Ep 23: How God Restored My Life After Two Broken Marriages ft. Candice Marie

In this episode, Candice Marie shares how faith carried her through three marriages, motherhood, and finding her worth in God. If you're navigating love, obedience, and healing—this is for you.

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Transcript

SPEAKER_00 0:00

Welcome to another episode of the Mom Peneur Huddle Podcast where motherhood and entrepreneurship meet and we talk about everything in between.

SPEAKER_06 0:19

Girl, you still boss, Ma. Baby girl, you still perfect, girl. You suppose, Ma. Making everything worth it, girl. You suppose, Ma. Staying on all of your business, and when it comes fitness, baby girl, you the realest. Yeah, I like that right there.

unknown 0:35

I like that right there.

SPEAKER_00 0:41

Today I am so excited. I have a very special guest in the huddle with me today. You guys, faith-based coach and speaker, the founder of the Wellness Haven Co. is here with me today. Miss C. Marie. Welcome to the huddle. Thank you. How are you? I'm great. Thank you for having me.

SPEAKER_01 0:59

Oh, no problem.

SPEAKER_00 1:00

Yeah, I I had to acknowledge her crown. Her hair is just so beautiful, y'all. Y'all know how I love natural hair, but your hair is just gorgeous.

SPEAKER_01 1:09

Thank you.

SPEAKER_00 1:10

Thank you for coming. Well, let's get right into it. Um, how about you tell everyone a little bit about yourself?

SPEAKER_01 1:15

Okay. Um, so of course, my name is Candace Marie. Um, I am a faith-based Christian life coach and mental health coach. And my focus is focusing in on faith-driven women who are on a journey fighting for mental freedom. And I help them do that through rediscovering themselves, through conversation, through coaching, and through community. And over the years, I've had the opportunity to create a host of different wellness workshops, tools, and resources based off my own personal experience in the field of social services, experiencing burnout, and of course, um, overcoming some traumatic experiences. And I just thank God that He has given me the opportunity to be able to create a resource and be a resource in the land of women who just need a touch from God, honestly, at the end of the day. Amen.

SPEAKER_00 2:08

So yeah. Walking in your purpose. Yes, yes. Yeah. And you mentioned um through your experience, and of course, we couldn't, we couldn't heal, we couldn't help, we couldn't serve, we couldn't teach, we couldn't coach unless we've actually been through it. So tell me, um, tell me a little bit about um your your breakthrough. Like, what was that pivotal moment in your life where you needed that healing, you needed that help. Like, tell me about that version of Candace.

SPEAKER_01 2:34

Yes, I mean I would say that there were several versions of Candace that still that needed healing. And I would say still needs healing because once we undergo one stage of healing, it seems like God reveals other areas in us or in myself that needs healing. Um, but I would say, you know, during my the time when I got pregnant with my daughter out of wedlock, of course, that was a moment where God revealed Himself to me. Um, because it was just like I wrote it in one of my books, um, called By His Stripes, where I felt like I had disappointed God by having a child out of wedlock. And I had to go and talk to my mom and my dad about that.

SPEAKER_00 3:16

And I thought- Were they heavy in the Christian faith?

SPEAKER_01 3:19

Yeah, they're they're heavy in the Christian faith too. My dad's actually a minister. Okay. Um and my mom, we were raised in the church, and so you know, we were you're not supposed to have a baby um out of wedlock, you're not supposed to be fornicated. Right. And so for me, I felt like because I was taught all of that, I, you know, I kind of hid a lot of what I call my secret sin. Um, and I ended up getting pregnant, so it was almost like God revealed what I wasn't showing people out loud through my pregnancy.

SPEAKER_00 3:50

How old were you at the time?

SPEAKER_01 3:51

I was um how old was I? I was 24. Um, going on 25, so I had just finished grad school. Okay. Um, and of course, I I felt like, oh my God, I'm so disappointed.

SPEAKER_00 4:02

You know, like and I was just about to ask you that because those are the times where, you know, we're we're adults. At 24, we're adults. However, when you have a certain upbringing, and my upbringing, what my upbringing was a little bit wilder than that. Um, but when you have a certain upbringing, there's still a level of acceptance that you want from your parents, especially when they have an expectation and you want to live up to that. And um, at 24, some would say, Well, you're grown, you can do whatever you want to do, but there's a pressure there. It is. How did they receive you when you told them, hey, I'm having a baby? They find out little Candace is wide open.

SPEAKER_01 4:48

I know, right? Um, so I first started with my mom. Okay. And I actually, um, me and her didn't actually have the best relationship, but that was like a pivoting point too for our relationship when I revealed to her. And shockingly, I was more comfortable telling my mom than my dad. Okay. Um, and I don't know why, because my dad was always the parent I was closer to.

SPEAKER_00 5:12

You're the minister, a passion. I don't want to, I don't know. I would be nervous too.

SPEAKER_01 5:16

Yep. So go ahead. I so I was so nervous um with telling him, but my dad was really actually calm. Both my parents were calm. That's good. Um, they actually cared more about what I was wanted to do in the process because the relationship that I was in, I was actually engaged to that person and were ready to end the relationship. When I found out and we my my ex-husband, he became my husband eventually. We were actually um, he was actually a minister as well. Okay. And music minister. And so, um, and so I was actually trying to end the relationship at that point because it was just like it wasn't the best for us. Right. And so through that journey, I would say, I used to say, as my belly got bigger, my faith grew stronger in God. And it was, and I kind of symbolized the concern that I had with sharing that I was pregnant with my dad. Um, what did I deal with God Himself? And I also felt like God, you know, I'm a I've backslidden so many times. How can you receive me? Um and in that moment, I literally just really fully had a real moment with God, you know, and through my like I said, as my belly got bigger, my faith grew stronger because I did most of my pregnancy alone, honestly. And God was there with me every step of the way. Um, and I would say that was one of my moments of just spiritual growth and healing um and faith building. Um yeah, so yeah.

SPEAKER_00 6:52

Yeah. As your belly got bigger, my faith got bigger, my faith got stronger. I love that. I I love that because it shows that surrender, you know. Most people are not vocal or um, they're not public about their surrender moment, right? We're public about the breakthrough, but that one moment that broke you, like that one moment that you feel, and the fact that you you came out and you put it in your book and you showed that to the world. Like I felt, I feel like that's how that's in a in its in itself, it shows strength and confidence and the hormones and growing the baby, and then the fear of just motherhood, this is your first baby. That was a lot to endure.

SPEAKER_01 7:39

It sure was.

SPEAKER_00 7:39

Right. So, um, how did how did life start, or at what point did you say, okay, I want to help women heal, I want to help women with their healing, I want to help women be. At what point did you say that? Was that early on around that time, or is this later on?

SPEAKER_01 7:57

So I the focus on helping people was always there for me as I was a child, from wanting to be a pediatrician to wanting to be a therapist to even build in a nonprofit um back in from my undergraduate days. And at that time, I was actually had just launched a nonprofit to just kind of help the family system as a whole. Okay. But it wasn't until after um I had my daughter where I did start what at that point was I Am Hope Renewed to become in Swag Right Ministries, which sisters walk in with the anointing given by God.

