They're Just Girl Too

In this episode, I’m honoring both of my moms.

The one who gave birth to me… and the one who stepped in and chose to be my mom when she didn’t have to.

And if I’m being honest, my relationships with both of them have come with different layers, emotions, lessons, and moments of healing.

For a long time, I only saw things through my own perspective—through my hurt, my confusion, and the experiences I had to grow through. And those feelings were real. They still are.

But as I’ve gotten older, healed, and started navigating life as a woman myself… I’ve gained a different kind of understanding.

I’ve started to see them not just as “moms,” but as women.

Women who were experiencing life for the first time too. Women carrying responsibilities, pressures, insecurities, sacrifices, expectations, and emotions that I couldn’t fully understand until I started facing some of those same things myself.

This episode isn’t about pretending everything was perfect or dismissing my own experiences. It’s about acknowledging that both truths can exist at the same time.

My feelings were valid.
 And so were theirs.

I talk about the complicated emotions surrounding divorce, abandonment, womanhood, motherhood, stepping into a role that wasn’t originally yours, and the grace that comes from finally seeing people fully.

Because understanding them differently didn’t erase my feelings…

It helped me heal them.

And ultimately, this episode is a thank you.

To the women who shaped me, protected me, loved me, sacrificed for me, and helped make me who I am—even in ways I couldn’t fully recognize at the time.

They were just girls too… trying to figure it out.

