I'm Court. And I'm Jess. And this is... Moms and Margs uncensored. Moms and Margs uncensored. Moms and coffee. I know. We've been like- That's what it's like now what are we on, like, a sober May? I'm drinking water. I'm drinking a coffee. And I was thinking, we haven't drank, like, on the podcast in, like, a month. Mm-hmm. Close to a month. Yeah. That's not good to build up my liver for Vegas next weekend. That was a bad time to decide- No, you're gonna- to take a hiatus from drinking. Yeah. You're gonna shock your liver, actually. Yeah. Yeah. Literally. Like- So, um, when I leave... Actually, I don't recommend taking a shot. Um, you have to go pick up your child from daycare. Yeah, go ahead and take a shot and then pick your kid up. Yeah, yeah. And then go pick your kid up. Okay, do not take that life advice. Well, guys, we are gonna be kinda switching up the, the pod a little bit. Yeah. We're super excited. We're gonna lean more into... And we always say this at the end, that it feels like we're just, we want you guys to feel like we're hanging out. Yes. And, like, you're sitting on the couch with us, and we're chit-chatting. And we want this to feel more like that. Like, you can just, it's just something that you can, like, have in your ear and giggle and laugh and, um, we'll talk about hot topics and things that are going on. Because I don't know about you, but like, and we're gonna touch on it today because Court just told me she has a controversial take on this, but- I, when there's something hot going on, like Summer House- Um-huh I wanna hear other people's takes on it. Yes. On TikTok, on Instagram, on podcasts, whatever. I just wanna hear other people's takes because I want to, I, I want, I like to deep dive on it. Oh, yeah. Like, I'll go on, like, a post on Facebook, like a Summer House, like, and I'll, I like to read the comments, and I'll be, like, fricking talking back. I'll be like, "Deborah, you are an idiot. That's not what happened." Yeah. Or like, you know? Yes. Um, so we want this to feel just like a gossip soundboard. Yeah. Like, it's just, like, yeah, you're just chit-chatting and throwing this, like, random shit out. And if something big is going on, we'll definitely deep dive on a topic. Yes. For sure, we're not gonna lose that. But we wanna play around with just other things. So today you'll see we're gonna di- we found some fun posts for am I the asshole, and I love those. So we're gonna, we're gonna do some am I the asshole today, and of course, we're gonna talk about Summer House, because I'm itching to hear- Court's controversial take. It's very controversial. I've read all the comments on everybody, on everything, and I think I'm about, like, the 1%, so. Oh, okay. All right, um, we will definitely- You'll probably hate me afterwards probably. Podcast is over. Oh. Highs and lows. Highs and lows. Um, I think my high is what I was just telling you. I had told... We were supposed to go to the river house for Mother's Day weekend, and I told my mom that we weren't coming. And then we, like, showed up and surprised her, and we were just out on the river. It was, like, the first time taking the boat out for summer. Mm. And if you know, if you know, if you have a boat or any kind of vacation house, like, the first time you go out for summer, it just is, like, a vibe. Everyone's just- Summer's here everyone's happy, everyone's buzzed, everyone's having fun. The kids are so excited. So, um, that was so fun. And then we came back to the house, and my dad cooked this huge, like, steak dinner, and we watched the fights, and, um, smoked hookah, and River was having the time of his life. Tyler won, like, 500-something dollars on a fight bet. Dang. I didn't even really know about it. Yeah. Him and my mom were watching the fight inside, and they were yelling and stuff. Yeah. I'm smoking hookah outside, and I come in. And then, like, right at the decision, they both were like, "Yeah," and I'm like, "What, what, what?" Yeah, what happened? "Oh, I made a bet and I won, like, 500-something dollars." Hell yeah. So that was my high. Um, my low. What is my low? I don't know. My low, my low, my low, my low, my low. Oh, you know what one of my low is? It's not really that, like, low, but I was talking to my sister Danielle right before this, and we are all going, like, the entire family are, we're going to Vegas for my nephew's 21st birthday next weekend. And, um, her and- Her husband and my nephew Chase were supposed to go too, like everyone's going, and they just found out that his playoffs are during Vegas- Wow and so they can't go. And you know when you have- Yeah something big planned- Yeah and like every person's going and it's been anticipated. Yeah. So that was kind of a bummer. That is. And then I'm also a little bummed because I'll be missing my nephew's playoffs too. Yeah. So it's one of those- Dang it's not like a... But it's good to not have a really bad low, right? Yeah. Oh, for sure. For sure. But that's still such a bummer because- Yeah she was probably looking forward to it, planning outfits, all the things. Mm-hmm. So- And just popped the balloon. That sucks. That does suck. Yeah. But what's your high and low? Uh, my high is that it's Friday. I know, yeah. Yeah. It doesn't feel like Friday, so let- real quick, I'm gonna cut her off for two seconds, but the, we changed our release until Sunday. Um, I think one of the big reasons was just to have more days to record- Mm more days in the week. Second reason, I've been, um, talking to a few like potential guests. Yeah. And they always are like, "Can we record Friday or Saturday?" And we're like, "Oh, we release on Friday." So- Yeah we are recording on an odd day right now. Yeah. So when you say it's Friday, I'm used to we always record on Wednesday. It's Wednesday. Like, that's like the- Yeah. So you said it's Friday, and I'm like, "No, it's not." It gives us more breathing room. We can- It does we can set up recording. We have time- Yeah to edit, 'cause Saturdays are usually pretty, either a Saturday or a Sunday's pretty low-key for me. So, and I don't w- I don't work Saturday. So I work tonight, then I work Sunday morning. And yeah, so it's Friday. Very excited about that. And do I have any big highs? It was kind of an off week. We talked a little bit about this. I won't dive in too much. But what I will say, because I am a parent, and I had the ultimate- Ick ick parenting moment. I never thought it would happen to me, but my child came home with lice. Ick. And, uh, yeah, so that- Awful it's disgusting. It, um... You know, though, we actually, we turned it into such a good thing. I can't even believe I'm saying this. But we had so much fun when... So we, at first she fully panicked. Um- Mm, yeah and mother's intuition kicked in so, like big time. Ugh. So she's sitting across the couch from me, and I just see her, and it was a split second. She takes her hand, and she just does a simple like this. Yeah. Like a normal head scratch. But mom's intuition, I said, "Get over here. Come here." And she goes, "What?" And I was like, "Come here." So I check her head, and she goes, she starts panicking. She goes, "Do, do, do I have lice? Do I have lice?" Oh. And I was like, "I don't know yet. I'm checking now." And then I spotted it, and I said, "You have lice." You have lice. Um, and then I had to, like, ca- I had, I had to be the calm one. It gives me the- Oh, my God. My sister, uh, Natalie, was just, when I was telling her about Mila, she was like, "Kenzie had that, and I still have PTSD from- Yeah just seeing the little..." I, I had a full- Oh, God full panic attack. Mm-hmm. And but I couldn't, I couldn't show her I was panicking. No. So I was like, "This happens to a lot of kids." Yeah. I learned a lot about it. I learned that lice do not jump, actually. No, I thought they did. That's why, that's why it happens in kids, because you have to touch head to head. It, they literally transfer from head to head. Which these little ding-dongs do. I know. So you're just- They're always, like, doo, on each other, doo, doo, doo. Yeah. On each other. And, and then I learned, too, that they cannot live off the scalp, so they die. And but I had to tell her. Gross. Gross. I know. So I'm like, "We will do every treatment together." Yeah. I made her