Overcapacity Is Blocking Your Quantum Leap

In this episode, I’m sharing a real-time reflection on capacity, visibility, and what happens when our nervous system becomes overloaded. I open up about noticing myself slipping into performance, and how that experience revealed just how important it is to protect our energy, boundaries, and creative flow...especially during demanding seasons of life and motherhood.

We talk about:
- The difference between truly being present vs simply “showing up”
- How nervous system overload impacts creativity, embodiment, and leadership
- Why capacity is not a luxury: it’s a responsibility
- The importance of boundaries, delegation, and support
- Visibility, being perceived, and learning to feel safe being fully seen
- Releasing the need to control how others interpret you


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Transcript

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Welcome to the Expansion Edit Podcast, where if you hang around long enough, you'll learn that you can achieve anything by rewiring who you believe you are. I'm Chelsea, a licensed therapist, turned identity coach for the woman ready to create an extraordinary life and become the living manifestation of her vision board. Not through wishful thinking or fluffy affirmations, but through identity embodiment using proven techniques, rewiring protocols, and psychology-backed strategy grounded in neuroscience. Here we talk subconscious rewiring, nervous system safety, identity shifting, and manifestation in a way that expands your life from the inside out. So let's unlock your next level. Alright, guys, we are getting a little deep today. I feel like I maybe say that a lot, but there's just been a lot going on behind the scenes with the launch of the recalibration room. Obviously, that's been like a big thing, taking up a lot of my time. And I want to talk about some of the things that have happened behind the scenes and some of the realizations I've had and some of the truth about capacity and boundaries and visibility and a lot of the things that I talk about here, but I think a lot of these things are non-negotiables when it comes to pursuing your dream life, um, pursuing your dream, whether that be a dream business or a dream talent that you're going after, or whatever it is, these things come into play. And I think if we try to ignore them, they can just come back and be very confronting. So we're gonna get into that today. With everything that has been going on with the launch and my business and some stuff that's been going on in my personal life, it's really got me thinking about capacity and how when our capacity gets maxed out, the first thing that usually goes to the wayside is the embodiment of the identity that we are moving towards because we fall back into those patterns, we fall back into that subconscious programming, we fall back into that autopilot mode because that's how our brain and body knows to get through things that we want to stay safe through. So that can be really easy to do when you're exhausted, you're overworked, you're at your max capacity. You know, it can be easy to fall away from that embodiment piece because we all have, you know, finite emotional and mental capacity. And, you know, if you meet if you get to that point, it can be hard to bring yourself back down. When our nervous system is overloaded, we can stop transmitting or stop moving from our creative flow or from the space that we want to be operating from, and we can move into performative states or what we think people want to see or what we think we should be doing. All of those things can come into play. And this month for me, I will say, you know, I'm a mom. I know that there's other moms that listen to this podcast. I know all of you are not moms, but you know, there are seasons of motherhood, there are times that are more difficult than others. I am generally in a busy season having, you know, a two-year-old and an almost five-year-old. I do keep some of my capacity open for these guys. And this month has just been a lot. I I don't talk about this on my Instagram, but I feel like you guys on the podcast, it's like a different, different conversation, a different level of, you know, I both of my kids are on the spectrum and they're both very high functioning. And that is usually just part of our life. And there's certain times where I'm more faced with that. And those times tend to be when we're going through assessments or school changes or anything like that. Some of the challenges are things that I'm really faced with. And I'm not gonna lie, that can take a lot of my mental energy and capacity just because obviously I love my kids, I want the best for them, and you know, it can be challenging and and sometimes isolating to work through all of that. There's always a little bit of grief that comes with um dealing with challenges that maybe other typical kids don't go through, or you know, at the same time it can feel isolating because my kids are high functioning, so I don't always resonate with the experiences of other um families with kids on the spectrum because maybe they have more challenges or or more difficulties than we do. So I sometimes can feel isolated in that. And I will say there was just a lot going on at the beginning of this month with both my kids. They're both doing great, but you know, it was just kind of something that I was going through facing um with the assessment process and with some school changes that were going on. So what I learned through that though is this is why it's so important to have those super strong boundaries and those super strong support systems and asking for support and help when you need