We Tell The Truth About Menopause Stress Eating And Self Care

We turn our group chat chaos into a rapid-fire Body And Burnout Edition, sharing the unfiltered truth about menopause symptoms, daily stress, and the weird ways our bodies change. We laugh through the frustration while getting honest about what helps, what doesn’t, and why shame never makes any of it easier. 
• hot flashes as power surges and the panic of feeling it start 
• the scale as accountability and as emotional sabotage 
• brain fog moments and ADHD overlap while trying to sound polished 
• long texts, short attention spans, and faking focus with eye contact 
• elastic waistbands, water retention, and why comfort wins 
• skincare confessions and low-effort routines that feel realistic 
• wine, bubbly, mocktails, sugar, and waking up at 3 a.m. 
• gym mirrors, dressing room mirrors, and the mental games of lighting 
• salad disappointment, price rage, and why salad is a side 
• morning person myths, routines, and refusing early meetings 
• diet culture evangelists, vegan judgment, and letting people eat in peace 
• stress sweets, comfort food, and the salty-after-sweet spiral 
• “just relax” anger and mixed feelings on intermittent fasting 
• menopause belly talk, FUPA confusion, and body acceptance vs hiding 
• supplements as a daily habit and yoga pants as everyday wear 
• the 3 p.m. slump, resets, and why naps do not work for everyone 
• metabolism dreams, bagels, and eating without guilt 
• bubble baths as real self-care and the need to shut the brain down 
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Transcript

Slightly Salty Show Kickoff

Voice Over 0:02

Welcome to the Group Chat Goes Live Slightly Salty Edition, where your three favorite troublemakers turn the chaos of the group text into a full-blown weekly show. We're talking real life, real opinions, and just enough sass to keep things interesting. No filters, no perfection. Just three women with big personalities, bold stories, and a habit of saying the quiet parts out loud. So grab your drink, brace yourself, and join us because the group chat didn't just spill the tea, it went live.

Adrianne 0:33

Okay, ladies, let's kick off. I feel like last month we had so much fun of doing the rapid fire and people giving us comments about their thoughts on our tips and Kayla for sure.

Leanna 0:48

And on being late. Yes. What lateness?

Kerri Ann 0:51

I know, and I'm not the only person that puts her chair back in an airplane. I feel like that's like I made a I broke a law. You're gonna think about it now every time we I do, because Kayla was like, I never do that. You were like, I know. And I'm like, well, whatever the

Rapid Fire Body And Burnout

Kerri Ann 1:08

two of you.

Adrianne 1:08

I do. Well, this month's uh rapid fire questions is going to be about body and burnout edition. So this should be fun. So the first one is on hot flashes. Are they power surges or a literal glimpse of the afterlife?

Leanna 1:28

I believe in the Lord. So I'm gonna say it's a superpower. What is it? Electrical surge and power surge. Power surge.

Adrianne 1:35

Yes, power surge. I know. I feel like I'm gonna go with power surge too. When I don't really like power surges, I don't really have like true hot flashes, like where you talk about stripping everything and sweating. I've never had that.

unknown 1:48

Me neither.

Adrianne 1:49

I just get warm and then I will take the blankets off and then I'm cold and I put the blankets off.

Kerri Ann 1:53

Well, if I'm talking to somebody and it starts, I all I'm thinking is, do they see that this is happening to me right now? Because I'm sure that I get all sweaty and start.

Adrianne 2:04

Yeah, so I've never had that true experience. Huh. I think I might panic if that happened to you.

Kerri Ann 2:09

Do you know what's happening to you?

Adrianne 2:11

Yeah, you feel like all of a sudden your body just goes like I don't even know how to you just some talk about like you can feel the heat coming like literally up from their feet, all like your entire body is starting to.

Kerri Ann 2:24

I feel it in my chest. Well, when I'm sleeping, I feel it in my chest, and I'm just like, and it gets bad. And then poor Brian gets his covers plus my covers. And then I get then, yeah, it's terrible. All right.

Adrianne 2:36

That's probably the worst.

The Scale Love Hate Reality

Adrianne 2:38

Okay, the scale. Is it an is it a useful tool or a lying piece of plastic that belongs in the trash? I have a love hate with the scale. It depends on the day. Yes. My issue with the scale is I need it to stay accountable or I get a little crazy. I like food.

