EP 16 Girl, Get Your Life – A Solo Journey to Power, Healing & Purpose

In this episode, Allyson Collins dives deep into her book Girl, Get Your Life, unpacking the real-life experiences, lessons, and truths behind reclaiming your power. This is a transparent, empowering conversation about breaking toxic cycles, setting boundaries, and choosing yourself—unapologetically.

Transcript

SPEAKER_01 0:01

Welcome to Page to Pulse. I'm your host, Allison Collins. On today's episode, we're going to be talking about my book Girl Get Your Life. And let me be clear, this isn't just a catchy title. This is a command, a wake up call, a moment of truth. This episode is for the woman who feels stuck. The woman who keeps choosing the same cycles. Stand up or start over. If that's you stay with me for this episode, I wrote this book to empower women to remain steadfast in their plans and their goals. So what does exact what exactly does get your life mean? Let's start here because it's not about perfection. It's not about having everything together. Giving your life means taking responsibility for your choices, recognizing what's no longer serving you, whether it's a relationship with a family member, a friend, or romantic partner, and making the conscious decision to choose better even when it's uncomfortable. Stop replaying the past and say enough is enough. Let's talk about cycles. After relationship, after relationship, if you keep feeling drained, disrespected, overlooked, and that can be an employment situation. You're feeling drained every time you leave work, being disrespected, overlooked for promotion. Maybe you felt that way. Not because we don't know better, but because we're afraid to do better. Why is that? Because of fear. Starting over a toxic relationship with someone that is verbally abusive, physically abusive, emotionally abusive, not finding better. You think that this is the norm to be in a relationship with someone who disrespects you? Who doesn't reciprocate what you offer, what you do as a friend? Who doesn't reciprocate the emotional feelings? But let me tell you something. Seeing a situation that breaks you will cost you more than starting over ever will. It requires honesty. You need to be honest with yourself. Do you deserve to be treated like that? Are you the one that's allowing this to happen? And why are you allowing this to happen? Have you ever been in a relationship whether it's a romantic relationship or had a relationship with a family member or a friend that went sour, and then all of a sudden that person just cut you off, and no explanation given, and never even communicated the reason why disgusted you completely. When you accept less, you tolerate disrespect, you overexplain, overgi, and overstay. But when you know your worth, everything changes, and that's where boundaries come in. Boundaries are not walls, they're standards. You should when you say no to someone that doesn't require an explanation. If someone wants you to be at request your presence, and you have other plans, or they request that you give them something or are um need something from you. Taken and taken till they completely drain you, and this is when you allow that to happen, this is when you basically just lose control. You don't have control of yourself. Healing is not pretty, and let's be real, is not a cute Instagram quote, is very messy, it's very uncomfortable and emotional because it requires you to face things you have been avoiding. Maybe you need to have a conversation with someone who's hurt you and address certain situations about how that person disrespected you, but you've been avoiding that conversation.

SPEAKER_00 21:57

And it requires you to.

SPEAKER_01 22:00

Let go of who you thought people were. Yeah, you may have thought the person that you known for decades was your best friend. But you find out differently. Or you thought the person that was your love interest was not ideal for you. And so that you have to learn to just let it go. Let go of people. And sometimes healing means grieving people who are still alive. You may have grieved over a relationship. You may have grieved over a friendship. A relationship, a romantic relationship, or a family relationship that has gone sour healing. Alrequires accountability. Now you have to ask yourself what role did I play? What did I ignore? Why did I stay in that relationship? Um, you know, I was having a conversation with my sister, and we were talking about how we talked about friendships and we talked about family and how when you have sisters, and even though you may have friends, but you draw as sisters, the older you get you draw closer together, and I see that in my family with my mom and her siblings, how they do a little bit more things together as they've gotten older. But the thing is, even if you have uh as you're going through the healing stage and you're grieving the loss of friendships or family members, you can't blame yourself. You have to learn to grow from that and not stay stagnant in that situation because if you don't learn the lesson, you repeat the cycle. So you have to learn to choose yourself, and as I've gotten older, and now that I'm in my fifties, I feel myself being more confident as I am getting older and more assertive and my nose me no, and I don't have a tolerance now for anyone who disrespect me. I don't have a tolerance for anyone who doesn't reciprocate what I offered in terms of love my time. I just learned to move forward and not dwell on the past anymore. And so you may grieve a loss of a friendship or family member or relationship, but you have to learn as you especially as you get older to move forward and not go to not go back and have a pity party. So at some point you just have to choose yourself, not halfway, not when it's convenient, but fully. Choosing yourself means walking away from what hurts, even if you love it, letting go of validation from others, and that's really important because you don't want to feel for you you don't have to be validated by anyone at all. You have to choose yourself by prioritizing your peace over people pleasing, and I'm not the I've never been a people pleaser for one, but I've always especially as I've gotten older prioritizing my peace, and I don't I don't deal with people who are high drama. I don't deal with those type of individuals. I like a peaceful life, and that's the life that I live, and I stay away from those who are drama individuals, dramatic individuals. I don't have time for that. So each day it means waking up and saying I deserve a healthy life, I deserve respect, I deserve peace, and then aligning your actions with that belief. See that's very important, and that's very important to me, and it should be very important to you that you align your actions with that belief because it's not enough to say it, you actually have to live it. So, what does it look like to have your life? What does it look like to finally get your life?

SPEAKER_00 32:49

Well, it looks like peace over chaos clarity over confusion, confidence over insecurity.

SPEAKER_01 33:23

It looks like making decisions without fear. Once you experience that level of peace, you will never go back now if you take nothing else from this episode. Take this, you are not stuck, you are not powerless.

SPEAKER_00 34:57

Buddha starts with you.

SPEAKER_01 35:23

So, girl, get your life. Thank you for tuning into Page to Pulse. If this episode spoke to you, share with someone who needs it. And remember, protect your peace, know your worth, and never be afraid to choose yourself. This has been Allison Collins with Paige Pulse until next time.