The Eastenders Way of Meeting The In-Laws

We use Eastenders hot topics to chat about our real worlds and have a good gossip!

Each week Abi and Ava use Eastenders storylines to talk about whats going on in their own and the wider world. 

This week they’re asking; Would you stay in touch with your ex’s family? And discussing all things Chelsea, Denise, Greys return and Sheilas meddling!

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Transcript

SPEAKER_01 0:00

Hi, I'm Ava. And I'm Abby. And you're listening to Ender's Afters.

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Where we use East Enders hot topics to talk about our real worlds.

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And have a good gossip. Welcome to the afters. Welcome to the afters. So, Abby, what's your storyline?

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Would you stay in touch with your ex's family?

SPEAKER_01 0:18

Not if they're for like anything like Gray's family.

SPEAKER_00 0:21

Yeah, for real.

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Psychopaths. Psychopaths. Like, psycho, psycho.

SPEAKER_00 0:26

Yeah, it's got to depend on the ex, really, isn't it?

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Sometimes in relationships, the family make it ruin your relationship because they're cuckoo ness.

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Click, click, click, click, click.

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Clack it. You know what I mean? Yeah. Sometimes they can have a really big influence on your relationship. 100%. And that's what's happening in East Dennis at the moment with Grey and his mum. She's worming her away from.

SPEAKER_00 0:48

I said his nan. Yeah. It's his nan. Bloody hell. But he got raised by his nan.

SPEAKER_01 0:53

Oh, because oh, because he's so fucked up life because he's that's why he's a loony.

SPEAKER_00 0:56

That's why he's loony.

SPEAKER_01 0:57

Not all loony's by fucking.

SPEAKER_00 0:59

You know, yeah, no, no.

SPEAKER_01 1:01

Um, yeah, they do. Um, oh, I didn't know that was his nan. But yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:06

Yeah. Yeah, I think it's got to depend on the family, but yeah, I think a lot of the time the families are the ones that like put things in their head and stuff like that.

SPEAKER_01 1:14

Like, and a lot of the times it's sad when you break up with someone because you say bye to their family.

SPEAKER_00 1:19

Yeah.

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That's why I'm keen on not meeting the family till quite late on, I'll be honest.

SPEAKER_00 1:23

Yeah, I agree.

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I'm I'm like that. It's like you need to keep that because sometimes the dynamics change when you know the families and stuff, because it's like, God, now you're really in it. You can't leave.

SPEAKER_00 1:32

No, and like, but also you just have your family's opinion. I don't know if you want them. I'm quite lucky, like, I haven't got I've got a big family, but in terms of things like that, I haven't, if you know what I mean. Like, I'm close with not much of my family, but like my mum wouldn't even bloody give me an opinion. But I know other people give me an opinion.

SPEAKER_01 1:50

No, but in a good way, she just like supportive, do you know what I mean?

SPEAKER_00 1:53

Yeah, um, but my friend the other day was like about to introduce a guy she was just seeing to her mum because her mum was coming down from like where they where they're from, and I was like, um, oh my earrings coming out, and I was like, um, I was like, already, and she was like, Yeah, it's been three months. Three mums, but like also it's been three years, yeah. But also their three months, like, you know, like even with when I was with my ex, we went hot and heavy from the beginning, right? So our three months was a lot more intense than other people's three months. Um, but I even our three months was way too soon as well. This girl has been normally dating him for three months, not even hot and heavy for three months. Me and my ex have planned our lives out by three months.

SPEAKER_01 2:39

And when you're younger, it's very charged like that, isn't it? But yeah, no.

SPEAKER_00 2:42

When you're younger, it was literally last year.

SPEAKER_01 2:44

Oh, that one. Sorry, I thought it was different.

SPEAKER_00 2:48

No, my other ex, we weren't my last ex, we didn't, it would not go on every night. You weren't meeting no parents, but um when you're young girls.

SPEAKER_01 2:58

Even like friends, friends like to leave friends out as well. Yeah, have your moment for as long as you can because if you're willing to spend the rest of your life with someone, then you're gonna meet them anyway, and it's regardless.

SPEAKER_00 3:08

That's actually one of my regrets, you know, is that like not that I introduced them to my friends, not at all that more just that I made a point of introducing rather than letting naturally happen. Like, you met my ex because we lived together.

SPEAKER_01 3:22

Yeah, you did you forget that?