Kerri Ann 2:54

I do too, but I don't like the fact that I can weigh one weight in the morning and in the night it's like eight pounds heavier. Like I didn't eat eight pounds of food. I never weigh at night. I'm not sure. Well, I just do because I don't know what I don't know why. I because I hear Brian, because Brian will weigh himself after he eats a meal, which I don't understand because guys don't get freaked out by that. But literally, I can swing like eight, nine pounds in one day.

Leanna 3:22

I have to have very specific conditions. It has to be first thing in the morning. I can't have any clothes on, I have to have gone to all of these boxes have to be checked. And then I'll get on it. And then if I like the number, I won't get on it for a while, hoping that it stays that way. What about the doctor scale?

Adrianne 3:38

That one's always wrong. I don't like that. No at all. One, because at home you're weighing with nothing on. I mean, I literally like I'm like you, and I will even take my glasses off. I'm like, Oh, I do need an hour. I do too. They're like, you don't want to take your shoes off? I'm like, yes, I do. Yeah, I always take my shoes off. I'm like, you can wait a moment. And I purposely wear light clothes. Yes, I do too. You too. Yes. Oh my gosh, if I show up and I have jeans on, I'm so annoyed. Belt or all the stuff. Yeah, no. Yeah, I don't like the doctor's scale ever. They're wrong. I'm like, do you just want to ask me what my scale said? And we'll go by that.

Leanna 4:05

Well, and then I always have to tell them what my scale. No, no, I I know this is what this one said.

Kerri Ann 4:10

And I always like the lady, she's got your file and she's looking at you from the top of it with her pen. And then she's like, hmm. She writes it down and you're like, whatever, judger.

Brain Fog And ADHD Moments

Adrianne 4:21

All right, brain fog. Forgetting why you walked into a room. Hilarious or a sign that hilarious or a sign that simulation is breaking.

Leanna 4:32

That means simulation is breaking. I don't know what that means either. But it's not hilarious, I'll tell you that much.

Adrianne 4:37

Brain fog is awful. Brain fog is probably. I feel like mine's a mix between brain fog and ADHD. So the two together, I'm a hot freaking mess every day. So I'm like, I don't know if it was because I was thinking of 10 other things that I walked in here and I forgot, or I forgot to take my medication. So now I have the brain fog.

Kerri Ann 4:54

I think that we all are working at such a high pace all the time that we are thinking of a whole bunch of things. And then you add brain fog and you feel like you have lost your mind.

Leanna 5:06

The worst is when you're in the middle of a sentence talking to someone and all of a sudden you don't know what to say.

Kerri Ann 5:12

Do you admit it? Do you do you admit I just lost my train of thought? Or do you try and figure it out? It's a 50-50.

Leanna 5:20

Depends on who I'm talking to. If it's someone else like in our age group, I'll be like, I don't know what's happening to me now. But if it's like someone, like especially a business thing, I'm like, oh, we're gonna go with it and hope this makes sense. Like, I don't know.

Kerri Ann 5:31

I don't like when I have brain fog and someone's talking to me, and it happens while they're talking, and then I'm supposed to respond.

Adrianne 5:43

Because now you're like, what is that? Or it's like, oh, that's great.

Leanna 5:48

Not gonna lie. I love watching you do that. She's gonna make it all the time. And making you think she's paying attention. I know.

Adrianne 5:54

And then you just want me to answer that. Oh my god. Or it'll be like a really long second, and then she'll realize that she's waiting for an answer. She'll be like, oh, okay. I'm so bad. I'm just gonna tell everyone. I mean, we all know I have ADHD, and if you talk too long, you're just going to ooze me. I am in I am in real mode. You got 60 seconds.

Kerri Ann 6:19

Well, I noticed that in my text, because my text messages are terribly long. I know. And you only answered the first third. I'm getting better with you at like giving bullet points.

Adrianne 6:29

Like, or if you break it into multiple, I'll answer each other. Yeah. One long.

Kerri Ann 6:34

Oh, now we're having we're having real conversations about my text messages. You're both only using general.

Leanna 6:41

If I know I'm texting her, if I'm going to say something that's this long, I will break it into the mountains and because she only answers half of what I say.

Kerri Ann 6:48

It's because I honestly it's I know it's fine. I have haven't learned that over what 20 years of medication.

Adrianne 6:53

I just no, you don't need to add another diagnosed, but I really do have a horrible attention span. It's so bad.

Leanna 7:00

But I just really good at faking it because you're like eye conduct and everything.

