What I Learned Asking My Husband Anything For An Hour

Y'all asked, and he's back. My husband Josh joins me for the rawest, most unfiltered conversation we've had on the pod yet. We get into the questions women are too scared to ask their men, what mental health actually looks like in a marriage, the truth about running a business while raising a family, and the Mormon shame we're still untangling around sex and intimacy.

This one is part rapid-fire, part real talk, part marriage therapy session you didn't pay for. If you're partnered, single, healing, or just curious — there's something in this episode for you.

In this episode we get into:

👄 The questions women are too scared to ask their husbands (and Josh's no-BS answers)
👄 How men's mental health actually shows up — and why anger is the language
👄 What it does to a man when his wife initiates sex
👄 The truth about being three years into a business and still not paying yourself
👄 Stretch marks, postpartum bodies, and what your man is REALLY thinking
👄 Unlearning Mormon shame around sex as a married couple
👄 Why working through emotions IS masculine
👄 The pinnacle of intimacy — and how to give it to your partner this week

Whether you've been married 20 years or you're still figuring out what you want in a partner, this episode will hit. Send it to your husband. Send it to your single friend. Send it to your sister. Then come tell me what landed.

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Transcript

SPEAKER_02 0:00

We're back and I asked my audience what they would ask a man who would answer honestly and who better to bring than the husband of the sex lady. Josh, welcome back.

SPEAKER_00 0:12

I'm I'm answering questions. Yeah. That's good to be here.

SPEAKER_02 0:16

Okay, so today Josh is back and we're going there. We're gonna talk about sex, intimacy, what men actually think and feel. We're gonna talk about hydro, we're gonna talk about supplements, we're gonna talk about life.

SPEAKER_00 0:28

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 0:29

We're gonna talk about managing a six-year-old child and how difficult it is.

SPEAKER_00 0:35

So everything under the sun, I guess, huh?

SPEAKER_02 0:37

I guess. So welcome back, Vane Ones. Welcome to the love of Cassidy, where we talk intimacy, business, power, healing, and the conversations that most people are too uncomfortable to have. I'm Cassidy, entrepreneur, wife, mom, and someone who has spent nearly two decades talking about intimacy and the wellness space. If you if someone sent this actual episode to you, you are in the right place. And let's get into it. So Josh is back. And for anyone who missed his first episode, go listen and come back. But the short version is my husband of 11 years married. It's gonna be 12 in October, um, running his own business and is willing to be honest on a microphone, which is either very brave or very trusting of me. And I have a feeling it's very trusting of me too.

SPEAKER_00 1:38

I felt like I was tricked into this now. I'm just kidding.

SPEAKER_02 1:40

I mean, I mean a little bit. I was getting ready for production and I was like, Do you want to come back? And he was like, I don't think I have an option to say no. So yes, yes, we're back.

SPEAKER_00 1:52

And he's like a I'm happy to be here.

SPEAKER_02 1:54

Yeah, and he's like a podcast pro, right? I guess you've been doing them lately.

SPEAKER_00 1:58

Yeah, I've been on a couple.

SPEAKER_02 2:00

Yeah, okay. So how you you're happy to be back?

SPEAKER_00 2:03

Yeah, it's good to be here.

SPEAKER_02 2:05

You ready to get into it?

SPEAKER_00 2:06

I'm ready to get into it. Let's get into the nitty-gritty.

SPEAKER_02 2:09

Okay, we're gonna do baptism by fire first. Okay, and then we'll talk a little hydro, we'll get into all the stuff. We'll let it know.

SPEAKER_00 2:15

Sounds great.

SPEAKER_02 2:16

Okay, so um, these are gonna be some rapid fire questions. Okay. And you just respond. And then I do have some people that have asked some questions from the IG.

SPEAKER_00 2:26

That's great.

SPEAKER_02 2:27

Okay. So rapid fire, morning sex or night sex?

SPEAKER_00 2:31

Oh, both for sure.

SPEAKER_02 2:33

Yeah, that is definitely an answer.

SPEAKER_00 2:35

Yeah, yeah, there's there's never a wrong time. Okay. Any time is a good time. Okay. And uh, yeah, morning, night. I approve of both. Noon. Midday, yeah. So I'm I'm always strapped and ready to go.

SPEAKER_02 2:52

Lights on or lights off.

SPEAKER_00 2:55

Um, you know, that song Um You Look Better with the Lights Off. What's that? Um I mean, I guess I'm aging myself a little bit, but it was like way back in the day, like 2011, maybe. You know, uh had like uh Nicky Minaj.

SPEAKER_02 3:17

I'm gonna have my like production guy find it and like it in here so everybody be quiet for a minute.

SPEAKER_00 3:23

Oh no, no. That that was like I can make your bed rock.

SPEAKER_02 3:27

Oh, wrong song.

SPEAKER_00 3:28

But no, but there was also the song You look better with the lights off.

SPEAKER_02 3:34

Sounds terrible.

SPEAKER_00 3:36

The tune might have been a little off clip. But anyway, um, lights on because you look better with the lights on.

SPEAKER_02 3:43

Okay, okay, thanks.

SPEAKER_00 3:44

But you know, having the lights off kind of sets the mood, so I don't know. I kind of like, you know, the like I don't know, like yeah, just setting the mood with kind of lights dimmed. Lights dimmed. Like we could we could even go back to like mid medieval times and have like candles, that would be kind of hot.

SPEAKER_02 4:08

Man, okay. You're setting yourself up here. Yeah. I mean, I'm always like, I can't see anything, it's pitch black, and I have to go and turn the light on.

SPEAKER_00 4:15

It could be like role play, I could be like the king. Maybe like you could just like feed me this big feast, okay, and then we could do it under candlelight.

SPEAKER_02 4:25

Okay. Noted. Okay. Um, what's a move that always works?

SPEAKER_00 4:30

My dance moves. Or talking about sex. Um, well, uh I like to get a little western, so the reverse cowgirl.

SPEAKER_02 4:42

Okay. Good answer.

SPEAKER_00 4:45

All right.

SPEAKER_02 4:45

Most overrated thing in the bedroom.

SPEAKER_00 4:48

Most overrated thing? Yeah. Oh, I think uh pillow talk.

SPEAKER_02 4:57

Really?

SPEAKER_00 4:57

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 4:58

Like laying there and talking before eating.

SPEAKER_00 5:00

Yeah, before let's just get get to it.

SPEAKER_02 5:02

Okay. All right. Um, biggest turn on that has nothing to do with looks.

SPEAKER_00 5:08

Biggest turn on that has nothing to do with looks. Uh it's like the the dirty talk. Oh, in a text or in the ear or um, well, like leading up text. Okay. You know, like if I've been on the mountain and I get some good, you know, hot messages that that's awesome. Um like leads up to the the act and then during the act, like in the ear, is awesome.

SPEAKER_02 5:35

Okay. Um how important is sex in a relationship on a scale one to ten?

SPEAKER_00 5:42

I'd put it out of twelve.

SPEAKER_02 5:43

Yeah, I knew you were gonna say that. Okay. Josh likes sex, if you guys were wondering. Okay. Yeah. Um, what is something about sex you wish someone had told you when you were younger?