do full, like, I made her do two even though it's only required to do one. Yeah. I spent $70 on treatments. I don't care. Yeah. I said- Just do it I said, "We're gonna do one treatment, and then we're gonna rinse it out when it's done, and then we're gonna do another treatment." Yeah. "And then we're gonna go to bed with olive oil and tea tree oil all over our hair in a shower cap. And then the next morning we'll deal with whatever we have to deal with." And then we're gonna chew our garlic. Yeah. Yes. That'll kill them. Yes. Um, yeah, thankfully I was so scared. I was so scared because obviously I was like, "Whatever you do, I'll do." So, like, at the very end I was like, "I'll comb through mine." There was nothing, thank God. Oh. Um, because I would have shaved my head. I told Mila, though. Yeah. I said, "If this was bedbugs, I would put you up for adoption." Yeah. Um- 'Cause that's a whole other... But- Mm-mm this is lice, and apparently this is what happens to kids. And with all that being said, one more week of school and then my child is home-schooled. And praise- Oh, yeah. Is that- Praise, praise, praise so next week is the last week? Next Friday. Mm. Last day of school. Like, legitimately last day. Literally last day of school. That's crazy. So, okay, all of that being said, Summer House. Talk to me. Summer House. Okay, so I'm, I think I'm a season behind. Let me tell you where I'm at. The season that I'm on is, it's West, Jesse, Amanda- This isn't their first season, right? No. Okay. I'm either, I'm either one season behind or two. That's what I'm trying to figure out. If it's West and Sierra- It's where Sierra comes in and she's pissed off because, um- Then you're one season behind. Okay. So I'm one season behind. Okay. They have the pirate party. Okay. Um- And but you know that, you know their past. You know- I know their past. Okay. Yeah. So they're past. Let's go there, okay? Because everyone, sorry, everyone, you're gonna start hating me. Everyone acts like they were freaking, they dated for five years and all this stuff. They dated for four or five months. That was it I'll, I'll dive into my takes 'cause you're not- Google it. Google it. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I even Googled before I came- Yes 'cause I was like, "How long was it?" 'Cause, you know, on TV time is different. It was only like- I'm, I'm gonna let you say your piece, and then- It was only, like, four or five months. Okay. And it was casual. I don't care what anyone says, it wasn't this serious, I didn't see, I didn't see the whole, like, "Oh, it was so serious. It was so this." And before all this drama, I have never been a Sierra fan. I know everyone is. I think she's kinda doom and gloom. She just is kinda negative, like, I just... She just... I don't like her energy. I've never liked her energy. And, um, and I also... Oh, Sierra and Amanda are best friends. I don't think they're best friends. I think if Paige wasn't involved, they wouldn't even probably communicate. I think that Paige and Amanda are really good friends, and Sierra just is up Paige's butt all the time, so, like, that's the circle. Anyway- Paige does not like Amanda because Amanda held c- you, uh, opposite. Paige- Paige and Sierra are best friends. They don't like, and they tolerate Amanda, but go on. But in this season- Yeah Paige is, like, because Paige gets into it with Kyle because, um, what's her dude's name? Craig. Craig went with a different brand or whatever, and then Paige is crying 'cause she's like, "I love you and I don't want us to not be friends," like, because, uh, who's she on the podcast with? Hannah. Hannah and Amanda had that falling out, but Paige and Amanda are still friends currently. Mm. But, again, if you really look at this season, and I really think about it, Amanda and Sierra don't really, like, they're not always buddy-buddy or talking or really anything. There's not really that much connection there. It's like me saying I'm best friends with Tara. So that's your friend, and I think she's so- Yeah sweet and great, but we're not, like... You know what I mean? Like- So- there's a different dynamic your, your take once you watch this season. All right, so let's go back a little bit. So Sierra, past dating history, never introduced anyone to parents, never really let her guard down, any of that. So it's not- Yes really the length of time, it's more so the fact that she finally put her guard down for West and was like, "I..." And let herself fall for someone. Which is- And then, and, and she was heartbroken. Um, so that, it's not, so it's not about that. For me, it's the Sierra and Amanda of it all, and you will see going into this season how much Amanda's like, "You are my best friend. Ride or die for you. I love you so much." Okay, yeah, 'cause I'm not on this season yet. And she's like, "I am here for you as you're..." And 'cause Sierra goes through a big emotional rollercoaster with this whole- Wes thing once again, spoiler alert, but it's on the previews, um, they kiss again. Yeah. We're, like, at the final episode, and she, like, they've forgave each other, and like- Yeah you know, like all the things, and she finally is like... And everyone is like, "Oh, are we finally gonna see Ciara and..." Like, because, like, they've always had, like, this tension, you know? Like- Yeah. Mm-hmm and, and like they both have been like, it's, it's, it's like something, they never got closure. No. 'Cause like now- And like they both, like, in their heart is, like, there. So, but you have Amanda consoling Ciara, saying, like, "You are my, like, you're my best friend. I'll never let anything happen to you," da, da- Yeah da, da, da. But the season that you're on, and something that happens at the table during one of those fights, is Amanda, and this is kinda like what caused, like, Paige to pull away from Amanda, is, um, she, like, holds Craig's hand underneath the table, like, during a- Oh like, something. Yeah. Amanda's... But Amanda, since season one, season two, Lindsay Hubbard has called her out. She's a snake. She's a snake. No one ever liked, like, no one has ever liked her. I like her. Oh, I can't stand Amanda. Okay, okay. Okay, but let me, let me- I think she's the worst. So- I think Kyle's a shit husband, because she's a shittier wife. I was gonna say, I like Kyle. I love Kyle, right? I love Kyle. I think relationship-wise, he's not great. Let's just- I think he's fully justified in how he reacts. But I think his extreme, like- Yeah he drinks too heavy- Oh, yeah and gets too volatile, anybody would get fed up with that- For sure as far as, like, that gets annoying as a wife, and you're trying to get him into bed, and you're trying to fight his- Yeah fights for him all the time. He's popping off at people, and you're trying to defend him, but you're still trying to be cool, like, talk about being in the middle. Nobody would... That gets old. And he did cheat on her. But whether it's kind of a friend, yeah, y- true. True. So- Like, whether, whether Amanda and Ciara are kinda friends, whatever, da, da, da, da, da, if you are going to console this friend over and over and over again, she admits to you that, like, this is the first man that she, like, finally fell for- Yeah in, like, this long, and then that's... And then, like, all the way up until, like, when this ends, and she goes, "Well, he gave me atten-," like, and I get it. She, like- Yeah she's starving for attention. Her husband is, like, not there, but you chose the only man, the o- like, not even Jesse Solomon. Jesse Solomon. I swear he's, like, secretly gay. I, I love him so. No, I do, too. But so that's another one of my points. Okay, Amanda and the Ciara thing, that might be true, right? Maybe she wasn't a girl's girl there or whatever. Like, this season so far, they're, they don't talk like that, so I haven't seen that yet. But yeah, she's more, like, best buddy with her or whatever. But there's, there's two things. Wes, I'm gonna say, I don't think is I don't think he owes anything to Sierra like everyone thinks he does, and here's why I will say why. Mm-hmm. Okay? Yes, she fell for him so deeply and this and that. I don't think he ever was the same about that. Yeah. And I think we've all been in a relationship before where we've been in either