Just Rest: Burnout Tips for Everyday Radicals
Just Rest: Burnout Tips for Everyday Radicals, hosted by Nicole Havelka, helps everyday radicals and world-changers who are tired, but not giving up to find connection, support, and soul-deep inspiration to keep resisting grind culture while staying true to their values.
Nicole Havelka is a burnout survivor, ordained pastor, yoga teacher, and founder of Defy the Trend. She spent years trying to change the world by working harder, staying later, doing more, but realized that real change doesn't come from depletion—it comes from deep, aligned, joyful living. Now, she coaches others to make rest a non-negotiable part of their resistance. Every week, you'll hear honest, unfiltered conversations about what it takes to build differently and rest radically. Episodes talk about resistance, spiritual practice, failure, boundary-setting, burnout, recovery, and the sacred power of saying, “no more".
Just Rest: Burnout Tips for Everyday Radicals
Burnout Is a System Problem, Not a Personal Failure with Jordan Maney
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If you've burned out more than once and keep wondering what's wrong with you — nothing is. But something is very wrong with the culture you're swimming in.
In this debut episode, host Nicole Havelka sits down with Radical Joy Coach™ Jordan Maney to name the systemic forces that make burnout feel like personal failure when it's actually a predictable outcome of a broken system. Drawing from Tema Okun's White Supremacy Culture framework, they trace three habits that quietly keep changemakers depleted and stuck:
The Three Toxic Cousins:
- Perfectionism — the belief that you must earn safety, love, and rest through flawless performance
- Progress = Bigger, Better, More — the habit that ensures you never feel like enough is enough
- Individualism — the lie that asking for help is weakness and you're the only one who can hold it all together
These aren't your character flaws. They're cultural habits you absorbed. Naming them is the first crack in the cycle.
You'll also hear:
- Jordan's journey from burned-out wedding planner to Radical Joy Coach™
- Why "what do you need?" can stop you cold — and what that silence is telling you
- How gendered ideas about labor get baked into faith communities and nonprofits
- Why vulnerability — not optimization — is the real antidote
This week's Rest Rebel invitation: The next time you feel the pull to push through, pause and ask: which toxic cousin is talking? Just name it. That's enough.
It is safe for you to rest. It is safe for you to choose yourself.
GUEST: Jordan Maney, Radical Joy Coach™ and creator of the Rest Lab
Instagram/TikTok: @thejordanmaney | thejordanmaney.com
Organizations doing good in the world: YWCA | Southwest Workers Union
RESOURCES:
- White Supremacy Culture by Tema Okun
- The Body Is Not an Apology by Sonya Renee Taylor
- Jordan on Feminist Founders with Becky Mollenkamp
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