What the hell am I even doing?! Solo bonus episode.

This is a little bonus episode… just Brittney, no script, no plan—just real.

If you’ve ever found yourself doing everything… showing up, handling life, being a mom, working, trying to build something… and still sitting there thinking what the hell am I even doing?— this one’s for you.

Because the truth is, you can be doing your best… genuinely trying… showing up every single day… and still question if it’s enough.

And that doesn’t mean you’re failing.
Sometimes it just means you’re carrying a lot.

In this episode, I’m talking about:

• The pressure of trying to be everything to everyone
• That constant feeling of “too much vs not enough”
• The mental load no one really talks about
• And why doing your best can still feel like it’s falling short

If you’re in that space right now… you’re not the only one.

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Transcript

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Tell me your question without telling me a question. I'm not crossing. I'm processing aggressively. You can say what you're feeling. This is a little unhealthy podcast with everyone. Good morning, good evening, good night, whatever time it is that you're listening to this. And yes, it's just me today. Um this is a little solo bonus episode. Um just me. I'm a little bit nervous. Um, I'm actually really nervous, honestly, to be um by myself. Um, but this um honestly might be the one that somebody needs to hear. So I just um had some things that were just weighing on me and literally just um we um started uh typing them out and um drove um down here to mom's and wanted to get on here for a minute and talk to y'all. Um just be real, uh you know, not polished, not funny um that y'all are used to. Um you know, nothing tied up in a bow. Just be real for a minute. Um because I know that um it can't be just me. But um anyways, uh lately I've just been in that space where it's like you're doing everything, you're showing up, you're handling life, you're being a mom, you're working, you're trying to build something, and you just hit a point where you're like, what the hell am I doing? Um and I don't mean that in a quitting way, I don't mean that in an I'm giving up way, um, or any of that. Um I mean that just in it's a lot. Um, you know, the part that um sorry y'all, I'm trying to fix my white hand. Um the part that nobody really talks about way. Um because people see, you know, people see the clips and the laughs and the unhinged moments and the funny, but they don't always see the behind the scenes um where you're tired, you're exhausted, the the second guessing yourself, which I do a lot, um, the low self-esteem, the having no confidence, the the rejection, um, the fear of rejection, the fear of um criticism, all that. Um where you're wondering if anything that you're doing is is even landing the way you hoped that it would. Um, you know, just all the things. And it's weird because on paper, you're doing a lot, you know, you're you're showing up, you're handling things, you're keeping everything moving, but mentally it just feels so heavy. Um, and I know I'm not the only one, like especially my working moms and not even working moms, stay-at-home moms, my god. I mean, we all we all feel like this, like, right? I mean, you're juggling a hundred different things, um, whether it's your job, your marriage, your friendships, your your faith, you know, kids, I mean, you know, school, homework, I mean, being a taxi cab, I mean, all the things. And there's always that quiet moment where you're just sitting there, like, am I doing too much? Am I not doing enough? Am I doing the right things? You know, am I being a good wife? Am I being a good mom? Am I being a good employee? Um, a good friend, a good person? Am I being, you know, am I, you know, being good in my faith? Am I being faithful on my journey with God? Am I being, you know, all I mean, just all the things. And, you know, you sit and you sit with that, and you know, you may scream, you may cry, you may, you know, pray, and and it's just it's just not enough sometimes. Um, you know, we we we so often find ourselves like like just in that how am I supposed to juggle all this? Like, like, like, I'm at a point where like I just I feel like the walls are closing in. Um and still feel like we're not getting it right. Um, because it's not just one role, you know, it's all the roles at once for us. You want to be present at home, you want to be dependable at work, um, you know, you want to be all the things supportive in your relationships, and then somewhere in there you're supposed to take care of yourself too, and that part is where it starts to feel impossible, like, because when do we take time for ourselves? Like, what is that, you know? I mean, where is that? Where is that time that we take for ourselves? Like, do we even know what that is or remember what that is anymore? Um, and we have to, I know it's a lot easier said than done what I'm about to say, but we we have to find those times. We have to we have to figure out how to slow