Oversharing about…Alternate Realities, Wrong Turns, and Male Strip Clubs?

This week we spiral (in the best way) into alternate realities, the lives we could have lived if we’d made different choices, taken different risks, or said yes to totally different paths. Somehow this conversation also includes male strip clubs, Pilates Tuesdays, and the random moments that could’ve completely changed everything.

It’s funny, chaotic, a little existential, and exactly what happens when two friends start asking, “Wait… what if?”

Perfect mix of deep thoughts and unhinged side quests, per usual.

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I am court. And I'm Jess. And this is Moms. Moms and Marks Uncensored. Hello. Hello everyone. How are we doing? We are doing great and a little feisty. We're, we're feeling a little feisty today, at least I am, but that's okay. Yeah. That means it's gonna be a good pod. Yep. Yep. It's okay. And we have a fun topic for you guys. We'll dive into that. Yes, yes. But first, what are we drinking? We did switch it up a, a slightly today. Oh my gosh. The smallest amount We take a guess. I'm gonna let you guys fill in the blank. We are drinking blank. We are drinking blank. But um, we put, we used coconut captain instead of vodka in our espresso martinis today. So, um. And let me tell you. Whew. It's so good. Yeah, it's so good. I love a coconut espresso martini anyways, but this is like, yeah, it's the perfect amount of coconut. It's not too sweet. Yeah, it's, it's a good one. So highly recommend. We can definitely drop the recipe as well. Yeah. You guys wanna try it? Yeah. I know we had someone try the Diet Coke and Malibu. I didn't see a follow up on if she liked it. Dun dawn. Dun dawn. She listens to the podcast. So tell us if you liked that. Yeah. Um, and then if you didn't blame Krista, not me. You know what I think we should start doing is, um, like not what, so we'll always tell you what we're drinking on the podcast, but I think after every podcast we should put out a cocktail recipe that kind of like sets the mood for the vibe of that podcast. What you should be drinking while you listen to it. We should, or we should film us making our drinks before each episode. Yeah, well we definitely should do that. Yeah. But then we have to switch it up. Shoot. Okay. I like switched up. Courtney doesn't. I'll make her an espresso bar every single week. You guys will have the same, the same video. Yeah. Here's espresso martini number 12. Yeah, you'll have it down, but like, say today's is like a really spicy episode. Afterwards we're like, okay, when you watch this episode, you should be making a spicy, spicy margarita. Like we give like a mm-hmm. That's fun. And we'll throw in like a, a food that you should pair with it. I mean, that's right at my alley. I will, I'll give you guys all bagel bites. Okay. In the microwave. Oh my God. Why are we in this together? Oh my God. All right. Let's talk highs and lows. What's your high and low this week? What is my high and low this week? Today is Wednesday. Um, I definitely, gosh. Okay. Well, had some lows this week. Uh, it's just been, yeah. Yeah. Um, and, and we'll kind of get into this a little bit, so this is gonna sound a little woo woo, which you guys can't be shocked if that comes from me, because I feel like I'm very like, Ooh, one, I'm, I'm a little woo woo. I'm a little one with nature and the universe and all the things, but won't get into it. I got some pretty unfortunate news, uh, at the end of last week that really threw life for a curve ball. Yeah. Kind of, kind of took, uh, a plan that I thought was, was in full force and just switched it upside down. But, you know, one thing that I've learned is to trust the universe, to trust God, to trust the plan. And I just to said one thing that really. Change the course of my thoughts and, and everything. And that's, thank you. So if anything, I think it, it shows that there's something even bigger and better on the horizon and, uh, you can't fall victim to unfortunate circumstances. You literally just have to keep going. So thank you. Always have to thank the universe, God, whoever, for roadblocks and bumps in the road and all of that. But, um, so that is a low turned into I guess. But, uh, uh, the high I think is gonna be. I mean, I have a, there has to be something good. Come on, come on. Dig, dig, dig, dig, dig. Uh, super Bowl Sunday was fun. Yeah. Yeah. I think Super Bowl Sunday was fun. We ended up going to my friend Mikayla's house and Mila got to play with all the kids and that was a blast. The game wasn't too fun. No, I did have an AJ Barner touchdown bet that won me about 30 bucks. Um, you did have you. Okay. Oh, I won squares at your house. Oh, let's, let's, let me tell you the story though, right. So she buys squares from my pool and then, um, it was the first quarter. Yeah. My mom's like, just one. And she's like, did she text you and say anything? And I was like. I looked at her text and I was like, oh my God, I forgot to send her like a picture of her squares. Like, and so I texted her and I was like, shoot, sorry. But you did win. Like, and I jokingly told my mom, I shouldn't have sent them to her. I should have just freaking took it like, right bitch. But she won the first quarter. My mom won the second, my sister won the third, and I won the final. It was a, we all, it was a real female takeover. I love that. Yeah. I love that. Yeah. No, it, it definitely made up for it because I had some parlays that didn't hit because, oh, none of mine. I had for all of my parlays, I don't know why I didn't do any that were Seahawks specific or Patriot specific. Yeah. I kind of had like, run yards here or you know, rush yards here, receiving yards here. That mine was all yardage. Yeah. The Patriots didn't move at all. The Patriots. Okay. Can I just say that I, the mom heartened me felt so bad for May. I felt like he. I just see him as a kid and I'm just like, he reminds me of my nephew. Yeah. And I'm just like, oh my God, he's so defeated. I feel terrible for him. Like he made it to the Super Bowl. Whatever low you ever think you're having, it can't get as low as that. That was so sad. They couldn't even move the ball. No, it was bad. I mean, the turnovers were like, is this happening? I should fucking bet on turnovers. You should have. You should have. Yeah. But I knew at the beginning of the game, it's either gonna be, it's gonna be a no score game, or it's gonna be extremely high on one end and not on the other type of thing. Like it just always goes that way. And there were how many turnovers? But I didn't be CI really like, I like May and I was rooting for the Patriots. 'cause my dad's a Patriots fan. And. I can't say I don't like the Seahawks, but at Cardinal Stadium you don't like Seahawks because the fans are terrible. I'm sorry if you're a Seahawks fan, but at the Cardinals games, every single time they play the Seahawks, the Seahawks fans are awful. They are not fun. They're just, they just are evil the whole time. It's not that fun banter that you have with other fans. 