SPEAKER_00 5:55

Uh, there's nothing to be ashamed of. So I mean, growing up in, you know, the culture we grew up in, um, you know, we were both raised in the predominant religion here in this area. Um we were always taught like premarital sex was was bad. And, you know, I I I don't think intentionally, but a lot of times in our culture, you know, it's just there's a stigma around it. So, you know, um it's just a very natural thing, um, a very natural the way to express um your love, uh share intimacy with, you know, your partner, and uh yeah, there's there's nothing shameful about it. So I think uh yeah, that that's the number one thing.

SPEAKER_02 6:46

Okay, cool. So you did so good, and you did not know we were talking about sex right from the get-go.

SPEAKER_00 6:53

No, I I was expecting, as you can see with the props, to talk hydro. Um but uh I guess we'll get there. Which hydration is important after sex, so that is true.

SPEAKER_02 7:04

Which we're gonna go there.

SPEAKER_00 7:05

Okay, we'll go there.

SPEAKER_02 7:06

Yeah, so oh actually, let me go to the IG questions, yeah. Okay. Um first question. I normally don't share names, but I'll share this name from username Hunt Sauce.

SPEAKER_00 7:19

I've never heard of it.

SPEAKER_02 7:20

Okay. Did you dance in a competition in Mesquite? I remember your Apple bottled jeans.

SPEAKER_00 7:27

Yeah, yeah. So me and Hunt Sauce. Um we yeah, we were kind of notorious for um our dance moose back in the day. It was spring break. Um and being, you know, uh Mormon boys from Utah, we thought spring break in Vegas would be pretty epic.

SPEAKER_02 7:46

With no money.

SPEAKER_00 7:47

With no money. And uh spring break in Vegas isn't really that epic. It's not really what people go and do, especially back in the day. This was you know, um, late 2000s, so we're talking 2007, 2008, maybe, I don't know. But uh anyway, so coming back, um the Casablanca there in Mesquite when it was still around, we stopped there and they had uh a beach party, right? And they're in the casino and this beach party at the dance club. They had they had this beach party, and they had this like dance off, and like me me and my me and my buddy, me and Hunt Sauce entered this dance competition, and uh it was pretty funny. Um we just got booed. Um you got booed? Yeah, we we didn't win anything. People booed us. It was just the other guys, they're just jealous because we were still no ladies, but they boot us. Um Eric Hunt Soss got nervous. Like his only dance move was he just went down to the like, you know, that like three point the three-point stance where you like go down and like with one hand and then he had the other arm behind his back and he like like started dry humping the floor. Like I like I I don't know if he saw that from like an Usher music video or what, but he just like got nervous and he just like ripped his shirt off, twirled around his head a little bit, threw it to the crowd, no one caught it, and then just went down and started humping the floor, and just everybody booed. And then I got out there and I started to do my two-step and then my crip walk and signature, my signature, and I just got booed, and uh and then people started throwing like lettuce and tomatoes at us. Okay, no, but it was it was pretty, it was pretty it was pretty funny. Um, we did not win that dance competition. You know, the DJ, you know, um, you know, gave away some cash. It might have been like a hundred bucks to the winners. We were not the winners, and uh yeah, it was a good time though.

SPEAKER_02 10:10

Um this is before I guess smartphones, so there's no video footage of this example.

SPEAKER_00 10:14

Yeah, this we had flip phones, um, and yeah, no video.

SPEAKER_02 10:19

I would love to rewatch that.

SPEAKER_00 10:21

Yeah, would like in social media, we probably would be famous.

SPEAKER_02 10:26

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 10:26

With that.

SPEAKER_02 10:27

So he has one more comment, slash question.

SPEAKER_00 10:31

Yep.

SPEAKER_02 10:31

Um, this is Marshall. Remember when I slammed you into our basement door while wrestling?

SPEAKER_00 10:36

Yeah. Yeah. So we had uh in high school, we were all hanging out at uh at my house, and you know, uh me and Marshall were on the wrestling team, and we were wrestling, and Marshall had been wrestling like pretty much his whole life, had done like freestyle wrestling, and high school wrestling's um Greco-Roman. It's a certain type of wrestling, and uh, and I didn't start wrestling until I was a sophomore. Anyway, Marshall ended up getting me like in a like headlock or he like pinned me or something. I I can't remember. And uh it just got heated, and I don't know, like me and Marshall had a complicated relationship. Uh anyway, I I ended up uh like throwing him against the door that led to my parents like cold storage. Oh, yep, I know that and it it broke the door.

SPEAKER_02 11:38

Oh, I bet your mom loved that.

SPEAKER_00 11:39

Yeah, and uh he like he left, then he came back. Anyway, so it was a good time, and that door was broken for a long time. Yeah, and uh we we laughed about that. It was it was pretty funny.

SPEAKER_02 11:55

Okay, this is from a random person. These are my favorite because people like don't know how to spell and they ask like the weirdest thing. So I'm gonna read it how it's written. Are you a Pwn P-O-N-E star?

SPEAKER_00 12:08

I am I'm not. I'm not. I'm a TikTok star, but TikTok star? Yes.

SPEAKER_02 12:14

You he went live the other day?

SPEAKER_00 12:16

I went live for four minutes. I didn't know what to do.

SPEAKER_02 12:21

I was gone. He was unsupervised.

SPEAKER_00 12:23

Unsupervised, and it was the first time going live on TikTok. Uh lasted four minutes, you know, it was like my you know, wedding night. Um and that was it.

SPEAKER_02 12:34

But uh he texted me and he was like, This is awkward. I went live and it was awkward, and I was like, Josh, that's great. I'm so proud of you. And I was like, How long were you live for? He goes, Four minutes. I was like, Well, you gotta go live for more than four minutes. I didn't know what to say, and I go, literally on live, you stand there and you say the same thing over and over and over. And he goes, I did that for four minutes, and then I got off.

SPEAKER_00 12:55

Yeah, it was uh it was pretty good.

SPEAKER_02 12:59

Take some time, but you're doing the thing. Okay, and then the last one is foot jobs question mark.

SPEAKER_00 13:04

Foot jobs, um no.

SPEAKER_02 13:07

No, yeah, yeah, no. Josh is not a foot person, and I have some ugly feet, and you weirdos that always ask for feet anything have not look looked at my feet.

SPEAKER_00 13:20

I don't under that's one fetish I don't get, I don't understand. I know it's a thing. I took, you know, human sexuality in college.

SPEAKER_02 13:29

What was the weirdest fetish?

SPEAKER_00 13:31

Um you know, like it's uh it's actually uh clinical, you know, um fetish like in its just um necrophilia.

SPEAKER_02 13:48

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 13:48

Um that's where like people have a obsession with like corpses. What? Yeah. Yeah. So yeah, like yeah. It's it's messed up, so you know, ever is But yeah, there's there's a lot of different just really odd Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 14:10

We're not shaming anyone here, but yeah, um we talk about it all, you know?

SPEAKER_00 14:14

Yeah, no, I share that one because that one's illegal.

SPEAKER_02 14:17

You know, but it but it's were they like digging up people and stuff?

SPEAKER_00 14:20

Well, like in extreme cases, I think there's been some extreme cases where that's happened, yeah. Where people have like dug up like dead b you know, dead bodies of or or I think it may be more common where you know, um like morticians maybe have uh you know fooled around with you know their their work.

