was done and I was able to sit in this, the spirit told me why. I want to see if you really owned or really learned from the last cycle around. Like this other examples were showing up. This this person was an archetype in my life. And I it's like, well, did you really learn from before? Let it show up again. How are you gonna navigate this? Will it be easier or gonna go back into the rut of what how you processed before? And so I want to challenge the listeners today. If you find yourself going into the the the woes because of working hard or feeling burnt out, or um, your kids are like, Well, I'm such I'm so tired as a mom, or how do I show up? Just trust that it is possible as long as you honor yourself and like slow down, but ask the question what is the lesson here?

SPEAKER_01 42:32

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 42:34

How can I learn and grow in this environment? How can I be repri like revived, uh re-energized? And that that was another aspect of my prayer. I had to do clearing on my body. I was picking up other people's energy, and I wasn't aware of my own, which then affects my kids. Yeah, right. I work remote at home, so why what do you mean you're picking up other people's feelings? Well, energetically, even across the computer. Oh, yeah. For you as a teacher, you're feeling the kids. How do you like really ground in your energy so that way you're not picking up other people? And so when you go home, your home is your sanctuary, it's your peace. And so I I do a practice every day of clearing my space. Now that I was aware of it, I'm like, oh, okay. Yep, let me let me set the attendant, the intention, look at the tech, the spiritual technology in my body in my environment, right? Of my body, my etheric body. Where is my energy leaking? How can I call it back? How can I transmute? So that way, and then I look at each of my kids, and that's a part of the prayer process. If I'm seeing something within them, let me pray for let me guide them. My job as their mom is to do that for them. They don't know energetically the spiritual aspect of what's needed for their grounding. London coming home from school, she's picking. Up energy from the kids and she'll bring it to the house. Oh man, that's a big some big emotions. Let's talk about it. One. And then I'm praying with her, showing her how to clear her energy. Yeah. Visualize a white light around you. You know, that type of stuff.

SPEAKER_01 44:14

Yeah, I love it. Let's talk about that. Let's give some examples because I think it's fun for people to hear, you know, different ways. Like, I mean, you've given some about just cleansing in general. And I think for those listening, it doesn't have to be anything big and crazy. You know, so let's we're talking about clearing energy now and resetting the space. You just mentioned solely intention, the power of intention, what we put out from our mind is what starts to create the energy. The energy then creates the physical. So something as simple as intention, right? I'm I'm clearing my own energy. Um, you know, a lot of times this is where affirmations come in and they're they're endless. There's no right or wrong way to do this. You know, some of my favorites are releasing all energy that's not yours and calling back energy that is yours. You can think it, you can say it, you can do it in the shower. Water cleanses you off. What are some other specific things that either you do for yourself or for your kids or together? Because doing it together is really great with kids.

SPEAKER_00 45:17

Um, for myself, I do the shower a lot. Like when I'm in the shower, I'll uh visualize uh the the yuck is what I call it. Like murky. I picture like any dirt, energetic dirt that's heavy, it's just energetically fault washing off of me and water is so purifying. Um another thing that I do is sound. Like we talked about the shot, the singing of the vowels, I'll do that. Um and I'll do that with the kids too. When I think about uh the kids, a lot of times it's asking them to before they go to school, visualizing a white bubble around them, right? And then at the end of the day, like unzipping it. And if if we forgot, because sometimes I don't always remember to do it. If I feel like um I'll use this example actually with London, PJ's homeschooled, and there's a whole story behind that with I could probably share with the crew later. But with London, she goes into an environment that I can't help cultivate in the classroom. And this year the class is a lot more uh energetic, yeah, say the least. Very unbudged.

SPEAKER_01 46:21

There you go. They're unbructious.

SPEAKER_00 46:24

And she is oh, she's like, mommy, my ears hurt. I just don't know what the it's so overwhelming. And so um, I'll and give her the words express to her teacher, right? To kind of help navigate that. But when she's coming home, I can feel this sense of energy where she's either short with me, short with her brother. Um, just this is not my my my daughter's really sweet and gentle usually. So to see her short, I'm like, okay, there's a there's a personality shift here. How can I help her honor what she's feeling? And then we'll just say a little prayer intention, like, thank you for for the lessons of the day. I release anything that doesn't belong to my high self. And um I call, I actually don't send it back to sender, right? I actually transmute the energy and send it back to source, and so that way we can um release that all that doesn't serve us. And so you some people have done that in the past where you send it back to sender, but I I don't like to do that. I think that source is a good transmuter um of that, and they are probably sending it because they don't always know how to manage their own, so why add it back to their plate, right? Another example, I sing a lot, actually.

SPEAKER_01 47:34

Yeah, what about art? You you mentioned London. London likes to do art because that's a great way to transmute and or communicate in general. Yeah, she does a lot of artwork.