'cause I love that. I love like having fun, like, oh look, you know, they wanna fight the whole time. No, and it's just like, it makes you uncomfortable. And so that's why I think I don't like the Seahawks. Yeah. But I'm like, it's not, I'm a lover team. Yeah. Not a fighter. But no, that game was, it was, but sucky, you know, I, yeah. Other than that, I mean, the, the game, well the game wasn't fun. Yeah. The, the events were, and I made some money, so. Hooray. Hi. Yes. What about you? Um, my low mm. My brother-in-law was in the hospital, so that was, that was rough. Um, it's always hard when a family member is in the hospital and you kind of don't know what's going on or how it's gonna turn out, so that was kind of tough for my husband and, well, all of us. We all love him, so like my whole entire family included, everyone was worried about him. So he's home and doing good though, so praise God for that. Um, my high, you know what my high is, is that I've been struggling to get river into preschool. Like it, I didn't know it was like fucking Yale. Um, and I've like toured places. I'm like, oh, I love this place. I love this place. Okay, my indecisive. Brain finally made a decision on a preschool. I went there, I toured it. It's a brand new school. So there's brand new teachers, small classes, clean, clean, everything's new. Something about that does something for me. Um, I put a deposit down, right? Then I didn't even call Tyler. I was like, 'cause he trusts what I, you know. And then, um, one of the previous schools that I had talked to that I thought that I loved more, like a farm-based, um, you know, type of school. Montessori. Yeah. It's like at someone's house on their acreage and whatever, decides to text me the very next day and tell me, oh, one of the kids moved, uh, river can get in. Okay, cool. Like my freaking overthinker brain. I'm like, this one or this one, this one or this one. Yeah. You know, like, now I don't know what decision to make. Um, this one's cheaper. It's more go with the flow. But my high would be, it's a good predicament to me and right to have options. And my high is, is that my indecisive brain made a decision and. Now that I'm talking about it, I'm still kinda like, but I went with my gut and I went with the more structured one. Mm-hmm. Um, I think River would totally thrive in like a farm-based. He's a wild animal. But I think that a brand new school with brand new fresh teachers that are ready to rock and roll and smaller classes and he will benefit from the structure long term, like transitioning into a real school environment. I'm worried that the farm-based school will set him up, um, like he'll do very well there. Mm-hmm. But then when he goes to a school setting, he is gonna be like, why am I sitting in this classroom? Why am I, you know, so we went with the more expensive, more structured, um, thing. But my high is I made a decision. Yay. You know what, I'm proud of myself for that. I'm very, very proud of it. You know what I always think of when you talk about River? So I, I've met River a couple times. I don't, I don't see the crazy side of, I know it exists, but when you just mentioned him in a farm environment, did you ever watch the wild thorn berries? I think of Donnie, like we used to call him Donnie. Literally, my son is not, um, I might explain it. He is more wild when there's less people. Yeah. Right. Because he is bored. Yeah. When there's a lot of people or he has other kids to play with, he's like calmer. Mm-hmm. And everyone's like, I don't think he says, well, those, these things. And I'm like, oh, you had, like, you don't see as soon as that door, he's a physical, um Yeah. Jump on You freaking choke you out on the couch. Yeah. And yeah, he's just a, and as a mom you always think your kid is more of something than everyone else does. Agree. 'cause you're just like heightened about it. Yeah. Like, ooh, ooh, ooh. But no, we made a decision and we're, we're very happy about it, but. I, I start thinking, right, if I would've, what if, what if, if I would've went with a farm school, would his life turn out different than if I went with this other school? And that leads us into today's podcast. Would he become a cattle farmer? Would he become a cattle farmer? Would he become more, more realistically? Would he become a bull rider? 'cause they always joke about him being good at that. But different paths, if you make different decisions or decide to go down different paths, or, um, date this person and stay with this person, different things lead you into a different version of your life, right? And that's kind of what today's about. It's just the butterfly effect. Yeah. Alternate realities of your life. How one little different decision or step or, or route. Could have led you in a totally different direction of your life. And we are talking alternate reality. I won't get conspiracy on you. I'm like, do you wanna talk about the Mandela effect and what happens? I still, I understand this fucking Mandela effect, God damn dude, but mom's after dark, we are talking about the effect. Yeah. Come on. Um, no, I absolutely love this topic because I think we all have these times, like where we're like, you know, scrolling or there was a time where I wanted to live in, you know, like in this right on the beach and like that, like I almost took this job that would've like landed me in Chicago or yeah. Something. And I'm like, I like, what if I would've just done that and stuck with it? Where would I be right now? Uhhuh, where would I be? We all feel that way, right? I think we see like someone living a life on social media. Oh God, my cat. Um, someone living a life on social media. Look at his face, guys. There's a cat. One second. How long has It's my little scaredy cat? I don't think you've ever seen him. I've never seen him. He's gonna see me and say, buddy, hi. He's so scared. I've never met you. Come on zoo. Oh, his name's zoo. After the hockey player. Look at him. He's like, get me. Yeah. He's the one that did this damage. See if I wouldn't have let him out right now, he would've totally freaking guys. I never knew that cat existed until today Anyways. Um, I just released a prisoner from closet. Um, I think we see people's lives on social media. Say it's a, a single person living in a city, highrise no kids. And they're just like, on a Wednesday night, they're just down at a freaking coffee shop studying, and afterwards they're going to a bar with friends or, and you're thinking, God damn. Like, what? What is that? Like? Like that sounds, yeah. Awesome. And it's not that I wanna, I wanna start the episode with this. It's not that we wish that we didn't have, or that we're ungrateful for what we have now. I don't want anyone to take that away from this, but everyone envisions, um, you know, like what their life would've looked like in this version, that version, that version. And that's okay. It's just fun. This is all out of just fun. This is healthy fun. Yeah. This isn't any like, oh my God, she doesn't wanna be married and she doesn't like her son. Don't go there if you are that person, stop listening. Stop it. Stop it. Not, not everything is that deep. Not everything is that deep. Don't make a, let's start with some rapid fire just to get the juices flowing. And if you're listening to this, like also think of your answers too. Yeah. And I think we should also do a poll. We are, or like a a box. We're masks A box. Yeah. We're definitely gonna ask you guys, because I wanna know these too. So, cor, if you didn't have kids. What does your life look like right now? If I didn't have kids, my life right now would probably be like, yeah, I'd probably be at some coffee shop somewhere. Um, just planning out like, Hey, where are we going tonight? What are we doing? It's Wednesday, right? So Okay. Wednesday night. It doesn't matter. Days aren't days when you don't have kids. I feel like for people that don't have kids, they're doing random shit on a random Tuesday. Yeah. Us we're like. Monday through Fridays. Strictly this, like, don't call me after this time. I think I'm freaking just, I, I'm probably wildland. Honestly, I'm probably going to make big plans to go out tonight and party. Um, yeah, I'm doing the most, I think I'd be a solo traveler. So troubling like a fan? I, no, like, I'd just go to different places. Like I've always, well, number one bucket list, as cliche as this is, is New York City during Christmas. Oh. But like, I know, I, I want to see the wonders of the world. Yeah. And I really like being alone actually. Like, I, I kind of like recharge when I'm alone. Um, but yeah, like I think I would be like a solo traveler and like stay in hostels and like Yeah. I Could You go to New York by yourself? Yeah. Oh my God, absolutely. And I would meet, she's gonna stay in a hostel. Okay. Not in New York, but like, if I'm like going to Greece or Brazil or like, like places like that. Like I want to travel and try out different, definitely food. I would be on a food. Tour. Yeah. Big time. But I think I would be traveling and seeing like the wonders of the world, which, I mean, I won't solo travel. Let's take it back to today. Like, I definitely want Mila to be like a little Yeah. But if you didn't have kids, then if I, you'd be on your solo trek. You, we wouldn't even be doing this. She'd be on a solo track that ended in a dateline, you know, and, and then Courtney just comes in and just pops. The balloon starts. Yeah. I like to do stuff by myself. I do. But, um, for