Ep. 15 - Your Body Remembers What You Didn't Heal

Elizabeth Everett shares a direct and faith-centered message about how the body holds onto unhealed pain and why so many people remain stuck in survival mode long after the situation has passed. She walks through the connection between trauma, fight or flight responses, and the spiritual reality that healing cannot happen without inviting God into the places that were never fully processed.

She challenges the idea that constant exhaustion is just part of life, revealing how the body continues fighting battles that are already over. From heart palpitations to emotional triggers, these responses are not random. They are signals pointing to wounds that still need healing. Elizabeth calls listeners to recognize these patterns, set healthy boundaries, and stop normalizing chaos as a way of living.

Grounded in biblical truth, this episode emphasizes that deliverance and healing happen together when God is invited into the memory. Elizabeth speaks openly about generational survival patterns, fear, and the cycles that keep people stuck, while offering a clear path forward through renewing the mind, prayer, and community. She reminds listeners that God is not calling them to cope but to be fully healed and free.

This is a call to bring what is hidden into the light, interrupt destructive patterns, and step into the peace and freedom that come through Jesus. Healing is not separate from God. It is the heart of who He is.

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Transcript

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So today we're gonna talk about how your body remembers survival. If I sound a little nasally today, I'm under the weather, but actually this goes hand in hand because when your body is used to chaos, it's used to a survival mode, it's easy for things to be locked up and manifest such as this. Boundaries, my friends. Boundaries. Recognizing that your body is not designed to stay in fight or flight, it is not designed to stay in chaos, because your body does remember what is not healed. I'm Elizabeth Everett, and this is Grace and the Breaking. You're not tired because your life is hard. You're tired because your body still is fighting all these battles that you've experienced over the years because you have not let them go out of your body. Still fighting even though they've already ended. Is that resonating with you? Did your heart start racing around someone that hurt you? Does your heart start palpitating when something that bothered you before has now come back in? Those are fight or flight responses from the body. That is the body giving you the warning signs it's going into survival mode because you, my friends, me, my friends, have not openly healed from some type of wound. So today we're gonna bring that to light. We're gonna learn what a healthy boundary is. We're gonna learn how to let it go as part of deliverance and let God listen. We've learned how to survive, but we've never been taught how to be free, how to let our bodies be free. There's fine lines that dance with new age, and we're not even gonna go there because you already know how I feel about new age. You already know where yoga stands, you already know where meditation stands, you're dancing with the devil. The body can let go when you ask God to bring it to light and you lay it down for him because he is the God Almighty, not a Hindu God, not a breathing God, the God Almighty who heals all. If I'm a little curt today, this is because this message is resonating with me and I want it to resonate with you. Even now, if you notice, like when your life is peaceful, that your body is searching for chaos. I want you to take a second and really think about that. Feels weird when you have peace. When you first come to Jesus and you've surrendered and you've been delivered, and there's not chaos, there's not fight or flight anymore. Listen, it feels boring, but it's not. It's the body's way of dying to its own self, it's letting go of things because while you're still in survival mode, let's be real, that's what saved you before. It taught you how to stay guarded, it taught you how to stay alert, it taught you how to stay in control. It taught me and you how to keep moving, even when we were breaking into a million little pieces. Listen, it served its purpose at that time. A lot of us, when we're going through the breaking, we don't have any other choice. We're a parent. Um, we have people underneath us, so we cannot make an excuse to lay and waller in our pity in the bed. We have to get up, and so our body learns to encapsulate this pain, to channel it to where we overcome it, and we're not listening to our body, we're not listening to the red flags, and we're just in constant fight or flight. This is where burnout happens, friends and family. This is where burnout becomes real. But when we're what protected us in one season is gonna keep us stuck in the next. Does that make sense? What worked a year ago is not going to work in this season. What held on and held you captive and got you through all tense like this, it's time to release because it will keep you from moving forward. We talk about all the time how we stay stuck. This is one of the largest reasons. Survival will tell you: do not trust anybody, do not trust your emotions, do not trust your gut. Healing will say, Let me show you that you are safe now. This is a literal retraining of the brain because your body remembers every moment stitched in time that you didn't heal. So now let's talk about where I am still reacting from survival. We're all guilty of it, and each day is a new day to pick apart, to take a comprehensive look at our lives, see what the triggers are, and move forward from there. We have to learn to interrupt the pattern. When our bodies start to default, when our mind starts racing, when your heart starts coming out of your chest, when you start sweating, when you start getting fidgety, these are all the patterns, okay? Recognize not everything that you're experiencing is an attack. Okay, not everything that you are meeting or