SPEAKER_00 47:44

Um she doodles a lot. Uh I forgot about that. Yeah, that's a good one. Yeah. PJ does a lot of stemming. So he with his his voice. But yeah, that's probably what all I could think of. I also have they have uh crystals too, but I'll have them or I'll set them in the room. But like even with my husband, he works for a call center. And so he gets really stressed. And sometimes that's why I said his office can be really dense. He'll come out and I like literally visualize wiping the energy off of him, clearing it. Because um, yeah, that's probably the biggest one. Oh, even with the kids, uh deep squeezes. Yeah. And I set the intention in my mind to release what doesn't serve them.

SPEAKER_01 48:24

Yeah. No, I think all those ways are great. And like, like we've said, like there's endless things you can do to clean and and um redirect energy. And I love when you're talking about something about London. Oh, when she came home and you noticed it wasn't her personality, she was a little off. I think that's really important to pick up on as a parent because you know you're your children and you are able to see your child as their highest self. And I think that that's important. Maybe I'm gonna get on a tangent here. But when we can see our kids as their best selves as much as possible, it's only going to help them align with that version of themselves. So I know when kids are having tantrums and and or they're upset or they're they're grumpy, it's hard for us to um to talk to them and or be around them sometimes. Just wait till she turns into a teenager. But um uh as a parent, you know, or a teacher, someone who's in charge of their lives, always seeing them as their highest self, I think is a really good way to help them ground and stay centered. So just an extra thought I wanted to throw in there. And also, you and I had talked about, we've probably mentioned it a little bit, about adjusting the environment to fit your child. Let's talk a little bit about this, whether, and this is great for teachers also, you know, we've got lots of different kids. How can we adjust the environment to fit the needs of everyone and notice that everyone's different? What do you think about that?

SPEAKER_00 49:52

Yeah, so that's actually one of the questions I was thinking about before the last one. So with PJ, I mentioned that he is homeschooled and a reason why we're also in Arizona. So he was originally in uh the school system. And again, I don't think there's a wrong or right. I like London's in the traditional school environment. She thrives in that. She's a very she's a socialite and she needs to be around other kids. He enjoys that. So I created space for that. For PJ, however, I had found that he was having more meltdowns and he was really stressed. I'm like, I'm I'm getting text messages from his pre-K teacher or his kindergarten teacher, actually wasn't kindergarten, it's pre-K, that things that I couldn't really serve or help with, but she's just giving me like feedback from the day, and that I was getting anxious because I'm a fixer, right? How do I help? And that goes back to that time in my life where it felt really dark because I'm like, I don't know what I'm doing wrong, blah blah blah, these thoughts that you're going through. And you have people who are saying that this is wrong or something seems a little different, and you're like, Well, I don't know what to do with this. And so um, PJ was in kindergarten, and this is during COVID, and at the time uh we were in homeschool, we went from school to in home, and I'm listening to what they're teaching him. No wonder he's frustrated. He knows all of this, he's bored, yeah, but they don't know that he knows this because he's not he's not telling them that he knows it. But we as his parents have seen him do these things, right? And so I have to really think through what what do I do for him? Because how miserable it must be to not be seen. And that's no shade to the teacher because they were doing their best and they had several kids and were in a you know remote environment that they weren't used to. But it made me think that that's probably what it was like in school too for him, with all the text messages that I was getting. So we thankfully had um we did have a kindergarten teacher that we had remotely that I really liked, and she was there temporarily before uh she retired, she was serving in for someone who's pregnant, and I just loved her. And at the time, I'm like, man, I wish we could um have her as a teacher. And this goes back to when you set the intention of what it is that you desire, and I need to backtrack a little bit. That at the beginning of each year, I usually write out my intentions, desires for me and my family. And one of the things that I wrote out for PJ was like that he has his therapists, his teachers, they love him as if they were his as if he was their own child, and that they desire to serve him in that way and to really want to see his growth. And there's much more there, but like after we had that, after she was about to retire, it hit me like, hey, would you be interested in teaching him after you retire? And there was a scholarship program that we were able to get, and I've had she's been with him since then. He's technically he's 10 now, he was five at the time. And so when I think about the environment, we have all of his therapists that come for him to support him. Each one of them, I I set that intention, and each one of them love him so deeply. His speech therapy has been with him since he was three. That's very rare. Yeah, and so setting the intention for our kids is the key. Trusting that he'll be provided for always, whether it's me or whoever he's is with them. If I have fear that he won't, then we create that because it starts with the mind. And so when I that started with me writing, setting the intention, making it known. And I've never been so surprised, I guess. It was it was a faith activator for me to see how supported he is. And I have so many stories about he was he was an elope loper too. And um I like there's been so many times I'm like, okay, twice specifically, that I was panicking, and I literally my prayer was God you've got him.

