Kids? In this Economy?: Sperm Parties, The Invite & a Fizzled Fourth

In this episode, Dr. JJ and Dr. Domi dive into a flu outbreak among military trainees tied to relaxed vaccine mandates, the deadly heat waves scorching Europe, and an earthquake in Venezuela — all through the lens of climate change and policy failures. Then they shift gears into personal territory: Dr. JJ recounts attending a "sperm-picking party" for a friend pursuing single motherhood, sparking a wide-ranging conversation about sperm and egg donation, donor diversity, and the surprisingly detailed (and sometimes unsettling) process behind it. The hosts get candid about their own choices to remain childfree, reflecting on career demands, personality fit, and what parenthood really requires. They close out with pop culture recommendations — the show Best Medicine and Olivia Wilde's new film The Invite — plus a wry take on the underwhelming buzz around the country's upcoming 250th anniversary celebration.

Disclaimer: Dr. JJ and Dr. Domi are doctors, but not your doctors — please consult your own physician for medical advice.

Dr. Domi's Book Link: The Script Rx: An Insider's Guide to Thriving & Staying Fabulous in Medical School

Timestamps

• 0:00 — Intro
• 0:50 — Clinical tea: flu outbreak at San Antonio-Lackland Air Force Base
• 5:44 — Deadly European heat wave and Venezuela earthquake
• 7:00 — Climate change reflections
• 7:27 — Case report: "Kids in this economy?" — the sperm-picking party story
• 13:49 — Donor diversity and racial disparities in sperm/egg donation
• 15:07 — Dr. JJ's own egg retrieval story
• 19:10 — Choosing to be childfree: careers, personality, and honest reflection
• 27:10 — On mentorship, teaching, and why neither wants to do it "half-assed"
• 30:04 — Dr. Domi's book: The Script Rx
• 31:12 — TV/movie recommendations: Best Medicine and The Invite
• 35:16 — Rants and raves: the underwhelming 250th anniversary celebration
• 36:40 — Outro

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SPEAKER_02 0:03

Welcome to No Other Skills MD, where I, Dr. JJ, a psychiatrist in desperate need of a mental break. And I, Dr. Domi, a pediatric anesthesiologist with a dusty degree in fashion design. Explore the intersections of medicine, personal growth, pop culture, and surviving a dictatorship.

SPEAKER_00 0:22

From dissecting the absurdities in healthcare, navigating midlife transformations, and delving into the latest newsworthy topics.

SPEAKER_02 0:29

Join us as we share candid conversations and learn more because we have no other skills, MD.

SPEAKER_00 0:35

And just remember, although we are both doctors, we are not your doctors. So please seek out your own physicians for actual medical advice. Hi, Dr. JJ. How are you? I am good. How are you doing? Good, good. What I am interested in is let's delve in to spilling the clinical tea. What has been happening on the medical front?

SPEAKER_02 0:58

Oh, you know, I know that we've been going through the pandemic alphabet as of late, but uh, of course, uh newsworthy is a quite a big flu outbreak happening at the San Antonio Lackland, Texas Air Force Base. I wonder how that happened.

SPEAKER_00 1:15

Do tell, do tell.

SPEAKER_02 1:17

I know. Well, it turns out that uh the flu vaccine for our wonderful trainees in the Air Force are no longer mandatory, as said by our, you know, uh uh what is his uh even position, Pete.

SPEAKER_00 1:32

The brain worm. Uh I refer to him, also known as RFK Jr. Uh the RFK Jr.

SPEAKER_02 1:40

Exactly. Well, literally, I mean he like Pete Heggset, though, uh uh thanks to RFK, essentially said that uh these flu vaccines are no longer mandatory. So what once went from probably occasional exceptions due to having an allergy for the flu vaccine, maybe 5% of people recruited to uh basic military training at the site um used to get the flu shot. Now only 40% of people got the flu shot for this recent recruitment. And it sounds like based on different uh resources, anywhere between 160 to almost 300 recruits have been diagnosed with influenza since the beginning of June, thanks to this. Uh lack of mandatory. I don't believe it. Can you believe it? Predictable at all. And despite these very young people, four have been actually hospitalized, and there might actually be one death attributed to this. So just to say that um, I guess in April, Pete, Defense Secretary Much, uh, decided that this was gonna be the new rule. And here we are dealing with trainees in dormitories undergoing physical stress, you know, not sleeping well, in close contact, and a major flu outbreak in June. Summer flu. Thank you.