SPEAKER_00 3:24

Did you know that, guys? Um, but like ramming it, yeah, ramming it down your throat, yeah. You're like organising it, like I kind of wish you didn't.

SPEAKER_01 3:33

Like the energy is like next step, next step. Sometimes like the steps are what puts pressure on you when people start to freak out. Yeah, all these unspoken languages in when you're getting into a relationship. That's why I just think go with the flow, find out who this person is. If you naturally meet the parents and stuff, fine. Yeah, and it's something comes up where you kind of need to And everyone's situation is different, and maybe you you know you're a bit older and it's different, like you're quite old, whatever. But you get what I mean?

SPEAKER_00 3:58

Yeah, especially But yeah, I don't know what like I I wouldn't I wasn't in any rush when I was in my last relationship to meet families.

SPEAKER_01 4:05

No, when it does happen, it's nice, yeah, yeah, yeah, for sure.

SPEAKER_00 4:08

And also it's a lot Ten years later, it's nice to meet you! I've never yeah, I've never met family in a proper setup. I did meet my other ex's mum, but like I was I was we were still friends at the time, just kind of seeing each other, so I wasn't introduced as a girlfriend. My first boyfriend, I met his mum because we were like young and he lived at home still, but I didn't even really chat to her to be honest. I've never met it in a like meet the parents way. How's it how was it for you?

SPEAKER_01 4:36

Um with my partner now. Yeah, yeah, it was nice because they're really nice and they live in Spain, but um would you stay in touch with his family if you broke up? Probably like um the odd text. The odd Merry Christmas, yeah, for sure, because they're really good people.

SPEAKER_00 4:51

He would definitely stay in touch with yours, wouldn't he?

SPEAKER_01 4:55

You don't know my partner.

SPEAKER_00 4:57

Oh yeah, maybe in the fact that he doesn't. Yeah, he probably would. He he might not text back, but like I feel like he gets on, but I feel like he gets on so well with your family. Your mum could still talk to him, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, for sure. And you're yeah, your mum that's what I mean. Like your parents.

SPEAKER_01 5:14

Um there's in previous relationships it's giving me the ick. Yeah, I'm like, I don't want to meet them.

SPEAKER_00 5:21

I know, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 5:22

I don't want to be like, I don't know about it. I don't want to see the baby photos, I don't want to hear stories from back in the day, I don't want to sit there and be bored. Oh, the small absorbed of it all. Or talk about me.

SPEAKER_00 5:32

The small talk of it all. I can't bring your rainbavy pictures with you. I'm like, oh yeah, I've actually seen them.

SPEAKER_01 5:41

Hi, lovely to meet you. Yeah, but it is lovely at the same time.

SPEAKER_00 5:45

Well, if you get some goodens, it's lovely.

SPEAKER_01 5:47

But my partner's family, they're lovely, they're the perfect family, honestly. Oh perfect.

SPEAKER_00 5:53

Well, Denise ain't having any of it anyway.

SPEAKER_01 5:56

No, I'm so glad she's come back. That scene where she was like that whole episode, she'd shut them all up. Loved it, I loved it.

SPEAKER_00 6:05

It was so true to how it would be. She weren't having it, and the way she was like, get around it, right? Yeah, I loved it. So every now and again an East Enders episode comes at me, and I'm like, I fucking loved watching that.

SPEAKER_01 6:18

I love the whole dynamic of their family, it feels so real because you've got the auntie and like their stepdads, yeah, yeah, yeah. Like yeah, they you really feel like they're going through something, and it's they are it's so sad for Denise.

SPEAKER_00 6:35

The way she is playing it is absolutely sensational.

SPEAKER_01 6:39

I've been loving it.

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I'm gonna say it. She's up there with Steve McBallin. Diane Parrish! We love you. We raise a glass to you, darling.

SPEAKER_01 6:49

Well, she is part of the furniture. She's I believe 20 years. Her and Kim are icons.

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Icons.

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But um, yes, I'm 20 years, you know. It's gonna be interesting to see how it all plays out as well how they're gonna do it.

SPEAKER_00 7:01

Can I get a web on the 20 years?

SPEAKER_01 7:03

20 years! That's why you think they're gonna kick her off the shoulder. Yeah, that's why that's what I meant earlier. I'm not having it, I don't want to hear anyone.