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That's my favorite commercial of all time. Anyways. Let's get to it. Anyways, I hope it's actually focused. Oh my goodness, please, dear God. Well, hello, hello, hello, everybody. Welcome to welcome back to Her Path, Her Pace, where growth meets grace. I'm your host, Shay, and thank you for tuning in on another Tuesday. Even though, yeah, not home day. It's Tuesday. Well, it might be home day when you're listening to this, but the drop is on Tuesday. So, yeah. Hi. Thank you for tuning in and joining for another week for another episode. Let's go ahead and dive into it and get caught up with life lately. Okay. So this past weekend was Mother's Day weekend. So happy Mother's Day. Even though, yeah, it already happened. Um that I'm gonna say it now because yeah, happy Mother's Day to all the moms, all the ones who step in to take over roles as moms, and all of the things, and all the aunties, and that are second moms, and that are mothers to all those, and even those who don't have children and yet are still mothers to everybody. Just shout out to every single person in the world that is a mom. Happy Mother's Day to you. You deserve this time, an amazing time, and all of those things. You are amazing and wonderful, and the world would not go around without you. Hello, hello, hello, hello. The role of the mothers, because you are mother, honey. You are mother, mother. Anyways, um, that was a bit much. Besides the point, I for Mother's Day, as my gift to my uh sister and my mom, I took them on a picnic this past weekend, and it was so fun, it was so nice. I was a little nervous because my mom, both of them actually are very picky eaters. Um, they are both very picky eaters, and I was just overthinking and kind of second-guessing what to pack and all of those things, and then I just kind of just was like, you know what, it's gonna be fine. It's gonna be fine, it's gonna be fun. Stop overthinking it, stop making it complicated, and they both enjoyed themselves, at least they said they did. So I hope they really did. And I enjoyed myself, I enjoyed um spending time with both of them. It's been a while since we've all been able to hang out and things like that because of life and just personal things, but it was nice coming together, spending time together. And we even took my little nephew, my stinker butt. He went with us because we went to a park and we took him outside and we played. We learned that if you bring bubbles around little kids, that needs to be the last thing you bring around little kids. Because that'll be all at least for him. That was all he wanted to play with. He only wanted bubbles, he didn't want to play with nothing else. Like he would start playing with other stuff. Like, I got him a little football, a little soccer ball, a little mini, um, not a mini, but a racket. So he could do we could do like fake tennis or you know, fake what's it called? Not yeah, it was fake because we we don't know what we're doing. But what's the other? I think it's racquetball. The the I don't know what the the thing is called for the racket. Where's the where's the little circle ball at the end and the um the plastic things on the out that come out of it? Yeah, that that game took rock that and he played with all of that stuff for maybe like a minute, two minutes, and like increments, but all he wanted was bubbles. He kept asking for bubbles, bubbles, bubbles, bubbles, bubbles, bubbles. Well, it was all fun and it was nice, and I just had a great weekend, and it was just nice being able to gift them that time and that moment and just quality time, just spending quality time together and being outside and all of those things. I was a little that was another thing I was worried about because neither one of them are outside girlies, they are not outside girlies at all, and they don't do bugs and they don't do they don't do heat, all that stuff. That is not them, but like I said, they enjoyed it. As far as I know, they said they enjoyed it, and I know I enjoyed it, and I loved having that time and spending it with them and all those things, so yeah, that's what has been going on in my world. What is going on in y'all's world lately? I hope you guys all had an amazing Mother's Day. Um, yeah, all of those things. I know this can be a sad holidays and events like this can be sad for some people and a sad time, and I'm gonna get into my little thing a little later on um in the episode, but yeah, it's also I t I wanted for me because I lost my birth mom. Um I lost my birth mom, and so in previous episodes I've kind of talked about here, not fully talked about hinted at certain things and how our relationship was a bit rocky and complicated and all of those things. So it it's also a touchy subject for me in terms of that, but yeah, so I understand and I can feel where people are coming from in that area, and I took the time and I just I I the I knew she wouldn't want me to be sad. I don't have any other way to put it. I knew she wouldn't want me to be sad and all those things and be in you know depressed, and she would want me to remember the joys and moments and things like that. So yeah, um, I said all that to say I said all that to say. I pray and wish joy and peace amongst all of you who have lost loved ones, who uh were that who have lost your moms, who have lost mother figures in their life, maternal figures in their life, and all of those things, and understand and trust and believe and know that they are there with you in spirit and in your heart and hold on to those memories and things like that. I don't want to guess that. So we're just gonna keep moving, we're gonna keep moving right up. Because now that we're all caught up, let's go ahead and talk about them glow up. Yeah, baby. As you all know, we are still doing our 75-day challenge and I don't know how to say this, but I have not been working out the this past couple weeks. I told y'all in the previous episode that I was gonna do better and get back in it. I still ain't got back on that workout tip yet. So but I still have been walking, I've been walking a lot. Like, I've been walking a lot, way more than 30 minutes at a time. Like, I've definitely been walking, and I have gotten back into journaling and things like that. So I've still been journaling, I've been walking, I've I've still and that's the