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Ep 22: BLACK WOMEN ARE NOT APPROACHABLE ft. Terrica Rumph

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From patient charts to purpose content—Terrica Rumph is navigating a bold new chapter. This toddler mom, nurse practitioner, and aspiring full-time content creator is showing what it really means to build in real life. After battling preeclampsia, adjusting to motherhood, and relocating from Alabama, Terrica opens up about the emotional, spiritual, and marital shifts that come with choosing more.

👶🏽 Toddler Mom
💉 Nurse Practitioner
📲 Faith-Led Creator in the Making
💍 Marriage, Motherhood & the Mission

In this episode, we talk about how healthcare has changed, what purpose looks like in the middle of motherhood, and how Terrica is turning her story into strategy—one post at a time.

#NurseMomLife #PurposeOverPressure #FromScrubsToContent #FaithInTheShift #MomBossMoves #TerricaRumph #RealTalkRealPurpose


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SPEAKER_00

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I like that right there.

SPEAKER_00

I am your host, your girl, the Mom Panor Mentor, Tammy Capri. And today I have a very special guest in the huddle with me today, Mrs. Tara Carrump. Hi. Joining me in the huddle. How are you, sis?

SPEAKER_01

I'm good. What's going on with you? It's so good to be here.

SPEAKER_00

It's so good to have you here.

SPEAKER_01

Thank you.

SPEAKER_00

And I enjoy that. I got another brown sister. I love all my sisters, but there's something about that brown melon.

SPEAKER_01

The melon is popping.

SPEAKER_00

Listen, it's popping. How are you? How are you?

SPEAKER_01

Good. I'm doing good. Good.

SPEAKER_00

I'm glad to hear it. Well, let's get right into it. First and foremost, um, tell our audience just a little bit about who you are and what you do. Okay.

SPEAKER_01

So I am a doctorate-prepared nurse practitioner specializing in pulmonary medicine. And I also am a content creator as well, which I've been now for the last two to three years or so. Yes. And so I've been married, um, married for six years to my college sweetheart, and we have a three-year-old son who is so amazing and just full of energy all over the place, you know.

SPEAKER_00

I love it. You know, I'm starting to see that a lot more people with the clinical backgrounds and medical fields becoming content creators. Do y'all have like a secret email that went out like, hey, try this, or like, what's going on with that? Because y'all all stepping into the content thing. It's different. Like, tell me about that. What made you want to jump into content creation?

SPEAKER_01

So I honestly wanted to jump into content creation when I first had my son. Okay. Okay. And so I worked, and at the time, you know, I saw other friends who were getting into the content creation space, and I was like, you know what? I kind of want my own community. I'm a new mom. I want some people who can know and understand what it is that I'm going through or I'm going to be going through. Right. You know, I love all of my friends, but my friends who don't have kids right now, I feel like they don't understand.

SPEAKER_00

They don't.

SPEAKER_01

Uh, you know, until you have a child of your own. So I was like, I just want my own community. I just want other people to, you know, be out there and see me and say, hey, I can relate to this person. I want to, you know, see what she's all about.

SPEAKER_00

So you weren't shy with putting, because essentially with content creation, transparency is a big requirement. So you weren't like shy, or how did your husband even feel when you say, hey babe, we're gonna be YouTube stars or how does that like because when you think of doctors, oh, and not not to jump off a topic, but there's this one doctor who always advocates non-smoking. Do you know what I'm talking about?

SPEAKER_01

Like, I don't know.

SPEAKER_00

I'm gonna send you this page. Okay, he's he's always the advocate for um people to stop smoking. He be on there just the dancing, and I'm like, how did he get into this? Like, what do his clients say?

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, so what's funny is initially when I was like, you know what, I think I'm gonna do content creation, my husband wasn't 100% on board at all. He was just, you know, he always supports me, but it wasn't like, all right, babe, we're gonna get this equipment. I'm gonna film you, I'm gonna get this. Like, you know, I really kind of had to navigate that particular portion. It wasn't until I actually got paid on a brand. Then he was like, Oh, yeah, like, oh, you can make money from this. Okay. So then he became on board, and you know, he loves it now, and it's so funny because now he's on his own content creation journey.

SPEAKER_00

You put him down, see? Yeah, to be like, This is why y'all need us. This is exactly why y'all need us.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, so that's really how um, you know, it kind of started for us.

SPEAKER_00

So, but I it it is definitely hard trying to get um not just with content creation, but just because that's that's a business. So let's let's get that straight. It's not just it's a full-time job. Exactly. It ain't just buying a camera, it's not just making pretty videos or interesting videos, it's an actual strategy behind creating content and it's intentional for a specific purpose, and it's hard to get, let alone um entrepreneurship overall, but specifically creating content, it's hard to get a spouse or family on board with that notion in the beginning. So I can imagine the conversation or the hesitation, but what I love about your situation is that he was rocking with it. Yeah, he was rocking with it, and I love that. Yeah, and I love that, and it's new, you know.

SPEAKER_01

So anytime anybody is starting something new, there's always a little bit of hesitancy, yeah, you know, because you just don't know what where yeah, where this is gonna lead. And it honestly, like I mentioned, it's a full-time job. So it was taking a lot of my time away from him, away from my family. So that is something that I feel like your family has to be on board with, you know, when it comes to content creation.

SPEAKER_00

How old was your son when you got into content creation?

SPEAKER_01

When I got into it, he was probably eight or nine months. He was really young. Okay. Really young.

SPEAKER_02

Okay.

SPEAKER_01

Um, he was actually still being breastfed.

SPEAKER_02

Okay.

SPEAKER_01

And my very first partnership was with a bottle warming company. And so yeah, so he was very young when I when I started all of this.

SPEAKER_00

So, but how has how has um motherhood shifted like your approach to jumping into a new lane? Like sharing him with the world or just being open and vulnerable with your emotions, not even knowing if I don't even know if you've experienced anything on your postpartum, but just that whole aspect, like how did it help you approach it, like you as a mother on the mother aspect? Um, in terms of feelings or feelings, in terms of just um anything, like so.

SPEAKER_01

I feel like me approaching this content creation journey as a mom, it really just allowed me a different outlet. So I did not have the easiest. So I had an easy pregnancy up until the very end.

SPEAKER_02

Okay.

SPEAKER_01

So around 31, 32 weeks, I developed pre-eclampsia and I had a couple of hospital visits. With the second hospital visit, I had to stay until I delivered him. And so that was just a lot in itself. My son stayed in NICU for a month.

SPEAKER_00

Oh my god. That feeling right there alone.

