16: Breathwork for the Single Mom (Guest: Megan "The Hustle Healer" Veale

Breathwork is simply working your breath. It is the conscious and controlled practice of breathing in a particular way. Breathwork has been practiced for thousands of years, across a multitude of cultures for various reasons from physical to spiritual.

Megan Veale was born in Hampton Roads, Virginia and raised in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania. Combining Southern hospitality with Philly swag, she creates an authentic space to feel and be.  When she is not working as a Customer Experience Strategist, Megan lends her voice to the collective through corporate voice acting, storytelling, co-hosting the Full-Time Black Woman Podcast, and coaching others on reclaiming their unique relationship with rest via her company, Peace Revealed LLC as a Rest Relationist.

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Welcome back to Single Mom Honey, the podcast dedicated to moms with a focus on health, money, and everything in between. Clay Lynn and I cover the health. I'm Aisha and I handle the money. Look, we have our first guest on Single Mom Honey. Okay. Okay. Okay. Megan, the hustle killer video. Megan, thank you so much for joining us today. Yes, we are so happy to have you. Thank y'all so much for having me. I'm so excited. I cannot wait to share space with y'all because I've been listening to the pod. We absolutely love it. I have been yelling at my radio or my device. Like, yeah, yes, yes. As I listen, to be up here with y'all is a huge honor. So thank you. Wow. Can I ask you real quick, Megan? Yeah. What's your favorite tea? My favorite tea. My favorite tea is probably, I'm gonna say lavender, but I feel like it's a mood thing. So is it a heavy mood thing? It might be a chai tea, depending on if I need to warm up, but I do like a good lavender. What do you mix in with your lavender? So I might do an elderberry syrup or a honey. Or a little blueberry, maybe. So it just depends. Nice. Okay. So let's get it. I like that question. I like the too, quite. All right. So Meganville was born in Hampton Roads, Virginia, and raised in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania. Combining Southern hospitality with Philly swag, she creates an authentic space to feel and be. When she is not working as a customer experience strategist, Megan Lee lends her voice to the collective through corporate voice acting, storytelling, co-hosting the full-time Black Woman podcast. And coaching others on reclaiming their unique relationship with Rest via her company, Peace Revealed LLC, as a rest relationist. Ooh, I can't wait to get into that. Listen, I need a relationship with Rest. Right. Megan has a lot of things. I need to sleep like I slept before I had kids. I should be like on the night quill commercial. So if you could teach me something. Megan leads corporate, group, and private workshops as a certified flow breath work facilitator, helping individuals tune in to avoid burning out by tapping into movement, music, and the breath. And has recently authored her first book, Fearless Inner Child, which is available on Amazon and also on her website, KBW, reminding teens and adults to seek the courage of their younger self to live a both and life. And a world that constantly tries to hustle us in every sense of the word. Megan deal, the hustle healer seeks the open, seeks to open the way for the divine law of balance. So welcome again, Megan, the hustle healer deal to single mom honey. Thank you so much. Yes. We are so happy to have you. Now, for our listeners who are brand new to this, what exactly is breath work? Oh, so breath work in its simplest definition is just controlled breathing. It is a practice of controlling the breath to provide multiple multiple outcomes, either to relax, to calm, to balance your nervous system for spiritual purposes. It can be used to excite you and get you amped. It can be used to help you sleep better. But the science part, it pulls you out, get it backwards, sympathetic nervous system into parasympathetic or bad. Parasympathetic into sympathetic. Okay. Nope. Had it right the first time, I think. What's the difference? So it pulls you out of the fight or flight mode where you are hot, sweating, um, your your heart is beating faster. The stress is showing up in your body. It pulls you out of that and pulls you into the rest digest mode. So you can relax. You are resting. You are calm. Your body is able to function at its optimal homeostasis, equilibrium, its balance state. So it pulls you out of your morning mama routine. Into something. Well, I mean, it would kind of help us get out of survival mode. Yes, that's exactly it. That's exactly it. Survival mode, yes. Like lower our cortisol levels and reduce. Yes, it can. Yes, it can. It can do all of those things. The body is an amazing thing, and it has the resources you just have to tap into to give it space to actually help itself. Like by deep breathing, controlled breathing, you give your body the kind of off switch on, my gosh, I'm running from a bear all day, every day, to okay, the bear is just an email. I'm