SPEAKER_00 2:56

That is uh tragic for people who are uh presumably otherwise healthy. So that does not sound great. It is preventable. I have personally been getting the flu shot probably since I was uh 12 or 13. I had childhood asthma, so obviously it was a good idea for me. But the flu is no joke. Uh people die every year from the flu. And it's especially when you're in closed quarters like our service uh men and women are uh it's probably a good idea to get that vaccine, even if it isn't mandatory, just FYI. Like I said, we are not your physicians, but vaccinations are usually a good idea, and it's kind of predictable when people don't get them what the end result are. So it's not surprising, it's just sad.

SPEAKER_02 3:51

It's I mean, literally the statistical outcome came true. Obviously, this was totally predictable based on this uh shift in policy. And of course, what did the Pentagon do in response to this? They reinstated the mandatory influenza vaccine, thankfully, after almost 300 trainees, uh, like, you know, it what an impact too in their basic training. So, anyway, just want to let you know, we're seeing the administration again coming down and instilling these I don't know ideas.

SPEAKER_00 4:24

I don't know where they come from, but nonetheless, not medical fact, I could tell you that. It's not based in medicine. They have not considered actual physicians, I could tell you that.

SPEAKER_02 4:35

Yeah, predictable, predictable. It says something very predictable, and it says something that only uh 40% of the recruits coming in chose to get it versus more. So, you know, it is actually really impactful what the administration is doing. Again, we come from it from a different perspective, but nonetheless, um, you know, I hope everybody recovers well and things get back to going back back up and going.

SPEAKER_00 4:59

But because there needs to be service people because there's war afoot. There is a true war after. Fuck think about this administration. There's always gonna be a war afoot. So unfortunately, we will need our our defense uh people nice and healthy.

SPEAKER_02 5:15

Um yeah, readiness. Exactly.

SPEAKER_00 5:18

It's yeah, Pete Heggseth is not the Secretary of Defense, he's a Secretary of War. Remember, they changed the name. Thank you for that reminder. It's not the Department of Defense, it's the Department of War, because that's who we are now.

SPEAKER_02 5:36

Well, Pete, then uh you're gonna have about 60% of your servicemen unavailable to participate in the war.

SPEAKER_00 5:42

Exactly, exactly. Oh my goodness. Speaking of other medical news or just kind of tragedies around the world, the heat wave. Yes, there's a heat wave in the United States a little bit, but in Europe, for countries that do not believe in AC, and obviously, yes, they have you know old buildings, and it's hard to retrofit AC units, but quite a pe a lot of people have passed away in Europe from the heat wave. I think in the last couple of weeks, a hundred people in Paris have died from the heat wave. People have drowned because people are so hot they're going into rivers to lie, and several people have drowned as a result of it. And there was an earthquake in Venezuela. Yeah, and I think the numbers will be off because entire buildings collapse. There's videos of it everywhere. And just when you think about all the these things happening, all of earthquakes and tsun tsunamis and all these things, it points to climate change. And again, we're in an administration where they don't believe those things are actually happening, and it only seems to be getting worse. So if you think about what weather and climate used to be when we were kids versus now, and of course, I grew up in New York, we both grew up in New York. What weather was in New York back then and what it is now seems different. But obviously, the scientists are telling us it actually is different, it's not just a subjective thing. And what are they gonna be for the next generation or two generations from now? What are we actually leaving children with? And so that brings us to our presenting problem. Our case report is kids in this economy. I feel like Dr. JJ has a very interesting story about children, and I I need to hear about this. She gave me the children uh offline, but I need the deets right now. Tell me about this party you went to.

SPEAKER_02 7:48

Yeah. So I recently went to a party where um a friend has decided to have children. Um, I believe she's around the age of 40, and she recently broke up with a partner uh due to them being a man. I don't know if I have to say more anyway. Um, but at the same time continues to really desire uh to have a child. And so I went to a sperm picking party, for lack of a better way to put it. Uh, where's one does? I yeah, I'm like, it's 2026. People buckle up. I mean, I have to say, I've known quite a few women who have had children on their own through sperm donation. Also, same-sex couples who have had uh children through sperm donation. But this was the first time I went to one, to an actual like kind of party where we were really celebrating the decision, providing all the support because this child will be raised by community. But it was fun to sort of talk about, you know, one IVF. We we really it was kind of like a baby shower. There were games. Um, we got to look at some profiles. I I came to learn that a lot of uh sperm donors, it's optional to provide pictures of yourself as an adult. You do have to provide a baby picture of yourself, which is fascinating. Interesting. And a little bit of your biography. Um, you could also provide like a recording of your voice. Uh and so there was, you know, quite a bit of information that I really downloaded in support of our friend who is going through this and to make it a choice occasion because obviously there's grief and loss associated with potentially not having a partner to raise a child with. But how do you then take it there from that to the next level of celebrating the choice and seeing what's out there? Also, just so you know, all the sperm donors are much younger than her.