some reason, like, I can travel to San Diego or somewhere I'm familiar with, but like, foreign territory by myself is terrifying for me. Like, I have to have one buddy, like, and if I go out during the day and do something on my own, but I know I can like, reconvene with this person. Like I need some kind of comfort with me. Like, what if something goes wrong? What if my phone ties, what if I get arrested or kidnapped, you know? Uh, in, in this alternate reality, I don't have postpartum anxiety. Sorry. So, okay. You shoulda led with that. So let's start with that. Uh, I don't think, I don't have anxiety. I'm gonna meet someone and then it's gonna be like the movie taken, and then someone's gonna say, that's always What, what does he say on the phone? Liam Newso. Yeah, he says, so it's like, good luck. Good luck. I have your daughter. That's Terminator. No, that's, I'll be back. No, I mean, okay. I like that for you. Thanks. Thanks. Are you sure like the hostile part? I don't like that part. I don't. Okay. Um, if you never met your husband, what are you doing right now? Same. I'm doing the same. Yeah. I'm, yeah. Like solo gig. I'm, I'm, I'm solo dolo. Yeah. Across the world. Just hiking and Yeah. You know, seeing, seeing new places because even, I don't know, like even when we met, I, we didn't do a lot of travel. Yeah. You know, and like, that's always been a dream of mine is to, to travel and, and see places and spend time. It's still a dream of mine. Yeah. I definitely wanna travel. God, if I didn't meet my husband, what am I doing right now? I don't know. Going out realistically. Probably trying to go out to meet somebody. Yeah. Honestly, probably trying to go out with my friends and be like, let's go here and let's try and talk for this guy. Um, just because dating for the plot, just getting crazy stories. Yeah. In there. Yeah, that's, that's realistically, and I love live music. Maybe I'd be a groupie. Maybe I'd be at the male strip club. Okay. They maybe Magic Mike in it. Yeah, just every night. Courtney on the two every night. A frequent flyer there. Courtney on Tuesday. My two, she's on the wall. They great. Oh, Courtney. Hey Courtney. No, she's here going, God damn me. She's here again. She's, they hate me. It's like a US tour. You've been to every city. You have a shirt? I'm a frequent flyer. Oh my God. If you, if you moved away after high school. Oh my God. Okay. Hopefully I didn't bring that. I think about this all the time and not in an unhealthy way, but I have always said, um, when I got outta high school, I was going through a nasty breakup and so I went to work for my dad in Blythe for his business and I went to community college and then. Ended up hooking up with someone that it was just supposed to be like a rebound thing. Mm-hmm. And it ended up being like a, I felt bad and kept dating him. And I always say, if I could go back in time, I would go to a university, live the dorm life for at least a year or two. Everyone needs to experience that. I still regret, um, not experiencing dorm life. I just, it sounds so fun. If I could go right now, like maybe this summer, I'll just go, just go. Maybe I'll just go. Um, and then after that I would transition to like living in some, um, let's say this is friends. Okay. Yeah. I wanna live the whole friends thing out. Yeah. I wanna have a bunch of roommates. I wanna live in a highrise. I wanna walk to coffee shops and to work and, um, just do things on a limb. And then, uh, one year I wanna live abroad. That's my, like whole little, I wish I would've done it this way instead of wasting Yeah. Nothing's a waste, right? Because everything teaches and whatever, if we wanna get philosophical, but I would've done things that way. You know what, that's, that's one thing I always regretted is I've always been a risk assessor. Yeah. Um, and I remember like looking at a little shack in New York City, you know, or like in a high rise building, or even in Dallas, Texas and just these different places where I'm like, I should pick up and start a life where no one knows me and I don't know them. Yeah. And you see. Yeah. Like now, like you look back and I'm like, why didn't I ever do that? Obviously I know now because the, the sequence of events that happened in my life had to have happened to, you know, lead me here. Yeah, I get it. I totally understand that. But I, I'm like, that sounds like so cool and so thrilling and like, looking back, I'm like, I didn't need to have it all figured out at, yeah. 18, 19, 20. Like, I, I was supposed to be having fun. Yeah. I was supposed to be living the dorm life. I was supposed to be doing these things, but I was like, no, I need a full-time. I need a full-time job. I need two full-time jobs. Yeah. I need to have this apartment. I need to do these things. And I'm like, why wasn't I just, yeah. Carefree. Well, and I know we have a, um, some listeners, I personally know, we have some listeners that are fresh outta high school or maybe first year of college or whatever, and you're thinking, I need to have the job lined up. I need to do this. I need to do everything that like, you know, maybe my parents think I need to do, or whatever it may be. Live your freaking life. Do the dorm life, go abroad. Go live in a city somewhere, or a country and live, work on a farm, do all the things because you have time to create this structured version of the life that you're supposed to live. But if I could go back and give myself advice, it would be that don't just set yourself up all the time. Like experiences are worth something and they're worth more than, you know, trying to like set yourself up in this way that that really didn't even matter. Right? I went to school for child development. I'm doing nothing of the sorts. Really. I'm not. And so it's like I thought that that was gonna be my whole life. And I unfortunately, in high school. Wasted too much of my time trying to fit in and trying to be liked that my grades were terrible. I did not focus on school. So my only option was to go to a community college. Yeah. Um, I hate that. I hate that I, I set myself up that way. So like, I made that decision for myself. There was no other route. Um, your grades do matter. Your grades do matter. I know that some of the stuff you learned in school doesn't matter, but it's the fact of like, get yourself to a basis where you have all those options available and you're not limiting yourself to one route. 'cause that's what I did. And now I, I do, I regret it. I think about it a lot. I'm like, Frick, I should have went to a college. I should have experienced all that. And now you have one life and I can't go back on that. I can never go. Yeah. I think about that. I'm like, damn, I really like, I limited myself and I, and that's the best advice. Don't limit yourself. No, I'm like, I look back, I'm like, I had a lot of D's and a lot of C's, and I was like scraping by, putting homework to like the last minute. And I'm so thankful that my daughter now is like, she is, she's in second grade, but she has a lot of homework. She's, I kind of put her in a military school. Yeah. Um, but so she's like, I have my book report due in 12 days, so I need to have my, you know, my rough draft done by this date to have my final done by this date and editing done. So that way I'm a couple days early and I'm like, thank you. Yeah. For like, having this mindset around homework because I didn't, no. And um, it was no fault to my parents, no fault to anyone. But I'm like, I, I like look at that now. I'm like, I'm so happy that. That is your mindset now. Because I remember in high school I'm like, oh, like I'll do it. Okay. Like I just, I never thought it mattered until like I'm at GCC. Yeah. And I, I was at GC too, well, I didn't know I was graduating the last day of school. My parents didn't send out my graduation like invitations because the last day of school, my test determined if I was graduating. And, uh, I'll tell you now, and my parents know, the only reason I passed that test is because my best friend, let me copy her. Thank God we got the same version of the test. Um, but I scraped by passing that, I mean, it was like by 0.1%, but yeah, discipline now will benefit you later as far as like your options in life. And um, if I could go back, you know, the