fine. Okay, the bear is just, you know, kids are fighting at the moment. It's gonna be okay. They'll either fight it out, get it over with, or I'm gonna break it up and it'll be done. But this is just a fight, it's just a moment. Could the bear be like going to court? Like child support? Because I need all the breathing I can get. I feel like I am lacking oxygen when I go. Yes. We're definitely gonna get into that. She's gonna show us some quick uh breathing techniques that we'll be able to utilize in high stress situations, be it dealing with your high conflict parent, co-parent, or you know, also dealing with just parenting it all. Say that again. Parallel parent? You got a co-parent? What is a co-parent? I kind of think that like a co-parent should be like a co-pilot. Like, if like the pilot can't fly the plane, the like the co-pilot should be able to. Otherwise, it's just a passenger. Passenger or a hijacker? I don't know. I mean, we're gonna have to read through this. Exactly. Exactly. Okay. So, where does the breath work practice come from? Is this something new, Megan? No, this has been around for years. I learned this from a flow breathwork certification. Her name is Shanila Sitar. She was my teacher. Then history teaches us that it originates in Vedic tradition, um, some of the first documented practices of it. However, it has been in multiple indigenous practices by various names or uses or in various forms. So it's been practiced in Africa, it's been practiced in Asia, it's been practiced in multiple countries, ethnic groups, etc., a lot of the time as part of spiritual practice, but also healing modalities, also just a good way of living. So, no, this is not new. The science behind it is becoming new as we are diving into it more, is showing up more in studies. It's to the point where the military uses breath work to help calm in certain uh scenarios. That part, that so they do something called the square breath. So that that's definitely a form of breath work. And yeah, if if you think about it, because I I like to bring it back to just regular life, we do breath work more often than we think of. It's just because we give it a name, it doesn't align with our lives. So if you sing, anytime you are controlling your breath to sing, breath work. I mean breath work and then breathing all day long. Right. Athletes, whether you are swimming, whether you are like taking a deep breath before you take a free throw, all of that breath work. Bare minimum, uh, if you are celebrating your birthday and you decide to blow out a candle and you kind of hold your breath right before and you are thinking of your wish, and then you blow out the candle, breath work. So basically, when I have those moments throughout the day where it just seems so overwhelming, I'll be like, whoo! Lord have mercy. Yes. Okay, so what about like when I ask my kids to do something and they sigh? Are they doing breath work? Yes. Sighing, humming, singing, um, any type of like sound, especially one that vibrates, is something that gets into like somatics. So these are movements or actions that also hate to say it, but trick your mind into thinking that you are calm and relaxed, which triggers all of the science and chemistry in you to actually relax. So when you sigh and make an audible noise, so that's automatically your body associates that with relax. I'm calm, I'm okay, I'm safe. Are we doing breath work during sexual activity? Heck yes! So and I I love I absolutely love it. So even if you are not having sex, you can have a sexual experience with breath work. So when you do have sex, you are using breath work. It things get rhythmic, the sounds you make. If you're having good sex, you're more than likely very present in that moment. Hopefully, you are very present in that moment. You are very present in your body. It becomes a sensory experience that amplifies, that gets amplified by breathing. When you think about sex and you are holding your breath, you're bracing your body, you are kind of cutting off an energetic channel so that the things can get my marriage. So things get blocked, things get restricted. You don't want to feel restricted in sex because it it cuts off the pleasure. Like you cut yourself short. So when you breathe, you relax, you increase your blood flow to places, you allow your body to feel and receive as opposed to like letting your breath be a barrier. So yeah. Wow, okay. I love that. Yes, that was a good one. Good job. Love that. Why is breath work especially powerful for women and you know, particularly single moms? Single moms, oh my gosh, yes. So uh it's great for everybody. Single moms in particular is fantastic for single moms because there's so much that single moms take on, and very little time to give back to self because you are constantly, you gotta work, you've gotta take care of your kids, you've got this responsibility, you've got a whole man child sometimes to deal with. We divorce them. We divorce them. They keep getting them. Well, you still got kids with us, you still gotta deal with them. So the the parallel parenting, you you've got so you you have situations that have constant