learn how to celebrate yourself

In this episode, I discussed learning how to celebrate the small things. I talked about my scarcity mindset that stemmed from my experiences and how it kept me from truly seeing the joy in things. Once I shifted my mindset,  things began to flow to me because I made space to receive joy and be able to feel it entirely. 

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Hey y'all, this is your girl Brianna, and this is the Divine Intervention Podcast. Where I try my best to make space to learn how to take up that space. And I'm here today because I wanted to do a quick little snippet. I've had a lot going on. I feel like I blinked and life became a whirlwind. And if I'm gonna be honest with you, it changed when I changed my outlook on stuff. It's like things just started to work. Things have always been working in my favor, whether I realized it or not. And I have to acknowledge that as well. Because to look back on like the past few years of my life and act like I haven't been extremely blessed is very disrespectful. But I think that I wanted to make this quick snippet today because I was apartment hunting today, and lately I've been on this thing of where when I do something, I celebrate myself. So if I like set a boundary and I'm firm on my boundary, I celebrate myself. I'm like, good job, Brie. Like you did a great, you did, you did wonderful. No matter how the person took it, you did lovely. Um, you stood your ground. I love that for you. Um, but today I was apartment hunting, and I'm looking at the place and I'm like, oh, this is this is nice, like I like this, whatever, whatever. And you know, when you when somebody's selling you something, you get caught up in the talk and the walk and whatever. And the person was talking to me, making it sound real good, and halfway through when they were saying what they were saying, something in my head said that sound real nice, Brie. But check your discernment, y'all. I can't make this up. I cannot make this up. I checked my stomach, and my stomach said, not here, and I don't know. I think that I just wanted to take some time to celebrate me learning how to use my skills because a lot of people, the sermon is a skill, a lot of stuff is a skill. I've used it, I've exercised it in many places before, but I think that normally when I'm exercising it, it's in like extreme circumstances, it's not in like day-to-day encounters or like I've started doing it with like conversation and like scheduling follow-up. I'm like, oh, we should, you know, you know how like sometimes you can get caught up in conversation with someone, you're like, oh yeah, we should connect sometime. I've started checking my stomach before I tell people we should connect again. Because should we? Do I want to sit in your energy again? I haven't even gotten back to my house and unwind it to see how I genuinely feel, and I'm telling you, we should do this again. Should we? Should we? But I really just wanted to take the space to like celebrate myself a little bit because I've definitely noticed. Um, and honestly, taking this space to say, you know, celebrate yourself. With everything going on, it's really easy to get caught up in what we feel like isn't going well or what's not going right. But it's always something that went good that day. Even if it's something small, even if it's something minor. I've just been trying to get in the habit of acknowledging that more. It's really easy to start to get. I'm trying to find the words. I don't think it's greedy or selfish. Besides yourself, it's coming up in my head too. But I think it's really easy to get engulfed in the negativity. Especially since the way that society is structured to me now, it's it's it's extremely easy for us to get wrapped up in it. There's this high expectation for accomplishments and succeeding, even though the current circumstances, especially if you're a recent grad, it's hard to find employment around here, y'all. Um, there is this high level and like high demand of like individuality. Really straying away from collective community. And so I don't know, lately I've just really been trying to take the time to enjoy those moments when something great happens, when something good happens, when something warms my heart. And to not allow things to just feel redundant or watered down to you. Granted, I'm in my 20s, so I have a lot more new experiences to go. And I'm I'm I'm kind of from a small town, so I get happy by the small, the smallest things. I'm gonna go to a Trader Joe's today. I do not know whether or not I've been to a Trader Joe's before. I don't think I have, but I'm finna have a ball, guys. And it's literally just going to like a grocery store, but I feel like I'm gonna have a great time in there. I bet they got some amazing snacks. I'm excited. Um, but anyways, really just taking the space to say take a few deep breaths. Think about at least two to three things today that went well for you. And it can be something small. I had about a four-hour drive today, y'all, and the traffic wasn't bad. That's something to be very happy about. And didn't nobody make me mad when I was driving. That's something else to be happy about. I had a lot of great conversations. That's something to be happy about. I'm just trying to find a way to create a culture or create a lifestyle where joy and the acknowledgement of the good is the center. I was talking to a friend the other day about how, and this was a random circumstance, but she was talking to me about how she went to a place, and in the back of her mind, she was saying, I really hope I don't see you, I really hope that this doesn't happen, and lo and behold, it's that the same. I feel like I'll be remixing sayings, anyways. Exactly what she didn't want to happen happen because she manifested it, and I think that's another reason why I've been so happy getting into like yoga and getting back into like meditation for real and sitting with myself and taking the time to really ground myself because I realized that when I shifted what I was putting my energy towards everything realigned to give me my greatest desires, and it made me think about how often I've given my energy to the negative. How many times I have given present brief, future breeze problems and worried about it, manifesting problems that I don't even have. I remember one time I was talking to um a young woman who she frequently serves as like a mentor to me. I look at a lot of people as mentors, I believe