SPEAKER_02 14:42

I mean you hear about like medical professionals like dentists that like have their patients that are like which is so bad, but like under and they like you know do shady stuff.

SPEAKER_00 14:52

Well yeah, there was a movie about that. Novocaine or whatever.

SPEAKER_02 14:57

I learned something.

SPEAKER_00 14:58

My husband is there is like um it um not Martin Short, but uh you know the three amigos, you got Martin Short.

SPEAKER_02 15:07

Baby you're 42. I don't know. I don't know that.

SPEAKER_00 15:09

Chevy Chase and um what's the other dude? Gosh, he's he's like what's the other guy? Baby, I don't know. But he he plays the dentist and and he hooks up with like one of his patients, I think. Like one yeah, but you hear hear about that stuff. Yeah, like when she's in the chair on Novocaine. People are crazy. Is that the drug that they used to use to numb the gums, like numb numya? Is Novocaine? Or am I? Yeah, that is one of them.

SPEAKER_02 15:42

No, that is yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Josh is something you'll learn about Josh is he is like a never-ending encyclopedia of knowledge, like just random facts that don't do me any good. Random fact, any and I'm like, how do you know this? And he's like, How do you not know it? I'm like, I don't know.

SPEAKER_00 15:56

Okay, it doesn't apply to anything in my life, doesn't hasn't helped me like further myself, but I just know random stuff. Yeah. So weird. Yep, but cool.

SPEAKER_02 16:07

Yeah, thank you. Okay. Um, so we're gonna talk about Deadshot nutrition for a minute. Yeah, let's do it. So you've been in the nutraceutical space for how many years?

SPEAKER_00 16:16

I put uh 12.

SPEAKER_02 16:19

Um as long as we've been together or something.

SPEAKER_00 16:22

Yeah, no, so yeah, as long as we've been together, so 14. Oh, 14, yeah. Okay, you're right.

SPEAKER_02 16:27

Um for people who don't know what that is, break it down simply.

SPEAKER_00 16:32

Like the the industry?

SPEAKER_02 16:33

What's yeah, what is it?

SPEAKER_00 16:35

So the nutraceutical industry is just like the health and wellness, like just broadly, you know, the dietary supplement space, which is different than pharmaceuticals. So dietary supplements um are different than pharmaceuticals as far as you know, uh regulations and and uh you know just some of the FDA guidelines, um, how they're produced, you know, uh how they're sold. So that whole industry uh is the nutraceutical industry. Uh I was in for 12 years about, I was in the manufacturing side of the nutraceutical industry.

SPEAKER_02 17:19

So dumbed down for a five-year-old, the place where they make it all the time.

SPEAKER_00 17:22

Yeah, yeah. So yeah, so everything obviously is everything that we consume and buy is m manufactured. Dietary supplements are no different. And I something I thought, so in my 20s, I was into bodybuilding. When we first met, I got you into bodybuilding, like into fitness competitions and stuff. That was our life for the first like three years of our marriage.

SPEAKER_02 17:47

Like it was seven. Yeah, all she did was like fitness competitions and just freely eating cookies and living my life.

SPEAKER_00 17:53

Yeah, anyway. And you know, so I was like way into fitness and you know, supplements, like you know, NO Explode back in the day. The original, you know, um the original um Jack Jack 3D. Um you know, uh super pumpkin message. Yeah, super pump 250, like all these things. Like I I was I I started taking, you know, supplements, you know, um in my early 20s, which would have been the early 2000s, um, for for my training. Um I remember taking amino acids before they were instatized, they would just like float at the top of your drink. You'd try to mix it with like orange juice and just like chug it down. So anyway, I I I uh I thought for the longest time that brands like BSN, NO Explode, or USP Labs with Jack to 3D, that they just like made their own stuff. Like they would, you know, the brand would have a plant and they the their the plant would be USP Labs.

SPEAKER_02 19:04

People probably think that.

SPEAKER_00 19:05

Yeah, yeah, and you know, and they would make all their stuff and then sell it. Well, that's not how it works. It's third par you know, there's third party manufacturers, like it's you know, it's uh contracted and uh so I um started working because of my background in nutrition and also you know, just my you know um passion for fitness and and uh my just knowledge, street knowledge really, of supplements, it really did come down to that. I got a job with a third party manufacturer here in Utah um that manufactured supplements, uh powders specifically. They would do dry powders, so protein powders, BCAs, pre-workouts, um any type of you know, dry powder that goes in a stick, in a tub, in a bag, um, whatever. So, and because of my you know, street cred with supplements for my time as a bodybuilder and power lifter, and my background in nutrition, they put me on the RD team, research and development, and uh being on the RD team, um we would actually help brands formulate their products. So, like a USP labs would come to us and they'd be like, All right, we have a new pre-workout or a new flavor of an existing or existing work, you know, Jack 3D. We want to launch this new flavor, and we would help formulate that. We had an applications lab in that lab, you know, we would take all the ingredients in their their product and make a blend, and then we would cook, right? We would we would, you know, formulate, we would we would develop these flavors and we would work with flavor houses. Flavor houses are manufacturers that manufacture flavors that flavor everything that are on groceries shores, uh grocery store shelves to you know um nutritional products, you know, dietary supplements, they they flavor everything. Um, you know, the flavors and sodas, whatever. They have flavor chemists that create these flavors, and then um they flavor the products that we consume. And we would, you know, develop these pro these flavors, these products, and formulate these products for our customers, and that's what I did for you know 12 years is uh I was in R D, I managed applications lab, and the applications. Labs where I worked. And towards the end of my career, I actually, you know, managed some of the applications labs. And the last um company I was at, I was the in-house powder expert. So the manufacturer I worked at, they did dry powders. We also um manufactured uh capsules and as well as tablets. And I was the in-house expert for powders. So you know, a customer would come to us wanting a powder product. I was, you know, the go-to guy that would kind of help, you know, um take it from point A to point Z. Point A to point B, and then also support production C, you know, those first runs. And also if other RD managers had, you know, problems with their customers, you know, with a powdered product, you know, a challenge with you know um the flavor or a challenge with the flowability or uh the homogeneity of the blend. Big words, guys. Yeah, I would I would I would help them as the in-house powder expert. So that was that was my background.

SPEAKER_02 23:24

Okay, which then what made you decide to piece and do your own thing?

SPEAKER_00 23:30

Well, so the success of your business um put us in a position where I always I always had a dream. Sorry, I had like a frog in my throat. That was really loud. I always had a dream of owning or having my own brand. That that was before I even got in the industry, um like before I've ever even met you, like I that was my dream. I was like, I want to have my own supplement, you know, my own supplement brand. And you know, so the success of your business and you know, put us in a position where I could walk away and you know, um start my own own venture and uh you know take that that risk, take that gamble.

SPEAKER_02 24:17

So I think it's important to share, especially with business, because this podcast is a little bit of everything, right? We talk about sex, we talk about butt stuff, we talk about business, we talk about life, we talk about anxiety, whatever. But I think it's important to share with people, not just oh, look at my shiny business and how great it is. I think it's important to share with people um entrepreneurship from the outside looks like the dream, right? You have the freedom, you have the flexibility, you get to go and like vacation when you want and do whatever. But this has been, I feel, and you can correct me if I'm wrong, a really rocky, hard road, and it's just barely starting to get momentum, and we're getting close to almost three years.

