Rooted Exchange

The Invisible Load: Why Motherhood Feels Like "Eating Soup with a Fork"

Rooted Exchange Season 1 Episode 2

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So much of motherhood isn’t loud.
It doesn’t show up on to-do lists.
And it rarely gets named out loud.

In this episode of Rooted Exchange, Rachael sits down with Whitney Mayer for a candid, lived-experience conversation about the invisible load — the constant mental tracking, anticipating, remembering, and emotional labor that so many women carry quietly every day.

Together, they unpack how the invisible load shows up in real life: in grocery lists and appointment scheduling, in solo parenting and uneven rhythms, in identity shifts, guilt, and the pressure to “do it all” without dropping the ball.

This isn’t a conversation about blame or fixing partners. It’s about naming the work, understanding its weight, and offering ourselves more grace in the middle of it. In this episode, we explore:

  • What the “invisible load” actually looks like day to day
  • How motherhood reshapes identity — often quietly and unevenly
  • The difference between being productive and feeling productive
  • The double bind of stay-at-home vs. working motherhood
  • Why comparison and perfectionism make the load heavier
  • Letting go of control, lowering expectations, and choosing presence
  • Why exhaustion isn’t always something sleep can fix

This conversation is for the mom who feels tired in a way that’s hard to explain. For the one carrying the household in her head. For anyone who has ever thought, “Why does this feel so heavy?”

You’re not imagining it. And you’re not alone.

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