sides, where someone's falling for you heavily and you're kinda like, "Okay, push away." Yeah. "I thought this was casual." Or- Yeah you've been the one that someone pushed you away because you were too hot and heavy. So I actually agree with you. That part, I'm like, "Why is she..." She needs to stop acting like they dated for 10 years and all this- Totally agree. I, I don't like that energy, especially because if it were reversed, if Wes and her were dating like that and then Sierra was the one that decided, like, "Ooh, I don't like him that much," and she pushed him away, and then Wes was constantly like, "Mm, mm, mm, mm," like a little freaking, I'm sorry, a little baby petty about it. Yeah. Everyone would be like, "Dude, she's allowed to make that decision. She doesn't like you anymore." Yeah. "Leave her alone." Like, "You're obsessed." Yeah. That, if the roles were... I don't like the whole feminine- Yeah because it's her that, you know. And he's being so nice this season and not bringing girls home. Yeah. He's trying to do that. Meanwhile, she's flirting with Jesse, his best friend, right in front of him, but that's okay? But that's like- He got a little tear, he got, he got a little tear- He's starting to. Yeah. But I'm just saying, like, she's doing that. Yeah. I just, I don't like her pettiness, and I don't like her whole, like, "We were married. We were pretty much married." I- "He's the father of my kids, and he betrayed me." I agree. Like, chill out, girl. Got your heart broken. You got your heart broken. Yeah. You guys were all in a summer house. You were casually doing something. Yeah. You fell harder. He didn't. Let it go. Quit being so, like- To me, it's literally just an Amanda-Sierra thing. Like, especially- And maybe I'll get to that watching, watching this season, I think you'll have, I think you'll have a change of heart because they were like the three amigos. They did start to separate a little bit when Paige started seeing how snakey Amanda was around Craig. Okay. And, and then, but Sierra and Amanda, or I'm sorry, Sierra and Paige outside of this, like, since Paige came in the house, like, those two- Yeah like, outside of the house are like two peas in a pod. But, um, yeah. I will say one more thing. Not to defend Amanda, but we've all, I feel like she's been checked out from Kyle for a long time. Mm-hmm. I think when the cheating and different things happened, I think she just- Uh-huh I think we've all been in a relationship where we keep staying because we hope it gets better, but really you're, like, emotionally checked out, right? So then someone's there for you emotionally, and even though it's not the right person, you can't help- Sometimes you feel the way you feel, right? And you start, you're in a dark place in your marriage and you, and this person's giving you everything that you wish this person gave you, and sometimes you do. You, you fall for the wrong, the person that you shouldn't fall for. And I think we all need to remember, she also is a human being, not just a TV show person. I know that I have, um, fallen for a friend's ex before- Mm-hmm and been like, "Fuck." Like, I don't wanna do this. I don't wanna... That's the last person, but I have feelings for this person. Yeah. What do you do, you know? So that's the only part I wanna say in her defense. She has been checked out. She fell for someone that was giving her, I do think it was friendly at first. Like- Mm-hmm 'cause they all are very, I mean, look at the way Jesse comments on her thing. Yeah. Like- Literally "My eyes are bleeding, you're so hot." Yeah. Like, they spend the summers together. But, um, yeah, I don't know. That's just, I, I am not a... Even the way that Ciara's so petty on the internet still right now, I haven't even seen the current season, so I don't know, but it still just feels so high school-y to me. When she's like- Like, move on. Yeah. Move on. Yeah. When she's, like, saying, um, that- You're being obsessed he slept with that one, uh, housewife. Like, yeah, why? And now she's going after her. And she's married and has kids, and, um- Like, just stop it yeah. Like- So, so what do you guys think? Is Amanda the asshole? We're gonna ask on our story. We're gonna take a poll. Is Amanda the asshole? Is Amanda the asshole, and then the other poll question is Wes- Is Wes is Wes. I think that he's not. And I don't think that him and Kyle were ever really good friends either. Let me put that out there. Him and Jesse, yes, very good friends. Him and Kyle, did they drink together and stuff? Yes, but if you notice, they never have any conversation of any, um, substance or anything. Yeah. They drink because he's in the mix with Jesse. Um, but I don't know. That- that's my, that's my hot take. I think he got way too much heat. I think everyone shits on him, and I'm like, I, I kinda like him. He's just a goofball. Yeah. He just beats to his own drum, and did he end up falling for the wrong person when he was trying to be friendly to her? Yeah. But have we all done that? For sure. At some point probably, so we're gonna be asking you. Yes. And then I'm gonna come back after I'm caught up, and I will let you guys know if I still feel the same way. I will about Ciara. I just know she's just not my people. I love her. I freaking... She's just always so petty and laying in bed like this and, "Oh my God, there's Wes." And ugh. That's how Amanda talks. No. I know. No. You wanna know who I love the most? Who? Lindsay. I love Lindsay. Even pregnant, she's there and she's just- No, you know who I'm in love with this season? Jesse? Of course Lindsay still, but Carl. I always have loved Carl, even through- Love Carl. Yeah But I love how Carl is sober and he's still like, "Guys, wanna go out?" Yeah. "Wanna do..." 'Cause I'm thinking, if I'm the sober one in the house, I'm gonna be like, "No, I wanna go to bed." I can't believe I'm saying this, but I actually find him, in this newest season, so he does kind of like mesh with someone in the house who is, like, perfect for him. Sierra. No. But I actually find him hot this season. Mm. And I never thought I would say that. That's interesting. Yeah. I think he's the most mature one out of all of them. Mm-hmm. Yeah. So speaking of asshole- Speaking of- I'm gonna be reading some stories, and we are gonna put these on our story as well too, but I'm gonna be asking Court these stories from Reddit, am I the asshole? I have not read these. I only read the titles. So wro- you're, you're asking the wrong person. And we are going to read, read this together- Okay of Am I the Asshole? Am I the asshole? Again, I have not read these. Okay. Mm-kay. Um, actually, do I wanna do that one? Okay. Am I the asshole? My husband says I was bitching. I disagree. So the other day, and this is a long one. Okay? Okay. So the other day I was about to do some laundry. I opened the dryer to put damp clothes in the washer inside. Inside the dryer, there was a sweatshirt and a pair of sweatpants that were absolutely soaked, like someone had dunked them in water and shoved them in there. My husband was dozing off on the couch with the TV on, and I was listening to a podcast on my Bluetooth device and running around trying to get some chores done. So I was somewhat preoccupied and then suddenly very confused as to why there were two water-logged articles of clothing in the dryer. Was the dryer malfunctioning? Did these clothes get wet somehow and his kid threw them in the dryer with an attempt to dry them? The washer was full of damp clothes, but they weren't as wet as the ones in the dryer. So I asked loud enough to be heard over the TV, husband is also hard of hearing, why they, why there were s- soaking wet clothes in the dryer. My husband opened his eyes, explained that he needed to run a spin cycle on them. I said, "Okay, but that doesn't explain why there are sopping wet clothes in the dryer." He told me that he needed to put them in the dryer so he could run a spin cycle on the clothes. I still didn't understand, so I asked what happened to... Hang on. What happened to these... Wait. Uh, super wet clothes then. Why are they so wet? That's when he angrily got up, stormed over to me, and exasperatedly explained to me that he had overfilled the washer. He needed to take those two items out