Adrianne 7:04

Right. Because while you're talking to me, all of a sudden in my head, I think something's happening in there. So I'm still gonna eye contact you. But in my brain, I'm already solving another problem. There you go.

unknown 7:15

That's awesome.

Kerri Ann 7:16

All the conversation is allowing her to talk, think about something else.

Adrianne 7:20

Which is why when I'm assigned, I'm just gonna say interviews. I'm like, why am I the one? I am the worst one to be assigned an interview.

Elastic Waistbands And Skincare Confessions

Adrianne 7:26

Okay, elastic waist waistbands, a fashion failure or the greatest invention of the 21st century.

Kerri Ann 7:33

I don't like those because it creates uh when you're older, you withhold water. And then if it's got the real elastic, then you have like I will have that mark on my body for like eight hours after. That's why I like those pants that are like the compression that just go, they're just that wonderful material. Yes, that they created and it's nice and it doesn't create lasting mark. I wear a hat on my head for a little bit and I have a line for like six hours after. I'm saying what happens in menopause. You hold water and like your skin at all. I drink water all the time.

unknown 8:13

I know, I don't know.

Kerri Ann 8:15

Is it our skin?

Leanna 8:16

Let's hope not. Makes lines more? Although I did find I won't I did find a new thing that I'm gonna try for hydrogen. What are we doing? What is happening now? I'm not gonna say it on the podcast. I will send you guys the link and I'm gonna try it, and if it works well, I'll say it. But your face is glowy and dewy.

Kerri Ann 8:34

But that's Jeanette. I'd like to have something that she didn't put dewy on your face.

unknown 8:40

No.

Adrianne 8:42

Like, what is dewy? What are we putting on our face now? Okay, go to the next stuff.

SPEAKER_04 8:48

I'm totally editing that. There's no way. No, there's no way.

Kerri Ann 8:51

No, I mean you're putting moisture stuff on your face, is what you're saying. Should I just wait for you to text it to us?

Leanna 8:59

Yes. I don't do anything to my face now. I do not use my face. I know your face is moisturizing. I don't either. I'm horrible. Of course, my face is not pretty. I also don't wash my I don't have routines. If I'm in the shower, I'll do do. But I don't have special soap or lotion or I put I have to put oil.

Kerri Ann 9:16

You know what I use? Oh my god, I can't wait to say this. Oil of Ola. You know the pink bottle? Oh, yes. My mom got me on that when I was little, and I love the smell of it, and it's nice. And you can buy it at the Walgreens. Right.

Adrianne 9:32

Nice. They have a whole now like regenerated. They do, but I don't know. I don't know about that. There's breaks my skin out, so I can't.

Kerri Ann 9:38

All right.

Adrianne 9:38

I rarely break out, but I will on that for some reason. But I'm lazy. Like I won't wash my face. I don't put on nighttime creamer. I don't do any of that stuff. I know I'm supposed to. No, I don't.

Leanna 9:50

This is what God gave me.

Adrianne 9:52

Um, which is probably why I don't look dewy, because I don't do any of that stuff.

Kerri Ann 9:57

I think that it has to fix this.

unknown 10:01

Stop.

Adrianne 10:03

Or the indent between I do have this. I I mean that would be Botox. The 11s. Okay.

Wine Down And 3 A.M. Wakeups

Adrianne 10:08

Wine down culture. Is a glass of red helping your stress, or is it a secret reason you're awake at 3 a.m.?

Kerri Ann 10:16

Oh, I do. Should we call it bubbly for you instead of wine? It's mandatory in my life. And I don't care what it does to me in the middle of the night. I'm fine. If I'm drinking, yes. Maybe that's why I gain eight pounds every day losing.

Leanna 10:34

But it takes me like three or four days before the scale moves. I love my prosecco. So I love it. I just, it does not love me as much as I love.

Adrianne 10:42

I have a hard time because if it's if it's wine, if it has too much of the tannins in it, it makes me sick. Yes. And then I love sangria, but the sugar in that, if I drink it too late in the day, then I can't sleep at night. I will be up at 3 a.m. because the of the sugar. So I have a harder time doing alcohol anymore. But there's so many fun mocktails, although that's kind of that's full of sugar too. I just did a mocktail and I'm I'm pretty sure I drank a half a cup of sugar and did not sleep either.

Leanna 11:15

They're just super expensive. Like if I'm gonna pay the same for a mocktail, might as well throw that.

Kerri Ann 11:20

It's the same with like decaf. Why do you drink decaf? Just don't drink it. Like coffee's like, I don't know. I always thought you're drinking black water.