thing. I've still been eating right, even though I haven't been on my daily workout, you know, actually in the gym hitting them weights and all of that stuff. I've still been I've still been eating in a healthy manner. It's about moderation, you know. That's what I'm preaching to my parents, to my folks. It's not necessarily about just completely changing your diet. You do things in moderation. Okay. It's not a diet, it's supposed to be a lifestyle change. Yada yada yada yada yada. I don't have to get on that soapbox. But yeah, so I've still been eating, right? Even though I ain't really been working out in the gym. Still been walking. I've still been journaling. Like I told y'all last week, my this current season in my life, I have ended up stuck on the chapter of in the Bible, Psalms 23, and I've been reading it over and over and over and over and over because it's I just I need it and I have I still haven't moved past reading it, um, and meditating on it and speaking with God and just you know life. So that's I've still like so I've still been reading. I've just been you know maybe I should turn this down some because I feel like I'm right in the like. Okay. So I've still been reading in all of those things. It's just I have been reading the one chapter every morning and every night. And if that's what you gotta do, if that's if this is also a part of your 75 days, then that's great. Because I'm doing it. And that's what we if that's what needs to happen, that's just what needs to happen. Also, let's see. We're we're almost as done with this 75 day challenge. May, once we hit May 15th, that's 60 days. No, because I pushed it back. We didn't start March 15th. We started March 22nd. We started on my D we start March 22nd or March 15th. If we start, I have to go back and double check because I can't remember. I've also still have not been keeping up with the actual days. I've just like because like I said, the whole purpose of this is to create routine and set actual lifestyle changes, so it's not really a focus on the day count or all of those things. I just call it the 75-day challenge because that's what studies say it usually takes to actually build a routine and stick to it about 75 days, and for you to have actual real physical transformation if you're working out and all those things, so that's why I just call it the 75-day challenge. But I haven't really been hard on the actual day count, so that's why I haven't been tracking it. However, comma, um, I believe, yes, if we if I'm not mistaken, I believe we started. No, it was March 22nd because of all that fiasco I had with getting the personal workout plan. So yes, it was March 22nd on my birthday. So once we hit May 22nd, that's 60 days. If I'm not mistaken, if my math is correct, that's 60 days, which means well we're we have 15 days left. Yeah, so we're almost done with the 75 day challenge, and I can truly say that oh, and I forgot about the reading. I forgot to even and see that's another thing. I've started back reading for fun. I've been definitely been reading more than 10 pages a day. I've I've been flying through my books, and I've actually started back because I put down I DNF'd a book because I didn't have the last book in the series because it wasn't supposed to be released until late, and then somehow, some way it got early released, and I don't I don't know what happened, something probably went awry or something like that. But but I picked it back up because I finally have the last book of the series and I so I picked back up a book that I DNF'd and now I'm finishing it, but I had to go back and reread some of the stuff because I stopped I DNF'd it in like the middle in the middle of a chapter, and so I was like, hold on, I kind of just dropped myself back off in the in the in the in somewhere I don't know where I'm at. So I had to backtrack a little more, so it's taken me a little longer to actually read it. I'm looking over at my bookshelf, that's why I'm looking over to the side. But yes, so but yeah, I've been I've been reading every day a lot, like a lot. Like that's how I finished the Kennedy Ryan Sky Skyland series, and I'm waiting for all of her books. I can't remember the other series because I ordered all of them from another series. I can't even remember the series that it was, but yeah, I ordered all of them. I'm just waiting for them to get here. So yeah, once they get here, I'm gonna pick those up. Well, after I finish this series, this fantasy series. Well, is it yeah, magic and fantasy series that I'm in the middle of. And yeah. Yeah, the Legend Born series. If anybody knows who if anybody reads that, that's the series I'm reading. And I am currently on the is it, I believe it's called Blood Bound or Blood Oaths or the second book in the series, read through Legend Born. I DNF'd the second book because I didn't have the last book, but now I have Oath Bound, and so yeah, but um, all those things, whatever. But yes, how are you guys doing? How is the challenge going for you guys? How has it been implementing these things? Are do you guys feel them coming more naturally to you? Are you still struggling a bit with being disciplined in certain areas? It's okay if you are. This isn't about perfection, this isn't about, like I said, this isn't about you know being strict and hard, it's about building a routine. And yes, it is about building discipline, but not in the necessary strict and rigidness of it, it's just more so to help maintain a better lifestyle or a more routine lifestyle for people who just kind of don't have a routine, or those of you who feel we struggle with routines and things like that, but um, or even just you know, building a routine to remind yourself to pour back into you and take care of yourself. Like that's because that's what it is for me. It's about because for me, it's about continuing to strengthen my relationship with God and remembering to pour into myself and take care of myself. So that's why all of my things in my 75-day list are what they are, which to remind everybody, it's reading at least 10 10 pages, not 10 chapters, who reading at least 10 pages a day just for fun, and then reading a chapter out of the Bible a day, journaling daily, working working out daily, um, and eating to support that, and going on daily walks outside for at least 30 minutes or so. Yeah, but um, yeah, that's