How We Learned to Communicate

And How It Shows Up Now 

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Welcome back to Roots to Restoration, Faith, Family, and Healing with Marie. In the last episode, we talked about what we learn about love and how those early experiences can shape how we give and receive it today. But today we're going a little deeper into something connected to that. Because how we learn love often affects how we learn to communicate, and sometimes we don't even realize how much of that we've carried with us. James 1 verse 19 says, Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry. Communication is not just about words, it's about how we express ourselves, how we respond, how we handle emotions, and those things are often learned early through what we experienced, through what we saw, through what was allowed and what wasn't. Some of us learn to speak freely, others learn to stay quiet. Some learn that expressing emotions was acceptable. Others learn how to hold everything in. And sometimes communication wasn't direct. It was indirect, avoided, or misunderstood. And without realizing it, we adapted to that. It shows up in how we handle conversations today. Some people avoid difficult conversations. Some over-explain because they feel like they have to be understood. Some shut down when things get uncomfortable. And others react quickly because they weren't taught how to process emotions calmly. Not because they want to, but because it's what they learned. But communication can be learned differently. You are not limited to how you learn to express yourself. You can grow into speaking clearly, listening intentionally, responding with understanding. Even if it feels unfamiliar at first. God cares about how we communicate, not just what we say, but how we say it, with patience, with clarity, with intention. And as you grow, it begins to guide how you respond, not from reaction, but from awareness. You don't have to stay silent if you were taught to hold things in. And you don't have to react quickly if that's what you're used to. You can pause, you can think, you can choose how to respond. And that choice is part of your growth. Ask yourself how do I usually respond in conversations? Do I avoid? Do I over-explain? Do I react quickly? And then ask, is that helping me or holding me back? You are learning a new way, a clearer way, a healthier way, and it takes time. But every time you pause, every time you choose differently, you are growing. Let us close with a prayer. Heavenly Father, help us communicate with clarity and understanding. Guide our words, and teach us to respond with wisdom and patience. In Jesus' name, amen. Thank you for joining me and Roots to Restoration, faith, family, and healing with Marie. Be blessed and continue growing in faith, healing, and restoration one season at a time.