coming up against requires defense. Watch that spirit of offense. That is a defense, offense is a defense mechanism. So be cognizant. All of those warning signs, the heart palpitations, the accelerated pulse, even the clamminess, even the twisted tongue, the thoughts racing. Recognize it. Okay. Then I want you to start inviting God into that memory. That's the only way you're gonna overcome it. God, show me where this started, meet me here and heal what I have never processed. Now think about that. Because he always answers when we call. When we invite God into this memory, this is the only place where deliverance meets healing. They go hand in hand. You ask, he delivers. He's a good father. He wants you to be happy, healthy, and holy. He doesn't want you stuck in repetitive cycles. He doesn't want your body stuck in fight or flight. It holds sickness. I'm gonna tell you something. Right now, I feel like for the last couple of days, I had been fighting emotions, right, that I saw raising up, but I didn't invite God into that memory until I was like, okay, why are these people pushing trigger points with me? Lord, show me where I'm not healed in this scenario of putting healthy boundaries because certain people have hurt me in the past. I'm human. I am flesh. The only perfect person was Jesus. So this is a human moment that I had to go, oh my goodness, look at this. Me holding this in because fear stepped in to bring it to their attention. Fear stepped in to set those boundaries, fear stepped into what if? All these things that was not of God. So instead, I internalized them. I got a little crotchety, I got a little congested. This is my body's way of showing me as I become more in tune with the Holy Spirit what I can tolerate and what I can't. And everything that I can't tolerate needs to be brought to the light. So whatever darkness is in there, Lord, bring it to the light and heal me so that I can be once in all delivered and walk in the peace and the abundance and light of your love. And listen, you can't do this without renewing your mind daily. You don't just pray once. You have to retrain your thinking. You have to retrain your brain. We are flesh. I am healed. By his stripes, I am healed. I am delivered. I am walking in abundance. I am walking in joy. I no longer let fear control me. I am a child of God. Do you see all these declarations that I'm making? I'm retraining my brain. My heart starts palpitating because I get upset about flashes of memories that aren't even coming to my frontal cortex that are popping up. But my body recognizes the chaos that that person brought into my life when they were around. So I feel like this is a huge win, even though I'm sitting here today in front of you. I don't feel the greatest and I'm a little grumpy about this. But it is a healing moment, none the same. I'm human. I'm admitting, Lord, I need your help with this. I need healing to begin so that my body no longer reacts. I'm tired of the emotional responses and the offense that tries to rise up because of what is on them and what they trigger inside of me. I can't do it on my own, Lord help me. And guess what? He's already stripping those pieces away and showing me where I need to work, what plan I need to do, because it is our responsibility to listen to our body. God gave us that great ability. He gave us these incredible working systems, and we are in charge of taking care of this canvas, this house for the Holy Spirit. So as you're retraining your thinking, you've got to get in community. Isolation, y'all, it keeps you in survival. It keeps survival alive. Because what are you doing? You're doing it in your own strength. Iron sharpens iron. Accountability, it breaks off survival. You need that in your life. I had a call this morning with my best friend in California, and let me tell you something. Every time she says something, it twists and can it convicts it is exactly what I need to hear because my ears are open to accept it. Now, maybe I don't agree with everything she says all the time, but nine times out of ten, there are pieces that resonate that pick up with me that I need to go, ooh, hmm, she's right. We're a constant learning. We cannot put ourselves under a microscope of perfection. Now, each person on here, friend, family member, loved one, you have free will. You hold yourself to a standard. That is up to you. To me, I feel like I'm holding myself to a higher standard than some people. That is my personal opinion. That is my personal belief because I want so badly to bring you guys to Jesus. If there's something that's holding you back in the pits of hell, I want to have a pure heart to pull you out of it. Now, I'm not perfect, but I want to make sure that I'm practicing what I'm preaching. I don't want to let my flesh get in the way. So I'm constantly trying to fine-tune, and I want the Holy Spirit to show me anything in me that is not clean, that is not pure, that needs to have attention addressed to A, so my body can relax, and B so I can preach this word to you to show you that Jesus saves, Jesus heals, Jesus is the way, the truth, the only way. You need community because you need truth, you need support, you need correction, and you need covering. You literally, you don't have to live like this anymore. Even when your mind says you're okay, your body is telling you the truth. How many of you out there shut down when things get hard? You expect loss, you expect rejection. Heck, you expect chaos. And we talked about that. Peace feels uncomfortable. It's even unfamiliar. Again, friends, I'm gonna tell you that is not weakness, that is stored up survival. A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones, Proverbs 17, 22. Your body has been carrying what your spirit never got to release. So again, we're bringing in Jesus. I invite you into this memory, I invite you into this body response of mine. Lord, heal me with every bit of your strength and power. Show me your might, and your body will release it. I came from generational survival. Listen, it's real. I didn't learn survival, I inherited it. And many of us out there have