SPEAKER_01

Yes, it was it was a lot, and I felt I spent many days crying, upset. Um, because I didn't understand. You're dealing with so many different emotions when you deliver and have a baby. Absolutely. And not only are you do, you know, you're going through a change within yourself, but with your spouse as well, because you're trying to navigate something completely new together on little to no sleep. Right. You know? And so it was just a lot. And content creation was honestly my outlet. It was something that was therapy. It was therapy. It was something for me that I'm like, okay, you know what? I enjoy doing this. I uh can have other people that I can relate to, and that is genuinely what made me happy during that time.

SPEAKER_00

So were you, were you um, I guess, transparent about that pain point in your breakthrough? Like, were you, is that all documented through your content? Like, does your audience know, or do you share that part of it, like that whole uh before, middle, and after?

SPEAKER_01

I shared a little bit of it. I didn't share a whole lot. Um I so my audience is aware, you know, that I've had pre-eclampsia. My audience is aware of NICU, uh the NICU say. I don't know that I share, or I don't remember if I shared or not, that the strain that you can have in a marriage when you do have a child. And I do think that is something that should be talked about because what you do see is, you know, you see a happy couple, a happy black couple, they love each other, but you don't see what it took to get there.

SPEAKER_02

You know what I mean?

SPEAKER_01

Yes, and I do feel like other people could relate uh to that and to hearing that story. Yeah, I just have not sat down to really figure out like how to incorporate all of that.

SPEAKER_00

But so you don't mind incorporating that. I don't mind.

SPEAKER_01

No, I don't mind because they can help somebody, yeah, absolutely.

SPEAKER_00

And that and it brings me to my to my next question is like, how do you deal with the pressure of having to feel like you have have it all together? Or you know what I mean? Because when it comes to content creation, and even for me, and I'm not that influencer or well, I'm I'm an influencer, but not I I don't do it to get brand deals or to work with different companies. I do it for my personal brand, but there is still a part of me where you second guess, should I expose this or should I not? Should I talk about this or should I not? And then you find yourself, um, I don't know if you've experienced this, you find yourself wanting to feel like you have it all together or be a set of it, but it's okay to show the the real raw and then cut you. So how do you deal with those pressures and and how do you stay so true to your journey and your mission? Because you have a mission to help somebody out there through what you're doing.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

Like you leave it, you're first of all, you're leaving the the hospital world that you were already helping people to go help somebody that you don't even know yet. But um, how do you how do you stay focused on that? Like how do you deal with those pressures?

SPEAKER_01

So, well, first, I I do, I'm always authentic. And so a lot of the times, even though I don't necessarily post it on my feed, I share a lot in my stories as well. You know what I mean? Um, or if people, I'm really an open book. So people come to me, you know. I had a friend who just visited me and she was like, you know, what are the top three things that you would say we need, because she's in a relationship, what we need as a couple, and my number one thing, I listed those things out and explained some of the issues that my husband and I had. Um, I think one of the reasons that I did not share initially, because your partner again has to be on board with that type of stuff. So initially he wasn't, so that was something that I just reserved for myself, and now he's okay. Like, you know, it you have to see what it takes or what it took to get to this other side. And so I think just being open and honest in my stories or people ask me particular questions, like being able to share that with them.

SPEAKER_00

So, where does that leave you with your career? Right? Are you trying to make a full-time switch or like is this a cause obviously you're at a point where you feel like that there's more.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

You feel like like that there's more. Literally, you have a greater purpose. You um went to school, paid for school, got the degree, the time invested to say, like, hey, I'm jumping out the window and doing something that I wanna, I I wanna do. Like, I feel like this is right. And um, sometimes again, we like you said, if are are you involved with your family? Are you close with your family? Like, okay.

SPEAKER_01

They just don't live here. Okay. So it's just my husband and I. Okay. Our family's in Alabama.

SPEAKER_00

Okay, all right. And even from the outside looking in, they're like, she's leaving to do what? You know what I mean? But so um you feel like you have a greater purpose. Where does that leave you with your current career? Yeah.

SPEAKER_01

So to be honest, that's something I'm still working on. I don't know a hundred percent where this is gonna lead me, but I will say COVID changed a lot of things.

SPEAKER_00

Okay.

SPEAKER_01

And healthcare is not the same health care that it was when I first got it.

SPEAKER_00

I hear people say that. What do you mean by that?

SPEAKER_01

Like it wasn't so it's a business, number one, but I do find that some of the people that we work with just don't necessarily care how they should about other people. About other people. It's also very difficult when we can't even get you the things that you need. Like patients can't afford certain things, but of course, insurance. Let's say they don't have insurance, because we get that a lot.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01

And there is no way for me to get you the help that you need. We have patients that need oxygen, they can't afford it.

SPEAKER_00

Right.

SPEAKER_01

They can't afford it. So, or they need certain, you know, medicine or inhalers.

SPEAKER_00

The resources alone are not even uh available. They're not available. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, and that's very hard. That's very hard. Very, very sad. And I literally had a patient begging me, like, just please help me, just please help me. And I I mean, I went to the care coordinators to to try to help that patient. It's literally my hands are tied. You know what I mean? I don't know how else to help that patient. And that's very hard to stay in and not be able to, you're literally just watching people go left and right. And there's nothing that nothing that you can do.

SPEAKER_00

So is it was that at the point where you had that moment of you wanna position yourself to live your life and do something to where you know you can make an impact? Is that was that that pivotal moment or what what was the pivotal?

SPEAKER_01

That is that is one of the moments, but I will tell you, what I'm really chasing is freedom.

SPEAKER_00

Yes.

SPEAKER_01

Okay, yes. So when I see, you know, my friends or other people who are able to stop at the the the a drop of a hat and go be with their kids. I'm like, I want that.

SPEAKER_00

Not have to be confined to a schedule, not have to be confined to anybody else's dream. Yes.

SPEAKER_01

No, and so like with me, if I wanted to, for instance, my son, he used to get sick all the time. Daycare baby, you know, daycare germs. Oh, yes. Listen, it was every month, every month, every day.

SPEAKER_00

You got something else. You bringing it home. Something.