stimulus, sometimes negative stimulus coming at you. Breath work is one of those things that's highly accessible. It's free, you could do it anywhere, anytime, anyhow. And it's that one moment that even with a minute, you can give yourself a sense of peace, balance, and at least give your body a chance to relax, to like stop carrying the tension so much and stop bracing all day for impact from some unknown thing. So, breath work for single moms, I feel like is paramount. It is like one of the key things in your toolbox you can use to get back to just being. So is that something that you can do discreetly, or is it like, you know, we're gonna okay. Yeah, you can do it discreetly. It's you can do it as big or as small as you want. You can be as out extroverted with it or as introverted with it as you like. A breath work session or just a breathwork experience for one minute, honestly, just just think of it as deep breathing. So it's um how to how to say it? It's almost like consciously sleeping. I don't know how else to say it. Because when you are when you're sleeping, you're breathing deeply, it's easy, it's ideally, it's you're you're breathing easily, it's full breath, you're not conscious of holding your stomach in, you're not conscious of looking a certain way, you're just breathing. So I I liken it to sleeping. So, what you would do to be as discreet as possible, inhale in through your nose, exhale out through your mouth in various variations. You can either act like you're blowing out a candle, you can sigh. If you want to be mildly discreet, you can sigh. It gets into being more extroverted with it. You can almost like do a roar or like an ocean breath. A roar. Yeah, or like a lion breath. So it's like that? Yeah, you could do that. Yeah, growling. Things that get attributed to the emotion that you're trying to either expel or embody. Yeah. Can breath work help us if we're like overwhelmed or having decision fatigue? What would you suggest suggest in those type of moments? I deal with decision fatigue multiple times a day. Yes. I wake up like are you holding your breath when you're doing that? Because it looks like you hold your breath. Yeah, I'm holding my breath while I'm doing it. Does breath work work with morning breath? It does. Okay. No breathing. If you're in somebody's face, depending on the type of breathing you're doing, I mean you you might get told to back up. But yes, works just fine with morning breath. In fact, and this is just me, it might enhance the experience for you because it becomes a second sensory, like a piece of sensory data that you can acknowledge that makes the experience more mindful. So when we think about breathing and deep breathing and breath work, adding mindfulness to that can amplify the experience to bring you more present into the moment, more centered, grounded, things like that. To answer your question about it with overwhelm and decision fatigue, overwhelm absolutely, because you can do a calming practice, which can bring you back to present state. So you're not anxious about what's coming, you're not fretting about what happened, you stay present in the moment. That can lead to better decision making, but there's also techniques you can use, like the fire breath, that is quick. It pumped inhales in and out of inhales and exhales in and out of the nose. So it's like I was just about to ask you, what was fire breath? Yeah, let's do a demonstration. Sure. Of what you would recommend for moms who are going through decision fatigue. Okay. So for decision fatigue, um I would usually that's a lot of stimulus coming in. Like your brain is overloaded. In my mind, you're gonna need to calm down and get present. So I would recommend see. I do I would do the four seven, four, seven, eight breath. So four, seven, eight means that, and everything is gonna be in the nose, out the mouth. You're gonna inhale through the nose for four, a count of four. So inhale, and then you're gonna hold it for a count of seven. Then you're gonna exhale out of the mouth. And if seven is too much, adjust it to your. Yeah, seven. I read it. I read the thing. Okay, let's try it. I'm gonna try it. Okay. Okay, so you're gonna inhale for four, hold for seven, and exhale for eight. Okay, so you're gonna inhale, one, two, three, four, hold, two, three, four, five, six, seven. Exhale slowly out of the mouth. Four, five, six, seven, eight. And then I started before you started counting, I was over here just with a v. I was just breathing. All right. But but you would repeat that as often as you need. The key is that your exhale is longer than your inhale. Longer exhale signal the body to calm. It's a sign of like, I'm good. I'm not stressed breathing, I'm relaxed breathing, so I can chill out. I mean, just those few breaths definitely make me just feel like I just had a McDonald's coffee. McDonald's coffee making you feel hi! And that's the booty bee. Yeah, that's the interesting thing. People can have different experiences. So some people might get energized and like get that feeling off of it. Others might get a more calm feeling. Either way, the presence helps you become more alert.