SPEAKER_00 8:30

Walking with the anointed swag by that's cute. Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_01 8:32

Walking with anointing given by God. And so this was after my daughter was born. And I had, of course, had her. We had, you know, overcome all those hurdles. I had then marry her dad. Um, and of course, in that marriage, I experienced some hardships and things that drew me closer to God. Um, and through that, it empowered me so much in my faith, and it gave me clarity to my purpose, and it started making everything kind of come together as to what I went through, what he was navigating me through, what he had allowed me to build so far. And I just started to just uh do like small groups for women. Um I don't I don't even think I had started writing. I started writing like sermons because my church used to have me speak and I used to just start writing sermons, and it'll force me to sit with God and it it just became all over me. I was just ministering, speaking to God, and became more confident because I was really like timid and quiet. And so when I used to speak, I was like, mmm, the Lord got some bell on it.

SPEAKER_00 9:33

And you'll have something planned and prepared, but then the Holy Spirit will hit and it's like, okay, and it's just coming, and then you look back at that recording, you're like, was that me? Wow. Like, thank you, God. Like, God use me. Um, you did mention that you have some hardships in your marriage.

SPEAKER_02 9:51

Yep.

SPEAKER_00 9:51

Um, tell me about some of those things. Because I'm sure what when you're trying to find yourself and then a new baby, um, was um marriage life, your first marriage, was it what you expected?

SPEAKER_01 10:04

I would say no. Um, because let's be honest, there were red flags before that marriage. And I think sometimes we get trapped as women. We ignore them. Uh-huh. We ignore them. And then we have a baby, we want this picture perfect family.

SPEAKER_02 10:17

Want it to work.

SPEAKER_01 10:18

Or because we grew up to believe that, oh, it's better to marry than to burn. Yeah. We go on with something, okay. This is my child's father. We were engaged. We want to do the right thing, so we're gonna get married. And I think that with even with those red flags, we still proceeded.

SPEAKER_00 10:34

Um without getting the real help, too. Because I just want to be clear that like red flags, um, there's levels to red flags, right? Um, what we think could be a red flag, it could be a reflection of who we are as well, and to show that we need some work sometimes too. So I'm always um now because we have the wisdom. And as you go through it, you're like, I wish I would have done something differently. But um, the red flags, I like red flags because they're healthy. It makes you aware of what the problems are. But then we got to do the work behind it if we're aligned, if we're equally yoked. Let's fix these red flags. Because it may not be a red flag. You know, a red flag is something crazy dramatic. If you've done been to jail and you raped all these kids. You're right. Oh no, or if you give me signs, you're a mass murderer. No. But some signs can just be people's upbringing, some signs can be um just what they're accustomed to, and you know, demographics are different. So, um, and it gives us the opportunity to teach.

SPEAKER_05 11:32

Absolutely.

SPEAKER_00 11:32

I believe partners should be able to influence one another. Yes. Um, so it's okay to see the red flags, but not working on those red flags. And that's what we do as adolescents or or young adults. We ignore and we think we can change and we live up to we look up to the potential, what we could be. This is my baby daddy. I want it to work, and then it don't work. Exactly. How about your parents? Did they um have any objections to oh yeah? Did they see mom and daddy be knowing? They be knowing. Yeah, they did. What did daddy say? I'm curious.

SPEAKER_01 12:06

Oh my goodness, my dad was frustrated, frustrated because we had got the marriage license. We had told them that we were gonna get married, and we did not get married during the time that we said because he was rushing to the altar. Okay. And so, because I felt like this was going to be my husband, I followed him versus my dad at that time. And so when we did call him and say, Oh, dad, we ended up getting married, he's like, and nobody was dead, you know.

SPEAKER_00 12:31

I bet that hurt.

SPEAKER_01 12:33

It did for a while.

SPEAKER_00 12:35

Do you still hear about that today? Like not really.

SPEAKER_01 12:40

I think it's more so the outcome is what I hear most about when my dad finds himself a little fuss flustered.

SPEAKER_00 12:46

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 12:46

When we speak of that person, gotta love dads.

SPEAKER_00 12:49

Gotta love dads. Yeah. But uh, was mom more compassionate with the situation?

SPEAKER_01 12:54

I would say she was, and I would say she still is compassionate with that that situation or person, even now. Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 13:01

So it's a co-parenting um type of thing.

SPEAKER_01 13:04

So it's it's really not. So there's those periods where he's in and out, and so he's been out for a while, and so he's actively trying to jump back in, and my mom is the person trying to be the compassionate one for him for that.

SPEAKER_00 13:18

Now, being as though that's gonna push you to a whole nevel, a whole nother level of leader, a whole nother person, a whole nother team of read. Because now, especially because you you're um um a child of God, and we have we have to conduct ourselves a certain way. So we have to forgive. Yeah, we have to lead with love, right? How is it shaping you as a mom and helping you deal with um, you know, teaching your daughter to have that compassion? Yeah. Because from a child's standpoint, and especially as they get older, they know um dad's not here, uh, mom's always here, and it's hard to see.

SPEAKER_02 13:54

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 13:54

So how is that helping you shape how you explain it to her, show her and teach her the ways when dealing with her father?

SPEAKER_01 14:02

Yeah, so you know, I'm I'm that person that has always had that. Well, I'm gonna go back to even just like be in the beginning of our divorce and things like that, where it was like God had allowed me to heal so much um from the divorce because I was so focused in on him, and he had gave me a piece at some point during that process to divorce, that me and him could be in the same room, hug each other, embrace each other. Um and it was no ill like emotions. And like I can remember I did a women's event and I was talking, I was telling my story, and I was like, if um if my ex-husband did this, I'll come on, brother, get on my shoulder or something, and I carry you or something like that.

SPEAKER_00 14:47

Like, I got you.

SPEAKER_01 14:48

And my mom was like, What type of forgiveness?

SPEAKER_00 14:50

Because I am healed. I am healed, you no longer control or affect me. And I love that. It shows growth because at some point, I heard somebody saying, I can't remember who said this. It was somebody on social media, and she was so right. She said, You can't have my head and my heart, right? You can't have me all crazy and all in love after a breakup. Yeah. Choose one so one can be strong enough to fix the other. That's right. So, yeah, I'm gonna still love you, but in my mind, mentally, I can't stand, you know what I mean? Like, and that it was just so true, and it just clicked like let it go. You gotta get give it up, heal. Like, it wasn't supposed to work, and we have to be okay with that. Accept the things you can't change, right? You have to be okay with that. So I love that. Yeah, everybody's not there.

SPEAKER_01 15:42

Was he at that same point with you as far as maturity when it was time to I don't think he was initially, but a few years ago, what was that, about four or five years ago, he called me and he apologized to me for all of the things he put me through. Um, and he told me how so many different things that were within me helped him to grow and to help and were helping him to continue to grow, even in his position in the church and his integrity and things like that. Um that's one thing that I appreciate, like that moment. Like I wasn't looking for that moment, but when that moment came, it was like, oh wow, it took you a while, but thank you.

