The Female Church Leaders Podcast
The Female Church Leaders Podcast with Kadi Cole offers practical tools and biblical insight for women leading in the local church. Each week, Kadi shares real stories, leadership strategies, and spiritual encouragement to help you grow in confidence, sharpen your skills, and lead with clarity. Whether you’re on staff, volunteering, building a ministry, or stepping into new levels of leadership, you’ll find wisdom, hope, and a community of female church leaders who get it - and are cheering you on!
The Female Church Leaders Podcast
FCLP 8 | How to Be Assertive Without Feeling Harsh or Unkind
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In this much needed episode of the Female Church Leaders Podcast, Kadi Cole breaks down what healthy, godly assertiveness actually looks like for women in ministry. Instead of choosing between being quiet or forceful, this episode offers a clear framework for leading with truth and love, without apology or over-explaining.
You’ll learn how to recognize passive, aggressive, and assertive communication patterns, why assertiveness is a learnable leadership skill, and how practicing clarity strengthens confidence over time. If you want your leadership voice to feel more aligned, steady, and effective, this episode gives you language you can use right away.
TIMESTAMPS
01:15 - The struggle of calibrating your leadership voice
02:30 - What we're taught NOT to be as female leaders
03:45 - The leadership tension between passivity and aggression
06:20 - Three primary communication styles explained
07:45 - Passive communication and its costs
08:30 - Aggressive communication and its costs
09:15 - Assertive communication: Jesus as the model
Resources mentioned:
Assertiveness Cheat Sheet - kadicole.com/assertiveness
Next Steps and Resources:
- Take the Quiz: Identify your growth gap with our Sticky Floor Quiz at femalechurchleaders.com.
- Join a Cohort: Be part of our next Closing the Leadership Gap cohort for guided coaching and monthly Q&A with Kadi. Visit closingtheleadershipgap.com to learn more.
- Stay Connected: Follow us on Instagram @femalechurchleaders for daily encouragement and leadership tools.
- Spread the Word: If you found this episode helpful, please follow, rate, and share the podcast to help us reach more female church leaders.
Tune in and get ready to lead with clarity, strength, and joy. Your calling matters, and we're here to support you every step of the way!
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