SPEAKER_00 7:11

I don't think she's gonna unfortunately die through this leukemia story, don't you?

SPEAKER_01 7:16

I think this week at the end, she was like, I'm gonna fight this. Is that them saying you're gonna die?

SPEAKER_00 7:22

No, I don't know.

SPEAKER_01 7:23

You know how they plant Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 7:25

No, but she's saying she's gonna fight it.

SPEAKER_01 7:27

Yeah, she's gonna fight it. So are we gonna get all like yay, and then they're gonna just gonna fucking kill us with that. Jack's gone through Ronnie dying. When Jack cries, I cry. He's so good. He's the best as well, really.

SPEAKER_00 7:42

When you cry, we cry.

SPEAKER_01 7:43

We yeah, the nation cries.

SPEAKER_00 7:45

The nation cries when Jack Brandon cries.

SPEAKER_01 7:47

Yeah, he's such a good actor. Yeah, he is great.

SPEAKER_00 7:50

Yeah, I think he was crying in it this week.

SPEAKER_01 7:51

Yeah, he's so good. Oh my god.

SPEAKER_00 7:55

Yeah. I think they are, I think it's gonna be a real heightened, strong, beautiful ending.

SPEAKER_01 8:02

Because I did see a clip of Kim wheeling her around.

SPEAKER_00 8:05

He's breaking my heart again already.

SPEAKER_01 8:08

It's of him wheeling her around like they're in the airport, they're like having sister fall, and I was like, God, is that her last day?

SPEAKER_00 8:14

I think it is. No, no, no, they're gonna have I think it is.

SPEAKER_01 8:17

No, I think Yeah, I think you're right. Because you can't have such a huge thing like that, leukemia, and then because they keep talking about the percentage of her living from this type of leukemia. Nah, but it's extended, anyone can get for anything.

SPEAKER_00 8:33

Anything, yeah, but also people get killed off left, right, and centre as well. I think Denise is gonna die.

SPEAKER_01 8:40

It's so sad Um we'll I'll see it while I see it.

SPEAKER_00 8:44

I'm so sad. I'm already upset.

SPEAKER_01 8:47

Alright, let's bring the move back, guys.

SPEAKER_00 8:48

So No, it'd be devastating, but that's it, that is my prediction.

SPEAKER_01 8:53

Yeah, but how is I think so, I think that Grey's gonna be linked into this. Do you know that?

SPEAKER_00 9:00

What, into her illness, you reckon? Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 9:03

They said something, which I've forgotten. He said something that in prison of if Denise dies.

SPEAKER_00 9:10

Oh yeah, if Denise dies, she's gonna need a grandmother.

SPEAKER_01 9:12

She's gonna need a grandmother to be in the family. So somehow he's gonna worm his way out because he is a psycho and he will worm his way back in, even behind bars.

SPEAKER_00 9:19

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 9:19

So yeah. Maybe she maybe she gets close to Denise and like starts giving her the right medication and stuff like that.

SPEAKER_00 9:28

Oh god, that would be awful. If she's gonna die, she needs to just die. I don't want it to be killed. I think it's gonna be heart-rending. Because it would be unjust, so unjust. But I think it would get sped along or something. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's I think so. You said as well that you think that the the Nan has something to do with Ian thinking he's going to prison.

SPEAKER_01 9:48

Yeah, the lawyer. I might be wrong, but there's something nanny. He assumed he was gonna go to prison and everyone's like, no, you need to fight it.

SPEAKER_00 9:56

But the lawyer was like I reckon he'll go to prison and get a little spatical for two years. No, but they only ever get six months in East Enders. Do you know what I mean?

SPEAKER_01 10:06

Oh, he's out on a pill. I don't think he's gonna go down. I think something's gonna come to light about the Nan.

SPEAKER_00 10:11

Do you re yeah, maybe before he You're like, we've got to talk about Ian going to prison?

SPEAKER_01 10:15

I'm like, I haven't gone to prison yet. Yeah, like it's definitely gonna happen.

SPEAKER_00 10:20

So Ian's in prison. Yeah, that's what I keep thinking's gonna happen. Do you know what was joke? What cracked me up this week when he was like to feel, um, when he was like to feel, can I uh say your name when I get in there? No, I know Can I use your name and feel that my name don't own anybody in there anymore.

