Built in the Small Moments

In this episode, we’re talking about something I’m still learning in real time… slowing down long enough to actually recognize the growth that’s happening.

Because if I’m being honest, I’ve spent a lot of time rushing. Rushing to get to the next thing, the next version of myself, the next level… and in doing that, I was skipping right past the very moments that were building me.

This episode is about those moments.

The “small” wins that don’t always feel like much in the moment… but over time, they become everything. Whether it’s learning how to be genuinely grateful and not just saying it, finding your voice again after losing it, speaking up even when you’re nervous, or simply making it through a hard season… a win is a win.

And I’m learning that those wins? They’re my pause button.

They ground me. They bring me back to the present. They remind me that I am growing… even when it doesn’t feel like it.

I’m also being honest about the fact that I don’t always get it right. I still find myself rushing. I still have to remind myself to slow down, to pause, to take a breath. But every time I do… I see a little more clearly.

So if you’ve been feeling like you’re not doing enough, not moving fast enough, or like your progress doesn’t “count” because it doesn’t look big… this is your reminder that it does.

You’re being built in the small moments.

And they matter more than you think.

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Transcript

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So y'all, y'all, oh my gosh, y'all are gonna find this so hilarious. I literally thought I had been recording for the past 20 minutes. Wasn't recording a doggo thing. Well, here we go. Take two. Oh, okay, okay, okay. Well, hello, hello, hello, everybody. Welcome to Her Path, Her Pace, where growth meets grace. I'm your host, Shay, and thank you for tuning in and joining me for another week for another episode. Yes, baby. Hi, sugar. That's Jaguar. Um, so let's go ahead and dive right in. Because as I said, I thought I was already recording and found out that I wasn't. Um, let's go ahead and get caught up with life, lazy. So, um, what's going on in my world, guys? I took myself out on a date this past weekend and it was so fun, it was so great. And when I say I took myself out on a date, like I truly romanticized the whole process and everything. Like, I took the time.

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Huh? What baby? I'm showing. Give me a dual check, okay? Give me a second. Mommy got a record. Let mommy record, let mommy record.

