If Guilt Is Loud, Let Boundaries Be Louder

Ever feel the yes leave your mouth while your gut screams no? We went straight at the tension between people-pleasing and protecting our time, trading real-life boundary scripts, the moments that forced us to change, and the habits that keep burnout at bay. From the “send it to me and I’ll check my calendar” line that buys you breathing room to the unapologetic “no, thanks” that ends the dance, we’re sharing what works when you’re an entrepreneur, a partner, a parent, and a human who runs out of energy by Friday.

We unpack the emotional math behind saying yes, why guilt feels louder for many women, and what we’ve learned watching men offer brief, clear refusals. You’ll hear how a standing no-work Monday protects mental health, why introverts need deliberate recovery after public-facing work, and how to decide which rooms are worth your presence. We talk about teaching people how to treat us through consistent boundaries, putting phones down during family conversations, and noticing when our kids mirror our overwork. The goal isn’t perfection; it’s progress that makes your best yes possible.

We also lean into accountability and friendship. A trusted circle helps you sanity-check a request, call out a self-betrayal, and laugh at the salty truths you can’t post. If you’ve ever rehearsed a no in the parking lot, second-guessed a networking event, or felt torn between building your business and protecting your life, this one’s for you. Walk away with practical phrases, mindset shifts, and a reminder that rest is not a reward—it’s fuel for showing up well.

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Transcript

Welcome To Slightly Salty

Voice Over 0:02

Welcome to the Group Chat Goes Live Slightly Salty Edition, where your three favorite troublemakers turn the chaos of the group text into a full-blown weekly show. We're talking real life, real opinions, and just enough sass to keep things interesting. No filters, no perfection. Just three women with big personalities, bold stories, and a habit of saying the quiet parts out loud. So grab your drink, brace yourself, and join us. Because the group chat didn't just spill the tea, it went live.

Adrianne 0:33

Welcome

Why Boundaries Became The Topic

Adrianne 0:34

back. Last week we were all talking about being burnt out. And I'm gonna say this week on our group chat, I thought we were doing a great job of telling each other to say no, which makes a great topic to talk about boundaries. And how do we say no? And if we can't say no, how do we say no for each other? So I'm throwing it out there to you, ladies.

Leanna 0:56

I know. I feel like we are getting significantly better, mainly because we run everything by you before we say yes or no to anything. What did I say earlier? Like one of us is really good at boundaries. One of us isn't quite sure what the definition of boundaries is. Yeah. When we said boundaries, you said what is that? And then one of us doesn't.

unknown 1:24

I don't know.

Leanna 1:24

I I'm like moderately. Yeah, you're in the middle. Yeah, I'm not sure. I think we're on two bookends and you're in the middle. I'm a solid five. Yeah.

Adrianne 1:32

On a scale of one to ten. Yeah.

Leanna 1:33

Yeah.

Adrianne 1:34

And I feel like I try to be really strict with my schedule and my boundaries. You are. But only because I now want a life. I don't want just work. So I feel like anytime someone asks me for something in my own brain, I'm like, does this help me professionally or does this help me personally, mentally, or am I just saying yes just to make that person happy?

Leanna 1:55

Yeah.

Adrianne 1:56

And I feel like I've gotten stricter on that. And only stricter because I feel like

Learning To Say No On Purpose

Adrianne 2:00

if I say yes to you, in my brain, I'm thinking, would you say yes to me if I needed you to be at something? And if I think no, then my answer is no, because I feel like there has to be a win-win, whether it's personal or in business.

Leanna 2:15

Yeah.

Adrianne 2:15

And once you learn to do that, I feel like that's how I learned to start creating stricter boundaries of what I do. That's good.

Kerri Ann 2:23

You should write a book.

Adrianne 2:25

I mean, we just established there's how many, like thousands of books on boundaries, but I'll write my book on boundaries.

Kerri Ann 2:31

I wish that I could go through that whole process every time I'm gonna answer a question or set a boundary, but I just don't. And I just think it's because I'm a more emotional thinker and I'm like I live in the space of my emotions. I mean, I do have that business sense side of myself. And yeah, I just live in an I live in a more emotional st state. Yeah. So boundaries are challenging.

