April 14th a middle aged women and her emotions

On the Way to School" Series, Season 3 Episode 25

Join a working mom and her teenager for the real, unfiltered conversations that happen on the way to school. as they navigate everything from the big questions about life, friendships, and the future, to the daily chaos of homework, pop culture, Background music and constant disagreement . No experts, no scripts—just honest talks in the one place we're all a captive audience: the car. It's a podcast for parents and teens who know the morning drive is about more than just getting from point A to point B

Transcript

SPEAKER_02 0:00

It's very inconvenient for me, yeah. Why? Because like after I do sports I'm tired and then I left this heavy apparatus at the back. Annoying. Inconvenient. Terrible. I can't find any other adjectives.

SPEAKER_00 0:18

I had a fight with the Vanyana caught that asked that to talk to him.

SPEAKER_02 0:22

Why do you have a fight with Leon again?

SPEAKER_00 0:24

Leon come back saying I should not uh text everybody in the family chat.

SPEAKER_02 0:28

Yeah, you probably shouldn't have done that. That was really weird. Yeah, I agree with him. Sorry. Why? Because it's like it's your guys' private argument. You guys got to- It's not a private argument.

SPEAKER_01 0:39

Everybody in the family should know that. It's not the right thing to do. I wanted the whole family to know that.

SPEAKER_02 0:45

No, it's not. It is because it's between the people. You know him.

SPEAKER_01 0:48

Dad knows him. And everybody knows why it happens.

SPEAKER_02 0:51

Then I No, I didn't know why it happened. And neither did Dad. Dad didn't even know it happened until you made it his issue.

SPEAKER_00 0:59

I want everybody in the family to know. I don't know. Well, it's a bit selfish.

SPEAKER_01 1:02

I don't know. No, it's not personal. It is personal. It's not. It is. It's something related to the whole family. I don't know. No, it's not.

SPEAKER_02 1:09

I have no issues with this. I have no issues with your problem. Neither does Dad because he's not here and he didn't make the problem, did he? This is between you two.

SPEAKER_01 1:17

No, that's not. Yes, it is. I'm not accepted it in our family. I don't. You also don't come to me last minute in the morning and throw a piece of paper into my face and say sign it. I don't like that.

SPEAKER_02 1:29

I mean, I can imagine how he did that and he does that a lot, but I don't agree with it. I don't think it should be that big of an issue, no.

SPEAKER_01 1:36

It is a bigger issue for me. Yes, good for you. And I want you. I don't want anybody in the family to do that to me.

SPEAKER_02 1:42

Yeah, and nobody else is gonna. I don't know. Yes, you do. You just said I don't do it, and Dad's definitely not gonna do it, because you know that.

SPEAKER_01 1:50

Why is Dalikan that He did such a bad thing for me? Now I have to handle it.

SPEAKER_02 1:54

A bad thing? What the f it's a bit selfish for you to bring other people into this actually. Like dad always hates you guys fighting. Why tell him the one time he's away from us that you guys are? Go ahead. What it?

SPEAKER_01 2:08

No, ugly.

SPEAKER_02 2:11

That's how how people sound to me. They're also contrarian. Are you okay? You just can't cry for yourself.

SPEAKER_01 2:17

They also can't work.

SPEAKER_02 2:18

I think contrarian. Okay.

SPEAKER_00 2:28

I'll come back in a minute.

unknown 3:41

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 3:51

Okay, maybe I did something different. Yeah. I think it is something emotionally. I don't want to accept it. And I want to, I don't want to handle it by myself. I want to get it out. I want other people to know. I don't want to bear it by myself. I think bear it by myself makes me even more upset.

SPEAKER_02 4:06

Well now I'm upset. I have to bear it with you. What do you think?

SPEAKER_01 4:10

I want to keep somebody on my side.