other thing I think of too is spending two years in cosmetology school to never do anything with it. And I always say because like so in hair school. Washing other people's hair, gross me out. Oh, that, that would gross me out. I realized like once we got on the floor and like was actually doing people's hair. Yeah. And we would have people come into cosmetology school who were like smokers. Oh. And then like the water would hit their hair and then I would smell it and I was like, Ugh, I can't do that, do this. Um, and like during that time though, it was also like the Aline Bob and like all of that. I'm like, I feel like if I would've just stuck with it and like learned to do blondes and stuff like that, I could have a lot of fun because there's a lot of creativity and like, you know, like, you on me, you can take It's been so long. You a fucking Aline Bob. Yeah. With some, with some, uh, what did they, so Courtney wants to cut off 14 inches next episode. And we're gonna give her an Aline Bob. And, but yeah, I always think about that too. I'm like, what if I would've stuck with hair? Like, life would look so different right now. Yeah. Okay. If you had unlimited money. Wow. Um, okay, that's fine. So Courtney drinks first. You fast. Uh, so if I had unlimited money, I would you on a little left. If I had unlimited money, I think about this all the time. I think you would more so award me time freedom Yeah. Than right now because it's it's hustle mode, right? So, and I think that's the story for a lot of people in like this day and age. So obviously if I had unlimited money. My daughter would definitely be home with me. Um, I'd be homeschooling for sure. I also would be doing more traveling and taking school on the road and things like that, and like experiencing life more Yeah. Than I am right now. Because right now, you know, a lot of that time is focused on mm-hmm. Ensuring that, you know, there's, that the bills are paid, that's, there's a savings, that there's things like that. Yeah. But, uh, so with all that being said, I would've land, I would definitely have land. I would have land and I wanna wrap around porch, um, in like a Franklin, Tennessee type area. I wanna wake up and see green and rolling hills and, um, let's move together. Let, I wanna move to Franklin, Tennessee. I look at houses there every day and think, can I skip out and just leave my whole family and do it and be gone? Like, I'm ta not my, my little circle family. I'm talking like extent like parents. What keeps me in Phoenix. Is Yeah. My parents, because I'm with them every day and we have a great relationship. Yeah. And I'm not far from my sisters and this and that, but if it weren't for that, I would be in Franklin, Tennessee with a wraparound porch, with land, with chickens, with cows, um, doing a little on the weekends, a little parade through town. Like, let me get woo woo with you again. I, I highly believe in grounding with the earth. Yeah. Standing barefoot in the grass. I think that there's a lot of power in nature, and I can agree in Phoenix you can't ground No. You put your fucking feet on the ground. You got third degree. Well, no, everything is concrete. Like where, where can you touch the earth? Yeah. Oh, yeah, if you stand on the ground in Phoenix, you are getting third degree burns. You're getting a scorpion bite, you're standing on a cactus. Also, just like good luck finding anywhere that isn't concrete asphalt. Or anything like that. It's just like, it's non-existent. Right. Let's move, because I also think talking about these like alternate realities makes me wanna like, what is stopping you from living one of them? Mm-hmm. Not the one without the kid and the husband and them, but like, what is stopping you from moving somewhere different? Um, for me it's my comfort zone. It's living near my parents. It's, um, living near, you know, my in-laws and my brother-in-law who's paralyzed it. There's a lot that goes into it. It's like that is, I don't wanna leave everyone behind. That's what stops me and me and my, yeah. I talk with my parents about that quite a bit because obviously my mom was like, I don't wanna be away from, well, she always thinks of Mila, you know? Yeah. She's like, of course grandparents. Yeah. She's like, I don't wanna be away from my baby. Uh, so I totally get that. But like, at what point do you stop living for what makes them comfortable? And like, because it's your life too. Yeah. It's your life too. And yes, I would obviously miss my family and being, yeah, 30 minute, a 30 minute drive away from them. But like, also, I want to be around greenery. I wanna be around like a small town. I don't want, I wanna walk in my city without being mistaken as a tweaker. Right. You can't walk anywhere. No. Everyone's like, oh, it happened. Why are they on a bike? Cracked? Cracked? No, literally. But, okay, so what are you wearing? If you're, you're in your alternate reality. You don't have kids, you don't have a husband, you're just a free bird. What are you wearing? Okay. So she is on my vision board. I know. I, I want to, I, I really want to dress, and I don't mean even name brand. Okay. But I think that there's things that I could do that give off wealth. And again, I'm, I'm big into manifestation. I'm big into things like that. I think that, yeah, what you portray and like how you dress can also, so she's wearing. Iron clothes. She's not wearing crop tops and leggings every day. Active wear, but like maybe a matching active wear. Not like an ill fitting. Yeah. Like, like aloe. Ooh, I love aloe. She's wearing aloe. Yeah, she's wearing Lulu. She's wearing her, her white sneakers are not scuffed up. Oh, they're freshy. Fresh, crisp, clean white sneakers. Yeah. And hair. Like if, if it's okay like today, like that's fine. Like a slick back is fine. But, but also like not straggly like, you know. Yeah. Like the roots are refreshed, like fresh, slick back. Like, like luxury slick. She is taken care of. Yeah. She cares about her appearance. Mm-hmm. She's taken care of. It can get as a mom, and if you are a mom and you are listening, it's very easy to put our self care on the back burner. Yes. So I think. Again, like this, this does help us in our day-to-day life right now. That's why we are visualizing this. But yeah, like she, she wears nice, clean clothes. Mm-hmm. That, and she's, she's done, she's taken care of. She's taken care of. I envision myself in like, um, like business casual, like some leather pants with like a fancy tucked in with some like Louis Vuitton. I don't know. I just vision myself with like a nice brief bag. Louis slip-ons even I'm thinking like, because that's the opposite of me. I, I like to wear, um, crop talks. Crock talks. Crock Crock talks. Have you ever heard of that? Rock came, rock talks and leggings or jeans with like a graphic t-shirt, um, and tennis shoes. That's like my style. Mm-hmm. Um, but like. In a different world. If I'm living a different life, yeah. I'm business casual. I'm that girl. I'm that like, you know, like immediately you see me and you just think she's busy. She's important. She's yeah. Beyond me. Yes, it sounds petty, but that's how I, like if I'm looking in my mind, that's what I see. Ann, she smells good. Oh, she smells fresh. Her skin is so fresh. Her hair is so fresh. I mean, all the best, um, products for the skin, for the hair that was sensual, some Botox. Oh my gosh. I mean, can we just talk about it could be all the things. Yes. And I wouldn't care about. Posting on social media? No. Preface that I not, because we have unlimited, we have unlimited money. I feel so good about myself that I don't give a fuck what anyone thinks. What anyone likes or what anyone sees. No, she's gone. She's off the grid. Yeah, she's off the grid. She's solo dolo. What is she doing on a, on any given Tuesday? On any given Tuesday, she is, you know, she's got her briefcase. She's going to important meetings. She's doing all that. But then she's also, you know, she's important and she's, she's desired. So people are wanting to take her out on fancy dates. She's going on fancy dates, and then she's coming home to her high, high-rise, penthouse, um, apartment, looking over the city and she's having a glass of wine. Yes. And watching a show with some bruta. My favorite thing is how sensual the story gets. Yeah. What am I doing? Porn? Who knew Bruta was so erotic? This is very different than my earlier magic mic situation. Okay. I know she met one of the magic mic guys and now she's having bruta. Um, important. Uh, no. So what am I doing? Mine Mine's different. I am, I am waking up and I'm having a, so first off, we're gonna wake up and we are actually gonna do like a journal five minute dream meditation Oh, situation. Okay. And, and we're, we are fresh juicing every day. Not just for a week. Not like after I see something on TikTok. No. And then I get into a, like, no, like fresh juicing is a part of the morning routine, but no garlic. I'm still eating garlic. And then, anyways, don't kill. Here you go. Burst in the public. Let me live in my alternate reality. And then we are going to CorePower yoga or we are going to like a Pilates. Oh, class. Okay. I a midday Pilates. I like that. Yes. And then after Pilates, we catch up with the girls. We go get a brunch. We. Just, there's no time, you know, like there's no time limit No. Can do anything at a certain time. Yeah. And, and then maybe even like, go get like a sunset, happy hour drink situation. Oh. And then be home into like a perfectly cleaned house. 