Adrianne 3:01

But I think in the beginning for you, I think you've learned over the last few years, I feel like you've you're starting to get a little stricter. It's gotten much better. Yes. And I think in when you launch a business, I think all of us are yes people. Yes to everything. Because you're just going and going. But I think once you established a business and once you know your value and worth, I feel like you get start getting stricter of what you say yes and no to because you one can't say yes to everything because of your business. And two, you have to value your own time and make sure it's what you're supposed to be doing.

Leanna 3:33

Yeah. I think that's something that I lost. I got very used to not having to be everywhere because I had a team, I had business development, like I had all of the people we could afford to do advertising at a much higher level. And I didn't feel like I needed to be everywhere all the time. And that felt so nice. Like I got very used to that. And then now that I'm back in the building stage, I'm like, oh, I gotta get back out there. Right. But I think for me with boundaries, if you text, or maybe I shouldn't say this because people are gonna know how to get me to say yes. But if

Emotions, Guilt, And People Pleasing

Leanna 4:10

if you text it to me or you email it to me, just know that I'm gonna email it to you or to both of you and put it in the group chat and be like, how do I say no to this? But if you're standing in front of me and you ask me to do it, I can't. Like, I don't know how to say no. Or I say no and then I dance around and I apologize and I'm like, I'm so sorry, I really can't. Well, you know what? Maybe I can't. Then I talk myself back into it. I'm horrible.

Kerri Ann 4:35

You know what's super unique is that I literally can't think of a lot of men that have boundary issues. No. I really can't think of any in my life that have had I mean, maybe they make bad choices.

SPEAKER_00 4:50

Yeah.

Kerri Ann 4:51

Or they might do something because they know that there's an end game there, you know, or I know that sounds bad, but I didn't mean it that way. Just men have a different motivation.

SPEAKER_00 5:02

Yeah.

Kerri Ann 5:02

They I think they're just built to set boundaries different. We're just not I mean, I I just think by nature women are more emotional and we uh have a tough t time with boundaries.

Leanna 5:19

Yeah. Jeff's ability to set boundaries. He's gonna kill me if he hears this episode, but I'm gonna say it anyways. His ability to set boundaries gives me anxiety. Because someone will be like, Hey, do you want to do this? And he'll just respond back, no. Yeah, period. Like, no explanation, no thank you for thinking of me. I really appreciate people how to treat us. Yeah.

Kerri Ann 5:41

And I know that you guys have been on me in a loving way over the years about the fact that I have taught everyone to just be like, ask Carrie, she'll say yes. Yeah, ask Carrie and she'll do this, Carrie Annal do that, Carrie, and and I will, yeah. Because I I find a lot of personal good feelings for showing up for others and being there for others, and that, but it goes against me in a lot of ways.

Leanna 6:14

Yeah. Well, you're up at 4 a.m. doing stuff, putting stuff together, and then you But I've taught people how to do that.

Kerri Ann 6:21

So I think Jeff has taught people that, you know, go ahead and ask, and if he wants to, yes. If he doesn't, no.

Leanna 6:28

Yeah.

Kerri Ann 6:28

But I think that we teach, we just teach everyone around us how our kids, our husbands, our friends, yeah, our associates, our people in the world, like we teach them how to treat us and how what our bandwidth is

Men, Women, And Boundary Styles

Kerri Ann 6:45

of what we're willing to do and not do.

Adrianne 6:47

And I think on men, you know, because Terry's very similar that he'll say no or be like, I don't know, I'll let you know, type of personality. And I think that because they don't think of it emotionally. It's whether do they have the time or not? They're not worried about like, oh, well, he's not gonna be my friend, or are they gonna say something about, you know, I think on women we worry about a thousand things that probably don't even happen. We've had 10,000 scenarios in our heads, and really we could have just said no. And so I think like I'm just learning, like, where I will just be like, you know what, I don't know what my calendar looks like, but send it to me and I'll look it over. And it gives me time to decide whether or not I want to go to it. And then I also am very if I as soon as someone asks me and I feel in my stomach that like, oh no, I don't really want to do that, yeah, I already know it's a no. I just have to politely ask you to send it to me. And it's not that I'm being rude, it's just that I need to think through it, do I have the time, or is it, okay, I'm gonna try to squeeze that in. I have 20 appointments, and oh, maybe I can pop in here and then now I'm stressed because I'm stuck in traffic and then I'm gonna run late. And, you know, if I can't make it work, I can't make it work. And that gives me time to look at my schedule and see, can I make it happen? And if not, then I can't. And it's not that I don't care.

