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SPEAKER_00 0:05

I'm not trying to process the breathable unit with your failing. If you call it qualified united app or not perfectly app with April and Brittany. Okay, a take two. Good morning, good evening, good night. Hola. Welcome back to A Little Unhinged. What up, what up? Take two over here. We are rolling. We think we're rolling. We think. We're rolling. We got our mic volume turned up this time so y'all can hear us. We hope everyone's doing well. Hope y'all had a good weekend, a good week. And before we get started, we have some birthdays to celebrate. Amber's birthday was Friday. And can I tell how old you're? I don't care. Amber was 41, and our little G baby, Amber's son Gunner, was 14. Seems like they were just babies 15 minutes ago.

SPEAKER_01 1:24

I know. That's what yesterday was so crazy. I was looking at some pictures and fell asleep looking at the pictures, so I didn't even make his like birthday post until this morning. Posted it was like 14 years ago. Today was like the scariest time, you know, scariest day of my life thus far.

SPEAKER_00 1:43

Yeah. Amber had to put Amber and Brett they had to put the rush on to get over there to Clarksdale.

unknown 1:49

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:49

It was scary. Yes, it was. But he made it just fine. Little 30-week.

SPEAKER_01 1:54

Yeah, you could not tell that he was like his pre now.

SPEAKER_00 1:59

35-week emergency C section.

SPEAKER_01 2:02

Was it 35 or 36? It was 35, wasn't it?

SPEAKER_00 2:04

Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 2:05

Yeah, and he's now over six feet. I was gonna say, yeah. Tall. Yeah. Yeah, he um I think he was like, okay, I'm five. I don't know. I think he was like 5'11 at maybe his last visit at Red Mat or field wherever they measured him, and like my mom's six foot, so she came over yesterday and was bringing us um birthday stuff, and she he stood up beside her and he was like, Maybe I think I'm as tall as you. She was like, No, you're five. So, and he's taller than her now. So, and then shoes we ordered did not fit. I have to return them. So we now are size 14. That's what I was getting to next. I was like, tell us shoe size.

SPEAKER_00 2:47

Oh yes, we have to order. But he's so handsome, and y'all, he's I I made this I should have put before my birthday post warning long post, but I made this big long very sweet post. Yes. I I made this big long post about just how sweet and kind he is, and just what a sweet young man he's turned into. Of course, you know, I was crying, typing it out, and I just can't wait to see what his future holds and all that.

SPEAKER_01 3:20

He is he don't break me first, he um has yeah, kept me on my toes since um since he got here, but um now it's like um my second full-time job is being a chauffeur and entertaining because you know we can't be still for a minute. But gosh today I was like before we went to church. We went to church, and then um we were debating on um going to swim, going for a cookout thing, whatever, and then I was like, let me well I had to go work my booth for a little bit, and there's no air in part of there, and it was hot. Oh, it was hot, and um, so I got home, sweaty, I was like, I just gotta chill for a minute. So um anyway, and then it started pouring down. So I jumped up because I thought he was gone on his golf cart, um, because he was gonna go pick up some of the golf balls he had hit, and um, shout out to Gammy, Gammy got him a golf cart, yep. Um for his birthday, but anyway, um I thought he had gone on it and I and it was like pouring. I was like, oh god, but um he had not. He and Brad had been outside hitting golf balls when it started raining, so they were they were inside, so I went back to my rest before coming over here to record. Yes, they um but we had a very uh we had a very good birthday. I um, you know, when sleepy Joe maybe that won't be offend anyone, but when Joe um voted to make Juneteenth a holiday, a federal holiday, that's my birthday. So I was like, woohoo. So anyway, I um since it's a federal holiday, I got off. Um I think that's been like our first official holiday off since like New Year's Day or something. It's been a minute. Yeah. Um so anyway, I had a set myself up a doctor's appointment, so I ran and did that, and then um I got to go to the Goodwill and an estate sale on my way home. Yes, so that was my little um I still have not been to that one with you.

SPEAKER_00 5:37

That was my little um the Goodwill affair.

SPEAKER_01 5:40

I tried to get the boys to go to eat yesterday, but they picked another one, so anyway, I got to do that on the way home, and I got to do it like by myself, just walk through there, you know, which I still had to hurry because I had to be vacuumed until by 11 30. But um yesterday, um, so Gunnar's best friend is Channing. Um, and they are two days apart. So Channing's birthday was on Thursday. My birthday was on Friday. Uh B Fair and Gunnar's birthday was yesterday. So yesterday, um, Gunnar had never been. Um, so B Fair and I took Gunner, Channing, and Cash to Top Golf um for them to play. Um because it was kind of cloudy and dreary and raining on and off here. So we went up to Memphis and did that. And then um I did we we went to one of the Goodwills there and the one in Hernando and they they did pick up a few golf clubs, that's what they go in looking for. Um and then we came back and they went and played, I think, nine holes of golf.

SPEAKER_00 6:53

And so did y'all play did y'all play golf at top golf?