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Okay, but I took myself out on a date and like I got I wore this pretty like purple dress, and I felt so girly and like cutie patuty and frilly, and it just was so nice, and yeah, it just made me feel really good. And I took myself to go see Yumi and Tuscany. If you haven't seen it, you should go see it. The movie was great. I don't know what these people are talking about, about it not being accurate. How many rom-coms have you seen that are actually how many fictional? Let's just start there. Forget even rom coms. Fictional movies just are just completely accurate. None. Um, there it's fiction for a reason because it's a bit uh highly improbable, you know, not likely to happen in real life. Made up story type deal. But you know, you mean Tuscany was really good. Italy has always been on my bucket list of places that I want to travel. So now I really, really want to go travel to Italy. Um, and I'm not a huge rom-com fan, but I I definitely I'm happy I paid to go see it, and I definitely will buy it once it's available on streaming platforms. So, yeah, there's my take on that. And then after I went to the movies, I went and got my eyebrows done, and I got me some boba tea. And after I got me some boba tea, I took myself to Barnes and Noble, Noble's, and I got me a few books. I went ahead and finished buying all the books in the Kennedy Ryan series. I mean, Ryan series, Kennedy Ryan's books in her Skyland series. So I have before I let go, um, this could be us and can't get enough. I've had this could be us for the past year, but when I bought this could be us, they didn't Barnes and Noble didn't have um can't, they didn't have before I let go in stock and can't get enough wasn't released yet. And so I was like, oh, I'll just wait. And so I haven't read This Could Be Us until now. So now I'm reading it. Like I told y'all so that I get back into reading and reading for fun and all of the things, and so now I'm reading, it's like, yeah. Um, but yeah, so I took my after I bought those books, I went and sat outside for a little bit, read a bit, and then I came in and took a nap. And I went to trivia night with my mommy and my daddy, and it was so fun, it was definitely a lot longer than I expected it to be. It took a lot longer than I expected, and no lie, by like round the I want to say seven of the trivia, my brain was kind of tired because, like I said, I wasn't anticipating on being there that long and actually, you know, having to use my brain that much. But that's the thing, it revealed to me that actually I know a lot more and I have a lot more stored up in this head of mine than I I have recognized and that I give myself credit for. And I really should just stop second-guessing my knowledge because I do know things, and I am a pretty smart girl, and I did retain a lot more information than I realized, and that's just kind of crazy, and that's what that trivia night showed me. But all in all, taking myself out this week it was really nice. It just it just made me feel so good and really big, it really made me feel good, and it was something that I needed, and I didn't realize I needed it. So, yeah, I advise, well, not advise, I suggest everybody take themselves out on a date. And if you can't take yourself out on a date, do at least one thing to pour back into yourself this week because we all need that little reminder sometimes to take care of self. And that was just my way of taking care of self, and it was nice and it was fun, but yeah, so yeah, now that we're all caught up, let's talk about some blow-up those. So, how's everybody doing with the 75-day challenge? I gotta be honest with y'all, I have absolutely no earthly idea what day we are technically on. I have not been tracking the days, like I've still been journaling, I've still been reading my Bible. I like I said, I finally um got and incorporated the books into my daily practice. I've been reading more than 10 pages a day, but that's neither here nor there. I've been reading, and that was the point. Um, like, you know, so I'm still and I'm still going on my walks, I'm still working out, stretching, doing things, daily moving and everything like that. I just haven't been tracking the days like at all. I haven't been keeping up with the days. So I'll have to get back to you guys to let you know what day we're technically on, because I don't know. I don't know. I've just been I've been going with the flow, like it's truly become a part of my routine. So I haven't been keeping up with the days. Um, but if you are, let me know down in the comments what day we're technically on if you know and I don't, because I don't know. I've just been doing the thing. Um, but don't forget to do hashtag HPHP75 day challenge so I can know what you guys got going and take me on your walks and on your journeys so we can see the glow up after everything, you know. So cool. Now that we're all glowing, growing and going, let's see who we are in step with today. Okay, so for this week's shared steps, I want to give flowers to her, also known as Gabriella Wilson. And fun fact H E R actually stands for having everything revealed. I could be wrong. If I'm wrong, let me know down below. Because, yeah, but I'm pretty sure that's what it stands for. And I think that alone says so much about her journey. Because what really stands out to me about her is how grounded she's remained in who she is, you know, because in an industry that's constantly trying to rush you, shape you, and tell you who to be, she's always moved at her own face and she's kind of just always done her own thing, you know. Um, she didn't come in loud, she didn't come in trying to prove anything. She literally hid behind glasses, and