From People Pleasing to Belonging: Healing Codependency, Boundaries and Childhood Trauma

The Belonging Podcast by Elev8 Villages

The Belonging Podcast by Elev8 Villages
From People Pleasing to Belonging: Healing Codependency, Boundaries and Childhood Trauma
Jun 26, 2026 Season 1 Episode 24
Melissa Kaye

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The Belonging Podcast by Elev8 Villages |Episode 024 | Kathleen White

What happens when your need for love, acceptance, and belonging leads you to become a people pleaser?

In this powerful episode of the Belonging Podcast, Melissa Kaye sits down with Coach Kathleen White to discuss codependency, toxic relationships, childhood trauma, boundaries, self-worth, and the journey toward healing.

Kathleen shares her personal story of growing up in a dysfunctional home, navigating unhealthy relationships, and discovering how to break free from people-pleasing patterns. Together, they explore why so many people struggle to say no, seek validation from others, and lose themselves in relationships.

You'll learn practical insights on setting healthy boundaries, building self-confidence, overcoming codependency, and creating genuine belonging in your life.

Topics Covered:
- Codependency and people pleasing
- Childhood trauma and emotional healing
- Healthy boundaries
- Self-worth and self-respect
- Toxic relationships
- Foster care and belonging
- Personal growth and recovery
- Learning to say no
- Emotional healing and resilience

If you've ever struggled with self-worth, unhealthy relationships, or feeling like you don't belong, this conversation is for you.

Connect with Kathleen White:

Facebook Business page: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61573485023496 
Instagram Business account: https://www.instagram.com/whtkthln 
YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@PhoenixRisingLLC-e7y
Website: https://phoenixrisingllc.org/



This podcast exists because we believe belonging is not a luxury. It’s a human need. Every story shared here helps us imagine a world where no one has to walk alone. 

If this conversation resonated with you, please follow, rate, or share the show with someone who might need it today. To learn more about the movement we’re building (or to get involved) visit Elev8Villages.org.

Thank you for joining us for this episode of The Belonging Podcast by Elev8 Villages - where belonging becomes a place we build together. 


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