SPEAKER_00 16:20

Right. And it came at the right time. Where were you in your life? I mean, because ironically, my ex-husband did the same thing. I was not expecting it. It just came years later. Um, but where were you in your life when that message came to you?

SPEAKER_01 16:36

I was actually um remarried, um, doing well. Um, the business was doing well, just focused in on doing what God has wanted me to do. And it was just like, oh, okay, I appreciate it.

SPEAKER_00 16:48

And let me ask you this question. Um, because God, uh, he works in the serious, he is funny. Yeah. He is hilarious. Um, I meet a lot of people who reflect who I used to be. I meet a lot of people. Um I see myself in so many people that I come across. Wow. Um, do you do do you find that happens to you? Because whatever you went through, is he sending you people that is a resemblance of who C. Marie used to be?

SPEAKER_01 17:23

I I don't know. He probably does, but I don't see it that way. I just see it as somebody that is I'm just there to help. Or if it's a person that knows that they God has called them to me, I just kind of just sow seeds and see it happen. I never really pay it pay attention to it that way.

SPEAKER_00 17:40

I want you to start paying attention to that. Um I like because I I like to do assessments with people. You know what I'm saying? Just to see deep down, even though what I do, um, I I believe it's a form of healing. That is, yeah. I believe it's a form of healing. Um, but I'm just interested in people. I'm just interested in what you've gone through, what you've overcome, because I'm a firm believer, and I preach this on everything on my social media, online. I'm a firm believer of you went through what you were supposed to go through to help somebody else. That's true. If you don't share your testimony, you're not gonna be able to save that next person that's supposed to make a bigger impact to save the world. Or, you know what I'm saying? Like there's a divine order. We are we are all aligned in some way, shape, or form. And that's that's our makeup, right? So I teach I teach moms how to make a living off of their purpose.

SPEAKER_02 18:38

Yeah, right.

SPEAKER_00 18:38

Really walking in their purpose. What is that pain point? What was that breakthrough? Start building a brand around that because then people are going to invest in you to help them get better. You know what I'm saying? So um walking in that and just walking in your purpose overall and in general. Like I just I love to get to know people. So I ask those questions and I do the assessments, and I'm finding God is sending me me.

SPEAKER_02 19:06

Wow.

SPEAKER_00 19:07

God is sending me me. And that helps even more. Yeah. And you know what one of my coaches told me when I said that. She said, um maybe there's a part of you that still needs healing.

SPEAKER_02 19:20

Oh, wait.

SPEAKER_00 19:20

Maybe there's a part of you that you're seeing them that's still this is that reminder. And that was just so deep to me. And it just it gets deep, girl. When you start talking and healing, and you you know, because you're in that healing space. I just love it. I love it. So, how has your experience really shaped you as a coach and a speaker?

SPEAKER_01 19:41

Yeah, um, so of course, I always operate from a place of unconditional positive regard. Of course, that's just who I am. I really have used Jesus as my model for just one leadership, loving people, connecting with people. Yes. Um, and just meeting them where they're at without judgment and just actively listening to see where they want to go and just supporting them and getting from one space to another. And that's actively how I've done it. Just letting God be my model, or Jesus, or God be my model.

SPEAKER_00 20:13

Absolutely, absolutely. What the what um who is your client? Who's your ideal client?

SPEAKER_01 20:20

Yeah, um, so I would say the woman that is my client is that woman who has often been overlooked and rejected, who's been through hardships and difficulties, who had to find herself again and redefine who she was despite that opposition. And it was only through God where I was able to really reach outside of, I would say, the what would I how would I define it? A snake pit or something like that. I can remember a visual where I singing myself years ago in a dream where it was just like there was an attack on my life in a dream that God showed me that the enemy was after me. Um and it was just like I had to fight through so many obstacles to be able to reach him. And I can remember God Himself, like a figure representing God Himself coming in front of Satan.

SPEAKER_00 21:24

Welcome, woman of purpose. Now, if you're watching this, I already know you're not just here looking for inspiration, you're looking for direction. And I'm here to tell you that everything that you've been through in life, you didn't go through it just to sit in silence. You went through it so you could build from it. And from purpose to a powerhouse is not just a book. This is a blueprint, it's a step by step guide that I created for women of faith who is ready to turn their breakthrough into a real brand, their pain into a platform, and their voice into something that finally pays them. This is not just about building a business. This right here was what we were created to do. We experienced the pain. We walked through the wilderness, and on the other side of that was purpose, real purpose. Your breakthrough was never just for you. This was your assignment. This was what God trusted you with. He trusted you to carry it, to grow from it, and to help others see the way through theirs. And in return, he promised to provide. He said, if we seek him first, all things, peace, provision, fulfillment will be added unto us. And when you step into alignment with what your purpose is, you gain way more than clarity. You gain freedom. Freedom to show up fully as yourself, freedom to build something that works for your life, not against it, and freedom to spend more time with your children, your family, and still have the income flowing through the doors because of your obedience. This book will help you build a brand around who you are, not a version of you that the world told you to be. And when you get it right, it doesn't just bless your life, it pours back into your community, your mission, and your legacy, the legacy that you're building. And to help you get started, when you grab your copy, I'll also send you a copy of my Purpose the Product plug and play workbook completely for free. This workbook will walk you through how to structure your first offer based on your own transformation. Clearly, confidently, and without confusion or overwhelmed. You were created for this. Now it is time to build. I'll see you on the other side. I'm gonna cry, baby. So listen, listen. So am I. Listen. I said on one of my other shows, I'm gonna cry for five minutes. Yeah, I'm gonna get it out.

SPEAKER_01 23:43

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 23:43

But I'm gonna figure it out too.

SPEAKER_01 23:45

Exactly.

SPEAKER_00 23:45

I'm gonna figure it out. So go ahead. So it was a figure. Mm-hmm. Go ahead.

SPEAKER_01 23:49

And so there was a it was a battle for my soul, for my life. And so one thing that I saw myself continuously do was fighting to get through it. And I got to this place of like submission in this dream vision, whatever it was. And the spirit representing God, of course, spoke over me. You are not dead, you are alive. Rise now. And so I want to meet that woman who feels like she has, you know, been downtrodden, beaten, and and able to rise up against that opposition where she seems overlooked, where she seems discounted by others, to understand and know her authority, and to walk in the freedom and admiration of who God created her to be. So that she has that mental freedom where she has that spiritual freedom, where she has that emotional freedom, and she's able to literally thrive and shine.

SPEAKER_00 24:49

Yes. And you will know as the masterpiece that she is. Yes. And and I believe you absolutely will, because you are walking in obedience. Yes. Right? And the one thing I'm learning about obedience, so my faith walk, I I re um, my rebirth was last year. We're coming up on a year.