SPEAKER_01 9:54

There were some that were like 20. I think you have to be at least 18 and over.

SPEAKER_00 9:59

But um and then the frontal cortex have not developed in some of these sperm donors.

SPEAKER_02 10:05

Uh no, and you could kind of tell by some of the pictures that were shared as well.

SPEAKER_00 10:10

Um, and you're like Please tell me there were no bathroom selfies, geez Louise.

SPEAKER_01 10:14

Oh no, thankfully. I I think this is a different type of swipe, you know, a little different swipe situation.

SPEAKER_00 10:25

I hope so. Some dating as well. I am so interested. Before we move on from the children, yes, yeah. So you they provided baby pictures and education levels, I'm assuming.

SPEAKER_02 10:39

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 10:40

Family history of diseases or medical facts, I assume.

SPEAKER_02 10:44

Yes, definitely. That is included, yes. And then that includes health. I believe so. You know, that was not disclosed during the uh session that I was part of, but I do believe that they have to provide kind of an extensive mental health and medical health picture. But how is it verified?

SPEAKER_00 11:03

Yes. And I'm also paranoid about sperm donation because perhaps a man at 20 who maybe is looking for some income, because men do get paid for this. I don't know how much. It's not a living. How many times are they allowed to give a sample? How many, you know, if there's a great catch, but he's 20 years old, some extra income because he doesn't want to Uber, how many deposits is he making? How many children will he have in, you know, a city? Right? And so I worry about the next generation and if there's gonna be accidental incest, that's what I worry about because I've seen too many movies.

SPEAKER_02 11:47

In fact, this is a great question. I don't have all the statistics down, but one of the gentlemen was a very uh like in high demand is the best way to put it, and they had recently ran out of his quote unquote donation. So I don't know if they then like tap him on the shoulder and say, Hey, you need to make a deposit again, buddy.

SPEAKER_00 12:10

Oh my god. Please stop. Oh my god. Because you could just, you know, you could be a child and go to a high school and you might have multiple siblings, you know.

SPEAKER_02 12:20

I think that didn't work. I think I don't know what the documentary is called, but there was some person who, through sperm donation, has had like hundreds of children. And it turns out that they all sing marvelously. Like this person was a singer, and I think if I'm not mistaken and not making this up, that they all came together and maybe all sing together as half siblings.

SPEAKER_00 12:43

Yeah, they're this very Vontrack family.

SPEAKER_02 12:46

Exactly. I think that they might have checks and balances now because of this exact situation.

SPEAKER_00 12:53

That that concerns me about accidental incest or uh finding out you have a sibling otherwise. Because that would mean that because not everybody gets blood tests before they're married. Is that a thing before, right? People get blood tests before marriage all the time.

SPEAKER_02 13:09

So is that required? I don't know anymore because I never got legally married, just as a heads up. I'm a domestic partner, also. So we didn't have to go through all the rigmarole of that, but my understanding is that there is some vetting done to make sure that you're really not genetically related. Thankfully, Sean and I are very different.

unknown 13:26

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 13:28

Oh, so they include the race, correct? Yes. Yes, they do. And um, I was recently on social media, and there was a CNN former anchor who's our age, maybe 47, that decided to have a baby on her own and using sperm donation. And I think by virtue of seeing the baby, everybody assumed she's a black woman that the sperm donor must have been white. And so there was a lot of discourse on that. But it turns out that a lot of sperm donors, or most of the sperm donors in the United States, the vast majority are white. So even if let's say you're a black woman or a brown woman looking to have a baby, the the amount, the number of men donating that are actually of color is very, very small. So you may, I wouldn't say not have a choice, but kind of the other factors you're looking for, you might have to do some compromises on in order to get uh a child that you are racially, you know, uh have preferences for. So that's interesting. Is your friend of color or not of color? She's not of color. So and were all the profiles, were they all white? Yes. Yeah. Specifically. That may not have been the choice, it might just be what's available.