SPEAKER_00 25:03

Yeah, so it's been the hardest thing I've done. Yeah. And you know, I've been humbled. I I definitely, you know, coming into it, you know, I was like, oh, I I have the experience in the industry, you know, I I have, you know, I have kind of the um you know, the background and you know, the credentials to, you know, that people will want my product, you know, whatever. You know, I have the story, right? Yeah. Um that do it's been ch it's been a challenge. And um especially doing it, you know, um mostly organically, um and trying to grow it and get the name out there has been very challenging. And you know, I still haven't paid myself, you know, with Deadshot. Yeah. And I'm getting to a point now where it's you know, running it's funding itself, like where I'm able to, you know, you know, pay all the overhead I have, pay all the bills, you know, um, you know, the the POs for, you know, um the POs for um the product. The product and and everything from you know the earnings, you know, from the business. In the beginning, I was well yeah, so in the beginning, you know, it's it's been it's been you. So um it's huge. That's huge. Yeah. You know, so that's that's that's a that's a really big milestone. Yeah. You know, so it's it's not all glorious. Like, you know, and people I don't know, I I don't know. Like I I I have a hard time because you know, people see the entrepreneur that's super successful, that has like all this wealth, and they just you know, they just like demonize that wealth, they demonize, you know, um the inequality, and that's a whole separate conversation that I don't want to get into. But the thing that I now appreciate is the risk that person took to start a business. Yeah. The work that was required to make it s be successful. And you know, a lot of people don't have it in them, and I didn't have it. And you've kind of kicked my butt along the way and pushed me, pushed me along because I I'm not a natural entrepreneur, and I've I've learned that. It's it's uh it's something that I've grown into. Um and luckily you are yeah just have a lot of ability, natural ability when it comes to entrepreneurship that I don't have, and I've grown into it, and I I definitely like my mindset now versus what it was three years ago is completely different. Yeah. And it like I I I do feel like an entrepreneur now. Like I have that entrepreneurial spirit and I can feel it.

SPEAKER_02 28:31

I think um we got some good uh we have some really good friends. Um I won't share names because I've been through my fair share of when I drop names on the puck.

SPEAKER_00 28:41

It's all it's all confidential, except for Hunt Sauce. We can share his name.

SPEAKER_02 28:44

Hunt sauce, we can share his name. Anyways, um sorry, that was kind of a dig, but don't care. My podcast, do what I want. Um, that he recommended a book that like he's also an entrepreneur and it talks about um you can be the brains, like the scientist behind something. Yeah, but it was it called the E. What was it called? The E.

SPEAKER_00 29:07

The um the power or um the E.

SPEAKER_02 29:13

He's probably screaming at the power of Eight.

SPEAKER_00 29:15

No, it's not the power of E.

SPEAKER_02 29:16

Anyways, but pretty much it explains that you can have a business and the E principle. Yes, and you have to surround yourself and find the people that are good at the things that you're not good at, right? Like, so like Josh was saying, like, oh, I started this and was like, oh, I'm gonna have this awesome brand because I'm a scientist, I know how it's formulated, I have this story. Okay, but do you know how to market? Yeah, do you know how to sell? Yeah, do you know how to create content? And so that I think was uh like a helpful like read for you and like process for you to go through and understand. And it it does take because when you're running as lean as you are when you're a brand new business, it does take you having to do things that make you uncomfortable, like going live for four minutes, right? And like figuring out how to make the content and like because in a perfect world, you could go pay hundreds of thousands of dollars for you know production and this and that. But I think brands nowadays really are winning with like the real life behind the scenes founder-led content, right? And that's something that you've adapted and grown and done really well. And there was a product that you launched with that failed miserably. If anybody wants some, we've got 40,000 boxes.

SPEAKER_00 30:35

Yeah, no, my uh, so you know, that when I when I very first started launched this business, you know, I had a business partner, and that business partner had a skill set that I didn't have, his background being in sales and uh him running, you know, a sales team for a nutritional brand. And when we first launched, we launched with a different name. And the you know, first product that we launched with was a blue ocean product, like very um innovative. And it was a it was uh like a technology um where it was like a it was a nootropic, so it was like for mental and brain, you know, um brain health to help calm the mind, enhance your focus, it's called calm and focused, and it was supposed to be fast melt beadlets that would like melt under your tongue. So it was like a little stick pack that you'd you know, pour these beadlets under the tongue. And you know, during the develop uh development process, you know, when we would when we created these um beadlets on on bench, um you know, really small blends, you know. I'm I'm talking less than a kilo, and then when we scaled it up to around a kilo or more, um before we went to full production, you know, the sensory experience of these beadlets was was good. Um, and it was it was a good product. And you know, we were excited about it, but scaling, you know, from one kilo to you know um a few hundred kilos, um, we had challenges with that in production. And you know, the sensory experience with the beadlet uh in the finished product changed. And we did our best to um, you know, um to remedy that. And um it unfortunately just never was as good as what we had approved, and you know, it just was a very effective product. It's funny. I just had someone call me. Um, it was an archery shop, a local archery shop that um they were the first um wholesale account, and they bought a bunch of boxes. And he called and he was talking to me about hydro, and you know, he started talking to me about my first product. And you know, he's like, he's like, it's funny because I would give out samples and you know, he's like, and it's just people, you know, the taste was this. I was like, yeah, the sensory experience. He's like, he's like, but I'll tell you, you have some there's a couple loyal customers that still come in and buy, and I was like, no, I I at the Western Hunt Expo in February, yeah, I had a guy message me on Instagram and ask me to bring like six boxes, you know, uh, you know, because I don't have it available. Yeah, yeah, available online, and it is a very, very effective product. It really is. Like the the blend, um, the actives in there, like it, it is a great product. Um it just you know just kind of it just kind of fell flat, which is which is okay, like it happens. You know, we took it, you know, took a risk, but that was hard for a brand to a new brand to launch with a product that you know um didn't really launch. Didn't really launch. And you know, and that was risky to launch with a product that was so innovative and new, you know, it was high risk, high reward. And you know, and I knew that going into it, but another challenge that we had was originally launching the brand, it wasn't Dead Shot Nutrition, you know, um we launched under a different name. Um, and six months in got a cease and desist litter. Those are the best. Yeah, and uh and luckily the guy was willing to work with us, you know, you can sell the inventory of the product that you have. Um, but we had to, you know, rebr rebrand and you know, change our name, and that's where we landed on Dead Shot. Yeah. And uh the first product was actually called Dead Shot.

SPEAKER_02 35:23

Which I don't think I don't think we and I don't want to spill too much because you know things are coming, but I think that's a dynamic that's led you into some product development that's coming in the future. Oh yeah, for sure. Yeah, yeah. And you know, and that's something you learn in business too. And I have to learn this because I'm very much like a go, go, go, let's move, move, move. And with like the covet dynamic, right? Like some things you just don't want to rush. No, especially when it comes to business. And if you're gonna do it right, you gotta do it right. And I think we both kind of like learned, not that that was rushed, but you know, you kind of feel like, okay, let's get the momentum. Like, all right, you, you know, you're gonna do this thing. And and I think the things that we've really taken the time on and been strategic about have been home runs. It's just sometimes we just yeah, get excited. And I think that's what, and also the innovation thing. I think everybody thinks they need to be the next big thing, but ultimately what it comes down to is your story, your marketing, and having a good product. Because I mean, how many hydration supplements are there out there? But when people try this, they're like, uh, this is amazing.