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I feel like this.

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I wasn't taking that. So yawning is a sign that your body is relaxing. So that's that is excellent.

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You did it.

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Yep. Your nervous system is like, oh, I can power down something. I can go into like standby. My nervous system said, Thanks, make a damn. And you can press me out. I ain't had a break it out on hollow. Yeah. I appreciate you, girl. I love it. I love it. So 478 is totally helpful for that. Remember those numbers 478. Okay. All right. Just as long as your exhale is longer than your inhale, you can adjust it however you need. But 478 isn't that bad. So many of us single malls, we have all experienced some of the same things: betrayal, heartbreak, high conflict relationships. How can we use breath work to support our emotional healing process and part of our journey of finding it? Okay. I love this. So when you go through those experiences, the body also goes through those experiences. So you mentally, emotionally are experiencing it, but the body holds it. And holding it might look like racing for impact. So you might be tight and tense all the time, expecting another hit from the person that betrayed you, expecting another hit from another responsibility coming up. Um, whatever the case may be, breath work in this instance can help you to not just center and get grounded and feel solid in the moment, because also in those times you can feel scattered and all over the place. So it can help you get centered in those moments to help with the inner self-healing, but it can also be used, especially along with other things and movements and affirmations and all of that, to help the body release some of that tension. It can be used to help emotions actually flow. The key thing I want to stress there is that you do don't actively stop the flow. Don't you intentionally stop the flow. Your body's already got a block or an area of resistance somewhere. If you think about it like your body being a riverbed, and the river is carrying emotions in and out of your body, is flowing through your body day in, day out. That betrayal might put debris in your emotional river, causing it to either get blocked, have some resistance, and then somebody at work gets on your nerves, throw some more debris. A child, parent, auntie, uncle, sister, cousin comes on, says something, does something, throw some more debris in. Now all of a sudden you got a dam. You got this blocked emotion. Can we just blow them away? Can you blow them away? You know what? Blow who away. Oh, the people who bring in all the debris that she's talking about. You ain't gonna blow your kids away. Blow them to their room. Well works for you. So all of these people have thrown thrown some kind of debris into your emotional river. Now you've got a dam. And when this happens, you have either a moment where all of a sudden you explode. So now you've got an emotional outburst of somebody of some sort. Somebody breathes wrong and now you jump in on them. Or you have a situation where you are now repressing all of your emotions because it doesn't feel safe anymore. Or you have a situation where you are starting to feel physical symptoms of this emotion. So it could be back pain because you are now feeling like you're carrying the weight of the world. It could be throat pain because you have stopped speaking up for yourself. It could be pain in your heart as well because, or in your chest, because you have stopped loving yourself, or you have stopped doing things that you love. Things like this. So all of this can happen, but breath work is like the thing that clears out the debris. It allows the emotions to flow through, clean their clean the debris out and then flow out of you. So that's why I say be careful not to intentionally yourself stop the flow of that from happening because then you almost become an enemy to your own body and your own emotions. You have to let the war that you are not going to win because you are not gonna win. You're not gonna be conscious. It's powerful, man. It is. You have to let the emotions flow, otherwise you you get emotionally constipated, and nobody nobody wants that. You don't want to be constipated because then you might get hemorrhoids. Yep. You know, I was thinking, you know, we got kids. The breath work makes me think that we will like morph into like the big big bad wolf from Little Red Riding Hood. And oh no, oh fuck. That's not even a story, see? It's called Mom Brain. The big bad wolf is the three little pigs. Ha ha ha. A huff and both.