SPEAKER_01

So the daycare's calling us. You know, they call me, calling me every single month. Hey, you know, your son's got a fever. You gotta pick him up. And I'm at work, and I don't have anybody else to cover my shift at that time. So I'm my back is to the wall. So, you know, my husband, thankfully, who works from home, is like, you know, I'll go and get him. But that can still be difficult because he is still working at the end of the day. He's in meetings, you know, throughout the day, stuff like that. So it and this is a shared responsibility. So I started feeling bad, like, man, I can't even leave to go and take care of my son because I'm stuck at work. Yeah, and I'm like, no, I have got to figure out how to get that freedom. Because that's the real rich, you know what I mean? Just being able to be with your family when you want to, that's what people are looking for, at least I'm looking for.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah. That's a that's the basis of a lot of people's um peak at entrepreneurship until they get into it and it's like, oh baby, it's work. It is work, it's work, it is definitely work. But I commend you for even taking that step because you wouldn't realize how many moms would just stay because they don't feel like they have the outlet. And now that you are transitioning into a space where you are the forefront and you are in the you you're you're going to have eyes on you. Yeah. And you have a responsibility now.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

You have a responsibility, and you are going to be the example for some other little melanated young girl. Like, hey, she did it, I can do it. So um, I commend you for taking the having the courage to even do that. Thank you.

SPEAKER_01

But the good thing with healthcare though, now I would never let my license go. Yeah. But the good thing with healthcare is I can always, I can do anything in healthcare. Yeah. You know what I mean? So I can always work a PREN job and just do a shift every four four four weeks if I wanted to, you know. So that's the that's the beauty in that.

SPEAKER_00

You just want to be able to have options.

SPEAKER_01

I want options.

SPEAKER_00

You just want to have options.

SPEAKER_01

And it's so hard now. My son is three, but he literally will cry in the mornings. Mommy, I don't want you to go to work. Oh, my heart just breaks. My heart breaks, you know.

SPEAKER_00

Okay, well, I'm staying here. Listen, I got you. I get it because I created the life of myself too. That's why I love um the heart. I'm I'm gonna stress it again. And she said it is work, but it is absolutely work because social media will will position it as if it's easy. Everybody's getting it. You're gonna have days where you're up and down. And this is why I even encourage moms, don't quit your job. Right. But it's okay to do both. It is, you can, especially with that man up in the office now. We don't know which way anything.

SPEAKER_01

We can't listen to it.

SPEAKER_00

You can do both.

SPEAKER_01

You can.

SPEAKER_00

But just to have the option and the freedom to be able to decide to make your nine to five an option. Right. That's right. That is the goal. That is the absolute goal. But y'all are in real estate too, so y'all get into the bag.

SPEAKER_01

Listen, we tried. We're trying. We have to try.

SPEAKER_00

So he's the he's he's a uh he's the he's the real estate, he's the real estate doer.

SPEAKER_01

Now, I do, I actually did get my real estate license here in Georgia.

SPEAKER_00

I do not use it.

SPEAKER_01

Come on, please. Listen, I feel like I can do anything and everything else.

SPEAKER_00

So I just black girl magic.

SPEAKER_01

I don't use it, but we are um out of state develop uh sorry, we are Alex, can't talk. We are out of state real estate investors. So we have a property in Alabama, and then he we have a property in Ohio too, and then he also primarily flips in Ohio as well. And so he used to actually, you know, one of the same things. He saw me doing this content creation, you know, seeing the opportunities that it can bring, and he's like, no, I I want something that I can help with and contribute as well. And so that is when he decided on real estate.

SPEAKER_00

Right. So is he originally from Alabama or okay? We both are. All right. What's the biggest difference you see between here and Bama? In terms of everything. Bama is behind. So because ATL is the place to be for entrepreneurship. Like it's so much opportunity here. Yeah. And I've been to Alabama a few times. Now I've been for basketball. My son's my son played basketball, so they have tournaments out there. Um, but that's not on my list of places. I'm gonna go visit Alabama.

SPEAKER_01

No, just just stay here. Don't even waste your time. Everybody, I feel like people in Alabama are so behind. And like what I mean by that is just in their way of thinking, they are so behind. And there are a lot of there's still a lot of racist people out there. And um, there's not a lot of opportunities. You don't see a lot of black people thriving in Alabama like you do here. Yeah. When we moved here, we actually lived in Kansas City for a little bit too. So I was like, babe, we have to go. Like, I don't like it up here. So we moved and I said, we have to move back to the South, but it can't be Alabama.

SPEAKER_00

It can't be Alabama, can't be Alabama, like no.

SPEAKER_01

And so it was actually between here and Dallas. Okay. We were so close. Texas is cool, Texas is cool. We were so close to moving to Dallas, like we went and looked at homes, everything. Yeah. And he ended up getting a call saying that he got a job offer here in Atlanta. Oh nice. And we did, of course, packed our bags up, and here we are in Atlanta.

SPEAKER_00

But being as though you guys are are from Alabama, is there any plan or do you feel obligated to build it up there, bring more resources there? Because if you got family, friends, people you know, like, because y'all, y'all in the real estate now, y'all could buy the block. Y'all could bring stuff there. Is there any plan to do that? Starting programs there to try to bring them up to speed? Because that's home, right?

SPEAKER_01

That is home.

SPEAKER_00

She likes no.

SPEAKER_01

But I don't have any plans.

SPEAKER_00

Like no attachments.

SPEAKER_01

You know, God forbid, unless my family parents get sick or something, or his in- you know, my in-laws get sick, and we have to go back. I have zero.

SPEAKER_00

No, not go back. Oh, just to kind of help develop and help the healthcore into it.

SPEAKER_01

I really don't.

SPEAKER_00

Okay. No.

SPEAKER_01

She's like, nope. I know. Not at all. You you it's just one of those things like you, you need to go visit and then you'll see. Okay.

SPEAKER_00

Because I know I've been, but I've been to the basketball arenas. I haven't been like, I'm not familiar with nothing.

SPEAKER_01

There's so many different activities that you can do, so many different eateries, like just different things. And there, where at least where I'm from, so I'm from Montgomery, there are people getting shot up left and right. Like it is so bad. We call it Merc Gummery sometimes. Like, nope. It's yeah, I just want to stay away from that. I don't want to expose my child to that. I know. You know, all most of the school systems there are on the failed list, failing schools list. It's just they don't really pour into uh the youth there. And so these are the ones that are gonna be growing up, you know, growing up and living in the city.

SPEAKER_00

So and unfortunately, that's that's for a lot of urban communities. Yeah. Um, even here in Georgia. Yeah, even here in Georgia, and although I am from Philadelphia, I have ties. I love shout out to Philly, shout out to the Eagles. Okay, okay, you know, for the other but um um even here, it's like we want to do something, we wanna help save something, and we have children, our children have to grow up with this society. So, how can we make an impact? Or what what legacy do you want to leave as far as knowing I helped, I did my part for not only just my child, but for my community, for my people. Like, what legacy do you want to leave behind? What do you want people to think of you when they think of Miss Terraca Raw?

SPEAKER_01

Well, honestly, I really am just a positive person at heart, and I'm really just a natural helper.

SPEAKER_02

Okay.