that's that. So, yeah, let me know how's it going for you guys down below in the comments. If you want to share your experiences and all of those things, you can do hashtag hphp75 days or hashtag hphp75 day challenge and share your thoughts and things that you are learning about yourself and the different experiences you are having as we are going through this routine building and pouring in ourselves and all the things, 75 days soft 75 day challenge. Yeah, yeah, just let me know in the comments down below if you want to take a picture, record a video, tag us at her path her pace, and do the hashtag so I can see it. So, yeah, because I'm looking for them, I'm checking them out, yeah. Okay, so now that we are all glowing, growing and going, let's go ahead and see who we are in step with on today. Okay, so for this week's shared steps, as I stated earlier, or if I didn't, I actually can't remember if I did or not. This is the Mother's Day episode. I know Mother's Day has already passed. I'm well aware. We can still celebrate it and talk about it on this episode, this week, today, and all those things. So we're just gonna take the moment to highlight and give flowers to all the mothers in the world, all of those who have stepped in and took over the role as mothers and been the maternal figure in someone's life. You I believe a lot of times there's a lot of things that women are just expected to do, and we aren't women aren't given the actual proper flowers, and because of the expectation in society and things like that, and you know, I just don't think that's right. So, Mother's Day, we are celebrating you, moms, maternal figures, anyone that has stepped into a mother role for anybody, any person, even if you have not physically birthed the child, that does not necessarily mean you are not a mom, because you birth a lot of things, a lot of things are birthed, and you take care and tend to a lot of flowers and a lot of gardens, and women make the world go round, mothers make the world go round, and there's nothing like a mother's love, and all of those things, and so this shared step moment is for all of the moms out there. Thank you for being you and yeah, this is me pouring and watering the garden in you. So here are your flowers, and just thank you for all that you have done, will do, and are currently doing. Thank you. Okay, so now let's set the mood with some tunes. Okay, so as I mentioned, this episode, like once again, is Mother's Day episode, and it was only right that I take the time to talk about my mom's and um in this episode. So I'll get into it a little bit more in the main topic. But for her playlist, the first song on it is Brown Skin Girl by Beyonce, and I have that on the playlist because as I've been growing up, as I'm entering womanhood and navigating life, well, not entering womanhood, but well, learning that there are levels to being a woman and all of the things and life and oh so much. I wanted this song on there because it allows me to to me it's saying I'm finally seeing them as not just moms, not just as that one role of their lives, but as women, and seeing the beauty in them as women, and you know, brown-skinned girl, I come black woman, come from a black woman. I had my my mom's black, my daddy stayed married, but he married another black woman. That's just that's you know, black, black, blacky black, black brown skin girl. And there be there's beauty in not like just the best once again, not only seeing them in that role as moms, but seeing them and the beauty in them as women, and that's what that first song is. And the second song in the playlist this week is Mama by Spice Girls, furthering that understanding of them now, and understanding even though both of them play different roles in my life, in my life, I understand both of them differently, and I see them both differently, and yeah, and that's what mama represents, and it's just me saying that and as chaotic and you know kind of complicated and confusing life can be, and taking myself out of it and just finally seeing them as not just moms, not just as that one role in life, but as women navigating life. I yeah, I understand, might not agree with everything, but I understand. So, yeah, that's that. So now that we have set the stage, let's go ahead and walk through this thing, y'all. I think we're right there on it. I hope it's okay. I hope it focused, focused on me. Okay, so with this episode being about my moms, um, I can say I have been blessed to have had two moms in my life, and if I'm being honest, I have not always understood them, and there were Things I had to grow through myself, feelings I had, confusion, hurt, questions, and all of those things were real, are real, and are very valid. Um but you know, I did go as I've been growing up and like I said, entering the different levels of womanhood and having to face uh questions of my own and society and all of those stipulations and things, I've had a couple of shifts in understanding. And the first shift for me was seeing my birth mom differently. And um, for those who don't know, uh my parents, my dad and my birth mom, they were married and they divorced and my mom didn't take us take me and my siblings with her. She took my oldest sister, um, and all of that, and story there. Um, well, not really much of a story there, but you know, things like that, which created some complicated like confusion for me, and I had to work through some things and I had questions and all of that, and I at the root of a lot of it was I just didn't understand how she could leave, you know, leave me and my siblings and things like that. And as I've been as I was able to speak with her when she was here and we did have the time to have conversations and things like things like that, I learned from conversations and just from you know hearing other people's story about her, she had a lot of responsibilities early in life. Um she's kind of always she kind of was always a she was always needed. People were always depending on her to take care of them, to be there for them, to she basically was a mom to many before being a mom of uh of her own, um, and things like that. And when with talking with her and learning more about her, she wanted more. She wanted to travel, she wanted to experience life and have these different experiences and things like that, to be young and reckless and go