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All right, all right, all right. Well, look, look. I'm trying to breathe over here. So with the breath work, we can huff and puff and blow the debris away and let the energy flow. Yeah. That's how I'm gonna remember. Yes, that's perfect. Yes. Okay. So sometimes that energy isn't just calming yourself. Sometimes that energy is pimped up anger because personally, I have completed a breath work session with Megan, the hustle healer. And my, I think it was second or third breath work session I had with you, Megan. I was surprised that I had a lot of pimped up anger inside of me. And it all came out during that session. I mean, I felt great afterwards. Give me a new port. Yeah, I felt great. When it came out, when it came out, like which way did it come out? In a vision. I had a vision that I harmed some people who were actively trying to harm me, like fatally. And I didn't know I was even thinking thoughts like that until I allowed myself to just relax and get the flow. And that debris came out, baby. It came out, and then afterwards I just felt leveled. I just felt like, okay, obviously it needed to come out. Remorse, nope. Come for me, I'm coming for you, baby. What Cardi B say? They go lower, I go lower, I go lower than the pregnancy. Don't play with me. Okay. So let me ask you this. After that session, was the relief long lasting, or is it like you gotta come back and do it again? Like you didn't get it all out? Like, is it is it like a cleanse, or is it like, you know, like therapeutic where it, you know, has to keep working? Like you gotta continue doing it. I feel like we're constantly changing, we're constantly having new experiences. So your emotions are going to be changing on the day-to-day basis, sometimes multiple times a day. So at that moment, that was what needed to flow for me was the anger. Now I've had breathwork sessions with her after that particular instance, and I didn't feel anger at all. I may have felt some sadness, I may have felt some, I would say, maybe some confusion, the decision fatigue. I just needed some calmness because I was sleep deprived. So those were the and then I took a good old nap. My last session that I had with Megan, I didn't sleep for probably like a good two, three days prior to I had a session with her. And she was like, Okay, make sure you drink some water so your body doesn't tighten up because it's kind of like a mental, emotional, and spiritual massage. So I went ahead, drank some water, and I passed out, baby. I had one of the best naps I've had in my adult life. I woke up slobber, all of that. I was okay, it was so ugly that it was good. Yeah, yes. Love it, love it. How often do you recommend that single moms set up breath work sessions? Is it an acid situation, or you don't want to do it too much because it could cause adverse effects, or I don't know. So it is definitely unique to the person. I would honestly suggest you do breath work with someone who facilitates it once a week to twice a month situation, if you can. In between that time, just schedule moments for yourself. If you if it helps to schedule them, schedule it. If it's something that you can remember to do like once a day, just to breathe, because a lot of the time we're either holding our breath or breathing shallowly. And that adds up over time. In addition to just the emotions and things that we encounter on a day-to-day basis. If you're not addressing or handling the emotion, if you are not addressing or handling the stress, then you'll continue to build that until you acknowledge it, release it, or let it go, or um find a healthy coping mechanism, or eliminate whatever that thing is. Okay. I know for me, I like to do like a focused session for myself at least twice a week. I've done it as much as four times a week. Try not to do it every day, honestly, like especially longer sessions. Like you can breathe every day. Obviously, we breathe every day. You can take a moment for yourself every day, like a short few minutes every day. That's fine. But if you do a longer session, I don't know, 30 minutes to an hour, I would limit those no more than twice a week because it is a workout for your body, your emotions, your mind, your spirit. It's it's it is essentially like going in and detoxing everything that you've either been repressing, suppressing, whatever the case may be. So after a session, like after a 30-minute session, you might feel relaxed, you might feel amped, you might feel whatever you feel. But it's the things that can happen the few days after that, sometimes weeks after, sometimes months after, that you're like, oh, okay, there's my realization. There is my right shoulder getting more relaxed and not tense anymore. There's me blowing up at somebody because I finally removed some debris. All of it didn't pass yet, but here's some debris moved, and now I'm blowing up at the person I probably needed to, as opposed to the person that didn't deserve a blow-up situation. So are you saying that having the uh it should be spaced