SPEAKER_02 4:12

I also want other people to know it's not the right thing to do. I would have been on your side if you had, I don't know, talked to me about it, if you had called dad about it. But you decided to do a very hateful voice message into the family group chat. I called dad about that. It's not on my side. That's not on your side? No. For the group chat thing or for the argument in general? For the argument in general. Yeah, I'm not on your side for the argument. I'm just you really shouldn't have done that group chat thing. That was really stupid. I'm hungry. So yeah, I feel like dad would Why isn't Dad on your side though? I don't understand.

SPEAKER_01 4:48

Dad said, you know, he's like that, you should just walk away or you should just do that. You don't need to make a big story out of that.

SPEAKER_02 4:55

I mean, yeah, but he also knows how you are, and he knows I would never happen, so I don't understand what makes it happen.

SPEAKER_01 5:01

Yeah, then I pissed up. I said, Don't talk that to me, talk that to your son. You call him, ask him to not do that.

SPEAKER_02 5:09

Yeah, well.

SPEAKER_01 5:13

Because uh sociologically or psychologically?

SPEAKER_02 5:20

Psychologically.

SPEAKER_01 5:21

Psychologically, if you do this uh like people do this last minute uh to pressure other people to do something, they like you don't have time, you have to do. I don't want to take that pressure. You can do that last minute.

SPEAKER_02 5:35

I think he just forgot. It's not like something that's a major decision, like do you want to move to Africa with me? By the way, the flights tomorrow. Like, yeah, sure, that's pressure. It's you don't have any time to think about it. But you don't have to think about a grade you already know about that.

SPEAKER_01 5:54

I don't know, he gave me a paper. I did not even read the paper. I don't know how to read that paper. It's upside down, it's the backside. It's not even the front side. So you turn it around and flip it. No, I'm in the middle of a sport.

SPEAKER_02 6:04

In the morning, I'm always in a hurry. You legit send me a photo into the crypto. I know you're on your phone half the time. You admitted that to me. You're on a rescue of yourself. You wake up at 4 a.m. Yes, I have my plan in the morning. Okay, I'm so glad you have your plan in the morning. It's not free.

SPEAKER_01 6:22

I don't like I don't like other people. Even I wake up at 4 in the morning, even I spend time on my mobile phone, that's still my time.

SPEAKER_02 6:32

Yeah, I'm aware, but it's also my time since you're late every single day.

SPEAKER_01 6:36

Yeah, today especially because of bang young.

SPEAKER_02 6:38

Yeah, especially those three extra minutes we are.

SPEAKER_01 6:50

Why do people think they can interrupt the other people's time and and and do that? He can do that today before. We were eating together. We were talking together. Before he goes upstairs, I said, Is there anything I need to know about your school result and anything? He said no.

SPEAKER_02 7:03

I mean, it's not you the grade, he just didn't give you to sign the test.

SPEAKER_01 7:07

Why did he cannot give me the day before?

SPEAKER_02 7:09

He probably just forgot, Mom. It's not like he purposefully did this just to make you mad and anger you.

SPEAKER_01 7:16

That's a very weird way to think. He could come to me and say, Hey, mom, I forget about it. It's my German test, and can you sign it? At least. But not just come to me and throw something in my face and then do nothing.

SPEAKER_02 7:28

To be fair, if you're in the rush in the morning and you get thrown a paper that you're supposed to say sign, then I feel like it'd be better without an explanation because you save time. Maybe he was being thought thought. I even don't know what to sign off. What do you mean? It's a paper with a grid on it. What do you think you're signing?

SPEAKER_01 7:49

I don't feel like I'm respectful. I feel like uh it was disrespectful for sure. Yeah, he gives me like a machine or I'm a slave, but he just brings me something on the side. It's not it's like you come to me and ask money and say, hey, you pay.

SPEAKER_02 8:03

No, because your signature is like nothing like that. What are we on? Your face signature doesn't have value like that.

SPEAKER_01 8:15

It can be much easier. Come to me and say, hey, mom, I forget it yesterday, and this is the paper, it's my German test. I know he could have been nicer. He agreed five times for that. He wasn't. But if he wasn't nice, why do you expect me to be nice?

