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Chapter 17: Coaching Neurodivergent Employees | Unmasking Leadership

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This chapter challenges traditional performance and development models that are built around correction, comparison, and deficit thinking. It explains why coaching frameworks designed to “fix weaknesses” fail neurodivergent employees and often reinforce masking, self-suppression, and conformity to neurotypical norms rather than genuine performance or growth.

The chapter reframes coaching as a development partnership rather than an evaluative process. It introduces a strength-based, curiosity-led approach that centres on understanding what conditions allow someone to think, learn, and perform at their best. Drawing on research into strength-based leadership, psychological safety, and neurodivergent cognition, it shows how curiosity replaces correction, and how coaching can create safety for authenticity without requiring disclosure.

Key themes include the limitations of deficit-based performance management, the impact of communication mismatch and the double empathy problem, and the importance of focusing on environment, structure, and support rather than personality or perceived attitude. The chapter outlines practical coaching practices such as the Partnership Question, disclosure-safe language, predictable feedback loops, written follow-ups, and goal-setting that adapts to different energy and regulation needs.

It also explores coaching through burnout and recovery, positioning energy regulation as a legitimate development goal rather than a personal failing. Leadership is reframed as co-regulation, the shared responsibility for maintaining stability, safety, and learning within teams. Mentoring, peer learning, and organisational structures are discussed as ways to embed neuro-inclusive coaching beyond individual goodwill.

The chapter concludes by redefining leadership itself, not as supervision or correction, but as attunement, partnership, and system design. Coaching becomes a relational practice that builds trust, capability, and sustainable performance by aligning people and environments rather than forcing people to adapt endlessly.

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