SPEAKER_01 6:58

Um, yes, and it so they it set you up in this little game and you take turns, put your names in the system kind of like you do with bowling. Um, but after like my first turn up there, Gunner informed me that I was embarrassing him. Oh, I would too. So, and and they were like really, you know, into it, like practicing their drives. They really weren't playing the game, they were seeing how far they could hit it and all that. Um, so we ended up um and beefair took her turn a couple times, but then we just let um Gunner and Channing take our places, and then um Cash was right in there with them. So he was the absolute cutest thing. He was adorable. But he just like watches, and that's what I tell tell Gunner, like he is watching everything you do, yeah. Because like at first he got up there swinging, and he wouldn't um he wouldn't take in a practice swing. So after like him watching Gunner go, you know, a couple times, like when Cash would get up to go, he would take a practice swing and then he would hit the ball. I mean, and he was like he was getting it out there. And um I love that. So then Gunner, like they have a little thing like that's built in the green that you hit off of, but then Gunnar had taken his T and put it in a different spot. Well, then when it got Cash's turn, he had gotten a T and was trying to put it down in a thing instead of hitting off his the normal thing. And I was like, Gunnar, go help him. But he would like why like he would turn around, he was like, Gunner, you watching me? Gunner, you watching me? I was like, Gunnar, watch him. So anyway, it's um and he I'll have to show you the picture. He had has his little uh Mac McGregor bag and little bitty clubs, and he had on, you know, because they didn't know about the rain. He he had on his little boots, his little golf shirt, his little top golf hat. Um, but it was like the most adorable thing ever. Stop it. Oh, how cute. Yes, so um they loved it, and it's not bad at you know, at all. Because price-wise, um, like I was looking at it one day when me and Gunnar and Em were up there and I was like, you know, I don't know, which we didn't have a reservation or whatever. If you book ahead online and go ahead and book the bay, like it's a little cheaper, and plus now we know to do that. Um next time we go to go ahead and make your reservation, and then you don't have to wait because I guess maybe it being Father's Day weekend in June, yeah, you know, people traveling and stuff. We did have to wait, but like they have a big area and a bar area um downstairs, and you can order um like appetizers, drinks, whatever, you know, while you're like couch things and tables while you wait. So we did have a wait and then we had to go. We went upstairs to our um bag.

SPEAKER_00 9:42

So did I see an elevator in there?

SPEAKER_01 9:45

Probably.

SPEAKER_00 9:46

We walked the stairs, but um Well, Gunnar sent me a picture while y'all were eating.

SPEAKER_01 9:50

Oh, yeah, I think there was an elevator by the counter. Oh yeah.

SPEAKER_00 9:52

I because I was like, I swear that's an elevator.

SPEAKER_01 9:54

Yeah, because there's like three or four stories.

SPEAKER_00 9:57

Not an elevator, no, what am I trying to say? Not an ele escalator. I swear I thought I saw an escalator. No, I don't think. There were stairs. Maybe not. Because I was like, dang, that's cool. Maybe not. Maybe it just looked like escalators. Let me see.

SPEAKER_01 10:15

And there's huge TVs on the wall, and then outside there's okay, no, that's not escalator.

SPEAKER_00 10:19

I thought those were I thought that was escalator.

SPEAKER_01 10:21

Oh no, the stairs going up the different different levels. Okay, okay. Outside tables and patio area and um like corn holes, so the boys went outside and did that.

SPEAKER_00 10:32

Yeah, we were seeing for like years. You know how you know how those things get, like we've been saying for years we're gonna go.

SPEAKER_01 10:38

Yeah, it is something different to do. Especially they're all into golf and they sit you upstairs, and it's like the high kind of like pub table with um maybe six bar stools. Oh, because you can get you have six people per lane, so it's like six um bar stools, and then you have the screen up there where you hit, and then you have the TV that everybody can see that high is like how far you hit, the scores, whatever. But like it's um if you go and you don't book ahead for an hour, I think it's fifty-two dollars. But um, if you go earlier the day, it's like 42. If you book ahead, it's a little cheaper, but like we just split it down the middle. So like ours, I think we paid and this was with our appetizers and whatever refills we got. We just like split the check at the end. So what we did upstairs, I think we was like $35 each. Oh, yeah. So I mean it's not yeah, so that's not it wasn't bad at all. Because like, you know, both of our families went, that's six of us, and we fit in one spot. Yeah, and that's we'll have to do something to do that. Yeah, when we can and you can add like 30 minutes if you don't book long enough, kind of you know, ahead. But they do up to two, three hours, but yeah, yeah. I got up there and got around like head down, head down. I'm you know, you're trying whatever, and I'm concentrating so hard, and I think it's because I want to hit it hard, like to think it'll go farther, and that's what he tries to explain. You don't have to hit it that hard. But anyway, so then I just completely missed the ball.

SPEAKER_00 12:01

So I was like, Mama, you're embarrassing me.

SPEAKER_01 12:03

So after like my first round, I was like, You can take my turn.

SPEAKER_00 12:06

You go ahead, yeah. Yeah, you go ahead. Yeah. Well, you know, you know, B Feared secretly wants Atlie and Channing to be together. Yeah, she yeah, she she she took she was telling me about that a few weekends ago, and um she was like, I'm just I'm still holding out hope. She said, But you know, the thing is, both of them are so quiet and shy. We may be But they're really not. They act like it, but they're not yeah, once you like get them around people or each other, she said, but they both seem she said, but I mean, you know, we may be graduating high school before they actually ask each other out because they're so awkward about that kind of stuff.

SPEAKER_01 12:42

He was supposed to come out here with us, but we waited too late, and you know, um not him, but them. They'd go to bed at like seven o'clock, you know, and get up at four. So yeah. So we it was too late when we were coming out of here.

SPEAKER_00 12:55

Well, we'll have to get them together before the summer's over. Yes, yes, yes. Gunnar's like, we don't have much longer left. I'm like I know it goes by I know, like it uh yeah, goes by so fast, especially when you try to plan anything, it's yeah, especially with ball, softball. It's you know, they have so much going on, but um and the weather and just everything else.

SPEAKER_02 13:15

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 13:16

Well, we've caught up. So now, um, audience, let's talk about us. Let's talk about Amber and I. So who are we? Well, we have been best friends since we were about 15 or 16, maybe. So basically, we've been best friends for about 25 years. Um 25 years of good and bad, ugly tears, mistake, laughter, growth, and memories. Um yeah. Um, a lot. More than on most people. We have cried in Amber's bed, my bed, uh my mama's bed. I was gonna say uh Melinda's bed, the water, yeah, that water bed. Yeah, a lot, car rooms, bars, parking lots, probably everywhere in between. Yeah. Um yeah.

SPEAKER_01 14:08

Oh the schoolhouse. Yeah, Lord, you remember that whole catastrophe we when we both wanted to like break down. Didn't remember what we were Yeah, well, when we ended up in that unaccredited place.