SPEAKER_02 54:15

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 54:16

I know, and uh I'll tell this is kind of a side handed, but he was probably like seven, I think. And I woke up London woke us up and said, Mommy, PJ's not here. The worst thing you can hear at like six in the morning, yeah. He basically looped out of the house. And I had to tap in, like, okay, where is he at? Like I had to, I couldn't I couldn't hear him intuitively, right? Panicking. And uh the first thought I heard was, haven't I always protected him? Haven't I always guided him? Isn't he always cared for? And I was like, Yeah, but where is he? Yeah, like this is that inner thought, right? And so um Harris left and he was being he was being followed by an older couple in a car. I mean he's in his underwear tablet in hand and oh my god, and uh sandals at like 6 30 in the morning. And I just I panic, but when I think about it, I'm like, wow, anything could have happened to him and he was still guided and protected. Yeah, and so yeah, for those who are listening, I feel like if we all we're always questioning about whether we're doing enough for our kids, second intention that whether it's you or someone else in the world who can show up for them for their best and highest, allow them to love for their kids. You love your kids, but it also holds space for others to show up and show them how loved they are in the world. And so that that's been a gift that I've received that's been outside of the traditional norms of schooling, is being able to have so many people in the community that maybe they're not deeply connected, but even still show up for him. They ask, How's PJ, right? In our neighborhood, you know, that matters.

SPEAKER_01 56:13

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 56:14

And I'll just add this. So, like with PJ, although we had his private teacher, we build his curriculum based on his specific interests. Like, I think about this like how much better of an experience I would have had if I was able to do what I liked, right? In school. Yeah. Like, and so he loves to uh build, he is very smart with numbers. Like kid, I'm like, dude, how did you know that? In his brain, I'll tell him a number and he'll calculate it without using for a word calculator. I'm like, that's wild. I can't do that. Brilliant. Um, but yeah, so I think about how we build and cultivate specifically for him. Um, we brought in a music therapist and how I'm seeing how that is evolving for him and like opening new doors up. And so I'm pretty fluid with both kids. Like, okay, what what is the thing that they need now? Where do we need to adjust in this curriculum? Do we need to adjust any scheduling? Like, what feels right? And at some point, he may want to go to traditional school. There may be a point where I feel it's time. We're not there yet, but I'm open to that idea.

SPEAKER_01 57:22

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 57:23

Um, and so I think that's the thing too, not being so stuck in a way where you think it needs to be a certain way. Like we talked about reimagining what our world looks like. It needs to be continuous, not just for us, but for our kids. How do we continue to evolve and show up um for each one? Yeah, and being creative. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 57:42

Yeah, like having time to explore different ways. I mean, I think I think we're getting there in the world where like things have been done this way for so long, like the traditional way, and and that that's great. And and a lot of times it works, right? Like that's why we do things because they work. But having, you know, the gumption to try something different and to explore different ways, like we can make our life anything we want. And I don't know if that sounds cliche or not, but not enough people do it. Can we just break the mold and do what's best for us and do what's best for kid one and kid two? And it can be completely different. Sometimes I think we get stuck and we we don't think outside of the box enough. So I love that you're doing that for your kids. I think that's so great. Um, there's this, there's this meme. This might not, I want to share this meme with you, and it's so funny, and it has nothing to do with what we just talked about. So um, we're gonna shift gears. I just want to see what this brings up for you. There's this meme I saw. It was like last year, and it's this mom, and she's cleaning the house, and she's like wiping down the counters and she's stressed out and she's going, going, going. And the meme says, quote, I started to heal when I realized that everything I did, I did as if I was in danger. And I unquote. And I was like personally attacked by this. I was like, first of all, I don't even have kids yet. And like, and I'm sitting here and that's what I do. I clean like I'm I'm in a rush and I'm trying to get everything done. And it's like there's an agenda, even though there's no agenda. And I feel like we fall into these phases where we're going so much and we can't slow down. And it is literally making our nervous system break down. What do you think about this? Do you ever do this? I do it all the time.