'cause my house cleaner, it's cleaned. Yeah. Maybe like there's some music on, maybe there's like some, you know, a candle already going and then we just pop on My favorite show. Yeah. And I can just relax. But does your wraparound porch exist in this, in your, in your farm animals? Because that's another alternate version of me is living on like the most beautiful wraparound porch on acres of land and. Oh, that's, I feel like core power yoga doesn't exist in Franklin, Tennessee, but I can do Go yoga. Go yoga. Might, yeah, go yoga. Yoga. Go yoga. Is there, okay. Um, is she calm or is she still chaotic? Ooh. You answer and then take a drink, get your drink. Everything I'm describing, I think she's calm. I think because there she sounds calm, there's no, there's no extra stress, right? Like there's no, um, and my life now definitely doesn't like having a child doesn't cause stress. She is like, she's my, my everything. You know, she's my little bestie girl. But like, am I, am I doing this right? Am I providing Yeah, the, the best motherhood am I like, so it's more so like the running tab of things that cause me like, yeah, did I do this, this, this, this? Alright. Like, are her Valentine's Day bags enough? Did I drop off this? Like, does she have skirts now that it's getting more, you know, like there's just the running tab of things that make life a lot more chaotic right now, but in this other reality where I'm like drinking my green juice and going to Pilates and not stressing about finances. Yeah, she's calm. Yeah, I think, uh, I'm always chaotic. I don't think my alternate reality will change that. So let's just be honest. And I think my life is always chaotic. I think there'll be a little more calmness to it. Mm-hmm. Because I'm that girl, but I think I'm still chaotic. For sure. Let's be real. That happens to the, you know, it's, I I'm trying to, I'm trying to think that I won't, but I'm, am I still, I'm still me. I'm still a control freak. Right? Yeah. You still have your elements that are never gonna go away. Yes. So, you know, we talked a little bit. That was fun. I hope that I'm, I'm excited to see what, what are Yeah. Like what you guys thought about. But let's dive into some personal moments that, that like, so, you know, we, we've thought about these things and, um, so diving into actual experiences that we, that we've had. So what about a relationship in your life that could have gone differently? Oh my gosh. So the crazy thing is, is that I had a dream about this last night that I was like still in that relationship. Yeah. And it was like so accurate of what the relationship actually was, right? Mm-hmm. It wasn't just like this, oh, if I was still in that relationship that I'm speaking of the one that I was in during high school where I was just totally obsessed with this guy. He was from a different school, he was older, he was cool, he was hot. Um, and I just, you know, he was screwing me around so much, but then he'd pull me back in and it was just this cycle, you know? Mm-hmm. It never ended, and I always got pulled back into it. If I was still in that right now, um, my life would probably look like me just freaking being cheated on all the time. Miserable, but sticking around because I want to be liked by. The IT guy. Yeah. Um, I wouldn't have any kids because I just feel like this person that was not in their like bingo card, like they care too much about themselves and like, just only doing what felt good to them at the time, regardless of who it hurt. So I don't think any kids are involved, which is sad to think about. Um, I think I'd just be living a sad life, honestly. Yeah. But it's crazy to think that that is definitely, like if this person didn't, um, you know, you talked about earlier that a situation happened that just totally like last week, at the end of last week, you got news that like just crushed you. You know? Like, no, that's what I wanted. That's what I, you know. Mm-hmm. Um, for me, that was him and he had to end it and I was still like, no, no, no. We can make it work. And it's like, thank you God. Right. Literally because like at the time it seemed like the worst thing ever. But looking back now. I would be in a terrible situation right now. Yeah. Because I wouldn't have let him go. I would've just kept, I just know that I would've just still been in that sucked in cycle. So, um, yeah, unanswered prayers, man, God, working in the ways that we don't understand is he's bigger than any of us can imagine. And sometimes it's so crazy to like, look at God slamming those doors shut. Yeah. 'cause like, I know, I mean, similar situation, you know, I think we all have those young in love relationships. I think it's the first time that we're exposed to like infatuation or infatuation and lust and what we think is love. Yeah. And it's really, it's almost like that's the time that that. Teaches us that quote unquote, love is hard, but love is actually not hard. Yeah. There's a lot of like, you know, fighting and cheating and all of these things going on. And I, I look back at younger me, who was in a high school relationship for gosh, um, what feels like forever. But, um, so I like in these high school relationships and I'm like, there was so much, uh, cheating and literally dating me and one other person. Yeah. And me and this person like me, and me and this ex we're friends now. Like it, he's doing great. Yeah. And I'm, I'm doing great and like we are totally cordial, but, um, I look back on that relationship and I'm like, what in the world was I doing? Yeah. I'm like, you just thinking the amount of, you know, back and forth and toxicity. So I, I can't help. And neither of us could grow in that. Yeah. Because I think like. Obviously if we were to stay together, then we would both be probably very immature, very toxic still to this day. Yeah. Because we never had the chance to break off, learn new things, grow from it, yada yada. They're in our life for a reason. So I, Ooh, just thinking of that. I'm like, we, life would be so extremely different at this point in time if we together well and we see that together. I see that with some people that like I went to high school with and they're still stuck in that, that realm. Mm-hmm. And I've seen some people that like have finally got out of it and they're just like, oh my God, I feel like I wasted all like a decade of my life. Like stuck in that. Like, I don't know how I got trapped in it, but it's like we are all capable of falling victim to. Those alternate realities, if things would've just gone a little different, if that person would've not broke up with us, maybe we'd still be with them and, and we'd be fricking miserable right now. Mm-hmm. So at the time we thought, God, what are you doing? Why are you doing this to me? Why me? Yeah. Why, why, why? But like now, um, you always get the answers right. Always. Even if it's not right away, later on you're like, it'll make sense. It just makes sense. Thank you. Sorry for yelling at you. Um, a move you almost made. Hmm, Hmm. So the one that comes to mind is also for a job. It was actually at Discover. Oh. And it was Discover, discover, RIP We Love You. Uh, yes. Only, only Love for Discover Card. So, uh, it was actually almost a move to Chicago, to their corporate office. We're gonna work for it or something. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So it was, it was potentially that, and it's one of those things that I'm like in another world, but it was just out of fear. I had nothing holding me back. Obviously, I didn't have kids. I didn't, I wasn't in a serious enough relationship to where well. What I thought was at the time, but um, anything but it was just out of total fear that I didn't go and I, I always wonder, I'm like, if I would've moved to Chicago, life definitely would've been very different, but yeah. Yeah. That was almost a move I made. That's actually crazy because I was asked to move to Chicago for it retention. Mm-hmm. So it's crazy now to think about like, what if we both made that move? Would we be bessies over there? Right. Starting a podcast in Chicago, like Green River? I don't know. What would we be doing? I know. Yeah. It's nutty. Yeah. To think of like, it's also crazy to think of, yeah. Alternate realities. Would they have ever like intertwined with each other? Would they a path Yeah. Cross paths, because most likely, yes. Definitely. That kind of goes with this one. A risk you didn't take that, that kind of goes with what we just talked about. Yeah. We didn't take the job, so we didn't go to the location, which is, you know, who knows what we would be doing right now? I dunno, I don't know. In a little freaking pub in Chicago, just freaking drinking beer, even though I have celiac and dying, Courtney would be, no. Um, I think because I've been to Chicago and I love it, but it's a very fast paced, um, it's so fast paced. Is it? Like, everything is just like zooming. It's like, it reminds me of New York, but like, yeah. I don't know. But there's a lot of, I mean, we walked everywhere. We're walking to this pizza shop and we're going here and we're doing this and there's so much live activity going on, but it is extremely fast paced. See, I love that. Yeah. I, but I also, I, I love it from afar because I've never experienced it. Yeah. I've never been to Chicago. I've never been to New York. I've never, I've been to both, but there, there are places that I want to experience. Yeah. Um, but like it. Once you've been there though, I feel like you realize like, yeah, this is a really cool place to visit. Mm-hmm. But could I do this long term? No. Um, personally I couldn't. I love that fast-paced environment, but I also am so, like, I love the slow pace mm-hmm. Of like a Tennessee, you know, like, yeah. So, um, I think that that would get a little overwhelming for our overthinker brains, honestly. Great. Alright. Do you think, um, that version of you is happier or just different, like this alternate version of you? Yeah. Different. I don't think anything could make me happier than, than I am right now. Yeah. Uh, like nothing makes me happier than being a mom. Yeah. Uh, and I don't, I don't think any anything could ever make me happier than being a mom. So. Yeah. Different. Yeah. Yeah. It's definitely just different. Um, I think that a lot of times, like we get in routines of our normal life and we think like, this is blah, or what more is out there? We could be doing more, we could be seeing more. We could be being more. Mm-hmm. Um, but really we just stop to realize like all the good things that we have. Right. Yeah. Like I just read a quote today about like, current stuff going on and it's like, um, we're never gonna go into politics on here, but it talked about what if one side looked at the other side and just pointed out all the things that we're going, right? Mm-hmm. You know, what is that other side doing? Right? Instead of us constantly like looking for the wrong Yeah. What's going wrong? What are they doing wrong? What are we doing wrong? What could we have more of? Um, we never actually experience like current moments. Yeah. We're always planning out the next one, and I'm very guilty of that. But when I stop and think, like right now, like, uh, we're recording, I'm, I am in this house that I have. I have a husband that has a great job. I have a great job. I have a child that's healthy. Um, that's worth more than anything. Right? Yeah. Because I see a lot of people on social media with kids that are struggling with sicknesses and cancers and things, you know, um, their alternate realities are their current realities, and it's terrifying. Mm-hmm. So I think we always are gonna want more, and we're always gonna wonder what else is out there. But if we just stop for a second and we just don't try and look at like, what we could have more of or what's wrong, and just focus on like, all right, right now I'm just gonna focus on what's going right. What's good, what's great, what's, what's working. Yeah. Um. I think it's more of a reality check we have to set ourselves in. Right? So it's not that alternative reality that would, you know, there's always gonna be struggles in any reality we have. It's more so like changing your perspective on what you currently have going and realizing that you're fucking lucky. Well, and also realizing too, that like. All right, here comes the woo woo. You can, I knew it was coming. You can craft that reality, like Yes, technically, they both, they both can exist. Yeah. Like so your current one and the one that you catch yourself dreaming about Yeah. Fully can, um, can, can cross. Yeah. So you can speak it into existence. You can manifest it into existence. And I will stop right there. But like, so me, you know, like for instance, even my small dream of like experiencing New York during Christmas, like Yeah. That it's very easily achievable traveling the world right now. Also very easily achievable. Start planning for it. Yeah. Like these things put away every week. Put a little bit of money away every week. And by the time Christmas comes around, you're in New York for Christmas. I'll go with you. Let's go on a fricking Bessie's podcast, New York Christmas, where we do a podcast episode every single day from a different location in fucking New York. We're just like, every couple hours, like, well, we're just gonna vlog the whole entire time. Yeah. We'll vlog the entire time. And you might see something that you don't a sink, that's fine. We might go to a male strip club is up with Courtney in the male strip clubs. That's what she thinks of when she thinks of these two realities crossing. That's my alternate reality. You are gonna be regulars at the male strip club the entire time we are there. Oh my god. Okay. So um, what would your alternate version of yourself, this version of yourself that's just doing her yoga and living her life mm-hmm What would she think of your current life? Hmm. I don't know why this just came to mind, but I'm like thinking of younger me. Yeah. Like, and I'm like younger me would be so proud of current me, but I know we're not saying younger me. Yeah. So the other one would probably. I don't know because she's, she's calm. She is, you know, she's grounded. She's grounded. She might, I don't know. I, I think that maybe, I think, I'd like to think she'd also be proud. Yeah. I think everyone's proud and we're all proud. I think all, all people are proud. She might be like, Hey, uh, I'd rather stick with doing Pilates, but Yeah. Yeah. I don't. Good for you. I'm proud of you. But yeah, I think my alternate version would say, be riskier. Stop trying to plan everything out. Stop overthinking everything that everyone says or does just these plans that you have for yourself in your head, make 'em real. Go after it. You got one life. I think I'd like to think that was the advice that she gave. Mm-hmm. Like, yeah, I'm totally proud of you. You're a, you're a mother, you're a, you're a wife. You're, you're doing it. You know, you're working, you're, you're doing all the things, but like, cater to yourself more. Do more things for yourself and make more time to take these risks, you know, that are gonna set you up in the way that you wanna be set up. But you're just so scared of like, you know, falling outside the lines mm-hmm. Of current, um, expectations. I think that's