it. Because if you don't have that support and help, that capacity and energy is going to come from somewhere and it's usually going to be your highest conscious priority, but it's not going to be your brain and body's priority because your brain and body, again, is trying to keep you safe. So for me, that looked like my embodiment piece of the version of me that I am working towards becoming, that went to the wayside a little bit because my body was really focused on keeping me safe, keeping me emotionally stable, like all the things that I need to be for my family. I went a little bit back into autopilot because there was a lot going on and I was feeling emotionally at my capacity at my max. And it's really important to recognize before you're getting to that point, so that you can ask for that help and delegate those tasks and not wait until you're depleted because like you might feel like you're doing people a favor by showing up in the moment, but if you are not good, it quickly devolves. Like I was shorter with my kids, I was shorter with my husband. Like, that's not ever a place that I want to be, and that's not their responsibility. Like, I am responsible for being the best, most regulated version of myself. And if I'm giving everything away and there's nothing left, I'm not gonna be the version of me that I want to be. I'm not gonna be able to show up for my business, I'm not gonna be able to show up for my family. Like it has a huge ripple effect. And so looking back on the situation, I definitely would have protected my creative energy a little bit more intentionally and asked for support and had those firmer boundaries earlier on than I did. And I noticed too, like I didn't stop showing up for my business, but I did notice like it felt more forced to me. Like I still believed in what I was saying and the things that I was doing, but it didn't feel like it was coming from that same creative flow that I normally can tap into because I was just feeling overloaded, honestly. And that's where mindset just can be so important because I don't look back at that month and have any regrets about how things went. I simply look at it and say, this is what I learned from this situation and this is what I'm implementing moving forward. I thought up until this point that I had strong boundaries around my time, my energy, my capacity, but this showed me that I have places where I can work on with that. So I think it's all, again, things that are happening for me, but that is the perspective that I choose to have. I could easily sit there and be like, oh, well, if I had done X, Y, Z, you know, it'd be different or whatever, whatever. But that's not how I choose to look at difficulties or things that I overcome in my life. And we have to value that part of us enough to have those boundaries to be able to receive that support. And that's something that I've really been working on and realized I am not very good at. Like asking for support and receiving help when I need it is something that I'm prioritizing more because it I'm realizing it's something that I really need to work on. And capacity, I'm realizing really is a responsibility. It's not a luxury. Like, this is we have a finite amount of energy and capacity. And that is why it's so important to treat your energy and your capacity like the expensive commodity that it is. And I think this is where it helped me so much to step into my future self and my future identity because that version of me already knows that. That is her autopilot state, is knowing that her capacity and her energy are expensive and there's a finite amount. And so just remembering to really live by that, if nothing else. Now, reflecting on April, going into May, there's something that I'm really prioritizing for this month. And I encourage you, if you don't do this, to sit down and do a reflection of your last month. So reflect on April, what went well, what didn't go well, what you know, would you want to do differently, how would you want to feel differently? Like these are all important questions to ask so that you can take that into the future version of yourself going forward. So for April, obviously did that reflection. That's what came up for me. And for May, what I'm really focusing on and working on is I know a lot of you are not going to be shocked by this because it's not necessarily something new, but the way that I'm viewing it, I think, is a little bit different. And that is increasing my comfortability with visibility and being seen. Because I think a big part of why I wasn't showing up the way that I necessarily wanted to, also did stem back to a little bit of fear with my visibility. As it has increased, as there have been more eyes on me, as that has happened relatively quickly. I can see in certain areas where I've pulled back. And I've already talked about this, I think, on my Instagram, but you know, my phone situation, like not being able to film, yes, that was a problem, but I could have solved that so much sooner, you guys. Like I could have gone and gotten a phone and fixed that way sooner than I did. And I do think that that was a subconscious visibility block because I know that if I do put the work in and I do show up the way that I need to show up, that is gonna result in growth. That is gonna result in more eyes on me. And I think my brain and body know that. And I think there was a block going on with that at the beginning of last month in April. So what I'm kind of coming to and realizing and what I want to work towards is part of expanding my visibility at this point, the point that I'm at now, is being okay with being misunderstood. And not only that, but being okay with being misperceived. Because when