down, and we have to find those that little bit of time somewhere to take um for ourselves, or we'll go crazy. Um, you know, but then you add in your faith, and that's like a whole other layer, you know. Um, am I showing up the way that I should there? Am I being patient enough, kind enough, grounded enough? Um, am I handling things the right way there, you know, or am I just reacting out of stress and you know all the things and being snappy and everything at once just kind of exploding? And and that's another thing is you you have to get all of that out to somebody, whether it's a spouse, a friend, or you know, holding all that in, bottling up, it it will make you explode all at once, and and you know, and that's not good for um for anyone. Sorry, y'all. Something to drink here. Uh and I believe that's why another reason why friendships are so important and why we shouldn't hold back when it comes to our you know, to our friends to have those those daily talks and you know, and to really dig into our friendships and you know vent to one another, um, because it does help. It does. Um and two, a lot of times the hardest part can be that we are doing our best. We're we're doing all the things, we're genuinely, we are, we're trying, we're showing up, and still we sit there and question, but was it, but is it enough? Was it enough? Did I do? You know, did I do all the things that I could do? Did I do I, you know, I um I had a moment the other day, nothing, nothing dramatic, you know, just one of those normal, um, everyday days where you know you're just you're juggling meeting things, work, home, kids, um, you know, just trying to stay on top of everything, answering messages, thinking about what still needs to get done, what you haven't done yet. And I just remember getting to the end of the day, um and sitting there thinking, like, I literally haven't stopped or sat down all day, and somehow I didn't get everything done. I still have this and this and this to do, and it still feels like I didn't do enough, like, and I know y'all like I know that y'all can resonate, I know y'all can relate with me because that feeling is so frustrating, so frustrating. I know y'all know exactly how I feel right here, because logically, like you you did do a lot, like I mean, you did a hell of a lot in that day, you know, like but there wasn't enough hours. I mean, like, you know, you know you showed up, you know you handled all the things, still didn't get it all done. But emotionally, it's like your brain skips right over all that, and then just goes straight to well, you should have done better, and you forgot this, and you didn't do enough of that. And I caught myself doing that instead of ever, which we rarely do, instead of ever stopping to say, hey, you know what? You actually did handle a lot today. You know, you did X, Y, and Z, and you managed to get, you know, this and that done, all the things. Of course, you know, you still didn't get whatever done, but sometimes there's just a lot of shit to do, and there's not enough hours, you know, and you we don't ever stop to think and say, girl, you got a lot of shit done today. Yeah, it's there's a lot on our plates. I mean, you know. And I think that that's just what I think that's what we do to ourselves, you know. We I say that, I say that to say we move the bar constantly. So no matter how much we do, it never feels like enough, you know. You can have this huge list to do in a day. Get it done. You know, I got X, Y, and Z done, and then, oh, but you know what? I really still need to do this, this, and this. You didn't get it done, but you got X, Y, and Z off your list done. But see, that's what I'm saying is you know, when I said we're constantly moving the bar, you you you you you we're adding we're constantly adding more and more and more to a plate. So no matter how much we do, it feels like we never got enough done when actually, excuse me, but we got a shit ton done. And some days we don't, you know, some days we some days we're spin, some days we're chasing our tail, some days we're spinning our wheels, we're chasing our tail, and we've gone a whole day and it's just it's just been a shit show. We've gotten nothing done. And yes, those days happen. So but but my point is, so maybe the maybe the problem isn't always that we're not doing enough. Maybe sometimes it's that we expect ourselves to be doing everything to everyone all at the same time. And that's just not realistic. It's just not, and honestly, it's not sustainable either. Because eventually something starts to give your energy, your patience, your mental space, our mental capacity, yeah, uh our mental health. Um, and I think that more people are walking around like this and like us than we realize, honestly. Um holding it together on the outside while quietly questioning everything on the inside. I I really think there's a lot of us like that. Um, or probably most of us like that, holding it together on the outside, quietly questioning everything on the inside, you know, and we just expect so much of ourselves and all of it, you know, it's