SPEAKER_01

I really want people to just know and say, you know, this person poured into me this kind of way, you know. And she not only displayed that within herself, but she raised her her son and future children to be the same way. And I just really want that to shine.

SPEAKER_00

Nice.

SPEAKER_01

I I and even in the content creation space, like people come to me and ask me questions all the time. And I don't mind helping. I'm gonna share with you what yeah, as much as I know. That's what it's about. That's what it's about. That's what it's about. And this is my community. So I definitely don't mind. Um, but I do the same, and I'm an encourager too. So I am gonna push you. Like, listen, people come to me and say, Oh, how did you get your doctorate? I got my doctorate at 27. So people are like, Hold on, say that again. I got my doctorate when I was 27 years old. Oh, yes. Yes, come on. So I'm very like, I've always been ambitious, but people come to me, how can I get there? How can I get my doctorate at this age? And I'm I'm telling you the school, I'm telling you the program, like I'm gonna help you.

SPEAKER_00

But you know, part of the reason is because we have a simulation that we're not approachable. Yeah, right? Black women are not approachable, right? Right, right. And we don't know, or or the experiences, I know, at least for me as well. Like when I do approach someone to ask when I was in that stage, when I was in that season, it was always attitude or fluff. You know? Listen, listen. So, of course, like it, I mean, people are going to be hesitant, or we need to normalize wanting to help and wanting to serve because first of all, that's what God wants us to do. Right, right. But um, yeah, we we have a circulation around us. So, but I mean, even as black moms, like, so what what are some unspoken truths that you wish the world knew more about black moms? Or being a black mom? What is the unspoken truth that you wish that the world knew about?

SPEAKER_01

I would say like we truly are unstoppable. We are unstoppable. And people say this, you know, sometimes, oh, you're strong black woman. But we know how to get through just about anything. Anything. Anything. And we're gonna do that with our faith wall, and we're gonna find the resources that we need to get through it. Right, you know, and I love that about black women.

SPEAKER_00

Yes, emphasis on the strong. Yes, emphasis on the strong when we don't want to be strong.

SPEAKER_01

We always we we're gonna make it happen.

SPEAKER_00

We didn't have an option, yeah. You know, we didn't, yeah, we don't have an option, and it doesn't matter if you're married, single, yeah, we all have the same, it's like we lived and we were raised together because we all go through the same thing.

SPEAKER_01

Do we have a new mama?

SPEAKER_00

Right, and I don't understand or I don't get it when people say, because even I got it when I was married a lot, like, and I'm not sure if you get it. Well, you have a husband, it's easier. That what does that mean?

SPEAKER_01

What does that mean?

SPEAKER_00

What's easier? Yeah, it's not, no, it was easy for you to build your business because you had the extra support. No, right, no, like, and I wish we could eliminate that space, and what that does, it shows the insecurity and reflection on ourselves when we have to, you know what I'm saying? When we have to pick apart that, it was easy for you. Yeah, it shows your lack of self-worth, and I want to change that, right? You know, open the conversation more on around that as black women and as black moms, because we are strong, and we didn't choose this life. We we did not choose to be strong. We have to be we have to be strong.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, for our kids, for ourselves, for our everybody that's in our lives. Like we have to be strong.

SPEAKER_00

Right, yeah, right. What is what is one thing that one mistake that you had to learn? Like, like the biggest mistake that you made so far, whether it's a motherhood or business or um, but just as a black woman that you had to learn quick.

SPEAKER_01

That is a great question. I would say one, and this is going into my spouse, because my spouse is so supportive and really loves everything. One mistake that I had to, or one mistake that I made was not really accounting for his feelings when we first had our child. Everyone is always so focused on the mom. Right. And which rightfully so, but the dad goes through things as well. Yeah. And, you know, dads can go through postpartum depression as well.

SPEAKER_00

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SPEAKER_01

It's not called, I mean, it's not called that. But they essentially go through the same thing. Very simple, very, very similar. Okay. And that was one of the things. I mean, I really felt so bad. And now I look back and I'm like, man, I really should have paid more attention to how he felt during that time. But, you know, like I mentioned, my son was breastfed. So my husband did not feel like he got that bond with my son.

SPEAKER_00

Well, do you I don't think that men ever really do feel like they get that bond because we become mothers the first time we know we're pregnant because we're they're not gonna be able to do that. Right.

SPEAKER_01

They're growing right.

SPEAKER_00

So it's a different type of um, it's a different type of connection.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

But like on their defense, like they get ignored for everything. Fathers get ignored throughout the entire pregnancy. The baby shower is about mom and baby, the wedding is about mom. Like it's because we have this expectancy of them not to feel because they are supposed to be, you know, the heads and the leaders and stuff. But I love that you mentioned that. The biggest mistake was I wasn't aware of that. And that is that is why a lot of marriages fail. That is why a lot of relationships don't work out because we're not aware of each other's feelings. So I love that you mentioned that. You got a good one on your hands. Thank you, thank you. You hear her? That's what's up. That is what's up. So um, any plans for any more kids?

SPEAKER_01

I do. I do I do want more kids. Um, but you know what? I'm traumatized. Traumatized too. I am traumatized. So from the postpartum, yeah, postpartum things that I went through. Okay. I had a third-degree tear.

SPEAKER_00

Okay.

SPEAKER_01

And with a three-pound three-pound baby.

SPEAKER_00

Explain the third degree. I've never had a tear, but I've heard the tears. Explain the healing process with the tear because it don't never really heal, right?

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, oh my gosh. Or is it like it, so you do heal, but it took me a very long time, almost a full two years for me to heal.

SPEAKER_00

But is it true? Okay, we about to get, we about to because we got the, we got the there's practitioner here today, so I gotta ask some questions with the tears. So, what I mean by never really heal, um, true or false, they can always rip again or tear away. You can tear again.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, you can tear. So that's what I mean by when I like it's and I I I did because I ended up falling down our stairs. Oh no. Yes, I fell down our stairs and then just started. It was a whole nother thing. I had to go in and get the pain. It was so bad. It was so bad. Um, but I bought a little donut because I couldn't sit down. Yeah, it hurt so bad to even sit.

SPEAKER_00

Look, that donut coming in. I didn't even hold you back. I had it for like three three months of my pregnancy.

SPEAKER_01

That donut, that donut is a lifesaver. So get y'all a donut, okay?

SPEAKER_00

Get y'all a donut. So get y'all a donut that she's gonna be promoting with her next pregnancy for her brand on her new platform for the content. We gotta plug it. Okay, we gotta plug it. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01

Um, so that was that was very, very rough. I ended up having a flap that grew and had to get cut out. And so anyway, I'm just traumatized. And I didn't even mention when my son got home from NICU, he also had an apnea monitor because he would stop breathing. Yeah, so that thing was going off left and right, left and right, through the middle of the night. We would run in and it was just a lot. You know, we're carrying this big tank with, you know, with us, or yeah, I can see why you you say you're traumatized, you were traumatized.