SPEAKER_02 14:49

Exactly. And and also she she did dwiddle down her choices, at least that she shared with us. I think this will be an ongoing thing for her, but in the moment for this event, um, she only wanted people who provided adult pictures of themselves as well. So there's a lot of like restriction, but I hear you about like sort of the racial um backgrounds of donors and and also just want to put forward for women who are seeking like egg donation because for some reason they may themselves might not be able to have children with their eggs. There's very limited um uh egg donors that are not white as well. I, you know, I when I so I guess we could get into it a little bit though. So because I I don't know if you've ever done any kind of uh egg retrieval or had any desire for children. Um, but I did go through egg donor. I did get egg removal. Yeah, so a lot of people have I know. So I did it when I was 35. I also, Dr. Domingue have never had a desire to have children, but I was also on the fence. I come from a place of what you do as a woman is have children. So um the and I think at one point my father, I love that man, but he did say at one point when I was very much like I'm not interested in having children, he's like, you're wasting your womanly, you know, potential. And I was like, I was like, thanks, Dad. Anyway, so um also to say that I did at 35 do go through the egg retrieval process because I had really good benefits at work. I have to say, I think not as common for female physicians to delay child uh bearing because of the rigmarole of medical school and residency, of course. And so when I started working at my previous job, like I really did have good benefits. And I was in a situation where I was single, I was 35, I was unsure what my future would look like. So I I went through it and I actually tried to do the egg retrieval process like once and just didn't feel good when I was doing it, so stopped and then went back to it and did it. And I actually just want to say produced a little bit. You have some eggs, oh, how many? I produced like over 30 and like literally as the procedure was over, the uh my OB uh gave me a high five because I was waking up from the procedure.

SPEAKER_01 17:21

He's like, damn, you know, you did a good job.

SPEAKER_00 17:24

Um you have the ovaries of a 20-year-old. Yes.

SPEAKER_02 17:28

I've I I knew that based on all my hormonal shifts and changes and mood and everything else. So anyway, I did do retrieval and I then paid red for them for about 10, like I don't know, eight years, and then I finally recently um donated them to science. Um not to a couple because unfortunately, when I initially got them retrieved, I like in the contract that I signed related to the eggs, it said that I could never donate them to a couple, which is too bad because those are beautiful South Asian American Indian eggs that could have gone to the rightful owner, you know? So it was. So you didn't want your eggs donated, or by virtue okay. Virtue of the contract, unfortunately, I couldn't donate them. And I think it would be weird if there were like half little Jothes around. I I don't know. I'm just gonna say that. Or Dr. JJ's around. So I will say that um uh it was an interesting decision to like I like in terms of even donating them, I had to go to a notary to get it, like to actually be able to provide consent to my own eggs to be donated. It was a whole process. But I did do it under like, you know, back in the day, just in case. Though, you know, now I'm beyond that. I, you know, I have a partner who also on our third date, we both were like, we don't want children, and it was great, and that like was definitely put to bed very quickly. But I really wondered if, you know, as I approached 40, if I really did have that desire, would I, you know, I I just really never had it. I I'm not being articulate enough right here, so we could always edit this out so I but yeah, I'm curious what you're thinking on your world.