SPEAKER_02 25:13

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 25:14

Right? And this year, before I was baptized in uh August of 24, and I told myself, I'm just gonna continue to lean into God no matter what. Um I had to let go of a relationship that was very hard, very hard. Just a few months after he and I were both baptized together, but I had to walk. And I had to follow that word because I was praying and praying and praying. And I say that to say every decision that I made was out of obedience. My fasting was out of obedience. The investment, the investment I made in my business was out of obedience, you know. And I'm I don't want to make this about me, but it's going, I just want to prove show everyone about obedience. Just to teach us a little bit. I was very nervous to make this huge investment into a personal development and a business development training. This was recent, and I just did it. And can I tell you that everything has just been working out how it's supposed to be?

SPEAKER_02 26:30

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 26:31

Everything. And and the the the thought to my mind was like, how am I gonna pay for this? This is a lot of money. Am I gonna make the money back? And then I just shut it and I went in a fast immediately after I did it. I went in a seven-day fast. And just trusting in him and walking in obedience, and this is something that you know, you know. And and you will probably know, um, everyone who's watching, um, if you've experienced it, it's hard to explain it if you've never experienced how good God is in the midst of the storm. And you ain't been through a storm, you may think it's a storm, but it ain't a storm until you till he shows up and you like, I was at the wits end. I wasn't at the wits end before. Yeah. Because I had to get down lower, you know what I mean? And that's when that surrender happened. That's when that dropped to you. And it's I could not, uh I girl, yeah, that obedience. Yeah. So you are going to touch those women that you want to reach. You are going to help somebody. You just continue to walk in alignment with that word.

unknown 27:39

Amen.

SPEAKER_00 27:40

You keep walking in alignment with that word, and and and don't get distracted. It's easy. I still get distracted. I am a work in progress, but I am better at it now.

SPEAKER_02 27:53

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 27:54

Because I can see the attacks, right? The Bible says, count it all as joy. So when something bad happens, I'm praising it. I'm thinking, I'm thanking. Thank you. Because now this is another lesson that I should be learning.

SPEAKER_02 28:06

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 28:06

God, this is another lesson. What did I do wrong? What mistake did I made to end me up here?

SPEAKER_02 28:11

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 28:12

You know what I mean? Count it all as joy because we're going to rejoice in his name, whether it's good and whether it's bad.

SPEAKER_02 28:17

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 28:18

You are going to touch those people. And I am so proud of you. I am so proud of you because it takes a lot of strength. It takes a lot of strength. So tell me about motherhood.

SPEAKER_02 28:27

Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 28:28

Tell me about motherhood's a joy, isn't it? It's a roller cool to ride.

unknown 28:33

Oh man.

SPEAKER_00 28:33

Tell me about was motherhood what you expected?

SPEAKER_01 28:36

Um I would say motherhood is more than I expected, um, truthfully, because I've had to become more than I thought that I would be as a mom. Because I used to always be like, you know, in grad school, trying to do the gentle parenting thing. Ooh, girl.

SPEAKER_00 28:57

You learn quickly.

SPEAKER_01 28:59

I'm not gonna spank my child and things like that. But then you understand and you learn that all children are not the same. And so you have to really lean and trust truthfully for God and on some of your values and principles, um, and how you want to raise your kids. And with society today, I found myself like, oh, when she was younger, it was a little bit easier. She's gotten older, been exposed to social media. She's 10. Her name is Sydney. Um, it's definitely a journey. But you know, I thought it was all peaches and cream. She was just like the best baby up until maybe five. And I'm like, oh, she was still good at five and six, but when she got to like seven, eight, nine, now ten. Yeah, it's just those social years. Uh-huh. It's a little different.

SPEAKER_00 29:46

This is the it's critical, yeah, especially now because there is a spiritual warfare on our children. There's a spiritual warfare out right now. And I pray over my kids every single day. Yep. But because they are exposed to the world more than we have time with them, right? In reality. Like my daughter says, Mom, it's like I live at school. I'm always at school. No, first of all, you're not in school enough. Yeah. Because Georgia is always out. They're always having breaks, they always having getting out early. So no, you're not in school enough, okay? But she made me realize like she's right.

unknown 30:20

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 30:20

You know, under our roofs in our homes, we live a certain way. You live a certain way.

SPEAKER_02 30:27

That's right.

SPEAKER_00 30:28

But they come in contact with so many different spirits, personalities, so many things these kids at just 10 at her age have witnessed, you know? And it amazes me, not amaze, I won't amaze is the wrong word, but it's just still so eye-opening that we can all come to this one collective place. Same school, and it may be a good school, right? One collective place, but at the end of that day, you may have to go home to this apartment where your mama got men running in and out of the house. You may go to this home where you're getting beat on and we don't even know. You may go to this home where you're one of nine and and you're overlooked and you barely have this food. You're going to this this place where you're spoon-fed, and you're and you got your very privileged and you have the resources. But that school brings us together. And in that short time, I'm exposed to every single body. Yeah. Every single body, girl. And it is very scary. It is. It is scary. But you continue to train a child. But these are the years where you gotta keep your foot on their net. You do too much. Um, and I had to learn the hard way. Too much space. Too much space is dangerous. It is. It is dangerous.

SPEAKER_01 31:49

Yep.

SPEAKER_00 31:50

So I'm out of space.

SPEAKER_01 31:51

You and that's like, oh, I thought I could just be gentle parenting. Yeah. And it's just like, oh no, I have to kinda be a little bit more firm. Yes.

SPEAKER_00 32:00

I'm not your friend. I am not your friend. I love you. I will teach you, but you're gonna be mad at me because you can't do what everybody else does. I gotta shut it down. Um and it's until they're old enough to really make the sound decisions, and they will, you know, they they will. You keep them grounded, you keep them in church, you keep that covering over them, and you are the perfect example, especially because you got a daughter, right? Do you take her to the wellness haven with you? Do you take her on coaching calls or to meet um your clients or at events? Do you allow her to come and expose her to that?

SPEAKER_01 32:38

So she has been with me every step of the way. My child thinks she is the entrepreneur herself. She's the same, she was the CEO of my business.

SPEAKER_00 32:47

Yes, but put her on a payroll, mom. Go ahead, put her on payroll.

SPEAKER_01 32:51

And so even now, like she'll be like, Mom, I'm making bracelets. Can we make a website? Because she's kind of she's been with me every step of the way when I create. She's very creative. She's like, Oh, I got that creative thing from you, mom. Yeah, you know, and it's just like, yeah, you did. Um, but you know, and I and I really loved when she gets excited about making things or she's like, Mom, we can go to the park and sell my bracelets for this price. Nice. And it's just like she, oh, and then even I can rem um, so even just that aspect of her, but then her caring nature for people, it kind of scares me a little bit because it's just like I know people can walk over her just like they kind of did for me. So I have to kind of help her to understand boundaries, but also understand compassion and giving that care because she's seen it with me. She's like, my mom's a counselor, my mom's a therapist, so she'll be like, mom's a therapist, and it's almost like she just she's always been caring, just be because I think that's how God created her, yeah, too, but also what she's witnessed with me.