through and you know have those moments of being a young lady and transitioning into a young womanhood and all of those things without the responsibilities, but she didn't get that luxury per se. And when I started looking at her through my adult eyes, my woman eyes, and I realized how heavy they had that had to be. Um it didn't matter what it looked like to anyone else about her life, it didn't matter about the decisions and things like that and how it seemed to other people. What mattered was how she felt. And like I didn't have to agree with the way she went about things and how she did things, but I understand her now. And even under even though I understand her, it doesn't erase my experience and my feelings and things like that, because both truths exist at the same time, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. However, as like I said, growing up now and navigating life and and the relationship that I was able to build with her and things that I learned about her through conversation with her and through stories of other people who've been around her and grown up with her, I can only imagine the weight and responsibility of having to take care of everybody, or not necessarily not even just everybody, but even just having the load and weight and responsibility of having to be a mom before being a mom and trying to deal with that confusion of when am I gonna be able to actually learn me and experience life and I I I get it, I understand it. Like I said, it doesn't erase how I felt and it doesn't erase my experience and not doesn't mean that I am okaying the way she went about doing things and all that, but I understand I can sit here and say, I understand, and I can only imagine how heavy that truly could have felt, and how lonely that could have felt to have that those emotions and things and experiences and not have the words or the strength to stand up and you know say no, and then when you do dealing with the weight of always being judged for it and no one understanding and thinking that you know viewing it one way when really this is how you feel and all of those things. I I get it, I understand it now. And then I also had a shift with my mom who raised me, the one who stepped in and took up the mantle to raise me and my siblings, my dad's kids, like and she's our mom. That that's my mom, and I don't care how anybody else feels about it. That woman stepped in and she took on that role and she took that responsibility, and she's my mom. Okay, she's always been present and active and not just there, like physically, but mentally, emotionally, spiritually, you know, for choir performances, school life, she's been my mama bear, my protection, you know. And even you know, even when life, you know, didn't look and how I wanted to look, or even when she didn't understand me, or any of those things, or what I was going through, she still stood in the fire. She stood in that fire. She chose to stand in that fire and take it on and be, she chose to be my mom. And even with all of that, I still didn't even fully understand her either. While growing up, I didn't fully understand the weight of that role while growing up, but you know, and I I had I had to ask myself some tough questions and face some tough truths and things like that, and just like sit back and just be like, Did I fully let her be my mom? Did I fully trust her in that role? And as much as my gut and heart and everything was screaming, yes, yes you did, yes you did, yes you did. I had to be honest and acknowledge the hurt from my birth mom and her leaving and all of that, and be truthful and honest and say, even though it was the tiniest bit, no, there was a thin wall that I still had around my heart guarding myself, because let's face it, the woman who carried me for my for nine months, I am her own flesh and blood, still left me. And as much as I want to deny, deny, deny, deny, and say I was able to let my mom in fully all the way with everything and say I didn't have angst and I didn't have questions and I didn't, you know, cause confusion. And I can't I can't fully say that because I can say it wasn't intentional. I can't say that and mean that from the depths of my heart, heart, and soul. It was never intentional and not something I realized until I've been growing up and doing the work and doing the journaling and doing all of the things and using my tools and learning myself and yeah, it was a thin wall, it was a thin wall, slight resistance, not much, not major, but was it there? Yes, yes it was, yes it was, and I had to take pause and fix myself and do the work to forgive my birth mom so I could fully see and allow and understand my mom that chose to be there and chose to stay and continuously showed up and actively loved me and fought battles for me that I didn't see holding me in the times when I cried, even though she is far from physically affectionate, she don't like touching, she don't like none of that, she don't like none of that. But if I needed to be held while I cried, she'd hold me. She would hold me, she has held me. Like I said, choir performances, even when they were not the best, okay? Sometimes we sounded like screeching whales up there. Let me tell you. But was she there? Yeah, she would brag about me all the time. She still brags about me how smart I am, even though I'm just like, I don't know what you're talking about. Like, we literally just went to the trivia night that I talked about a couple episodes ago, and she was bragging to everybody how oh, yeah, we don't gotta worry about nothing. Because Ariel, she got it. Oh, she got it. Yeah, she got it. She could do that. She's smart. If we got anything about history, madness, Ariel got that. I was like, I don't know who you uh it's been a little minute, it's been a little minute since I didn't have to do that type of schoolwork. But like those are things she would she did and still does brag about to this day, and she has been a fierce protector in my life, you know, she wasn't perfect, but she was there, she was there, and I feel that people don't talk enough about the women who step in and take care of children that aren't theirs, it's expected. People always brag about the men and oh yeah, he came to you as a single mom and he still took over and took care of your kids, or oh yeah, even or even in blended families when the men in our in my situation