SPEAKER_01 10:37

I know. What made me sad was when Kim was putting off going to see Denise because it's like that when you when someone's ill, you don't want to see them ill with a lot.

SPEAKER_00 10:44

Especially a personality like Kim. She like her defence mechanism is humour. So for her to actually have to be serious is probably a bit hard for her.

SPEAKER_01 10:52

I've seen her sister like changing, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 10:54

Oh how Kim's gonna be if they kill off.

SPEAKER_01 10:57

I don't like I want to see it when I see it, please. I don't want to know. You don't oh I don't know. I'm just predicting. I don't want to have that.

SPEAKER_00 11:04

You don't want to talk about it.

SPEAKER_01 11:05

No, no, no. Storyline in my head. I can't go.

SPEAKER_00 11:08

I know. I'm already sad about it.

SPEAKER_01 11:11

So I'm really glad that Denise came back and had words with everybody about Sheila. Yeah. Because Chelsea is getting weak again through Grey's touch.

SPEAKER_00 11:20

She actually is, isn't she?

SPEAKER_01 11:22

She's really annoying when she's like, back off, it's my family. It's like, why wouldn't classic EastEnders of like, why would you not listen to your family? And now you're choosing this woman over your family. I know. And your son, who is the family.

SPEAKER_00 11:35

I'll call it, I know it's a bit deep, but I actually just think Chelsea kind of wants the easy way out because of like the guilt she has around Jordan. Yeah. And I think she kind of wants the easy way out of like, you know, like you know how she says she's like not really maternal and that. It's like like as a mum, you would just like pull your fucking bootstraps on, find the money. I'm not saying it's easy, and I'm not like the the world's against her, like I get it. I'm not saying it's easy. It's always 10 grand somewhere else. She's like, oh well, someone can just give me five grand, she's willing to just like sell off.

SPEAKER_01 12:05

And Libby was in her ear being like, it's his nan, it's his nan. It's like that's grey's nan.

SPEAKER_00 12:09

I feel like lit that's that's not very Libby like coded because she's normally a bit more like black and white, like no, you can't. Yeah, so yeah, I suppose it's just part of the storyline.

SPEAKER_01 12:19

But nice to see Libby.

SPEAKER_00 12:21

Lovely to see you, Libby. Are you gonna stick around? She was getting the train, wouldn't she?

SPEAKER_01 12:24

Yeah, she's gone back, but she might come back.

SPEAKER_00 12:26

Yeah, I'm sure she will.

SPEAKER_01 12:27

But yeah, that really annoyed me. It's like you're really gonna choose this woman, and she's got no control of Sheila popping in and out of his life. It's like, babe, get some get some discipline going, yeah. Maybe it could work. Eventually. Give me the money, maybe it can work. Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries and 15 cases. What does Meredith always say? I'm disengaging. Yeah, disengaging.

SPEAKER_00 12:54

I'm disengaging.

SPEAKER_01 12:55

Disenging. Yeah. What's your final drift of?

SPEAKER_00 12:59

My final drift of is I don't give a fuck about the baby pictures.

SPEAKER_01 13:05

Keep the baby pictures away from me. Let me live my life in Ibiza. I don't want to come over. Exactly for the barbecue. Alright, I'm a vegan. Not gonna lie, some families are a hoot though.

SPEAKER_00 13:17

Absolutely. If you get a good one.

SPEAKER_01 13:18

When the families are a hoot, I'm there.

SPEAKER_00 13:20

If you get a good one.

SPEAKER_01 13:21

Well, when, if they're not, keep it over there. Yeah. What's that's it?

SPEAKER_00 13:27

This is why I really have like a boundary on having a posh boyfriend. Yeah. I just don't think I could ever have a posh boyfriend.

SPEAKER_01 13:34

I know.

SPEAKER_00 13:34

Because I'd be going around there like, you're right, fucking watching these endings, fucking, fucking.

SPEAKER_01 13:38

I know, and you do feel the difference naturally.

SPEAKER_00 13:41

Bloody lately.

SPEAKER_01 13:42

It's good to be able to swim. Even if you're confident, you do feel the imbalance of like I am! I'm not Mendabi!

SPEAKER_00 13:49

I am anyway, yeah. Gorgeous.

SPEAKER_01 13:52

Anyway, I any parent love you.

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Do you like your in-laws? Comment down below. Yeah, comment down below. Like, subscribe, comment down below. See you next week.