SPEAKER_00

I know, because um, it is very hard to see a newborn baby. This newborn baby you just bought in this world, and you feel like, is he gonna be okay? Is something wrong? Like what happened? I was the same way with my first son. We um I got him home. He was two days, uh, two days old. And I woke up and I found him shaking in his crib. Like, and he was asleep. I'm like, why is he shaking? He was having a seizure. So I rushed him back to uh children's hospital. We were in Philadelphia, rushing back to children's hospital, and then come to find out um it was a calcium level, all this other medical jargon or whatever that wasn't developed, and they had to do a stair or something. But then we we ended up staying in the hospital for 10 days. Oh my goodness. And I remember telling them, I'm not leaving this hospital. My husband was like, You gotta go home and get dressed. I said, No, bring my clothes. The hospital accommodated, they had a room for like a big extra family, yeah. Yeah, but when I tell you that was the scariest moment, and I was a new mom, scariest moment in my life, so I can understand the level of trauma you felt. Yes, because it's like any little I don't care if it was a splinter, I was crying by for my baby, you know what I mean?

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, because it's like that connection, it's like what like and you know, being in healthcare is a blessing and a curse because in healthcare I also know too much. So I've seen I also I used to work in a pediatric ER, so I did it as a as a travel assignment. Okay, and so I saw all of the different accidents that these little kids came in with, and so my anxiety level is like up here.

SPEAKER_00

You you now you strong.

SPEAKER_01

You know what I mean? You strong. I and it's I have to like reel it in sometimes because I get at my husband, I'm like, no, this could happen, this could happen. Like, we need to be careful, and it is a lot.

SPEAKER_00

So, how do you even deal with that like now? Because I know like that the knowledge never go go away. Yeah, and of course you want to be cautious of everything, but I can't imagine knowing, like, well, first of all, I think I know everything uh when it comes to the medical field because Google be telling me. Oh, Google's your doctor? Google be telling me. I'm like, bang, I'm dying. Oh my god, girl, you're gonna go somewhere sit down, you are okay. But um just knowing, um having a having the background or the um the background in in medicine or in healthcare, you do know, and you do know what can happen and the possibilities. Almost like working as a um a 911 call operator. Yes, the calls you hear every day, or when I was working with children in social work and you see these kids every day, and you hear about the stories of them being raped in the adoption homes, and you so you know what's out there. Like, how do you deal with that to keep your anxiety levels low?

SPEAKER_01

So, prayer. Yeah, I I really have to pray. Number one, um I'm huge in faith and in religion, I believe in Jesus, and you know, I really just have to help him, or he has to help me have that calming spirit. And honestly, therapy, and I feel like that's something that's not talked about enough in the black community as well. It's like taboo, right? Like, oh, you don't need no therapist. God's gonna figure it out, God's gonna work it out, but God put people on this earth to also help you. Absolutely, you know what I mean? So that is a resource. Think, girl, speak. You know, I think those that's the main thing that I have to do in order to just keep my anxiety. I just take a chill peel. I call that my chill peel prayer and therapy.

SPEAKER_00

Yes, yes, I love it, I love it. Um, what's what's what's something that you're still learning to give yourself grace for?

SPEAKER_01

Just let's see. Let me think. I think I am still learning to give myself grace for not having it all together in the sense of motherhood. Nobody has it all together, right? Absolutely. But I've always grown up a perfectionist. Okay. And if I don't do things correct or right, then I'm so hard on myself. There, you know, motherhood, there's no manual for it. And so I was gonna be the mom who my child's not gonna watch this iPad, okay? But now, you know, I'm serious.

SPEAKER_00

You have you always have it in your mind one way of I'm gonna be this way when I have my baby, it's gonna be perfect. Like it's funny you have this vision of how your life is gonna be, but God be like, nah, girl.

SPEAKER_01

No.

SPEAKER_00

That ain't what I what I want.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

So I just sit you right down.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, I just have to, you know, I still give myself grace because at this point I need to cook dinner. So you gotta be entertained some kind of way. So just little things like that that I've noticed in motherhood. I've and just not having it all figured out. And that's I feel like that's okay. Okay, you know.

SPEAKER_00

So it's it's interesting, um, or it shows growth, or it just shows the some insight about you. I know you said you are a perfectionist. Now, to get your content and to step into content creation, how do you fight the urge of that? I just gotta go and get it out there and not redoing it every because you know, some people try to be so perfect when they're putting their content out or when they're doing something, they're executing something that they end up not doing it at all. But you're actually executing it. And I know that gotta be a battle because you're a perfection. It is. So, what's your process of getting it out there? Do you have a schedule? Do you stay on schedule? Like, are you all over the place with it? Like, what does that process look like?

SPEAKER_01

I am all over the place. I am all over the place. So I'm actually just now, and I I've just made um a post about this as well, about how I'm really it's on threads, about how I'm really. Oh, I love threads. Shout out too I love threads. Girl, I love threads. Um, but I just made a post on there about how I'm really working on letting that perfectionism go. I lit maybe two weeks ago, three weeks ago. I just made those posts. Yeah. It don't exist. Um, and so just being showing up, you know, regardless of what things look like. Now, this is my second full year, I think going into third year of content creation. Okay. And I'm just now getting to where I can just post without worrying about it being a mistake.

SPEAKER_00

Nice.

SPEAKER_01

I have had times in the past when I first started, you know, where oh, this is a little the wording on this is not straight. So I deleted the whole thing, scrapped it, started all the way over. I have had multiple times where I've recorded and recorded the same thing because I did not get it right. So I have that's something that I have struggled with a lot.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01

And I feel like you also have to know your platforms, right? So Instagram, I do feel like is a little bit more polished in this sense, in a certain sense, you know.

SPEAKER_00

Um you have to show up in a certain light on Instagram. Like you can't, Instagram is like what the the Target and Walmart. Instagram is like Walmart.

SPEAKER_01

Really? Instagram is like Target. Yeah, that's what I said. Instagram is like Instagram is like Target. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

I was trying to reference something to Walmart. I don't know. Facebook. Facebook, Facebook, Walmart. Facebook. No, wait a minute. We're not gonna do Facebook like that. Snapchat.

SPEAKER_01

Okay, I don't know. Snapchat, Snapchat.

SPEAKER_00

Facebook is Facebook is like the the publix, I think.

SPEAKER_01

Well, I don't wait a minute.

SPEAKER_00

I don't even get into references in social media, but go ahead, Donna. I get you.