SPEAKER_00 14:19

That's why I was just yeah, I didn't know what we the hell we were gonna do. And and then he was supposedly on cra Yeah, a lot.

unknown 14:27

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 14:28

We had a whole disaster in one of one of our college, college experiences. So whole disaster. And it was not any fault of our own. It was nuts.

SPEAKER_00 14:36

Yeah, yeah. That that's a that's actually let me write that down. That's actually something for another podcast, but it it would take two parts for this one. But um I was listening to something the other day, you know, people always talk about Oprah and Gail's, you know, friendship and how they're celebrating 50 years of friendship this year, and they're actually having a huge friend, a 50th friend anniversary. And the theme of the party is you have to bring your Oprah or your Gail. And honestly, like that's what everybody is deserves is a friend like that. Not 50 friends, but just one good friend. Like, I mean, that's all you need is that one person who's been your ride or die from day one. You know, the person who knows every version of you and stays anyway. I mean, that's that one person who cheers you own and you know wants you to win, and and that's what like that's what Amber and I have, and it's it's very rare, it's very rare to find that. Um sorry. The one thing that I love about our friendship, sorry, I had to write this down or I would never remember all this, is we we just we don't we don't have that competition, we don't have that jealousy. There's room for both of us at the table, and we're pulling up a chair for each other, you know.

SPEAKER_01 16:05

Um And sometimes we got a whole whole lot going on individually, so I mean we take up a lot of room at that table with us and all of our our sh our shenanigans and the normal chaos of life. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 16:20

We may take up the whole table, but there's room for both of us in our shit. Yeah. I mean, you know all of our baggage. Yeah, that's a yeah, that's a great word. Uh you know, when something happens, you know, something good happens to Amber. I I I I'm I'm always excited, I'm always happy, you know, and sometimes I think I get more excited than she does. Um it can be something small that she doesn't even think is a big deal. And I'm over here saying, Amber, that's so awesome. You know, I love that for you. And I I wrote I put down, you know, a while back on a podcast, she told me that I was always her biggest cheerleader, and I honestly didn't even realize that she noticed those little moments that I'm glad, I'm glad she I'm glad she did, and I hope she knows how proud I am of her. But you know, she had said that it could be something little as far as you know getting a new booth somewhere, and you know, that she didn't think anything about it, and she just forgot to tell me, and she may remember to tell me a month later, and I'm like, Amber, oh my god, that why didn't you tell me? That's great, that's great. And she's like, Well, I mean, I didn't even think it was a big deal, and I'm like, it is a big deal.

SPEAKER_01 17:37

I'm just over here, just I'm just hustling. That's trying to be my extra dollars.

SPEAKER_00 17:41

Yeah, she's she's just like, oh my god, I want something else, and I'm like, but no, but that's great for you. And I'm you know, and it made me happy that she noticed that. You know, but she's a sister I never have. That's that's what she is.

SPEAKER_01 17:55

Yes, yes, this is my sister over here. We we we talk about all the things, and um sometimes having a brother, it's not the that's not the um it's just a different kind of relationship.

SPEAKER_00 18:12

Yeah, yeah. Especially when you have I don't know if it's younger brothers or maybe it's just all brothers, but um yeah, you don't talk, you don't talk much. No, you you can start.

SPEAKER_01 18:27

And sometimes some of my people, well, I shouldn't say some of my people, but sometimes you just hear from people when they need something. That's like it's not just uh um calling to check on you, check on your child, check on your family, how are you doing, what's been going on, are you okay? Yeah, sometimes people like aren't that, and I have a lot of those in my life. Yeah, if they need something from me, um that's when my phone's ringing. And so in especially the recent years, and I've become, I guess, become more aware of worrying about me and mine and his words, my mental status and whatever that if that's the only time I hear from you, then my phone may not be answered when you call. Bye, yep. Because especially if we're all at the house, um, or if I'm laying down to rest or to go to sleep, my phone is going on silent. I had a headache by the end of my um evening on my birthday, and my phone started, and I just had I cut this thing off, the ringer off, because I was laying down a minute and like it wasn't even 10 minutes and I looked or 15 minutes, I had eight miss calls and whatever, and many of them were probably me.

SPEAKER_00 19:58

I was only trying to see what size I needed to get gunner before I bought them, but then I was just gonna buy both of them.

SPEAKER_01 20:03

So and then yeah, um, I don't even remember who who all it was, but anyway. My call wasn't important. It was um one of them was somebody I never figured out who it was. I didn't even try to call it that. But anyway. Yeah, she didn't even feel good. Sometimes you I don't know, you you learn, I guess, the place that you have and or the importance you have in some people's life. And like when you figure that out and accept it, it's just kind of you know, it is what it is. You can't some people you can't that are just you know selfish and whatever, and you you can't change them.

SPEAKER_00 20:41

Well, by the second call.

SPEAKER_01 20:42

Or it's not my place to try to change them. No.

SPEAKER_00 20:47

By the second call, when she didn't answer, I knew she was either asleep or she wasn't feeling good. So I was like, okay, I'm just gonna get both of these because something she's either she's either not feeling good or she's taking a nap. So I um I was like, I'm just gonna get both pair and I bring the other one back. Um, and then she texts me and then I felt horrible. I was like, gosh. I was like, I hope I did not uh wake her up.