SPEAKER_00 36:29

Yeah, it is this hydration product, it's no BS. I mean, like there's like there's nothing, you know, fancy about it. Like it's it's the hydration, that's the electrolytes you need. It's a full spectrum electrolyte drink and uh natural sources of those electrolytes. It's clean, it's yeah, it clean ingredients, 100% all natural flavors, has a vitality blend of B6B12. That's good for the body and mind, vitamin C for immunity, but what sets it apart is the flavor. The flavor. And and why is that? Well, like people aren't going to take a supplement consistently if they don't enjoy it. And you have to enjoy the hydro, and people enjoy the hydro.

SPEAKER_02 37:19

People crave like people crave it, they especially like the new Pina Colada flavor. I mean, I mean, Pina Colada is so good. Like all the flavors, all the flavors. Like I they're drinking stuff they just know, like the big name brands, right? That they see at Costco. And they're just buying it's a Costco, we're just gonna buy it. We just need a hydration drink because they haven't tried this, but then when they try this, I mean, we're starting to get like people that are buying six, ten, twelve bags at a time because they can't, their kids can't go without it, they can't go without it because it it doesn't taste like salty garbage, like it actually tastes good, and there's and it's safe with your kids, so yeah, it's not super high in sodium.

SPEAKER_00 37:57

Yeah, I mean, it's uh yeah, I mean, look, you know, we with with your kids, like kids love it. We have our nieces and nephews, they play soccer, they're active, you know, they they they drink it, they they love it. Uncle Josh's blue juice. Yeah, Uncle Josh's blue juice, you know, like uh, you know, like um our daughter, she's six, you know, we don't give her a full stick, you know, we'll give her a half serving of of the hydro, but she loves it. You know, she she drinks it all the time. And uh you know, that that flavor, like kids love it. And I was just at an expo in Florida, uh outdoor expo, and you know, um the booth across from me, and he's a good buddy. Yeah, you know, Captain Mike, he runs uh airboat tours, um, gator hunts, python hunts. They're in Florida in the Everglades. Really cool guy. And um his kids just like every morning and night when we were breaking down, they would come over and just like out of the fountain, just drink the hydro. And he's just like, My kids just like they love the hydro. And he's like, I you know, he after the expo, he bought a couple bags there, and then after the expo, he bought 20 more bags, you know. I shipped them to him because he's he's like, I I give this stuff to uh all my clients, I go through the he's like, I'm on the airboat in the hot sun, in the humidity, like I'm out at night, we're sweating. He's like, and this stuff saves us. He's like, and everybody loves it, and we just pound it, you know. He's like, and I set him up with a promo code, and you know, people have been buying it, and yeah, they just they just love it, and that's what sets it apart is the flavor. Like people try it, and they're just like, oh wow, like that is that is good.

SPEAKER_02 39:56

That's yeah, I think the momentum part that's hard is when you're trying to like do your own brand and you're not getting VC and you're like doing it yourself, is just getting it out there and getting people to try it. And it's kind of cool. I mean, this week, like we're starting to feel like I mean we collaborated with Hydro Jug, which was awesome too. So we have those because you know, with your hydro and that duck camo hydro jug, like had like a viral TikTok moment off like the dumbest video.

SPEAKER_00 40:28

Yeah, really dumb video.

SPEAKER_02 40:30

But then we're finding people, we're putting hydro sticks in the cups, and people are like, This is amazing, like where can I get it? And and we're finally seeing that, and it's definitely a dynamic, like you said in the beginning. People look at entrepreneurs that are succeeding and they have this almost like they almost like villainize them or like they like you're going after them for like all their wealth and success, and they they don't know, they don't know about the grind when you have TikTok system mess up on you and starts canceling orders that takes three thousand dollars that we don't even know if we're gonna get back. Yeah, and like you know, it's it's it's a lot, but like it's cool to watch, and it's and I remember those moments with my business, but it was so long ago, right? Mine, mine gets momentum and is still going, and I'll go through this with Covet as when it's because it's gonna be new, but it's definitely starting and it starts small, right? It's like, oh my gosh, I had $200 in orders today. Oh my gosh, I had six hundred dollars in orders today, and it's that momentum after momentum, and it it does matter. It means a lot when you do support a small business because there is a family behind it. There is, you know, somebody who worked really hard to create something, and that's why I always just say like support small and yeah, so yeah, definitely.

SPEAKER_00 41:43

Yeah, yeah, and especially, you know, I mean, this is this is something that I didn't just pull out of the air, you know, like there's a lot of brand, like a lot of supplement brands out there. There's a lot of bros and a lot of hoes that are starting supplement brands. Yeah. That probably wasn't necessary, but they laughed. Yeah, but uh, you know, there's there's a lot, right? And look, like I I started a supplement brand because it's I'm in, you know, indust industry expert, and it's like it's like my background, you know. Like it's like a foreman, you know, finally getting his general license and you know, um becoming uh contractor. So it's uh that's what I've that's what I'm doing.

SPEAKER_02 42:27

So I'm challenging everybody to try hydro and please, we love it when you post about it, when you share it, because that's how people are like, Yeah, I gotta try this stuff.

SPEAKER_00 42:36

Hydro, targeted hydration, dead shot nutrition, targeted nutrition, targeted performance.

SPEAKER_02 42:41

So now I got him comfortable talking about what he knows. We're gonna get back into some stuff that he didn't know he signed up for. Yes. All right. Okay. Um, I think a problem, which, and we don't have to get super deep on it, but I mean this just could be surface level discussion, especially as being an entrepreneur, especially in today's day and age, right? Um, like men and like mental health and like navigating um it. What are your thoughts on that? Like, I think the world has like a taboo-ness around it, and I mean, I've been open about my mental health. Like, we see people struggle with mental health all the time. What do you think today's society is with men and mental health?

SPEAKER_00 43:24

Yeah, it's definitely becoming more accepted for men to be open about their mental health. Yeah. Which is a net positive. Because, you know, when I was growing up, when we were growing up, um, I'm old enough, you know, that it wasn't really talked about. You just kinda, you know, yeah, you just you're tough. You know, boys, you just kinda tough it out, shake it off, you know, um, don't really show emotion, you know, it's it wasn't really culturally You know, accepted or I should say m wasn't really culturally the norm for for men or it wasn't masculine to show emotion, right? Yeah. And I think that's shifting and it it's it's a good thing. Like I, you know, masculinity is is a positive thing, but to show emotion, to um confront you know, your mental health and be open about it and treat it like you would any other health condition um is a sign of being you know very masculine and and manning up, you know, and I think that shift has been, you know, uh a very positive thing.

SPEAKER_02 44:51

How do you think mental health shows up in men? What do you think the behavior is?