we didn't know what her face looked like for a long time. We only got her silhouette, you know. Um she just showed up consistent, intentional, and she just let her work speak for itself, and over time, everything has slowly but surely been revealed. You know, her talent, her growth, and her impact, from her early projects to Grammy wins to performing on some of the biggest stages, but none of it ever felt rushed. None of it felt like she skipped steps, it felt like she honored every part of her process. And I think that's what I really respect. Because in a world where everything feels like it has to happen fast, she's an example that you can for sure take your time, you can grow quietly and you can build something real and still become everything you're meant to be, and that ties into this episode because sometimes we overlook our own growth because it doesn't look big or loud or even have immediate results, but growth isn't always loud, sometimes it's just consistency, sometimes it's just showing up, sometimes it's simply choosing yourself over and over. So this shared the shared step here is this you don't have to rush your process to become who you're meant to be, you don't have to skip steps to feel like you're making progress. It's okay to take a long way around. Every step you take, every quiet win, every moment that you choose to keep going all builds something. Even if you can't fully see it yet. So this to Gabriella Wilson, to the one and only miss her, thank you for showing us what it looks like to grow with intention, to stay grounded in who you are, and to trust the timing. So thank ya, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank ya. All right now let's set the mood with some tunes. So and for this episode, the playlist that you can have playing on in the background and stuff like that, because I want to talk about you know, taking this, checking, like, you know, just being present and taking count and slowing down and you know, just all of those things. And so for this playlist, the first first, first, the first song on the playlist is Happy by Pharrell. And I like that song because you know, some days it really is about choosing joy, it really is about choosing to be happy. Um, and that's what that song is for me. Sometimes it's a reminder to choose to be happy and just be present and yeah, clap alone if you feel like open without over. And sometimes I'm not gonna lie, I put that song on and I sing it until I feel it, okay? And so that's why I say it's about choosing joy, choosing to be happy sometimes, because that's what you need in life sometimes. Um, the next song is I like that by Janelle Monet. Because also, over time, even if you don't feel genuinely happy, you will trick your brain into being happy, okay? And you can trick your body and your mind, and then your perspective all of a sudden one day shifts, and you're just like, hold on. I actually do like me. I actually do like that. And that's kind of something that happened for me, and not because I necessarily like didn't like change, like completely changed as a person in the in the sense of like doing away with all the things, but no, like finally coming to terms with all of me and recognizing all of me. And I'm I'm not one, I don't want to say acceptance, I don't want to say accepting all of me because I feel like I don't want to say that, but being able to see myself and truly be like, no, I do like that. All of the things that the world, all of the things that people, all of the labels and negative connotations and all the all the badge juju and all that stuff that people have tried to put on me. I mean like, no, you can't make me feel bad about me being me. Like, I like me. I genuinely like me, and I like who I'm becoming, and I like, you know, I like who I was, and I like how, you know, she did what she had to do to get through it. Did what I had to do to get through it, and here we are now, and I like me. I like all of me, I like everything that makes me me. I like that. Point blank, period. And then last song, because it ain't always been that way. And there's been times and days where I've been told, oh my goodness, Shay, you just look so happy. Oh my goodness, Shay, how are you so optimistic and so positive? It's God in me. So the last song to round out the playlist is God in me by Mary Mary. Because honest to truth, honest to goodness, it's the God in me that you're seeing shining through. Because, yeah, I haven't been doing this on my own. This is not off of my own strength, of my own accord. It's the God in me. You think I got it all together? Bah! You don't know the times and many, many days, many nights I cried and was in here praying and down on my knees, begging and pleading and warning and tore, and just having to give it all up to God, and then just walking out the door and still being able to walk through the day with a smile on my face. That was God. That was God, that is God, and it's the God in me. So that's how we're gonna round out this playlist, okay? So, yeah, cool. Now that the mood is set, let's walk through this thing, y'all. Okay, so I want to start by talking about recognizing small wins and how for me being able to recognize small wins like have been helpful in all those things. And honest to goodness, a win is a win. There really is no such thing as a small win, big win, meaning in between when a win is a win. A win is a win. Okay, I don't care. But for the sake of this episode and talking about you know, healing and growing and being able to pause and be present in moments, we're gonna acknowledge quote unquote small wins because I feel like sometimes you be like you'll move so fast in life and you're going so full throttle that you don't take the time