out because I guess the clarity can cause confusion if you do it to you? It can if you're the clarity can cause so the clearing and clarity that comes can be an overload to the mind sometimes. You might not be ready to be that aware of something. Your body and your mind won't let you take on what it's not ready for. It's it's got like an auto-protext for you, an auto-safety mode. If you're not ready to address a thing, your body and mind won't let you do it. You'll get distracted, you'll have resistance, you'll come up with a million other reasons and things that you should do. So if you force clarity and force attention to a thing too much too fast, it can feel very overwhelming and very like emotional roller coaster for you. So, and also like when you do this breathing and you get to that place of leveling out, you get very protective and you get you're open. You are open to energy, you are open to receiving, you are open to just experiencing. And so you get very protective, and things might make you more irritable, things might make you more like concerned about your emotional distance, physical distance, interactions with people. Um, because sometimes this can be very emotional. We don't realize how much we don't address that is in the body. So once you breathe and start recognizing it, becoming aware of it, it's like, oh shit, I'll put that behind a book on the bookshelf and was not planning to address it, but now it's here in my face. So, so yeah, I I think it's it's good to practice, but have to be careful. Yeah. So for single moms, like we run into like time constraints, right? Yeah. Is there a way that you can combine the breath work with other physical activity, like such as running or yoga, or what do you recommend? Like, because I'm always trying to multitask, so I would like to be able to do it. Yeah. So if you are, if you're running, if you are doing a sport, it's really easy to incorporate. Um, because you're gonna be usually you're breathing a certain way anyway, when you're running, um, or you're at least very aware of your breath and your body when you're doing movement. So you can incorporate the breath that way, or just make the experience a more mindful experience where you are you are breathing and becoming paying attention to your sensory experience. What are you feeling in your body? What are you feeling around you? What do you see around you? What smells are there? What are you hearing? These things help ground you, these things help get you very present as opposed to thinking about okay, what do I have to do today? What is on my to-do list? Did I finish this already? What is what am I gonna have for dinner? Like all of these things that we tend to have 50 tabs open, it kind of helps you to center in on the first tab only. Yeah. So yeah, you can definitely multitask. I love being able to, like, if you put something in a microwave or you put something on the stove, taking those few minutes for that thing to warm up or finish that you've put it in there, you you have to wait for it anyway. Just breathe during that time. So if you put something in for a minute, take a moment because there's nothing that you can get done in that minute that can't be done in the next minute afterwards. So you can put something in for one minute, breathe one minute. Okay. Yeah. So um, I know Koi mentioned this earlier, how breath work can help us in situations such as court, you know, preparing us for job interviews, preparing us for negotiations and those sorts. Do you recommend the 478 for that, or is there another method that you recommend in situations such as those? Okay, so let's see. Definitely the 478 is helpful again, that longer exhale after a shorter inhale. And the hold in between is also, at least in my opinion, is helpful for having one sense of control in your life because there's plenty of things we can't control, but that one moment of this is me, I can control this. I'm going to, I can rest in this space. So I do like the 478 for that. I also like the fire breaths for pre-interviews or even even pre-court, because fire breaths help bring alertness, they help wake you up. For some, it can help calm you down, especially if you're more of a hyper person. But the fire breaths are short bursts of air. So short inhales and exhales in and out of the nose, and you are basically pumping that air with your belly and your chest. So you do it is short. Let's see. So I'm on back. I have more chest than belly in the frames. Is what it is. Again, it's inhale, quick inhales and exhales out of the nose. I'm gonna do it slow. Inhaling in, short. And when you inhale in, it's an expansion of your belly, your chest, your diaphragm. You should feel your body all the way around expand, sides, ribs, front. So, and then a quick exhale out, and you're gonna push all the air out. Your your abdomen, your belly should kind of squeeze in towards your towards your back, side should squeeze in. So this is in and out of the nose. All in and out of the nose. Okay. All right. Yeah, all in and out of the nose. How many