SPEAKER_00 44:55

Well, you know, from my experience uh you know, uh with myself and also with like a lot of my buddies and you know, people I know, um a lot of a lot of it's anger. Yeah you know, it's just you know, that's the one emotion that was okay, you know, um as a man was to show aggression and anger. And uh so I think a lot of times that's how it shows up and how it's expressed.

SPEAKER_02 45:29

And I think a lot of men that might be listening to this may not realize just because it has been so like you don't talk about it, you man up, whatever, and they keep having these episodes of like anger or like outbursts or like these feelings, and and it's coming out in that way, and instead of being they don't know how to be self-aware in that dynamic, and listening to this, that has been something that like working through mental health, like you realize like with a lot of men, like you take out that anger on people you love, right? And you have to like be able to realize, oh I'm I need to take a step back, and like this is probably something to do with depression or anxiety, and like it's important to like talk to somebody and like work through that because I think a lot of men may not realize, and there may be their partners that are like, I don't understand, like I feel like he's so angry, like what where is this coming from? And and I think I think you you answered it perfectly. I don't think a lot of men realize, but usually when they're struggling with mental health stuff, it is anger or it's shutting down, or it's you know, being dismissive. And then especially when it comes to intimacy, that creates a almost like a wall between you and your partner because then she's not feeling safe, she's not feeling protective because you are over swinging in the like masculine anger dynamic. And and I think it's really important to be okay with the fact that it's okay that you're dealing with mental health stuff, like it's a thing. Like some people, it's just I mean, I've been on meds for 22 years. Like, you know, it just it's a genetic thing. Like I have it in my family. Um, it is what it is. Like, if I just stopped taking my meds one day, like we'd be having some major issues. But I think, especially with entrepreneurship, I think a lot of men sh may struggle with mental health stuff and they're not open to like navigate through it and um just coming from a bro, like who's telling you, like well, yeah, yeah, and just like you know, there's no shame in talking to professionals.

SPEAKER_00 47:37

Um, and you know, there's a difference between um, you know, being like um emotional all the time and you know, um and and confronting and working through your emotions, right? You don't have to be, you know, um uh sensitive, you know, uh all the all the time. No, yeah, yeah. Yeah, like you don't have to be a little sensitive biach around your your bros. That's not what we're saying, you know, like but working through your emotions and being open with that with you know your spouse and with um you know uh those you know someone close to you and and and you know a professional is like is really important, like it it's working through that, like is it it's really important to to to do that. Like it it's therapeutic, it's it's how you treat you know um a condition like you would treat any other physical condition. Yeah. And there's no shame in it.

SPEAKER_02 48:44

So yeah. Okay. Um what has actually helped you when things have been hard?

SPEAKER_00 48:51

Well, for me, um when I I I I have to I I like to feel like I am working towards, you know, um goals, uh achievement. Um structure. Structure. Like I I I do like structure. Um I do like to feel like I am working towards something, you know, um goal setting, you know, just you know, goals, you know, whether it's um in you know, with like uh you know personal business, you know, um stuff that's not as good swing. Yeah, no, like I look, I I love my two loves are archery and golf. And uh both of those take uh a lot of practice, precision, and uh consistency. And you know, um I think the reason I love both of those things so much is because it just requires a lot of dedication and uh you know it's not something that I get bored with because you aren't ever going to really master either of them completely, you know. There's always ways to improve and and they're both really fun.

SPEAKER_02 50:12

So yeah, one day you you know score the lowest on your league, and the next day you take third place.

SPEAKER_00 50:17

Oh yeah, no, it's uh yeah, no, I I I joined this, she just re I joined this uh men's league, and um it's a money's league. Uh so each every other week we have uh tournament and you have to pay into it. And there's two flights. There's a uh uh flight one, flight two, and it's based on handicap, and then within those two flights, there's two subflights, so an A and B, and it's all based on like your handicap. So I'm like an uh I'm an 11 handicap right now, probably closer. I'm I'm getting pretty close to a single-digit handicap. So I'm in flight one, which is you know, the the top flight, but I'm in the B subflight, um, which is you know the higher handicaps of the top flight. And anyway, so your score is you know um based on your handicap, and then you know, you can you can win money in this last week for the first time ever. Yeah, I placed in a golf tournament. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Placed third. Yeah, you were so excited. Yeah, I won like what 55 bucks. Oh my gosh, it's amazing. Yeah, so much, yeah, I won some golf money. It's awesome. I played pretty well, it was pretty fun. Um, but it's uh it's a really fun league to play in because you know it's not a scramble or anything like that. It's just uh, you know, it's just you and and uh yeah, it's just fun because it is it is competitive and and um yeah, it's a lot of fun.

SPEAKER_02 52:03

Can always get better. Okay, so now we're gonna do a few sex questions and then we're gonna get to the covet this, which is the product that we both are like obsessed with right now. So um hold on. Is there pressure for men to perform in the bedroom? What does that actually feel like?

SPEAKER_00 52:22

Why you know pressure? I'm I I think you know, as men age, like there can be, you know, pressure just because you know, physically things don't function like they used to. So if you're having those issues, talk to your doctor um and uh work with them. Um I've never felt really pressure.

SPEAKER_02 52:47

Yeah, because the other thing too is like the whole thing that I deal with all the time with these men is oh, we don't need toys, I'm good enough for her, and it's like you're really missing the mark here.

SPEAKER_00 52:59

Like oh yeah, no, it's yeah, they're yeah.

SPEAKER_02 53:02

It just helps the whole experience.

SPEAKER_00 53:04

Yeah, it's like like different clubs in your golf bag, you know. Totally. Yeah, it's okay, it's how you get the ball in the hole.

SPEAKER_02 53:13

Okay, do men actually care whether their partner enjoys sex, or is that something we tell women to feel better about?

SPEAKER_00 53:20

Repeat the question.

SPEAKER_02 53:22

Do men actually care whether their partner enjoys sex, or is that something we just tell women to make them feel better about it?

SPEAKER_00 53:28

Well, real man does. I you know, I I uh definitely our intimacy has improved drastically once I started really caring about that. Yeah, because there was a minute that and I just Oh well, yeah, I mean that's yeah, I think all men are you know just innately, you know, trained to be the other way. Yeah. You know, um, you know, we evolved to spread our seed, so you know, the carnal mind is to just hit it and quit it and you know, yeah, on to the next. But um definitely there is a higher level unlocked of connection and intimacy when you really do focus on that connection with your partner.

SPEAKER_02 54:18

The floor play, those like moments of you know, helping her finish one or multiple times before you do, and there's different ways and dynamics to do that, but I think you're right. I think too many people are just focused on the as quickly as possible, and right it's not the answer. Okay. Yeah. Um how often do men think about sex? Be honest.

SPEAKER_00 54:43

You can't count it.

SPEAKER_02 54:46

Really? Like you're just like going through a day thing.

SPEAKER_00 54:48

I don't even I I mean, I do promise, but yeah, like it it uh yeah, it's are you thinking about it right now?

SPEAKER_02 54:56

Just kidding.

SPEAKER_00 54:58

Yeah. Totally. Yeah, no, okay. Men think about it often.

SPEAKER_02 55:04

Okay. Do men ever wear fake enjoyment during sex?

SPEAKER_00 55:08

Fake enjoyment?

SPEAKER_02 55:09

It's a question.