Leanna 8:01

It's just so now everyone knows that if you say send it to me and let me look at my calendar, it's gonna end up being a no.

Adrianne 8:06

Yeah, it's not always a no. I just need time to evaluate my schedule.

SPEAKER_00 8:11

Yeah.

Adrianne 8:12

Before I do a change. Because I used to be always like, yes, yes. And then, you know, I pull up my calendar, I'd be like, oh, great. I just committed, you know, like read a networking group. I'm like, I just committed to be at two things and I already have something now. Now I have to go back and be like, oh, just kidding. I already had something on my calendar. I feel like that's worse than me saying, I'll let me, you know, send it, let me look at it, I'll let you know. To then reply back and say, Hey, you know what? On that day, I'm already booked. Yeah, you know, but I appreciate you asking me or inviting me, versus being like, oh, hey, just kidding. I said yes, but I I really didn't mean it because I didn't look at my calendar.

SPEAKER_00 8:46

Yeah.

Adrianne 8:46

That's kind of where I've learned to just ask, send it to me so I have the moment.

SPEAKER_00 8:50

Yeah.

Adrianne 8:50

And if you don't send it to me, I won't remember at all that we even had the conversation because I'm gonna walk out like a squirrel. Yeah. So I'm just less awful at it.

Kerri Ann 9:01

I'm used to be very awful at boundaries. I'm less awful. I'm getting less and less awful at it. But I just I also know that like at when we're talking about husbands, like Brian, like I look at a if somebody's asking me to do something or go some, I'm

Scripts For Buying Time To Decide

Kerri Ann 9:20

looking at it as an opportunity to learn something new or try a new experience or meet a new person or whatever that may be. And he just looks at it like that doesn't sound good. I do not like that, I do not want that. That is a no. Yeah. And then I'm like, well, what if? And he just doesn't live in the what if world. Yeah. And the blend between him and I could be perfect because I'm living in the what if and he's living in the no.

SPEAKER_00 9:48

Yeah.

Kerri Ann 9:48

Doesn't sound good. Yeah. So there's there's a lot of space in between there.

unknown 9:53

Yeah.

Leanna 9:54

I think that that's most if you see Jeff out and about and we're doing something like making tamales, yeah, like we did on Saturday, like 90% of the time he's like, I have zero desire to do that. And he'll send no back as a response. And his friends are like, Cool, dude. And I'm like, Cool. Like, how is that a response? Like you don't have to elaborate. And I think in business, I struggle with boundaries a lot more than I do with my personal.

Kerri Ann 10:19

Yeah.

Leanna 10:20

With my personal time, I've gotten extremely, extremely limited. Just because like I do have to give so much more to business. I have to rein it in somewhere. I know most people don't realize that I'm as big of an introvert as I am. Oh, I know. But I think we're all that way.

Kerri Ann 10:37

Yeah. We definitely we all talk about the fact that when we're out and about, we have to recoup from it. Yeah. People are very surprised at the fact that we are not what potentially we put out there. Yeah. Yeah, I agree with that.

Leanna 10:55

I think it's simply just we want to be the best version of ourselves for others.

Kerri Ann 11:01

Yes.

Leanna 11:02

Right. So when we show up, if we if we are gonna show up, we show up at a hundred percent. So we are friendly, we are personable, we do genuinely engage with people, right? Because if I'm gonna be there, if we're gonna be there, we want to make the most of our time. So I think that's why people don't realize necessarily that the level of introvertedness because we are there and we we are in that moment with them.