were we doing? Let's just we'll just do, we'll just do, we'll just do 20. We'll just do 20. All right. So to start, do three cleansing breaths so you can relax. So inhale in through the nose, exhale, let it go. Inhale in through the nose, exhale, let it go. Last one, inhale in through the nose, exhale, let it go, and begin the fire breaths now. 10, 20. Okay. Take a clearing breath into the nose. Exhale. Is that part of it? It can be. Okay. It can be. So everyone's looking for a quaint black. So usually fire breaths. Exactly. And me over here, I'm like, where's the pillow? Looking for a blanket. So the common the combination of the deep inhale exhales is too calm and ground. But the call me fire breaths, like I said, they can calm if you're used to being in a hyper state. If your body is constantly go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go, then fire breaths can have the opposite effect sometimes. So when they blow off the CO2. Yeah. So it could, so it's like fire breaths, I'm a fire breath in the energy. So it you might have high energy or high stress, and you're used to operating at that. The fire breaths are tapping into that and bringing a controlled, like grounding effect. It's like I'm matching your energy, but it's in a controlled way. So now you feel more grounded. You feel more safe. You feel like you are actually burning off the energy that you might be storing, that high energy that you actually might be storing in your body, as opposed to the look of it, like you're being productive on the outside, but there's so much of that go, go, go energy in you that you haven't fully expelled it. More than likely because you're not fully breathing. You're probably breathing shallowly, or you might be holding your breath in these instances of go, go, go. And so just the act of that controlled breathing in that forceful manner allows you to expel what it is and burn off what it is that you haven't let go of. Okay. Wow, that's some deep stuff. I didn't understand it when you first told me, but I was like, I breathe every day. What work do you want? What more do you want from me? Breath work? Do I get a 1099 for this? Because this is a job right now. You know? That's a yeah, I I love the fact that it could, it gives you what you don't even know you need. That's the best way to describe it for me. You don't know what's stored in there because you're gonna take the time to dig. But with the breath work, it gives that bubble to the surface. Yeah. Yeah. So it's gonna happen one way or another. So, Megan, can you explain to us how breath work can connect you to your feminine energy, which I feel like a lot of single moms are dealing with since we have to be in our masculine energy taking care of these children on our own? Yeah. So what draws did Ish be talking about? What's those draws called? Dickhole draw. We tied in this dickhole. What you say, Quay? I want to free ball in this bitch. That's what I'm free balling. I love it all day, every day. We gotta breathe down there too. That's what Yes, you do. Yeah. Yes, breath work can be great to couple with other elements in your feminine healing journey. Again, breath work is getting you out of sympathetic, fight, flight, into parasympathetic, rest digest. It's getting you back into flow. It's getting you back into balance. When you're in balance and in that rested state, you're able to see or find clarity at times or be more aware of where you are acting in your masculine, where you are not able to receive, where you are not in flow. Flow, receiving, and just being in that I don't want to just say calm state, but that's essentially what it is. Are feminine principles, being in that rested state are feminine principles. So you can use breath work as especially movement. You can use breath work and especially like vocal exercises or making noises to help you tap into what is your feminine essence, whether that is doing hip rolls and a four, seven, eight breath or a square breath, doing yoga stretches, yoga poses, any type of stretching and things like that, allowing the breath and the body to flow together creates that internal flow within you. The practice of breath work itself is one of give and take with the world. You are inhaling something in and exhaling something out, meaning you have to be able to receive the breath, then deeper in conversation, use that breath, exhale what you don't need and put that out. Or exhale or even express something into the world. That's what you're doing when you're breathing. So it is it is truly um a great asset, breath work to your feminine journey and feminine practice. It's all how you use it. But bare minimum, getting to that rested, relaxed state puts you in a feminine place as opposed to go, go, go, stress, stress, stress, do, do, do, which is a very masculine energy. After the brief breath work that we've just done, I am feeling completely feminine if it's putting me in a rested state, I'm telling you right now. Wonderful. That is absolutely wonderful. Just giving fire breath gives you more oxygen to your