SPEAKER_00 55:12

Uh no. Okay. I feel bad for a man if he has to.

SPEAKER_02 55:21

I what is one thing? I feel like we could share like situational of ours, but we don't have to. But what's one thing women do thinking it's sexy sexy, but it actually doesn't work or like takes away from the moment, and men go along with it. I say our biggest thing is which I've learned from it when we'd be like, you know, foreplay, like get into the moment, and I'd be like, hold on, and I'd like get off. Oh run to the put on a piece of lingerie, and he's like, Oh, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 55:52

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. You gotta you gotta navigate that. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Right. Yeah, cast for a while, like when we were first like married and stuff, like sometimes like the lingerie, yeah, it would come on at like halftime. I'm like, that's not it's not part of the halftime show here. It either shows up to be part of the beginning or not at all. It's part of like, yeah. Yeah, that's pre-game activities here.

SPEAKER_02 56:19

Pre-game activities, yeah. Nobody likes a pause. Is there a version of sex you want that you've never asked for?

SPEAKER_00 56:27

Is there a version of sex I want that I've questioned?

SPEAKER_02 56:31

Just reading the questions.

SPEAKER_00 56:33

Version of sex that I want that I've never asked for. That's um that's a really interesting question.

SPEAKER_02 56:42

I don't think he has an answer because he's married to me.

SPEAKER_00 56:45

That's right. Yeah, well Okay.

SPEAKER_02 56:50

Now, when your wife initiates, what does that actually do for you?

SPEAKER_00 56:56

That makes me feel like a king.

SPEAKER_02 56:59

Okay, with a feast.

SPEAKER_00 57:00

Yeah. No, it's it's hot. That's every honestly, a woman initiating that really does like that makes it yeah. It's hot. Yeah, that that that's like and I think people struggle with that, right?

SPEAKER_02 57:18

And I mean we've had our struggles, right?

SPEAKER_00 57:20

Where then it's the pinnacle, that's the pinnacle of intimacy.

SPEAKER_02 57:23

It's when the woman initiates.

SPEAKER_00 57:24

When the woman initiates, that's when you've like, yeah, hit the jackpot.

SPEAKER_02 57:30

Have you ever felt sexually rejected in a way that stuck with you?

SPEAKER_00 57:35

Yeah, there's been times.

SPEAKER_02 57:37

Yeah, because life, you get stressed, you get exhausted.

SPEAKER_00 57:41

Yeah, I mean, I think people, I don't know, they probably, you know, see see you and think that like our you know, sex life is like just extremely. No, like we're we're very busy, you know, building businesses and you know, raising a family, and you know, a lot of responsibilities and you know, like life gets busy, you know, life gets busy.

SPEAKER_02 58:10

So it's just important to make that part of your busy life dynamic.

SPEAKER_00 58:16

Yeah, it's it's almost like anything, it's you gotta make time for it. Like you, you know, you it's great to have it be spontaneous, um, but also to have it kind of planned is beneficial as well.

SPEAKER_02 58:35

Yeah. So this last question, and then I'm gonna lean into our covet this product because I think it's actually elevated our intimacy too, and I'm like upset.

SPEAKER_00 58:44

Well, I didn't answer the to be fair, I didn't answer that one question.

SPEAKER_02 58:48

Oh, okay.

SPEAKER_00 58:49

Because I gotta answer all the questions. Okay. To be fair to like everyone. Okay. So like any, like I think most dudes, like 99% of dudes, it's always a fantasy um to see, you know, um like the threesome dynamic. Well, yeah, you with another girl. But I that's something that honestly hopefully your mom doesn't listen to this. Right. But I'm just I'm just being a hundred percent truthful, you know, and and I know that like all my buddies, you know, have the same, you know, fantasy, and that's almost every man's fantasy. Yeah. And it's been a fantasy that like me and my buddies have talked about like forever. And uh so yeah, I mean that I'd say that's one, you know, fa fantasy that you know I've I've had, but I don't think I could ever do it.

SPEAKER_02 59:49

Yeah, I definitely do not fantasize about you with another dude.

SPEAKER_00 59:52

Uh that's gross. Uh I'm sorry, but I I'm glad you didn't.

SPEAKER_02 59:56

To each their own to each own.

SPEAKER_00 59:58

Yeah, to each of their own.

SPEAKER_02 59:59

And we don't we don't judge people that are like swinging and swapping and sharing, but we're just not sharing people. I get that question a lot.

SPEAKER_00 1:00:06

Like, yeah, no, we get that we get that question a lot.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:09

And definitely it's negative.

SPEAKER_00 1:00:11

Yeah, definitely a negative.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:13

Clearly, he thinks about sex 24 hours a day. I can't keep up with him. How can I keep up with yeah, no? Okay. Um there was one right here that I wanted to ask. Okay, this is a good one because I think a lot of women struggle with this. So, do you think do you notice things in women's bodies that we're worried about during sex? Like, oh, I have a stretch mark on my ass cheek, or you know, my boob's bouncing weird, or I just had a baby. Like, do you guys even notice any of that?

SPEAKER_00 1:00:38

Uh no.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:39

Okay. Because a lot of women worry about that.

SPEAKER_00 1:00:43

No. And in fact, I after you had our child, I was more attracted to your body.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:50

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:00:51

And I I think that's most men.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:53

So smart ones. Okay. Um is size actually something men think about, or is it that entirely a male insecurity that gets projected onto women? Do you want me to read that again? So the size really like do men really worry about their size?

SPEAKER_00 1:01:15

Well, I mean, like I I've never worried about it, no.

SPEAKER_02 1:01:21

No. Like I no I think it's just like a society thing.

SPEAKER_00 1:01:24

Yeah, no, I I I think uh I I think, yeah, so yeah, like it's something as you're re reaching sexual m maturity and stuff, you're you're you're hoping that you're average or above, you know, like but also like people can be too big and it's uncomfortable for her.

SPEAKER_02 1:01:46

Right. So there's like cons of being big.

unknown 1:01:50

Right.

SPEAKER_02 1:01:50

And I think a lot of men need to realize that. I think they're not going to be able to do that.

SPEAKER_00 1:01:52

Well, yeah, but yeah, but every but every dude wants to have big dick energy.

SPEAKER_02 1:01:56

Well, they have big dick energy, but they have may actually not have a big dick.

SPEAKER_00 1:02:00

Yeah, I mean, and you know, like it, yeah, it's it's something that for sure, like yeah, but I I think you know, men worry about it, you know, to a certain degree, and then then you get old and you're married and you don't worry about it anymore. I've never worried about it.

SPEAKER_02 1:02:20

You don't need to worry about it.

SPEAKER_00 1:02:21

That's right.

SPEAKER_02 1:02:22

Yes. Okay. Two hot takes, and then I'm gonna lead into this. Porn has given men unrealistic expectations about sex, and most of them don't realize it.

SPEAKER_00 1:02:32

Is that a statement?

SPEAKER_02 1:02:34

It's a hot take. Do you agree or disagree?

SPEAKER_00 1:02:36

So porn.

SPEAKER_02 1:02:37

Unrealistic expectation about sex.

SPEAKER_00 1:02:41

Yeah, I I I think in some extremes. Okay.