SPEAKER_01 21:12

Oh it was it was fine. I I think I'd forgot my sinus medicine that morning, and then which I have to take some of the herb allergies like every day. Um so my throat was bothering me in my head, but I had a dental procedure earlier in the week. I just think that had something to do with it, yeah. And um have stitches, and so one of my stitches coming loose on the way home from Memphis yesterday. Yeah. So I messaged the dental assistant, like, I have the dentist number, but I know he's on vacation this week, and then I just I just felt bad. Yeah. So I wouldn't message him because I'm I'm friends with the dental assistant, so I was like, okay, my stitch came out. Uh, do I need to do anything? Because I had to have a bone graft, so that's the only reason I really worry about it, is because the The two recall like um made an X to secure um the second piece of bone. So anyway, um so now it's only one holding it, so that just worried me because I don't want to mess up um the money that I just spent right there. So she was like, You should be fine, it should be good. Is it hurting? Whatever. And I was like, No, but can I get some little um sewing scissors and cut it off? Yeah. But anyway, it it's been okay. I haven't been um messing with it or whatever too bad today. So I think I go um Wednesday, maybe I think for my checkup. Um they schedule with me with a different dentist since he's gonna be um out of town. I think I'll see Shelly or either um Dr. Who used to be there? Garrett? Yeah, oh he's filling in this week, I think. Well, um Dr. Chance is out. But I think I think the scheduler put me down for uh Shelly, which is fine.

SPEAKER_00 23:01

Yeah. Well, I am like even, you know, just talking about you know, people checking up on you. I mean, like, I knew she felt bad and I checked on her, you know, Saturday and like, how do you feel? I know you were feeling rough, you know.

SPEAKER_01 23:16

Yeah, and I think like it didn't really matter how I felt yesterday because it was Gunnar's birthday. Oh, well, yeah, I was gonna I was gonna be fine. I knew you were gonna do something. Yeah, so I I just got up and got going. I w it was a lot better though. Like the headache was gone. I didn't feel like I was like feverish or anything.

SPEAKER_00 23:35

We have to do that, but I still was gonna check you either way to see how you felt. And then I, you know.

SPEAKER_01 23:42

We um I was gonna go do that boot stuff um before we went. I thought I had enough time, but I got sidetracked um looking up and pricing some stuff, and Gunnar was like, Can you just they're already ready? Can you just do that later? So anyway, I went ahead and got ready and um we went on.

SPEAKER_00 24:00

So Well, that's just something that we do. I mean, both of us, right? When we know each other has had a rough day or we're feeling bad the next day or even on into the week, we just always check on each other. How are you feeling? Are you better? Is this better?

SPEAKER_01 24:14

I mean, oh yeah, and I'm gonna tell you, I didn't I didn't pay attention. I finally went and got it because I was still had the second round of the different antibiotic, so I had just kept taking those and I didn't go to Sherie's and pick it up until Thursday, Friday, Friday. I don't know, I just kept taking the other one. But he had increased it to 875 milligrams twice a day. Your antibiotic? Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_00 24:37

What is it?

SPEAKER_01 24:38

Um, the amoxicillin. Oh, because the other dose was smaller, so I was like, maybe the bigger dose helped when I started taking it Friday. Oh, maybe because yeah, it's twice a day, but um, so had that and then the um just the 800 milligram ibuprofen and then the other, yeah, and then the new stuff that I got. I I haven't I don't even know where we are. Um okay, the other medicine um for my little foot because if this doesn't work um or help, but I've gotta be good and compliant with my shoes. Sorry, y'all, gotta put my feet up. Um, I'm so old. Like, y'all, I I've told y'all this before, but you better savor every moment of those young years. Um anyway, if this doesn't work, I think I told you I have to go, I'll go see, get an ultrasound, and they'll do inject that nerve. She's talking about her in the bottom of my foot.

SPEAKER_00 25:37

I can't remember what it's called.

SPEAKER_01 25:39

Well, like, you know, it was very obvious before that it's what it was because I had the clinical sign, like the click when you push my toes. I had a Morton's neuroma. So um I figured it out, figured out how to test for it and diagnose myself, went to the um foot specialist and told them what I have, and they were like, You sure do?

SPEAKER_00 26:01

So um it's like neuropathy.

SPEAKER_01 26:04

So the pad of my foot is almost sometimes it gets to the point where it feels like something's stabbing me in the bottom of my foot, but then it makes my fourth toe numb, and it's very aggravating. But um, anyway, something else. Lovely. I have the most awkward symptoms and all that. And then I've been dealing with some other stuff, but I did did finally get that scheduled to I'm just gonna say Clarksdale has some very I don't know what they got working for 'em over there, but and their new um hospitals taking over and building and all that.

SPEAKER_00 26:42

You got a you got you're going over there?

SPEAKER_01 26:44

No. But you know that I was thinking that it may be quicker because I'm an existing patient than going somewhere new altogether. Yeah. But they made me aware, which is not right, that they couldn't take my insurance because it was out of state. But if they knew what they were doing, you just bill for the state that it's that you're in. Or are you crossly shield.

SPEAKER_00 27:04

Aren't you Texas? Yeah. That's what I thought.

SPEAKER_01 27:06

Well, they don't take that. They only take Blue Crossley Shield of Mississippi. No, they don't. They they've been taking yours. Well, anyway, I said that's fine. So I called somebody when I go go Thursday. So hey anyway, um good, okay Yes, okay. Uh yes, real friendship is not a competition, it's not keeping score. Uh it's not secretly hoping the other person fails or they screw up, or you know, whatever. Um, it's celebrating each other because their success doesn't take anything away from yours. Um, if you've got the right friend, you don't have to fight for a seat at the table because you're pulling up chairs for each other. That's what I was saying. Like, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 27:49

I was saying earlier, we yeah. And we may have to pull up a whole bunch of other uh baggage with us. Yeah, drag up all our stuff.

SPEAKER_01 27:58

Drag up all the things because you come in with um 500 bags anyway.

SPEAKER_00 28:02

Show them. Yep. And cups.

SPEAKER_01 28:05

Yes. Um, our friendship has always been, you know, I got you, you got me. When one of us needs the other, we're there, no questions asked. Um, we've opened our homes to each other, shared clothes. Our kids have shared clothes, even though one's a boy, one's a girl.

SPEAKER_02 28:23

Yes.

SPEAKER_01 28:24

Um, our parents became each other's family. Like my child calls Britney's mom, Nene. Um, like he was uh had called Tanny on the way out here. Um he was like, Well, where do you do it? He's like, Well, we can go hang out with Mr. Chris, or we can go to my nanny's house.