Kerri Ann 11:26

I'm just gonna need four more moments by myself to recover from the but doing that then makes other people want to engage with you more, which means you have to set more boundaries because you've done such a good job of showing up the way that you have. It's exhausting though.

Adrianne 11:44

Who wants to hang out with me that much? That's what I don't like for real that interesting to hang out with. And I'm horrible at small talk. So like if someone's asking me to go to an event and network and I don't know, like my crew here isn't there, and you want me to small talk, I will talk myself. I can be in the parking lot in the car and talk myself out and be like, you know what, this isn't right for me. Like, I am not that interesting.

Leanna 12:08

I'm pretty sure we were in the parking lot at an event together and talked ourselves out. We did, we did, we totally did. We were like, they don't need us. No. And it was the end of the event. We're like, you know what, it's winding down, they're not gonna really want to see us there. But I think that's how people have figured out how to get us to go somewhere all of us are going, we'll go.

Kerri Ann 12:26

That moment taught us something about boundaries. Because I know

Teaching Others How To Treat Us

Kerri Ann 12:30

exactly that moment. Yeah. That moment taught us that we have to really evaluate what we want to do. Yeah. Yes. Because after that moment, we all agreed that we probably should have been where we're in that room. Yeah, all along. Right. Yeah. Because we didn't set that boundary. Yeah.

Adrianne 12:51

And I think we are getting to a point where it is about my mental health and my happiness. Yeah. I mean, if I don't enjoy doing something, then it's gonna come through in business or in my personal, and I don't want to be that person. You know, I don't want to be where I'm like, ugh, I don't want to go do this, or or I feel like someone's stomping on my boundary. And that that's my own fault because they don't know where my boundary is. And I let you come over my boundary, and I'm annoyed at you that you went over my boundary, but you don't know my boundaries.

Kerri Ann 13:26

I know you should do at the beginning. Every time we say boundaries, take it.

Adrianne 13:29

Oh, yeah, we have we need some prosecco. There we go. Yeah.

Kerri Ann 13:32

Oh, look at that. I know, and that's the way it is in your head boundaries, boundaries, boundaries. You have to do it all the time.

Leanna 13:39

But how do you not feel guilty? Honestly, like that's my biggest thing.

Kerri Ann 13:42

I don't know.

Leanna 13:43

Because there are some people that would show up for me that if they didn't show up for me, I'd still be fine. Like, I like you know what I and not to not to sound mean or hateful, but like that that's just not that level of commitment that I have, right? And people I feel guilty. Like you would show up for me. Or I I don't have anything on my calendar. There's no reason for me to say no, other than the fact that if again, if I can hang out in my sweats in my house, I'm gonna do that, right? So, but then the guilt comes. Then I'm like, oh man, I should have gone.

Kerri Ann 14:17

But then, I mean, and Adrian said this to us multiple times in the text is that you know, those people, you know, they may not be your people, yeah, and you're not your world is not gonna end if they're not in your life and you didn't and you set a boundary with them.

Leanna 14:34

Yeah.

Adrianne 14:35

Like it's okay. And I feel like if we're busy and you have an opening day in your calendar, that's okay. Like we are living in a world now where we think at all times we have to be doing something or we're not gonna be successful. Yeah. And then I feel like we don't give ourselves the time to just reset, which then, you know, then we end up like the last episode where we're burnt out. And and I feel like once you set those boundaries, like I have a boundary that everyone knows. Like every Monday after 9 a.m., I don't work unless it's like an absolute emergency. Like that's Terry's time for he and I, and we go mess around all day. I can tell you all day. Like we go to lunch, then we go to happy hour, we might work out. Like it's we go to the chiropractor, like literally everyone knows like we go to the same spots, like they all know us, and it all happens on. And to me, that's my happy place. Yeah. And that is a boundary that people think are weird. They're like, What do you mean? You gotta work on a Monday. And I'm like, I run my own business, I'll pick what days I work because I had to work on the weekend.

Leanna 15:35

That's what I'm saying.