you have more eyes on you, that is just part of it. You're going to be perceived and people aren't going to know the internal workings of your brain. And I think this is what a lot of people come up against, not maybe consciously, but subconsciously, like the fear of being perceived. Because remember that we all project our subconscious into our reality. So we're all perceiving the world, using our reticular activating system, seeing what we believe is important to us. And that means that you're gonna say things, do things, show up in a way that might trigger people, even though your intention is only the best intention. And I think for me, that can show up as like showing up to be the best version of myself and really working through what that means for me and how I can serve more people and how I can help more people step into that version of themselves. But I think for some people that can be super confronting to see, like, oh, this person that had all of these visibility issues, all of these things going on, like seeing somebody choose to continue and choose to change that despite whatever's going on, it can put a mirror up of like, oh, well, I'm not doing that and I'm not comfortable doing that. So I have a problem with her. And that perception piece is something that I really need to work on being okay with. And I think I've had a lot of situations in my life where people have misperceived me. I'm laughing because there's just now that I'm like thinking about it and looking back, like lots of situations where, you know, I try very hard to be very inclusive, very kind and welcoming and all the things. But despite that, like I've had girls be like, you look like a bitch, or you weren't welcoming, or like you kept to yourself, and really it's just like I'm shy, I'm an introvert, like there's nothing else going on there. But I've gotten into situations where people have been really upset with me, and you know, that that has been really difficult for me. And I think being okay with being perceived differently than the way that you intend. And that for me means that I need to release the need to control any perception. And as somebody who has had a history of needing to control a lot, that's really difficult for me. So, all that word vomit being said, my goal for this month is to really work on my nervous system safety, facing some of the events or situations that are maybe still being stored in my nervous system when it comes to visibility and really bringing those out and being okay with other people reacting from their own subconscious patterns and knowing that that has nothing to do with me and not knowing it consciously, but knowing it subconsciously and knowing it in my nervous system. My goal is to just be so comfortable being seen and being comfortable showing up exactly who I am and knowing that I'm going to be misunderstood, I'm going to be misperceived, and that's okay. So I encourage you to do a little reflection on your last month, see what came up for you, and then from that, kind of come up with some goals. And I really encourage you to go into the areas that maybe you don't want to go into. Like for me, visibility is really tough. There's so many levels for me that make it really hard. And yet I just feel that that is going to be the place that I grow as a person and unlock so much for me that I think that's where I need to go. So I encourage you to look at your last month, see what comes up, see what areas you're maybe avoiding or are still uncomfortable with, and start diving into nervous system regulation around that. And that being said, this is a really good segue. I care so much about this work. I mean, obviously, I think it's pretty obvious. This is what lights me up. I'm doing this podcast every week. My platform is based on this. Like, I love it, and I think embodiment is like the key. Like using neuroscience, using nervous system regulation, using this identity piece. Like, this is such a hack, such a way to quantum leap. And I think embodiment impacts how we lead, how we create, how we can show up, parent, build businesses, like all the things. So, that being said, it is onboarding week right now. If you're listening to this in real time, our first call of the recalibration room is next week. So, I am actually going to be leaving the doors open through this weekend. If you are ready to do this work, have somebody there to help you reprogram your subconscious based on the things that are blocking you, based on the things that you still have stored in your body that maybe you're not dealing with, but are keeping you small and keeping you from that level of identity embodiment and stepping into this new version of yourself. This is what we're gonna be doing. This is how we're gonna bridge the gap from where you are and where you consciously want to be, but maybe your body is keeping you from that place right now. So I'm gonna leave the doors open. They will be open through this weekend. Please reach out if you have any questions. Are I'm sending out emails for onboarding right now. We're choosing times for our weekly calls and workshops for the next three months. And this is the space where we are going to bridge that gap for what your subconscious program currently is, what it needs to be for you to step into that version of you. I'm very excited. I'm not just excited for the recalibration room. I'm so excited for that, but I'm also excited for what this month is going to bring for me. I feel like I've had a major unlock with just leaning into this visibility piece even deeper and seeing what can come from that. So if you're ready to make these changes, I will see you inside that space. And otherwise, I will see you here next.