Adrianne 11:29

Yes. Sometimes it's just the warm feeling it gives me. Well, drink tea then. Well, that's caffeine too. Yeah. And how to like I will drink some decaf tea. Okay.

Gym Mirrors And Dressing Room Lies

Adrianne 11:39

The gym mirrors. Why is the lighting in the weight room designed to make us look like the 19th century villains? Is it because they're wide?

Leanna 11:50

I mean, I purposely don't look in the mirrors at the gym. I just keep my head down and I walk to my little machine and I get on it.

Adrianne 11:56

I know. I try not to make eye contact with people at the gym. One, because they all look like they know what they're doing. I'm not even sure I know how to set up a machine properly. So I try not to make eye contact so no one's noticing when the machine's at the wrong height or like my tippy toes are trying because I can't figure out the seat. And then I will quit. And if the people watched me, they'd be like, I swear she was only there 15 minutes and now she's over in the massage chair room.

Leanna 12:21

That's the only reason you got me to go to the gym. We don't go to the gym together anymore, so don't think that we're doing something that you're doing.

Kerri Ann 12:26

I don't I'm fine. I don't go to the gym. I used to go to the gym, and the only reason I wouldn't look in the mirror is because for some reason I make very weird faces, and I don't need to see that. I don't. It was kind of the Zoom thing during COVID where you we finally watched ourselves talk, and I'm like, why do I talk like that? The same at the gym. Like, why do I have to make faces when I'm working out? Like light. I don't know. I don't need I think that that and dressing room mirrors are terrible. Dressing room mirrors are liars because I'll love it outfit.

Leanna 12:57

Then I'll get home and I'm like, what in the world?

Adrianne 13:00

I don't know. Sometimes when they're those mirrors that have the three, and then the front mirror looks great, and then on the side, I'm like, oh yeah, this is a no. Yeah, this outfit. Whoops, I'm not wearing it. Okay, salad disappointment.

Salad Prices And Still Being Hungry

Adrianne 13:11

Is there anything more depressing than an $18 superfood salad that leaves you hungry 10 minutes later?

Leanna 13:18

I hate salad.

Kerri Ann 13:19

I do too. There's never a good salad. I'll have a salad every now and then, but I don't like vegetables. That's why I eat the grunts. Maybe potato salad. Oh, egg salad, tuna salad, chicken salad.

Adrianne 13:33

And if you like all of this, I love a good Caesar chicken Caesar salad. Like there's certain restaurants that I only go there so that I can have the chicken Caesar salad.

Kerri Ann 13:41

But I agree. I feel like salad is a part of a meal. Yeah. It's not the meal. Yeah. Yeah. Like Brian and I went out to dinner last night and we shared a salad and we shared a meal. And then I went home and Caden got pizza and I ate pizza. Because I felt like I had shared so much that I deserved a piece of pizza. So salad is a part of a meal, I feel.

Adrianne 14:07

Yep. And I feel like I, you know, on some of these salad places, if I'm going to pay $18 for a salad, then I'd rather go to a restaurant and have like grilled chicken and a potato or steak and, you know, saute vegetables or something, or a side salad. I don't want to pay $18 for just because I got a salad with range that I'm going to put some dressing on, I'm going to shake it.

Kerri Ann 14:31

Well, and then it only weighs like two and a half ounces. Yeah.

unknown 14:34

No.

Kerri Ann 14:36

It feels like you have to eat it.

Leanna 14:37

It takes forever to eat. Like it's never ending. And then you get home and you're hungry. And you're like, I just ate it.

Kerri Ann 14:42

That's what I mean. It's a part of a meal. It's not a meal. No.

Adrianne 14:46

Or I'll end up picking the dressing that has too much sugar in it. Oh, yeah. You know, and then I'm like, well, that was pointless. I like a salad if it's got a whole bunch of stuff that's not good for you in it, but that's it. Yeah. Or you know, there's one of those fiesta salads. I love it. It's probably at oregano's. Um, and when I used to pick it all the time until they added the calories on the menus. And then I could eat the two slices of pizza versus the salad was twice the calories of eating the pizza. And I thought, well, here I thought I was doing it. They have a salad there that has pasta in it.

Kerri Ann 15:15

Yeah, that is a good thing. See, that's a that's the right proper salad. Because it's got two things together.

Adrianne 15:23

Okay.