Adrianne 15:36

But I'm okay to say no to someone on a Monday. Yeah. And

Introverts, Networking, And Energy

Adrianne 15:40

people will call me and they'll be like, Oh, wait, it's Monday. Never mind. I'll call you tomorrow. Yep. Because that's a and I feel like I'm happier having some of those. Now I only have the one day. I would like to have more days than one day, but yeah, it's I don't feel guilty anymore.

Leanna 15:56

I think there's really just two groups of people. Like, if it is my time with Jeff, I have no problem saying no. I'm never gonna put anybody before him. Like, that's just that's the relationship that I hold most sacred. I'm not gonna touch it. The other one is probably with you guys. Like, if we have a girls' day, I'm not gonna be like, oh, you know what? I really need to I committed to this networking event. As as important as that might be, I think I'm the best version of myself when I do have that mental clarity, you know. But I I definitely think guilt is a is a real thing.

Kerri Ann 16:30

I'm really bad at it. I love my husband so much. I wish that I could say the same thing. And I don't mean to infringe on him and I with my world outside of him and I, but I do it a lot. And I I know it's something that I have to work on. And I know he feels that. I mean, I know my kids feel that. I know you guys, my friends, I know that's the apology tour that I talk about a lot because my intentions are never to not make the people that are most important to me feel that way. But you get so stretched, so thin that I just think you get into that mode. And I realize that my husband will be like, he'll be talking to me and I pick up my phone because I can do 45 things at one time. But the optics of me picking up my phone and looking at a message while he's talking to me, even though I can listen to him and look at that at the same time, the optics to him doesn't feel good.

SPEAKER_00 17:36

Yeah.

Kerri Ann 17:36

And I've had to be very aware of that because I don't want him or my kids or you guys or anyone in my world that I love and cherish to feel that way. But when you're doing so much, you just get behaviors that you just don't want to have.

SPEAKER_00 17:52

Yeah.

Kerri Ann 17:52

And those are the boundaries that I think are hardest because you've acquired a behavior that now is a norm in your life that you think everybody else understands that you've got it all, like I'm getting you. I got you, I got you, I got you. And then you end up having to apologize and feel bad. It's just that's that is that is where I have really leaned into the fact of like I've got to set those boundaries because now the people that I love are saying, like, I need you. Yeah. This hurts. This doesn't feel good. That really launched hard.

Adrianne 18:29

I'll tell you that's what launched my boundaries probably when I got strict, really strict five years ago. I feel like it was five years ago. What and it might have been even maybe seven, but the boys were in my car and they would go to real estate, you know, if I had them in between sports or whatever, they were in my car and I'd show houses. They've done that their whole life. And we would talk about death. I don't know why. We'll get on to death, and like I would, I don't know, I would joke with them that they're I'm gonna, you know, be cremated and they're gonna carry their ashes around in the necklace so I can go everywhere with them. And so we'll talk like weird demented things. And we were talking about it, and I want to say Joey said, He said, You can't, some we were talking about cremation, and he's like, But how will I bury you with your laptop? And that comment in the car, I got snippy with him. I was like, what do you mean with my laptop? And it hit me that evening that I was like, that's what they see. They see me, my laptop, my phone. And that became a reality that I was like, you know what? I am growing a business and I am exhausted, but they are that's all they see. And if something happened to me, I'm like, is that really what they see? They don't see the fruits that they get to go, you know, have the freaking $500 football helmet. You know, they

The Parking Lot Lesson

Adrianne 19:40

just see that. And that really opened my eyes that I started getting really strict on what I said yes and no to, especially when they were off or their time, or when you'd see my light on at 3 a.m., I'd be working at 3 a.m. I'd be working at midnight. I know. I would tell everybody Adrian's a robot.

Kerri Ann 19:56

She's their total robot.

Adrianne 19:57

She doesn't sleep. Yeah, it was just trying to work.

Kerri Ann 20:00

Wasn't sleeping either because we were watching each other.

Adrianne 20:02

You're like, how do you know that? I don't know. But that's a legacy I don't want to leave. Yeah.

Leanna 20:08

We should probably tell people you guys were neighbors at one point. We're probably trying to be like, why are they?