everyone has a wiser lesson to give. And I was talking to her because anybody that knows me knows that like I used to have I used to suffer from very bad anxiety, and I've shifted the way that I talk about it because I used to say I have anxiety or my anxiety or my blank blank blank whatever, and I'm learning that when you take ownership of these things and you take possession of them, now it is a part of you, and I don't think that anxiety is a part of me, I think it's something that I developed because of the space that I was in, but that doesn't necessarily mean that that's a part of Brie or that's a part of me that I have to take ownership of as my own. But I was talking to her, and she was like, Why are you worried about that? That's God's problem. You ain't even made it there yet, and it really shifted my thought process in a lot of things, and I've been so proud of myself at the top of 2026 because this has honestly been the first time in my life that I have felt carefree. It's it's the first time that like I wake up in the morning, and the first thing on my mind is I open myself to the joys of life. Like I'm gonna have a great day today. And I say it when I wake up, like I roll over and I smile, and I'm just like, oh yeah, we let's get it started. Like, this is gonna be a great day. Um, even when there are things that come up, oh my gosh, there would be times when I would get a blessing. I mean, a blessing, a great opportunity, and I'm up here worried about money and how the opportunity is gonna happen, not even celebrating the opportunity, and it really made me realize how I'm really searching for the words, it's just self-indulgent, how out of touch, how but I think that like growing up in a space where you're kind of surrounded by people that's always trying to make a way out of no way, it's it's easy for that to be where your mind goes to. You you always trying to solve the problems before they get there. You you're always problem solving, you're always thinking, well, I don't have enough money, or I don't have enough this or I don't have enough that. But think about the thing that you had enough of to get the opportunity. I think at the top of this year, I really shifted my thinking because I was always thinking from a place of lack and wasn't really acknowledging how much I had or how much I have. And I truly believe that that's why like the work of how you view yourself, self-perception, and like your relationship with yourself. I feel like it's so important because there are a lot of mindsets, systems, and like things that we build from the environments that we were in, and it's not intentional, it's not anything. I didn't realize there are so many things about myself I realized at the top of this year because I was finally in a place financially, and this is really what has opened my eyes to a lot these past months. When I finally got to a place financially where I could breathe a little bit, I realized how problematic so many ways I thought was. I realized how my mind was always in a state of survival, like I really was never in the moment, I was never appreciating things in its entirety because I was so busy trying to hold on to it and make it last as long as it could, and I'm gonna be so honest. I realized probably my senior year of college that that is the exact way that I even navigated love and relationships and dating. It's like you you get a hold of something good and you holding on to it, and it's this survival mindset, like this this thing is something that you could never possess again, or this thing is something that it's it's so good that you don't believe that you would ever be worthy enough to have it again, and it made me realize how many things to me. It's like the equivalent of holding on to your old beatdown car and God trying to bless you with a VN or a Bugatti, and you won't let this old raggedy car go and you won't let it go. It was great when it was great, but when it's time, baby, it's time, just let it go. Um, but I don't know, it really has made me think about how many times in my life I have been holding on to things because I I never thought that I would get it back again. Money, oh my gosh, money holding on to money, budgeting, trying to make every single penny last, not really wanting to let go of nothing, not realizing that in life things flow in a cycle, things will always make its way back to you, but you have to actually believe that it will, and I don't know, I've started to really adopt the mindset that things will come back to me, that I deserve for things to come back to me, that I'm worthy enough for things to come back to me, that I don't have to live in a state of acting like things are the last time that I'll ever experience something or have something or do something, or especially since I'm young. I got my whole life ahead of me, and even if I was older, I still got time as long as I'm breathing. If there's will, there's way. Um, I've also been trying to get out of the habit of saying I don't know after I say things, and normally when I say it now, I follow up with well, Brie, yes, you do know, because I think that that also stems from feeling afraid to get it wrong, and I think that I'm learning that it's okay to get things wrong. How else are you gonna learn? Lately I've had the song Beautiful Mess by Domani playing on like repeat because at least to me, when I listen to the song, I love this idea that look at my beautiful mess, like it's a lot going on. It's it gave me the same vibe as oh my gosh, what was that movie? Oh, it was Lilo and Stitch when Stitch was like, This is my family, it's broken and it's sad, but we love each other, and that's all we need. This is my family, like that. That's what it gives to me. It gives like, look at my beautiful miss. Like, it doesn't have to be perfect. Things in life don't have to be right, they don't have to look a certain way, they don't have to flow a certain way, they don't have to be anything than what it's already being, and then you find the beauty in what's there, and I don't know. I think that just goes back. I do know, Bree, you do know. I think it goes back to what I was saying earlier about that, just those little happies, like what's something that happened that genuinely like warms your heart when it happened? What's something that it may seem so small, but it made your day. If you made it this far, thanks for joining me today. Go drink some water, do some stretches, touch some grass, and I'll see you in the next one.