just it's just not realistic and sustain sustainable, and it will take a toll. It will take a toll on on you know your mental health. We we've got to start giving ourselves a little a little credit and realize that we can't do all the things all the time in a day for everyone. We cannot we cannot pour from an empty cup. And we can't fill someone else's cup when ours is not full ourselves. I mean we just we can't. Um so you know, if um if you're in this space right now, um where you're doing everything you can and you're still wondering if it's enough, um, you are not alone, and you are probably doing a lot better than you give yourself credit for because um matter of fact, I I know you are. I know that I know you're doing better than you give yourself credit for because we all are. Um and I struggle with this. I mean, I constantly struggle with this. Um, you know, the and the mom guilt, you know, the mom guilt, not just the mom guilt, but the the all, I mean the all things, all of the guilt, you know. Um I didn't, you know, I didn't get I didn't get this done. Oh crap, you know, I forgot to send that in. Oh well, I'll get it tomorrow. I mean, it's just you know, between all the things and getting this in and getting that in, and oh crap, you know, we gotta send money for this next week. Oh, well, you know, two days later, it's you you've got to send money for this. Oh, you know, I mean, it's just if it's not school or or ball or you know, and then not to mention work and things around the house, groceries, just constant, you know, and I I just you know, if you were I I just I just really this was heavy on me tonight, and it's been heavy on me for a couple weeks, but it was just heavy on me tonight to put this out out there for you know all the moms out there, and and even if you're not a mom, just for all the women out there who are in this space right now where you're doing everything you can and still wondering if it's enough, and you know, I just want to tell you that you are doing a lot better than you give yourself credit for, and just you know, know that um we can't we can't do it all all the time and stay um stay sane and keep our sanity. We have to um we have to give ourselves a break and uh give ourselves a little bit of credit. Um you know and honestly this this might be uh somebody somebody may have really needed to hear this tonight. Um so you know, if um this was short, this was this was sweet, but um if it I mean if it hits you, um send it to somebody else. Um this episode, share it, send it to somebody who might need it too. And if you've ever had one of these moments where you're sitting there questioning everything, message me. I'd love I I would love I would love to hear about it. Um you know you can um you can share your story uh with us. We would love to hear from you as well. Um you can message us directly, Amber and I. Um we would love to hear from y'all. We would of course we always we always loved, we always love hearing you um y'all's a little unhinged um funny stories. But um, you know, and if this episode hits you in any kind of way, um you know, send it to somebody else who might need to hear it too. Um you know if any if anybody needs to just talk, vent, um you know, message us. I mean, you can email us direct um at a little unhinged26 at gmail.com. You can um you can find us on Instagram or TikTok, both uh at a little unhinged26. Um we would love to hear anything, anything from you guys, anything. Um if you've got if you've got a topic that you want us to talk about on the show, send it to the send it in, send it to the email. Um the the private Facebook group. You can post it there. Um fan mail uh on Apple Podcasts, it it's right there. You can send us a message there. Um you know, we would love to hear from you guys. We would love the community engagement from you guys. Um and you know, we really appreciate the support and we love hearing from y'all. So please, y'all send it, send it on. And if you're not already following the show, um, you know, if you we would love for y'all to follow. Um, you know, if you've been listening for a while and you love the show, it would mean the world um to us, you know, if you would um if you would follow, rate, and review us on Apple Podcasts, Spotify. Um you can uh find us, like I said, on Instagram, TikTok, Facebook, the private Facebook group. Um, you can get, you know, you can connect with us in several different ways. Um and I love y'all. Uh Amber loves y'all. Um she didn't even she doesn't even know about this. She'll uh I will I'm gonna text her as soon as I leave here and um and let her know. It was just like I said, literally just on a whim, something heavy. So um, yeah, I just had to uh I just had to come and share this with y'all. And um I love y'all and I hope that y'all have a great evening. And um Amber and I will be back Sunday for another episode with y'all. And um I hope y'all have a great week. I think I said that. Um, like I said, I'm a little bit nervous doing this one on my own, but we will see y'all next time, and until then, stay a little unhinged, friends.