that same background or upbringing. We have the patterns of fear, we have the patterns of control, we have the patterns of abandonment, we have the patterns of silence. Some of us, we grew up in homes where love was inconsistent. So this allowed control, pattern of fear, abandonment, rejection, silence, secrets. All of these things manifest in our body. We hold on to them, and guess what? When you don't release them, sickness occurs. Especially when you're dealing with these generational curses, this generational survival mindset. Love was inconsistent, peace didn't exist, and survival was normal for I would say 85% of us sitting here talking today. But that's okay. Even though my nervous system says, this is familiar, Elizabeth, this is familiar. Stay here, stay here, stay here. Even when God is calling me higher, I have to go. You know what? I am not going to conform to the patterns of this world, but I'm going to be transformed by the renewing of the mind. I'm going to get in the word. Lord help me deliver me. I don't want my body in fight or flight anymore. I'm going to release this sickness. I want to release this paralysis over me. Let me walk in the abundance of your life and your love. And guess what, friends? In the blink of an eye, he shows up, he takes it away. So let's think about why you're repeating cycles. Because your body is wired for what it knows. Not what is healthy? What is familiar? Are you at a place in your life where you're attracting peace? Or have you seen circles where you're attracting chaos? You're recreating dysfunction, not intentionally, but it's happening. Are you sabotaging your peace? Are you staying in cycles that feel like home because that's familiar, even though it's making you come out of your skin? Listen, it's okay. It's not because you want the pain. Again, it's because your body is recognizing this is normal. But that doesn't have to stay that way. Where is God in all this? He was there when you were surviving, and he's here to lead you into freedom. He's not asking you to cope, he's calling you to heal. He wants you to call on him, invite him in, lay it down, and watch him work. Because he heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds, according to Psalms 147, verse 3. For he has not given us a spirit of fear, but a power of love and of a sound mind, 2 Timothy 1, verse 7. Listen, friends and family, healing is not, I repeat, it is not separate from God. Healing is the heart of him because he is an agape love, a love that we don't strive for. I need you to really wrap your head around that today. Everything that we've been striving for in this survival mode and it's locked up in our bodies and we haven't listened over the years, let it go. He loves us not in our perfection, not in our striving, but in just our yes. So how do we break free today? Today, this can be your shift. Are you ready? Because this is where transformation happens, this is where awareness arises. Make a list. Who brings up emotions in your mind? Who brings up reactions in your body? What situations trigger clammy hands, um, dry mouth, um all sorts of anxiety-ridden things. These are not of God, these are reactions from pain that is unhealed in the body. So let's bring whatever is dark come to the light today, just as the word says. Because with awareness, you can't break what you don't acknowledge. So we call it out today. We acknowledge it. We do not have to brace for impact, we do not have to expect disappointment. We are a new creation, we get agape love. You survived. I survived. But now it's time to become fully whole. Bring it to the light, acknowledge it. Interrupt the pattern. Invite God into the memory because this is where the deliverance meets the healing. Ask God, show you where it started. Lord, meet me here and help me heal what I've never processed. Because you're becoming whole. I know you're tired of surviving. I know you're ready to actually heal and walk in freedom. So this is where it begins. This is why I actually created the Grace in the Breaking the Community, a place to break cycles, a place to be supported, a place to heal with truth and accountability. Because you do not have to do this alone. Reach out to me if you want more information on the community. Because today, friends, you've got the awareness, you've got where you're interrupting the patterns, you're inviting God in and you're breaking free out of generational survival. Today is your day of freedom. All it takes is Yes. Renew your mind daily. Get in the word. Pray. Worship. Get in community. Because you don't have to live like this anymore. You're not going to live like this anymore. Friends, I love you. And as always, open your heart to something larger than you could ever imagine. The Lord has blessed you. You are awake today. You are alive. You're listening to this podcast on some type of platform. So give back. There are so many charitable organizations out there. I love Advocates for Africa. I love Happy Horizons Children Care. And I also love the Nashville Human Trafficking Coalition and more information to come on them. But friends, family, open your hearts and give. Look in the show notes for links to give. And until next time, get free friends. And I love you.

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Thank you so much for spending this time with me today on Grace and the Breaking. If this episode spoke to your heart, please remember to follow, download, and share it with someone who might need a little encouragement right now. You can find us on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and all major podcast platforms. As I close, I want to leave you with this reminder, 2 Corinthians 12.9. My grace is sufficient for you. My power is made perfect in weakness. So no matter what season you're walking through, you are not alone. And there is always grace in the breaking. For more information, resources, or to connect with me, visit Graceinthebreaking.com or email me at infograceinthebreaking.com. Until next time, friends, stay rooted in faith, hold on to hope, and remember that there is grace in the breaking.