SPEAKER_00 33:50

Yes.

SPEAKER_01 33:51

Um, but yeah, like just all of that from her going to workshops, her going to I used to have offices back up north. She used to be at the office with me there.

SPEAKER_00 34:00

She's seen me glorified up north Georgia or up north Chicago.

SPEAKER_01 34:04

Okay. Yeah. I used to have a few offices there. So she was there with me every every step of the way. Even when I was working in my living room, she was there. She saw it from the ground up. She saw it from the ground up. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 34:15

Because it exposes her to the possibility. Yeah. You know? And growing up, um, how old are you if you don't mind me asking?

SPEAKER_01 34:23

Uh 35. I'll be 36 and so.

SPEAKER_00 34:25

So you're um, I'm not I'm not too much older than you. Yes. So go growing up, um, I don't know how how your upbringing was, but we were, I was never really exposed to that part of it. You know, our parents were laborers. They went to work.

SPEAKER_05 34:40

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 34:40

You know, they worked hard to earn um good money, but they never had that dream spirit. Like my dad did somewhat. Like he was a promoter, then he started throwing shows, but he didn't start off in that. Well, maybe he always had that spirit, but it wasn't never heightened or um it wasn't magnified to the point that it is now. Like, um, and I love for her to see that because it stretches her imagination to the point where I can do anything, especially with God. Yeah. Why? Because I saw my mom build this and now she's here, you know?

SPEAKER_04 35:16

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 35:16

And it it kind of kills those limited beliefs early on. And I love it. And I absolutely love it. Yeah. So when's the sibling coming?

SPEAKER_01 35:25

Oh, so that's something I'm still working through emotionally because I actually was expecting and I experienced pregnancy. So we're still reconsidering that. Nice to say the least. But yeah.

SPEAKER_00 35:38

Okay. Yeah. Did you discuss that part of your life? Are you vocal about that?

SPEAKER_01 35:42

Um, so I'm not really vocal because I noticed that when I talk about it, it's like I thought I was okay with it, and I know that God is going to use it at some point.

SPEAKER_05 35:51

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 35:51

Um, because I can't even remember when it first happened, where he started to give me different things to encourage me to even get through the beginning healing parts of it, um, to get to a place of acceptance and how to communicate that loss um to family or friends who I may have shared with early on.

SPEAKER_05 36:09

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 36:09

Um, and then just kind of and like some of the processes I went through with God to kind of begin my healing steps. Because I would say it's still emotional because it's so it's like, am I avoiding it because I'm afraid? Or, you know, and so it I'm still feeling like I still have to address that before I can even, but I God has given me some foundational things that I've been able to work through that may be beneficial to others, even like understanding that there's not enough spaces where people can actually open up about it because of the association of shame that may come with it, like the identity, you know, tied up into it. So those are things he was highlighting through me because those are things that kind of start trying to come back at me when that happened. Okay. And I and God had to remind me, like, you are not defined by your capacity to carry because you lost. And you know, and so that was one of the parts where he started to work on me at in in healing. Um, and it was wonderful because you know, it did start to kind of push me back a little bit, but he kind of he stepped in, he helped me to kind of get over that. And I was like, okay, thank you, Laura.

SPEAKER_00 37:16

Yes, he's gonna prepare you for what you need. Yeah, he's gonna prepare you for, he's gonna equip you with the tools because it's already inside of us, right? And that's that pain part again, right? That's that's another every level, every every season, there's gonna be a new pain point. Yeah, right. Once we think we mastered our pain, he said, Oh, nope, you're not done. Exactly. Right, just imagine what all the disciples went through.

SPEAKER_01 37:43

I can imagine.

SPEAKER_00 37:44

And some some died before they can even have their breakthrough. That's right. But they were still obedient to their mission.

SPEAKER_01 37:51

That's right.

SPEAKER_00 37:51

Right?

SPEAKER_01 37:52

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 37:52

Um, how has um the transition into the blended family? Because you're married again, right? Yeah. And how how old was Sydney when you got married again?

SPEAKER_01 38:02

Okay, so now um, let's be transparent. This is my third marriage. Oh, okay.

SPEAKER_00 38:07

But when I get married, it's gonna get right. It's gonna it's right now, right? Oh, yeah. Third time's a charm. Right. So wait, so take me take me back to the second one. So because I know um for women, it can be nerve-wracking dating when you have a child. Okay. It's like now I got this baby, it's some sickles in the world. Yeah. How am I going to balance this? How am I gonna do this? How was that for you when you said, okay, I want to start dating again and I want to get married?

SPEAKER_01 38:33

Yeah. Um, so of course I was up front. I have a child, you know.

SPEAKER_00 38:39

Um, and I really Which is nothing wrong with, by the way, guys. There's nothing wrong with don't make don't let no man tell you that you are damaged goods because you're exactly tell that man deuces.

SPEAKER_01 38:52

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_00 38:53

Go ahead.

SPEAKER_01 38:54

Yeah, but it was actually um with with my second husband, it was really smooth. Like, I actually was trying to make sure my daughter didn't meet him before I knew if I wanted to date him. Right. But it just seemed like things were moving, I guess I would say a little bit more expeditiously than I wanted it to. Um, and I really do believe that God really joins us together.

SPEAKER_00 39:19

Okay. Um, is he into the church as well?

SPEAKER_01 39:21

Yeah, he was as well. Um, but you know, we I was actually still in living in St. Louis, Missouri before I went back to home where he actually lived. And I think we actually met around the time where I did one of my events back at home, and God had already been transitioning me and told me you were gonna go back home to Chicago.

SPEAKER_05 39:41

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 39:41

Um, and so I kind of actually met him around that time. This is after my first divorce had ended, my first marriage had ended. And I was just, you know, before that, I'm gonna just kind of go back. Um, after my divorce, you know, God had, like I said, was had me in a really p committed place to him, surrendered place to him. Um, and I could just remember one day I was driving, and all these messages from I think Malma wrote on how to be a wife, or all of these different messages started to come. And I was like, I'm not getting married again, you know? And it was almost like God was kind of showing me that you you almost to say you're not damaged good, and I have a love that is really established for you to come. And it was like he was just kind of giving me some foresight and encouragement in that. And oddly enough, I think it was honestly the weekend that I went to visit Chicago, where one of my schoolmates um from high school had, I guess, he had had already kind of this is kind of his side of the story, had already kind of had the desire to be married. Okay, and so I guess in his conversation with the old classmate of mine, he was like, I'm just tired of being single. I really want God to send me my wife. And she's like, hey, I know a sweet girl that I was in high school with, and I hadn't talked to this girl since high school. And so I guess she said, go at her on Facebook. And so this he was following me and liking everything on Facebook. I'm like, and like I said, I was super into God. I was like, these ministers, yes, liking everything on my page and who sent you? Basically, and so you know, I just was like, okay, let him like everything. And so this was the weekend I was going to Chicago to plan the event that I was this is the weekend where actually went on a date with him, but this is like weeks apart. And so by the time I actually went, checked out the venue in Chicago and drove back to St. Louis. Um, I sent him a message. No, I oh, before that, I created a post like people, something it has to be. It was a subliminal post. Basically, it was a subliminal post about people trying to basically woo you through social media. And um, so God convicted me that night. And so I sent him a message and said, Hey, and oh, he liked that post. And so I said, You know that post was actually about you, right? And so from that day on, we actually just start communicating, and it was just like this connection, and we started just talking more and more. Um, and I can remember we were on video one night and we didn't verbalize it, but it felt like in my heart, I can hear him say, I love this woman, you know, and I said it back to him in my heart. Yeah, and it's just like I do too. It was out loud from both of us, and it was really weird.