to pause and smell the roses and actually see how far you have come. Okay, and so that's why those small those small wins matter because they force you to slow down. And when you slow down, things were like you're able to reflect and you see things and you learn new things about yourself that you possibly didn't recognize in the moment until you were able to slow down and pause. And I know it's easier said than none forcing yourself to slow down and pause, especially with everything going on, but it's necessary because you can get so caught up, you can get so caught up. So you have to take the time to slow down and pause, and recognizing and taking the time to look at those small wins for me helped me slow down. It forced me to slow down, and when it forced me to slow down, it helped me also stay grounded in the present. And in yeah, just stay grounded and present. Not even just stay grounded in the present, but to stay grounded and present because yeah, and when I say I have to start small, I really, really, really mean like by simply starting off with gratitude and waking up in the morning and being like, Thank you, God, for waking me up this morning. And you know, I didn't always feel that. I didn't always feel that. And it started because my my dad, my pops, he was the one, he was like, even if you can't do nothing in the morning, the first thing you need to do when you wake up is thank God when you wake up, because that's another day. It's a blessing to see another day, another chance, because it really is, because so many people close their eyes and they don't get to see, they don't know that that's their last breath, they don't know that they won't see the next day. Um, and so it really is a blessing, it really is a win, you know, to be to wake up and be able to go and go after whatever you want to go after again the next day and to keep going and to persevere. Like that truly is a win. That truly is a blessing. And like I said, I didn't always feel it. I still said it. And eventually, over time, the more consistent I was with saying it, the more truth it started to carry, and I started to truly believe it, and it held weight down in my heart, and I fake the funk until I felt it. And yeah, and that now, and now that I truly do have gratitude and waking up, and I I'm not gonna be honest, it's not always easy because yeah, you wake up and you still gotta face the same problems if you didn't if you didn't deal with it the day before. Same thing still gonna be there, same issues, same like, and that can be a booger to wake up to and have to deal with. But no, no butts. It can be a booger to have to wake up to it and have to deal with it. Like it really is and really can be. You're still able to wake up and you get another chance at it, though. And that's that's a blessing. And there's a b like Yeah, that's the blessing, and that is a win. Truly waking up the next day to be able to keep going to try it again is a win. And for me, that's the win in being and learning how to truly be grateful and have gratitude with God was waking up with everything that I saw going on and still being able to say thank you, God, for waking me up and believing it is a win for me in my book. And we're gonna keep going on into music school when I had another win, and and it was very important that we had this. I was in my pop styles class and our end of the year project, well, not end of the year, end of the term project, end of the semester project, we had to record two covers of two different styles that we covered in the class because it was a pop styles class, not a pop music class, but a popular styles music class. So we covered popular genres of the music industry of modern times. For those who know, who know. So, but yes, if you didn't know, there is a difference between actual pop music and popular music. That's a bit music history, music narrated thing, but that's besides the point. In this class, we had to record covers to two opposing genres as our end of the semester project. Cool, cool. In the moment while I was doing it, I did not recognize or realize the growth that I had gained in from being in music school and all of the things that I've learned, and not even just like the technical stuff, but even the way it's built my artistry and built my way to communicate different things because my engineer was he's been he was my engineer producer from my freshman year all the way until I graduated. And even he he could recognize in the moment, he was like, Oh, you want to do this? Oh, you talk about that. And he was like, Oh, you want a layer? And he was like, Oh, you want to? I was like, Yeah, and he was like, You want to stack? And things that I had never been able to communicate before, I was now communicating to him, and he was like, Oh, okay. And I didn't recognize the growth in that in the moment until you're like looking back over it. But the real moment where I was able to recognize and pause and stop and see the win was when I would listen to the final product of those covers, and I was like, that's me, that's my voice on those records sounding like that, like that's me, that's me, and that was huge. I was like, because it it doesn't, it was such a small project, and most people did the project by simply recording themselves, and I'm not even gonna say that. It doesn't matter. Some people toss the project to the side as if it was just a regular day, and some of the people that I was in school with they record on a regular basis, so it really didn't matter, it wasn't that big of a deal to them. It truly was just like another, another day, another project, another thing. But I was also in another class called Studio Singers, and that class. Made me feel like shit. It made me feel like