SPEAKER_01

I I don't know, but I got you, I got you. But yeah, I feel like, you know, knowing your platform, so I've I initially I felt like, okay, I have to have this right because Instagram is more polished. This is what, you know, oh, your feeds gotta be, you know, nice. And you know, when you go to somebody else's page, it does look nice. When they have a nice feed, you're like, oh, this is this looks good. You know, it attracts you to it. So I felt like I had to have that in a sense, but now I'm like, you know, it's like so you don't you don't compare yourself a lot? I used to.

SPEAKER_00

Okay.

SPEAKER_01

I used to. This is things that I have worked on and matured in. Oh, okay. Because I definitely used to, but you know, comparison is the thief of all joy. Yes. And I started getting to where I never felt good enough. Even now, like, it's so crazy. I have people, I don't have a a million followers. I don't have a lot compared to other clients that are in the past.

SPEAKER_00

But you don't need that to have influence.

SPEAKER_01

You definitely don't. But that's what I was gonna say is that people literally inbox me and write me, was like, hey, keep doing this. I love that you did this. This helped me. I can relate to this so much, and that's how I know I am in my purpose and I'm doing it right.

SPEAKER_00

Right. I love that. Yeah, I love that. How do you how do you and your husband stay in alignment with you guys as a married couple? Like, how do you find or what do you do? Because he does the real estate, y'all doing content creation, and I know firsthand how distracting getting the bat can be, especially when y'all on that same mission, and then it becomes about business, business, business, to the point where sometimes we're talking about business in the bedroom and it's natural. So, how do you guys, or what's your advice to a woman in that's in a marriage or relationship that have kids and that's busy and that's transitioning into entrepreneurship? What's your advice to not let her real life or her and her spouse to stay in alignment with one another?

SPEAKER_01

Well, I definitely feel like you have to have boundaries. Um, and with the, yeah, with that, you know, we have set rules before, no phones at the table. We're gonna sit and we are gonna toss each other. We sometimes we don't. Now, just being transparent because life, right? You know, you have a child and you just have all these other stuff going on, or he might have a meeting. I do Bible studies during the week. So sometimes we don't. But that is definitely something that we have done for a while. And you know, we stick to, we try to stick to. Yeah, you know, and even in the bed, like he was like, Okay, no phones in the bed. Like when we're in the bed, we talk to each other because that's our only time that we get with one another, really. I work 12 hours out of the day, you know. We have extracurricular activities for our son. So sometimes our only time together is after our son goes down, you know.

SPEAKER_00

Um and then that's only like five minutes because baby, my eyes be tired. Tired listen, I'm like, okay, I got it. That's like she doesn't tell us if the light on. Yeah. Because it it gets that way. It does. It gets that way, and that's why it puts a strain on not just marital relationships, but relationships, period. You know, like you you start to isolate yourself, not intentionally, but you start to go on your your your your lonesome days. And sometimes you just want to be by yourself, you know what I mean? Um and date nights. And date date nights is a priority. Priority.

SPEAKER_01

Nice, gotta have the date nights.

SPEAKER_00

So what would you recommend? How many date nights a month?

SPEAKER_01

Uh, so we try to do one every couple, like every two weeks, so at least twice a month. Nice um just to get out.

SPEAKER_00

And I saw the the something on Instagram. It was called the two to two rule.

SPEAKER_01

I did see that. So yeah, I saw that before.

SPEAKER_00

Okay, I was like, I like that method. If I was ever getting married again, I'm like, babe, we are doing the two to two rule. People be like, what is that?

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, I saw that. I do, I do like it. But I feel like that's so important because that's your time to really connect with your spouse again.

SPEAKER_00

Absolutely. Yeah, not only with your spouse, with your child. Yeah, like really making that time for him to show up and and be that mom. You know what I mean? Even if it is, my daughter enjoys coming here with me and watching the camera, like she's doing something and telling me what to do. But even like times like that, like teaching them the business or going to get ice cream, it's like just making the time for that. Like, it is absolutely a must. It's necessary. So, what is on the list next for you? Um, brand deals? Definitely.

SPEAKER_01

I would love to create, yeah, more brand deals, really, really um cater to my YouTube. I really want to get that back and and run in like I had it last year.

SPEAKER_02

Yes.

SPEAKER_01

Uh, and honestly, I don't know. I was even thinking about other entrepreneurial venue, you know, ventures, but I'm not a hundred percent sure. I'm still trying to just figure it out. I also don't want to overload my plate, yeah, you know, and figure feeling like I just have to do all of these things because again, the goal is just to find that freedom.

SPEAKER_00

Yes.

SPEAKER_01

Um, and that's really what I'm chasing. So nice.

SPEAKER_00

So do you can you say you feel fulfilled right now in this stage where you are in this season?

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, I feel I feel like it everything feels good, everything feels right.

SPEAKER_00

Okay.

SPEAKER_01

And it feels like, you know, I'm not a hundred percent where I want to be, right? But I feel like I'm headed in the right direction.

unknown

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

So I like to go back to into young Terika. Okay. Can we travel back into it? Because what I find, and you know this, everybody has a story, right? Everybody has to overcome some things. Um what is one of the hardest things before motherhood, before being a wife, before being a nurse practitioner? What is one of the hardest things you felt like you had to heal from your childhood in order to even make the transition into the woman you are today?

SPEAKER_01

Wow. I would say, so I did not grow up in a two-parent household. My parents got divorced when I was young. And you know, there were a lot of times where I remember or I can recall a lot of arguing, and I feel like that was embedded in me. Really? So much so I was an angry person. I was like an You would never be able to tell. You would never wait a minute, because the vibes is vibes. You would never be able to. Able to tell what like an interior eye, but I was I've grown so much, I was very fly at the mouth. I would go off on you like no problem.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, I'm telling I'm shocked. Like she is just like a ball of sunshine right now. I can't I can't see even that light.

SPEAKER_01

I have.

SPEAKER_00

I have so your growth, your growth is real. It is real. It is. So what was that? I know you said you are you you are a supporter of therapy. What did therapy play a big part in that?

SPEAKER_01

I think that played a big part. And then also just having like my brother, one of my oldest brother would always tell me, like, you know, he would joke and say, you would go and just fight anybody. Like, you know, but just having that realization that okay, people are saying this about you, or my friends would joke and say, Well, now you know Tereka's gonna get mad about X, Y, and Z.

SPEAKER_00

But that underlying truth, even if you're just saying it as a joke, the underlying truth is like, I don't want you to think that way about me.

SPEAKER_01

Right. So I said, you know what? I had to take accountability. So obviously, I need to fix myself.