SPEAKER_00 28:40

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 28:41

While they record the podcast.

SPEAKER_00 28:43

And I love that. And, you know, just like the you know, opening our homes and our clothes when when the ice storm came, you know, they they stayed with us and I loved every minute of it.

SPEAKER_01 28:52

And you know, do you know how many times my child has asked me if I'm ready for the next ice storm? I know. I'm like, no.

SPEAKER_00 28:59

I heard him No. Yes. Well, I am. I know, I heard him say that. And look, but before um we got to wash the clothes and stuff, look, he came out in my sweatpants, he came out in a pair of atleys, and at least were way too small. And it was so funny, and I mean, we just well for a while there, I mean, I kept extra clothes and underwear of his at the house.

SPEAKER_01 29:27

Because they're gonna get muddy if or yeah. Something or in a creek or in a yeah, I mean, that's just ditch or something.

SPEAKER_00 29:34

So he's always that's just what we had clothes in a drawer or something in her house. Extra. I mean, I I keep extra clothes there and I mean yeah, that's just what we've always that's just what we've always done. I mean, and at some point we just all we stopped becoming friends, we just sort of we just became family. I mean, and I love it. Yes.

SPEAKER_01 29:56

And like my kid calls so much, like, if I'm not doing something or I'm working or whatever, like Chris and Gunnar after church today were in the parking lot talking golf and trying to figure out with Atley's schedule and softball and this and that when they could go um they were trying to go golfing. Yeah. Um they were trying to go today on Father's Day. Oh, Lord. Um So anyway, and he's yeah, he'll quick like we're not doing something, whatever. He he'll call wanting them to come pick him up and you know, oh yeah, just go hang out.

SPEAKER_00 30:39

Um He called me from school one day, and I was like, Oh my gosh, what is wrong? He was actually arguing with somebody at school. It was lunch, and um he needed me to take up for him. And he was like, didn't so and so and so and so I was like, Yep, show dead. He was like, Okay, thank you, Miss Bringy, love you bye.

SPEAKER_01 30:59

But he be telling business and she be going right along with it sometimes. And no, and she's on speakerphone, don't know who's around, what's well I didn't at the time, but it still he was right, so and you know, I mean, man. But I'm telling you, he they done they ooh, that might have been my my foot. It's gonna fit on this wire. I don't know. That's fine. Sorry. If y'all hear some stuff.

SPEAKER_00 31:23

No, it wasn't. There we go.

SPEAKER_01 31:25

Okay. Um these kids, though, man. Oh, yesterday. And y'all know, and we've shared how how mine's really good about not that he's snitching on folks. I mean, he'll just he just openly will talk about things that are going on, and you know, whatever. And they were talking, and um he was kind of like, hey, tell, you know, tell mom about that, whatever. And so his friend did, and I was just like, dang. Some of these parents, like, I I mean, really, I'm like, do y'all have a clue? Like, do y'all know what is going on with your kids? I don't I don't know. I mean this is just insane. Um but I mean, and not just like you know, text or calls or pictures or or things that are going on that way, but it's like, and not even vaping, but it's I mean things more than that, like. It's fine. Drugs and things, I'm like, mm, folks, mm. Y'all need to get a grip.

SPEAKER_00 32:53

Well, I mean, I'm thinking more along the line of even some sexual things. Well, no doubt that's gonna happen, but they're too are they too young for all of this. Well, I know they are, but um I mean, just the things that I don't know, just just wild. But we trust each other with everything. I mean, we tell each other everything, and there's no judgment. Go ahead.

SPEAKER_01 33:21

Nope.

SPEAKER_00 33:22

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 33:23

Nope, nope. Well, um, I I try to be um encouraging and give insight and my two cents, whether it's something uh good, bad, ugly, whatever, I'm gonna be honest and not, you know, sugarcoat anything if if um you know, if Britney comes to me with something, whether it's something we um that I'm excited for her, you know, that she's got going on or had a bad day or something going on at work, I you know, or she's got whatever going on. I'm not, you know, not judgmental, just honest, um and not being hurtful or ugly or you know, any of that. Um and she knows I'm gonna tell her the truth while I try to um yeah, we're gonna I'm trying to be do it nicely without hurting her feelings.

SPEAKER_00 34:28

Yeah, we're gonna tell each other the truth for sure.

SPEAKER_01 34:30

And she's gonna um and sometimes um something I say or do or don't do or whatever may hurt her feelings, and she's not gonna tell me then, but she will eventually tell me. But yeah, it's not that I that I uh intentionally try to.

SPEAKER_00 34:47

Um and that's what I said, you know. I I mean I honesty is important, and I've had to learn this throughout the years. There's a difference in being honest and being cruel about stuff. You know, and a lot of people I think I I put this, I wrote this down. I think a lot of people hide behind, well, I'm just being honest, but really they're being hurtful and they're being cruel about something, you know.

SPEAKER_01 35:10

And they're like, I keep trying to pee up, piotch, probably.

SPEAKER_00 35:13

Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 35:14

Not yeah, yeah, just trying to take a jab at you, you know. Yeah, yeah. Not trying to, you know, be helpful or insightful or lift you up. But they're really trying to give you constructive criticism. They're just gonna take that opportunity to feel like there's a um a weak spot and they're fisting to get try to, you know, knock knock your feet out from under the, you know. Yeah. Exactly. If you're have a weak moment. And some people that aren't your real friends, you can't share those weak moments with because they're gonna be silently clapping behind your back and hoping to see you fail.

SPEAKER_00 35:53

Yeah, they're fisting to use that weak sp spot to take you down to further. Yeah, exactly. Exactly, yeah. And I mean, you know, it's not that Amber and I ever, you know, when we're telling each other things about our life or things that it's not, you know, that we're ever intentionally trying to hurt each other's feelings. If we think that something is a bad idea, we're saying it to be helpful, not to be hurtful. If we, you know, if we think that something is not a good move for us or whatever it may be.