SPEAKER_03 42:25

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 42:26

Um, and so that marriage I would say went pretty well. Um and you know, he we we were in alignment with God on a lot of different things. My purpose, vision, he supported the vision of the business you know, from beginning to um the moment he he lost faith in why God sent us here, because we came here together, but on it, you know, he he lost his his faith got a little shaky and it caused him to jump ship, yeah, and it caused me to get to a point where it was like, okay, I got this, you know. I had because of my first situation, my first marriage.

SPEAKER_00 43:01

Oh, that toughened you.

SPEAKER_01 43:02

That was because it was just like I was just like, I will never abandon what God has told me to do just because a man walked out. And so even though he walked out, I was willing to reconcile, but I was not willing to walk away from where God told me to be.

SPEAKER_00 43:20

And that was a test.

SPEAKER_01 43:22

It was, and I can remember I was in the car and it was raining, and I asked him if you I said, I'm open to you coming back, but I'm not abandoning what God sent me here for. Right. And he he did not come back, but I stayed focused. I pivoted and I focused on doing what God told me to do when I got here. And I can I I'm telling you, within a month, I had a I had now I actually had to jump into like getting back into working a nine to five because I had for years not been working. I was focused on the business. Right. But at this point I did kind of pivot and take a job, but they, you know, kind of offered me a little bit higher salary than what they were posting. I was like, okay, God. The house. Working it out. Working it out. New car came, everything within like a three-month period after he left. And I was like, okay, God. Okay.

SPEAKER_00 44:09

But you were obedient to that, to that. Yeah. To that. That's what I said. That was the test. And see how everything just started falling into place. Yeah. Right. I love that. I love that. Your daughter.

SPEAKER_02 44:20

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 44:21

Now, we have something in common as well. I haven't, I wasn't married three times. I was only married once. Okay. But I was in relationships after the marriage. And I find, especially for my daughter, I still have that guilt of not that, not about me and her daddy, girl. That was the end. But the fact that I'm letting her down by introducing and then it don't work. Introducing and then it don't work. How do you deal with that? Or does that affect you? Do you think about that? Like, oh yeah. Especially in the midst of um, when you're in the last stage of that breakup, when you know, I mean the relationship, when you know it's just like inevitable. How do you deal with, okay, now I have to tell her this, and I don't want her to think that, you know. How do you do that?

SPEAKER_01 45:12

Oh yeah. So I've had those conversations with her um on a few occasions, but it comes to the conversation of her worth and knowing that when people walk away, it doesn't diminish who she is. Yeah. But I also talk about life and seasons changing too um to kind of empower her to know that life happens, you know, to kind of empower her. And I I think I've just kind of kept it to that simplicity where is your your value is not based on who walked away. Who walked away, it's based on the people that stay.

SPEAKER_00 45:48

Right.

SPEAKER_01 45:48

Um, and I empower her through that.

SPEAKER_00 45:50

Right.

SPEAKER_01 45:51

Because my mom tells me I have a what she called, I forgot what my mom calls it. My it's something, but my mom was like, you just keep moving on, you don't, you don't you don't take time because I mean if I can't I can't live in that.

SPEAKER_00 46:03

Yeah. You know, I can't allow that to be that breaking point for me where I revert back to that old space. Because now it's not just you.

SPEAKER_02 46:13

Yep.

SPEAKER_00 46:14

You got Sydney.

SPEAKER_02 46:15

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 46:15

You know, you got not just Sydney, now I have these other women.

SPEAKER_02 46:19

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 46:19

Right. So he is building you up to be, oh my gosh, and I I'm getting goose ones. He is building you up to make such an amazing impact, right? To make such an amazing impact. And I am, I'm I'm looking forward to watching this. Yeah. To watch this. We're gonna become friends. I can already say I'm looking forward to to watching this. And just a little backstory, guys. Um, for those who are watching, I met I met Candace. We went out to um through a mutual friend.

SPEAKER_02 46:50

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 46:51

Um shout out to Henry May. Um, we went to um an event in Marietta or somewhere in Georgia. Yep. Um Sandy Springs. Sandy Springs. Um, and it was a women empowerment event, a girl talk type of setup where entrepreneurs come and talk and speak on their journey, so to speak. And then I'm just talking to her, and there was just like, I don't know, just something attracted like me. And I'm like, wow, like she, I can feel something like um positive. And I was like, this woman is like, like, I want to hear more about her.

SPEAKER_02 47:26

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 47:26

And I'm like, come on down to the show. And she was all for it. So um, that's how we met. And and now that I'm hearing more of her stories, I'm like, we have a lot of similarities.

SPEAKER_02 47:36

Wow.

SPEAKER_00 47:36

We have a lot of similarities, and I want to support um the wellness haven. I want to support you and your journey however I can. Like, I just love that.

SPEAKER_05 47:45

Thank you.

SPEAKER_00 47:46

I absolutely love that. So she is on the roll, y'all, because she she's been um, well, she had locations opened up. Um, she has books out. Um, she got cars and she she got some things here with the day. Let me just uh we don't get into this. The box is coming apart. Listen, hey, look, it serves its purpose. Yeah. Sis got it going on. Tell us about these conversation starters, the mental health conversation starters. What was the um what was the goal behind behind these?

SPEAKER_01 48:18

Yeah, so of course, um, we know that mental health for a long time has been taboo, and I wanted to create an avenue for people to have conversations about mental health, whether it was the basics of, you know, where did you first hear about mental illness? Do you have any family members that deal with the substance use issue? What are your understandings or ideologies about it based on like the environment you grew up in? And I wanted to have people to have those conversations outside of the therapy room, um, just like they would um at the kitchen table with a family member, like it's a regular conversation. And I wanted to be um less invasive and just really it also be an informative to a degree, yes, um, where it just kind of removes the stigma and gives people talking and being more confident to say, okay, I am not okay. Right. And this is how I will get support because inside that deck of cards, outside of having some of the questions, one it builds awareness, too, it talks about how you could support someone, and then at the back of the deck, it gives you like resources on how to even connect with like therapy services and things like that.