in order to run a spin cycle on the rest of the clothes, so he put them in the dryer in the meantime. Oh, okay. I finally understood. Then he told me I needed to run another spin cycle for the sweatshirt and the sweatpants to get the water out before putting them in the dryer with the rest of the clothes. This might be when... This might be where I'm the asshole because I asked him if he ever learned anything about overfilling the washer, and then he exploded on me saying, "The washer gets, the washer gets smaller and smaller every time." I said, "No, it doesn't. That doesn't make any sense." And he said, Yes, it does because last week those clothes all fit in there, and this week they don't." And I said, "I've, I've told you not to overfill the washer and dryer so many times. They're small and they don't work properly." don't work properly. Oh, if they're overfilled. He's been overfilling the washer and dryer for three years, and I've either been fixing it for him without saying anything by taking the dry clothes from the dryer and running it again on the still damp clothes, or reminding him that he can't put two pairs of big pants in at the same time, telling him not to pack the clothes in the washer, et cetera. So he started yelling at me that he knows not to overfill it, and that I didn't have to yell at him, and I shouldn't have to be woken, or he shouldn't have to be woken up by me yelling at him about the way that I did, and told me that I was bitching about the clothes in the dryer being wet. I disagreed that I was bitching, because I was confused and asking a simple question of why the clothes were in the dryer. Turned into a screaming match of him insisting that I was just angry and bitching for no reason, and I told him that I'm tired of assigning emotions and intent... I'm tired of him assigning emotions and intent to my word and actions. Neither of us want to apologize. I don't think I did anything, uh, I don't think I did anything warranting an apology. I think he should apologize for assuming that I was angry and yelling at him when I wasn't, and he thinks that I should apologize for waking him up angrily and yelling at him. He says we should a- just agree to disagree, but that just doesn't sit right with me. Am I the asshole? Nobody's the asshole. It sounds like a regular old husband and wife overstimulation like, you know, you just get in those petty fights where it's really like, this shouldn't be a fight, but I'm also not gonna back down, and then he's not gonna back down. It's like nobody... Uh. But I will say, if your husband's taking a nap, it's immediate... I get a- annoyed immediately. Because, because I don't take naps. I just... Yeah. No, Taylor takes a nap, um, every... Well, he's been not taking them as much, but he usually takes one every weekend, and then I feel like we're like, "Be quiet because he's napping." Oh, hell no. I'll tell River, "Go jump on Tyler. Go do this." I don't know what it is about someone napping that drives me crazy. It's like, fucking grow up. Oh, that was yours. I was, like, ignoring that call like it was my phone. Oh, okay. Sorry. It's fine. I just realized that. Um, no, I don't think she's asshole, and I don't think he's the asshole. I think it's a common, um, you took it one way. I- it could've been a simple conversation, but it's just that, you know, the butting heads of a husband and a wife. I also kind of think he's the asshole, though, because she's been telling him for years- Yeah to stop loading the washer, and it's expensive to, like, sit there and fix it- True and have someone come out and get this part, and what if they don't have it in? And then he- It, now he's splitting up a cycle to spin because there's so much water in there Okay, but I do that sometimes and then- Tyler's the one that comes in, he's like, "How much stuff did you..." It, the washer will be like, va-boom, va-boom, va-boom. And Tyler's like, "How much stuff do you put in there?" And I'm like, "I didn't put that much in there." Like, go away, go away, go away. I do that with towels, though, for sure. Or if you, like, have enough where it's like, I don't wanna put this in two loads. Let's just stuff it in. Yeah. So I'm an asshole as well. Okay. It happens. It happens. It happens. You can do no wrong. Um, okay. All right, next one. Here, I'm gonna... Next one. This one is not as long. Um, actually, I lied. Actually- It's, it's kinda long. Okay, you're in for another one. Am I the asshole for texting my ex's new girlfriend that he was still friends with benefits with me all the way until they made it official? Ooh. Yes. We have reached... Oh, that's the edit. Okay. I, 23 female, had a long, messy relationship with my ex, 26 male. We officially dated for a year and then stayed in an emotionally attached, friends with benefits situation for about two more years. We both still had feelings and, uh, even if we knew we weren't compatible long term. At the start of this year, I noticed him getting distant. Whenever I asked, he said nothing was wrong and that he was just busy. I attributed it to just being anxious and insecure, so I gave him his space. Later, he finally admitted that he had met someone new and he wanted to pursue them. I wish, I wished him all the best and rejected his offer to stay friends, as I didn't feel comfortable with that. Way to go. Edit. I wasn't actively trying to meet up with him, but we share a friend group and would eventually see each other at an event where he would be attempting to open up a conversation with me, uh, just to rebuild friendly connection. I didn't feel it was fair that he was still trying to talk to me, and I was butt hurt. And after an argument in which some uncanny details surfaced, I made the decision to contact his ex. Here is where, here's what we found out from texting. So, dude, she deep, she deep dived. Okay, so here's what she found out. He met her in mid-January through a dating app. Uh, by November, so we're going back a little bit. Sorry if this is, this is just what the poster wrote. Uh, by November, they had already gone on multiple dates and kissed and discussed being together. Meanwhile, I knew nothing about her. It's... Okay, we're done. By February... Okay, met her in January. By February, it's just reversed. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay, let's go back. Okay. He met her mid-January through a dating app. By February 11th, they'd already gone on multiple dates and kissed and discussed being together. Meanwhile, I knew nothing about her. On February 13th, he attended a formal event with me as my date, and we slept together multiple times over that weekend. This was planned for a few days, and we booked a room and everything. That same night, he was texting her flirtatiously. He continued flirting with me as well and acting emotionally attached until finally telling me about her on February 28th. He also downplayed our ongoing involvement to, to her, making it sound like our post-breakup friends with benefits ended long ago. They officially became official on March 19th, so technically he wasn't exclusive with either of us yet. And she handled it maturely, didn't consider it as a deal breaker yet, but both of us felt it wasn't right to be emotionally pursuing both women at the same time while h- hiding the full truth from each other. Part of me feels like she deserved the truth. I wanted, I wanted it too, but in retrospect I feel guilty as my goal wasn't to ruin it, but it messes with my healing that he's occasionally contacting me to check up on me when he's already committed to her. Edit, I see the red flag here now. My mistake for not blocking him fully instead of just going no contact. Am I the asshole for reaching out to his new girlfriend since I felt like he had unclosed doors with me for too long as he was still, as he was already seeing her seriously? No, you're not the asshole, because you would want someone to reach out to you if you knew, like, that things were overlapping, you know? Mm-hmm. Because, like, how are they gonna have this true and honest relationship if she didn't let her know and give her the option to know, you know, hey, he did this and this and this. Can you really trust him? If you're doing it out of, like, a petty because you want them to break up 'cause you