SPEAKER_00 59:26

Spot on. Yeah. And then I actually there's two prior to kids, I was definitely that way, so much so that um I've always been a high performer. Yeah. Which it's questionable. Like, why are you high performing? Because again, these are I was taught that way. It was a survival mechanism for me where I felt safe because I was performing, right? Yeah, great school grades, I was an athlete. Like, you I didn't have to be worried about being yelled at because my dad would plus if I did it, wasn't it perfect, right? And so that has evolved into other aspects of my life, and so that's how I would everything need to be cleaned. You need to do this, da-da-da. Paris, Paris, PJ, my son specifically, um, not my husband. He kind of both helped me broke the moat or break the mode on that because, like, maybe Paris too, like, husband's name is Paris. I feel like there's just always gonna be something to do. And like at this point, I will run myself Ravier. So if the dishes aren't done, so be it.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:25

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:00:25

I choose, I choose the what's bothering me the most in that moment. Like, okay, can I do that? Or I'm gonna go. So Paris, I my husband actually makes fun of me because sometimes I hyper focus it on a project until I see it done. Yeah, and I'm exhausted the next day. Like, you didn't have to do all that. I'm like, I know, but I couldn't help myself. Yeah. And then it's like, why did you do that? Yeah. Now you're depleted. You can't do something the next day. So I I I've learned to just pick my battles, really. Yeah. And if I can do one task a day, I feel satisfied with that because I think um the high performing mentality is you have a list, mark it off. It feels so good to mark it off. Oh my god. Those ten times done and done. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:01:12

Um, but but you're right, it depletes you. It depletes you. And and thinking about all the stuff that you have to do, that always used to get me. I would get I would get so stressed thinking about the list. And then did I check everything off? Is there anything else I can add to the list? Because we can always add to the list, and we can always do more, right? It's never done. Um, and so okay, so the last point I want to I want to bring in here is you mentioned shadow work earlier. Okay. And shadow work for those who are not familiar. I don't know. To me, it's just taking time to sit with yourself and like we had mentioned, look at those things that are popping up that are causing discomfort, right? That's the hardest part is finding where the discomfort comes from in us so that we can then fix it looking at it. And so, you know, I I think with this meme that seems to fit both of our lives, um, taking the time to go inward is the last thing I want to touch on. Clearing out our system so that we can see what pops up for us and we can see what pops up for our kids. And it just takes time, you know, it takes time and effort to go inward. Do you have any good tips or advice on that? Yeah, I would say, well, it's help for me.

SPEAKER_00 1:02:26

I can speak to myself only. Um I've had to stop social media because it's so easy to doom scroll. Um, I found myself at times when I was so overwhelmed with the world when you just want to shut your brain off. And my my mind would want to go to doom scrolling because I wanted a quick laugh, right? Yep. And that dopamine just kicks in, and then I'm like, this is so not a good habit. Because then it's not giving my my mind space to be bored to then allow for space for creativity to come in, ideas to flow in. And so a big recommendation is to tone turn off your your phone. Um uh what also helped me is to reading actual physical books versus audiobooks does help me. The reason why is because it draws you into presence, right? Um can't be multitasking when you're reading a book. Yeah, and then visualizing the stories that helped me dream more. Yeah. And then um what else has helped? Those walks when you're nature, uh going to the water. I love water baby, I love the water, and so really thinking how do you romanticize your world to slow down enough to not hear so much noise, right? And for me, how many noise is to romanticize a date with myself sometimes. Like it's so easy to show up for everyone else. And then I had this with me the other day, like a couple of months ago. I went to the a restaurant to order for my kids and my husband, and I ordered for them, I knew exactly what they would want. And I just was like, I almost forgot to order for myself. And so as a mom or parent, because I'm sure dads do remember you. It's so easy to have all this these little lives depending on you, your spouse depending on you, your friends depending on you, your parents, especially as they're aging, depending on you. You can't show up for others if you don't slow down for your yourself. So it doesn't have to be the staycation like I like to do. I don't do it, I do it at least once a year with the girlfriends or just by myself. But it could simply be going to the park, taking a meal and just sitting there, journaling by the lake, whatever that looks like. Um, I find that that to be the best way to navigate that.

SPEAKER_01 1:05:04

Yeah. I love that. We're gonna end on this because it's such great, beautiful advice to declutter ourselves and spend more time doing the things that make us happy and grounded and bringing us back into our physical body. And I love that. Um, well, Tasha, I want to thank you so much for coming on and sharing your time with us. Do you have any other takeaways? I think you just left a quite a beautiful one right there.

SPEAKER_00 1:05:29

Um thank you for having me stays. I just I'm excited to see your season come out. I feel like the special needs community is spiritually really inclined. And so I think that the the work that you're doing is so impactful. And um, what a gift that we're gonna give to the world and to our children, which you already are doing, but to to put this in a um platform outside of your classroom. Yeah, I'm really. And see what you can do. Well, thank you so much for that.

SPEAKER_01 1:06:03

All right, guys. Well, that's all we have for this week. If you enjoyed today's episode, I hope you use it to inspire those around you, and I'll see you next time on In a Spiritual Sense Kits. For those looking to connect further, please feel free to send emails to info at InaspiritualSense dot com or hit me up on Instagram where you can find weekly inspiration and updates. I look forward to connecting with you.

SPEAKER_00 1:06:34

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