Your Inner World is Running the Show!

Today, we break down how your mindset, subconscious patterns, nervous system, and energy shape your reality at work and in life. Through everyday examples, Noelle challenges recurring patterns and reveals the obvious conclusion: the call is coming from inside the house. 

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Welcome back to We Lead Anyway. I'm Noelle, senior leader, career coach, and your host. Hey, did you know that season two means that you can watch this on YouTube now? Not just listen to it. I know. All right. I just want to start this out with a statement. The statement is your external life is just a printout of your internal settings. You want to just hear that again? I'm not just talking about positive thinking or vision boards or affirmations, even though I do all of that stuff. But I'm talking about something that can be more complex or maybe just uncomfortable than that. It's the fact that the way you think, the way your body holds stress, the story's running on a loop in your subconscious, all of it is quietly, constantly, and very efficiently building the life that you're living right now. The career, the relationships, the opportunities that keep showing up or keep not showing up, the version of yourself you bring into a room. And most people have no idea it's happening because it doesn't feel like construction. It feels like Tuesday. So I want to define the thing before we go deeper because internal conditions sound like, I don't know, a weather forecast. And I want to be specific. So your internal conditions are four things working together at all times. It's your mindset, the conscious narrative you run about yourself and the world, the subconscious patterns, the older, deeper programming that you didn't choose and you mostly can't see. Your nervous system state, whether your body thinks it's safe or whether it's quietly braced for running from a lion. And then your energy. And yes, it's a thing because pretending that humans don't operate on a frequency is I will fight you. These four things are not separate. They talk to each other constantly. Your nervous system feeds your subconscious, your subconscious shapes your mindset, your mindset affects your energy, and your energy, whether you like it or not, is the first thing that walks into your room before you even open your mouth. And it's not woo for woo's sake, but I am woo. I'm very woo. But it's also just neuroscience. The two things are not mutually exclusive. And anyone who tells you otherwise is, how do you say it? The Lulu. Now, the thing that people can't wrap their brain around, usually, your conscious mind, that part of you that made a to-do list this morning and is currently listening to this or watching this, is responsible for roughly 5% of your behavior. Five. The other 95% is running on programming that was mostly installed before you were seven years old. Seven. So when you wonder why you keep attracting the same kind of boss or why you sabotage things right before something gets really good, why you can intellectually know your worth and still accept less than you deserve. That's not a logic problem. That's a subconscious pattern doing exactly what it was built to do, keeping you in the familiar because familiar feels safe, even when familiar is terrible. The subconscious doesn't evaluate or have opinions about whether your childhood belief that you were too much or not enough is actually true. It just runs the file over and over until you interrupt it. And the interruption doesn't start with thinking differently, it starts a level deeper than that. It starts in the body. So folks sometimes shy away from this part of the conversation, especially in professional development spaces where everyone just wants to teach you from a framework and give you a little pat on the head and send you on your way. But if your nervous system is in a chronic state of threat response, which by the way, a significant portion of high-achieving humans are walking around in every day, you're not operating from your full capacity. Period. When your body is in fight or flight, blood flow moves away from your prefrontal cortex. That's a part of the brain responsible for creative thinking, long-term planning, emotional regulation, and nuanced decision making. So you can have every strategy in the world. And if your nervous system thinks there's a tiger in the room, even a metaphorical one, even a tiger that is just an email you haven't opened yet, your access to your own intelligence is genuinely compromised. And here's where it connects to manifestation, since we're going there. You cannot call in what you cannot hold. If your nervous system doesn't have a blueprint for safety, abundance, or ease, if those states feel foreign or even vaguely threatening because they're unfamiliar, your system will find a way back to what it knows. Are you broken? Do you feel that way? Of course you do, but you're not. You're regulated to a different baseline. And that baseline is adjustable. That's what you need to know. But you have to work at the level of the body, not just the mind. Let's talk about energy. And I'm gonna ask you to stay