what she told me. I agree. I agree. I think, um, I think we all need that advice, right? Yeah. To be a little bit riskier, I think. Not even just riskier, but just like it's, we all just like need a little shake of like, it's not that deep. Yeah. It's not that serious. Yeah. You actually can do a lot of these things. Yeah. And a lot of the objections that you tell yourself in your head are just that Yeah. They are in your head and they are not actual objections. No. And this life is too big and too grand to not enjoy the hell out of it and to not like, take advantage of everything that's out there. To experience and to do, because like even at almost 33 years of life, I'm like, there's so much I haven't done. Yeah. And the only reason I haven't done it is because I've told myself I can't do that. Yeah. Because X, Y, Z, I've never made the point of I actually can do that. Yeah. And here's how I'm gonna make that happen. And you have one life until this last year where I literally quit my job and I said, yeah, true. I'm not working a corporate nine to five anymore. And to just think of the like finality of just having one life mm-hmm. Of just like whatever year passes, it's, it's final. That's it. You can't go back and remake it. You can't change anything. I think when you stop and think about that, it's like, damn, dude. Like why are we so scared of doing things like this? We have one shot. Yeah. We don't get to go back and redo this and be a different version of ourselves, like live it now or don't live it at all. I don't think you understand how final it is, literally until these moments like where we're looking back at. Yeah. You know, 20-year-old US after high school. Us Yeah. 25-year-old US even 30. I'm like, I, I feel like 30 was yesterday. I'm like, my 33rd birthday is coming up like in a couple years. I'm like, what have I done outside of being Yeah. A mom. You know what, what else are you accomplishing? Like make a bucket list. Make a vision board. Mm-hmm. Make, make dreams for yourself. Yeah. Because no one, and don't wait till something tragic happens. No. To like have this realization that like, whoa, I should be living different. Yeah. Because it might be too late at that point, so, oh yeah. Just, just freaking go for it. Freaking go for it. Like step outside of what you think is normal. I think we've all been taught so many things of like, you have to work this way. You have to, you have to get married by this stage. You have to get married by this age. You have to have kids by this age. You don't have to do any of that. You really don't actually. it just, it's just one of those things that you just have to set yourself in a position to face the reality of what you're living now and realize are there things in my life that I don't want to be happening anymore? And if I don't want them to be happening anymore, if I don't like the trajectory of them, then I have to change them now, or else I might not get the shot to do it. So make the decision and make the change. So do you believe that everything happens for a reason? You woo Booo? No microwave. You garlic eaten young girl? Oh, yes. I 1000% think that we have a I. Okay. So I, I think that we have a plan in this life. I think that we have a purpose in this life, but I also think, so yes, things happen for a reason, but I also think that we are the one who we're behind that reason. I think that our actions lead up, like we manifest our paths. Yeah. Um, and I'm, I'm a full believer in that. Like, for instance, if I hit on. Hard money times at some point. Yeah. Like, I probably have used the words, you know, I'm broke. I've used like a lot of, like, lack, lack there of verbiage, mindset, things like that. And I've also, in turn, my actions have mimicked that. Yeah. You know, like I've, I haven't, you know, saved as much. I've splurged, I've whatever. So like, that's just an example. So I, I do think that everything happens for a reason, but I don't think that you are subject, like, I don't think that that's like a way to live, you know? Yeah. Like, I'm not like, oh, well. Like, all right. I, uh. I'm broke, and that was meant to happen. And that was meant to stay broke. No. Yeah. Like I, I think that you need to fully grab your life by the rain. Yeah. Like, you know, like go by the reins. But I do think everything happens for a reason. Yeah. No, I, I do too. I think that there, it's hard to understand sometimes. Um, there's some like more tragic things that happen or people that you lose and you wonder like, did, did that need? If it had to happen, why? You know? Mm-hmm. Like, I don't have the answers, I don't have this. Um, but I think things in our life. They do happen for a reason, and it's not to us, but it's for us. And I just think that like, we're not always meant to know why, because if we knew why right Then, then um, we might not do A-C-D-B-Y to get to the, to the final destination. I think life is like all about experiences and they're not always supposed to be good because then if they are Yeah, then we don't really know that they're good. Yeah. Because if you don't experience the bad stuff, then you don't, you know, like totally appreciate all the good that comes from things, right? Yeah. Because there's no version or alternate reality of our life that is perfect or that where everything is like going right. Um, that's not how life was created and that's not, you know, that's, that's not how God intends things to be. God struggled. We struggle and I'm not getting religious. Um, whatever power you believe in or whoever you believe in, um, has created a life where challenges exist. So that we know when the great times do. That's how you differentiate, right? Um, but no, I'm not one of those people that's like, oh yeah, that happened to me. So that's, that's just how I can be a downer now. No, I can't stand a victim. No, it's not about the cards that you're dealt, it's how you play the hand. Yeah. I'm a full firm believer in that. I do think, uh, I think you hit the nail on the head there. I think. Could you imagine your life if you didn't experience some of those hardest times? No. No. Like, I think, I think we are. Like, we are formed, we are shaped by these experiences. Yeah. Percent. And, and almost like they make us stronger for almost the next battle. Yeah. Like there's, there's battles that I've faced now that I, I know 20-year-old me could have never gone through. Handled Yeah. And handled. Yeah. But like, I, I'm, I'm equipped, you know, like with the mentality with the this, with a that. Yeah. You know, like, and I know for instance, like the circumstance last week would have knocked me on my ass for Yeah. Who knows how long being prepared I would have, you know, like I, I could have, you know, gone a lot more rash instead of saying, Hey, thank you because now like, because I do believe everything happens for a reason. I'm like, there's something bigger, there's something better. Yeah. There's also, or or there's another challenge coming up, you know, like that I have to face, um, you know, before this like, but either way there's a reason. Yeah. There's a reason for it. No, I think about my marriage, um, I think about Tyler and I, when we first started dating, we should have never. The where we are right now. Mm-hmm. Right. Like we were just, we were both lost. We didn't have any direction on jobs. Um, we just were like living for that day. Um, I do envy of that about myself. You know, I didn't really care what anyone thought, what money I had, whatever. It's like, let's have fun today. Let's create memories today. Um, and then I, I just think about everything that we've gone through. Like we went through a lot of freaking challenges that a lot of people don't know about. Maybe I'll touch on 'em one day, not today. Um, but then, you know, we got married and we struggled to get pregnant, and I questioned every day. I was angry, you know, like, why, why, why is this happening to me? Why are there, you know, people out there that are doing drugs and having all these kids that they don't want or disposing of them in garbage cans or different things? And here I am, um, I'm capable of giving a child a life that's worthy and, and I can't do it. And then I go through IVF and I have loss and I have all these things and, um. But I