Morning Person Myth And Routines

Adrianne 15:24

Let's see. The morning person myth. People who wake up at 5 a.m. to meditate and work out, are they disciplined or just annoying? They're annoying.

Kerri Ann 15:32

I have one of those in my do you get my do you do we're all early risers because we all tend to be. Well, we do early rise, but that doesn't mean we're doing anything of substance. We're working. That's substance.

Leanna 15:47

But I'm using my by like I do my generational action.

Kerri Ann 15:50

Okay. But do you want to get up and go to the gym or work out? Or I don't want to see people, but I'm productive in my house by myself in my court. Well, my husband, as soon as he wakes, as soon as his eyes are open, he's awake and he's like, go. And that is terrible. Because I'm slower to go.

Leanna 16:10

When I I wake up like this, like there's no ramp up. Jeff needs a ramp up. Like he's like awake. And I'm like, good morning. So this is what I was thinking. Oh, you're Brian then. Yeah.

Adrianne 16:21

So Terry and I are we're both. I wake up early, but I have to like I am a routine person. Yeah. I open the door for the dogs to go out while the coffee's being made. Then I have my coffee and then I sit down, I do my devotional, then whatever else I want. I'll check emails, answer text messages, I'll send later because I don't want I break, I don't have that, I have that rule anymore. You don't get a text message from me before 8 a.m. So I will answer them, but make them send later. That's my personality. You can do that? Yeah. With a text message? If they have an iPhone, yeah. You just send them all later. Tell what time you want it. So it's lovely. It's very easy.

Kerri Ann 17:00

Obviously, you guys know that I don't know how to do that because you've gotten text messages.

Adrianne 17:04

We will show you that. But that's like I'm a slow and I don't like people until 10. Like I'm a I could be five hours and get stuff done, do my thing, but I don't want to be out and about until 10 a.m. No, I agree. Even the degree.

Kerri Ann 17:20

When I have to people really super early in the morning because there's an event or something, it just throws me off because it's very challenging.

Leanna 17:28

I have to really love someone to be somewhere for a 7 a.m. or an 8 a.m.

Adrianne 17:34

Yeah. I know when people ask me, like, oh, I'm gonna see you at this meeting, I'm like, nope, I don't do mornings. I'm just honest now. Oh, I'm totally blunt. They know it. I'm like, I don't do mornings. It's just not my thing. And so unless it's an absolute I need to be there, I just let people know. It's nothing about their event. It's just I'm not the morning person.

Leanna 17:52

It just depends on who asks me. Yeah.

Adrianne 17:55

I just tell them all. Okay.

Diet Evangelists And Food Judgment

Adrianne 18:00

Keto is it paleo vegan? Which diet has the most insufferable evangelists?

Leanna 18:07

I don't know what that means. But I don't like any of them.

Adrianne 18:11

I don't either. I do think vegan is probably has the most opinions.

Kerri Ann 18:16

They have so many opinions. And then when they find out that I will eat any kind of owls five pounds of bacon in my face, then that starts the whole thing. Because I don't have a problem. Like I don't like vegetables, and that's great. Like we have a really good friend who's a vegetarian. We went to a gala and she got her plate, and Brian just looked and was like, Is that all you're getting? I think we all felt very sorry for her. Yeah, but she's good because she knows it. She does, but she does her little snacky snacky before and her snacky snacky after, and all like she eats throughout the day, and she's very healthy and good. But if they would have put that plate instead of that big old steak they put on my plate in front of me, I would have been like, You're uh, excuse me. But I do think that some, not they're very like there.

Adrianne 19:06

I'll never forget at a work event once we were doing a company barbecue, and they we were barbecuing, and I mean it smelled great. I mean, honestly, I love red meat. But she was vegan and her comment to everyone was, Well, I'm glad that you enjoy the smell of burning flesh. And that right there, I'm like, but that's the difference. Like you're because you want to make me feel guilty because I do like Twitter. I love the smell of barbecue.

Kerri Ann 19:34

Like we go to downtown Chandler and we get out of that parking garage, and I'm like, Heaven! But you know what's so funny is you'll get people to say that and they're walking around with their leather shoes on or their leather belt or a really nice designer bag. And I'm like, okay, I'm gonna eat that steak. You need to have some kind of different clothes on because where did that come from? Yeah.

Adrianne 19:56

So I do think that the that is the one that probably has the most. Oh, we're gonna get in trouble about this. We probably won't get in trouble for that one.