want him back, then that's... Yeah. That's what I feel. I feel like she's the asshole. Okay. I feel like she's the asshole, because- I have to see a picture of her. If I saw her face, then I would know if she was, like- desperate and just, like, wanting them to break up so she could get him back. I feel like it wasn't, I fully think from reading this and knowing nothing about it, that she wasn't trying to be a girl's girl, that he was paying someone else attention, but like he... I mean, she said that, like, he was acting emotionally- Yeah available towards her. They got a room. She probably had her hopes up, and then she's like, "Wait, you don't want me after all of this?" Yeah. Like, I think she wanted to sabotage that. Sierra. He's just not that into you. I- Get over it, move on I think she's the asshole. Okay. What do you guys think? I think they're all assholes. All right. Am I the asshole for ruining my daughter-in-law's birth plan? I need some opinions on the situation. My son and daughter-in-law are staying with me at, at the moment. Their house is being fixed due, due to a flooding issue that happened about a week ago. A fire hydrant broke and flooded their, uh, flooded the houses near it. Due to this, their home needs some floors re- replaced, and it's not safe for them to be there while contractors deal with the damage. My daughter-in-law is supposed to give birth to her first kid... I hate... I don't know, that just... First child. First kid. Her first kid, uh, at the beginning of next month, and their home will not be fixed in time. They have been staying with me and set up a little nursery in the guest bedroom. My home is not big. I downsized years ago, so I lived, I live in a two-bedroom, one-bath home. I learned this weekend that she was planning on having a water home birth and a midwife during it. Ichka. I thought she was going to the hospital, but apparently that's not the plan. She plans to have the kid in basically a blown-up pool that goes inside the house. Hmm. The only two places it will fit are the living room or if I move my bed in the master bedroom. I thought about it, and I'm not comfortable with that happening in my home. Uh, I told her this today, and she was pissed. We got into an argument, and she's mad that I ruined her birth plan. My son wants me to apologize and have it here. Again, I'm against it. I don't want her giving birth in my living room. Am I the asshole? No, you're not the asshole. You didn't ruin her birth plan. She ruined her birth plan. Y- you don't go into someone else's house and say, "Hey, I wanna have a really serious procedure of pushing a baby out of my cooter in your living room. Please rearrange your house so I can do that." No, go back into your flooded house. Go to a hospital Oh, this is so tough. I don't, I- A birth plan is, like, such, like, a... Like, if you want to have a home birth, I feel like you are just, like, prepping and, like- Go write that down like, there, there's so much that goes into it. But you can't put that on someone else. You can't- Yeah spring it on them. When you moved in with her, you should have said, "Hey, I'm gonna be here for the foreseeable future, and here's my birth plan. This is what I plan on doing. Do you think that you can accommodate that?" Yeah. Yeah, that's true. I mean, I guess it also depends on the relationship, like, with the daughter-in-law, too. Like, if, if you guys, like, aren't- Yeah super close. Yeah. You know? But, like, if you have, like, a best friendship, you know, with your mother-in-law. But I don't know that I'd be comfortable, like, if my sister was like, "Hey, I'm gonna do a home birth at your house." I'd be like- Okay, yeah no, I don't, I don't... Like, you- Yeah feel responsible for that medical situation, and it's like if it goes awry, then it's like, no, no, no. Yeah. I don't, I don't want that under my roof. But also, too- It's like- I feel like a big piece of doing a home birth is, like, being in the comfort of your home. Yeah. So- I wouldn't wanna just do it in some random house in the Chinese little- Just 'cause it's a house? No. Here's a house. Like, go get a nice hotel or something- Yeah if you wanna do that. Like- Yeah no. Actually, yeah. The more that I think about it- Hey, I'm coming over. I'm gonna also pop a pool in your living room and push this baby out- And have a baby. Yeah. Yeah. And if it goes badly, you're here and you're- Yeah now you're kind of responsible for the situation. Valid. Yeah. Like, it's like, um, like, my home insurance doesn't cover that, sorry. Okay. I have not read this one. Um, am I the asshole for telling my friend that his weight ruined my vacation? Oh. Yikes. Okay. The end. Um, the end. What, what, what do you guys think? Yeah, what else do you say? I, 21 female, am currently on vacation with my friends. Apple, 20- Okay. The end. Apple. No, I think she, I think these are nicknames. Okay, I hope. Apple, 21 female, Banana, 22 female, Clementine, 21 male, and Durian. Durian? Is that a- Is that a fruit? What's a durian? Hang on. We gotta look up what a durian is. My brother-in-law's name is Darien. No, this is Dur- Durian. Durian. Oh, it is a fruit. It's- No way that's an ug- okay. It's spiky, it's weird, it looks like a croissant- We're gonna get a durian on the inside. Okay, we gotta try a durian- Okay by next episode. I don't even know if they have them here. Durian, 22 male, "Last year we decided to book our first proper friend group trip after having known each other for three years. We booked a month-long trip to Southeast Asia." Okay. What? Month-long, Southeast Asia. What are you doing? What is... What... Are you guys trust fund kids? Like, no. Oh my gosh. Not good. "My friend Durian has been str- struggling with his weight for the past couple of years. Two years ago he confided in us that he struggles with binge eating and low self-esteem due to the way that he looks. We've been trying to help him in several ways, but he never accepts any of the help and avoids the topic altogether. He brings it up just to bitch, but don't say anything." Okay. Don't tell me I'm fat. Don't tell me anything. "If you bring up the topic, he just changes the subject and he will try his best to seek help, but doesn't end up taking any action. We have thus decided we won't talk to him about it anymore unless he brings it up himself, because Durian told us we are putting too much pressure on him, which worsens his mental health." I'm already siding with these people- Oh because he sounds exhausting. Durian is- Durian dummy. "One year ago we booked our trip. Durian announced that he would be going on a proper weight loss journey. We were kinda skeptical because he hadn't worked on his mental health, so we didn't believe his weight loss would be possible without fixing the cause first, but we still decided to support him the best that we could. His goal was to go from..." Okay, these guys are definitely in another country. 18 stone to 14 stone. Oh, no. What is going on? They're, like, Australian. What is 18... Hang on Or French. What is- 18 stone? 