think now I see it, you know, I see River when I look at him. I think, you know, he wouldn't have existed without all of these challenges. Right? Yeah. Everything that Tyler and I went through that we thought, why us? Why is this happening? Why are we struggling? Why? Like, what the hell? Like, why are we being fricking cornered and pinpointed into this situation? Um, it, it's all come full circle. Where, where, you know, everything that we have now is because of everything that we've gone through. Mm-hmm. And we didn't see it then. But every time I can assure you, you'll look back and think, okay, like, here's the answer. Here is why. You know, I look at reverse, little freaking face when he is sleeping. And I think I would not, I literally would've not had him. He was an embryo. He was in a freezer. I would, he would not exist, you know? Yeah. I would either be kid less right now or I'd have another kid out there. That wasn't him. Yeah. Which is like, I don't want anybody but him. Yeah. You mean he drives me nuts. He does, but I fricking love him and I couldn't imagine my child being anyone else but him. Yeah. So, yes, everything has a rhyme and a reason even when it's hard. Yeah. A a reason doesn't mean it's gonna be easy. No. But, um, it means that later on you will understand why it had to happen in that way or that sequence to get you to where you are. And I, I can see it now. Yeah. I can see it now thinking about going into another IVF transfer, um, that I now understand, like, you know, when I decide to do this, um, it's because there is a child that's meant to be just for me. Yeah. I'm not gonna look at IVF as like. Ugh. Why? I'm gonna look at it as like, I'm blessed. Yeah. I get, I have this child that's chosen just for me. But that's a perspective thing, right? That's there's a lot of people that they can't look at things that way. And I feel bad for them because it's just a sad way to live. Like you just have to accept things sometimes in the way that they are for you, and you have to find the good in it. And if you can't do that, then you've gotta live a sad, miserable life baby. Oh, for sure. Like you, my dad always said water off a duck's ass. And he, no, he always said that when I was young and like, I've just lived my life that way, unfortunately. I know. I like that. I don't care about a lot of things, unfortunately. And I think it's because of that. Yeah. Um, but like a lot of things happen. Like if I get like this, this, this, you just have to be like whatever. Water off to excess. Yeah. It doesn't matter that much. It's not that big of a deal. Yeah. I'm still here. Yeah. Like I'm still here. Life happens still in the game. Yeah, exactly. You know, may probably thought on, on Sunday. Why me? Why me? Yeah. Why freaking me right now? Why do I have to continuously throw to the wrong jersey? Why? Why? And I hope right now, and it's still a little fresh, I hope in a few weeks, um, or I hope in a year or two when he is, he's in another Super Bowl, or he's just totally where he is supposed to be. He looks back and thinks I had to throw all those fucking turnovers in that Super Bowl. Yeah. I had to do that to be where I am. Yeah. This week. No, nobody. No. Don't expect him come to terms with it three days later, but yeah. Poor guy, poor fella, poor fella. No, I really do feel for him. I really do. But that just shows you fame, money, it doesn't matter, whatever version you're looking at out there. Oh my God, I wish I had their life. They are struggling with something. Yes, they are wishing they were living an alternate version of themselves. At some point in their life. They are wondering, why me? Why me? Why me? It doesn't matter. The money, the fame, the life. Someone out there is wondering that. Yeah. You will never be exempt from that. So just accept the version of your life and if you want things to change, then fricking change 'em because we have the capabilities to do that. That part you can live whatever life you want. Yeah. Eat your garlic. Move on. Get rid of your microwave. Get rid of your microwave, and you can have the life you dreamed of. It's not that fucking hard. Put your bare feet on grass and chew your fucking garlic and live your life. And if you can't do that, then you're a piece of poop. I'm gonna make that into a t-shirt. Go to the chip club. You gotta add that part in and go to the strip club. Yeah, and to the mail. Strip club. Let me just say, if you've never been to a male strip club, it is so fun and funny. Hustlers in Vegas. Okay, we went and they were having tryouts night. It was for my 21st birthday. Fun. It also had hookah. We were smoking hookah, watching these guys try out at hustlers. And we were so drunk. There was a midget on stage. I mean, it was, I couldn't stop laughing. We paid this one very large man to come over and like do something to our friend that was totally like the prude of the, oh God. It just is funny. It's fun, funny, entertaining. Yeah. And everyone should experience it because I think so too. It's a blast. Tyler has a picture of me, um, being held up. We went on a girls trip, like, I don't know, four years ago. We go on a girls trip every year around my birthday for Vegas. You're coming this year. It's a riot. Okay. And the magic Mike guys, we didn't go to Magic Mike, but they were out there, do you want your picture? And we're like, no. And they're like, it's her birthday. They hoisted me up in between them and I just got this big smile on, you know, I'm sitting on their shoulders. Well, I brought that picture home and Tyler has, it, has it. In the garage framed above his. He's so tool. He's so, yeah. He's like, you were so happy. I'm like, yeah. It's funny. He's so proud. Didn't even think the guys were hot. It's just funny. Things can just be No, it's just fun. Yeah. You just gotta love life. Yeah. Yeah. And again, trajectory of life. So changed by different things. Right? Right. But yeah, those are our alternate lives that we wish we could have lived. Um, not wish we could have lived, but if, if our things would've gone a different way, those are the lives that we would've been living. Yeah. And hey, you never know. In like six months from now, we might be recording from a wraparound porch in Franklin, Tennessee. You don't know. You don't know. We have not decided what way we wanna go, but when we do, you guys are gonna be here for all of it. So you should be all of it. You should feel entertained by our, um, our chaos of our this, okay, so next week we are going to have another guest on, um, we loved having our first guest. We think it was great. We think, you know, everyone benefited from hearing her, her point of view on things. And, um, our next guest kinda kind of goes with, you know, the alternate life reality. But sometimes, um, it, it's not by choice, right? Mm-hmm. Sometimes tragic things happen and, and it, and it changes the route of your life. And that is, you know, our friend's situation. Something very tragic happened to her in high school and, um, it changed a lot of things and we are just gonna talk to her about that and, and what changed and what looks different and, and how she dealt with that. And, um, yeah, we're excited to have her on. Yeah, definitely excited for that one. Uh, just I think you guys will really admire her resilience. Yes. And I, I think I'm learning through this that we have some really, really resilient. Friends, yeah. Who have experienced a lot of life and have a lot of lessons because you know, with these challenges and curve balls that life throws at us, uh, comes a lot of lessons that can be passed on and she's a beautiful mother to, um, two boys. So I think you guys will really excite, be really excited to hear from her. And as always, Wiis really thank you guys for all the love and support and laughing with us and Yeah. Talking with us and for you. And we'll be asking, we will be posting polls. We wanna hear your guys' versions of what your life will look like because I can just say from these polls, I feel like I'm getting to know each of you a little more. It's our way of like getting to know you guys and listening to you guys and it's been super fun. So, um, we are gonna continue that. We like it, so it's so fun. Yeah. But we love you and we will see you next week. Love you. Bye bye. Bye.