SPEAKER_00 49:31

Yes, I'm reading some of these questions and I'm loving it because, well, the first thing that came to mind, I said, um, we all need to get together, have a little girls' night, and play this game. Basically. But what I love about this is that sometimes people do want to have the conversation, they just don't know what to ask or how to ask it, guys. Like this, this is amazing. And you typically see cards like this on relationships, friendships, and honestly, this is my first time seeing a mental health deck like this. And I love this. List five ways you can reduce stress and or add joy into your daily lives, and it gets people to think critically, it gets think uh people to think um outside of what they've already been thinking, right? Well, how can I release stress? What do I enjoy doing? Who do I who did I used to be before the stress came? You know, um, I love this. Y'all, this is amazing. How can we um how can we get these cards? Where where are they at?

SPEAKER_01 50:32

Yeah, so you can purchase the let's talk about mental health conversation starter deck on my website at the wellnesshaven.co, and it would be under the personal growth toolbox. Yes.

SPEAKER_00 50:47

I love this. This is cute. Thank you. Miss Canda's got it going on. And what are these?

SPEAKER_01 50:53

Tell me about the so those are mindful reminder cards, those are faith-based affirmations. Okay, and they are affirmations that come from the word of God to basically serve as a form of mindfulness, but also my renewal, especially when we're in different spaces of our life.

SPEAKER_04 51:14

Yes.

SPEAKER_01 51:15

Um, inside that deck, there's further like discussion and reflective cards where they can kind of use those reflective cards or questions to actually journal based off of some of the cards that are in the deck. Yeah. So they're actually able to connect, reflect, and then kind of journal to um to build up themselves.

SPEAKER_00 51:34

Now, is this the journal that accompanies this?

SPEAKER_01 51:36

Is this the so they actually can't, so no, so that is separate. The mindful reminders, I would say, are a perfect companion to something new that I just created, which is the growing grace. Um the one that's not the 21-day devotional, and I think those would pair perfectly together because it's helping people to get to a space of operating and healing and growing closer to God and experiencing transformation um with God. Yeah, and so utilizing this deck serves as a reminder to kind of transform and renew our mind and actually allow us to operate in grace. Yes, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 52:14

I love this too. I can see um me and the kids um doing this in the morning after prayer. Everyone pick a card. Yeah, look, I s I said kids, and she is FaceTiming me now. She knows I'm in the studio, she knows I'm in the huddle. Denim, I'm gonna get you. Um, but I love this. Yeah, I love this. I have a purpose, and I picked the right card. I picked the right card. Everybody knows I'm about purpose. Yeah, I have a purpose, and God has a plan for me. Yeah, amen. I love this. You are on a move. Thank you. How long? How long have you been in business?

SPEAKER_01 52:51

Yeah, so I started this journey, this full-on journey in August of 2018. Okay.

SPEAKER_00 52:57

Yep, yes, yes, y'all. Y'all need to tap in with C Marie. Um, we're gonna put her Instagram in the caption. Oh, baby done baby done uh lost some weight too. Baby done lost some weight. She didn't tell us that she had a um uh a little health journey as well. Not little, ain't nothing little about it. And this is the same. And that came with the loss, yeah. Okay, yeah, okay.

SPEAKER_01 53:19

That health journey pay became me pouring to myself, yes, and and that was another form of healing for me after that loss. Yes.

SPEAKER_00 53:27

So, how are you? Um, oh, I love I I love the fact that this is so large. Yes, I love the fact that this is so large, honoring your temple, taking inventory. Yep, taking inventory. I was just having a conversation with one of my good, good girlfriends about taking inventory on your friends, on your circle, yeah, the people in your business, the people in your life. And when I took inventory, I found myself in a place of isolation.

unknown 53:58

Wow.

SPEAKER_00 53:58

I found myself by myself. The people that are there, they're still there. You know, like the ones that are truly my friends, they're still there. We don't, we may not talk every day. We're in group chat. I don't I don't respond to the group text a lot because I'm I'm so busy. Yeah. Um my daughter is going to give me one second. Oh no, she's gonna she let she hang up, see? Um but yeah, I I found myself in isolation. Um, and they're still there, the group chats are still there, but I needed to be alone to focus on everything. Yeah, when I took this celibacy journey, right? When I said I'm I'm stopped drinking hard liquor, like I don't drink the hard liquor anymore. I still I'm still I want I I will drink wine all day. But I wanted to really position myself as the woman that God gave me this vision. See, when when I when I asked and when I prayed and when I found myself going back on this walk, um, I wanted to understand who I was. And shout out to my friend Zara, like she helped me so much at that time, um, and this was just last year to help me find myself again because I was losing myself in that relationship. I was losing myself. Um, I was stagnant in a lot of areas. Um, and I and on the surface, you can see um Tam got it going on. Tam still doing her thing, but inside it was like, no, Tam, this ain't right. Like I'm losing, I'm fighting this battle. And it was her that helped me really um get so centered in God and who that person I see myself as, and start walking as that person already exists. Right? That person is a woman of God, that person is a leader, that person do lead people to God. That person's not perfect, yeah. But she gets up every day and she does her makeup. She gets up every day and cleans her house, she gets up every day and moves. She gets up, you know, those taking on that, like I already see myself as this person, so I'm gonna move how she moved. Yeah, and everything just started falling into place. So I was in a moment, I was in an area, period of isolation because everybody wasn't on that journey. Exactly. And that's when God said, No, you have to take this alone. Yeah, I'm taking everything away from you. You have to take this alone. I want you, and that's what he said.

SPEAKER_02 56:24

Yep.

SPEAKER_00 56:24

And when I say I don't worry about nothing, things still hit me. Yeah, I still get shocked. Yeah, I still hurt, but I don't worry about it. Like, we're gonna have to figure this out. I'm still alive. As long as I'm alive, we're gonna figure it out.

SPEAKER_02 56:39

Yep. So true.

SPEAKER_00 56:40

As long as I got family, we're gonna figure it out. As long as I know how to pray, we're gonna figure it out. That's true. You know, and he led me to this church home. I know I met so many amazing people, so many amazing women there, you know, and just um stepping into these news. I'm excited to even see. You know, like even meeting you, like I'm excited to see. So I love the fact that you provide the resources, the reminders, the things we need these. Yeah, I want to normalize with women and women journaling. Normalize journaling. Like people will buy journals and then let them sit. I'm guilty of it. Um, but I'm more intentional with my moves. So I I incorporate that with um with my agenda.

SPEAKER_02 57:24

Okay, good.

SPEAKER_00 57:24

I incorporate that with my agenda. Like five minutes right in this journal or right, you know what I'm saying? Do something along those source. Like, so no, I I love this. And these are available on your website too, right? Yes, they are. Okay, amazing, amazing. Oh, you were a baby here. Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 57:43

Oh yeah, probably that 2018, 2017, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 57:49

Yes, believe, be free, and be healed. Yes, this was amazing. I cannot wait, and I'm going to support you. I'm gonna get, um, I'm gonna go to your website and see what I can get. Okay, um, see what you got going on. Um, but I'm serious though. We need to get together and we need to play this one day.

SPEAKER_02 58:05

I agree.

