You’re Not Failing; You’re Healing Through Christ

We share a raw look at condemnation, the pressure to look perfect, and how grace breaks the silence shame creates. We draw a clear line between the enemy’s accusations and the Holy Spirit’s conviction, offering simple, practical steps to rise again.

• life in a loud home and the myth of perfect faith
• naming condemnation and how it targets identity
• the cost of shame on motherhood and marriage
• Romans 8:1 as the verdict that frees
• the difference between condemnation and conviction
• practical repentance: apologize, reset, repeat
• quieting inner noise to hear the Spirit
• rebuilding testimony and speaking life at home

Let’s walk this thing out together
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Transcript

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Hey mom and welcome back to Restoration for Mom. I am so glad you're here. Whether you're listening while folding laundry, sitting in the school pickup line, washing dishes, or hiding in the bathroom for just a second of quiet, this space is for you. Hey, I get it. Life gets real. This goes for me too. I've had to get creative with when and where I create these shows. As a busy stay-at-home homeschooling mom, going to church three days a week and twice on Sunday, and living in a 900 square foot home. There just isn't any quiet space here. My house stays loud and busy. But you know what? Praise God for that. Because that's what keeps me on my feet, these blessed little rascals. But anyways, let's jump right in and to the into today's episode. We're going to be talking about condemnation. Condemnation is the expression of strong disapproval. It's the act of declaring someone guilty, unworthy, and beyond forgiveness. This is something I had struggled with for so long, living in the lens of this condemnation, believing the lies of the enemy. It changed how I see myself for the first few years of my Christian walk. I thought, because I am saved now, everything should be good. I'm serving God with all my heart. I'm obeying. It's all good. Christians aren't supposed to struggle. After all, I'm a new creation. I've been born again. We are to be busy every Sun every service and not be late. And Lord forbid we don't go one day because then people will think bad about us. Our family is to look put together, my kids well mannered, and they better not embarrass me in front of others or else. I really tried to live up to this perfect Christian family standard in my own understanding. And as years passed, I faced some unexpected trials in my Christian walk from people close to me. That led me down a road of bitterness, unforgiveness, and deep affliction. This hardship shattered my life, my image, that high standard I try to hold myself to? I had always been taught to lead by example. But how can I lead by example? And how could I tell people about Jesus if my life no longer looks the part? How could I tell others Jesus is the answer when I don't even have the answer for my life right now? So for the longest time, I carried so much hurt and shame because at one point in my life it was one way, but this error that had happened really robbed me of my peace and joy in the Lord. I found myself often dealing with hurt and unforgiveness. That shame and hurt changed how I looked at situations in my life. I constantly felt like a failure and feeling like God was disappointed in me. I would feel so disqualified because of my mistakes and the hardships around me. As a mom, I really felt terrible because holding in those negative views of myself was not only hurting me, but it was hurting my relationship with my kids. I was not speaking life to my kids or pouring uh God's word into them, and this horrible way of living really drained my confidence and robbed me of the joy of the Lord. So after some time and through healing, I learned that struggling doesn't mean you're failing. You're a human and not a bot. And we live in a fallen world and we are fallen people in need of a savior. Even believers who look strong in their faith go through hard seasons. The enemy loves to shame and condemn, making us feel isolated and unworthy. Many times things are just out of our control. Life truly throws curveballs in our perfect world that we try to make in our own understanding. But all glory to God. I have experienced God's love for me so strong in these broken moments. God doesn't want perfection, He wants honesty. The more I surrender to God and give Him my struggle, the more I found peace and strength to carry on. So my question to you is this Are you in Christ? Then let me remind you, Romans 8:1. Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ. If this is something you can relate to, if this is something you have experienced in your life in one way or another, or if you are going through it right now, I want to say I'm here for you. Let's walk this thing out together. Let me help you identify this condemnation so you can begin to fight back in faith. Like I said, I had been going through this for such a long time. I had no idea that this was even condemnation that I was struggling with until one day my pastor talked about it in uh one of the services. And praise God, I am healed. I just want God's word constantly on my heart and constantly on my mouth so that I can be a blessing to others, especially my family. This condemnation didn't even allow me to do that. I was remembering how I used to always minister to people. I would come across new families at church or neighbors or random people at the grocery store. And God's word was always flowing through me so that I can share and be a blessing. And it hit me. Wow, I'm not even like that no more. It was hard to even share my testimony. It was hard to share Jesus and what happened to me. It was that shame and that condemnation that shut my mouth. So, first, what is condemnation? The Bible says in Revelation 12, 9 through 10, so that huge dragon, that ancient serpent, the one called the devil, and Satan who deceives the whole world was thrown down to the earth, and his angels along with him. Then I heard a loud voice in heaven saying, The salvation and power and the kingdom of our God and the ruling authority of his Christ have now come because accuser of our brothers and sisters, the one who accuses them day and night before our God has been thrown down. Condemnation is from the enemy. You see how he accuses the brethren day and night before the Lord? When you feel condemned, that's not from God. That is from the enemy. Condemnation disqualifies us from being close to God. It reminds us of our shortcomings and it and it attacks who you are and not what you did. It can sound like this to me. A good mom wouldn't struggle like this. I've messed up too much. Condemnation brings shame, hopelessness, and distance from God. It's self-punishment and it is spiritual paralysis. It pushes you to hide and to withdraw and give up. A very relatable example is this. You yell at your kids extra mad. Then what comes along? I'm a terrible mom. I always mess up. God must be disappointed. And then what happens? You don't end up praying. Why? The shame. This is condemnation. It attacks your identity and not the problem. It pushes you away from God. It pushes you away from relationship. Do you see how it works? Or what about this one? You haven't read the word consistently. So you think I'm failing spiritually. Other moms are doing better than me. You see how condemnation is? It begins to compare. It shames and it discourages you. What condemnation is not, it is not conviction. Conviction is from the loving work of the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit shows us what needs to change. And thank you, Jesus, for the Holy Spirit, right? He reveals truth to help us and not to crush us. Conviction leads to peace and growth and not despair. The Holy Spirit shows us the truth so that it so that He will lead us to a repented heart. The Holy Spirit is the lamp unto our feet. He will lead and guide us in the direction we should go. He will convict you and show you what needs to be done. And we must listen with our spiritual ears and not be too loud on the inside. And what do I mean not be too loud on the inside? You just got a lot going on in your mind. You're constantly worried or constantly, you know, fitting up yourself with things that are not gonna edify you. You're just loud on the inside. Sometimes we need to just take it easy and listen. So do you see the difference? Can you see how condemnation shows up to push us away from our faith? And do you see the heart of our Father, his Holy Spirit on earth that convicts mankind? So, an example of Holy Spirit conviction, you yelled again at your kids. Oh, how these children of the Lord love to test us, right? So you snapped again, and you know this wasn't right. You go and apologize, you feel bad about it, but you don't stay there, you don't wallow in shame or stay down. No, you get up and you ask the Lord to please forgive you and to next time help you not to do it again, and he will, he will help you. And if you snap again, apologize again, ask God for guidance again, and if it happens again, repeat. You won't feel so much that you are changing, but you will notice the next time you react different. And thank you, Jesus, for God's mercy and grace. Don't feel like I keep doing this over and over again, and God is tired of me. No, even Jesus said to Peter in Matthew 18, 21 through 22, when Peter asked him, How many times am I supposed to forgive my brother seven times? And Jesus answered him, I tell you, not seven times, but seventy times seven. And in Proverbs 24, 16, it says that though the righteous fall seven times, they rise again. Praise be to God. What a great and awesome father. Do you see? He is for you, and the accuser hates it. He knows God, God loves me and he and you and wants you to Daniel.