SPEAKER_02 1:02:46

Okay. Great answer. Short, sweet, to the point. Okay. Um, no, you're good. You're good. You're good. Um men need emotional connection to have good sex, they just won't admit it.

SPEAKER_00 1:03:00

Yeah, I think absolutely. Uh in committed relationships for sure. You know, like when once you're, you know, in a uh committed relationship and you know, um with that partner, yeah, you have to you have to have that emotional connection.

SPEAKER_02 1:03:18

Yeah. It's a good thing to be emotional, gentlemen. Be emotional. Okay. Um, we're gonna do some confessions in the DMs and then we're gonna talk about this product. So um somebody says, My husband hasn't initiated sex in over a year. I always do it, and half the time he turns me down. I feel unwanted, and I'm scared to bring it up because I don't want a fight. What's actually going on?

SPEAKER_00 1:03:40

You know, that I I would say sounds like you may need to seek some, you know, um professional help. Yeah, mental health dynamic for sure. Yeah, and you know, therapy, both uh individual and couples therapy, um, is very, very helpful. And uh, you know, sounds like he's he's definitely dealing with some things. Um it could be stuff that is just him, you know, and uh nothing about you. Um and you know, but talking uh to someone, to a professional, um, you know, working through that, you know, um whatever whatever, you know, addiction or problem that is preventing him from wanting to be intimate with you, um it sounds like needs a level of uh, you know, professional help.

SPEAKER_02 1:04:40

I think it's important for all couples too, because I think as you grow and develop as like being together in the beginning and then like you start having a family, and then like your kid, like all of that. I think it's important to relearn how to communicate properly with your partner because it changes. Yeah. And I think a lot of people miss that. And I also think in these th that type of dynamic, too many people are like, oh, he must be cheating on her. And I was like, Yeah, I don't think that that might be, but I I honestly think you're probably dealing with some insecurity issues, some mental health issues, maybe some stress, maybe um uh addiction with alcohol or you know, drugs, or maybe there's you know, some childhood trauma that he hasn't worked through. Like there could be a lot of things, and that's where communication is essential.

SPEAKER_00 1:05:24

Yeah, you can't paint with a broad brush. Like it it's it could be a multitude of things, and yeah, you know, like you but it does sound like you know it's it's a problem that needs to be addressed, yeah, and worked through, and and and it needs to be done, you know, with um some mediation. Mediation.

SPEAKER_02 1:05:46

So okay. My boyfriend makes literally no noise during sex, nothing. I genuinely can't tell if he's enjoying himself and it makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong. Is it a him or a me thing? Don't hate me for this. Josh used to be really quiet too now. drove me crazy and I told him to start saying more. Remember? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I think dudes like think it's like a girl thing. And I think that that leans into like the porn dynamic. I think that side. Yeah. Yeah. And so I'm like, no, it's the vocalness is hot. Ladies, you can you know share in the comments if you agree. But yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:06:21

Yeah. No be we definitely like that. And and uh it's yeah it's something that has helped for sure.

SPEAKER_02 1:06:31

He had no idea. I was like you're coming on the podcast and I think he thought he was just going to talk about supplements but he's done so well. Good job, babe. Okay. So covet this this covet this we're gonna talk about this product right here. So um I've been in the business for almost I mean almost 20 years and I have tried every type of everything. Okay. Every every type of everything. So this is actually a Utah brand. I didn't even tell him I was going to be talking about this today. Um it's an intimate massage cream and it's funny the story behind this like I saw a whole bunch of like influencers posting in an event and I was like what is this? And I was like oh I didn't get invited and it's about Lube. That sucks story of my life dunno but I followed them right I was like this looks intriguing. Well they reached out I then did some research saw who the owners were I actually knew them from like my previous life and marriage which is funny ended up meeting up with them been working collaborating with them brought it home I you can correct me if I'm wrong I have never used something like this in 20 years. Like so it's like a massage cream it's all natural so it's like made with like mango coconut oil jojabis hojaba I just totally mess it up. Is it hojaba? Jojaba Chojaba I don't know J-O-J-O-B-A. I think it's hojaba I'm totally whatever don't judge me guys so pretty much the way I could explain it is it hits all five senses. Like it's a full sensory experience so it is edible it smells amazing you can use it for like massage and you can use it as a lube because it's safe. So I just know when like having sexual like with lubes or massage oils like I feel oily I feel sticky and I'm always just wanting to rinse off like when in our marriage have you given me like a full body massage a couple times and it's uh been in the past couple weeks since we got that bottle stuff. Like and I'm and I'm telling you like but it's also like created a level of intimacy between us like it's weird. It's kind of like got crack cocaine sex in it. Not really there's not but it like it literally does it like it slowed down. It's an awesome product like it's there's coconut lime it smells like vacation sex. It's so good.

SPEAKER_00 1:08:55

Helped lead back rubs to where I want them to go.

SPEAKER_02 1:08:59

But no it's just been good though like yeah you thoroughly enjoy like it melts on your skin.

SPEAKER_00 1:09:03

No it it it like you said like it it really is it's not like greasy and gross and oily and and when you're not grabbing for more lube.

SPEAKER_02 1:09:12

Right. And it's like a subtle flavor and the scent comes from the flavor so there's not like chemicals from the scent in it. Awesome stuff. I know I'm like preaching about this but you guys you have to try this like it is freaking amazing. I mean look how much we've used yeah we've used so much of it we love it we love it they also have a panel I use it daily as my lotion. No you're not I'm just kidding I hope he's not well you said it was an all in one technically it is because I fall asleep with you know it just and I feel moisturized I feel great I don't feel sticky I don't feel gross that stuff is amazing. I'm not like if you're somebody who's like sore after sex like there's no rawness uncomfortable and a lot of that comes from the stuff that's in the lubricants that you're using and this stuff is amazing. Okay I'm gonna wrap it up with the law of Cassidy which is oh I had a froat frog in my throat sorry which is like the little like you know this is the law like a little tip a little nugget and I'll let you share one when I'm done. So today we had a man sit on the mic and he said things most men won't say out loud. I'm really proud of you. Good job Josh and men like to feel wanted the rejection stinks the presence matters more than performance and that the conversation you're both avoiding is the one that will change everything. So none of that is complicated. All of it requires two people willing to be honest. The vain ones don't wait for the perfect moment to have the real conversation they have it anyway and that's the law.

SPEAKER_00 1:10:41

Josh do you want to share any little quick piece of advice before we close the about life business marriage um hunting golf golf um no like uh just yeah I mean yeah the law is you know if you you should make that tea time you should go on that hunt you should you know give the massage with every give that massage with every you know you should just live life to the fullest.

SPEAKER_02 1:11:18

Okay. And everybody needs to try some hydro and uh where do they find it?

SPEAKER_00 1:11:22

Try the hydro deadshot nutrition.com you can also follow my TikTok page because he's TikTok famous now TikTok famous um but uh yeah Dead Shotshotnutrition.com is where where you can find it and uh just hired someone that's very very skilled and and talented um he completely redid the website it's much more user friendly and uh easier to navigate um it's an awesome website go check it out give give the hydro you know a try um guarantee you'll love the flavor so yeah and if you do want to find him on TikTok and you want to catch a live you gotta be there at the right time because it'll only last about what four minutes four minutes okay and we'll see you next time thanks guys