SPEAKER_02 8:31

I didn't expect him to be nice to be nice. Why like uh every time I asked me? I think he didn't think he was being rude because he's leon and he does that. I don't know. Then change change your perspective. This is wrong, perspective. Perspective, this is wrong. It's just if you don't think you are wrong, and it's on your side and everything. But it's just not that deep. It's just really not. My girl, you're fighting over your signature on a test grid? Are we joking right now?

SPEAKER_01 9:07

No, I'm fighting for myself that not to respect me. And I think it's wrong.

SPEAKER_02 9:11

But we are thinking, Mom. You haven't done anything to change it. What? Look, every time I talk to you about Leon, every time after a major fight, you say, he just doesn't respect me. He doesn't have respect for anyone. Every single time for the past three years, you keep saying, Yeah, I I keep trying to do something. You're not trying to do anything. I'm not trying to do anything.

SPEAKER_01 9:35

I know. And if he cannot change an attitude, then this will continue. If you don't change your attitude and he doesn't change the change, how can I change my attitude if somebody threw the paper to me?

SPEAKER_02 9:44

This is not about the paper, Mom. Obviously. Holy moly. I've legit gone off the paper for the past five minutes. Thank you. It's about in general. Like neither one of you are gonna change your attitudes. You know this, because you're as stubborn as he is. So if you don't think you're ever wrong and he doesn't think he's ever wrong, then you guys are never wrong. Oh my god. Why do you even fight in the first place if you guys are both always?

SPEAKER_01 10:08

Yeah, but we try to avoid each other. I try not to fight with him. We did not fight.

SPEAKER_02 10:12

Wow, the two seconds you guys talk to each other to sign a test you guys fight, that's gotta be really telling. Maybe you guys should just live apart. I don't know. Send him to the police. Send him to what? No, I'm kidding. Don't do it. I'm so thirsty. No, but I do get the dafting though, because he like mostly doesn't think about the principle of stuff. He just thinks about what happened. So he doesn't really dig deep into it. So I kinda understand why he wouldn't be on your side, but like I would still be on your side.

SPEAKER_01 10:57

Yeah, but you've never done that before, so why not? Basically, I want guys to know that. That's all.

SPEAKER_02 11:05

I did not need to be a part of that. I did not listen. That message was so condescending. It was terrible to listen to, mom. Actually, brought my entire day went downhill because of that. I was in such a bad mood. I was already in bad mood. Oh, so now you brought it on. Somebody knows! Yeah, somebody brought me bad mood. Yeah, it was kind of you and Leon combined. Like he does not need to come to me. Look, if I would have been in your shoes, which I wasn't and I'm not, but I wouldn't have reacted like that. So technically it is kind of your fault, but what happened here? I don't know. I guess uncle. Okay, can you go before the car? Probably just remind me once I was the audience.

SPEAKER_01 12:03

Yeah. And if I feel he's not respecting me, then I don't want to do the things he asked me. And whatever I ask him, he always comes back with a bad attitude or so. Then it makes me even further and not want to do the thing he asked me. I think you guys just both don't like each other. Yeah, I'm afraid our relationship in the future will be he's going to college and he only comes to me when he needs money. The rest of the time, he's not.

SPEAKER_02 13:10

Yeah, I think that's actually your relationship in the future. Then I don't want that relationship. Please. Then don't come to me ask for money as well. Yeah, I think that is actually just you're not gonna have a relationship in the future, Mom. I we both know he's not gonna secure anything.

SPEAKER_01 13:28

Yeah, then not. That's my important point. Then I don't want to have a relationship, but then also don't come to me for money. Who said he was gonna compete for money? How he's going to go to the college?

SPEAKER_02 13:37

I don't know get a job.

SPEAKER_01 13:39

Then don't go to college and go find a job after high school. Go to your business. In Germany, you also need living costs. Well, yeah, then you get a part-time job and get your living job.

SPEAKER_02 13:52

Listen, Leon, you'll figure something out as long as it's off the top for you.