Kerri Ann 20:02

No, I have nothing to do. I don't care what anybody wants to do with their food and stuff. You want to eat whatever you want. I say that I love meat. Don't ask me, do I know what's in it? And if meat is in it. I understand that. Right? Yeah. I don't ask you, you know, do you realize that that vegetable, if it had a mouth, could scream while it's getting pulled out of the ground? Right?

Adrianne 20:27

Oh, see, I'm sorry. No. Did they not watch Veggie Tales?

Kerri Ann 20:31

I don't know, but I'm Veggie Tails. Oh, they can talk and sing and they love the Lord.

Adrianne 20:38

And you're eating it.

Kerri Ann 20:41

Okay, enough. We're gonna I see. I'm gonna get in trouble. I put my chair back in the airplane and I eat as much meat as I can shove in my face. So there.

Adrianne 20:49

No.

Stress Sweets And Comfort Food

Adrianne 20:50

All right, stress sweets. Is eating a bag of chocolates at midnight a relapse or survival?

Leanna 20:56

It's yummy. It's so attacked by a lot of these women.

Adrianne 21:01

I am a stress sweet eater. Same. Really bad. Like, and I'm I won't say it's candy. I'm an ice cream stress eater. And that's stress eater.

Leanna 21:13

I'll take any carb or any sweet. I don't really, it doesn't have to be chocolate. No. Anything gooey and warm.

Kerri Ann 21:20

I had a really bad day two days ago, and I had made mac and cheese, and I hid it in the back of the fridge, and I went to go get it, and it wasn't there. And Brian knew exactly what I was looking for. And I went in the other room and he's like, I ate it. And I was like, He's like, Do you want me to make you some? I'm like, no, it needed to be quick. It needed to be that one.

Adrianne 21:40

But yeah. Like, you better drive and get me some fresh mac and cheese.

Kerri Ann 21:44

I don't know if it's stress eating or if it's just a comfort, what kind of food?

Leanna 21:49

Or the reason it's called comfort food because it brings you comfort.

Adrianne 21:52

Yes. There you go. For a short time. And then I'm on scale and be like, well, that was not very comforting. can't have ice cream at we cannot have ice cream in the frig the freezer for yeah no I I will literally I could eat go through a half a gallon in a week if I'm stressed out you're gonna take in brand claims yeah I can't have it in I will only eat ice cream if I have something to go through I have to have a cake or a cookie like something has to go with it to put on top a piece of you know what my problem is and I don't know if it's just me but I if I eat something sweet like a cake or ice cream or something I have to have something salty.

Kerri Ann 22:31

Same like it's not done. So you have to then finish top it off with salt with me. It's never ending that's why last night I had salad I had a meal then I had a piece of pizza when I got home and then oh and I forgot Brian and I shared a dessert see that was the hot mess.

Unsolicited Advice And Fasting

Adrianne 22:50

Anyway all right there okay next one unsolicited advice what's worse being told to just relax or just try intermittent fasting how would that help me if you had want me to intermittent fast I just want you know Terra and I used to do fasting I am not a nice person if I have not eaten in 24 hours. Really I'm not that's not intermittent. That's a full-on fast or even 12 hours if you want me to wait 12 hours I am not nice.

Leanna 23:21

For the sake of my marriage and the fact that I want my husband to continue to love me I will never intermittent fast.

Kerri Ann 23:27

I do I feel better when I don't eat until later in the afternoon. So if I eat like if I don't eat for 16 hours I feel so much better. And then but that's but that's what happened.

Leanna 23:40

I'm fine 16 hours.

Kerri Ann 23:41

I am but then I go crazy then I do the what I just told you where I just eat a salad pizza and all of it happens at one time. It's just like a full on I do all that I just spread it out over period.

Adrianne 23:53

So I what was the other thing that was But they tell people and it's the list of vice just relax. Just relax does not help me at all. Honestly if someone tells me to just relax it my blood pressure goes from zero to 60 because now you've made it worse. Now I'm gonna argue with you. Right.

Kerri Ann 24:07

Because that's who says that like if I could relax well Brian will say shh and he and he'll do this hand jet he'll do that and and oh my it's not good. That would not go well.

Leanna 24:20

No because my blood pressure is rising just here. Right?

Kerri Ann 24:22

I was too I'm like I can feel like we've had a moment about it and now he'll do it just to be funny. Because I was like that that shush shot well. Plus I don't know how to shush so that is even worse.

Adrianne 24:40

I think I would shush because I'd be confused I just what just happened are we taking a moment to plot your death what are we doing right now and then that just do you want the teeth?