SPEAKER_01 36:26

But we we will be like, and this is why. Yeah, yeah. We're yeah. Like, did you think about this? Have you thought about this?

SPEAKER_00 36:33

Because Amber's really good at that with me. You know, she's like, Oh, yeah, okay, Brittany, but have but think just think for a second, you know, what about Pump the brakes? Yeah, I have to tell her. Especially with you with me. You know, she'll be like, Well, okay, have you thought about have you thought about this? You know, I mean, you know, she's about that with me.

SPEAKER_01 36:52

I have to reel her back in sometimes, like for sure.

SPEAKER_00 36:55

Um for sure.

SPEAKER_01 36:57

Cause sometimes it's like a spur of the moment. Oh, this sounds great, this sounds wonderful, but then I have to like reel her back in and look at things like down the road. Like, did you think about this or how this might affect that?

SPEAKER_00 37:10

You know, kind of that kind of it's like my therapist says. He's too he says my brain runs like a racehorse. It does a hundred miles a minute, yeah. So some yeah, sometimes I definitely have to be reeled back in. But um, if we're gonna be honest, I wrote I wrote this down. I think I'm a better judge of character from for uh of people sometimes. Yes. And I think that sometimes I have like a um a little spidey seal. Yes.

SPEAKER_01 37:39

When it comes to some people sometimes, because I'm very good with not say better, but that's where she, you know, kicks in, but like I try to give people the benefit of the doubt. You do just because that's me and my heart and whatever you always want to think that people can change and can be better, or maybe are a different have grown and or a different, better version of themselves than maybe they used to be. So you do try to give people I do try to give people the benefit of the doubt. But Spidey over here will be like, well, it's not that I'm negative.

SPEAKER_00 38:18

No, no, no, but I just and some people I some people I can just tell from the get-go, I'm like, there's something about them I don't trust. There's just I can't and it may not be anything particular, it just may be I a feeling, yeah. Yeah, it just maybe I can't put my finger on it, but if there's just something about this particular person, I just can't I can't tell you, but there's just something about them that I don't, you know, so anyway, there's that. But you know, and also I you know, there's been there have been people over the years who have tried to come between us and you know they have tried to destroy what um what we have and uh you know maybe they didn't understand our friendship, but um I can definitely tell you they were jealous of it. Um and you know here we are right back where we started. So for whatever reason the people who mattered stayed, the people who didn't didn't. So, you know, a friendship is built on trust and loyalty and years of showing up for each other, and it's it's hard to break that.

SPEAKER_01 39:33

It is, it is. Uh some people just don't, I mean, I don't know.

SPEAKER_00 39:38

They don't get well, they don't get that, number one. You know, they don't they don't know.

SPEAKER_01 39:45

Some people are so manipulative, but then they're so like selfish and unhinged. Uh yeah, like they're not, I don't know, self-aware.

SPEAKER_00 39:56

Like they're just yes, there you go. Yeah. They're they're very, yeah, they're very yeah, they're very selfish. Yeah, and they're very unaware of their own actions. Yeah. And like what they're doing to themselves and other people and what it's causing. Yeah. Oh yeah. And yeah, 25 years later, here we are, still talking about everything and nothing. Yeah. I mean, sometimes one of us calls each other with like no reason other than just, I mean, I'll just call or she'll call. It's like, what you doing?

SPEAKER_01 40:29

Yeah. Yeah. As long as you don't catch me w when I'm have laid down or I'm resting or I'm overstimulated. My phone's all hot. Yeah. But we do have our best conversations probably um after um Carline, school drop-offs, like early in the morning before we get so bogged down in our work.

SPEAKER_00 40:51

And so I'm on the way to work and like before she has started work. Yeah. I mean, yeah. It's like, what you doing? And then like an hour later, we're still on the phone, and then there was like 150 things that we forgot to tell each other.

SPEAKER_01 41:03

Yeah. And we're old, so um, like I before the sermon started this morning, I was making all these notes of these things that I needed to do and check on and whatever at some point this week. Um, and that's why I was kind of looking at my phone when we first started because one of the things I was supposed to check on, I just got an email about tomorrow's golf tournament. Gunnar had been on the wait list because I didn't sign up early enough on Friday. Well, now I guess some have dropped, and the wait list people have been moved up. So I've got to go check into that because now I guess they may be uh high tailing it to Tupelo in the morning. But I mean, I don't know. There's a 90% chance of rain, also. So that's why I'm just like, yeah. Yeah. But um I anyway, that won't be that won't be me going and doing because I um I was supposed to have to take mom for um some procedures tomorrow, but her wonderful doc is not going to be working tomorrow. So they are having to reschedule. So we'll just be working. But um anyway, yes. Um we have to Brittany will has a list in her phone in her notes section of things that we need to talk about so she doesn't forget. Yeah, I forget. She can go over with me.

SPEAKER_00 42:24

There like there's stuff that I forget to tell her, and if I don't put it in my notes phone the section, I'll forget to tell her. So it's like it's a it's a list in there and it says Amber, and so I'll have to yeah, I'll have to put it down because I forget to tell her.

SPEAKER_01 42:37

Yeah. The point is that's friendship, that's how it works.

SPEAKER_00 42:41

Um Amber's been a part of my story for so long. I mean, I can't imagine her not being a part of it.

unknown 42:48

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 42:49

And you know, this life, whatever that we do may not be for everybody, but it's for us. And I mean, my life and my world is better with her in it. And I mean, I can't. It is.

SPEAKER_01 43:03

We share stories, advice, life updates, stress, victories, frustrations, and occasionally each other's location. So she's gonna give it to me on this.

SPEAKER_00 43:12

Um Well, I've shared my location forever with Amber.

SPEAKER_01 43:16

I mean, I share it with I share it with a lot of people, but Amber's always No, I will tell when you we sh she started sharing it It was before the wreck. Last at some point last year.

SPEAKER_00 43:28

Um because that wreck was three years ago.