18 stone. Okay, 18 stone is equal to 252 pounds. To 14 stone? To 14- Which would be half stone. No. 196. So he wanna lose, like, 50 pounds. Okay. Wait. What was the original one? 250-something. Okay, yeah. So he wants to get down under 200 pounds. Okay. So, um- Where did I go? Okay. I myself am not the fittest, so I told him that we should start training together. For about a month, he showed up to our training sessions and then just stopped coming. He always had an excuse of why he wouldn't come. We tried asking him how he was doing with the weight loss, but he would always answer saying it's a private matter, and talking about it would make him uncomfortable. One month before we left for our holiday, he told us he had gained almost two stones during the year. Okay, I don't know how many two stones is, but I think it's a lot. I think it's a lot. Um, as the trip came closer, I started to get annoyed by his behavior. Just now? Yeah. This, this is what took the turn, the two stones? Two stones. He continuously complains a- about seating, people giving him looks, which I haven't ever noticed, walking, not wanting to go sightseeing, and that he doesn't have clothes. I don't mind him not participating in certain plans, but the constant nagging is ruining my mood. My last straw was at the water park. The whole ride to the park, he just kept saying how insecure he is about his body, and that he can't handle going into a place where people will be looking at him. Then he refused to, to enter the park, made a whole scene at the entrance, and I just told him that he doesn't have to go if he doesn't want to, but don't ruin my vacation with your weight problems, and that he should have thought about this before coming here. After I said he... After I said this, he went back to the Airbnb. Hang on. With Banana? Uh, with Banana. Apple and Clementine are on my side, uh, saying that he brought me to my breaking point, and that he should apologize for his behavior. But Banana thinks I was too harsh and should have thought about his mental health. I haven't talked to him in two days, and we still have three weeks left of our trip. Am I the asshole? No, no, no. Fucking Durian's the asshole. Dude, Durian, I... Your, your issues are, like, uh, not my problem. You know what? Your issues should not involve you going on a month-long trip to North Asia or South Asia, West Asia, down Asia, up Asia. I don't care. You shouldn't be going. You need to stay home and prioritize your mental health. Quit bringing everyone else down with it if you don't wanna do anything about it. Yes. No, no. Like, no. No, no, no. Uh- He's the problem. not, that's not anyone else's- Problem. No It's not. And, like, that's not... For you to, like, want everyone to, like, coddle you- No and care for you, and, like, to an extent, yes, but, like, if you're always the victim, I can't. No, I hate that energy. You can just say, "Hey, guys. I'm not gonna go to the water park. Have fun." Mm. Why don't you just do that? That's not a problem. They don't have a problem with your weight, they have a problem with the way that you're putting it on everyone else, but you don't wanna do anything about it. And it's, like, seeking attention, like, making a big thing at the entrance. Exactly what you said, like, "Hey, guys. I'm not super comfortable with that, so I'm gonna hang back." I'll go back. Yeah. Like, but just don't come. If you're not in the right mental space, then don't come and ruin everyone el- no. But he, like, wants everyone to go, "It's okay." Yeah. "It's okay. Come here. Let me feed you a burger." No. No. No. No. No. Not the asshole. Not the asshole. Not the asshole. Not the asshole. Not the asshole. Crazy. For moving. It's freaking crazy, actually. What I'm learning is a lot of people are not the asshole, other people are. Yeah. Okay. Uh, do you guys have any situations where you feel like you might've been the asshole? Um- I do. Share them. I can't believe I'm gonna say this. Okay, share it. I wanna know. Okay. I'll frame it like this. Am I the asshole for telling my daughter and agreeing with her when she said, "I'm not good at anything"? And you said, "No, you're not." Yeah, I did. Yeah. Yeah. And here is, here's my story. Here's why. So, so me, 33-year-old female, daughter eight years old. Uh, so- How many stones? How many stones is she? Okay. So let's go back to I also don't play with the victim mentality, and my daughter, one thing, one hurdle that we are jumping through right now is she, as soon as anything gets hard, she shuts down. Yeah. She doesn't wanna push through it. And it's not like, "Oh, just push her to keep going." Like, no, it's, like, at the point where we're at gymnastics, they are finally, like, going into, like, more flips, and she, like, cries and says, "I hate going." Wow. And it just, it becomes, like, a terrible thing- Yeah because she doesn't wanna learn anything that sh- is new to her. Yeah. And we get to this point with every sport, and it's like, as soon as she's like, "Okay, well, like, I've never done that, so I'm bad at it and I can't do it." She wants to walk into everything already being a champ at it. Yeah. And you're never gonna get there if you don't practice. So- This has been a reoccurring thing, reoccurring thing, and so we were talking about our new homeschool journey and her trying out these new activities. And she's like, "Well, like, I can't do that 'cause I'm not good at it. Um, I, I can't... I, no, 'cause I'm not good at it." And I'm like, "You're gonna start basketball, and they're gonna teach you to dribble, and then walk and dribble, and then do this, and then do that. You don't have to walk in knowing what to do." No, you gotta learn. She was like, "Well, I'm, I'm not, I'm not good at that. I'm not good at anything." And I was like, "You're right. You're not. You are not good at anything, and it's because you don't let yourself be good- Yeah at anything because you don't wanna learn and take the steps toward being good at anything." I'm like, "I think you can be amazing at a lot of things. You're very smart. You pick things up. You are like... You come in, you come in with a great attitude and- Yeah ready to learn, but then you pull yourself back as soon as it gets scary." And I should do a better job about pushing her, but in that moment, I had to say, "No." Like, bec- because I'm not... I'm also, like, not gonna sugarcoat it. Yeah. Like, you are- Tough love is necessary sometimes yeah, like you're quitting. Yeah. And, like, it's not that I'm saying she can never be good at anything, but it's, like, you aren't letting yourself be good at anything yet. Yeah. So I did feel like an asshole saying, "You, yeah, you're right," but it led to a great conversation, so I was, I... Am I the asshole for saying that? No, you're not the asshole. That's a good parent way. You gotta, sometimes you gotta reverse, uh, psychology. Like, yeah, you're right. You're not good at anything because you don't allow yourself to be, so I guess- Mm-hmm you'll just never be good at anything. You know kids. Mm. It's like they want you to, you know, feed into what they say, and if you don't, then suddenly it's like, "Wait, I am. I can be." Yeah. You know? Like, they need a challenge. Yeah. They're just... That's how their little, little brains operate. Yeah. So no, you're not the asshole. Well, and she is, and she knows she is. Like, she's... You know, like, with gymnastics, I'm like, "Yeah, you're great at cartwheels, and roundoffs, and backbend kickovers, and all of that." Yeah. "But, like, are you the best? No, because you quit." Yeah. You quit. Could you be? Yeah. For sure. Yeah. So I mean, I can be an asshole. I, I like to make fun of my kid. Poor River. He's three and a half, but I like to mock him. Yeah. Like, when he says something, I'm like, "Yeah, that's how we do it." Like, you know? Poor River. But like I tell Tyler, like, he's my kid. Yeah. I can do that. Yeah. He's my possession. Yes. Those are our babies. And you know what? Is he's at the age, too, where, like, sometimes he'll be like, "Hey," but other times he's like, "He he he," you know? Like, and then it's funnier. Yeah, he's just so cute and silly. He's so cute. But now he'll be like, "Mommy, that's not nice. You don't talk to people like that." And I'm like, damn it. Put you in your place. I was having fun with him. Yeah. But you gotta teach them, too. Yeah. They gotta, they gotta get strong. They do. 