SPEAKER_00

I like that.

SPEAKER_01

And this is not, I can't continue acting this way. And even even with marriage, like I was so quick to just, you know, sometimes carry an argument, you know, an argument on. My husband's complete opposite. He's gonna want to sit there, he's gonna talk about it. Yeah, very calm. And I I go from zero to a hundred really, really quick, you know.

SPEAKER_00

So, but what was the what was the intervention though? Because I know if if that's all you know sometimes, and I know you said people would see you as this way, and you don't want to be known for that. Um but what was the intervention? What was that one thing that happened to say that made you say, okay, I gotta make a change? Because there are some people who never have that realization because nothing ever happened for them, for them to see it.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

That makes sense.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

What was that one thing that made you say, okay, I want to change, I don't want to be this way?

SPEAKER_01

So there was this man at Walmart. I was with my brother, my oldest brother, and he we were checking out in the in the line, and he literally said something to me, called me out of my name, and he was older.

SPEAKER_00

Back in Alabama?

SPEAKER_01

Back in Alabama, back in Alabama, and I went off. I was so embarrassed though. I left that story. Didn't go to jail, didn't you? I did not go to jail, but it could have gotten to that point because people are crazy. So what if this man would have put his hands on me? And what if he would have done something like that? Could have turned into a whole nother a whole nother thing.

SPEAKER_02

Absolutely.

SPEAKER_01

And what if he would have had a gun in his pocket? I don't know, you know, but I just really left that store so embarrassed that my my brother had to talk to me like Terrica. You cannot go and act like that. You cannot go and do that. You don't know if that man had something, you don't know how crazy he is or if he's crazy. You don't know.

SPEAKER_02

Right.

SPEAKER_01

Um, and that was a pivotal moment for me because I was like, all right, Terek, you gotta get it together. Because you you're doing too much. You know what I mean?

unknown

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01

So yeah. And that, and that's good. How old were you? Oh, I was young. I was like, oh, I had to have been maybe 15, 16. And how old was your brother?

SPEAKER_00

Because he sounded wild.

SPEAKER_01

My brother, my he's very wise. Oh my gosh, he's so wise.

SPEAKER_00

Is he are y'all close in age?

SPEAKER_01

He's seven years older than me. Okay, yeah.

SPEAKER_00

Okay, so that makes a difference too. Because when I, as I'm picturing it, you're saying my brother said you cannot act like that. Yeah, I'm thinking maybe a year or two. Well, how old would y'all?

SPEAKER_01

Because he got a lot of wise guys. Yeah, and I have a younger brother who is three, I'm three years older than him. But yeah, this particular brother that I was with, he's seven years older than me. Okay. He's and he's always he's he's very cool, calm. He's like, you know, he studies people and he's really, really good in in relationships. Nice. And so he he had to let me know.

SPEAKER_00

Well, I'm glad I didn't meet the pop-off Terrier.

SPEAKER_01

Nobody knows nobody knows that Terika. Yeah, nobody knows that Terika anymore, except for, you know, if you grew grew up with me. But all of the people that I've met, I'm sure when they listen or watch this, they're gonna be shocked. That's like no shock. They're gonna be like, wait a minute.

SPEAKER_00

But that that just shows that growth is growth is very possible. Yeah, you know what I mean, and change isn't is inevitable. And if you want to change for the better or if you want to change for the worse, it's all up to you. It is all up to you. And I'm I'm happy for you when it comes to those.

SPEAKER_02

Thank you.

SPEAKER_00

So, and knowing that um that you were that pop-off queen. I'm gonna call you pop-off queen. How about queen? Okay, how about queen to now um in motherhood? How how do you think is gonna help you transition when you're faced with your your son's personality? Because as you get older, as kids grow, they develop their own personalities. Because I'm sure your mother was not like when you were born, my baby's gonna be this off at the mouth, pop off the mouth. So now that you understand that, do you think you're better equipped to deal with it?

SPEAKER_01

I think so. Yeah, and even now, like, because in motherhood, now there are days where you just want to crash out, right? Like you're just frustrated. Every day. What you mean? Yeah, you frustrated.

SPEAKER_00

We had a whole conversation before we was taping y'all, and I told her, I am tired. Like, yes.

SPEAKER_01

So, you know, but it will better equip me because I'm gonna know how to handle that. And so even now, dealing with my son, it takes a lot to get me there, you know, where I'm just like, okay, I can't deal with this. Wait till you get the next one. Oh gosh, don't tell me that. Don't tell me that. I'm just doing. But yeah, I'm I've I've responded to him for the most part pretty calmly, like, okay, tell me. And it's so cool because he is able to say, you know what, I'm not happy today. I'm sad. And so, and then I'll say, Well, what are you sad about? Or he'll say, I'm upset. And it is something that we did, you know, or somebody at school did to make him upset. And we talk about it.

SPEAKER_00

I love it now because kids, like the kids nowadays, they don't know how lucky they are to have parents like us because we give that space for them to express their feelings, right? We give that space, and my kids, like I'm still half and half. I'm still uh, I'm still that parent that do like do as I say to the table. But I also have the balance to where, okay, tell me what's going on. Because I don't want to raise kids that's not able to communicate their feelings. Or scared, or scared to tell you, you know? Right. So um, but kids nowadays, I love that a lot of parents are on to this um safe space open conversation, but balances, so you can't disrespect me.

SPEAKER_01

Right, right. Because I'm not your friend. I will listen to you. Yeah, right. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

Oh no. I I I love that.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

Um, but Miss Terica, I'm doing something. You are the first person that I'm doing this with.

SPEAKER_01

Uh-oh. Okay.

SPEAKER_00

Um, I'm trying out new segments. Okay. Right? So I have a new segment and it's called Quick Fire Personal Touch. Okay. Now I'm going to ask a series of questions. Uh-huh. Quick, quick questions. You just answer, okay? Okay. Just to see where your mind is at right now. Okay. All right. So this is a new segment, y'all. So if y'all like it, make sure y'all comment and let me know. If y'all don't, I'm going to come up with a different uh segment. But I'm just trying some new things here. So, Miss Terrica for quick fire. All right. Ready? Yes. All right. Your mom anthem right now. Ooh. Um, can we skip? Oh, I gotta come back to that one. My mom anthem right now. Mom anthem. What's that one anthem you put on the car and it just feels like yo, I'm the ish, like I'm the mom. Can't nobody tell me nothing. No, I don't listen to music in the car.

SPEAKER_01

We're gonna skip. We'll come back. We'll come back to it.

SPEAKER_00

Let me think of them. All right. A business tool you swear by. Canva. Ooh, yes. Not Cap Cut. I care Cap Cut so much.