with me. Now, a lot of you who know me or already follow me, you know I talk about this stuff all the time. Some of you, you might roll your eyes, but just give me a minute. You already know this is real. You've walked into a room and felt something was off, or you've met someone right away and you're like, this the homie. This is the homie right here. You've had days where everything flows and days where you're pushing through wet concrete. And that's not mood, that's frequency. That's you reading the energetic information in your environment and in other people, which means other people are reading yours. So the energy you carry into your career or your interviews, your relationships, your creative work, it's transmitting the desperation you're trying to hide. We can see that shit. The resentment you're managing in a meeting is in the room. It's there. The genuine excitement and confidence you feel when you're aligned, that's in the room too. But you can't put that on your resume. So when we talk about shaping your reality, we're not just talking about your thoughts, we're talking about the full broadcast. What are you actually sending out? And here's the part where I don't give you a five-step system because honestly, the work is way too personal for that. And for that, you should visit my website. But here's where to start. Get honest about your baseline, not your aspirational baseline, your actual default when no one's watching, when nothing's happening. What does your inner monologue sound like? Is she a dick? Because mine is. What does your body feel like? Is it tense? Are you braced? I always have to unclench my jaw. You guys find yourself doing stuff like that? Are you vaguely just waiting for something to go wrong all the time? That's your baseline. And your baseline is your baseline for everything. So start noticing the pattern, not just the problem. When something keeps happening in your life, a dynamic that keeps repeating, you're dating the same guy, or your job puts you in a rut every other year. Stop asking what's wrong with a situation and start asking what in you is familiar with this? And that question will take you somewhere super valuable. It's very useful. I want you to work with your body, not just your brain. Regulate your nervous system. Breathe, move, sleep, self-care, not self-care like bath bomb, an ice glass of wine, but as literal recalibration of the system that runs your life. The most high-leverage thing many overachieving, overthinking people can do is slow down. Just slow down long enough to let their body catch up to where they want to go. And then get serious about what you're practicing. Every thought you repeat is a vote for a belief. Every story you tell about yourself is either building the internal architect of who you are becoming or reinforcing who you have been. And you don't have to be relentlessly positive, but you do have to be intentional. So one of the things that I started doing was instead of saying I am depressed or I am stressed out or I have anxiety, I'll say I am experiencing feelings of depression or I am noticing that I'm starting to feel anxious. It sounds like semantics, but what happens every single time you say I am is your neurotransmitters are firing and they're getting stronger and stronger and stronger. And neurotransmitters that fire together, wire together. So if you disrupt it by saying, I'm noticing feelings of, you no longer embody what that thing is, unless it's I am a goddess, I am fine as hell. I cosign on those things. But if it's I am stressed out, I am depressed, just change it to I notice this. It will make a huge difference. Now, here's your challenge this week. One thing. Pick one recurring pattern in your life, professional, personal, doesn't matter. And instead of analyzing the external circumstance, turn the lens inward. Ask, what internal condition is this a match for? Oh, I love that question. What do I believe about myself that makes this outcome familiar? Yes. Sometimes it's what was me. See, I told you everybody hates me. Or sometimes it's I told you I'm the luckiest bitch your life. But ask yourself, what in you you would have to shift to see a different experience out there? So what in you do you have to shift to see a difference outside of you? And you don't have to answer it immediately. The question itself starts doing the work. And your internal world is not, it's not a soft topic. It is the most high-leverage place you can invest your attention because when that changes, actually changes, not just intellectually shifts, like, yeah, I get that, but everything downstream changes with it. And that's the work. And it's uncomfortable and it's nonlinear and it's absolutely freaking worth it. So do me a favor and drop in the comments what pattern you're looking at this week. I mean it. Let's make this a real conversation because I want to know and share this with someone who's been blaming the outside for too long. If you have a topic you'd like for me to discuss, email me at noelleadsanyway at gmail.com. And if you're interested in personal or professional development and coaching, please visit leadwithnoelle.com. Until next time, go take up space.