'Cause they gotta have thick skin out in this world. Tell you what. Tell you what. Well, and it's, like, so important, too, to, like, to... I don't know. Mila was, like, very sensitive to what people would say to her- Yeah for a little while. But then now, dude, she can put you in your place. She's like, "Uh, no. I don't tolerate that. Goodbye." Like- I posted... Well, no, I didn't post it. I was gonna post it on my story. It was like... It, it had a picture of the girl when she was young, and then a picture of her like an old lady- Mm-hmm next to it, and it was like a series of slides. And the first one was like, "Ew, don't post that of me. I look gross." Mm. And then the old lady says, "I wish I would've taken more pictures." Mm. And it was just a series of that. Yeah. Like, "Oh, I hate my body," and then the old lady one said, like, "I wish I would've appreciated my body when it was still able- Yeah and young." And, and I'm like, "I think that's, like, um..." I don't know. It just hit me because I'm like all the things that we, like, are hard on ourselves about now- Mm-hmm later on in life we're gonna be like, "Oh, come on." Yeah. Like, "Why, why was I like that? Why did I care so much? Why did I..." You know. I feel that way about, like, swimsuits now. I'm like, I lo- like, looking at last summer, I never got in the pool with my kid. Yeah. And I'm like, I don't... She doesn't care. No. Also, no one else cares. She doesn't care about... Yeah. I've never, like, looked at someone... I mean, unless it's like, dude, like- You gotta know that you shouldn't butt cheeks out. Like- Side note, yeah. We were in- I can see a vagina lip. I don't... Like, then I'm just gonna say, like, "Oh." We were driving home yesterday, um, last night, and, like, our neighbor on the end of the street... Hopefully, God, they don't listen. Um, she was out washing the car in this bathing suit that was the same color as her skin. Yeah. So mind you, I panned, like, I thought she was naked. Yeah. But it was a full thong, and she was bent over. I thought I was gonna give her a colonoscopy. I swear, it was like- What? Tyler was like, "Oh, my gosh." And I'm like, "I literally thought she was naked. I had to pan back." But then I also was like, "Why? Why are you doing that in your front yard?" Like- Oh, my gosh. Wait, was it- Like, thong was it my old neighbor? No, no, no, no. It was, like, this younger... When I say younger, like our age. Okay. Like, our age people. Yeah. But I was just like, "Why is she...?" And then she was trying to do, like, like, the sexy commercial wash, you know? Wait. Where- Wait, wait. Was she... Is it possible that she doesn't live there, like, she was hired? Guys, like, hire people. Oh, I don't know. Well, that guy that lives there... Okay, well, I will say this. The guy that lives there, that is not his wife. But I was like, "Okay, now, yeah." Things are, things are getting, things are getting different. I was just so focused on the fact that her freaking butthole was out, and now I'm like, "Wait, that wasn't his wife." And it was cleaning his, uh, truck. She had to get on, like, a little ladder or whatever. Oh, my gosh. I think you uncovered something. I think I might've just cracked a whole freaking- Cheating scandal. Remember the show Cheaters? Yeah. My brother-in-law used to be so obsessed with that show. He would get so drunk, and we would watch it- Yeah and he just got the biggest kick out of it, you know? I'm so invested in this. Yeah. So I don't know. I guess I gotta drive past later today and figure out- Hopefully your husband pulls out. That's the only thing that you're gonna be able to reckon. And I'm telling you, it was like a nude bathing suit, so it looked like skin color. Like, I legit thought at first, like, "Oh my God, she's naked." He definitely hired her. Yeah, what the hell? Okay. Yeah, he is kinda weird. 'Cause side note, side note on top of a side note- Oh my God this guy on the end of the street, we had my whole family over once, and my mom and my sister and my brother-in-law and nephew and my dad were leaving, and they called and were like, "Oh my God, there's a fight." Like, okay, I live in a freaking nice neighborhood. Yeah. I re- like, it's nice. And they're like, "There's a fight, um, in front of your house or whatever." And they said it was the neighbors like diagonal from us and then the neighbors on the end of the street. I've saved it to drafts. Oh, okay. I'll add it later. Yeah. The neighbors diagonal from you, um, which is, like, an older Mexican couple, and like their, like their grandkids, like, are always there- Yeah which I think they're in their 20s, you know? And the guy on the end who has the kids. And they're like, um... It was crazy. They were going at it, and then the guy on the end they said went and got his gun. So this house that I'm talking about. Yeah. And he has little kids, like a four-year-old, a six-year-old, an 11-year-old, and like a one-year-old. And- Dude, this guy's nasty so we ran into him at the park once recently, like a couple months ago. And my husband's very much into trying to meet people at the park recently, like other dads. Yeah. Like, "Oh, let's be cool with people," you know? And this one we just couldn't... He just had that cocky energy, and he's a little guy, you know? Oh. He's just a little guy, and he just had that cocky energy like, "Yeah, go down, yeah, go down that thing, son. Yeah, yeah." And then Tyler would just try to make conversation with him like, "Yeah, how old are your kids?" And he's like, "You know, they're, they're at that age where they're just fucking crazy. That age. You know that age?" Oh, God. And Tyler's just like, "This guy's a grade A douchebag." Yeah. You know? And so then to know like, yeah, so I could totally see him like having little man syndrome and hiring some freaking bikini car wash girl- 'cause the wife seemed like sweet but like reserved. Yeah. Maybe he's beating her. I don't know. We're uncovering too much for- This is so... I love this. But he pulled a gun on my neighbor's grandkids. Unreal. Because they drove up into the driveway with their music too loud. That's what the argument was over. Unreal. On a Saturday. I wanna see this guy He's- I'm gonna find a picture of him on Facebook, 'cause I, I found his Facebook. Yeah. And, uh- Please do I'll send it to you, 'cause he's just is a little weasely little weasel. What time was this at? It's like car wash. Uh, we came home from my in-laws yesterday at like 5:30. Where was his wife? Probably taking care of their 500 kids, or locked up in their frigging undercover basement. Well, he had... I mean, maybe it was her. No, no, no, no, no. She's a heavier set- Oh. Yeah. No, it 100% was not her. No. This was, like, a young- This is so- This is weird oh, my G- It's really weird. So yeah, that's- Okay that's that. But also, okay, here's something contro- it's not controversial, but today when Tyler gets off work, Tyler and I have been together for going on 12 years. We are going to go put our money together finally, a joint account, which we would've wished to do a long time ago. But my job, I'm in the cannabis industry. My parents own dispensaries, and I work for them. And so for our loan or refinancing, my money is not accepted federally. Mm. So we couldn't combine our money, because then it, like, tainted his money and made his money bad money, whatever. It's stupid. But it made me, um, start to think, what is everyone's, like, financial thing when you're married? Does everyone, if you're married, do you guys automatically put your money together? Do all of you have separate accounts and still do the whole, "We're splitting this, I'm splitting this"? Do you have an account, and then you have an account together? Like, what is everyone's... It just made me think. Like- Yeah what does everyone do? I just assume that people get married, and they just put their money together, or they've been together a long time, and they put their money together. And then I thought, well, my situation's unique because of where my money comes from. But for normal people- Mm-hmm do you get married, and you put your money together? That's like a traditional thing. Or no, is, or, or are we still living where everything's separate? I'm gonna ask that on our story. Do it. And- We've never combined our money. I, Taylor and I are totally separate. So do you guys finally- I have no idea. I don't even know how much money is in his accounts. See? So, like, do you go like, "Oh- We, we split this, we split this, we split this Um- Or how does, how does that work? Ki- um, I mean, it's not... We definitely aren't like, oh, like, we go out to eat, and like, "Pay me half." Yeah. Um, like, he d- he makes significantly more than I do. Yeah. Um, so I... Like, there's just certain things, like if, like, the... Like, if we need, like, a new washer, it's like he just gets it. Yeah. You know? Like, or like if we... If there's, like, a larger expense, like, he... I don't know, he just, like- Yeah naturally handles those things. But what we do is he pays the mortgage. Our mortgage is very low, though. Um, so it's not like... Like, we wouldn't even think twice about splitting that because, like, we got a wonderful deal on our home. 