brain, pumps uh oxygen through your body, breathing, it is moving limp through your body. It's doing a lot of work, even though it might not feel that, it might not feel like it with just 20, 20 of them. When you get to like 50, 100, 200, you might have a longer, a longer or more pronounced impact. You might go from just being relaxed to now feeling alert. Because if you think about breathing quickly like that, it's like how you might breathe quickly and forcefully is almost like how you would be in a fight. So it's like now add a pose to that, add like what is the Superman, Superwoman pose, add like really, yep, uh the wide open pose. You can feel how sturdy the ground is beneath you under your feet. You could do some like sumo steps, and then that really gets you into not aggression, but just alertness, not like anger, like I'm gonna rip your head off energy. But like you know what the issue, yes, you might not be like the rock afterwards, but you definitely like stone cold assassin, ready if you need to be, you know? So you can come quick with any type of responses. You your strategy becomes on point because now your your brain is in optimal state to perform. You've given it oxygen as opposed to depleting it with shallow breaths. What about um you spoke about vocal exercises? Yes. So I'm so interested to learn some of those. I love, I love adding vocal sounds and things to breathing because it's so twofold. Not only do you feel it, but you can hear it. And that two bistimuli, I don't know how to say it, but basically you're getting you're getting two stimulus at once. Um, roaring or growling, humming is really good. The vibration is is okay help helpful to calm. What else? What else? What else? Like I talked about before, like the audible sigh, so is immediately one. But I I really do love the like roar, because so you're inhaling in, and I like it's coming from open mouth, lower jaw, pushing with your abdomen, and just enhanced when you put the tongue out. You let your tongue hang out, open mouth, unlike unlock the jaw, let it drop down. It's all terrible sounding. This is a whole other episode podcast. But with the breath, it it definitely allows for more emotional movement, more expression, which again enhances the experience. Is so so awesome. I know that is definitely something I'm on, and which is a journey into connecting more to my feminine energy. Yeah, and brother work with Megan has absolutely helped. So, Megan, we're gonna wrap it up, but we want to ask you what is one piece of advice you would like to share with our audience here on single mom honey? Oh, take the pause. Take the pause, pause so that peace can be revealed to you. It is okay to take a minute. It is okay to let it all hang out and fully express. Um, just understand that the world is gonna hustle you into thinking that you have to hold it all in and hold it all together all of the time. You are living a human experience. It is okay to let those emotions flow through and out so that you can move forward. But take that pause in order to get back in touch with yourself. So definitely take the pause. Take the pause. It is necessary. It might seem like you're being lazy, it might seem like you're being selfish, it might seem like you are not being productive, taking too much time for yourself, but that pause is necessary, or your body will pause for you, and you don't want to truth. So, Megan, for our listeners and our viewers, where can they find you? How can they link up with you to get a breath work session? Yes. So the website is www.peace revealed.com. There are links there to book private, a small group. There's also a corporate link if a business would like a session there. There's also at the hustle underscore healer on Instagram, at the hustle healer all one word on TikTok. And I believe I'm also at the hustle healer all one word on YouTube now with just some short videos there too. So all right, what about contact information if they want to reach you directly? If anybody would like to reach out, they can also email me thehustlehealer at gmail.com. Okay. And all of our contact information is in the show notes and also in the video description. If you are listening to us on whatever platform, we would love for you to rate and review our podcast, Single Mom Honey. As well as if you are watching us on YouTube, don't forget to rate and subscribe. As well as if you want to be notified of any of our new episodes that we dropped, we drop them every Friday morning so we can get started with the weekend and be on you. Yo Time Mama. Thank y'all so much. I really appreciate it. This is great. I appreciate y'all and everything y'all do. Y'all do amazing work. Yes, thank you, thank you, thank you, Megan, for coming. Like I needed that 478. And I know how my brain worked. I just keep saying, it's 478. Hello. That's how I remember it. 478, right into fire breathing. There you go. Until next time. I'm Claylin. I cover the health. And I'm Aisha. I cover the money. You bring the tea. And we got the honey. All right, see you next time. Bye.