SPEAKER_01

I love Cap Cut, but at this point it's unpredictable. If TikTok goes away, then CapCut is gonna go away.

SPEAKER_00

But do you know Instagram started adapting some of Cap Cut's features?

SPEAKER_01

They're coming out with a new app. Edit a different, a whole different app. Well, I don't know if it's gonna be an favorite app, but it's another one.

SPEAKER_00

They're getting features inside.

SPEAKER_01

I was like, okay with the camera.

SPEAKER_00

But yeah, I like the camera though.

SPEAKER_01

Canva, Canva is that girl.

SPEAKER_00

Yes, Canva is that girl. Yeah, Canva, we need a sponsorship camera. I need a Disco count link. Yeah. Listen. I'm I'm hitting them up, okay? Favorite way to decompress.

SPEAKER_01

Oh my goodness. Uh massage. Massage therapy. Like, I love that. Come on. Yes, yes.

SPEAKER_00

Your current season in one word. Growth.

unknown

Yes. Growth.

SPEAKER_00

Yes, because she ain't pop off no more.

SPEAKER_01

I ain't popping off no more. But not only that, I'm growing in all aspects. I'm growing in motherhood. I'm growing in my career. I'm growing in my thought process. We're growing in our marriage. I love it. We're growing in our businesses. So that's the season I'm in. I love it.

SPEAKER_00

Growth. Growth. One thing you wish you knew before starting content creation and before motherhood.

SPEAKER_01

One thing I wish I knew before starting content creation is honestly the amount of work it does require. Because I again, we've said it multiple times on this particular episode. It is a lot of work. And when you have, especially with all the different platforms, I'm on YouTube, TikTok, Instagram, and this learning how to edit, recording, actually propping that up and recording.

SPEAKER_02

Yes.

SPEAKER_01

And even just, you know, meeting other people, coaches who can help guide you. Like it's it's it can be a lot.

SPEAKER_00

It's a lot. It is a lot. The consistency alone to post.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

But once you automate everything and get everything up, girl, it's it gets easier and easier.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, yeah. I can't wait for that. And just the consistency as a working mom because you know, I am tired most days. Working 12-hour shifts is not easy. And then have to come home, still be a wife, still be a mom. And then it's just like, okay, well, I also need still need to pour into my my platform. So, you know, it it requires a lot of that.

SPEAKER_00

I get it. And I'm here with you. And however I could be of support, you let me know. Um, what's one thing you want to leave with our audience today? It can be a motivation, it can be a song list, um, a recommended video, something that you want to leave with our audience today.

SPEAKER_01

I would like to say make sure that you never give up. I know that might be just cliche, just keep going. If that's something um we're related to your business, you will get there. If it's motherhood, it will get easier. You know, these are things that people have told you and you don't know because you're in the thick of it right now, but things will get better for you, opportunities will come to you, and you know, you will grow into the person that you have desired to be.

SPEAKER_00

Amen.

SPEAKER_01

Amen, amen.

SPEAKER_00

And I was gonna close it out on that, but I meant to go back to rapid fire question number one. What's your mama anthem? I need one, even if it's a gospel one. Look, she thought I forgot. She's gonna say shit. I go back. I said, let me close out the show. But I said, wait, we got we need a mama anthem.

SPEAKER_01

Oh, a mama anthem. What's something that I put on?

SPEAKER_00

Um this is we're gonna we're gonna give Tereka a mama anthem. Matter of fact, I'm gonna send you a playlist.

SPEAKER_01

Send me a playlist. No, seriously, like when I honestly, when I ride in cars, I ride in silence.

SPEAKER_00

Nice because so, okay, so when you're getting ready in the morning or when you're home or when you're silent.

SPEAKER_01

Isn't that weird? Yes.

SPEAKER_00

No, no, I say yes. No, it ain't weird. I didn't mean to.

SPEAKER_01

Most people are like, oh yeah, we're gonna, you know, turn up or whatever, but no, it's enough, it's enough noise at my house.

SPEAKER_02

I love it.

SPEAKER_01

So that's my time to myself, get my thoughts together, pray, you know, I talk out loud, and you know, that's just my time. So yeah, I don't know.

SPEAKER_00

Hey, and if that works for you, that works for you. Everybody ain't gotta have no anthem.

SPEAKER_01

I mean, give me the anthem that send me the playlist.

SPEAKER_00

We're gonna get we're gonna find her. Um, and if y'all know an anthem that Miss Mrs. Rumpf can um jam to, nothing too crazy because we don't need to tap into the old pop.

SPEAKER_01

You can go back to Popeye Queen.

SPEAKER_00

We save. We save. Y'all make sure y'all tap in with her.

SPEAKER_01

What's your uh tell everybody what your Instagram is? So my Instagram name is Life with Terrica, and that's uh L-I-F-E with W-I-T-H Terrica T-E-R-R-I-C-A. You can find me there and on all the platforms with the same handle.

SPEAKER_00

Here we go. There we go, y'all. And thank y'all so much. Um, let us know how you enjoyed this episode. If y'all have any questions for Terika, make sure y'all reach out to her. Make sure y'all not just reach out, not just follow and not just share, but actually engage, talk to her, get to know somebody, come out of your comfort zone and ask those questions. And I'm gonna say that because I am living and acting on my own advice that I give y'all. Terrica, how do we meet? Social media. And who reached out to who?

SPEAKER_01

You reached out to me, yeah.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, I was in her DM. Yeah. So, but just look at the connection that we can make when we step out of our comfort zone. So don't just be behind the phones or behind the cameras admiring and wishing. Get out, reach out, connect, ask questions because that's how communities are built, and that's how you get the help that you need. And if you are a mom struggling with that, reach out to me, shoot me a DM. If you are a mom that's needing help with anything, social media content creation, reach out to Terrica. Yes, I'm volunteering her DM.

SPEAKER_01

I will help, I will help reach out.

SPEAKER_00

But other than that, y'all, like I really enjoy um what we do here, and I really enjoy and I appreciate all of you who've been liking and subscribing. Y'all, our our channel is really growing. We are almost at 200, 200, I'm sorry, 2000. Subs. Okay, that's cool. And I just appreciate y'all in this YouTube space. So continue to share. Um, if you are a mom who would like to come on to the huddle, make sure you click the link in the descriptions and connect with me. Other than that, we are gonna get out of here. I'm gonna go get back to these babies. I'm gonna let her go to her husband and her babies. I held her up enough. But y'all put your crowns on. Um, say it again. It's been fun. It's been fun. It was fun. It was fun. I enjoyed having you. Thank you so much. Thank you. But y'all know how it is crowns on, chins up, and you rock your day. Have a good week.

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Yay.