Banish the Lies: Outsmart Your Inner Critic
Banish the Lies is a podcast for women who overthink, self-sabotage, and secretly feel stuck, even when life looks “together” on the outside.
Each week, host Tania Cervoni explores the quiet fears and false stories that shape how we see ourselves, lies like “you’ll never be enough” or “if it’s not perfect, it doesn’t count.” Through honest reflection, lived experience, and simple mindset shifts, she invites you to loosen your grip on fear, soften perfectionism, and step out of performance.
You’ll hear conversations about identity, self-trust, and what it actually looks like to live from truth instead of fear, with practical ways to quiet self-doubt and return to what matters.
Because healing doesn’t mean fixing who you are. It means remembering you were never broken.
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Banish the Lies: Outsmart Your Inner Critic
Monday Moment: What If We’re Rehearsing Fear?
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When fear shows up as “what if” thinking, it often sounds like realism. But more often, it’s just worry on repeat.
In this Monday Moment, Tania reflects on how constantly rehearsing worst-case scenarios shapes expectations, keeps the nervous system on high alert, and quietly drains mental energy. She invites listeners to notice their own “what if” patterns and experiment with more generous, hopeful expectations instead.
This episode offers a simple, compassionate reminder that we don’t have to rehearse fear to stay prepared, and that imagining kinder outcomes can change how we move through the day.
Happy Monday moment. I have a question for you today. When I see the words, what if, what comes to mind? What emotions, if any, do you notice? I've been paying attention to this lately and for me, the thoughts that follow. What if are mostly always fear based things like, what if this doesn't work out? What if she says no? What if he gets mad? What if I screw up? What if that delivery doesn't arrive on time? You get the idea. I find it really interesting how much mental energy we give to these imagined outcomes. Not only does it keep our nervous system on high alert, but it also quietly shapes what we expect to happen. In other words, what comes after those two little words? What if. Often sets the tone for our day, our week, and even how we move through our lives. And somewhere along the way we start to believe that this is just being realistic. But really a lot of the time I think we're just rehearsing fear and then calling it realism. So here's a small game I wanna play and I invite you to play along if you like. If you also. Tend to spend time entertaining all the worst case what ifs? My invitation is to try the opposite just for today, things like, what if this works out better than I expect? What if they actually love my idea? What if this unfolds more easily than I'm imagining? What if today holds something unexpectedly? Great. Now I know that for some of us, especially those of us who are naturally skeptical or anxious, this can feel really silly and I get that. But I also know this rehearsing worry has never, ever produced anything helpful or calming for me. So I figure I don't have much to lose by experimenting with a different expectation. So if you feel like this positive, what if experiment is something you want to try out? I encourage you to simply notice what shifts when you do, and if something stands out, there is a link in the show notes where you can share it with me or just send me a DM on Instagram. I'd really love hearing what you notice and whether you reach out or not. My hope for you today is simple. May you catch yourself in those familiar what ifs and may you have the courage to imagine something better instead. Okay. Have a great one. Cheers. Okay.