Kerri Ann 20:12

Why are they stalking each other? That's how I get my friends. But no, and also the other part to take that on is that when you see your behaviors replicating in your children. Yep. And I know I've seen that and had to apologize, you know, and call out like specifically my oldest son, Caden, because he's just such a huge, wonderful human. But I see my behaviors in him, and I'm like, please, honey, like let's talk about this. This is things that I have gifted, I've gifted you some things, and some of them are not great. So please let's let's be aware of that.

SPEAKER_00 20:52

Yeah.

Kerri Ann 20:52

So it it there's so much to being, I think inherently we're like we there the intention is good to be out there and to do all the things that we want to do for all the people, but that word boundary is just really challenging for everyone. Yeah. So again, connection and holding each other accountable and being aware. And I mean, again, you're really good at that, and you are really good at it also.

Leanna 21:22

I was gonna say though, you I don't think you've realized how far you've come because 100%. There has we were just talking about the other day at our last happy hour. You're like, Brian's making dinner, I gotta go. Where before it'd be like, Oh, Brian's making dinner, right? Like, I'll be there soon. And you'd be like, and now you're leaving there.

Kerri Ann 21:38

I know because he So he should be so proud of you. I know, right?

Adrianne 21:42

And it wasn't that I didn't want to. I just yeah. But you're learning that boundary. And I and I I think we were also the important part is in running businesses, we have to learn to separate business and our personal lives.

Leanna 21:55

Absolutely.

Adrianne 21:55

Like it's so hard, but you have to because you don't want to sacrifice.

Kerri Ann 22:00

Well, and and ultimately, between my husband and I, we own two and a half businesses. We do not have money coming in unless we're working. We like our entire world, our children, our lives, our livelihood is based on us as business owners growing business, bringing business in. And that's hard, that's a hard boundary to split. He is so much better at it because he's 30 years into his business and he's a totally different human and he's much better at it than me. But sometimes

Protecting Mental Health First

Kerri Ann 22:30

I pull him into that. But it's yeah, it'll get there. Yeah, I'll grow up and be a big girl of boundaries someday.

Leanna 22:39

I think we'll we are making progress. And as long as we're making progress, we don't have to, I don't think we're ever gonna be perfect. Because I feel like just as soon as I learn them, I'm like, oh, I'm good with them. Then something else comes in. Life. And then they're gone. Yes. And then it's not until I feel burnout and overwhelmed that I'm like, oh, gotta add them back in. Like it's not something I think that you just well, maybe you just conquer and never have to deal with.

Kerri Ann 23:00

You know, the only people that I've ever met that don't have a problem with boundaries or burnout are people that are l literally not living life. You know, those people that just like they're I don't think they're living life. Yeah. Like I guess that's the way I navigated in my head. I I want to feel all these feelings because that means I'm really living, but I just can't feel as much as I am. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 23:24

Yeah.

Kerri Ann 23:24

You know, because it's like when we say, Oh, I'm so busy, but it's okay, please, God, know that I'm thankful. Yeah. Because the opposite of that would be horrendous. So the opposite of not having a full, wonderful life is being great with boundaries and not ever having burnout, I guess, if that makes sense. I don't know. Look at us. Things that make you go, I know. That's an oldie.

Adrianne 23:52

I know. That's that in my head. I can actually just sing that in my head. I'm just saying that in the head. I was like, whoa. Um, and I I think uh as we're wrapping up our episode, I think too, having the three of us, like people finding, I know we don't like the word tribe, but people finding their tribe to be accountable, you know, to not have like I have no problem to tell Carrie Ann, no, why are you doing that? Or you like, no, why are you doing that? Yeah. Like I feel like we trust each other enough. We know ourselves personally and in business that we can say that and trigger. It's different if my husband tells me no, because then I'm like, what do you mean you're telling me no? Like, I'm gonna go do this because you told me no. Where with one of you tells me no, or hey, did you think about that or should you say that? You know, I feel like I listen to it because none of us are really asking unless we really want the feedback. Yeah, yeah.