SPEAKER_01 43:30

Oh okay, maybe it was three years ago, but she was having these like um we think it was her blood sugar, like low blood sugar episodes, um and the fatigue and all the things, but low blood sugar episodes, and like she would be like she's either gonna fall out and she's driving and just like having to pull over on the side of the road um on back roads, yeah, so sleepy, whatever, on back roads. Between Clarksdale and home. So she didn't even know what road she was on one day. Oh, yeah, I forgot. One evening, um, on the way home from work, or what was going on, and she was kind of out of it, like talking crazy, whatever, but she couldn't tell me where she was. So she turned her location on then. Um so that it would always it would be in the background. So that was when you started. Yeah, I don't know. Yeah, sharing um her location. So that's right. I had never I mean, I had like that find my iPhone thing, so I can find my phone from the iPod or whatever, or Gunnar's phone if one of them is lost. Now that he has a phone, I mean he's on my iCloud and I can see, you know, that but I think we talked about it on another podcast. I had gone with mom's one of my cousins, one of mom's first cousins, um, and my phone had died, and we had gone to we were singing karaoke with some of my cousins from um down south and it was late, but my phone died, and they were I don't know even what they were looking at. If you're Mary Kate was looking at Snap or something, but so since the phone died, like the location was completely wrong, and whatever she was looking at was not right. So after that, um I think I guess I did it, whatever, I don't know. Um there's a live through sixty group with Gunner and my niece and me so that they do not freak out and um if they can't find me or get me because they were having a whole come apart. Um so I they do have my location. Um as far as sharing it with anybody else, I'm I'm more private and when I and not necessarily saying that I you know do this all the time. But and it's not that I'm hiding anything, but if something happens or I'm upset, like it I have to deal with it in my own way by myself first. And um Spidey over here, if I usually know she knows that something's wrong, whatever, she um I'll come find her. Yeah, she's gonna be pulling up wherever I'm at. But um like I'll get to you eventually once I've processed it myself, and then and then you can help me through it. But and then but but Sister Girl gets in her, like how she said her mind goes a hundred miles an hour, a hundred tabs open at one time. She can have a minor, I'm not even gonna say crisis, but it's a crisis in her eyes. Um I mean, literally, like she broke a fingernail and she can't get me on the phone and she doesn't know where I'm at. She will call somebody else that she knows is there with me to try to see where I'm at. That exactly but yeah, but it but she has done this before. She tracked me down and um but and and whatever it was, I was like I can't even remember what it was. I don't know, but if it was that important if it was important but it wasn't it it wasn't. I was like, this drama queen we were somewhere at we were at somebody's house for a family dinner and well then it was probably important, it wasn't though, it might have been it really wouldn't, but anyway, so yes, Brudy started sharing for health reasons. Um I don't care. I I know so it's just it's just a it's just a joke.

SPEAKER_00 47:50

Now definitely and we and we do but she tracks her mom too, but like she does have to check because my mom may not be calling her mama travels a lot, but yeah, and she's I mean she's you know she's single and I mean she travels a lot for work and I need to know where she is.

SPEAKER_01 48:06

Yeah, so we'll be like, just did she get to her h hotel safely? Like because she'll forget to call or whatever, and so she'll check in on her.

SPEAKER_00 48:13

You know, like you work from home, like I work in Clarksdale and like you know, working in Clarksdale alone, Chris worries, you know, everybody worries about me being over there. But I'm but two, I commute every day. So there's that. So anyway, I was Amber somehow she our location my location got stopped sharing with Amber. So I went to share it back, and accidentally she her location got shared with me, and I just realized it like last week. And so I told her, and I knew immediately when she knew that her location was being shared with me, she was gonna stop sharing it ASAP. And she did, which is fine. I don't care, but she still has my location, which is which is fine. Everybody needs to have my location because you never know I'm where I may end up.

SPEAKER_01 49:14

Well she but she did, um, and this is a a neat thing that I had no clue. If you have somebody in your phone as in case of emergency and a crash is detected, like an alarm goes off on your phone even if you don't share a location with them. Um, like if you have them labeled as an emergency contact in your phone, then iPhone um notifies that person um when a crash has been detected with uh you know the phone. So that is that is neat because I was at a softball game and I think my phone, I think it was actually I don't remember if it was on silent. I was thinking it may have been silent, and it started like vibrating and making a crazy noise that it's never like made before in my back pocket and I was like, What is this? And it was like um Bruti's iPhone, a crash has been detected, blah blah blah. So I'm immediately like I'm calling her and I'm like, What what's going on? Are you okay? You know, whatever, but yeah.

SPEAKER_00 50:19

I actually wasn't in a crash that time, was what she tells me.

SPEAKER_01 50:23

Yeah, but it it it um but she has been in some crashes before that that it didn't do she could not get in touch with uh yeah, before that update on the phone. She couldn't get her husband on the phone. So I had to go to his work and run in there like a mad lady. Yeah, and so we were able to um find her location and get to her, you know, through that.

SPEAKER_00 50:51

So yeah, so that's why I say yeah, yeah. She needs my location for sure. But you know, moving on, at the end of the day, who who are we? We're wives, we're moms, um, we're working women, we're imperfect, we're growing. I mean, you know, we're I'm tired. I was gonna say, exhausted, running all the time. We're just trying to figure life out like everyone else. I mean, we're two best friends who have spent 25 years laughing through the chaos and helping each other survive. And if you're lucky enough to even have one friendship like that, hold on to it. I mean, seriously, cherish it because they don't come around every day. They're rare, and y'all, they are worth everything. Um, seriously. And also, why should you listen to us? Why should you listen to a little unhinged? Um, and I think because I mean, we're not experts, we're not celebrities, we're not influencers, but also we're not pretending to have life figured out. We're we mean we're not on here, you know, at all. Therapy. Yeah, we're not on those. We do not have our issue together. No, we're not on here as therapists telling you, you know, this is what you need to do with your life to have it figured out. Like, no. We need therapy. Like, yeah, like the like the podcast title, we are a little unhinged. Uh sometimes we are a lot unhinged, okay? And we're just two everyday women talking about marriage, life, motherhood, friendship, work stress, mistakes, personal growth. I mean, all the things and all the chaos in between. I mean, sometimes we'll make you laugh, make you cry, you know, make you think. Um sometimes we'll tell a story and you'll think, thank God somebody else does that too, or you know, thank God I'm not the only one. You know, we're not telling you how to live your life. We're just sharing ours with y'all. You know, that's that's what we're doing.