'Cause what's your interest rate? Oh, it's also very low. I don't even know. But it, the house is, is in his name, so. I have a 6.9 interest rate, just for everyone to feel bad for me. Please feel bad. Yeah, ours are, ours is f- much lower than that. Yay. Um, and then, but like I do all the groceries. I pay for, like, our internet, our- Yeah all the, like, whatever, you know. But groceries I spend a lot of money on, so. Yeah. Well, think about it this way. What if you're like, so you said, "I don't even know what's in his account." Not him specifically, but, like, you're in a relationship, you're married, and then, like, you don't know how much money this person has, and you're like, "Oh, they, they make a lot of money, so they got a good..." And then you go to combine your money, and they're like, "Oh, I put us in this much debt," or this or that, and you'd be like, "What the fuck?" I think it is different for married people, though. I have no ties to Taylor. Yeah, he's technically- Like, we are not, we are not legally- But are you in the- No in the state of Arizona- No after a certain amount of years? No. That's not a thing? No. Common law is not a thing in Arizona, so, like, if, if- Is that a California thing? Yeah. If he got himself, like, into crazy debt, it would not be my problem. Same thing if I got myself into debt, it would not be his problem. Interesting. Yeah. And we definitely, like, we're... Yeah, like, and I don't question... Like, if he goes out and he buys a boat, I'm like, "You work for your money. That's fine." Yeah. Like, go do whatever. Same thing with me. Like, he doesn't question my daily coffee 'cause it's like, you- Leave me alone you work for your money. Do whatever you want. Well, and so I told Tyler, I'm like, "Okay, we're combining our money." Um, which my husband, he's the type that, like, I'll see something on TV and I'm like, "Oh my God, that's so cool." And then, like, two days later, it shows up. Yeah. Like, he gets me anything I want. He's not like, "Oh," you know. But he's also very frugal with his money- Mm on spending on himself. But I'm like, "If we're combining our money, I don't wanna hear it. If I'm going to Target, if I'm going to coffee, these are my things. Don't try to..." He's like, "I'm not gonna do that." But it will be interesting to see all of our money together- Yeah because we both, um, have saved a lot of money. I do know that. Like, we have worked really hard to, like- No more DoorDash. I stopped DoorDashing. I can't even tell you. It's been months. Huge thing for me. Yeah? That was like, um, I needed to go to, like, DoorDash Anonymous or something. Right. It was bad. But no, I... Yeah. Maybe I'll DoorDash tonight just for the fuck of it. A little relapse. Just, just a little relapse every once in a while. Just a little. Just a little relapse. That's not bad. But, um- No, I'm- Yeah yeah, we'll ask that on our story, too, 'cause I'm curious. Yeah. I know definitely people s- give me a side eye when I'm like- Yeah "Me too." It, it's... I'm also gonna ask on a story, we're gonna have a lot of stories, but I'm gonna ask, um, like, shows that are slept on. Okay? I've, 'cause I was talking to my aunt the other day, I went and had coffee at her house. Did anybody watch Last Kingdom? It's, like, set back in the day with Uhtred. It's about kingdoms and- I don't like those shows. Okay, I thought I didn't, but I was so obsessed with it. So I told my aunt, I was like, "It's like Game of Thrones, it's addicting." And she's like, "Well, I haven't seen Game of Thrones." I'm like- I've never seen that either "What?" Well, she's on medical leave right now. She's a nurse, and, um, she got, her back got hurt. So she's so bored. She's got off until, like, July 11th. She's used to working, like, crazy hours. So now she's just sitting at home, and she's like, she texted me yesterday and was like, "I started Game of Thrones. I'll see you in, um, July because I'm hooked already." Yep. And I'm like, see, I need those shows. I c- I haven't been able to find a show lately where I just don't even think to look at my phone, and I stay up late. Like, I just can't stop watching it. Yeah. I want one of those. Like- I, I- I want one so bad I, I envy you for being able to, to watch those because I just ultimately go right back to my tried and trues. That's what I do, but I'm like, "Okay, I gotta..." Because think about it, it's Friday night, right? When you have kids, it doesn't really matter. But I'm like, "I wanna stay up late tonight, maybe DoorDash, um, hit my pen, and just zone out on a show and turn my brain off." Yeah. But I find that I'm watching 'em, and then I'm getting on my phone, and I'm scroll- Yeah I don't wanna do that. I don't want, I don't need double entertainment. Find me something that's so entertaining that I don't feel like I need a second source of entertainment. I wanna re-watch New Girl. Oh, I- I turned that on last night. I love that show so much. I was watching Sheriff. I've been switching between, like, Summer House and Sheriff Country. Which Sheriff Country isn't even that good, but it's just different little, like, police situations. It's a drama. Oh, okay. It's a spinoff from Fire Country. Yeah. But, um- And Summer House I do, I get very into it So into it But sometimes I'm like, "I don't wanna watch reality TV right now. I wanna watch, like, a really suspenseful-" Yeah drama. You know, we were bummed, and sorry guys, we're going over. We, we said that we wanted to hang out with you. So one that we put on, they said it was supposed to be, like, a spinoff of, of, uh, Yellowstone, and it's called Marshals Marshals And it's garbage. The acting is some of the worst acting I've ever seen in my life. Okay. Like, they stand there, I'm like, I It's like, "And scene. And line." And I'm so mad- It's terrible because I loved Casey on Yellowstone. Like, I, I was obsessed with Yellowstone. I kept watching. I got to episode 10 of Marshals and I'm like, "Okay, I wanna like it so bad," and I was telling my mom, I'm like, "It's just flat to me." Does it feel like- Very flat they're, like, waiting for the next line? Like, I don't know, it doesn't feel real. But what's today? Because the Rip and Beth one comes out It does today. Mm. Is it today? Is it the 15th or the 17th? I don't know. They've been doing a lot of press for it, so I don't know. And then it's probably, and that's what I'm worried about too, 'cause I, Rip and Beth are my favorite characters. Yeah. But now I'm like, "Oh, is it gonna be like this one where- Yeah you want it to be so good and it's, just doesn't hit?" Yeah. I, I watched one episode. Taylor, Tay- he does the same thing as you. He watches every episode- Yeah waiting for it to, like, get good, and, like, just because it's, like, a show and he loved Yellowstone. Yeah. I haven't watched it since then. I watched one episode and I was like, "This is trash." I'll probably go back and watch Sons of Anarchy, just 'cause- So good it's just tried and true, and you just know that it's good. And then you still cry every time- Yeah Obi dies. Oh my God. Yeah. Like, you wanna go through the screen. Ugh, 'cause I've already watched Sons of Anarchy twice, but I'm like, "I could totally watch it again." Sometimes you just gotta go back to the old- I agree good stuff. I agree. So we will be asking that. Lot of s- lot of questions on the stories, and we need you guys to answer. It's very- Please it's very important. And we hope that you guys like this, like, new layout of just It, it's gonna be more like- Chit-chat chit-chat, mindless, like, interactive, you know? Like- Yeah and, and we'll dive into the fun stuff. We will, we'll bring Moms After Dark back, um, again and And we actually do have, um, I have, like, three different guests ready to go, but they're ready for June. Okay. So, and one of them is a, is a guy. Yay. He's a dad, but used to be party radio guy. He used to be a radio host. So he's gonna be really fun. He was in our wedding. It's my, it's one of my husband's best friends. But I'm excited to have a male- I haven't seen him since high school Oh, he's the best. Yeah. I'm excited to have a male, um- Yeah on, because I think you guys will get a kick out of him, so. Yay. But yeah, we love you. Have a good freaking weekend, week. Oh, well, what'll it be? It'll be week. You, you guys- Have a great week will have a good week by the time we talk, but love you. We love you guys. Bye.