SPEAKER_00 19:17

I think as a child, you say, Well, when I get married and have children, and that was always oh, when I get married and have children, but I never really thought about it. Probably since I was an adult as maybe 18, it just never seemed like something I really had a desire to do because it looks like a lot of work. And I just I knew I was in for medical school, and I was like, that's a hard job. I'm I have no plans to have more than one hard job. So if I'm having a hard career, I'm not also having a hard life at home. Uh, it was just never a desire, but I was open to maybe perhaps if I felt it later on, I could adopt an older child or be a foster mom or something like that. But also as I've aged, I also have no desire to do those things either. I just I like my solitude. I just don't have the capacity or the desire for that 24-hour job. Because I know myself, I would want, I could put my all into it, but I would want to be retired from motherhood at 45. I would want those kids out by 18. Maybe I'll see you at the holidays. And I was like, if that's kind of how you feel, perhaps parenthood is not for you. And also I think about things in a larger context. It's not just about me, but the world around me. Is it something that's improving? What kind of world are we bringing children into? And also population issue with resources. So I never really saw a benefit as far as the larger community. I do my best best, even though I also we all have selfish moments, but to think of the community as a whole, and I never just saw the benefits, and also I don't have a strong desire. So, what is the point of having or thinking about having children unless you have that really strong desire not just to be a mom, but to raise them? I think also a lot of people are out here having children that don't really have a strong desire to raise them or have an idea of the capacity that you need to have within yourself to do that properly. And of course, we can be judgmental because we're not parents, but that's our choice, and we just happen to make good choices. I agree. We do make a choice. But also, I have a hard day job. I take care of children in a different capacity as a you know pediatric anesthesiologist. But I just it it looks like a lot of work, and I just exhaust the exhaustion. I can't imagine how exhausting that would be on. Top of the life that I already have for something I didn't feel an internal pull for. Right. I don't see that changing. I'm 47. My eggs are on another planet. The pain menopause has started, and that those eggs are are leaving the planet right now. They are dwindling fast.

unknown 22:24

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 22:24

I know. I I mean it is, it was, you know, I I you know, it's interesting. I think that is the difference is this overwhelming innate desire, despite all of the circumstances, independent of like how crappy the world is right now in terms of some of the things we talked about, like disease, climate change, the economy, all of it. The cost of having kids is quite something. Um, and then yeah, like the utter dedication focus and support that you have to provide. And you know, for me, I never had that like pull that would manifest in having to do things beyond it happening maybe quote unquote accidentally or with some planning when I was much younger, I will say. Like, I think, yeah, that ship sailed a long time ago. But I never had that, like, like there that wasn't a focus for me. The other thing that I have to say, I don't know about you, Dr. Jimmy, but I just think my kid would maybe turn out to be like, I don't know. I don't want to say that I have a simmering desire to kill people, but I feel like I might have born a born a murderer.

SPEAKER_00 23:37

I mean, I'm I could be a little critical. So my kid would be so over me. My kid would be at like a runaway at 12. It would have enough for me.

SPEAKER_02 23:49

I don't I think of myself as a parent, and I think I would be overly controlling, anxious all the time, and like so micromanage-y. Like, I don't want to explore that part of me. Correct. That's correct.

SPEAKER_00 24:02

I I don't think it would make me a better person.

SPEAKER_02 24:06

No, I think I would be like kind of, you know, because it is funny. It is, I do just want to say I give credit to all the parents out there. I really give credit to mothers in particular. Um, I, as physicians, we know a lot of working mom docs. And I just always like I have to say, that was like a little bit of my soft spot was just like a huge desire to care for these women and birthing people because it is just an immense amount of work and balance. And like children just go through the bringer. And what modern kids are like are really different from I think what we were like. I like was afraid of my, not afraid of my parents because they were like, you know, more like I don't want to cross them. Yeah, they were very strict, and like I think we're both doctors because of that. Anyway, nonetheless, like I just think kids now are very um articulate, they have a lot of information. We've talked about the differences in generations, like, and how that translates into interacting with them. I'm like, I don't want no sass, I don't want nothing, none of that. And I think how then I would parent would come out in this way that I was just very rigid and intense and kind of um uh controlling in a way that would just uh erode me.

SPEAKER_00 25:26

I think it would take a little bit of joy away from me, if that would if that makes sense. I think what I would have to do to be the parent I wanted to be, to raise the kids I wanted to be, would just uh personally take a little bit of joy from my innate personality. And it's everybody's choice on what you want to do, but you have to be prepared and also the finances. I didn't want to have to work to provide the life that I would have envisioned for a child of mine. The amount of work that I would have to do would be the life where I'm working full-time, where I'm taking those calls, where there's a financial sacrifice and I don't want to do it. I don't know, and there's a lot of people on the planet.

SPEAKER_02 26:17

Yeah, there's way more than we need already, even though we're being taught that that's not the case by certain people.