the men have kids and the the woman also has kids, but you know, you never you rare not never you rarely hear people talk about the sacrifices and things that as things that the woman faces, it's always about oh that man didn't have to, he didn't have to come in and take care of kids that weren't his and all of those things, but that's not fair, and that's not right. And as I'm as I'm growing up, I am seeing that like the emotional weight of raising kids who have this weird, complicated relationship with their birth mom, or who don't who have who don't have a relationship with their birth mom, and they're trying to navigate if they want to or not, the ups and downs and the questions of dealing with that, the women who step in and take over and are moms to and just helping them navigate through that while also navigating the insecurity of you know, am I ever gonna be enough as a mom for these kids? Will they ever truly see me as their mom? Will they ever let me love them? I'm trying as hard as I can, but will like will I ever be enough for them as their mom? Will I ever just be enough? And dealing with the weight of family's opinions, you know, because you have some family members who who might prefer the other woman over you, even though that woman left, and that woman didn't take care of her kids, and that woman chose other things over her kids, and you chose to come in, step in, and take care and be there. There's still people in for whatever reason in their minds won't respect you as family, won't accept you as family, and dealing with that and the just the pressure and constant comparison, whether it's in your mind or whether it's in other people's mind or even in the kids, and because you have to face and realize that there's gonna come a day where they're gonna ask the hard question, and you have to are you willing to bear and fight and stick with them and navigate through those complications and questions? That's a lot. That is a lot for that is a lot, that's a lot for anyone to bear. But like I said, no one no one really takes the time to acknowledge and speak about the women who step in. The women, sorry, the women who step in and take on that role and navigate those waters. My mom did. My mom is, my mom has, and she's continuously been there in so many ways, and taking the time to learn all of us and grow with us, and learn how to love us and learn how to love my dad, and learn how to she's she's been so many things while also navigating and figuring it out for herself and so for me, both of these women have showed up in my life in different ways, and the truth is like I said, they they both just navigating life for the first time, and um just like me, they were just girls just trying to figure it out and find the balance in life, and finally being able to see them both in this light didn't and it doesn't minimize or invalidate my feelings or my experiences, in all honesty, it's helped heal me and it's helped heal my wounds and how I see them both and as I'm growing and navigating these this and as I'm growing and navigating the same world and I'm finding myself in some of the same emotions and pressures and asking similar questions that I'm sure they both had, I get it now in a way that I didn't before. And so I just want to say thank you. Thank you both for teaching me and showing me and through it all in the ups and downs which thank you. Because at the end of the day, I've learned something from both of them. So yeah, that's all I have to say. Oh, okay. Okay. So we have now reached the point in the episode. Now we have reached the point in the episode where I would like to hear your voices and your stories and your experiences. What are some things that you have learned about your mom and some realizations that you've had as you've been growing up and navigating this life and experiencing it for the first time, and even if I have some moms listening in, you write in your stories too, and share some wisdom and some lessons and anything that you want to voice. This is the moment for it to be voiced, and we are all here listening. You can write those letters in. Oh, or also if you want advice. Um, I'm not licensed, not certified, didn't go to school for that type of thing. I could just give the best advice a guy. I can give you some big sister advice. That's all I can do. Um, but tell you with a grain of salt. Yes, but you can write all of those things in to lettersalong the way at gmail.com. That is L-E-T-T-E-R-S A-L-O-N-G T-H-E-W A Y at Gmail.com. So now we have reached the grace note part of our episode, and the grace note is simply that they were just the grace note here for me, and I hope for anyone else that may be in similar situations, blended families, your mom isn't there, or whatever the case may be. Excuse me. Whatever the case may be for you. Um the grace in it for me was coming to realization that they were both just doing the best they could with what they had. And so are you. Grace looks different when you realize that they were learning to, and just girls in this world trying to figure it out. And that's that's where the grace came from was understanding that we're all just living for the first time and navigating this world, figuring it out all the same. So yeah. So thank you for tuning in and joining me for another episode this week. Uh don't forget hashtag HPHP75 days, hashtag HPHP75 Day Challenge. Let me know how you are going and our glow up goals 75 day challenge. We are almost there. We are almost to the end. I hope it is becoming more routine-like for you. Um, once again, happy Mother's Day to all the moms, all the maternal figures, all the ones who stepped up and took over that role and have been a mother to anyone, to us all. Just thank you and happy Mother's Day to you all. Um, yes, uh, you can tune in next week, next Tuesday. I'll be dropping another episode. Follow the podcast at Her Path Her Paste on all socials. You can follow me, your host, Shay, at Roshea, on all socials as well. Um, what else am I forgetting? Oh, yeah. Don't forget to comment, like, share, subscribe, turn on those post bell notifications. So you are notified every time a new episode drops. Okay, guys. Yeah, I think, yeah, I think that's all I got for you guys. So as always, remember to pause, breathe, take a beat, and don't forget to give yourself some grace. Until next week, guys, bye.