Kerri Ann 24:51

I'm not sure a better person than me. You're nicer I know but he's so cute when he says things yeah he's very cute.

Leanna 25:02

His cuteness has saved our marriage so many times not that he's bad he's not I think we all have things in our marriage that if anybody saw outside of it we would all be like what?

Kerri Ann 25:13

Yeah oh yeah but it's just who we are as you know your couple personality yeah but if you two saw Brian shush me you guys would go oh I would say something oh no the same as reverse like if Jeff did something like we're not like with us it's different and Brian would know and Jeff would know and Terry would know the girls just looked at me.

Adrianne 25:32

Yeah that was my filter would not be there and then Terry could be looking at me like am I gonna have to fight for you because I'd be like oh hell no you did not just do a shush and just be back and be like we're gonna stay out of this we're gonna let those two couples

Menopause Belly And Owning It

Adrianne 25:45

handle it. That's what happened my filter is not there ladies no okay the menopause belly should we stop trying to hide it and just start a new fashion trend called the orb what that's terrible no please do not do orb some man wrote that the orb I will have this is gonna sound so salty. I feel so good when women who are very thin have the menopause belly. It just makes me feel like okay I'm okay like it's not just me like very people have it and then I feel like even but art isn't like on on on social media like everybody's taking it back and being okay isn't it called like is it a I'm gonna say it wrong maybe FUPA isn't that the belly yes it is your lower half of your belly why do they call it a FUPA?

Leanna 26:40

I don't know why but I've seen a real I'll tell you what the acronym means but not right now.

Kerri Ann 26:44

Oh did I say something bad something I don't know what it means either no I don't know what it means either did I say something bad and now this podcast can't go out live is it a bad word a fat upper oh pea area think about what P in that region is look at us and we're like oh that's what it means. But people are doing videos about it and like like owning it and like loving it.

Adrianne 27:11

That's lovely but I don't I'm on all the reels of how do you do exercises that you can get rid of it but then I never do any of those exercises.

Kerri Ann 27:19

I just watch it well I kind of like that better than an orb.

Adrianne 27:24

I'd rather say that or an orb. I try to hide it because I love Spanks I do everything to try to hide it. I wear the tighter like the pants that have you like suck it in. Why are you giving me that look?

Kerri Ann 27:37

Because I don't think it's the area you think it is you mean like your actual hoo ha is we're not talking about that menopause belly. I've got like a big belly oh no that's very specific oh wait I thought we were talking about like actual menopause belly I know but we're not I took a right hand turn because I thought that that meant everything from your belly button down.

Adrianne 28:05

No it's what I've been thinking specifically I took it differently too like I want all the exercises I think oh I want but like yeah like just your lower half of your belly is what I was saying. That's what the question I think all right move along my goodness we went way off that

Supplements And Yoga Pants Logic

Adrianne 28:24

one. Supplements how many vitamins can you take before it's officially considered a meal I think I take two meals a day of vitamins.

Kerri Ann 28:31

Yes I really talked about this I don't take nearly enough yeah I probably don't fast like I think I do because I'm eating tons of vitamins throughout the day.

Adrianne 28:39

Yeah I'm fine with it though I do a time and it's only because every time you go to the doctor they're like oh you're low on this take iron take vitamin D take then you're like oh well there's a whole nother step that I need to take I think we've talked about this one too but yoga pants are they active wear if you haven't been to the gym in three weeks yes I still consider I mean if I walk my dog it's still working out. If I walk around my house and it's working out like don't judge me.

Kerri Ann 29:02

I love them and I really don't care that I don't do yoga any of it. Brian would get so he would cry he's gonna he would pick up the boys from school and yoga pants. No wouldn't that be funny? No he was he one of his biggest things is why do all the moms that are picking their kids up wear yoga pants and I know that half of them did no exercises whatsoever. And I'm like because they're comfortable but I but he was not alone being a man in that thought process.

Leanna 29:38

No. Jeff said the same thing when he used to pick up from school all the time like everyone in their yoga pants. And a lot of them aren't yogaing. No. But who cares?

Adrianne 29:47

Yeah if you're especially with menopause yes I feel like I have in my laundry a week three times more of yoga pants than I do or anything like that. And I have certain types I like which do help make my stomach look thinner. And the pockets on the side flared at the bottom I mean really they're an entire outfit yes of I can't imagine giving

The 3 P.M. Reset Debate

Adrianne 30:09

those up. The 3 p.m slump is it better to fight it with caffeine or just take a depression nap? I don't really know if it's a depression I can't take a nap.