SPEAKER_00 26:24

This administration wants everybody to have a child. I should say, probably not everybody, maybe certain people more than others, but the desire certain uh you know, certain people to have kids and not others, right? Yep. You know, if you don't pass the paper bag test, you they don't want you to uh have a child. And it's it's wild when we don't even the freedom when people are pregnant to decide if you want that pregnancy or not, depending on what happens. And it's it's kind of a wild time, and you know, we're gonna be having measles again, and we're having all these diseases come back because there's not a respect for science and and medicine. And another reason kind of that I know that parenthood is not for me, because every so often at work I'm presented with a medical student or a resident. And it feels to me sometimes like having children. Oh, I can't do this every day. Oh gosh, you mean you're doing it. We have so much patience to teach on a regular basis, and that is what parenthood is. You're teaching someone how to be a part of this world and defend for themselves, and and that's emotionally exhausting to be in teaching mode all the time. So the day that I have a resident or a medical student or or something like that, I'm I'm emotionally exhausted because I was like, I feel like I've taught enough. Yes, it's only been like three hours, it slows things down too.

SPEAKER_02 28:01

It slows everything down teaching.

SPEAKER_00 28:04

Oh I know. That's is it like that with toddlers trying to get them out of the house and trying to get their shoes on, they're taking clothes off and the exhaustion. I I don't think I can handle it. I don't have it in me.

SPEAKER_02 28:17

I believe you, and I I really I I've had a little bit of drop-in, like bursts of parenting, helping my with my nibblings here and there. Yeah. And I remember when they were very young, it was very challenging. And also, um, there's a lot of emotions that come out of nowhere that you have to manage. And then, of course, then with teaching, um, I have to say, I too, I I always stayed away from any kind of teaching mentorship positions in previous, and even now when people ask me, I'm like, uh no, because I I yeah, there is something that you have there's extra to it. I mean, maybe I'm fundamentally just like really uh I I don't want to describe myself as lazy because that's not fair, but like I don't want extra, and I think that that's where the draining comes from with mentorship, advising, teaching. Well, I think it's a respect thing.

SPEAKER_00 29:16

You respect children, and if you respect, you know, the art of learning and teaching, you realize it takes an immense desire and a lot of effort, and you don't want to half-ass it, to be quite honest. So you really can't know yourself. And there are a lot of people who just kind of do things or strive for mediocrity, and I think if you're raising a child or if you are in a position where you have to teach someone, mediocrity is not gonna cut it. Mediocrity is, you know, this administration's like goal. But I don't think in parenthood or in in mentorship and things like that, mediocrity should be the standard. And so I think for us, because we respect those things and we respect children, if you're not gonna give it up your all, you shouldn't do it at all.

SPEAKER_02 30:10

Shouldn't do it all. I think that's so well put. You know, I never I you know, there was like this um for me aversion to teaching or mentorship because of I actually thought it was more related to having entitled students, related to just being like kind of like that happens, right? But you're right, like I know in myself I'm not gonna dedicate the level that's needed to just be quote unquote as expert as possible in some topic in order to then provide like the 360-degree viewpoint that somebody needs to be mentored or taught by. Occasionally I'll do it, but not like to that level. And I like that. You know, you're always teaching me something, Dr. Domi. You're a great mentor.

SPEAKER_00 30:51

Thank you. And I just put two and two together, like in real life. I I do not have the strong desire on a day-to-day basis to teach residents or medical students or frankly anyone, but I did write a guidebook for the medical students. That's right. Oh, tell us all about your book. Yes, yes. So it's called The Script RX: An Insider's Guide to Thriving and Staying Fabulous in Medical School. And I think I have a copy here, and I'm debating. We might have to put this on YouTube, Dr. JJ. So this is a book cover, and that's me, and it's super cute. Um, available on Amazon, but also on my website. We'll put it in the show notes. Uh but I wanted to give advice to medical students or people thinking about going into medical school, kind of cutesy little tidbits that nobody's gonna teach you. And that's and when I do have a medical student or a resident, I try to talk about the things that nobody else tells you about, as opposed to kind of structured lectures, things like that. Uh, maybe I did it because I don't want to do it in real life.

unknown 31:57

So I wrote it down.

SPEAKER_00 31:59

A book is better. Exactly, exactly. Read this, but you get you get the best of me, and it's it's super cute. It's nice little little gifts. So we do have that. Yes. And speaking about children, okay. There was something on a show that you recently finished. You finished Best Medicine, correct? Yes.