SPEAKER_01 52:59

Oh, and um today is Father's Day. Um, shout out to all the dads, the granddads.

SPEAKER_00 53:07

Big shout out, yes.

SPEAKER_01 53:09

Um the moms who are playing the part of dads, stepdads who have stepped up, the friends, and uncles, whoever is taking up time and doing things with a child and being part of their life. Um Father's Day is not happy and um not always joyous and all that for some people. And I let I've started thinking about um two of my granddaddies earlier when I was resting, and so I had me a good cry before I came. Um because this next month, um, it will have been 17 years since I lost one of my besties, and I sure sure wish he was here to see my son.

SPEAKER_02 54:07

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 54:08

And then I lost another one a couple years before him, um, to cancer. And they both, I mean, the roles that they had in my life and my childhood and the things that they taught me and the time that they took up with me is just I feel like grandparents today are so different. Um at least my child's grandparents um yeah are most of them. For sure. Um a lot of time mine took up too. That's been um that's just hard. But um I know mom went over yesterday and changed out a couple of Jim's flowers at the graveyard and she said she just sat down and talked to him for about an hour and had her a good cry. But um anyway, so if y'all have those in your life still definitely appreciate them and put your phone down, be present, go see him, take um, take it all in and enjoy it while you can.

SPEAKER_00 55:18

My some people don't have a dad. Um my dad died 15 this October will be 15 years ago. Um, so you know, we know Father's Day is not always happy for everybody. Um but shout out to Chris and Brett um for all they do. And um, you know, guys, that's that's who we are. Um not just podcast hosts, but two best friends somehow managed to survive 25 years of life together. And um we've helped each other through some of the hardest seasons of life. Um and if there's in anything that we hope you take away from this episode, it's that everyone deserves a friendship like that. And maybe you have a Oprah or a Gail. Um I miss Oprah. I know. I do too. Telling me I used to watch Dr. Field and Oprah. Yeah, we yeah, we sure did. Uh every afternoon. I think they came on at four or five or five and six. Stays of our lives, General Hospital, Dr. Fields. Yep, the stories, girl. Yes, yes. Maybe you're still looking for your person. Um, and I hope you find it if you don't have one. But uh, if you do have that one friend that shows up and tells the truth and cheers for you and cheers for you when you win, and you know, it loves you through all the unhinged moments, hold on to them. They're rare. Um, and as always, thank y'all so much for sending us.

SPEAKER_01 56:49

Send us a picture of you and your bestie.

SPEAKER_00 56:51

I was gonna say, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 56:52

And I'll get we need to put that on Facebook, and then maybe we can do um we'll draw one and do a gift or a giveaway or something and send send you or deliver it to you or whatever if you're local for you and your bestie, a little happy.

SPEAKER_00 57:07

Yeah, and if you're not local, I mean uh we can ship it.

SPEAKER_01 57:09

Yeah, we can ship it.

SPEAKER_00 57:10

Yeah, yeah, we'll do a draw.

SPEAKER_01 57:12

Um little crazy European uh belly button obsessed, fella. Don't be sending us no pictures of you and your brand.

SPEAKER_00 57:19

No. We don't want it. I'm still getting oh my yeah, yeah. Y'all do that, that'd be great. And we'll we'll do a give, we'll do a draw and a giveaway. Um we'll do the draw live if we get your pictures. That'd be great. Um, but thank y'all so much. We know life is busy and we really appreciate y'all listening and spending part of your day with us. Um sorry for breaking down on y'all, but I love y'all. That's what that's the real the raw. I was gonna say that's nighty, the tears. That's what we're about. That's what this is about is the real and the raw and the unhinged. That's that's what it's about. Um, it means more than y'all will ever know. Y'all listening to us and downloading us. And if you enjoyed this episode, please be sure to follow rate and review on the podcast wherever you're listening. Uh, and share this episode um with your best friend and let them know that you're thinking about them. Um, we'd love to hear from y'all. We'd love to hear how long you and your best friend have been friends. Um, tell us in the Facebook group, a little unhinged uh podcast private community. Um, there or TikTok, Instagram. Yep, TikTok, Instagram, um a little unhinged, uh 26 at gmail.com. Y'all can write in there. The send us fan mail link right there on the Apple Podcast episode, y'all can send it there.

SPEAKER_01 58:46

And I have some of y'all that like will text us or send something on Messenger or whatever. Yeah. If you want to, you can send send text, whatever, message us the picture and we can post it for you.

SPEAKER_00 58:56

Yeah, send it through Messenger, text us, we'll post it, whatever y'all want to do. And don't forget to send us um your Am I a Little Unhinged stories. Um, because we uh those are our favorites. We love reading those. And until next time, y'all remember that life is messy and friendship is a gift, and it's okay to be a little unhinged, and we love y'all. Love y'all. Bye. Bye. See you next time. Okay, I have to put y'all on to one of my favorite places, and it's the Honey Bee Coffee Cupboard. I'm there literally every morning. It's part of my routine at this point. Latte and egg bite in hand before I can function. The coffee is amazing. The atmosphere is so welcoming, and it's just one of those local spots that you end up loving real quick. And listen, if you haven't tried their cupcakes of the week yet, what are you even doing with your live? They switch flavors and they are dangerously good. They have several different breakfast options to choose from. And I use the online ordering and order ahead every morning, so my order is ready when I get there. So whether you're local or not, stop by Honey Bee Coffee Cupboard, grab your coffee, try a cupcake and the breakfast, and tell them I sent you.