Learning to Stop Abandoning Yourself for Others

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Welcome back to Rules to Restoration, Fate, Family, and Heal with Marie. In the last episode, we talked about self-blame and how many of us quietly carry responsibility for things that were never ours to hold. But today we are going deeper into something connected to that. Because sometimes in the process of trying to love others, we slowly stop showing up for ourselves. Some people become so focused on not disappointing others that they begin disappointing themselves. Mark 12 verse 31 says, Love your neighbor as yourself. Many people are taught how to give, but not how to perceive themselves while giving. So they pour into everyone else, support everyone else, carry everyone else emotionally, and over time they stop checking in with themselves completely, ignoring their own needs, ignoring their own exhaustion, ignoring their own emotions, and eventually they begin abandoning themselves quietly. Sometimes we become so used to prioritizing others that choosing ourselves starts to feel selfish. So we stay available, we stay emotionally open, we continue overextending ourselves even when internally we are tired. And the difficult part is many people don't realize they are doing it. Because self-abandonment can look like kindness on the outside, while internally you are slowly becoming emotionally depleted. It can look like always saying yes, even when you need rest, ignoring your own feelings to avoid disappointing others, staying emotionally available while secretly overwhelmed, or constantly putting yourself last until you barely recognize your own needs anymore. But healing teaches you something important. Caring for yourself is not selfish, resting is not selfish, having boundaries is not selfish. Listening to your own needs is not selfish. You cannot continue pouring from emptiness and expect yourself to remain whole. And learning that changes everything. God never asks you to lose yourself while loving others. Even Jesus stepped away to rest, to pray, to be still. And sometimes healing begins when you realize you deserve care to, you deserve peace to, and your emotional well-being matters to. You do not have to abandon yourself to prove your love for others. You do not have to exhaust yourself to feel valuable, and you do not have to ignore your own needs to deserve connection. Your needs matters too, your peace matters too, your healing matters too. Ask yourself, where in my life have I been neglecting myself emotionally? And then ask, what would it look like to start showing up for myself too? Healing is not only about how to treat others, it's also about how to treat yourself. And as you continue this journey, remember you are allowed to care for yourself without guilt. Let us close with a prayer. Heavenly Father, help us to stop abandoning ourselves while trying to care for everyone else. Teach us balance wisdom and healthy boundaries. Help us recognize our own needs and guide us towards peace, healing, and emotional restoration. In Jesus' name, amen. As we continue this season, this is part of a deeper reflection in the journey. Take what you need from it and let it meet you where you are. Thank you for joining me on Roots to Restoration, faith, family, and healing with Marie. Be blessed and continue growing in faith, healing, and restoration one season at a time.