Kerri Ann 24:47

Or just to hear yourself. Because with you guys, and then you guys, no, I mean, there are times with even Sandy, I'll call her and say, just listen. Like, I have to just say a whole bunch of crap right now. And

A Hard Reset: The Monday Rule

Kerri Ann 25:00

I just need and she knows through all the years with me, and she like I'll just and she'll be like, yo, you good? Yeah, like okay, I'm good now. Yeah, and as much as I know, she has 400,000 things to say to me about what I just said. I trust her and love her, and she loves me back enough to just listen and hang up, and then I go through my process. I just need to hear myself say a bunch of stuff, just like we've done. Yeah, a bunch of stuff that makes no sense, and I know exactly what it is, but I just needed to hear myself say it.

Leanna 25:31

Yeah. And I think honestly, that's where the slightly salty edition came from. Because we do say, okay, I'm gonna be petty for a second, or I don't want to do this thing. I know it's what's gonna move me forward. So let me complain about it. Let me say that. That's what I'm afraid of.

Kerri Ann 25:46

We're doing this, so we don't have to show everybody our text, right? No. We're just doing this.

Leanna 25:51

Yes. Okay. Because we I would like to keep my relationships and my friendships and my business intact, right? But no, I do think we give each other that space. And sometimes I just need to say it. Yes, I don't need anybody to fix it. I don't need anybody to help me navigate it. I know what the answer is. I just need to say it.

Kerri Ann 26:13

In a safe place.

Leanna 26:14

And I'm very, very salty. Like, whoo! Like the fact that you guys don't really ever call me on that part. I think we all are at some point, right?

Adrianne 26:23

Well, I mean, the fact that one of our themes was body Earl had to die. Tells me how salty we can be with of just joking around, like, it doesn't matter. We're gonna we got you. Yeah, we got you no matter what. Say what you want to say, and then we're all gonna get it out and be done.

Leanna 26:36

Yeah. Someone did ask me yesterday if we had a theme song, what would it be? Mine was Earl. Goodbye, Earl. Because I was like, those two are gonna help me bury the body. I don't think any between your neck, my back, you I don't know how we could bury a body. Oh, I got a whole tribe of people. I was like, support our husbands would have to figure it out. But no, like that's that was the level. And then you guys came up with like super sweet, like these just wonderful friends and warm. And I'm like, we'd kill.

Adrianne 27:08

Like, I was like, oh wait, no, no, we won't burying that body. What's happening?

Leanna 27:12

I know. What song, what song did you you pick?

Adrianne 27:15

Well, I just honestly, with the first when you first said that, my first one was that girls just want to have fun because I feel like we have fun to when we're together. Like, it doesn't matter if I show up and I am in the worst freaking mood. Within five minutes, we're laughing, and I just feel like we're just having fun. Terry picked confidence, and I I so appreciated even the words because he played it for me in the car. I know, and I was so impressed. And I was like, that's what he thought of us. And I was like, that is so cool. That's a when I asked him what he thought when he thinks of the three of us. And I'm like, that so you know, here I am like, woo, woo, we're gonna have fun. And Terry's like, confidence. I'm like, Oh, all right, yeah, that is true.

Leanna 27:54

I'm very embodies. What did you oh you came with umbrella?

Kerri Ann 27:57

Yeah, yeah, I love that because I love that chorus because it's true, it's like we're all under, and when the sun shines, we shine together. Yeah, like and we've got each other's back, and that anytime I hear that song, I think of us. Yeah. I'm like, we're good, we've got each other. Yeah.

Leanna 28:14

Through death, life, through whatever that may be. I really hope no one in our inner circle turns up missing at any point. This this podcast are gonna be like, here's evidence of things.

Kerri Ann 28:27

Our husbands are thankful that we're saying it all out loud.

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Kerri Ann 28:30

I know. Nobody's getting a special spaghetti dinner. I know.

Adrianne 28:35

All right. Well, let's wrap us up. So let us know in the comments how do you work on boundaries or what are great phrases you use to say yes or no to something that you're not sure of. And don't forget to like and subscribe and comment below.

Leanna 28:51

Till next time, guys. Hi.

Voice Over 28:53

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