Kerri Ann 30:18

I can't take a nap.

Adrianne 30:18

It's either sleep or not sleep. So I am like from 2 if I don't answer you between 2.30 and 3 30 I am an afternoon person where when I'm like okay my brain is done I don't take a nap but I will go and lay down and chill out and I don't work or answer any messages for at least an hour. I don't almost every day and when I don't get that I'm really annoyed. Do you feel better after? Yeah I just feel like sometimes I just need a reset for just a minute and just whether I'm read a book or whatever but I just need a minute to just do nothing. I'll take a reset if that's different than a nap.

Kerri Ann 30:56

Yeah because I get more annoyed at the fact that I have to get up and do something after that. My mom will take a 15 minute cat nap. Like she will go to her room literally close her eyes and no doubt she is sleeping for 15 and then she'll wake up and be like oh that was so good.

Adrianne 31:11

And I'm like what did you just more productive for you like in other countries they have naps it takes me 30 minutes to get to that nap.

Leanna 31:18

I don't want to only be there for 15.

Kerri Ann 31:20

I'm I'm sideways if I take a nap and wake up because usually it's an hour or hour and a half later and I'm more tired.

Adrianne 31:27

So I just don't do them.

unknown 31:28

Yeah.

Metabolism Dreams And Bagels

Adrianne 31:29

That's a I love my little nap times. Okay metabolism if you could trade yours for an 18 year old what would be the one thing you would eat first if you could have your 18 year old metabolism back. Anything I wanted and just be happy. I know I feel like here's the problem with me I still eat everything I ate at 18 I just am not thin like that.

Kerri Ann 31:53

You know what I would have to have is a is actually a bait a real like New York style big wonderful bagel with cream cheese on it and eat it and not think about it. Because now if I eat it I'm thinking about it all the time like why did I do that? But I think that would be it. And of course I would eat racket cheese.

Leanna 32:15

That's my guilty pleasure is bagel cream cheese and maybe I have one probably four times a week. Oh yeah I do the protein bagels.

Adrianne 32:23

I do the Dave protein bagels that have protein bagels I just eat full no I do the protein bagels with the garden vegetable cream cheese. So I get a little bit of veggie and I get my protein does it taste proteiny no because I toast it you guys have to go to the bagel place that's the New York bagel place that's over on Gilbert.

Leanna 32:43

Yes yeah I've never been there it is I know you told us about it but now it's phenomenal I had a bagel for breakfast but I can have a bagel for lunch too so good. Oh I think LT. This is why I'm mad and the scale's not moving but I'm like off of a bagel for bagel.

Kerri Ann 32:56

Chicken cutlets like old school New York style chicken cutlets on a bagel like a chicken cutlet sandwich.

Bubble Baths As Real Self Care

Adrianne 33:02

Oh that would be good too oh my goodness okay last question is a bubble bath actually self-care or is it just a way to hide from your family for 20 minutes I'm gonna say something unpopular I don't like baths so I don't need that I take a bubble bath every I take a what do you call it?

Kerri Ann 33:20

What's the salt? Calgon? Epsin salt Epsom salt with essential oils and bubbles every night. Do you really I do I love it it is my time and we turn the lights down Brian will do his sauna like that's my time to just like because I can't do anything in the bath and I just sit and I lay and I just do my brain shutdown. When I don't do it then I'm I don't feel right but I do get it because people are like you're laying in your dirt and ball you know all the other stuff like what do you like I bring that's when I go down the rabbit hole on my phone.

Adrianne 34:00

I we have one of those giant tubs. I think I use it once a year because I feel guilty and then I will fill it up with all the water and then I will get in it and then in five minutes I'm like all right though. Well I did use the tub. And then Terry will be like you're draining that already I'm like yeah I'm over I'm already done. Yeah but I'll do the bubbles I'll have bubbles going everywhere and but I I think I last like five minutes.

Kerri Ann 34:24

I even tried like bringing wine bring my yeah I had bought a bathtub that was too big for the space so Brian had to cut into the wall and make a little a little like it looks like a cute little shelf but he's like why did you buy a bathtub that's too big because we were a contractor make it work and he did and it looks cool.

Adrianne 34:44

That's awesome. I love it. Well give us your opinion on some of these in the comments below.

Leanna 34:50

See you next time.

Wrap Up And How To Share

Voice Over 34:51

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