S2 E18 The Stuff Under The Stuff

In this brand-new series of Me Again, God, Charlene Condu dives into “The Stuff Under the Stuff” — the hidden heart issues quietly keeping so many women stuck spiritually, emotionally, and mentally. This isn’t about shame, perfection, or pretending to have it all together. It’s about finally getting honest about the things we normalize: comparison, control, bitterness, striving, people-pleasing, perfectionism, and the deeper roots beneath them.

With raw honesty, biblical truth, real-life examples, and the casual “coffee and conversation” style listeners love, Charlene invites women into a deeper level of healing and freedom. This episode sets the foundation for the entire series by asking one powerful question: What if the thing keeping you stuck isn’t what you thought it was?

If you’ve ever felt like you love God but still can’t seem to break certain cycles… this series is for you.

Because healing starts when we stop avoiding the stuff under the stuff.

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Transcript

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I had my coffee ready, had my future in my hand. He whispered something too. But I read all his plan. He showed me every flag. Help money. But I'm already there. Here's a pretty chaos. How's it felt like true? The good hill like a drug. I didn't want to lose. The enemy dressed the counterfeit like an answer.

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Hey, welcome back to Me Again God, the podcast for women who knew him, left pieces behind, and are starting over. I'm Charlene Condue, and today I want to do something a little different. I want to talk to you before we talk. Because I'm about to take you somewhere that's gonna require a little trust. And I think you deserve to know where we're going before we get there. I've been sitting with something for a while now. One of those things it starts as a quiet thought and just won't leave you alone. You know the kind? God keeps nudging it back to the surface every time you think you've moved on. And here's what it was. I kept noticing in my own life, in conversations with women I love, in the messages that come into my inbox, that so many of us are trying. We're genuinely, sincerely trying to walk with God. We're praying, we're showing up to church, we're reading the word, we're serving, and we're still stuck. Not spiritually dead, not walking away, just stuck. Like there's something underneath the surface that we can't quite name, something that keeps pulling us back, something that keeps dimming the light no matter how hard we try to turn it up. And I started asking God, what is that? What is the thing that keeps good, faithful, trying women from actually breaking through into the freedom you promised them? And what he started showing me was not what I expected. It wasn't the big, obvious stuff. It wasn't the sins we already know about and feel terrible about. It was the quieter things, the things we don't even call sin, the things we've normalized, excused, and dressed up in more acceptable language so we don't have to look at them too closely. Things like grumbling, comparison, control, people pleasing, striving, bitterness, shame. How about perfectionism? None of those sound that serious, do they? If we went into a confession booth, I'm fairly sure we wouldn't say, forgive me, father, for I have been a f perfectionist. We don't put we've been striving on our prayer request card. But here's what I've come to believe, and what scripture backs up over and over again these are not personality quirks. They're not just the way some women were are wired. They're heart issues and they have roots. And if we never deal with the roots, we will keep pruning the same branches for the rest of our lives and wondering why nothing changes. That's what this series is about. And I'm calling it this stuff under the stuff. If you're fairly new to my podcast, I want to share with you what I'm all about, what this is all about. I am not a preacher. I encourage you to find a church and learn from him. I am a woman that has learned many lessons and I research. I feel the conviction and I turn to the Bible and I dig in. I started writing books, my podcast, I have my music to share. All of it is about common issues us women face every day. After I read and I pack it down in, I find myself with this knowledge that frees me, and I'm able to share it with others. My life is blessed. I'm learning and my convictions they never stop. I can barely keep up with the work. The Lord just keeps doing in my life every day. I wish I had the time to podcast daily to share the miraculous work he does in my life. The material he gives me to share with you is endless and so exciting. I've always loved writing, and God is freely using the talent he gave me to spread his word. I am in every single episode, every single one. I am right there with you. Please take what I've learned and pick up your Bible, read it, research it, dive in. You will be surprised what you find. Share it with me. My contact information is all over this podcast information. And just remember my name, Charlene Condue, and my brand, Me Again God. I'd love to hear your testimony. None of this is about pointing out the wrongs in your life or your weaknesses. You already know what those are. This is about getting free because you cannot heal what you will not name, and you cannot name what you've never had a language for. And that's what I want to give you in this series: language, clarity. And the word of God applied to the real, actual Tuesday afternoon of your life, not that Sunday morning version of your life, the real one. The one where you're sitting in traffic grumbling, the one where you're scrolling Instagram, comparing yourself to someone you've never even met. The one where you said yes to something you desperately wanted to say no to because you didn't want anyone to be disappointed in you. That life. That's where we're going. So here's what I'm asking of you as we go into this together. I'm asking you to be honest. Not with me. I'm just a voice in your earbuds, but with yourself and with God, because he already knows. He's not waiting for you to get cleaned up before he'll look at you. He's already looking. He's already there. He just wants you to stop running from the thing he's trying to heal. Some of what we talk about in this series is gonna feel uncomfortably familiar. You're gonna hear something and think, oh, that's me. I do that. And the temptation in that moment is gonna be to get defensive or to shut it down. Or to immediately think of three other women who need this more than you do. Don't do that. Stay in the room because the fact that it hit a nerve means God is working, and that's a good thing. Starting next time, we're diving in. We're gonna work through these one at a time. Slowly, honestly, with scripture and with real life woven together the way I know how to do it. And I believe, I genuinely believe that by the time we get to the other side of this series, something is going to be different for you. Not because of anything I said, but because you are brave enough to look at the stuff under the stuff. That's courage. And God honors courage. The intro and outro music from is from my album. No, I didn't sing it. I wish I did, but this deaf girl was given the ability to write. I was not given the gift of singing. If you want to hear more of it, you'll find it on my album on all music platforms under my album title, Me Again God. The title of the song is Let God Wreck Your Plans. Let me know what you think.