SPEAKER_02 32:17

Coming back to that after your wonderful recommendation. Um, yeah, I mean, so yeah, part, you know, one thing I like about that show a lot is that I do think they depict people at their ages. Um, and so they're the end, you know, a little bit of a spoiler alert, but towards the end of the season, um, and it has been renewed, so I'm looking forward to the next season. What the the female romantic lead that is in a potential love relationship with Dr. Bess, um, she decides that she wants to have children on her own. And so it is interesting. I mean, this is being written into shows now of like 40 something, it looks like 40. She's of advanced maternal age, which I've been called that as well. Yeah, um, I think anybody who's over 20, it will be advanced maternal age at this point. But yeah, I mean, the end of the one of the big storylines I will go into the next season is is she gonna have a baby? And with who? And whose sperm? It could be a person that's a party. I hope they do have a party because they have a lot of parties on that show.

SPEAKER_00 33:24

But anyway, I have never been to a sperm picking party, but I kind of want to do that now. Yeah, but I did see an interesting movie this weekend in theaters, which is unusual for me post-pandemic. It's called The Invite, and it is directed by Olivia Wilde. Do you know her? She was in the show House and uh directing. She was um dating Harris for a while.

SPEAKER_02 33:50

She was married to Jason Sudekis.

SPEAKER_00 33:52

Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. And they had a drama with that. Uh so she directed it, she stars in it. It has Seth Rogan. Um oh gosh, I'm just Penelope Cruz and Edward Norton. Funny cast. Fun cast, funny movie. I was laughing out loud the whole time, which is unusual. Usually you can get a chuckle out of me, but I was laughing right. Movie is mostly get a from me, but I was laughing out loud as well as the entire audience. So well done. It's basically a depiction of a marriage and the troubles that they had, and also pre- and post-child. And you don't see the child in the movie, but they they talk about that and how the their marriage is affected by the child. And I started thinking, I wonder what they would have been had they not had the child, because they were, you know, it's a very interesting, good movie. I I don't want to give any spoilers, but it was really well done. So I I don't know if I've watched anything that Olivia Wilde has written or directed in the past. Uh, I know she had some controversies with past movies, yeah. But it was really, really well done. Oh, love it. I highly recommend it, and I didn't feel like I wasted my money. I live in New York City, so that that ticket was $22. Oh. And to make up for that $22, I had wine in the theater. Yes, I did with my pretzel bites. Was it $22 also the wine? Probably. And a can of wine and my pretzel bites that were overly goosy, but it is what it is.

SPEAKER_02 35:30

Uh that's great. I've got to see it. I've heard a little bit about this movie. She, Olivia Wild did that movie. It was kind of like a Stepford wife horror film with Harry Styles, who he likes about it, but I don't think I saw it. Or it didn't make it. I know it I forget who else is in it, but it was uh oh, Florence. Yeah, yeah, I really like her. Um, but it's I'd be curious what you think about it. But I I'm glad to hear that it's funny. I need a good chuckle, and I needed like a good summer movie, you know?

SPEAKER_00 35:59

It was I liked it a lot. I think uh I was surprised because I just I saw good reviews, I didn't know anything about it, and I just wanted to leave the house and but pleasantly surprised. Yeah. And what do you have any rants? Do you have any raves this week? What's been happening?

SPEAKER_02 36:16

I know it's been a it's been a kind of busy, quiet week with the same old, same old, you know. I hear that there's some big 250th anniversary of uh this country that's coming up next weekend. Um, and so I I don't know too much about it because honestly, I'm so exhausted by what the news is that's coming out of DC, but it sounds like Trump's um party that he's throwing for himself is a real bust. I I don't know. I guess there's a state fair that's going on on the national mall for like weeks and nobody's showing up. Yeah, to shame them all. I think Vanilla Ice even pulled out of a performing last night. I'm sorry, pulled out. Uh uh, this is all related to our theme today in Child Free. But yeah, there was that uh like they quote unquote canceled it for weather, but really I think it's because there was like 20 people showing up. So we'll see how this uh next week goes as we fly into this big celebration. But I have to say, I mean, listeners, let us know. Are you celebrating? Do you care? Is it something worth celebrating right now?

SPEAKER_00 37:24

Because I have but also if you've been to a sperm party, please let us know. And if you have any any insight into sperm picking parties, um, or if you would like to invite myself, since I've never been, yeah, feel free. I am willing to travel for it.

SPEAKER_02 37:41

Yeah, that's the kind of parties we want to go to.

SPEAKER_00 37:43

Exactly. I've been to enough toddler parties, but I want to I want to start at the beginning where life origin stories, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 37:50

Of course.

SPEAKER_00 37:52

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SPEAKER_02 38:00

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