crap. It made me feel like, oh my goodness, you sound terrible on a record. And I really thought it, I was like, actually, maybe, maybe I'm actually a bad singer. Maybe I'm actually pretty terrible at this. Maybe singing ain't for me. In reality, the songs we chose, the songs that were chosen for us to record really only catered to a certain vocal type, certain style. It didn't necessarily cater to various people. And not one, not one, not one song that was chosen. Catered to anybody that really sang in the realm of music that I did. And um, yeah. So it made me second guess my vocal abilities and my how and because there's some people who sound great live but sound terrible in the studio, and vice versa. They sound great in the studio, terrible live. For whatever reasons, da da da. And so I just was like, oh, maybe, maybe, maybe that ain't the route for me. Maybe I do sound bad. Maybe, maybe, maybe nah, nah, nah. But listening back to those two covers that recorded, it sounded like a professional recording. And I just was like, in awe that that was me. And I had, because I did a music camp like when I was 17 going into my senior year. So I had that, and that was a professional recording in a studio with an in with engineers that do that for a living. They were already out working in the world, not to, I'm not trying to demean or minimize my producer engineer and his skills and his level, but we were both still in school. So the level of experience was different. Um, and that's that's all I'm pointing out. And so I had that recording from when I was 17 to compare to the recording from when I was, I think I was 22, 21, 22. And the maturity, the growth, not in just my skill, not in my technical capabilities, but even in my artistry. And like I said, looking back even over just the process of recording those covers, the way I was able to communicate what I wanted, how I wanted my voice to sound, the things that I wanted to plug in and plug out, and how I wanted to layer in my voice, and even my ear being able to hear certain harmonies that weren't necessarily easy harmonies to hear or typical harmonies. It was in the moment, I was moving so fast, though I did not recognize it in the moment until he sent me the final version, and I was like, that's me. Oh, maybe I do belong here. Oh my goodness, like maybe I did belong here, and y'all were like, you were almost at the end, and he was just now coming, like, oh, maybe I do. Y'all, music school ain't for the week. Music school will humble you so quick. Music school ain't for the week. I cannot tell you how many people they said my freshman year, my freshman class of music majors was the biggest class. Like, we had the biggest turnover rate in people switching majors. Okay, freshman year. We ain't even into the thick of it yet. Freshman year. Okay, so if you have anybody that's in music school, whether that's a music education, music performance, music therapy, music, anything, they go into school for music, check on them. Check on them because we be going insane. Okay, okay. But that was such a sidebar. But being able to recognize, pause, slow down, I cannot tell you how many times I played those songs on repeat because I was just in amazement, in astonishment, and not even not in a private way. I just genuinely had not taken the time to recognize my growth. And that was a win. That was a win, and I needed it, and it grounded me in the present, in my reality. And then moving forward, I had to, I had to learn how to speak up again for myself. I had to learn how to advocate again for myself because I went through some things and heartbreak and all the things and yada yada yada. And I lost my voice along the way from music school, heartbreak, life, college, friendship loss. There was a lot of things going on in my world, and I lost my voice. I lost my ability to speak up. And it started with such a small moment where it was with the professor about a moment that I didn't agree with, agree with. And it was in that same pop styles class, actually. And it wasn't necessarily that my professor did anything wrong because they didn't. We had to sing a song, choose a cover for the actual pop music style uh genre portion of the class. And I emailed them like three choices. At this point, they didn't know my voice, they had no clue about who my what my sound was and all those things. And so I just genuinely I didn't want to choose songs that were comfort and stuff like that. And so I also was pushing myself and it was a lot of things going on, but I did have a toy, I did have two out of the three songs, I was hoping she would have chosen, you know, two. It was two that I was really leaning more towards, but they were kind of similar and along the same lines. And of course, she chose a song that was not in alignment with any of those other two. And like, I can't blame her for it, none of that, because come to find out, just about everybody did a ballad that did a pop ballad or something very similar to a pop ballad that day. And so I understood why she chose the song she chose, but it wasn't necessarily about her song choice, it was really about how um we rushed through things and how after I sang my song, it just was like crickets in there. Once again, another class where I was like, oh, am I sure I'm supposed to be here? Because nobody had like it was such a it was such a teardown moment for me at that time when literally I heard every single person in there get up there and sing, and everybody did not sound great. Hell, everybody didn't even just sound remotely good, and yet somebody had something positive to say about their performance. At least one person, one student, one of my classmates had something positive to say about every performance.