SPEAKER_00 58:06

I am so serious about that. Um, but yes, this this was an amazing, amazing, necessary conversation. Um, I I appreciate you sharing your journey with us. I appreciate you sharing your expertise, and you are more than welcome to come back to visit anytime you want. You got a new book dropping, you're doing a book tour, stop past the huddle. You know what I mean? Um, more than welcome. More than welcome. Thank you. Um, we do have a new segment on the show. Okay. Yes. Let me get my let me get my phone. It's in my notes. All right. And I just started this segment. Um, um, I don't know what I'm gonna call it yet. I call it something else on the other show, but I don't want to call it quick um lightning around. I don't want to do that. I'm trying to brand it with the name. Yeah. So, but I'm gonna just ask you some questions. We just picked it to that, okay?

SPEAKER_01 58:59

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 58:59

Um, well, first of all, what is on your turn up playlist?

SPEAKER_01 59:04

Oh, my turn-up playlist. Oh Lord. I probably need to add some songs on my turn up playlist.

SPEAKER_00 59:10

What's that song that gets you going? Like, you like is it is it gospel? Is it a good one?

SPEAKER_01 59:14

There's a lot of gospel. Um, I love, but outside of gospel, I am a neo-soul girl to the core. Jill Scott Me All Day, India Ari Me. Yeah. Um, and so if I would say one of my favorite songs is A Long Walk by Jill Scott.

SPEAKER_00 59:28

Jilly from Philly. Let's take a long walk. Yes, and that's my favorite karaoke song. Yes, yes. So um, I ask that because everyone should have that turner song, the one that gets them ready, they get them pumped. And um, depending on where I'm going, it may look different. Yeah, it may look different. I might have to throw some Megan up in there or some meat girl or something, depending on where I'm going. All right, so you ready? Yeah. Okay. One scripture that always brings you back to sinner.

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Yeah, James 4 and 7. Submit yourselves, therefore, unto God, resist the devil, and he will flee from you.

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Amen. Amen.

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I learned that as a little girl and it has stuck.

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Yes. A must-have for a quiet time.

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Must-have for quiet time? Yes.

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Um tea and quiet. Tea and quiet. Now, are you a um are you a chai tea? Are you a black tea drinker, green tea, green tea maker? Green tea, but I really have learned to love hibiscus too. Hibiscus.

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I love hibiscus.

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I love it. It's so good. Yes, come on. What's a lie women need to stop believing about healing? Ooh.

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A lie that people need to stop believing about healing. That you cannot be a work in progress. So I think there's a quote that says, So I want people to stop believing that they have to be perfect to be able to, you know, serve. Right. And so I think the saying goes, You can you can be a masterpiece and a work in progress. Yes. And so it just kind of removes that barrier or that shame. Yes. And so I want people to stop believing the lie that because they have flaws, there they can't be used by God. You know.

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Those make the best messengers. Yeah. Those make the best messengers. The strippers turn preachers and the drug dealers turn minute. Like, those are the best lessons sometimes. Absolutely. Um, your go-to worship song when you need a breakthrough.

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Um, Tasha Cobbs. Wait, not that not Tasha Cobbs. No, that's uh, what's that lady's name? Tamil Man. Take me to the King.

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Take me to the King. You love Tamil. That's actually we're having moment. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, yeah. Tasha, that's my girl.

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But I love Tasha too. Oh, yeah, glove. Yes, that one too. Yes. And royalty. Yeah, I'm gonna do that. I love that one.

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Yes, yes. All right, fill in the blank. Okay.

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Healing looks like one word. Healing looks like one word. Ooh. Peace. Peace. Yes.

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Healing looks like peace.

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Yeah.

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Peace of mind. Yep. Peace of self. Exactly. Peace of anxiety. Just peace. Yeah. I love that.

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Or the one I just told my sister. Acceptance.

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Acceptance. Yeah. Acceptance of the things we can change. We can't change. Oh, I love that serenity prayer. My daughter recites it after we do our prayer in the morning. That's her part. She does serenity. I love it. Accept the things I can change or accept the things I can't change and the wisdom. The wisdom to know the difference. Yeah. Yes, yes. And last one, if you could tell your younger self one truth, what would it be?

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Oh man. What do I what would I tell my younger self? Girl, you got this. You got it, girl.

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You got younger self. You got cards, younger self. You got merch and you got books that's gonna help people, younger self. Yeah. You can do it. I love that. I love that. Thank you so much for coming on the show, Candace. I truly, truly enjoyed it. And if y'all truly enjoyed, make sure y'all leave a comment. Let us know what your favorite part of this episode was. I mean, there was a lot of favorite parts that I think.

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My crab baby self came out.

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Hey, it's okay. I was about to cry with you. I had to make an excuse to get up to get a tissue to, you know, get myself together because, like, I mean, when you feel it, you feel it. But I just think that just shows your passion behind it, you know. Um, and you are on your way. You are on your way. So are you. Thank you. And I need you to be on your way to that subscribe button and hit that button, y'all. Thank y'all so much for always rocking with the mop in our huddle. Thank you for sharing it. Thank you for spreading the word. Thank you just for just being here and then um um just trusting us to have the conversations that you want to hear. If you need to reach the huddle in any way, shape, or form, you can always go over to our Instagram page, send us a DM. If you want to be a guest on the huddle, send us a DM. Or if you just have a comment, send us a DM or drop it right here in the comment section. We love to hear the feedback. We love it, you guys. I truly appreciate it. Um, give a shout out to our sponsors. This week we have a new sponsor. This show is sponsored by Jams Hair Care LLC, and they are the parent company to TNT Children's Natural Hair Care Line Collection. Y'all, I use this on my daughter, and when I can tell you that this stuff did not dry her hair out, typically when I use it, um, when I use certain products on her hair, she has that type C coarse, coarse hair. It doesn't stay moist, it does, it doesn't stay moist, it does, it dries out so fast. So um I started using this product, and I I was intentionally um only using that. I wanted to give it a chance to see how it did after week, even the edge control and her hair, it amazed me. Like it started bringing out her natural curl pattern. Um and it's natural ingredients, natural products. So I I I'm a big fan of this. So even though they're a sponsor, I'm a big fan. And it became a customer as well. So make sure y'all check out Jams Hair Care. They have um more things for adults, they have a whole line of collection, um, beard oil for men. Um, they just got it going on. Um, the website will be in the description. And if you use the code Capri10, you will receive 10% off of your order. Um, other than that, we are gonna wrap this episode up with Miss C. Marie. Um, do you have any um drops you want to tell people? Um, anything you got going on as far as sales, anything you got coming up?

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So I definitely encourage you if you are in need of support for your emotional, mental, spiritual health, please feel free to reach out to me at the wellnesshaven.co. There are a lot of amazing resources, and I want you to be able to access a lot of those things um so that you're able to one take the first step. To many steps on your journey to healing. And I want to just encourage that. Amen. I love that. And the website is www.thewellnesshaven.co.

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Yes, tap into the wellness haven, y'all. Thank y'all so much. I will see y'all next week. Ladies, crowns on, chins up, and rock the rest of your week. Have a good evening.