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And like I said, I was looking at somebody, I'm like, okay.

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And then then when it got my nerf, it was crickets in there, and it wasn't a good crickets, like everybody was in amazement. Oh no, it was because I sounded bad. It was because I like it was a terrible song choice, terrible key, and I was nervous. Oh my goodness, it was bad, it was so bad, and but I had to speak up for myself with the professor because, like I said, it wasn't because of her song choice, it wasn't because of none of those things, it was simply because of how it was handled, and I didn't agree with how it was handled in the class, and so I didn't speak up and say anything to her in front of any of the students, instead, in front of my peers or anything. I had pulled her to the side, had a sidebar conversation, and let her know. And she apologized because she genuinely didn't realize that it was that that happened, and to her, that wasn't how it processed in her brain and how it played out, but to me, because of everything else, I had this view on how it happened, and it really dampened mine. Like I was spiraling and having the courage to speak up for myself in that small moment because of it, and I've when I tell y'all, it was so quick. It I promise that whole interaction of me singing, no critiques, and all like that dead sound, it felt like an eternity to me, but in reality, it maybe was like five to seven minutes, not a lot of time at all. But to me, it felt like forever. It felt because when I tell you it was the headside, it was the headside no one had a comment, and I'm just looking like and I can get the amount of negative thoughts that were running through my brain, yeah, so but I took some power back and spoke up and I advocated for myself, and that was a win. Because like I said, I had a lot of stuff going on, and at that time I lost my voice, and I just not not not that I lost the willpower to speak up for myself, I really just I I had let the world beat me down so bad, I had let things in my life beat me down so bad and beat me into this tiny, tiny box that I was so scared to break out of. And me speaking up for myself in that moment was me starting to knock away at that shell, knock away at the corners or chip away at the cord cardboard just a little bit, just a little. It was a start, and I can sit back and recognize that. And now we're gonna fast forward to now, and just like my present-day wins and how I've walked away from situations that don't serve me, walked away from things that don't pour into me, that drain me, and just choosing myself and speaking my truth and not allowing the world, not allowing circumstances, not allowing situations and others' opinions weigh me down. And it doesn't not, and I'm not gonna sit here and act like it's been all sunshine and rainbows, like it's been easy. It has been a process, and I still stumble along the way, and I'm still learning because you know I don't always get it right, I don't always get it right because sometimes I choose to speak up for myself and advocate and say something at the wrong time, it was not called for, it was it was unnecessary, and my time it can be a little bad. I do also still struggle with slowing down because I do still find myself rushing, and beyond that, because I don't always slow down, and I do find myself rushing, sometimes I don't always see the growth in the moment. I have to take the time to sit and reflect back, and I don't see it until I reflect back. Um and that's where the grace comes in, is because I am getting better and I am learning and growing into it, and with every win, small, big, whatever, every time I take the time to recognize it, it's one step closer to me being present and connected to my life, and being present and grounded in the moment, and being grounded in myself. Like that's just and that's the truth. I'm still learning, I still have mistakes, I still slip up sometimes, and I have to be like, whoa, whoa, pause. Like I tell you, pause, take a beat. And I like I have to still remind myself of that, and yeah, and for me, like I said, well, I don't know if I've said this, but for me, small wins are my pause button in life, they create presents and create opportunities for me to be grounded in the present, in my actual reality, not in the demented negative version that the world tries to put on you. And like I said, we live in such a microwave time where everything is so instant, and if you don't have instant gratification, or if you don't see results immediately, it can feel so stifling and depressing and draining. So being able to pause life, you you in reality you can't pause life, but taking time to slow down and recognize ON for me is a way for me to put a pause on life. And like I said, it creates presence and opportunity for me to be present and grounded in that moment. And so my encouragement to you is this and to start small and not necessarily start small and you know start start with the smallest win that you don't even recognize as a win or the world told you wasn't a win. If it felt like a win to you, it's a win. So start there. Take the time to pause and reflect and truly start at the smallest win, even if that win is simply waking up and truly learning to be grateful to wake up and see another day. Fake it till you believe it. Not fake it till you make it, fake it till you believe it. Because I've been seeing this quote that's been going around about um, I can I don't even want to butcher it. Something like the more persistent you are, then something, and then the more consistent you are, then something. And the more grateful you are, the more you attract it. Of course, I remember the end. But um, keep going, keep trying, keep doing the thing. If you have to keep starting, just keep starting. Like, no, you're on nobody's time, nobody's time clock, her path, her pace. This is your path. This is at your pace. So do it on your turn. That's the point. Do it on your turn, and that's what matters. Taking the time to acknowledge and see the wind everywhere you are, because then you'll see the growth, then you'll be able to take pause, and then you'll be able to breathe. Because, like I said, we are in a day, microwave society, and life can feel like you're not moving fast enough, like you're behind, like you're always playing catch up. But for me, and my advice to you, my encouragement to you is taking in account those small wins, taking it until you believe it. Tricking your body and mind into believing it until you can truly believe it and truly feel it. Because you'll wake up one day and be like, oh I like that. I do that's just that's that's what matters. Because every win matters building something, even you you can't see it. Whatever your win is, it is yours, yours to own because it counts and it matters every single win. Now we have made it to Letters Along the Way, and this is the time where I would love to hear your voices and your stories and things that you have learned in life and lessons that you would like to share. Also, if you would like to write in and get some advice from me, I'm not certified, I ain't licensed. I'm telling y'all based off of my own life experience, and I can give you my opinion and give it the best shot I got. Um, but yeah, you can write those letters in and email them to lettersalongtheway at gmail.com. That is L-E-T-T-E-R-S-A-L-O-N-G-T-H-E-W-A-Y at gmail.com. All right. Now we're on to grace not. So the grace note for this week is simply every step forward matters, even the ones no one sees, even the ones you almost missed, especially those. You don't have to have it all figured out, just gotta be here, and you can let that be enough for right now. And the quote that I want to leave you with from the famous Oprah Winvri is the more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate. I want you to hold on to that and remember that as we close out this episode. Once again, I want to thank you all for joining me and walking and being in step and all of the things this week. I hope I said something to encourage you. I hope I said something to help you grow, even if I didn't. Just thank you for being here and thank you for the support and love. Um, yes, so remember we are still doing 75-day challenge. I will, if I can remember to actually figure out what day we're technically all supposed to be on, I'll remind you guys of that. So, but don't forget hashtag HPHP 75 day challenge and all of the things. Don't forget to write in your letters, sharing your stories, your life lessons that you would like to share with anybody. And if you guys may have advice, like I said, give it a shot. Go ahead and follow the podcast at HerPath HerPace on all platforms, and you can follow me, the host, at Roshake, also on all platforms. Um, turn on those post bell notifications, like, share, comment, subscribe, and all of the things to let the world know, let your folks know that we are here, that exists, that we are always together that can play in all the all of those things. But yeah, thank you guys once again. Thank you, thank you, thank you. I can't say it enough. And until next week, guys, remember to pause, breathe, take a peek, and don't forget to give yourself some days. See you next week.